Due to fear of failure...sometimes we sabotage to avoid taking risks or facing potential failure. This can stem from low self esteem or past negative experiences
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Yes, absolutely true. For you personally, how do you overcome the fear of failure and still take the risk anyway?
@funnytv-1631 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go my fear of regret Is way more than the fear of failure....I have so much fear of not achieving my goals and not being where I want to be at some point...that forces me to take action
@thebrightsideoflife333 Жыл бұрын
It can be worked on… Fortunately:)
@squidi_lp Жыл бұрын
For me it because I don't want to make the same mistakes ever again and want to be perfect even knowing I can't I'll just stay isolated
@gentlenoob2576 Жыл бұрын
Always have a back up plan for a back up plan
@rikitikitavatiki Жыл бұрын
Self-loathing -> self-sabotage -> belief that goals are pointless because you screw everything up and nothing will ever change -> what's the point of life, exactly? Yep, that's me.
@saanvisaxena1544 Жыл бұрын
Omg yes this is so relatable, everything just leads to an existential crisis.
@iPLAYtheSTATION Жыл бұрын
"But at least when you are the captain of the ship, sinking into the deep sea knowingly feels more manageable and hurts less than when it happens unexpectedly." This is me exactly. This is why people like me catastrophize and assume worst case scenario, so the pain is a lot less if it actually happens. When I am unprepared for it, it feels catastrophic.
@awalkingnosebleed Жыл бұрын
yeah same i expect the worst case scenario and then just let it happen even if i could've done smth about this failure, i don't, it's like i am too lazy to do anything but then i regret it so much and hate myself but still continue to do the same thing again. It's so stupid honestly 💀
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
Same thing with me. Only when I expect the worst, I fear even getting close to it which causes more self-sabotage. It doesn't make anything better for me but for some reason I feel like expecting the worst will suddenly make whatever does happen so much easier and maybe even surprising in a good way. But I can't do that if I refuse to even try out of fear for the worst
@ems.master Жыл бұрын
It's called fear of betrayal
@anderstermansen130 Жыл бұрын
Same here man. My brain have only 2 gears. Litteral void of nothingness-gear. And catastrophy, litterally end of the world-gear. And my brain is 90% of the time redlining on second gear, stacking problems on top of problems, that all are made up in my head.
@starletjoachim4580 Жыл бұрын
The only person who will never let you down is yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are unique, just like everybody else. And if you think nobody cares about you, remember there are billions of cells inside your body which only care about you.
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
Ok, but is unique any better? "They'll hate you for your flaws. They'll hate you because you're weird. They'll hate you because you aren't as pretty as everyone else. They'll hate you because you're good at something they're bad at." The words playing in my mind over and over. The bad outweighs the good
@DeRez19 Жыл бұрын
LOL the cells do care! I never thought of that! How crazy XD. Thanks for this.
@MIDZYwhoisaFEARNOTandSTAYingMY Жыл бұрын
The last sentence is so wholesome☺☺🌸🌸
@anderstermansen130Ай бұрын
If i dont let myself down, anyone around me will make sure to do it for me. Why should i stop comparing myself to others? Im the middle child of 3, aka the unloved and unwanted one. Nothing i do is ever good enough for my parents, and i can never go out and get big enough experiences in my life, to be recognized as a heartly part of this "family". And finally, litterally noone cares about me. Im looking forward to the day i dont have to be on this planet anymore. I have grown very tired of life.
@Moraenil6 күн бұрын
How are you to know if you're doing well or need to improve if you don't compare yourself to others? How are you to be accepted by your family when they compare you to others? Cells don't have emotions, they have single jobs that they carry out. They don't care about us. If they do, they wouldn't turn on us and put us in chronic pain and cause other health problems for our entire lives, making us miserable.
@DianHyun Жыл бұрын
I always love her calm voice
@kainakaharava Жыл бұрын
Innit
@fresh.prince7472 Жыл бұрын
Me to nobody does it better than Amanda
@priscillajimenez27 Жыл бұрын
Shes pretty too
@grossadmiralthrawn8769 Жыл бұрын
I like her voice too.
@uklejamini Жыл бұрын
@@grossadmiralthrawn8769 I also like it. Agreed.
@nicholasleipzig5448 Жыл бұрын
Your videos make the mental problem representation very simple. My family really sucks they make me feel like a big headache. They simply don't want to change. They are ruining their life and mine too. Negativity is growing on me and I can't do anything but cry in my room most of the time. The feeling of envy for people who are surrounded by good and caring people really sucks. I will ensure that once I grow up as an adult my past won't interfere with my career and desires.
@EWAMILENAP Жыл бұрын
♡♡♡♡♡ Lots of hugs to you♡
@nicholasleipzig5448 Жыл бұрын
@@EWAMILENAP thanks !
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. It sounds like you're surrounded by a very challenging environment. Do you have the right resources to help you in your situation like professional help or friends that you can confide in?
@AlexSpy3DS Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go Hey there, I have a problem that I can't fix on my own. Can you hear me out? I'll explain everything!
@Batman2StaticShock Жыл бұрын
Don't be envious, they have their own battles
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
Timestamps 1). Your own worst enemy 1:02 2). Puppet master 2:05 3). Impostor among us 3:14 4). Neurons that fire together wired together 4:10 5). Relationship trauma 5:23 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@nicholasleipzig5448 Жыл бұрын
Man you're fast
@jessyavila5317 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou
@Lo.15 Жыл бұрын
You forgot relationship trauma
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
@@nicholasleipzig5448 thanks for the compliment
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
@@Lo.15 no I don't forget it
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
I'm crying right now, this is too relatable😭 I already knew before I watched this that I'm ruining every chance I get at something greater and something I desire, but it just hurts so much when all of this seems to be calling out everything I do. It's like someone telling me I need to get better and stop destroying everything I enjoy, but it's not that simple! So far the only solution I have to this problem is just digging this problematic hole bigger and I can't stop! But, unlike most people, this isn't caused by trauma in my past. No, this is caused by FEAR of those traumatic experiences happening to me. I'm already broken enough, I don't need more cracks! 😭
@Cloudy56746 Жыл бұрын
Sending you lots of virtual hugs! Stay strong! ❤
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
@@Cloudy56746 Oh, thank you!
@thatpersonyoudontknow4509 Жыл бұрын
I ALWAYS learn things the hardest way. ALWAYS to the point where the consequences outweigh the goals. Guess some people were made with purpose, others just ended up here on accident.
@AlexSpy3DS Жыл бұрын
That sounds kinda sad actually...
@thatpersonyoudontknow4509 Жыл бұрын
@Alex$py3DS What's your point? Life is either a constant indifference, or everlasting misery
@AlexSpy3DS Жыл бұрын
@@thatpersonyoudontknow4509 Well I believe in Hallowed (God), and if he put us down here, which he did, then we all must have a destiny somewhere. We just have to find it...
@thatpersonyoudontknow4509 Жыл бұрын
@Alex$py3DS Heard that multiple times before. I don't believe in a God but if he exists, he's not infallible. He makes mistakes too. I'm living proof of it.
@Neujack.The.Demigod Жыл бұрын
thats fist line of "finding the one and fell into unreasonably antagonistic behavior for you to push them away" hit me so hard i started to cry for how truthful that is. It hurts so bad and i never wanted that person to be a lesson when they were definitely a lover.....
@rootsofeternity6626 Жыл бұрын
Through a myriad of circumstances that I won’t get into here, I’ve taken a position as a life coach for a few people in my area. The #1 facet I focus on is eliminating fear. Once that fear barrier is removed, the sky’s the limit for these people, who have been conditioned over the course of their lives to hear “it’s a pipe dream, there’s too many people better than you at “X”, you’ve never been good at anything….” and the number one thing they’ve heard…”you only get disappointed if you go for “X”. Truthfully in my younger years I heard and subscribed to this mindset. Now I live in fear of not trying, not climbing, not taking a chance to better myself and my family. It’s hard to look back on the opportunities I let go over the years because I was afraid to fail. Sorry for writing a book guys, but I hope this helps some of you all! Hugs and positive vibes from the Roots of Eternity family! ❤
@wayneheidlebaugh9915 Жыл бұрын
I've done everything humanly possible to avoid self sabotage. but no matter what I do to achieve my goals I am confronted by the same old road blocks. These are circumstances beyond my control. I concentrate on the positive in everything I do but still getting no where. It's as if I'm stuck in a loop. I take the straight and always end up back where I've started But I'm still bound and determined not to let anything stand in my way. What must I do to take control of the things I can't control, pray? That's all I've been doing.
@strudelh Жыл бұрын
I tend to self sabotage a lot, especially with friendships because of my low self-esteem and insecurities. I'm extremely self aware, which means i'm also very critical of myself. That's why I avoid my friends (people in general) and isolate myself. If I could afford therapy I would definitely try it. 😭
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
That sounds like it can be very lonely. Do you think you'll ever open yourself up to people despite your insecurities and self-esteem?
@_firesans_5889 Жыл бұрын
I push people away because i don't want to hurt them, or because i can't help them through tough times ♡
@zackzz2105 Жыл бұрын
I blame myself sometimes for the reaction of people and feel bad and blame myself. It’s hard trying to understand if I’m in the wrong or they’re in the wrong and don’t deserve a second chance.
@houseplantnerd2872 Жыл бұрын
I've struggled to be successful at anything and everything is a self doubt mess.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
That sounds rough... why do you think you've been struggling with lots of self doubt?
@DaxVerus Жыл бұрын
Learned recently I need love, need self acceptance and self worth to finally heal my inner child and gain emotional maturity. I self sabatoge so much of my growth. Its a slow progress and while I'm going backwards right now I am aware, so it's improvement to me from years ago
@minermole101 Жыл бұрын
This! I feel like I really do have this problem. Self-sabotage sucks!
@Moraenil Жыл бұрын
The first one is definitely me. But, I also know it was brought about by how I was treated by my parents, grandparents, "friends", teachers, pretty much everyone. I was constantly told how I was never good enough and how nothing I ever did was right (still hear it constantly in my 40s, it's never stopped), and when you hear something enough, you believe it. And when that kind of attitude is attributed, not only to things you try to do, but who you are as a person, it destroys you, utterly and completely. And because this was all I heard about me all my life, and I believe it, how can I not sabotage myself when everything I've ever done in my life as proven to me that I can't ever do anything right by anyone? I'm also very afraid of success of any kind, because I've never really had it, and I know that expectations will go from too high to even higher, thereby making it even more impossible to ever see true success or be happy.
@karmasutra22877 күн бұрын
Sounds like surrounding yourself with different people, and realizing YOU decide what you are & you are not. Nothing “proved” you can’t do anything right. It’s EXPECTED to make mistakes or for it to take time to get things right. Success is what YOU feel it is. Not what others define it as. What’s there to be afraid of? If you fail, you fail 🤷🏽♀️ rarely do things end up being as hard as we think they are, & just as rare for successful people to be successful without multiple failures first. Perfectionism is a real enemy of success.
@Moraenil6 күн бұрын
@@karmasutra2287 See, I can't meet people or surround myself with different people. I don't know how, and I don't like people in general and I'm an introvert. I'm not comfortable around people. Also, I have no problem failing, but I'm sick of it and it depresses me. I've failed everything I've ever tried. When I do manage to pull something off (like getting my 2 college degrees or winning a ribbon), it's just a task marked off my list. I have no idea what success is or what it feels like. That's what I'm afraid of. Also because the level of what's required of me would then increase dramatically if I succeed at something that matters. I have no idea how to set goals or even what goals really are because in my life goals = dreams = fiction = unattainable. And I'm sorry, but failure IS determined by others. If you try to sell something and no one buys it, that's failure. You try to better yourself to be able to get a job and no one wants you, that's failure. You try to make something and it turns out to not be what you were trying to make, that's failure. You can say to not listen to others, but an individual's place in society is based on what everyone thinks about that individual. Plain and simple. It's how the world works. And I'm afraid of ever fitting in with society and succeeding because I don't know what that's like, how it feels, and I don't want to continue spending my life changing who I am to fit in. I could put out my entire life story to show my proof of failure, but there isn't enough space, this isn't the place for it, and no one would read it anyway. Another failure. Also, another proof of failure is being stuck trying to learn something for 4 years and it's something that kids can learn in like 2 days. How is that not failing?
@karmasutra22876 күн бұрын
@@Moraenil have yourself pretty convinced so didn’t fail at that 🤷🏽♀️
@sapholjirattiticharoen58396 ай бұрын
List Self sabotage destroy best intention and goal -Afraid once received can’t maintain it -You own worst enemy negative self compassion self esteem Match want you do with what you believe -Fear of failure Control and/or procrastinate -Self Handicap failure of external circumstance -Imposter syndrome crave external validation may lead to double effort or procrastination alleviate your self from stress -Familiarity Stress tempt to known and familiar even it is not effective as novel idea -self sabotage relationship picky fight, micromanagement, cringy/needy
@-LudovicaD Жыл бұрын
we are often our own enemies
@warrenbradford2597 Жыл бұрын
I relate to number 1, your own worst enemy. I first heard of this quote when Gouken in Super Street Fighter 4 said this. I try my best to avoid the negativity and anger dictate my actions. I actively learn how to be a better person everyday, so I can be my own best teacher.
@Justineyedia Жыл бұрын
According to the National Science Foundation, 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of our thoughts are repetitive. We replay negative loops and have a negative narrative in heads and although we may not always be the one saying it because alot of it goes unconsciously, we are the one who hears it. Change your narrative. An average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. If we repeat those negative thoughts, we think negative way more than we think positive thoughts. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. The human brain has a natural tendency to give weight to (and remember) negative experiences or interactions more than positive ones-they stand out more. Psychologists refer to this as negativity bias. “Our brains are wired to scout for the bad stuff” and fixate on the threat, says psychologist and author Rick Hanson.
@I_AM_KARMA_WITCH Жыл бұрын
"Self-abandonment, The emotional root of self-sabotage" -Susan Anderson- This is the quote I though of while watching this video because it's truth. When we abandon ourselves we have just set ourselves up for failure. Nothing sabotages my hopes, dreams, and goals more throughly than the FEAR that I'm not good enough and never will be. My own self doubt is the largest ball and chain in my life. I know that I have the knowledge, skills, and capability to accomplish whatever I set my mind too. When I started junk journaling I loved it.... It was so therapeutic and fun....but.....then I started looking up ideas instead of just creating my own pages. I started comparing my work to those beautiful, elaborate pages on TikTok and Instagram.....then it turned into, "Why can't my pages be that glorious?" Now I haven't done a page in months because I fear the judgment of others if they were to see it. Same thing with my book..... I started it with so much confidence in my story and how I would tell it..... I'll sit and write for 30-40 minutes but then when I get to a scene that involves some intense torture or has some extra spice I begin to doubt it. "What if this is too much?" or "Will my friends and family think differently knowing this came out of my mind?" So I quit..until I build myself back up to just write what I see in my mind....then write a little, then back to worrying....quit again. Round and round it goes..... Because of self-sabotage I've probably missed out several opportunities in life that I wish I'd jumped at.... I'm my biggest fan and my biggest hater... The saddest part..... I can see that I'm doing it but have no idea how to quit doing it. I'm trying to be more self aware, but it sucks to see the damage being done and feeling helpless to fix it.
@Justineyedia Жыл бұрын
It's not only because of my caregiver as a child that I have an insecure attachment style. Ambivalent. I know that nothing here lasts forever. I have lost a ton of friends to addiction and even in my adult years, good friendships don't last. We grow apart and life happens. We find other interests and passions. So, when I bond with someone I open up too real quickly. And when it comes to places and things, I feel both strong positive and negative about them. I care. When I care. I am passionate. I don't do anything if I don't do it with passion.
@HG-le5tj Жыл бұрын
Nothing is ever that simple really, and most people don't do this to themselves intentionally in fairness like . Also we always need to have compassion and understanding for ourselves and eachother and not make unsound judgements about things as nobody knows anybody else's journey.
@prsprty Жыл бұрын
"self-sabotage is sweet romance"
@1nicolethebest Жыл бұрын
The first minute was a shoot out for me lol called me out on my entire being Edit: this whole video killed me lol can you make a video how to not self sabotage
@aditikar8962 Жыл бұрын
All those relate to me . Idk what to do except move forward i have already done everything in that sabotaged my future in a certain way, i guess now the only thing i can do is be satisfied with the position i am in and hope for happiness and a second chance.
@John_Mitchell- Жыл бұрын
Once again thank you so much for these videos they make me realise so much about myself❤❤❤
@vivian.arts.x Жыл бұрын
Ur uploading so quick keep up the good work!!!!❤❤❤
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@Dagurlblinda Жыл бұрын
I didn't a have a bad childhood but, nowhere I received traumas , emotional wounds and stress/anxiety.
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
I understand. I've probably had one of the best childhoods in this current world, but yet I am broken, for lack of a better term. I am broken because of fears of things going poorly. I am broken because of my self-sabotage. I'm broken because of myself. They say you should never stick with your abusers, but what if your greatest abuser has, is, always will be yourself?
@twiztidyournutz5 ай бұрын
Anything that can go wrong will go wrong Anything that could go right will go right
@dietotaku Жыл бұрын
the familiarity heuristic can also play into the sunk cost fallacy. the puzzle study participants may have felt that they had devised a strategy for solving the first type of puzzle, and that despite the puzzle itself being longer, they would make shorter work of it with their strategy than if they had to solve an entirely different (but "shorter") puzzle. they'd already sunk the time into learning how to solve the first type of puzzle and didn't want to forfeit that cost to start over with a new type of puzzle.
@navoonraj9 ай бұрын
I dont know why that thumnail made me cry.... It reminded me of how i see myself... No one else to blame..
@LuisLopez-mx3er Жыл бұрын
I think I Finally get it, I was struggling from Self-Sabotage!
@Elfos64 Жыл бұрын
Short answer, it's a symptom of illusion of control.
@saanvisaxena1544 Жыл бұрын
Does not studying for an exam count?
@ORProductionss Жыл бұрын
See? I knew my body is betraying me as I’am betraying it
@nuralisyaqaisarabintinoorh807 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this i might need it 😊❤
@setareh5888 Жыл бұрын
Honestly I know I'm not worthy to be alive. It's not a self sabotage. I wish it was with my whole heart. But it's not :(
@Wind_Cursed Жыл бұрын
That's not right. That is a self-sabotage. Everyone is worthy to live, and if you weren't a good person in the past that leads to more reason to continue living to become a better person. I know you can do this!
@EpicLogicBored Жыл бұрын
More like self destruct 💀
@How_To_Play1 Жыл бұрын
i wish i knew how to help someone who might be struggling with this, and that she would give me a chance
@drinasun6984 Жыл бұрын
I really needed this today.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
We're so glad that the video was here for you when you needed it. Did you learn anything new from the video?
@drinasun6984 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go Yes. I'm often my own barrier.
@deenice5914 Жыл бұрын
I self- sabotage alot
@lordmonarchdecal9417 Жыл бұрын
I can’t believe to hear the word failure so much in 1 vid
@heather3534 Жыл бұрын
Heyyy! Just wanted to ask, because I can’t find any good video about it, maybe you could make a video about how being bullied affects your adulthood? Just wanted to see how/if it affected me for the long run, and how I can be able to avoid being dragged down by it Hope you guys see this, with much love
@claudevonrunningman Жыл бұрын
What on Earth is with this channel always calling us out in the best way possible
@Briikaaz Жыл бұрын
I've had many people (family, friends, etc) over the years tell me that I'm engaged in self-sabotage, but could never give me an example or try to help me stop. Even this video is not relatable to me. Could it be that they were projecting onto me?
@felifeee2 ай бұрын
Thank you! I really needed to hear this.
@ur.local.stranger Жыл бұрын
she really cares more abt my mental heath then my parents do...
@generoberts7648 Жыл бұрын
Thank You all at Psych2Go. This topic resonated so strongly with me.This trait is severely underrated as the severe problem that it is. The cognitive dissonance in one persons view has a major hold on the whole nation of India. The title "India, In Cognitive Dissonance". It may be less personal than the individual portion. When I have a problem ,the one approach that is part of my trying to understand is information gathering.
@itsdune0798 ай бұрын
I want to know why I self-sabotage in not taking my antidepressant for days on end and thus experiencing withdrawal symptoms (nausea, nightmares, depressive episodes, anger). I have ADHD so I sometimes forget to take my meds, but the only other reason I don’t take them is because of self-sabotage. And I feel like I need to find the reason for this to be able to stop sabotaging because each time I go to my doctor I can’t tell her if the med relieves my depression or not since I haven’t taken it consistently enough to even know if it works for me. I’ve been on this med for 11 months, yet I still have side effects (notably emotional flatlining...I don’t feel the sorrow or dread of my depression, but don’t feel lasting joy, either)
@kiara_hiroshi Жыл бұрын
eyyyyy I’m early and I don’t know what to say
@LaTonyaBooker Жыл бұрын
It’s good to know I’m not a lazy imposter. I belong here and I’m happy.
@janecelee1713 Жыл бұрын
I wonder if being told abhorrent things (very often and since childhood) by older familial individuals can also lead to self-sabotage...I clearly have lots to unlearn.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
I think the way we see ourselves is definitely influenced by the thing we hear from others, including family members who are older than us. How are you doing now? Do you feel like you're unlearning the things that may lead to self-sabotaging?
@janecelee1713 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go I'm definitely better than before, thanks for asking. I'm starting to see myself differently little by little thanks to therapy. I learned that I'm not whatever other people said I was whenever I failed to live up to their expectations. I may fall back to my old habits every now and then but I'm more determined to get back up.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad to hear that you're in a much better place! And yes, as you mentioned, we may slip up from time to time but that's completely normal. But it sounds like you're determined to care for yourself through therapy and not engage in self-sabotaging behavior. It's so great to hear that you're doing better and I hope that you continue this positive trend. Thank you for sharing! :)
@janecelee1713 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go you're welcome
@danutakrukowska9950 Жыл бұрын
I just started watching ur videos and its a MASTERPIECE
@lizh.4237 Жыл бұрын
Ohmygosh, you read my mind, Psych2Go 🥺💖 I have watched many videos of you and it helped me with my feelings and personality. Still improving and developing. 😌🙂
@cube4547 Жыл бұрын
Yes...
@Bitethenight Жыл бұрын
First and pin plz and Hi and i just want to say love ur self no matter how short, tall, skinny or fat you are, everyone should treat you like a person and u should too!😁
@fresh.prince7472 Жыл бұрын
Amanda hae the most calming voice much better than asmr Lol
@moody_Liam Жыл бұрын
yeah maybe this is me
@joaquimramis4124 Жыл бұрын
I'm not sure why but I don't believe in "self-sabotage". I feel like it's a term and a theory made to try to englobe our dysfunctions, to try to make the problems simpler. But I feel like the truth is that every "self-sabotage" we do to ourselves its a consequence to a lack of abilities, maturity and other factors. But nothing intentioned. They can be seen as just failures that we don't understand.
@danielbarrera8391 Жыл бұрын
I feel like the problem is more an internal conflict than it is something that needs to be "fixed" with therapy. Maybe it's better to see there's a part of you that doesn't want whatever it is you're sabotaging anyway. Like in my own situation people can say it's "trauma" causing me to push people away when in reality there is a feeling underneath that is saying "I don't want these relationships anyway." Or career or partner or whatever. I don't like the idea of trying to use cognitive stuff to try to force thoughts to be different. It almost feels like a form of self harm. Like do I really want a career that could potentially go against my own desires for closeness with someone? Or would you want a career that also might be against your own value and belief system? There's more to it than what self help tries to preach. We don't do this without good reason. It should be seen as an element of ourselves that is actually trying to protect us.
@danielbarrera8391 Жыл бұрын
And in the case of relationships do you really want to be with someone who only wants you for x y or z reason? Like this person only wants me at my best but not my worst? And then sends me to therapy for not "acting right"? That's damn hurtful and if anything that gets in the way of creating a good relationship with closeness and intimacy. You can't get closeness by pushing aspects of someone or yourself away. It doesn't compute... But also most relationships in the world are a problem because of these kind of splits. It's like if you're an environmentalist who deeply feels for the environment and try to make something work with someone who has no problems destroying it. Wouldn't you sabotage that relationship? Or a relationship that someone only wants you for the money but doesn't even put that out there. Without communicating these underlying truths relationships are not safe.
@P4RT1_F0RK Жыл бұрын
I can relate to this, I blame myself all the time👍
@sampadasharma2899 Жыл бұрын
I do believe that going to a therapist will help me with my problems and issues I am going through but really isn't there any other way because its easy to say that we can visit a therapist but for teens who aren't really financially independent and parents those who won't understand aren't there some healthy methods that we can practice to solve problems like these...I truly haven't really understood how does one show self compassion and that's become the most difficult part of my life.. leading me to do stupid things like not working towards my goals cause I don't believe I can achieve them anyways...it just ends up hurting me every time..its like I am stuck in a vicious cycle...
@alivingperson6890 Жыл бұрын
Your videos seem to unexpectedly relate to me sometimes and I don’t know how to feel about it.
@4ngelwinz4 ай бұрын
why am i like this
@fahriagung-_. Жыл бұрын
1:03 among us 😮
@futuristicbus61 Жыл бұрын
Excited to be here fairly early on this video
@eddiestray4870 Жыл бұрын
What if you end up sabotaging your ongoing sinking ship so you can have more reasons to jump out of it, since you are afraid of doing so in the middle of the ocean?
@morganslauson19754 ай бұрын
Thanks!
@TheNonameHousehold Жыл бұрын
I use to think if I failed my own childhood, those were the dark days... 😢
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
How about now? Do you still feel that way about yourself?
@TheNonameHousehold Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go nope! 😁
@ryuriii_ Жыл бұрын
oh, the fact that I do all of these....
@LexusLFA554 Жыл бұрын
Can we just simply appreciate the Among Us style art xD
@carelessislanders Жыл бұрын
thanks for sharing about mental health my friend Godbless you always
@MsLilac88 Жыл бұрын
I always feel empowered by your amazing & informative videos. 😊 Keep on uploading more informative videos. 👍
@HBVS1 Жыл бұрын
John 3:16 [16]For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 3:10-12 King James Version 10 As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: 11 There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. 12 They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. Luke 13:3 [3]I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. John 14:6 [6]Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. Jeremiah 29:13 King James Version 13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. John 8:31-32 King James Version 31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; 32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:12 [12]Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. Matthew 4:17 From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. Luke 6:27-38 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, 6:28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. 6:29 And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also. 6:30 Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again. 6:31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. 6:32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. 6:33 And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. 6:34 And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil. 6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. 2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. Matthew 5:2-12 King James Version 2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying, 3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. 10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. 12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you. Matthew 24:4-14 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. 24:5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many. 24:6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet. 24:7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. 24:8 All these are the beginning of sorrows. 24:9 Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake. 24:10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. 24:11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. 24:13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. 24:14 And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. Exodus 20 King James Version 20 And God spake all these words, saying, 2 I am the Lord thy God, which have brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. 3 Thou shalt have no other gods before me. 4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; 6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments. 7 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. 8 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. 9 Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work: 10 But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: 11 For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it. 12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. 13 Thou shalt not kill. 14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. 15 Thou shalt not steal. 16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour. 17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's. ..,..,..,..,.. ..,..,..,..,.. ............. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, .,,........,,. ,.,.,.,
@MarkUsername Жыл бұрын
What the
@draedongaming2002 Жыл бұрын
Heck In my opinion, you could've said that in another way more readable for other goobers
@DanielGarcia-kp1qf Жыл бұрын
The thing about self sabatage is only death can save you.
@pauljackson171 Жыл бұрын
The animations are so cute!
@xCCflierx Жыл бұрын
4:45 this is so frustrating with ADHD because the novelty is supposed to be what pushes me and gives me that dopamine rush to get things done but it's also the super scary little fucking thing that makes things too scary to try
@grossadmiralthrawn8769 Жыл бұрын
I like your videos. They helped me to propitiate myself with my introverted friend as she was mad at me.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Wow, we're so glad that our video was helpful in mending your friendship! Which video helped you do that?
@grossadmiralthrawn8769 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fb-YZMRzmbaXcY0.html for example. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/itJzo7hkp-CxqYU.html and kzfaq.info/get/bejne/r9ClmrGclq-1c3k.html are also good ones.
@grossadmiralthrawn8769 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go I'm extroverted and pretty overprotective. Also I notice many details what was to much for her. Additonal she was afraid to hurt my feelings. A pretty bad combination so... it was helpful to learn how she see things.
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Thank you for telling us! It sounds like our introvert content was very helpful for you. It also sounds like you two are great friends despite the difficulties you mentioned. I think it's awesome that you're willing to improve yourself in an attempt to be a better friend! :)
@grossadmiralthrawn8769 Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go Yes your videos were pretty helpful. I''m able to understand her better now and I often see something I didn't realize before. Additionally I know how it feels to be alone and she helps me to improve myself just through being herself so I would feel bad to give her lesser love. Excuse some bad written words. I setted the keyboard of my phone to my native language so maybe it doesn't see every mistake.
@BaconDash420 Жыл бұрын
Psych2go the only channel where they talk about Suicide, Sabotage and SEX
@charliem177 Жыл бұрын
I have few friends because I self sabotage myself by driving them away, feeling that I am not worthy of their friendship. It's also why I still am a virgin. I have had multiple, multiple chances at sex, but I become afraid of it that I intentionally do what I can to ensure it doesn't happen. And when the sex doesn't happen, because I sabatoged the effort, I blame myself, telling myself that I am not worthy, that I will always be alone, and that no one cares for me. It's a horrible cycle that has left me feeling numb, like an out of body experience.
@texeppl Жыл бұрын
Hello ! I love your episodes. And I'd like you to do an episode about people who have Asperger's and are confirmed to be geniuses. Because I'm such a case that I have asperger's syndrome and it's proven that I'm a genius,with adhd and that's why I would like to see such an episode from you ;)
@tabitha.shipley Жыл бұрын
I've done the second and third ones, but not the first, fourth, and fifth ones. I was taking the STAAR test and I was on the writing portion in English. For some reason, when I would hit the spacebar on the document, it would erase a character somewhere in the document. This happened when I was almost on the conclusion paragraph. I got so frustrated and felt like I was messing up and failing, so I held down the spacebar and erased the entire thing. I told the teacher who was supervising me what happened and he told me he realized what was going on and fixed it. Whereas on the third one, I'm an admin in a Discord server and I feel like I'm undeserving of the position, even though I've well earned it. I underestimate myself and procrastinate because I'm scared I'm going to mess up. Everybody makes mistakes, and I know that. But I'm so scared of making them. I'm so scared of people thinking ill of me.
@technounionrepresentative4274 Жыл бұрын
Everything else shoves me down, why not add on to the pile? Nothing is ever going to get better, the people who can actually make things better have no reason to make things better
@squidi_lp Жыл бұрын
Is there a channel like yours for germans? So my parents can finaly understand me after 19 years
@kesu4581 Жыл бұрын
When it really hit me was when I started laughing 😀💀 cuz why is that so relatable
@keycontroller Жыл бұрын
😂ty now i have to talk to my brain again about the sabotages it did 🙁
@aaronreau8556 Жыл бұрын
So yeah....... How do you solve it
@krissyrawrXD Жыл бұрын
I just quit a job I worked my whole career for
@BrikenBlatt Жыл бұрын
Ich habe eine Frage. Ich hatte gute Freundschaften, als ich noch im Kindergarten und Mittelschule war. Als ich diese Abschnitte meines Lebens abgeschlossen habe, sind auch diese Freundschaften "kaputt" und danach komplett verschwunden, weil ich mich nicht "um diese gekümmert habe". Ich möchte nur wissen warum das passiert ist, weswegen ich mich nicht mehr wirklich um diese Freundschaften gekümmert habe.
@Cheese_Authority Жыл бұрын
You forgot reason 6: I just hate myself
@Grace-km1df Жыл бұрын
Who do I vent to if my parents aren’t comforting and I don’t have privacy to vent to my friends? (I share a room with my little sister who has zero empathy)
@Nhu-om6gw Жыл бұрын
Psych2Go , can you explain what love feel like? And what is love meaning
@gabbylaught Жыл бұрын
Can i have the bg sound here? It's very cute
@Invisibility397 Жыл бұрын
I straight up intentionally Self Destruct desiring complete & total loss of that person who has earned the rewards of their lack of _____...
@idk49618 Жыл бұрын
What should i do this happens to me and i am only 13, I am constantly being to by my father that i am (bad things)and all that What should i do😢
@NotASpyReally Жыл бұрын
For some reason it's extremely difficult for me to focus on the video with captions on. And now I can't turn them off :(
@maybeesweet Жыл бұрын
.......not me having a dream about self sabotage and then I see THIS.... AHHHHHHHHHHH