Parents been really quiet since this video came out.

“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.” -Almost everyone ever

I'm 60. When I was 30, I cut off all contact with my abusive alcoholic father, for the sake of my mental well being. Let's just say that the last 30 years have been much happier than the 30 years I spent with him in my life. My daughter is almost 30, and when she was 14 she made the same decision regarding her own father. I supported her decision completely, but she's had to deal with the same friends and family members as I did, giving her the whole "but he's your dad" and "you'll regret it when he's gone" BS. I don't understand it when people say things like that...all those people know what POS these 2 men are.

I swear parents that say “I raised you I deserve payment” or something like that deserve to burn in the deepest pits of hell

5:08 literally broke me, like, full tears running down my face. Thank you Robin for the parent slander, for some reason it’s extremely comforting to know someone in the world knows what kind of abuse we have to go through.

I want to raise my daughter in such a way that instead of thinking "dad's gonna kill me" they will think "I need to call my dad" when in a car crash. -Some legend of a father

How to deal with these parents: 1. Save up money 2. Collect Evidence of abuse 4. Find help from trusted adult 3. Move out as soon as possible

basically the abuse issue is from people not recognizing the boundary between establishing yourself as an authority and figure of respect (necessary to parenting), and making them fear you, because all too many managers/parents/teachers etc. mistake terrified obedience for respect, trust and loyalty.

Really sorry to anyone who has to deal with parents like this. They have no rights to invade your privacy, take your money or use the fact they raised you against you (that's their damn job!!).

I love how most of these are ACTUAL CRIMES but people usually can’t sue due to costs

"A banger episode over at Illuminaughtiii" That did NOT age well

0:14 That one didn't age quite so well

We need an r/goodparents. That would balance this out.

The mother that threatened to “call the cups” on her daughter is the exact reason I, a child, am never coming out to my mother because being disowned is not fun

I just want all parents to understand, no, we didn’t close the tab because we saw / heard you. You just so happen to be there when we closed it.

BRUH, THAT MOTHER WHO STOLE THAT GRANT MONEY NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL, that is litterally robbery. Government grants are given to one person and one person alone, the person the government designates.

My parents have sort of taken the role of treating me like a friend as well as their child. This is the way parenting should be done. Fear = respect is outdated rhetoric that needs to be stopped.

I like how parent break things they love (that keep them sane) and then say "So now you'll be happy" and then are surprised when the child is always sad.

*Me being happy about how normal my parents are*

0:10 aged like milk.

8:56 I relate to this greatly. My dad, who was 47 at the time of this event, got angry at me over something I didn't do. Instead of him giving me a normal lecture, he forces 9-year old me into his room, with him carrying his belt. While I was crying when this was happening (I was 9 and barely knew any better) and try running from him, man decides to pick me up, throw me on his bed, kneel on top of my back, and he did this in such a way where I was unable to breathe, while he was still beating me with his belt. Hit three times on my legs, twice on my butt, and twice on the back of the head because I tried lifting my head to breathe, and I was screaming the entire time. I got a trauma flashback of this watching a video of the beginning sequence of the Outlast Trials (I think that's what that game is called) because the screaming sounded so similar. I asked him about it today and he replied with "Oh you were screaming so I knew you were fine." No dad, me screaming is not a sign that I'm ok, it's a sign that I'm either in immense pain or am incredibly scared. Another story while I'm at it. This story takes place during April to May, and I was trying to make up for some late work. It was a lot, but because it was late, my dad decided to kick me out of the house with nowhere to go except my car. He told me this while I was at school, he made no arrangements, and didn't tell anyone else. My mom, thankfully, managed to hold my dad off long enough for me to sleep in the house and not have to sleep in my Jeep in the 85F at night Alabama heat. The next day, I tried telling a teacher about what happened, and she responded with "your dad probably just got really mad at you" and didn't show a shred of concern for the problem I was facing. Mind you, this was the teacher who I had late work for. I turned it in, asked my dad why he kicked me out of the house, and he responded with "I didn't kick you out of the house, your late work kicked you out of the house." Cool, dad. Wait till I turn 21 and press charges for Child Abuse and Child Abandonment due to the crazy stunts you pull. Oh wait, I can't, cause you think all of my money, including the money I RIGHTFULLY EARNED AT MY OWN 8 TO 5 JOB, is yours since "we gave you that money" and "I gave you the opportunity to work that job." No, you didn't. I worked my own connections, managed to get a job, and you threatened to make me pay rent for living at your house while I'm 16, and now not even earning a paycheck. (For clarification, I wasn't fired, nor did I quit. The job terms specified I could only work during the summer due to the hours I had to work, and working there being near impossible during the school year.) I don't want to call CPS (I've heard stories about how much worse some kids can end up as a result of it), can't call the authorities without my dad knowing it, and I don't have anywhere else to go other than here. If this stuff isn't insanity, I have no idea what is.

My female parent's way of dealing with us misbehaving was to hit us - a lot. A relative told her "They won't love you when they grow up" and she said "They don't have to love me, just so long as they respect me". She was quite proud of this, and retold it often - and, every time, when she said the word "respect" she'd lift her clenched fist. Depends how you define "respect", I suppose.

My personal favourite insane parent quirk; “WE DONT HIT PEOPLE IN THIS HOUSE” *SMACKSMACKSMACK*

My mum once called CPS to get away from my dad, he wouldn’t let them talk to my mum alone so she didn’t end up getting us out of the shit until she divorced him before New Years this year

Had these parents myself. I knew it was going to be hell for me further on so I worked and collected some money took some loan from my friends who were very supportive and then moved the fuck out of there all the way to Canada on study visa right after high school. I can tell you the moment I got off the plane in a completely different country I cried out of happiness. There is only one way to deal with these people and that’s to ignore them and run away as far as you can.

I love robins opinions so much 😭 he focuses on the actual reality of things.

I sure hope that that illuminaughtii charecter mentioned at 0:14 isnt in any hot water, boy that would be a shame.

The illuminaghtii thing aged like milk lol

damn, that short moment of Robin talking bout parents got me tearin up man....

As someone who's living under a parent like these, I kinda realized just how awful it was. I already had a massive dislike for my own mother considering everything she's been doing, and I'm planning on moving out in a month or two. I'm at the legal age to own property in Canada (16+), and there's a good apartment building near my school that i'll be going to. Wish me luck guys, applying for my second job this week :)

My dad lived a rough life, and he always said to me, “Choose the family you need, not the one you have.” He himself did this and it’s been good advice to live by.

0:16 yea this may or may not have aged pretty badly

1:17 wtf that plankton impression is spot on

Something I've noticed in these parents is that they think that children somehow owe them for taking care of them. No, taking care of a child is a responsibility of a parent who decided to have a child. Or think of them as property. Those people don't deserve children. And then they get all confused when their kids don't talk to them anymore, and the parents just say "this is how I grew up and I turned out fine, you're just ungrateful"

a tip to all people who hated their scummy parents you are better than them and you don't owe them any thing, not even your own shit, they owe you everything for being idiots stay strong, after all, you were strong enough to make it here

Fellow watcher of EmKay, I can say that it’s nice to see robin giving actual good advice

When he made that little rant about choosing your own family, I feel like many people needed to hear that. I know I did

I respect all the kids and adult who survived these insane people

That iilluminaughtii shoutout did not age well...

That Illuminaughtii plug didn't age quite so well

I’ve got a note for the mom in that last post: Accessing the social media profile of someone else if they haven’t given permission or have denied you permission, is illegal and against privacy laws, you better damn well hope your daughter doesn’t do anything about this, because otherwise you’re finished. You may think they do not have the power to do anything about this, but if Snapchat sees that this story is worth picking up, suddenly your daughter will have the power of a multimillion dollar company in her back. It’s also listed in the ToS, and if you have your own Snapchat, you can say goodbye to that, and accounts on associated platforms as well.

My dad once yelled at my sister to move out since she was in college It was June Of 2020 He got into a huge fight with her and my mom He called the police We left for my grandparents house We came back a week later He threw a tantrum a few days after we came back We left for our grandparent's house again Hell, that's not even the stupidest thing my dad has been mad about. I told him that coco beans used to make chocolate are harvested via child slavery. Instead of looking it up, he punished me for saying it. Honestly surprised the police haven't arrested him during all those times he's called the police

Me: *trying to give a logical reason for me doing this* My parents: *gets even more upset with me* Me in my mind: BRUH

i suddenly became happy with my own parents...

Bruh, the mom digging in the trash of her grown adult daughter got me XD like just imagine it: *You are making yourself a cup of coffee, stirring the creamer in and happens to glance out of the window of your town house and there in the backyard was your mom digging through the trash. You watch her concern but also amused as she holds up a piece of trash righteously and marches towards your back doors. She begins knocking on the back door, you can see her; she can see you, it is a sliding glass back door. You submit to defeat and go up to the door as your mom screams through the door.* "You see this?! This is why you are getting fat!" *You watch as she presses the piece of trash against the door like you were blind. You didn't respond out of disbelief. She then knocks on the door harder and yells louder.* "YOU SEE THISSSS?! THISSSS IS WHY YOU ARE GETTING FAT!" *You sigh as a response and roll your eyes before speaking calmly through the glass door* Mom, you are the crazy one who is looking like an oversized trash panda digging through my trash. I don't think you have room to talk *With that said, you drew the curtains; shutting her out and ending the performance.*

Finally an acknowledgment by a reddit narrator that CPS does very little (various reasons, not saying don’t report or they do absolutely nothing) Its a very broken, overwhelmed, underfunded system and reddit LOVES responding “call CPS and get them taken away” Its not that easy; its not. And complete removal often require some pretty, repeated awful treatment

8:25 A FRICKING ART TABLET!? DO THEY NOT KNOW HOW EXPENSIVE THOSE THINGS ARE!?

0:16 aged like (sad) milk that shoutout did

I get punished for things that my brother and sister do, and when I tell my Mum I did nothing wrong, she shouts at me for something that isn’t even relevant. In about 4 Years I’ll be able to move out so I don’t have to deal with stuff like that.

I am so grateful for my mother, whose own mother treated her in an abusive manner. Beatings and emotional abuse were pretty normal for my mom growing up, as well as victim blaming when she went to her mother (my grandmother) with serious safety and well-being concerns. My mom decided, however, early on that she was not going to be like her mother. She basically took her mother's behavior as a guide on what NOT to do as a parent and remembered how it felt when she was treated that way. When it came to us kids, she knew she never wanted us to be put in the same positions of hurt and danger that she was. My mom isn't a perfect parent, but every time I see one of these and remember how the cycle of abuse operates, I am so incredibly grateful that she is the person she is.

I watch this being thankful my parents aren't insane

“A banger episode over on illuminaighti” Aged like sad milk

Ive kinda been having some parent problems recently. I got distracted by my phone while doing the dishes so they took it. That was understandable. What wasn’t ok is that they started looking through it. They found people calling me by my preferred name rather than my legal name and started asking about it and I eventually felt forced to come out as trans to them. They said that being trans wasn’t a thing and that I’m a girl and not anything else (I’m afab but I identify is nonbinary). They acted like it was my friends who influenced me since I have quite a few trans friends. While nothing else has really happened since, I am still not feeling the best.

Man, I really needed to hear that from Robin today... I was kicked out for being part of the LGBTQ+ community and it was difficult. I'm unfortunately now in a pretty rough situation but it was nice to hear someone say it's okay and people like the person in the post and myself deserve better, thanks Robin

One of my teachers (huge shoutout to her) is a mother of two, she has taught them manners, and how to respect her and others WITH RESPECT. She would wait for them to finish talking and they would wait for her. She also has a rule “if I cannot give a good reason, you do not have to do it” (unless it is something like cleaning their room or a rare chore.) THIS IS HOW PARENT(s) SHOULD ACT. BE LIKE HER, RESPECT YOUR SPAWN.

This is why I refuse to let my parents know where I live.

7:26 Okay, That one riled me up to no end. OP is trying to better themselves by taking a helpful class that could make OP some Bank and the Parents just wanna block OP from being successful and be A**holes about it. Screw those Parents. Also regarding the WiFi Hotspot bit: Not all Hotspots work well and also some folks don't have an Unlimited Data Plan to take advantage of said Feature if they had it to begin with

Oh boy this video hit HARD. Been neglected by my mom and abused by my dad and his current wife. Fortunately my mom went into therapy after she saw how she treated my sister and I (mainly me unfortunately) and we get along fine now. But my dad hasn't learned a thing and is still doing stuff the way he used to do, even after I moved out.

0:17 me when I get reminded of anything regarded of controversy

8:00 my jaw just went to the core of the earth 💀

“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.” Makes me want to cry

Both my parents have been horribly abusive my entire life. I’m 16. I didn’t know how much i needed that whole speech right now. Thank you so much

The beginning of this aged so badly lmao

Oooo… that Illuminaty comment did NOT age well

The moms with the money thing is super relatable. Since I’m Asian American, my grandparents give me money, so when I got $1k for my bday, my mom said that she will give me half the money, but instead, she gave me $100 which I was ok with because money is money. Then when I graduated from middle school, I got $10K from my grandmother. But when I was sleeping, the money was gone, I soon saw it on my mom’s nightstand. I secretly took my money back and decided to move in with my dad. But get this, I’m literally 16 and my mom says “you can’t have too much money.” Asian moms are a different level.

My mom was like this. Financially abusive, more unsavory things. I’m now 21, live in an apartment with my younger brother and we are both free and happy. I’m not in contact with her much anymore and have set my boundaries moving 3+ hours away from her. For those of you still in these situations, it’ll get better. Please hang in there. One day you will be free and happy ❤

Can’t exaggerate enough how curious I am if Illuminaughti is still in the picture based on what’s come out I really can’t picture anyone here associating with her

14:00 I didn't know what he meant by this at first, but now I have a teacher who is also a person who just *looks* like she would scream, and also does scream, and I understand this perfectly.

for years i thought i was dealing with emotional abuse in my house. i had no evidence, but i thought that i just didn’t know any better. turns out, for years i’ve had autism, adhd, anxiety, and i’m also pretty sure i have bipolar depression. now, it’s *my* job to repair the damage my parents caused from not knowing any better. it’s a damn nightmare.

8:38 my mom and dad are an older generation and they raised me perfectly, like they love me and respect every single one of my opinions and choices. They tell me how they're proud of me and that they'll forever support me even when they get old and fragile etc. I seriously dont get why its so hard for those parents in the vid to be like mine. They literally decided "hey im gonna bring a child into this world without their will and im gonna treat them like they're in the military" BRO

0:11 well that aged like milk edit: robin's speech made me cry

1:18 that plankton impression was incredible 😂

i had parents like these, but after i learned to adapt to their bullshit and fought fire with fire, i eventually managed to shut them up and gain fairness and authority in our household

I'm really happy me and my mom are getting along now... We had a rough start, but she actually worked on herself. She's a great mom now and I love her. I really hope these "parents" get on the right path and start acting like grownups. Sending love and hope to all the people who are struggling with these kinds of parents💚💚💚

"some women weren't meant to be mothers." - calvin, calvin and hobbes

I have to admit emKay would be a great therapist

Videos like this make me grateful that I have the chillest parents in the world.

As a mom who has used a leash for my kids when they were younger, asking if the kid is a rescue is hilarious and it sucks no one ever asked me that.

0:21 made me feel so bad, for the kid and dog

i also had to deal with cps because my brother’s step sister called them on my family as payback for something and said that me and my sister were at risk of being raped by my brother (who is the nicest man you would ever meet and would protect me and my sister if it meant he died) and we were questioned on if there were any red flags with him or not.

I started crying over an arguement that ruined my day and then got even more mad at me because I was crying and “making her feel like the bad guy”

I think I read a story some years ago of a child calling CPS, and the CPS worker actually advised the parents how to be more discreet with their beatings. Disgusting!

The "Mom 👺👹" contact name has me dying rn

My mom: *verbally and emotionally abuses me Also my mom: ''I dOn'T hIt YoU tHeReFoRe I'M a GoOd PaReNt"

5:13 really hit me in the heart strings. I know their pain and agree with what you said. You CAN choose your family. They may not be blood but you can always find a family. My family gave up on me because they couldn't understand what I was going through with agoraphobia so they packed me and some clothes up put me in the car and dropped me off 2 states away with $120 in my pocket and left. That was 5 years ago and I have great friends here I call family. Everyday is a struggle to stay afloat but I'm trying with the help of my family I have here now. Dont let anyone, blood or not, try and bring you down to there level. Keep your head up out there you always have a family in the world, just not always the one you started with.

2:07 I hope his mother knows that fraud is considered a felony in all 50 states.

Insane Parent: *Does everything possible to mentally, physically, and emotionally abuse their child" Child: *Moves Out* Insane Parent: *shocked pikachu face*

1:10 that's a damn good plankton impersonation

9:33 I had to live with this for every single damn day and night of my life. Every single time I would screw up on homework, didn’t do the chores properly, or accidentally miss something important. One of them would actively go to the other parent to talk shit within ear shot and yell about it too. The walls were thin and even with headphones on, I was still listening to it. Not to mention I developed a fear of doors, not the door itself but what was behind it since my dad would barge in to look through my stuff or yell at me. So I would always be terrified at night since childhood. Thank you for your time, sorry I just had to vent.

4:37 - and this is why I’ve decided to come out to my mom when she’s dead

0:16 that aged like milk huh Very *sad milk*

8:30 I felt this in my bones and nearly teared up My parents used to withhold my favorite stuff from me too just because I didn't get "good marks" despite getting straight As throughout my school life

When i was younger i didnt even know people's parents were actually like this. Now, seeing stuff like this makes me very grateful for my patents.

My mother screams at me when I'm sick about how I'm only trying to skip school :')

On illuminaughti? That aged well

4:49 that is actually a crime to keep someone's property in your house without their consent and then not allow then to reclaim it, she can call the cops on her mom

I love how this came up and last night to prepare for my cat costume for work at Walmart, a simple costume, I was looking for the cat fingerless gloves my girlfriend got me and though she saw it months ago; She went to complain that "It has pink. That's weird." The pink in discussion was the Cat paw pads on the glove. Did she forget that most cat's paw pads are actually pink? And to top it off; our white skin tone is technically peach color and therefore a pink? I'm tired of her treating every color that exist as a gendered color, and I'm almost 28.

0:16 that aged well

0:16 this part aged like milk LOL

Child protection services when they see someone being physically abused: *does their damn job* Vs When they see a mentally abused child: “pfft it’s not like he is getting hit lol” “Does he have bruises” “That doesn’t exist it’s in your head”