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People with loving parents who raised them with just love and care are the luckiest people.

Me: Giving a valid argument and has a point. Parents: "Tastes like DISRESPECT"

The worst part is trying to tell someone what life at home is like and all the terrible effects it's had on me, and their only response is "parenting is hard".

My mom is a narcissist and she constantly criticized and belittled us. My dad was silent and always took her side.

Worst part: They don't even think they're problematic when in fact they are and they just scream when you explain why 🙃

One thing: do not attempt to change a narcissist, cut them lose. If you must keep the link because of family reasons, limit interaction to a minimum, don't share anything personnal and stick to small talks. Good luck if you are in this situation, it is possible to become a great person regardless what your parents are.

Growing up I always noticed how fake they seemed every time we had guest or they were on the phone with someone else. It’s like they hit a switch

1- You may have low self-esteem 2- They have an intense reaction to any form of criticism 3- Your parents had a favourite child 4- You are a complete dormat 5- You are dealing with chronic shame 6- You struggle to set proper boundries 7- You engage in self-destruction behaviour 8- You may have been controlled throught co-dependency 9- You we're gaslit by your parents 10- You're experiencing depression and anxiety

I feel like everyone around me have had problematic parents so whenever I meet someone who has an emotionally available, caring, etc parent, Im always in shock

This video taught me that my parents weren’t meant to have kids

One thing about having a narcissist parent is they will always make you feel flawed and will never take criticism even if they are wrong. Looking back as a kid I realize how much of a good kid I was. I never caused trouble, i was a smart kid and my teachers really liked me. I felt like if I had the right support system at home I would have turned out to be more. I know that its too late for me to have that but I realise I can be that parent I wish I had when I was younger.

yikes my dad is a narcissist.he always criticizes everyone but always gets mad when he gets criticized.

In a Middle Eastern household these are very common things. I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I got older and found out that it’s not normal to do all that 😕

My parents can go on and on about “you are so disrespectful”, even though they have never shown me any individual respect whatsoever. They do not support my lifestyle or my hobbies, as well as constantly belittle my achievements and my issues. Somehow, they see nothing wrong with what they do to me. They wonder why I do not like them and why I do not want to be around them, but they don’t even treat me with basic human decency. Respect is a two way street, you have to *give* it to *get* it.

My dad is a narcissist. He doesn’t want me to have any activities so he doesn’t have to drive me places. He tries to get s as much custody of me as he can and then just locks me up in his house. He makes me feel guilty for not loving him as much as he wants me to. I can’t question anything that he does or else he freaks out. You can’t convince him about anything either. I’m mentally exhausted after each time I’m forced to be with him and I don’t know what to do.

I really don’t see my Mom as a full on narcissist but she does have tendencies, especially when I was younger. The “silent treatment” was a big thing in my household growing up. I always felt I couldn’t talk to her about certain things; the way I feel about this or that. It’s like it makes her uncomfortable and she would simply shut down, she does this still. Now, as an adult, I am not afraid to tell her how I’m feeling but it can be like talking to a wall sometimes. She never straight out said my older sister was the favorite but I always got the sense that this was the case. She got stellar grades and did a lot to help my mom take care of me, as my mom was a single parent. When I would tell on her for doing things I viewed as bad (ex:sneaking guys into the house) she always got a slap on the wrist. I think my family has always compared me to her while growing up, and the shoes were just much too big to fill. I’ve always been very blunt and outspoken which my family tends to not always like. “Don’t say things like that”, or “No, that’s not what happened” have been ongoing phrases said by my mother. It completely invalidates my own feelings and emotions. Another thing was being extremely passive aggressive with my sister and I. My dad was a chronic alcoholic/addict whom was in and out of my life. She used that against us A LOT, as if we were at fault for his actions. “If you don’t like it here, then you can go live with your dad in the gutter.” This was the most used one. It made me feel shameful and guilty when I was simply expressing normal childish displeasure toward something. I wasn’t allowed to get a toy I really wanted, well then I suppose I should go live with my addict father and see if I prefer that. (?) That is beyond harsh at any age, but especially to an elementary aged kid. She projected all of her own negative emotions onto others, especially myself, rather than talking it out. I now tell her that her actions were very much inappropriate and emotionally abusive, which she agrees with for the most part. She has calmed down over time, luckily. But the damage has already been done. No self esteem, depression/anxiety disorder, etc., etc. Many factors have played a part in these results but in the end having no relationship with my dad and a rollercoaster of a relationship with my mom was more than enough to bring me to this point. Be kind and respectful to your children or, frankly put, please don’t bother with having any.

I always felt like the scapegoat in my family. When I'd try to talk to my mother about it, she'd yell, "What about me?!! What about how hard MY childhood was, you ungrateful brat!" 😥😥😥

watching this made me cry, it’s hard realizing your parent wasn’t who you thought they were.

I just can't wait to live on my own. It sucks to be alone but it's less lonely than I am with them. I finally found why I am always this way. I hope everyone's doing great and be kind to everyone and yourself.

Real talk, I grew up thinking control was a mark of strong parenting/authority. I’m grateful I’ve been to the schools I’ve been and met mentors, teachers and others who’ve demonstrated that great parenting is about relationships with your kids, quality and consistent presence and support, not dominance, control, manipulation, using your kids as resources to exploit.

I wasn't raised by narcissists but I watch videos like this to make sure my own behavior doesn't fall into any of these categories so I can be a good mom to my son

Anyone just get so mad when your parents compare you to others? It hurts alot.

Almost every time my mom got upset, “I brought you into this world, and I sure as hell can take you out of it too!” 26 years, and I’m just now beginning to be kind to myself. To everyone striving to heal, we will make it 💜 To all the loving parents striving to avoid this behavior, from the bottom of my heart & soul I want to thank you for choosing love 💜 Lets continue to make a difference every day, love y’all

Yep, every single one to extreme levels. After 30 years I moved without telling them where I went, changed my phone number, blocked their email addresses and started using a different one. Only after blocking my entire immediate and extended family out of my life do I finally feel like I can breathe and actually be somewhat happy, growing each day. There's no changing people like them, best to leave the toxicity, abuse and dysfunction behind me.

Having depression and anxiety, it has always been a problem to me since my parents are narcissistic. To all people who experience this, you're not alone. We can get through this. I hope Edit: I felt happy that I'm not alone in this fight. I'm in tears of joy... and pain. Wish to have a talk with u guys and I'm very proud of y'all for surviving up until the next day of our lives. Godbless us all.

My parents don't notices my pain unless they turn into anger, and now I'm the bad guy ;/

The most difficult aspect of having a narcissistic parent in my experience is explaining in any way how their disorder has contributed to the brokenness of your family. You can’t just say “you’re narcissistic,” and any round-about way of explaining it is met with gaslighting, blame, and ignoring anything wrong with themself. It seems impossible but maybe I’ll figure it out one of these days.

My parents aren't that narcissistic, but they sometimes let their egos get out of hand and push the blame onto me who's emotionally weak. My mom is the more laid-back and humble. Since she is willing to listen to me when I had an emotional breakdown and doesn't want to make the problem worse. As for my dad, he's a whole other story. I sometimes think that he's unaware that he's a narcissist at times and let's his anger issues get out of hand whenever my mom or myself calls him out on his faults which results in him playing the victim card and pushing the blame onto me and my mom. This was back when I was a kid up until I was a young teen, but as a adult my life had gotten better since my parents have admitted to being narcissistic at times.

Parents favorite quote: we gave you life, you are indebted to us.

My mom is the narcissist. My dad was strict and expected things of me and my siblings but once he realized he was hurting us more than helping us he changed. My parents aren’t together so my mom has always attacked us for “choosing him, liking him more”. My mom got cancer 6 years ago and made a complete recovery. I thought this new chance at life would make her better but I think she’s gotten worse. Like I’m almost 30 mom. I should not still be feeling this guilt and shame for wanting to try to live outside of you.

My father is one of these parents. When I finally had enough I moved in with my boyfriend. ( I was 20.) Dad had a fit and tried to make me feel terrible about it. He said that we would never make it. I am proud to say that moving in with my now husband was the best choice I could have made. We will be celebrating 20 years of marriage this year. My narcissist father has never had a marriage last that long.

I feel like almost all of this told a great deal of my story. My mother would scream and yell, threaten self harm while blaming us (me, sister, stepdad), and she did things to me like grabbing me by the throat (very scarcely, but still). I tried to bring it up that those things hurt and she responded with (while screaming) that it was good that it hurt and it meant I had a heart. When I brought up her grabbing my throat, she called me a liar in front of my sister and step-dad, but later on (about a week later or so when it was just us) she invalidated it because I "didn't lose consciousness". She has done these things as long as I can remember, and things like suicidal threats started when I was around 8-9. I have moved out to my dad's aittle over a year and a half ago, and it has been the best choice I ever made. I realized that I finally had a voice for myself and that I didn't have to take it anymore. I have been trying ever since to continue having a relationship with her, but it's extremely difficult and she still feels she has done no wrong even though she says that she has "apologized profusely". I'm all but ready to cut her lose, and the only reason I haven't is because she is my birth mom. Sorry this is so long to anyone that took the time to read, but there is just so much and still much more that I didn't mention. I hope no one has to go through this kind of thing and that should they go through it, they have a fast and healthy healing process.

I just wanted to say that if you’re currently living with a narcissistic parent, you’re gonna have to learn to just bite your tongue a lot. Remember that a narcissist will never find themselves at fault, so even trying to argue is like talking to a brick wall. You aren’t going to get anywhere🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

My friends are jealous how nice my parents are ... If they ever knew

As an adult I have come to understand both my parents needs were not met as children. I survived childhood by counseling my mother and keeping a clean house for my dad. I stepped on eggshells. When I turned 18 and the time came to be an adult, I didnt know what to do, yet was expected to take the reigns. Parents are to teach their children how to be on their own, how to thrive. I spent years invested in ‘their’ needs of the moment and was discarded when I no longer served them. I was frozen.

I love how they used a 3 people family. One dad, one mom & one sad kid. It represents my family so well. So ya... this video was definitely for me

i haven’t spoken to my mom in over a year. i haven’t spoken to my dad in over 3 years. they are both narcissistic/abusive. neither of them have met my daughter and that’s how i’m keeping my it :)

Do narcissist parents think they “do everything for you “? Like they have false sense of being incredibly nice and now they “are living for themselves “?

My parents say they love me, but I’m dying for the day I get to say “no you love the fact that you have A daughter. If we weren’t related you would absolutely hate me. You see me as “the thing I created”, not who I really am”

These are, uncomfortably understood...My mum always says, "If you just lived with me, everything would be better!" Or "You're wasting your life living where you are, and living with him!" ..She'll show that side of herself to other's in a way that makes her sound super concerned but it's to get attention. 😶 What makes things worse is if we're out, she'll tell complete strangers personal details of my life when she believes I'm out of hearing range.. I'm 35 and I still can't believe this has continued to happen. I don't even know what that's categorized as? Anyone else?

I'm 19 now but the childhood trauma doesn't leave me. I have experienced not one or 2, but all signs. I was severely physically abused. That even made me to think about suicide. And I left my parents but I'm still struggling with depressions. My parents have a favourite child, which I'm not jealous but hurt, they shamed me. The thing that really broke my heart was when my mum said that "you should have never been born, I wish you should die now ". I didn't realised how I'm forming boundaries with people. This channel helps me a lot to know. I have never had right to speak myself. I have very low self esteem. Now I feel bad for my little brother who live with them is experiencing same what I had. He is only 13, but I can do nothing until I'm successful.

I confront my parents about their past behaviors and then they gaslight me telling me they would "never" do such a thing, but I know they are lying.

It's important to remember that someone can behave in a functionally narcissistic way and not meet the criteria for NPD. CPTSD or Borderline PD can involve coping mechanisms that look like narcissism. Codependents can eventually get to a place where they try to regulate their own emotions by controlling others' behavior. We all need self-awareness in this area and to not divide the whole world up into narcissists and their victims.

I think the more common toxic co-dependent phrases would be; “YOU can’t live without ME!” “but YOU need ME!” The other way shows too much weakness on the narc’s side.

Okay I’m 100% sure my dad is narcissistic. I checked off almost all of the boxes. Luckily, I’m going to college soon so I’ll be able to develop some independence. Thank you for this video. I love this channel and it’s helped me a lot.❤️

No 6 is the reason is why Never kept a diary coz they always peak in my things and I know they'll go through my private diary

When watching these I think it’s important to also do a self-check to see where you might be projecting your upbringing onto an innocent situation. I’ve caught myself being over reactive to criticism in my relationship because I was shamed so heavily (still am lmao) as a child. It takes a level of empathy to even try to still deal with narcissistic family. I had to realize that someone struggling with ego problems is someone that doesn’t feel safe. If your emotional safety is threatened you’ll do anything for the object of your affection to reassure you even if it’s not healthy for them. It doesn’t lessen the problem, it just helps to hinder any resentment from the affected party so that they can break the cycle for themselves.

My dad is like this, and now that all my siblings are grown I can see the effect he's had on us. It's kind of relieving but terrifying at the same time.

The voice of this person ssooo calming that I really want to listen to it 24/7...❣

I think my mom is not a full narcissist but she always used to say "everything I did in my life is for you; I sacrificed my personal life to bring you up!". This is a great recipe for cultivating a chronic feeling of guilt in your children, I can assure you! Super great idea to use cute animation in your videos, thank you so much!

Oh my goodness!! You’ve described my grandmother to the “T”. My mother fell last year and I’ve since stepped into a caregiver role with her. My grandmother, who is still living, would ignore my request to back off and allow me to manage my mother at the height of her needs and all under the guise of when would she be able to take her to the doctor. 6 years ago I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and all my grandmother could talk about after I told her was how I needed to take better care of my mother. But I digress, now I see my mother only once a week. I don’t step in unless it’s critically necessary and I reassure her that I don’t want control of her life and legally I’m not required to do anything for her. I don’t talk to my grandmother anymore because my mental health can’t take it. She can be really savage when she’s angry. Thankfully my mother is starting to stand up to her too. Thanks for the video.

My mom is the narcissist in my life. It wasn't until recently when my eyes opened to a lifetime of manipulation & gaslighting. When my dad left her, I immediately saw a complete change in his character. He's truly happy right now. She tried to sue me as a last ditch effort to maintain any kind of control over me. Funny thing is when I would confront her about it, she'd deny suing me & instead said her lawyer was the one suing me, when her name was in the documents as the plaintiff. I cut contact with her, but she still tries to get a hold of me through my wife, pretending like nothing happened. The mere sight of her brings disgust to me. I think that could be hatred, which I hope it isn't. Not because she's my mom, but because hatred is a powerful emotion I don't want to feel towards anybody.

Me: *a ball of anxiety that often has panic attacks and self shames constantly* (Tells my mom about some of it for the 80th time) “Well you never told me! Why didn’t you feel like telling me that all this was going on!!” (Does absolutely nothing to help me for the 80th time)

My family had me as the “perfect child”. The problem was that even my siblings began to think that and put even more pressure on me. One time I cursed and my sister said I was “too pure for that”. My mom has always told me that I’m better than my siblings. But none of my family really respected what I wanted or really cared about.

Your videos have been so insightful to me. My gf of 3 and a half years has so many issues that have been affecting our relationship the whole time and I’ve never been able to help her or get her to learn or change. She’s been suffering with anxiety, trust issues, self esteem issues, etc etc. Her parents are textbook narcissists and they’re super manipulative and controlling constantly tormenting and insulting her. These videos have truly shown me not only why she has these issues but also have given me a way to express these thoughts I’ve been having in a way that makes sense not just “your parents are toxic and controlling.” She already understands me and agrees with me but now I can actually show her in detail why they’re behavior is bad and how that behavior affects her. Your videos are a godsend and I literally cannot thank you enough. We’ll be able to get through this crap TOGETHER and now she’ll truly be able to understand. I have one last thing to say, she’s leaving for college soon and I just want to know, does anyone know if just removing her parents from the equation would work or should she seek professional help or some other way to deal with these issues?

This video word for word describes my entire life. My whole life I acted out. It was the only time anyone listened. I did anything I could to push my parents away. I’ve now been alienated from my father for over 8 years. My mother said anytime someone hurt me, I deserved it because I was a problem child. Even to this day. Im nearly 29 now… Today I think my mother may finally no longer be a part of my life. Though im hurt, I may have finally found peace.

"what would i do without you" "I only live for you" "you always try to be alone, do you hate me?!" "You're not gonna leave me like your father will you?" "You're gonna make me live in a castle" "I have high expectations for you" "WHAT DO YOU MEAN IM PUTTING YOU UNDER SO MUCH PRESSURE?! IM JUST WISHING THE BEST FOR YOU AS A MOTHER" These are the things my mom always says to me, she has high expectations for me and im scared to not fullfil her wishes..i told her she's putting me under a lot of pressure and don't expect me to be so successful when you put me under that much pressure. And when i have some time with myself she says i hate her or something, i told her kids will leave their nest someday so don't expect them to live with you forever. She makes me think that im guilty when im not. I just hope she'll find a good person to marry, and don't put me and my sister under so much pressure.

Each parent are their child's huge fan or worst critics

This video is spot-on, I am almost shocked at how accurate this really is.

i'm currently 18 with autism. my mom was forced to separate when my bio dad began prioritizing beer and weed production over the relationship and my mom took me and my older brother away. my mom swapped between 3 boyfriends before she met a boomer-looking biker dude who is now my stepfather. i now suffer these years occasionally because my parents ridicule me over not doing chores immediately and for making the smallest mistakes. its like they always want me to be perfect and not just be me.

Advice: Just point out the chronic manipulator to find the narcissist.

To those who have narcissist parent/parents here have a vurtual hug I know it doesn't help much but remember your not alone

This video hits hard big time. I don't know where to start and where to stop about the way my father treats us all the way he does. He has destroyed us all in every possible way. All the points stand valid and were faced by everyone at my home to the extent that folks started to believe there's nothing they could do to help themselves.

I'm glad I found this channel... I've been beaten and abused my whole life, and I've as of recently been coming to my senses because of these videos. I was a narcissistic psychopath in the making and I never knew it... I was the black sheep and with my mother, one of my brothers was the favorite, my father; it was one of my sisters. I'm trying to get help I need. Though "private pay" privilege is making that incredibly difficult. And while my mom is trying to help me now, I'm worried she's gonna surface those narcissistic tendencies and I'll be lost once again.

If parents sound like this, if you just show that you can´t stand them, you know that they are narcissists and don´t get it: "You just cannot stop toxicity spewing out of your mouth can you? Abuse is a very subjective term. When someone repeatedly uses words to demean, frighten, or control someone, it's considered verbal abuse. ... Verbal and emotional abuse takes a toll. It can sometimes escalate into physical abuse, too. If you're being verbally abused, know that it's not your fault.Jun 28, 2018"

In today's world where youtube comment sections are full of hate ,bullying and unnecessary abuse.Ppl here on this channel r just sooooooo supportive and good and nice and best❤. And obviously this channel is the best tooooo❤❤

I’ve seen some of your videos on narcissism in the past, I always found them interesting, however, they’ve become actually very useful for me right now…I’ve been trying to write up all the awful things my mom does to me and her other kids but I have a very bad issue with memory loss due to lifelong exposure to traumatic treatment. She behaves like every single point in these videos.. it helps me immensely to remember things I’ve repressed when you talk about it. It makes me feel uneasy but it’s something I need to do. I need to have an account of her behavior so she can stop acting like I’m making it all up when she asks for examples and I can’t remember any specifics. So, thank you, so, so much.

My parents liked to point how others fell short in showing them manners and courtesy. What I eventually realized was that they always demanded a warmth and kindness in others that they themselves didn't really have.

Yup. I have forgiven them for a lot of the crap I got put through but I will never fully forget and I made that perfectly clear with them.

"When you’re a kid, you convince yourself that maybe the grand gesture could be enough, that even though your parents aren’t what you need them to be over and over and over again, at any moment, they might surprise you with something… wonderful. I kept waiting for that, the proof that even though my mother was a hard woman, deep down, she loved me and cared about me and wanted me to know that I made her life a little bit brighter. Even now, I find myself waiting." Bojack Horseman

I have never gotten into an argument with my mom because i just always did what i was told. Everyone was always so confused why i was so obedient, but they never asked why. I can only share this with my sister, because i am positive that she has gone thru this as well. I often set boundaries that are minor and i was never given boundaries in my home. Mom would always just barge in my room when i wasn’t home and ‘cleaning’ it. I’d get home and get yelled at for having a couple wrappers from candy in my room because i didnt want to eat it downstairs because i’d get yelled at for simply being down there

The fact that those traits fit my mom to a T is scary. My mom has always told me how much she needs me and how I’m never leaving her. Whenever I express my feelings of eventually moving out and not reaching out as often as I “should” she gets offended. She’d also tell me she’d come to my house and live with me to “teach me a lesson”. I have so much more but I don’t feel like typing it all

“Don’t turn out like your older sister she is a bad example” (this was said to my sister infront of my face) “Maybe if you were like your little sister you would be good at something” “Good for nothing” “Don’t shout at me” (I only raised my voice a little bit but they were screaming ) “You are the reason we spend so much” “Go outside it’s not that hard” (while knowing I struggle talking people and I’m scared of being stared at)

One major point that is often overlooked is that sleep itself can, and often does, be used as an escape. This is akin to all the other forms of escapism listed as addictions in the video. This can overlap with depression but oftentimes outlasts the depression, leading to misdiagnosis. As someone with two NPD folks, depression and anxiety diagnosis, and knowing that addiction runs rampant in my family, I oftentimes see myself sleep more to escape than having to do with depressive symptoms. Also note that escapism of all types is a very typical reaction to high anxiety. For me, it feels like my body just wants to shutdown/not be awake to deal with this onslaught of anxiety.

My father is a narcissist. I've experienced almost all of these signs that you've mentioned in this video and it greatly affects me emotionally until now. Just a tiny mistake or a suggestion/alternative that he doesn't like, he would overreact, raise his voice to me and force me to cry when I sincerely apologize so that he could “accept” it. I also feel that I'm the "outsider sibling" despite being the eldest, and he treated my sisters very well. This is why me and him are never close until now. He never cares about my success, not even saying congratulations to me after showing him my achievements or what I have become. I have had anxiety for over a decade. I cut him loose by not spending a lot of time with him. I only talk less when eating lunch or dinner or saying goodbye and hello when leaving and arriving in our home respectively. I accept who he is. He’s overprotective regardless of my age. If only the COVID-19 pandemic didn’t exist, I would have moved out already and never seen myself living with my father in the same household again.

it is almost unbelievable how you described my mother, by far her most narcissist trait is to give sharp and very emotional comebacks to any form of criticism, everything in this house has do be done her way or no other way, she hit me countless times and choked me even, every now and then she tell stories of when i was a kid of stuff i do not remember doing, i feel as i can not talk to her about my problems, the first time i had my heart broke all she had to say was "it is better this way, all the girls on your school are probably trying to fake having a baby with you" and she still says that with every single relationship i have. i can not express how much i try to bend and fold myself to not make any person slightly upset and not disagree with them, just to now realize I've nothing but a doormat :')

I grew up with comments from my parents such as: You’d screw up a one car funeral; If you had half a brain you’d be dangerous. But my all time favorite was: You’ll never be able to buy a house because you don’t have a college degree. I’m happy to say my husband and I do own a home and I still don’t have a college degree. This was a great video. Thank you. Kim

So I finally showed one of your vids and after watching my father said "oh so you are making this type of things your culture and think you have bad parents?", i was shocked and little confused when he said i am making these my "culture" or whatever. I resonate with all signs and i can confirm this is what every narcissist i met would say :/

Wow that picture of the person in the hole with the parent above them keeping them there relates so much… that’s how I’ve always felt describes my life until recently.

This helped me remember a bunch of things, thank you! I need to go to some court person tomorrow so I need to make sure I know a bunch of argument to why I won’t be forced to see my father anymore

It's useful to know that narcissism is on a spectrum, just like autism. Someone can tick a couple of boxes and not necessarily be a full blown narcissist.

Hello, 16 year-old high school senior here! I currently live in what I suspect is an abusive household; my father is extremely narcissistic and verbally abusive, and my mother is a codependent who enables him, all stuff it's taken me pretty much my three years in high school to discover. I was the "golden child" of the family, since I've naturally excelled in school and held high grades (I even skipped first, so I'm graduating at 17), while my brother was the "poor and lazy one" with no bright future, according to my father. Despite this, I think we've both been crushed and forced to cope with the situation differently: my brother turned nasty and aggressive, becoming like your lazy teen rebel archetype, and shows a lot of symptoms of being depressed, while I was bullied verbally and threatened by him and my father into becoming a doormat. It's really frustrating, and it's gotten worse since my sophomore year of high school, and I'm just so... so tired. I really just want out of this house. School is better than here, and I'm hoping being away from my parents in college (much like how my brother escaped into the military) will feel so much better. Edit: Thanks for the likes everyone ~ovo~ If you have any questions or are curious about more details, feel free to leave a comment in reply and I'll try to get to 'em. I'm one of those weird people who loves talking about my sucky family and trauma, haha! Edit 2 (5/5/2023): Thank you for the kind words, everyone

I grew up with a narc mother, anytime I was having a problem and tried to talk to her about right away she would brush me off, laugh it off or cut me off, was continous. All she cared about is how she looks to other people, I came last.

Thank you Pysch2Go - you have really helped me. My mum is a complete narcissist. She picks me as a favourite because I got a scholarship to a private school and my older sister didn't, but when I don't do what she wants (e.g. practice violin or do extra homework to get ahead in school) she tells me that she is going to give up on me and stop caring. This always scares me into doing what she wants. When I achieve things, she tells me it is because she pushed me to put in more effort into my work and takes the achievement as her own. She hates my dad and blames him on everything, and when my older sister says good morning to my mother, she is ignored. Whenever my sister or dad comes up in a conversation between me and my mother, she always makes some remark that is mean to them. I thought only my mum was like this, so thank you Pysch2Go, you are amazing.

I'm so glad you guys brought up this issue. My brothers and I discovered our parents are NPD about five years ago, and our lives changed ever since. We reborned on our 20s and 30s. We have been seeing therapists so we can handle ourselves properly. We're a lot better now thanks to that.

My mother is like the most narcissistic person I know. She’s constantly looking at herself in the mirror, boasting how amazing her life is, and constantly belittling me.

Hi @Psych2Go , can you please create a video about how to deal with narcissistic parents? I believe those who experienced being controlled by narcissists (including me) will definitely want to hear out how to overcome this issue

I think my parents were not extremely narcissistic. Though they did cause emotional abuse and neglect during my childhood. But today I think I've grown out of the issues mentioned in the video. I have moved out and live my life as I want so I think my coping mechanisms have helped me develop that self-confidence and worthiness. I did have low self-esteem and was a pushover. The latter is something I struggle with sometimes but then I speak up at times when it's necessary to know my preferences or move away from those people who don't care about other's boundaries.

I firmly believe that my mom is a narcissist. More recently, it's been the codependent habits that she's trying to get me to do. Recently, I wanted to go back to school (been homeschooled for four years, though my mom hasn't really done shit for any homeschool) and she said no. She started saying all these excuses like she doesn't trust me on the bus and we're moving in around 10 months (she's been saying that for the past 2-3 years, and I find it ironic that she said 10 months, considering that's almost exactly how long a school year is. She's gaslit me before and whenever I mention moving out, she's all like "Don't leave me, I'll be all alone!" I swear, the moment I turn 18 I'm gone. The rest of the video applies to me and my mom's relationship as well, but it's currently 4am and I can't think of any examples rn.

My parents argued this morning. My mother was crying out loud about how she works hard and how her husband doesn’t appreciate it, he just invalidated her feelings and said “you have no idea what you’re talking about”. I felt really bad for her.

This has made me think more that my father is a narcissist and before I thought maybe he could but now I know I need to get away from that relationship as quickly as possible

Thank you for this video! It is incredible how much you guys help me with healing and spiritual growth with your videos. Thank you so much!

I have one parent like that. My mother picked my sister as the favorite child. My sister didn't do anything to stop me from being harrassed, but she can't. Also, I can take whatever my mom throws at me, because you can't feel bad for disobeying someone you hate. Luckily, my dad won custody of us, and he's the best dad I could've asked for.

Absolutely every one of these are correct. My mom didn't even realize I was at a point of being hospitalized for my safety :)

This is so relatable thank you!

These 10 signs of narcissistic parenting perfectly match my life. I never realized that these behaviors were signs of narcissism. Watching this video has brought so much clarity to my experiences. Thank you for shedding light on this.

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Some ppl should diagnose themselves before having kids if they're mentally stable to have kids

this is so spot on that i wanna cry