Happy to hear that the content can be helpful for you now!

Same here, I just recognize half of my mistakes now, years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend

I’m telling u, where was this 10 years ago

Same here man, but it’s okay to make mistakes, once you learn from them.

You still need to experience these things to truly understand!

I love people that like technology tho Am I just weird then lmao

I will make sure to do all of these.

@@parishthewolf1508 u'll want to make sure to NOT do all of these things buddy ;)

Well that's just exactly what I am as person. Suppose I'll just have to accept people hating me and me never being a part of world.

Rejecting the idea that you can improve isn’t gonna get you anywhere

it’s easy to slip into those thought patterns. being able to recognize and reflect is not so easy. glad that you at least have the self awareness to work on it

Negativity and insecurity are the main reasons for my most recent failed relationship. I would have needed to know this video and this channel a year ago.

At least you saw this video in time, I've lost my loved one 1 week's ago and now it's too late. Good luck brother

same.. i have my high self confidence got destroyed just because of hearing everyday constant criticize, that i cannot afford to stop getting through my head anymore. From the most "liked" and "friendly" in grade 10, turned invincible by college that no one sees because of how insecure, overthinking, negative, low self esteemed person i have become. I have once sorrounded by friends and people, but now.. Maybe, now that i have become like this, i think its better if i should just stop trying to build back to what i was.. Being alone is not bad, from this road on, I think it would be better if i go on alone.

wow, I admire you kiran for being deep and an open minded person. by pointing out that we really need to feel even those unpleasant emotions in order to process and heal from it, you help people understands things more clearly. id also like to point out that theres nothing wrong with feeling your emotions. in fact, feeling your emotions is one way of finding many things in life like personality, trauma, etc etc. that doesnt make someone a lesser person as long as you are working your way to get better. your wounds are your teacher, whatever unpleasant emotions you have, reveals what still needs to be healed.

Yes, supportive partners bring out the best in each other and nurture eachother's growth.

@@Psych2go can you do a video on trust and rebuilding it.

*Starlight Anya

Depression is a curse I got myself into but a blessing because I learned to learn from it. If I could choose to live again with or without I'd still say with. I would've be the person I am now. Depression made me realise how idgaf but at the same time and in a different way. How much I value my body, life and everything else. Depression isn't a curse. It's a hindrance and a handicap.. the strong can keep going. The people that were strong for too long stopped. Be the person to be strong for longer. When you get that wake up call your life is gonna be better than ever before and you'll also know the truth of life. You have to find the source. Analyse it. And keep going. I can't tell you to do anything in an order or give you advice because my journey is a different one and already hard enough on itself. You'll find a way. I believe in you. There's still no reason for me to live. Idgaf. I do because i feel like it right now. You know what helped me? The thought of (I was suicidal, somewhat in a way i guess a part of me is?) Anyways. That- I reached out for help and my thought process was like (i don't believe in god btw or more like i know nothing such exists the way you picture it.) Oh well I haven't got anything to lose. When I die I won't be able to recall anything anymore. I don't exist anymore so yea. And if I don't feel like it I can still yknow. Kms And if somebody catches me? Okay well.. like i said i can kms. When I'm gone. Everything of me is. Everybody else whose had a memory of me. It's gonna disappear. There's nothing to be afraid of. In the end. It doesn't. It truly *does not.* And that helped me. It may seem like a negative view but there isn't anything such as positive and negative. We humans made up everything. It's just the way *you* see it. Do what you feel is right. Have self discipline. Get help. Get fked. Go best someone up to call out your feelings. In the end it doesn't matter. I hope this doesn't reach the wrong people because it's all a matter of the mindset of who's reading this.

surely depression is difficult, but making someone you love feel bad isn't a way to resolve it, you'll just feel worse. when someone says you're smart or beautiful etc don't answer ''no I'm not'' just smile like a kid and feel glad. that will make you feel way better.

By no doubt the evilest enemy of man is the belief that life has significance, which is one that holds responsibility for all the suffering that man undergoes and endures as he marches forwards along the path of life. Depression is one fruit among the basket of a vast possible variety of bitter fruits that this pernicious attitude bears, so the best way to remedy the former is to adopt a nihilistic attitude and then surely you will cease to show concern and worry to the things that were the instigators of depression. So please, take the veil off of your eyes and hereafter you shall understand how your own serious attitude towards life can easily become your downfall as it subtly gnaws on your mentality. Moreover, happiness merely is a spurious concept, because the only functions it has is that is serves as a cloak that hides the wounds inflicted by prior suffering and adjourns the inexorable, upcoming future suffering.

It's also really hard to find a partner who is supportive. I have PTSD, it's a lot better now but I still have triggers and sleep paralysis. Every guy I have dated; instead of being supportive, they just tell me how to fix myself. "Oh you have sleep problems? Have you tried going to bed earlier?" "Oh you've been triggered? Have you tried meditating?" "You need to let go of the past" And they say it like it's the easiest thing in the world and as though it hasn't made irreversible changes to my brain. People are the worst.

remember! step by step resolve your depression after u find someone to love

Waku Waku

Thanks for putting the time stamps together!

@@Psych2go can you put them in the video description and add one for " 0:00 Introduction " or something like that so the chapters appear in the timeline? I think this could help many people to memorize the points better and jump back to a certain one when they want to watch it again

@@Psych2go no prob!

@@King0fHero this is a great idea !

Reading and realizes i had everything on this list, damn, my self improvement road is gonna be longer now

when you talk about your body shape or looks in a negative way all the time, your partner will see them eventually, too, and may even dislike them over time. also it's frustrating to tell the partner he or she is not to fat, to silly, to whatever and the partner always talks back, even argues maybe. it's just exhausting and will definitely change the way how someone feels over time. for sure!

The depression is just your own mind, so you have to take responsibility

As it's important to get positive, it's also important to dwelve in you're problem as well. Knowing why you feel the way you feel often makes the feelings go blandier. Knowing yourself is the first and better weapon to control you're feelings, cause then you'll won't let them acumulate and you know where to put them. A psychologist can help with that, but if you don't have that possibility you can always rely on yourself and put yourself onto situations that help you doing that work

@@00Mali00 Hey, i know you have good intentions, but this comment could go a little off and do the opposite as would be expected. Of course depression is only on the mind of the people who feel it, but the problem is that most people doens't know their own mind well. I didn't knew my own mind 4 years ago, as i know now! The first goal must be to know you're own mind. I know this can sound weird, but it's it is

This list describes me.

@@samanthajane8906 At a date, what would you expect your opposite to tell you, that'd ease your pain / make you feel more comfortable? I'm just curious 😄

@@zayba1617 Confident to assume I go on dates >.< I get asked, I just don't go. EDIT: Likely, you would get to know me much better via text than face to face. I think, if ever someone were to be interested enough, they should make me feel comfortable texting them random things and at random times. Sad, because in text you lose a lot of interaction. Sometimes what you know is good for you seems out of reach. (Just for reference, I'm 27, female)

Damn I can't play games

Tell him the truth, that’ll help.

@@phansaxtiger that's horrible advice. If someone's super insecure and makes self-deprecating comments to look for validation then they really need kindness. Telling them it's exhausting will make them defensive and won't help with healing their self-esteem. I'm also in this position, my partner is super insecure so I make sure to support him and compliment him all the time and I've noticed that it's helping. Sure, sometimes it is tiring but I can empathize, me being tired of repeating how great he is and him not believing it is less of a problem than him having low self-esteem that comes from having abusive parents. Thankfully he doesn't live with them anymore, that's the first step in the process of healing, removing the stimuli that cause the negative effects.

I used to have a partner like this but he would insult me too fat shaming me when I couldn't lose the weight. I am loyal to a fault so we stayed friends for years after words with him invalidating me and my past saying that since i was so young whatever happened to me back before we met didn't count but the things that happened to him did. And I would always make sure he was ok but anytime I said anything about my struggles he would make fun of me or say that I was too sensitive. I still struggle to not go back to that because he was awful to me but the fact that we were friends for so long just my loyalty being annoying. Any way if it starts to go in the direction where you're feeling bad about yourself because of him\her they aren't worth it leave.

@@Vescilla It's not horrible advice. A romantic relationship is supposed to be bidirectional. Just as she supports him, he needs to support her. So it is perfectly valid for her to tell him the truth that his self-attacks hurt her too. But she needs to tell him the WHOLE truth, which is something like this: A) She loves him very much; B) In spite of his self-attacks, he is NOT bad/stupid/weak/ugly; C) She will always defend him against his self-attacks, but it is exhausting her when he rejects her defense by continuing the attacks; D) The next time he feels like self-attacking, he should remember points A, B and C and say to himself, "I think I'm so bad/stupid/weak/ugly, but my girlfriend disagrees vehemently and I respect her opinion".

thank you all so much for the advice, it really helped me. I love my boyfriend very much and he has been very supportive and has been there for me during incredibly dark times too. it’s just more often than not he doesn’t seem to believe he is good enough, not even for me. But thank you all so much, it means a lot ❤️

online relationships never end well it’s just life man

@@lyan749 I got told that by a lot of people but I really felt like she was the one, she made me the most happy I've ever been in my life.

Was she neglecting your relationship?

@@lyan749 I met my late fiance through an online friend who set us up together. Best relationship I've ever had. The distance made communication a priority and in the end it only made us closer. If the effort is there it works wonderfully. Sitting in the hospital with her and watching her die because the hospital was too slow to diagnose a perforated bowel (I correctly guessed it an entire day before they did) is something I won't ever fully recover from. Would I do it again? Absolutely

@Camarade Toff Thank you for pointing this out, I was wondering if anyone else caught this

According to #drwiseone, repairing a toxic relationship will take time, patience, & diligence. This is especially the case, Astrologer #drwiseone, “given that most toxic relationships often occur as a result of longstanding issues in the current relationship or as a result of unaddressed issues from prior relationships. But a big thanks to him in resolving the toxic relationship with a loving spell portion

No. Uncontrolled jealously is.

Is like a cold…be irresponsible and you will cause your partner to have it

Any advice for someone who is envious or jealous easily?

@@Psych2go Here's my opinion and thoughts. (It's more about why some advices are bad, and I don't have any advice yet for feeling jealous or envious) Here's my advice, just don't be jealous or envious. Just kidding, that's actually a horrible advice and I know we have definitely heard it at some point. It's horrible because: 1.) First, it ignores/invalidates/disregard/deny someone's emotions and feelings. Emotions and feelings are natural part of being a human, and rejecting that is also rejecting part of ourselves. 2.) Second, it is not so simple as that because it takes time, effort, knowledge/experience about emotions and self-awareness to find out why are you feeling envious and jealous. Everyone's life is unique and everyone will have unique set of reasons why someone is feeling that way. 3.) And lastly, chances are you might definitely feel pressured from this "should" of never feeling jealous or envy, and you might begin to force yourself to stop feeling jealous or envy, which conflicts to our human nature to have and feel emotions as said in the first point/reason. But where's the advice? As for now, I still can't think of an advice that actually works and not some "just do this" crap. But I hope those things I have said above might help you identify and avoid following bad advice, because there's so many advice both in the internet and real life that is just insulting and unsolicited that it's more of "what should I do" than "what are the things that can I do". Or in detail, where it's more of someone else deciding for you instead of you deciding for yourself. That's it, take care everyone^-^

hey there

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It's because they don't find that useful and beneficial in some way. To put it simple, people are attracted to power. Someone who can influence the environment in a way that they'd see that is more beneficial than what they can do from themsleves. Having Insecurity doesn't do that. It is indecisiveness, a weakness when it comes to making decisions (when honestly it's a strength to make good decisions, because it helps critical thinking being able to see the benefits of all outcomes, but being unable to choose which is best.) People want a drive, a powerful individual who can help them in a way that cannot they themsleves cannot. Which is why people have high standards or don't put up with even the simple mishaps that people have. They do not have compassion and do not see the potential of more within someone else. How someone may not be the best mate, but surely can become a great one for ourselves. But no, they don't and that's all there is to it.

It's normal to be insecure about some things but what this video is trying to say is to not push it too much on others. It's not their responsibility to deal with YOUR self image issues. Maybe they are dealing with it too, who knows. It's ok to not want to hang out too much with someone who is constantly saying how much is wrong with them. You've got to get a healthy surrounding for yourself, even if it's sad for the insecure person . Of course you can seek for support sometimes but this is something you've got to work out with yourself with the help of others, not that others should do for you. (I hope this is understandable enough lol my English is a bit meh)

@@laobozu549 its perfect thanks😭

Like what Lao Bozu said, they're telling you to not push it too much on people.

Finally I see a comment about Anya

I can tell you're all 5 of those because of how you wrote your comment, lol. If you have no desire to change the way you are, you won't change. You are in control of yourself, my friend.

i feel you so much man there's literally no point dating because of those things i literally feel all 7

@@opghmino4834 8th reason, I’m aro-ace so I don’t experience any attraction right now. But I don’t think I will EVER find “the one”

What advice would you give to someone in this shoe?

well here on KZfaq you have a video that's called "read the room" and this video kinda reminds me of that. the answer I had for that video is the same for this one. Is it a room that you should be in? it's like trying to much a introvert with a extrovert. It's not always going to work. just like someone who takes positivity and negative emotionally or logical. Did you grow up in a strict household that you wasn't able to do what the other's did when you was a kid and was forced to be separated socially? Did your parents put you into therapy because doing that can cause actual pain? Did that person grow up to be a old soul because of that unknown trauma? The jelusy and social media one I can agree with. Take it as me being negative or mean towards you on this video. only 2 out off all of them I disagree with so that's a good thing.

@@Psych2go but to sum it up. The person that is attracted to you may only had the physical attraction that they fell in love with then added everything else on their head of what they think you are. Like the story of the guy that played in the new batman and twilight movies. The story on how he got rid of his stalker. She feel in love with the character, not the person. The solution is the same one as in the anime trapped I'm a dating Sim.

That's smart, imma try that thanks 😈

Dating a gamer is like making a terror attack.

It will be impossible to find someone that does not have anything from this list…realize before you see him married to someone else and with 2 kids

Omg same. 😂

love your profile name

The way too available thing is the most toxic thing woman complain about. If you like somebody of course you’re gonna want to be available for them

Accept yourself for who you are without being judgemental of yourself or others. I think that's what modesty is. I apologize if I am mistaken, but you asked for help in understanding hoe to be modest. Long short, I'm a good example of what not to do.

@@nicknord7575 oh nice point. I've never thought about it that way. Thank you.

Do you mean a video on how to be humble?

@@Psych2go yes that's right

I've been having faith for something that I most want in the world!