This is the third part in my three-part series on why successful men use escorts. Just like in the commercial marketplace, you typically get what you pay for in the sexual marketplace, as well. In this episode, I respond to the most common objections to the use of escorts, in particular, and to transactional relationships, in general. This should help women better position themselves to effectively target successful men for relationships, if they so choose. Pre-order my book: amzn.to/3UlsTsY Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jdiIdd2Cl66odYU.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzfaq.info/love/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #dating #relationship

The only difference I can see between women in the modern dating pool and escorts, is that escorts continue to be happy when they are paid.

Imagine if women treated their husbands like they treat their boss from work.

My parents are both long gone now, but they used to say that the secret to their successful marriage was that they agreed in the beginning to always treat each other as well as they would treat a stranger.

An old colleague of mine once said: "You always have to pay for women. It is just the question, whether you pay for an hour or for a lifetime."

If I order takeout instead of cooking every now and then, that doesn’t mean that I can’t cook or that I don’t enjoy a home-cooked meal. It might just mean that I appreciate the convenience of having my food delivered as opposed to buying groceries cooking it and cleaning up after. (This is an analogy.)

I agree with you that a relationship is a privilege. Escorts are not just for sexual encounters. An older rich widower might not ever want to remarry but is missing going out to dinner, to events etc. vacations with a partner. Money can’t buy love, it buys attention and time.

Most of the women that have been in my life, including both my ex wives, masked their feelings towards me to get what they wanted. Only when the relationships come to an end do you see who your partner really is.

You don’t necessarily get what you pay for, but you sure as hell pay for what you get-------

Money is not meant to control people, rather it is meant to be put to work producing more money for you. You cannot build wealth without putting money in its rightful place

Pro tip: this same concept works with small local restaurants too. You can know which restaurants are good by knowing how long they’ve survived. They won’t survive if the food is bad

Fresh Salt into Normies wound... Splendid! Get them Orion.. straight into the stratosphere of truth!

Shit man, the part about the stranger in the supermarket being treated better than the husband is so right

Cost and benefit is a REAL thing. Husbands often voice how their sex lives are often neglected and get more expensive as a product of time. They find themselves having to do more and more for women who start to desire them less and less. Lack of sexual tension and familiarity often breeds resentment. And remember, "wives don't owe their husband's sex", under these circumstances, why do people expect successful men to be so enthusiastic about marriage? Marriage is a living man's funeral.

I’m doctor Orion Taraban and this is Psychacks better living with psychology.

I discovered this channel when my long term relationship with the mother of my kid was in a temporary crisis, which was mostly due to mental instability on my side. It helped me rebuild the relationship into something better and more stable than it ever was. Because it reminds me with every episode what an outstandingly good woman she really is, checking none of the boxes that make many women so hard to be happy with.

Romantic relationships such as marriage need to be recognized and treated as transactional to be successful. For example, the husband role may require being the primary financial provider, protector, leader, heavy-lifter, handyman, s3xually masculine, being father of children in the relationship in exchange of wife-provided services such as feminine s3xuality, cooking, cleaning, house-managing, birthing of babies, nurturing, and so on.

This guy is the truth. I wish I was aware of true female nature at a younger stage of my life.

The final nail in the coffin was when she told " She only slept with me because she felt pity of me ". She had checked a long time ago and entertained the relationship out of pity and loathed at me whole time

Nailed it! BigLaw Corporate Law Partner here ... The providers I used to see prior to retiring from the hobby (because I was fortunate enough to find a high-value woman with whom I formed a genuine relationship) were very charming and engaging. If I couldn't have great conversations with them, and if they were not age-appropriate, I wasn't interested. Having clearly defined boundaries is wonderful. Yes, they are compensated (a few $1k or higher at the highest end), but after that is discussed and settled, money doesn't come up again. These ladies are highly intelligent and engaging - very expensive therapists. At the tail end of a loveless marriage, it was very nice to have an intelligent and engaging woman take genuine interest in me - as a client, yes, but that was fine. There's much more to say on this topic - but I will leave this comment brief.

I’m a woman who made it this far! No judging here. Really interesting stuff!

"A relationship is a privilege and must be maintained." :-) truth wisdom. Thank you, Dr. Taraban

“Being oneself” equates being jerk only if one is a jerk. As an intelligent, moral, respectful, sensitive, self-aware, and virtuous individual, I’m quite happy to be myself with my partner, and they’re happy with it too.

As always, truth, even when uncomfortable, prevails. Thank you for your courage to bring these topics into spotlight!

You are doing your job with authenticity and telling the truth at the same time in a decent way.

The fact that an escort does not love/like you can be a good thing. Many men actually care a lot/too much about not hurting a woman's feeling, so when they know they only want sex , going to an escort knowing that the escort will not fall in love with them and would not feel heartbroken afterwards is a much better option to them, than e.g., approaching a girl on the street and trying to attract her.

That is one of the main reasons why I have dogs so I am greeted with love when I walk in the door

Some spouses treat someone they just met at the supermarket with more respect, SO TRUE!!! I have seen this so many times in so many relationships.

Man at bar talking to woman he thinks is an escort: I can't afford you. Woman at bar: I'm not an escort. Man at bar: Well, then I REALLY can't afford you. I am a regular at several bars primarily because the women bartenders there remember my name and make me feel welcomed. I totally understand it's in a business context but for the price of a nice meal and a few drinks I get to experience someone giving a shit about me. If that sounds pathetic then note that all my recent first dates found me paying for TWO meals and drinks, going home alone and never hearing from them again.

All men pay. Beta male husbands pay the most. Chad and Tyrone pay virtually nothing other than wasting their time. The average punter or "John" pays by the hour or until completion. Regardless of how each of these guys pay, they are all paying one way or another. You have to pay to play. This is how the game works. There is a cost to doing business.

lol when he said jujitsu instructor, immediately thought of giselle

Having listened to all 3 parts it intrigues me that so many man have NO idea how to choose a wife! I’ve been married almost 34 years to my first and only wife. If you cannot tell when a woman really wants to be with you, you NEED a good successfully married father or good successfully married male friend who actually cares about you to mentor you but not “hand carry” you. There was no doubt in my mind that my then fiancé really wanted to be with me. She still kisses me when one of us comes home at the end of the work day! We still have “challenges” but marriage takes work. We are not soulmates but we have enough in common to enjoy being with one another yet have enough differences that we enjoy the breaks to pursue hobbies or work. Perhaps you should do some videos of successful marriages and show common traits? Show men how to spot a potential good wife. That beats the heck out of dressing up prostitutes with fancy terms like “escorts.”

I really like the therapist analogy. For example, one can use their friends or partner for therapy, but the chances of success with professional (i.e. transactional) therapist are still higher :)

There is an old saying; the more you pay for it, the less willing you are to doubt it’s authenticity…

You don't get what you pay for during hyperinflation. That's why the gold standard has always been being a man that can provide & protect and a woman who is a virgin and is trained to take care of a household and be a wife. That combination never sees a divorce or break-up.

Hearing the conclusion would benefit many actual businesses too, who blame their customers for not buying their products. Disney comes to mind, for example.

Exactly ... a great study. My dad tried to explain this to me as a teenager ... say about 1967. The world had not yet turned to liquid excrement. I wouldn't have characterized myself as a "high value male" at age 20, because I wasn't 6' tall and did not play varsity sports. But, I did have some good mentors, and I guess I grew into what is now considered to be a high value man. I never thought much about it though. I was too busy working my a$$ off at work, coming home to make sure we all got fed supper, that the kids had a parent there to see that homework was done, that they had lunch for school the next day, that the kids had clean clothes for school the next day. I didn't think at all about it until, as a 70-year old my youngest daughter, now 22, said to me: "Dad, I found your high school picture on line. You were HOT. You could have done much better than my mother! I'm glad you didn't because I wouldn't be here, but DAMN, you could have done better." Oh ... 💩. Young men, listen to an old man (75 this year) who has had three wives and reared three children who all turned out well, three kids, two grandkids, and now a great granddaughter who is pretty as a picture and smart for her age. I hope to have more grandchildren and great grandchildren before I pass. Please listen to Dr. Taraban. He speaks the truth. The cost of sex married to a wife who doesn't care about you easily reaches $50K a sexual encounter, maybe closer to $100K in today's money. That's the cheap part. The constant psychological abuse from a woman who is sure she could have done better will destroy your soul and imperil the mental health of your children. Wait for a good woman. Vet her as if it mattered. Talk to her teachers, her friends, her siblings, her pastor or rabbi. If you're a mature man seriously dating a younger woman, get a prenup that protects you both, and protects the children.

How incredibly sad it is, that modern marriage has become a situation where compared to the services of an escort, it has a higher potential level of connection than with an escort, however it also runs an obscenely higher probability of risk, and far greater consequences of damage for the man, when it goes wrong. We have reached a tipping point where now half of all marriages fail, and more than 70% of the time, it is the women who end it. Also, the greater your starting point of wealth, status and achievement going into the marriage as a man, the more you will lose. I suspect that no fault divorce has made marriage not just worthless as a life long commitment. It is now demonstrably a health, wealth and sanity killer for men under most western legal systems. Which is why the rate of marriage is actually dropping, certainly in Australia, and I suspect in other parts of the western world too. . The people who also suffer enormously from this situation are the children of these marriages. They not only come off the rails far more often, early in life - they often become damaged adults.

Since you are talking about what you know so little about let me help you. i've used escorts hundreds of times since the 1970's until a few years ago when my libido, not my money ran out. The 70's-80's was the golden age of escorts, mainly college kids trying to make a buck. For a little extra you got a marvelous experience. They were real 'girl-next-door' types from the days where you hankered after but never got the girl next door. The internet and porn videos in the mid 90's killed it. Tattooed, breast implanted, barbie types, often on drugs, with no personality offering the 'girl-friend' experience' which was anything but, took over.

Oh good, you're the one reading your new book. so much better to hear your voice than a robot.

"Market Research" - love it. Many thanks, Actually clears up some every day encounters with the lady of my choice.

Preserve your anonymity. Be VERY CAREFUL who you trust. Scammers are everywhere. The older you get the more you will realize I am telling you the truth.

Another fire 🔥 video. I moved to Brazil 🇧🇷 a year ago and it’s the best decision I ever made. Dating and relationships is 1 million times better here. Having Transparency is 🔑!

Gentlemen, STIs are forever. Enter at your own risk 🤣😈🤣

I've learned the names of the staff at a couple of favorite restaurants I go to. Yeah, I'm paying, and I tip well. Yet I do believe the interactions are genuine.

In the days of yore, a non professional offered you purity. Without that, their main advantage is gone. They are simply more expensive versions of pros.

The more I listen to your channel, the more I think I need to purchase your book. Your knowledge is vast and equally as valuable. Thank You for all that you do.

I find it is easier to be pleasant to pretty young women and treat them the way the older women think they should be treated....i mostly appreciate good manners at this point.

My ex-wife, when she asked for a divorce, told me that familiarity breeds contempt. Good to know although I've never experienced that emotion myself. I'm starting to understand why escorts exist.

It's close! The book is almost here. 👍👏

I just purchased the audible version of "The value of others" Looking forward to it!!!

Thank you so much for this series. I think this is the first time someone explains so clearly many things that I've felt and done, all without having had the opportunity to express with no judgement.

The doctor should visit at least a dozen cat joints before doing this series. I did. These women are mostly in a bad place mentally, they are train wrecks with so many problems and baggage, it's difficult to fathom. Dealing with these women is truly a very different experience from dating civilian girls, even those more frivolous. No man will find true happiness, love or peace in a bed shared by thousands of other men.

Another amazing video as always Orion 👏 Loved this series.

Brilliant. Orion is at his best in situations where his behavioral economics approach fits. This is a nice example.

Dr Orion Taraban and Kevin Samuels could have made a bomb collaborative podcast. He breaks down concepts so so well and easy to understand.

Thanks Doc! Don't listen to the prudes and keep up the good work.

I have found these points to be true in my own life. I wouldn’t have believed it early on but way later in the road, with far less years left in front of me than behind me, I have found what he is saying is to be true from what I have seen and experienced.

1000% correct Dr! Thank you

This series certainly has given me a lot to think about, but I don't think I'll be rushing out to hire an escort anytime soon. From a purely financial standpoint it makes sense for certain men within a certain economic bracket, but there is more to life than collecting money or trying to maximize intimate encounters. Maybe I'm young and naive, but I'll take my chances at building something lasting with a woman who shares my values.

You are so intelligent and such a great communicator, Orion. All of you work is absolutely amazing. I'm so glad I found your channel. Preordered your book. Can't wait to read it. Keep up the incredibly high level and original work you are doing 🙏

Top top episode to cap off the 3-part series

I followed that argument and completely understood it. And it may make sense for many men. I contrast that, though, with falling in love with my future wife at 17 and the very fulling relationship we had for many years, including our three children. We eventually divorced, but I'm grateful for the love (and great sex) we shared. For those in m ore transactional relationships, I hope they're finding emotional warmth as well.

A lot of guys who lack the courage to ask a lady out and actually be respectful and court her properly are going to take these videos as a sign to keep on using escorts instead of actually developing a personality, they are obviously going to ignore the part where this video uses extremely successful men who are probably too busy to watch these videos, as a case study.

Insightful, entertaining and very brave to put out this 3 part series. Better Living Through Psychology...abso-fucking-lutely!

I love this series so much, thanks and much love.

The issue with marriage is many women choose a man that is good enough for the role but they are not her first choice. The more a man works hard in the marriage the more prevalent this happiness. I see a lot of men bowing dowm to their wifes constantly.

My man has been trying for three episodes to show women why they need to cut the crap and behave. I hope his efforts are rewarded.

Incredible video. Thank you for the insight and balanced perspective on the matter.

Wiyu🙌🏾 I'm watching this 3 minutes after posting 🎉

As someone who is just getting a bit more successful (and is happily married btw), this series of video made complete and total mathematical and logical sense. The part that you are losing is just in constructing legacy; that is the value of a good woman. The rest (dating etc) definitely not worth the cost for people who are worth anywhere close to 200-300 dollars an hour, let alone thousands.

Always expect any woman you have a relationship with to have a backup plan. I'm not advocating for infidelity of course, but having escorts as a single man has kept me sane. A lot of them are very nice women and treat me with respect. Some aren't, but that's just life.

I highly appreciate how you bring facts as you see them, thank you.

Excelent episode. Thanks Orion.

You are an incredibly refreshing voice of reason.

Thanks doc. Pure gold.

Even if you have a “normal” relationship where your significant other genuinely loves you, there is no guarantee that her unresolved psychology won’t turn it into a nightmare.

The 🐐 Dr. Taraban back again!! With thought provoking, extremely well layered/presented, emotionally & logically aware content! Thank you for all that you do. You’re my main source for this sort of stuff! God Bless

This video actually made me laugh. Orion going through the typical response of "An escort doesn't love you. She doesn't even like you. She loathes the sight of you. She's just sticking around because of the money." Yeah. And other than the fact that the man who picks the escort is getting frequent sex, this is different from a marriage how?

Brilliant, Doc! Just, Brilliant!!!

Looking forward to your book release! Digital book purchase already on deck

Orion, your book is finally out today, I'm so excited to finally be able to read it!

This is especially relevant today as "relationships" have become more and more transactional. Women, thanks in no small part to social media, I believe, have reduced dating to a game where they see how much free sh*t they can get from a guy who thinks they like them before they cut the cord.

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

Hey Orion, I showed your previous video to two female friends from Denmark, their main objection was, our time also cost. And even it made sense what you logically explained, they didn’t take it well from the emotional side. They said they disagreed due to being very “American man perspective based”. Not a critic but a feedback. Keep the great work

one of your best episodes so far.

Water finds its own level. BTW, the introduction was awesome. Thank you for not succumbing to the shaming language.

Sometimes you can find great bargains though. Small towns are great, foreign countries, religious, or home schooled girls that aren't destroyed by modern culture. Trying to find a good girl in a modern society when she is knee deep in offers from billionaire underwear models from instagram and tinder is like pissing directly into hurricane-force winds.

This series is hilarious. I'm downloading episodes for future use for my sons, in case channel goes down.

This man is explaining the way marriage minded, successful men think in a reasonable and well balanced way. This series was well done with the third being the best.

In light of this “market research”, I guess the question really becomes “why would any successful man NOT use escorts?“

This only makes sense in the context of $ per sexual encounter, which is a very reductionist way to view "relationships." I understand the rationale but I would highly discourage people from the shallow pursuit of sexual gratification. As someone with a regrettably high body count, I can say that every sexual encounter outside of marriage damages you psychologically and spiritually.

Thank you, Dr. Taraban ~ simpatico. 😊

Correct Doctor. Well covered.

The Thailand long term "rent a girlfriend" often results in genuine caring relationships (I have heard). I don't consider these "freelancers" , escorts . Most are seeking a long term relationship.

I still remember going tp a Taco Bell drive thru 5 years ago and the person on the other side said, 'Hello..how are you today?' And I got a mint with my food. Small gestures that literally cost them a few pennies all in that people remember so yes..being paid gives you an incentive to be friendly and pleasant when dealing with the public.

I just got your book. I’m so excited to read it. I hope you know how much women also love your content.

Genius and the points are 1000% TRUE

I'm sold. I'm using pros from now on

Proverbs 5 My son, pay attention to my wisdom, Incline your ear to my understanding, So that you may maintain discretion And your lips may comply with knowledge. For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, And her speech is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword.