@taylorperreti2034 call the police on her

This is an excellent video, thank you 👍 Just one thing, you really need a pop filter for your microphone...

It's impossible for a woman to love a man that she disrespects? But it's possible for a man to love a woman that he disrespects? That sounds narcissistically hypocritical. A man's love without his respect is like serving a woman's favorite dish to her inside of a public toilet bowl. I make sure to tell young women to never do for [or take from] a man anything that is beneath his dignity to do for [or take from] her. As a matter of fact, maybe she's the one who needs to make sure that he treats her with the same respect that he would treat his boss with. Otherwise his "love" is as good as toilet paper on the bottom of her shoe [if that].

It's immeasurable your positive contribution to the lives of many, now and in the future, Thanks,

Could you clarify what you mean when you say it is possible for a man to love a woman he doesn't respect?

💯

Thanks for your honesty. I've seen so many women like this. Their outward facades are wonderful and dynamic, but when their dark emotions are triggered... THAT'S IT.... Permanently. They don't bounce back.

I hate you guys and thank the gods I've never had personal experience with you, but you could keep a room entertained for hours with all the horror stories.

@@itzajdmting Best way to discover the truth is to ask her to do something for you. If she gets upset, RUN. Also, dont be afraid to say no or disagree with her. If she gets puset, RUN. You dont want an unco-operative, disagreeable Woman.

Food for though for you Mr. Counselor and Dr. Taraban. Is it then the case that we sabotage these virtues of self-respect, dignity, and truth by rationality and not critical thinking? We often use the word rationality in conjunction with logic however I think we mistook it for critical thinking. I view it the same way people rationalize narratives or stories in their heads that sabotages themselves or ruin relationships. Dr. Taraban in your “why men are jealous” video you mention rationality a little bit too. I'm curious about what your thoughts are. Thank you.

Women don't love men. Full stop.

as true as that can be, the fact that a man can love a woman he does not respect could be signs of an issue as well.

@@hugsandcurses no, you're just projecting your thoughts. Most of all time men was career or money more advanced than women. You need respect with someone better than you. On the other side it is fine until you don't disrespect them.

That's why the Bible commands women to respect their husbands...

@@Axrover and men are commanded to honor their wives

I followed your suit as well a couple of weeks ago.

GOOD MOVE! We gotta hold the LINE on these bees

She still wins in a divorce, gotta go further if possible

@@radiantveggies9348 she got the money, but he got peace and self respect

@@radiantveggies9348 there is such a thing as cutting your losses. Not the best situation I agree but none of us can see into the future beforehand

you cant just leave someone is this economy!!!!! it cost someone whole paycheck to live in a 1 bedroom apartment!! thats the problem nothing els!!! inflation is forcing people to stay in toxic relationships!!!

You should probably find out why because the next woman will do the same…

@@user-gu6vf3je1d That depends. No self respecting person would be consistently subjected to disrespect because it's unlikely that they would attract those willing to disrespect them, simply because they have respect for themselves.

💯 seconded and agreed from experience.

It won’t get any better, and if you don’t leave, it’s likely she will. And she’ll do it in the most disrespectful, abusive, and painful way possible.

You could have said take care of things when said to and if powerbank got blasted you'll become a racoon with dandelion hairstyle.

Valuable lesson learned early.

Good Call

It seems you are a very orderly person, and you were dating someone who isn't. You should have never lent her that power bank. You set that chick up for failure, and it seems you took took an arbitrary pet peeve of yours and made it into a larger indictment of her character.

​@@billyin4c514With seriously lack of evidence and highly speculative inductive reasoning I'm going to assume you have been rejected in a similar way in the past. And that's totally fine. Incompatibility between two people isn't a major crime nor a verdict of either one's character. But calling OP's assessment arbitrary or petty (pet peeves, not sure if petty logically follows), disregards their honest assessment based on communicating their values and boundaries clearly to the other person. OP is perfectly within their reason to extrapolate the incident to other more significant situations like "is she going to disregard and treat our future children like this, who are powerless in not being disregarded and violated in their preferences?" It's not arbitrary, but subjective. And in a trusty solid relationship subjectivity should be respected and treated with care.

This is why checking your beotch is so important...

Yes 1 of stereo channels is missing. I found it quite irritating.

I thought my headphones were broken lol

Chick!?!?!

@@gretchenthreet6750 if she’s disrespectful she’s not a lady but a chick. If she’s respectful she’s a lady.

But women should be more respectful towards the man than vice versa, because women's attraction to him is directly tied to her respect for him. For a man on the other hand, he does not need to respect her necessarily to the same degree, but he does need to cherish and love her.

i have to tell you this brother, she NEVER respected you. she didn't like you from the get go. i know that may be hard to hear but i think its the truth. woman will form relationships with men they hate for personal gain. a woman who likes you will NEVER disrespect you and won't let anyone else disrespect her man around her. she was never on your side and always hated you. she wanted what you had, not YOU. as a wife she could just take what you worked for and leave you once she was sure that she could take it all. she did not lose respect for you brother, she never had respect for you to begin with. the truth hurts sometimes but it must be faced.

​@@sirjay6655people are not static. She may have had feelings for him before but might have died somewhere along the way.

@@sirjay6655You are projecting here.

@@KnightyKnight I think actually it's more of a generality of how it goes that this "Projecting guy" is speaking on. Remember the key words was the OP said he "didn't realise that she had lost respect". In order to realise someone has gained respect for you, it should work vice versa. Truth is the guy is not far off. He probably thought there was respect but wasn't one to realise that there weren't but he learned how to realise what are the factors and ways respect is shown and maintained through the rocky and bumpy ride of the relationship. Problem is, again, he said he will probably most likely end up in that pathway in the future, implying he may not change his approach but I somewhat doubt he won't, he may not notice it at first but if he repeats it all again he will ecit the relationship sooner and value himself more. Nobody deserves disrespect outrightly.

@@simbz194 A stranger on the internet has no idea another stranger was "never" respected by someone. It's impossible to know. It's jumping to a conclusion off a tiny sample of evidence.

Just like Will Smith’s wife and kids disrespect him

So true

@@telebiopic Great example.

Honestly, if she is disrespecting you and you have kids together. She's probably only around for the kids at that point. It makes sense that the disrespect/indifference would pick up sadly.

So true.. that must be hell

My wife did that to me during her sisters birthday, at the dinner table; one of her female cousins said something along the line that I'm a good husband to which my dear wife replied how my salary is poor. Her cousins reaction was "the fuck does that has to do with anything?" I was hurt and mad as hell. When I later confronted her about that, guess what, I didn't get an apology for public humiliation. If it weren't for our two beautiful sons...

If there’s one thing I learned about women over the years, it’s that you will never be good enough for them and they won’t be afraid to say it. This is why I’ll never get married. Who needs that in their life?

@@Concreto1984 Divorce her a*s or make it solidly clear she was disrespectful and ungrateful !!!

Divorce her a*s or make it solidly clear she was disrespectful and ungrateful !!!

What did you practicing medicine in your 30's have anything to do with the point of that story?

Few and far between my friend Don't be Ignorant You definitely got lucky as hell. But It's good to know someone From the other side lol

@@bradrogers4281 lol, how is anything I just said ignorant?

​@@MarkKaranjaM4Kwell, the fact is, the majority of men in America have no relationship, bad relationship, child alienation, payments and extortion from a woman, a single mother for their own mother, court cases and cold shoulders.... The large majority sir are going through or have gone through enough women that we don't want one. You are a very very very small minority.

​@@bradrogers4281many people live on planet ME and don't see other people's struggle. I'd say: Give someone a ride, go to a shelter, ask a veteran or a divorced man what struggle is really like... You know? Women have their struggles too but NOTHING like men's.

@@Caesar-nq5if sounds like a lot of Men don’t learn their lessons. My partner is respectful, submissive and caring. She is an amazing woman and in turn, she gets my protection, resources and love and attention. It depends on their programming and nurture environment. Then it depends if they’re willing to learn themselves too and what our species is really all about

That’s right

You warned her. Wow. I think you were born in the wrong century buddy.

@@AllisonBlunt-hl5my You are right, they don't make men like him anymore

Eye rolling even once was enough redflags. That should have been a deal breaker right away

power to you man, should have done the same took me waaaay too long to follow through on my self-respect. On a sidenote for everybody reading that: you can't fix a person. Everyone can only fix theirselves. Fortunately: everybody is capable of doing so.

True

Is this you taking responsibility for the problem?

@@dirkslifeadvice5339 no one else is gonna " take" the responsibility for me. Gotta own your own screw- ups.

I think I disagree with your use of "peacekeeper." Being a peacekeeper does not mean being a pushover. You can work to de-escalate conflict while still holding your boundaries. I would absolutely say my husband is a peacekeeper, and that's one of the reasons I respect him, but he also pushes back on me when I am in a bad mood and saying things out of hand, and is willing for me to pushback on him when the reverse is true. Our arguments have gone substantially down over the course of our marriage as we learn to trust and respect each other more and our communication improves as we both aim for peace.

THISSS!! Be a man and address the bs in the first place… you are valuable my guys!

Women do these same kind of passive aggressive behavior to other women. They want to dish it out but can't take any criticism or rebuttal. I'm more direct but in a respectful way so I can tell you I do not have many female friends. I don't have time to play those stupid games.

@@lillyCfields oh absolutely Lily. They often do this frequently to other female friends and acquaintances. Underhanded comments, passive aggressive excuses, etc. I use to have a few female friends but eventually lost all of them because I'd call them out on their BS/hypocrisy etc. and needless to say they quit speaking. Ive had more peace since then. They mainly just use you as an emotional dumping ground to vent to. And lord help you if something good happens in your life. A lot of fake " congrats" and secret sneers of envy. Overall, just lousy one sided " friends "

this is so on point @mo dickens

Yes the best option is to say good bye, there are loots of fishes in the sea to put up with that.... better to sepend that time developing new relations.

@@adirice4636 thanks !

Same. I so needed to come across this page. I have been delusional. And growing up in a household where no respect was shown from either party has messed me up. I've disrespected a lot of men and didn't even realized it. Then wondered why my relationships have failed. I really like this men now we have been on and off for about 5 months because of my disrespect. I always apologize for my behavior and he always takes me back. The sex is sooo good. But it wasn't until I came across this channel it finally clicked in my mind exactly what I was doing without realizing it. Questioning him about things I shouldn't, going through his phone, verbally saying nasty things when i feel insecured, etc. I have been changing my attitude and picking my battles and making it known I here to help. Things are starting to go a lot smoother. I don't want to lose him.

@@uniFlor-ve9ht That’s fantastic. I’ve been the victim of disrespect in relationships. Growth and awareness are good.

Share the knowledge to the other women then, because that what men are enduring from your gender is outrageous.

@@uniFlor-ve9ht Kudos to you!

God bless women like you 🙏

You are one of few real man out of all these guys in the comment section who neutered themselves in order to get married only to be divorced later anyway.

​@@Landstalker1999I'm sure he has his own problems or he wouldn't be here.

​@@isupportthecurrentthing.1514absolutely the reality is the only way to hold a firm line is to never get married through the State government and not have kids. In this frame it's easier to move a disrespectful woman out of your life and many know this. Once your invested with children and marriage the disrespect is almost unavoidable.

@Jose There's always something you can do. Just have to accept the consequences. Mutually assured destruction works. If people know you don't give up, they will treat you better.

@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh (you're) 💀💀 * fixed *

What was the police trying to say?

@@petergriffin513 In short: Don't let them take your prison purse. 💀

Thanks for sharing that story. The police gave good advice we can all use do to day.

@@GearZNet prison pouch XD

Imagine if they behaved like decent people and said, “We know you’re innocent, and we’re going to do something evil and retarded like putting you in jail for the night.”

Also another big excuse I have gotten is "I was just kidding" to which I will reply, I wasn't laughing, I did hear anyone else laughing... YOU didn't laugh... also I have ignored it and then they tend to repeat it, in which case I will ask how many time does a comedian repeat the punchline?

Save yourself. Life is too short.

Let her Azz go. There are a minority of women who will choose not to disrespect you, deal with them.

@@simoncameron4355 Once, after only six months of marriage, my wife figured out how to access my bank account ( she has a good-paying job ), she attempted to wipe my account out, but the bank stepped in to prevent that. Later she said: ‘it was just a joke’. Now I can see she’s basically sadistic, with a bit of psychosis mixed in. Funny, cute and outgoing part of the time, then switching to this opposite version that makes the cruelest, sick and perverse comments…never showing any remorse, and definitely no apologies.

@@jimstenlund6017 Thank u for sharing

It's so common it's regarded as normal and is even the subject of comedy shows. But the guy who puts his foot down in response gets called controlling or abusive. The worst type of women will refuse to ever back down and continue to escalate to the point of violence which they initiate themselves. This way the guy automatically looses every time, because women are rarely held accountable for any type of violence, be it physical or emotional, the man is the default perpetrator even if he just pushes her away to avoid her blows.The only way out is to leave, but then they have you over in the divorce too. Fuck getting married ever again. This is why personal accountability is key to a mature relationship. Blaming others for problems clearly caused by their own actions is a massive red flag, expect that person to be blaming YOU for problems in future too.

@@enemyofthestatewearein7945 Agreed. What a sad way to live one's life.

In my last relationship, most of the times that she did something which i openly and communicatively took issue with she would push it aside with "youre overreacting, insecure, controlling etc." After a certain point I decided to just take it on the chin then do the exact same thing she did a few hours or a day later, sometimes word for word. Every single time she started crying bloody murder about me mistreating her and demanding an apology, and only some of the times was she able to accept that I was just treating her how she treated me. Even with that acceptance and a half hearted, forced apology she would still demand that i apologise even though i did nothing other than point out her own hypocrisy.

@@callanc3925 Too much logic hurts people who behave that way. If they're not careful, they'll have to understand that they need to work on themselves like the rest of us 😆

Not only that, but it's celebrated in popular culture. Look at how many adverts there are where the man is put down on by the wife in a jokey manner, or shown to be incompetent in some way. Contemporary dramas written from a female perspective are no better.

This is because for women, respect = love. At least, the love they're capable of showing someone that's not their child or pet.

Yeah because males can’t love anyway so I guess settle for respect maybe🚶🏾‍♀️

@@tabbypanda82 🤥

@@tabbypanda82 So I'm guessing you can't respect a man, and are not in a relationship?

@@isovideo7497 & you’ll keep guessing🚶🏾‍♀️…cause I owe you NOTHING go chew sheet metal Sir

Yes 🙌 Good for you!

Never let a women just beat around the bush when it comes to inviting them or them inviting you

this sounds like a sh*t test, and you passed with flying colors.

If you are not sure if they love you, then they definitely don't.

It could have been she was not that interested or it could have been she was truly busy. If she was busy she would apologise I think.

Had the same issue and it made no sense. She would tell me that I was the best thing that ever happened to her yet got indignant when she didn't get her way. I made it clear that I won't tolerate disrespect for ALL the love in the world. She'd make excuses and do it again, over and over until I finally said that I was done and broke it off. She tried to fix it for weeks but I stood my ground. Why didn't she learn after the first time???????? It was a freaking roller-coaster ride! I had to shatter her ego with some harsh truths to get her to finally give up and move on.

@@JohnDoesItAll nice self reply ✔️

…and it’ll always be a tiny fraction.🌿

I found it very helpful.... they dont teach this stuff in schools. Not all kids have the upbringing that teaches these things... this presentation was perfectly reasonable and i feel blessed to have stumbled across it 😊

Hell yeah. That can be measured in by parts per million.

Don't reward them for following God's order and their duty.

@@thomasmulhall4873 it's god's order and my womanly duty to watch some random dude's youtube video? Lol ok. Like I agree with most of the content of the video, but you sound insane.

Same happened to me in middle school too. Society is cold

Your story is all too familiar. Thanks for sharing

I went through this exact same process, except it lasted 8 years. To be fair it was my first relationship so I had no idea what I was doing. Eventually I chose self-respect. But it has come at the cost of divorce rape by a bitter abusive woman.

@@gordonwatson328 trust me it does get better over time

Why do mothers use their children to leverage control and power over their husband? Feminism tells women to refuse to serve or submit to their husband. So wives become oppositional and defiant. And the responsible husband and father is now trapped.

@@gordonwatson328 Sorry you had to go through that man. I know I dodged a bullet by getting out before marriage and with no kids involved.

Men don't understand women,we try but we just don't. Women understand women, that's why they hate each other.

What I never understood is, what motivation does a man have to *continue* with a woman who even *attempts* to do this to someone she claims to want as "her man?" What assurance would that man have of a truly enjoyable relationship with her, knowing that junk is lurking beneath the surface , always looking for a proper opening? How can that man TRUST her? How can that man relax in his own house?

@@hotice8885 It makes sense for a woman to test him to see how he reacts to subtle challenges and disrespect. If he takes it from her, he'll take it from other men.

No women are not weird this is an evolutionary trait women developed over time to weed out weak men and ensure her hind brain that she always has best available option i.e the strongest man. Overt disrespect should always be checked immediately & covert ones should be punished immeidately by ridicule, withdrawaing attention, resrouces e.t.c women are counterintuitive

@@hotice8885 I can't understand it either. It's like having to live with a dragon you know you have to watch out for their next eruption to extinguish. 'she pouts for five minutes' - that's a sulking child, not a mature adult.

I’m going through this with my current girlfriend. I’ll tell you what actions Im putting forth. First of all.. never show rage, disrespect or yell as these are things that’ll destroy your frame as a man and be used against you. You simply tell them that you don’t like their attitude and behavior towards you. Be calm and respectful and mindful on how you say it. Be polite and loving when addressing your issues. I’m an understanding person and I know things aren’t gonna get fixed overnight. My girlfriend has been treating me with disrespect the last 6 weeks and I’ve been letting her know that it’s not something I’m gonna tolerate. A couple of days ago she was pissed off about other problems in her life and decided to take it out on me. If it’s bad behavior that’s been consistent for more than a couple of days then it’s time to be stern. I raised my voice and told her you’re not gonna be doing that to me. I told her I understand that life sucks and you’re going through stuff and it’s not panning out the way you want but I’m not your punching bag and I deserve respect. She later tried to flip it on me trying to say that my behavior isn’t good either. I use to get upset, yell and be a jerk but I changed and I know for a fact that I’ve been the best person/friend/lover towards her and was supportive and loving for the last couple of months after we almost broke up because my old behavior was a root cause of all her problems, now I know she’s full of it and she’s gotta work on herself. I told her that she’s delusional and that she even quoted how great I’ve been. I said you’re blinded by your emotions and pride and too stubborn to realize you have a problem. The next day we we’re supposed to go out to LA but she was depressed because it was originally supposed to be her sister but she flaked and ghosted her. She had planned this for over a month. She made a big deal about this trip and I agreed to go and she bailed cuz she was depressed and I just wanted to talk about it and salvage the situation and comfort her but she got even more angry and disrespectful. Told her that she’s wasted my time and that she made a huge deal just to not go and it was annoying. Told her I was done and that I’m gonna leave the house for a couple of days. They have to know you’re not someone who’s gonna take shit from anyone especially your girlfriend. That’s were I’m at… I’ll update and see if things get better.

@@CourierSix9 Wasting your time. Trust an old man.

@@CourierSix9 how’s everything going? You okay?

@@FicciónNeuronal it was going great for like a couple of weeks. Binged s3x for a couple of weeks straight. That’s rare and I figured things were getting better. We also weren’t arguing but things went south and we got into a huge fight like 4 days ago. Misunderstandings turned into arguments and arguments turn into fights. I got fed up and walked away and left without saying a word for 4 days until she got worried and texted me if I was okay. Later found out she thought I was cheating but she calmed her insecurities and I reassured her… told her I’m leaning on the decision if we should break up but It’s hard because I love her. She told me she felt the same way… the next day we hung out and flirted and had a good time. Now we are back to “normal “ it’s a cycle. At least each time I feel is less severe and usually we learn. Idk.. dont attach emotionally to anyone. You don’t think logically.

@@CourierSix9 If you don't have children, listen to me, man, because I didn't listen: RUN AWAY.

Women don’t love

@@carlospita6442 they only love their sons

@@carlospita6442 Most women don't truly love men, they only love the way men make them feel and the lifestyle they can bring her. Once the new relationship's "butterflies and tingles" wear off, she has emotionally checked out and is off looking around for other men while keeping the current guy around for convenience.

@@SRMoore1178 yeah you right

@@carlospita6442 of course they do, maybe YOU never felt loved, and you need to figure it out.

The real paradigm shift is once you realize that they're being tested, too, and failing your tests. You're essentially testing them to see if they can be collaborative and supportive partners by conducting themselves with honesty and respect and everything else good. If they can't, kick them to the curb and free yourself up for a woman who can.

There was never any love to lose if disrespect tests are part of the plan. It was only ever "are you robust enough to protect me". Hard pass from me too Sammy.

Oh and it gets even better. Imagine divorcing AND paying for these banshees? Never get married fellas.

This is why I find lesbian relationships can never last. The constant gaslighting, emotional/mental manipulation, the shit testing....No wonder women that claim to be lesbians (but are obviously bi) still go for men as a "break".

Amen brother, ain’t that shit the truth

Third option: train her. Takes a lot more effort but it’s almost needed in America due to the media ruining most women

AS IF the things you mentioned never happened before the '60's "sexual revolution" or feminism. Sounds more like a "you problem", guy.

@@CitizenPain69 brilliant

You had me until your dumb feminism comment.

Fourth Option: Use Passport

If women cannot respect men because real-life happens, that just means women are incapable of loving men.

Sugar and spice.

Two breakups I had from two separate women followed this pattern. Both times it was after I was feeling down and depressed about life in general. Though both times they didn't blame me outright (one even claimed to still love me) they couldn't remain loyal in the hard times. (Today men get shit for being unemotional and stoic. The thing is, if men aren't stoic, the consequences tend to be far worse.) Traditional marriage vows have that line "for better or worse, in sickness and in health." I believe they were mostly addressing women with that one.

@@jackcozad6345Precisely. What exactly is the point of a "relationship" if she won't stick around through the bad times? Better to hire an escort...

I lived this. I became depressed due to changes in my life. I was hoping to get emotional support from my ex, instead a side of her, I had only seen once before, which I addressed immediately at that time, came out of hiding, she turned into my bully. I was unable to put her in her place this time due to my depression. This made me more depressed but made me realize the type of future that awaited me if I stood there. I walked out. I am sorry for whatever guy gets trapped in her web after I left.

damn

only if you let it go there! now you see that woman for her real selfish self, you are a good enough guy to pull yourself up, dust yourself off and go on with life; find your friends , make amends, or make new ones and remember, women need us more than we need them! after all when it comes right down to it, any good whore is a natural counterbalance to a bitch, and you pay them TO LEAVE so you can get back to your friends and hobbies. Just remember YOU are the prize and can leave them at any time! There are literally thousands out there that are a better match for you than that bitch. Dont look back and wish for more abuse, respect yourself enough to see this, or get help, only dont let yourself live in the past!

I hope you're doing better now, man. You deserve to be happy!

Sorry to hear that. Don’t get stuck in the past, what’s done is done and you can’t change the past. Let go, think about the future and move positively forward. Small steps, every day.

You now have some very hard earned, important and expensive wisdom. Don’t let it go to waste.

Not always Mine thinks her father walked on water with Jesus All men have to be like her father No one will ever be good enough for her Told her that No response

SO MUCH THIS

My sister.

better yet run lol

No you won't want her back at all.

@@stevegrantland1201 No. I miss who she was but there is zero tolerance for infidelity.

You can cheat on her and it will make her respect you again. It's retarded I know. Only works if you're unapologetic

wow, I am there atm in a marriage with kids, however she does seen to be trying to change, however I don't know if it's a charade or her genuine desire to change. Maybe she's knows what's out there and realizes what she has is gold compared to what's outside. The thing is she was caught in an inappropriate behavior with someone else and though she didn't go all the (so she claims) inside I know I can't allow her bad behavior to 'rewarded' Now I can leave but I know the kids will be affected in a bad way cuz I'm the one that bring and enforces structure and discipline in them so if we separated all my work will be eventually undone in them and the cycle would be repeated. So even though I'm choosing to stay I do plan to restrict or reform how our relationship will work while she adjusts her behavior (as she seems willing to and is doing) But it's really hard cuz I do think that's it's unfortunate for both her and me cuz her upbringing really affected us and I was weak and thought that it wouldn't matter. she needs help and tye only other reason I'm willing to stick around besides investing in my kids stability is that she's showing changed behavior and not just saying it and it bugs me that mow that's she's operating more like the woman I need, I still have to 'punish her previous transgression' and I think how she takes it will decide the fate of our marriage, but I am fully ready to accept it cuz had it not been for the kids ending things would've been best.

that's better than having it strung on for longer, though I'm glad you appear to have not been emotionally invested in it either. It seems you tried to see if it would repeat itself and once it presented itself again you ended things?

@@MichterPianopunster16 I don't think most people are emotionally invested on the first date. I gave her a second chance, which was a massive mistake. I should have trusted my intuition from the outset as numerous other contraindications lay just down the road.

That wasn’t disrespect

@@TheMightyWalk Yes it was bucko.

She brought her EX on her first date with you?????? What?

Damn Bob, your words are attractive af. You still single? 😅

@@JaZmine147 Sure am.. because I've learned that women will totally put her man on Secret Probation while they do whatever in the background w/o telling her guy but still keeping a very snoopy-sharp eye on him. And yes, I understand biologically, women have to be selective and I'm cool with that. But let's be honest, unless you're dealing with a metrosexual urban effeminate man who hates sweating, works as a Starbuck barista sporting a man-bun who hasn't lifted anything heavier than their smart phone or an X Box Controller in their lives, us heterosexual, 6'0" or taller men who've accomplished things, who're worth anything, who know right from wrong and manage their lives well, we men control marriage and relationships. Women only control sex which is why most hookers and sex workers are heterosexual women making money off heterosexual men who've got the money to spend, because they're high-value and accomplished, and mostly older because wealth building takes time but we men will never want a relationship with that sex-worker-hooker. These men are only engaging that sex-worker-hooker because their current wife of girlfriend isn't f*cking them the way they want. 100% true. ...So what can I do for you, Ja Z and who are you? I'm listening.

I concur. As a guy with the same woman for decades, this is what you must do. Be firm, but fair. I told my woman I am willing to forgive mistakes, and the occasional bad day- it happens to all of us. But I have no patience left for disrespect. People respect strength. Apologize only when you have legit made a mistake. Don't do it to keep the peace.

What is an example of this? Just saying things and then leaving if it continues? I can't imagine you mean anything physical.

@@EndlessMike ...never physical. Relationships need to be managed; they are not a go-with-the-flow thing. Part of the management require rewards & consequences. Women intuitively understand this, but men largely don't because we're expected to "make women happy." This is a big mistake for men. Men's value is supposed to be self-evident and demonstrable, or why would women want to engage an exclusive, monogamous relationship with us? Women naturally think they are irreplaceable, men don't and that's a problem. I've learned to have a VERY important conversation upfront, when considering exclusivity and a long term relationship: Talk about expectations and be very honest. The topics include rules, sex, money and whatever is else that both people feel are essential. And when I say essential I do mean needs NOT whimsical conveniences and window-shopping wants. This conversation, if done with maturity will set the guard-rails of the relationship that you can refer to when one or the other goes astray. If one or the other partner goes astray, then a legitimate conversation needs to happen. For instance, women tend to think what they have is theirs and what you have is also theirs. This is not true, and don't let a woman convince you that it is. If a woman convinces you that everything you have is hers, she will walk all over you and disrespect you constantly. Do not let this happen. Do yourself a huge life-favor and have a conversation about expectations.

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When my ex-wife intimated I was "scaring" her when I was angry during an argument where I barely raised my voice, I should've left her right there. They will use fear as a manipulation tactic to get their way, any kind of weaponized victimhood to get control or leverage in the relationship. Some even try to mess with you subtly in public to get you to lose your cool so you can be the bad guy and she can be the victim in front of others.

She sounds like a psycho. 😂

Yes they are very manipulative like that haha. My sister is the same.

Bro. Woman rolling eyes is signal of disgust. Stemming from her own repulsion of herself which she projects upon you because she blames you for being unhappy and feels justified.

As a woman, I agree. There's a lot of toxicity out there that men fall for. It's great for this information to be provided for men to know what to look out for.

I told someone - Your best is not worth putting up with your worst.

Disrespect matters between individual people, if they're just making general messages that's not disrespecting anybody, just trying to signal something

@@aaronweiss3294 To me that quotes comes across as, "I'll only think about myself while doing whatever I want, even if it bothers you. Deal with it! Only if you put up with that long enough, will I actually bother to think about you once in a blue moon." Which screams toxic relationship to me. And it also sounds super selfish and disrespectful towards your partner to begin with. A healthy relationship isn't a "me, me, me" relationship.

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@@aaronweiss3294 It’s tilling the soil to grow a crop of subservient men and should therefore be taken seriously and addressed.

Women (modern) show respect to Men with authority and brass because they see themselves that way (think why the vows honor and obey are taken out) but I've been there. Now she's with the "love" of her life and he won't marry her and keeps her in check ✅ 😂

been there ... lived that.

If you have to ask, deep down, you already know. She's for the streets. It's not just that she was disrespecting you; it's the she is, as heart, the type of person who treats people, including you, with disrespect. She's literally a rotten human being. Avoid.

She wasn't a narc. You're just a beta male bro 🤣 . That shit doesn't fly with a guy that your ex wife is punching above her weight with.

I literally just said that to my wife. She is completely confused. She literally responded with "because you're my husband!". She's not a narc type, very normal, but totally flummoxed.

Can you please tell every woman in the entire world this?

Wow!

Stopped wasting time and disrespecting yourself and started worrying about getting better.

Hmm. Usually I don't even try to speak logic cause normally it doesn't work. But probably how you say it more than getting your point across.

@@alfaisaac024 just speak logically, if you're with a smart woman, she'll get your message and she will adjust. Sometimes this "disrespect" is just teasing because she doesn't see a genuine "action" from your side or she was too comfortable around you, so she was talking to you the way she'll speak to her brother. But in order to be respected, you must be a "man of your word", and she knows that you don't repeat the same thing twice.

Son, that sounds like contempt or a shiite test, either way its bad news... I wish I could get the context of how it happened, that would give me a sense of why she did it. However, my question to you is, would you be willing to dump her quick and move on if it happens again ? and I believe it will.

@@josephzsoka874 maybe it how they use to communicate, that's why I'm against talking about previous relationships, the person in front of you has nothing to do with your ex, deal with him accordingly and make it clear to the man that you don't want to hear aout his past, that's what I do to avoid unnecessary conflicts. I was considering dating (for a marriage) a man but he was always referring to his ex, she did this, they used to do that, she was like this, I decided not to take any step further. I also noticed that many people do that (regarding of their gender) and I'm surprised that people don't react, they see it as normal then they get sensitive when the other speak about an ex in front of others... they shouldn't speak about exes in ANY SETTING, problem solved.

@@Ssookawai No ma'am, problem NOT solved. The best predictor of future behaviour, is past behaviour. Furthermore, this just not about 'talking about your ex' , its about 'talking about your ex's in front of a large group'...that's shaming behaviour, and contempt. When a woman shames a man in private, its about controlling HIM, but when a woman shames a man in public, its about contempt. The woman is openly declaring that, that man is not important enough to respect in a social setting. I believe the GF in this original thread post is declaring to his social ( and hers ? ) group, that he is not important to her...maybe she's trying to break up with him, or, control his behaviour thru coercion; that is, if you don't follow my lead I will shame and disrespect you in a large group. That's why I asked him for some social context... to see how she is using her tactic. And finally, woman tend to project their fears and concerns, and to some degree, hide their own indiscretions...ma'am did you comment the way you did, because your guilty of this too ?

How about some more respect for the “so called men” you mention, who probably felt very much as you do. Work on yourself then on others…

@@mb7529 so you're infantilizing boomers

@@aeganratheesh you obviously have a negative preconception of boomers from that short, aggressive, semi rethorical question/statement. Stop blaming everything around you…get working on yourself instead. Boomers , Millenials, etc… all divisions to allow you to lazily not introspect on what you are not good at.

@@mb7529 you're the one getting aggressive now...for the second time lol...boomers are totally responsible for the societal collapse today

@@aeganratheesh what meeting was that decided at ? Send me a memo first.

Yeah I don't think God seen the century we live in. Holy shit

What do you mean?

@@darkvalue505 If you love your wife, you will respect her. If you respect your husband you will love him. But, if you only respect your wife that doesn't necessarily mean you will love her, and if you love your husband that doesn't necessarily mean you will respect him.

"let people read the bible when they're not trying to tell women how to live like a real christian would." Book of Common Sense, Verse Youre Not Really a Christian

women don't love men......even the ones they have tingles for.

ANDREW TATE.

They don’t love you anyway

2 chances then out IMO

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So, in other words, your mother is a vvoman born after 1968.

That's why you don't address it overtly. You withdraw your attention a little.

My thoughts exactly

I endured copious amounts of disrespect over the years, because we had young children and I figured it just a 'loose tongue' and speaking before thinking (ie. I made excuses for her). I know better now and I'm not allowing to continue. She's away to see her family (maybe old boyfriend??) so I've got some time to reclaim my self-esteem.

@@parvent3556 So you stayed in the house? Im ready to walk, I dont want to die and see her face last

She belonged to the streets 😎👍

You can't stop women from cheating no matter what you do.

Microcheating is still cheating . Off to the streets 🙏

Totally, I took my wife's disrespect for years, through strength/faith, but you reach a point of no return. She saw it as a weakness and cannot believe I am walking. All humans deserve a level of respect, especially if they have not done evil deeds, but shown love and respect.

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Yup, they're cats.

He made a video addressing this

Use the rule of thirds - she gives 2/3, you give 1/3. That way she'll treat you right.

The logic is she's playing an emotional power game with you. When you obsess over her, she believes she has the power, and has permission to look down on you. When you go cold on her, she realizes that she's wrong and feels guilty-- in other words, she's lost her power and now the ball is in your court. People play these types of games when they don't know how to communicate and are afraid of vulnerability.

@@bluebutterfly5062 thank you I'm looking for this answer.

I eventually stopped being attractive to my ex-wife because of the disrespect. I showed a co-worker one of her recent photos and she said she was very pretty. She was, and still is, but I can never be attracted to her again, all I associate her with is disrespect and lack of peace at home.

It does kill attraction

@@worldwide1856743 Imagine they have genitals. Removes the spell.

Drunks and children can't hide themselves, one see through them, so good call.

@@asdzt123 There's a Latin phrase that sums it up perfectly (for drunks anyway): In vino veritas.

Forget about a verbal apology, explain 3 strikes and your out, observe her behaviour (drunk or not). You could still be having great sex, altho u would have to be a man of your word

@@russellbaker4256 There can be no 3 strikes and you're out in this case. When a woman disrespects you like this, and not only doesn't apologize but tries to make it seem like you should just get over it, then there is no going back. Without respect you have nothing. Amazing sex is not worth lowering myself as a person, which is what I would have been doing if I'd continued. And either way, I was sick of listening to her boring stories. We had very little in common apart from the physical. Fast forward to now and I've been with with an amazing woman for the last 10 months. She's everything that crazy girl wasn't, with amazing sex thrown in too. So the morale of the story is don't waste your time with people who don't respect and value you. Find people who do.

What fucking A? How do you address it? He only said don't take disrespect. He didn't explain what to do if she is doing it. How do you address it? Other than walking away...

same

That's feminism, but the core idea is right. Capitalism says nothing about making meals for husbands, but in fact feminism claims that pretty much any action expressing care for the husband is the woman doing "unpaid work" for the dude.

Taking care of her family

Most women do both though. They work and take care of their children.

Gut wrenching comment, sad.

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Yep, and it's pretty depressing to watch them block you then go thermonuclear when you firmly but promptly and politely remind them of your boundary.

A boss pays money. Men submit to their boss too. Money make performing respect worth it

love is more valuable than money so is family@@lightyear3429