Due to fear of failure...sometimes we sabotage to avoid taking risks or facing potential failure. This can stem from low self esteem or past negative experiences

Self-loathing -> self-sabotage -> belief that goals are pointless because you screw everything up and nothing will ever change -> what's the point of life, exactly? Yep, that's me.

"But at least when you are the captain of the ship, sinking into the deep sea knowingly feels more manageable and hurts less than when it happens unexpectedly." This is me exactly. This is why people like me catastrophize and assume worst case scenario, so the pain is a lot less if it actually happens. When I am unprepared for it, it feels catastrophic.

The only person who will never let you down is yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are unique, just like everybody else. And if you think nobody cares about you, remember there are billions of cells inside your body which only care about you.

I always love her calm voice

Your videos make the mental problem representation very simple. My family really sucks they make me feel like a big headache. They simply don't want to change. They are ruining their life and mine too. Negativity is growing on me and I can't do anything but cry in my room most of the time. The feeling of envy for people who are surrounded by good and caring people really sucks. I will ensure that once I grow up as an adult my past won't interfere with my career and desires.

Timestamps 1). Your own worst enemy 1:02 2). Puppet master 2:05 3). Impostor among us 3:14 4). Neurons that fire together wired together 4:10 5). Relationship trauma 5:23 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

I'm crying right now, this is too relatable😭 I already knew before I watched this that I'm ruining every chance I get at something greater and something I desire, but it just hurts so much when all of this seems to be calling out everything I do. It's like someone telling me I need to get better and stop destroying everything I enjoy, but it's not that simple! So far the only solution I have to this problem is just digging this problematic hole bigger and I can't stop! But, unlike most people, this isn't caused by trauma in my past. No, this is caused by FEAR of those traumatic experiences happening to me. I'm already broken enough, I don't need more cracks! 😭

I ALWAYS learn things the hardest way. ALWAYS to the point where the consequences outweigh the goals. Guess some people were made with purpose, others just ended up here on accident.

thats fist line of "finding the one and fell into unreasonably antagonistic behavior for you to push them away" hit me so hard i started to cry for how truthful that is. It hurts so bad and i never wanted that person to be a lesson when they were definitely a lover.....

Through a myriad of circumstances that I won’t get into here, I’ve taken a position as a life coach for a few people in my area. The #1 facet I focus on is eliminating fear. Once that fear barrier is removed, the sky’s the limit for these people, who have been conditioned over the course of their lives to hear “it’s a pipe dream, there’s too many people better than you at “X”, you’ve never been good at anything….” and the number one thing they’ve heard…”you only get disappointed if you go for “X”. Truthfully in my younger years I heard and subscribed to this mindset. Now I live in fear of not trying, not climbing, not taking a chance to better myself and my family. It’s hard to look back on the opportunities I let go over the years because I was afraid to fail. Sorry for writing a book guys, but I hope this helps some of you all! Hugs and positive vibes from the Roots of Eternity family! ❤

I've done everything humanly possible to avoid self sabotage. but no matter what I do to achieve my goals I am confronted by the same old road blocks. These are circumstances beyond my control. I concentrate on the positive in everything I do but still getting no where. It's as if I'm stuck in a loop. I take the straight and always end up back where I've started But I'm still bound and determined not to let anything stand in my way. What must I do to take control of the things I can't control, pray? That's all I've been doing.

I tend to self sabotage a lot, especially with friendships because of my low self-esteem and insecurities. I'm extremely self aware, which means i'm also very critical of myself. That's why I avoid my friends (people in general) and isolate myself. If I could afford therapy I would definitely try it. 😭

I push people away because i don't want to hurt them, or because i can't help them through tough times ♡

I blame myself sometimes for the reaction of people and feel bad and blame myself. It’s hard trying to understand if I’m in the wrong or they’re in the wrong and don’t deserve a second chance.

I've struggled to be successful at anything and everything is a self doubt mess.

Learned recently I need love, need self acceptance and self worth to finally heal my inner child and gain emotional maturity. I self sabatoge so much of my growth. Its a slow progress and while I'm going backwards right now I am aware, so it's improvement to me from years ago

This! I feel like I really do have this problem. Self-sabotage sucks!

The first one is definitely me. But, I also know it was brought about by how I was treated by my parents, grandparents, "friends", teachers, pretty much everyone. I was constantly told how I was never good enough and how nothing I ever did was right (still hear it constantly in my 40s, it's never stopped), and when you hear something enough, you believe it. And when that kind of attitude is attributed, not only to things you try to do, but who you are as a person, it destroys you, utterly and completely. And because this was all I heard about me all my life, and I believe it, how can I not sabotage myself when everything I've ever done in my life as proven to me that I can't ever do anything right by anyone? I'm also very afraid of success of any kind, because I've never really had it, and I know that expectations will go from too high to even higher, thereby making it even more impossible to ever see true success or be happy.

List Self sabotage destroy best intention and goal -Afraid once received can’t maintain it -You own worst enemy negative self compassion self esteem Match want you do with what you believe -Fear of failure Control and/or procrastinate -Self Handicap failure of external circumstance -Imposter syndrome crave external validation may lead to double effort or procrastination alleviate your self from stress -Familiarity Stress tempt to known and familiar even it is not effective as novel idea -self sabotage relationship picky fight, micromanagement, cringy/needy

we are often our own enemies

I relate to number 1, your own worst enemy. I first heard of this quote when Gouken in Super Street Fighter 4 said this. I try my best to avoid the negativity and anger dictate my actions. I actively learn how to be a better person everyday, so I can be my own best teacher.

According to the National Science Foundation, 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of our thoughts are repetitive. We replay negative loops and have a negative narrative in heads and although we may not always be the one saying it because alot of it goes unconsciously, we are the one who hears it. Change your narrative. An average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. If we repeat those negative thoughts, we think negative way more than we think positive thoughts. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. The human brain has a natural tendency to give weight to (and remember) negative experiences or interactions more than positive ones-they stand out more. Psychologists refer to this as negativity bias. “Our brains are wired to scout for the bad stuff” and fixate on the threat, says psychologist and author Rick Hanson.

"Self-abandonment, The emotional root of self-sabotage" -Susan Anderson- This is the quote I though of while watching this video because it's truth. When we abandon ourselves we have just set ourselves up for failure. Nothing sabotages my hopes, dreams, and goals more throughly than the FEAR that I'm not good enough and never will be. My own self doubt is the largest ball and chain in my life. I know that I have the knowledge, skills, and capability to accomplish whatever I set my mind too. When I started junk journaling I loved it.... It was so therapeutic and fun....but.....then I started looking up ideas instead of just creating my own pages. I started comparing my work to those beautiful, elaborate pages on TikTok and Instagram.....then it turned into, "Why can't my pages be that glorious?" Now I haven't done a page in months because I fear the judgment of others if they were to see it. Same thing with my book..... I started it with so much confidence in my story and how I would tell it..... I'll sit and write for 30-40 minutes but then when I get to a scene that involves some intense torture or has some extra spice I begin to doubt it. "What if this is too much?" or "Will my friends and family think differently knowing this came out of my mind?" So I quit..until I build myself back up to just write what I see in my mind....then write a little, then back to worrying....quit again. Round and round it goes..... Because of self-sabotage I've probably missed out several opportunities in life that I wish I'd jumped at.... I'm my biggest fan and my biggest hater... The saddest part..... I can see that I'm doing it but have no idea how to quit doing it. I'm trying to be more self aware, but it sucks to see the damage being done and feeling helpless to fix it.

It's not only because of my caregiver as a child that I have an insecure attachment style. Ambivalent. I know that nothing here lasts forever. I have lost a ton of friends to addiction and even in my adult years, good friendships don't last. We grow apart and life happens. We find other interests and passions. So, when I bond with someone I open up too real quickly. And when it comes to places and things, I feel both strong positive and negative about them. I care. When I care. I am passionate. I don't do anything if I don't do it with passion.

Nothing is ever that simple really, and most people don't do this to themselves intentionally in fairness like . Also we always need to have compassion and understanding for ourselves and eachother and not make unsound judgements about things as nobody knows anybody else's journey.

"self-sabotage is sweet romance"

The first minute was a shoot out for me lol called me out on my entire being Edit: this whole video killed me lol can you make a video how to not self sabotage

All those relate to me . Idk what to do except move forward i have already done everything in that sabotaged my future in a certain way, i guess now the only thing i can do is be satisfied with the position i am in and hope for happiness and a second chance.

Once again thank you so much for these videos they make me realise so much about myself❤❤❤

Ur uploading so quick keep up the good work!!!!❤❤❤

I didn't a have a bad childhood but, nowhere I received traumas , emotional wounds and stress/anxiety.

Anything that can go wrong will go wrong Anything that could go right will go right

the familiarity heuristic can also play into the sunk cost fallacy. the puzzle study participants may have felt that they had devised a strategy for solving the first type of puzzle, and that despite the puzzle itself being longer, they would make shorter work of it with their strategy than if they had to solve an entirely different (but "shorter") puzzle. they'd already sunk the time into learning how to solve the first type of puzzle and didn't want to forfeit that cost to start over with a new type of puzzle.

I dont know why that thumnail made me cry.... It reminded me of how i see myself... No one else to blame..

I think I Finally get it, I was struggling from Self-Sabotage!

Short answer, it's a symptom of illusion of control.

Does not studying for an exam count?

See? I knew my body is betraying me as I’am betraying it

Thank you for this i might need it 😊❤

Honestly I know I'm not worthy to be alive. It's not a self sabotage. I wish it was with my whole heart. But it's not :(

More like self destruct 💀

i wish i knew how to help someone who might be struggling with this, and that she would give me a chance

I really needed this today.

I self- sabotage alot

I can’t believe to hear the word failure so much in 1 vid

Heyyy! Just wanted to ask, because I can’t find any good video about it, maybe you could make a video about how being bullied affects your adulthood? Just wanted to see how/if it affected me for the long run, and how I can be able to avoid being dragged down by it Hope you guys see this, with much love

What on Earth is with this channel always calling us out in the best way possible

I've had many people (family, friends, etc) over the years tell me that I'm engaged in self-sabotage, but could never give me an example or try to help me stop. Even this video is not relatable to me. Could it be that they were projecting onto me?

Thank you! I really needed to hear this.

she really cares more abt my mental heath then my parents do...

Thank You all at Psych2Go. This topic resonated so strongly with me.This trait is severely underrated as the severe problem that it is. The cognitive dissonance in one persons view has a major hold on the whole nation of India. The title "India, In Cognitive Dissonance". It may be less personal than the individual portion. When I have a problem ,the one approach that is part of my trying to understand is information gathering.

I want to know why I self-sabotage in not taking my antidepressant for days on end and thus experiencing withdrawal symptoms (nausea, nightmares, depressive episodes, anger). I have ADHD so I sometimes forget to take my meds, but the only other reason I don’t take them is because of self-sabotage. And I feel like I need to find the reason for this to be able to stop sabotaging because each time I go to my doctor I can’t tell her if the med relieves my depression or not since I haven’t taken it consistently enough to even know if it works for me. I’ve been on this med for 11 months, yet I still have side effects (notably emotional flatlining...I don’t feel the sorrow or dread of my depression, but don’t feel lasting joy, either)

eyyyyy I’m early and I don’t know what to say

It’s good to know I’m not a lazy imposter. I belong here and I’m happy.

I wonder if being told abhorrent things (very often and since childhood) by older familial individuals can also lead to self-sabotage...I clearly have lots to unlearn.

I just started watching ur videos and its a MASTERPIECE

Ohmygosh, you read my mind, Psych2Go 🥺💖 I have watched many videos of you and it helped me with my feelings and personality. Still improving and developing. 😌🙂

Yes...

First and pin plz and Hi and i just want to say love ur self no matter how short, tall, skinny or fat you are, everyone should treat you like a person and u should too!😁

Amanda hae the most calming voice much better than asmr Lol

yeah maybe this is me

I'm not sure why but I don't believe in "self-sabotage". I feel like it's a term and a theory made to try to englobe our dysfunctions, to try to make the problems simpler. But I feel like the truth is that every "self-sabotage" we do to ourselves its a consequence to a lack of abilities, maturity and other factors. But nothing intentioned. They can be seen as just failures that we don't understand.

I can relate to this, I blame myself all the time👍

I do believe that going to a therapist will help me with my problems and issues I am going through but really isn't there any other way because its easy to say that we can visit a therapist but for teens who aren't really financially independent and parents those who won't understand aren't there some healthy methods that we can practice to solve problems like these...I truly haven't really understood how does one show self compassion and that's become the most difficult part of my life.. leading me to do stupid things like not working towards my goals cause I don't believe I can achieve them anyways...it just ends up hurting me every time..its like I am stuck in a vicious cycle...

Your videos seem to unexpectedly relate to me sometimes and I don’t know how to feel about it.

why am i like this

1:03 among us 😮

Excited to be here fairly early on this video

What if you end up sabotaging your ongoing sinking ship so you can have more reasons to jump out of it, since you are afraid of doing so in the middle of the ocean?

Thanks!

I use to think if I failed my own childhood, those were the dark days... 😢

oh, the fact that I do all of these....

Can we just simply appreciate the Among Us style art xD

thanks for sharing about mental health my friend Godbless you always

I always feel empowered by your amazing & informative videos. 😊 Keep on uploading more informative videos. 👍

John 3:16 [16]For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 3:10-12 King James Version 10 As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: 11 There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. 12 They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. Luke 13:3 [3]I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. John 14:6 [6]Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. Jeremiah 29:13 King James Version 13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. John 8:31-32 King James Version 31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; 32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:12 [12]Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. Matthew 4:17 From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. Luke 6:27-38 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, 6:28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. 6:29 And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also. 6:30 Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again. 6:31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. 6:32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. 6:33 And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. 6:34 And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil. 6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. 2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. Matthew 5:2-12 King James Version 2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying, 3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. 10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. 12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you. Matthew 24:4-14 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. 24:5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many. 24:6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet. 24:7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. 24:8 All these are the beginning of sorrows. 24:9 Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake. 24:10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. 24:11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. 24:13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. 24:14 And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. Exodus 20 King James Version 20 And God spake all these words, saying, 2 I am the Lord thy God, which have brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. 3 Thou shalt have no other gods before me. 4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; 6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments. 7 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. 8 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. 9 Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work: 10 But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: 11 For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it. 12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. 13 Thou shalt not kill. 14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. 15 Thou shalt not steal. 16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour. 17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's. ..,..,..,..,.. ..,..,..,..,.. ............. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, .,,........,,. ,.,.,.,

The thing about self sabatage is only death can save you.

The animations are so cute!

4:45 this is so frustrating with ADHD because the novelty is supposed to be what pushes me and gives me that dopamine rush to get things done but it's also the super scary little fucking thing that makes things too scary to try

I like your videos. They helped me to propitiate myself with my introverted friend as she was mad at me.

Psych2go the only channel where they talk about Suicide, Sabotage and SEX

I have few friends because I self sabotage myself by driving them away, feeling that I am not worthy of their friendship. It's also why I still am a virgin. I have had multiple, multiple chances at sex, but I become afraid of it that I intentionally do what I can to ensure it doesn't happen. And when the sex doesn't happen, because I sabatoged the effort, I blame myself, telling myself that I am not worthy, that I will always be alone, and that no one cares for me. It's a horrible cycle that has left me feeling numb, like an out of body experience.

Hello ! I love your episodes. And I'd like you to do an episode about people who have Asperger's and are confirmed to be geniuses. Because I'm such a case that I have asperger's syndrome and it's proven that I'm a genius,with adhd and that's why I would like to see such an episode from you ;)

I've done the second and third ones, but not the first, fourth, and fifth ones. I was taking the STAAR test and I was on the writing portion in English. For some reason, when I would hit the spacebar on the document, it would erase a character somewhere in the document. This happened when I was almost on the conclusion paragraph. I got so frustrated and felt like I was messing up and failing, so I held down the spacebar and erased the entire thing. I told the teacher who was supervising me what happened and he told me he realized what was going on and fixed it. Whereas on the third one, I'm an admin in a Discord server and I feel like I'm undeserving of the position, even though I've well earned it. I underestimate myself and procrastinate because I'm scared I'm going to mess up. Everybody makes mistakes, and I know that. But I'm so scared of making them. I'm so scared of people thinking ill of me.

Everything else shoves me down, why not add on to the pile? Nothing is ever going to get better, the people who can actually make things better have no reason to make things better

Is there a channel like yours for germans? So my parents can finaly understand me after 19 years

When it really hit me was when I started laughing 😀💀 cuz why is that so relatable

😂ty now i have to talk to my brain again about the sabotages it did 🙁

So yeah....... How do you solve it

I just quit a job I worked my whole career for

Ich habe eine Frage. Ich hatte gute Freundschaften, als ich noch im Kindergarten und Mittelschule war. Als ich diese Abschnitte meines Lebens abgeschlossen habe, sind auch diese Freundschaften "kaputt" und danach komplett verschwunden, weil ich mich nicht "um diese gekümmert habe". Ich möchte nur wissen warum das passiert ist, weswegen ich mich nicht mehr wirklich um diese Freundschaften gekümmert habe.

You forgot reason 6: I just hate myself

Who do I vent to if my parents aren’t comforting and I don’t have privacy to vent to my friends? (I share a room with my little sister who has zero empathy)

Psych2Go , can you explain what love feel like? And what is love meaning

Can i have the bg sound here? It's very cute

I straight up intentionally Self Destruct desiring complete & total loss of that person who has earned the rewards of their lack of _____...

What should i do this happens to me and i am only 13, I am constantly being to by my father that i am (bad things)and all that What should i do😢

For some reason it's extremely difficult for me to focus on the video with captions on. And now I can't turn them off :(

.......not me having a dream about self sabotage and then I see THIS.... AHHHHHHHHHHH