"I'm not your friend, i'm your parent" is guaranteed to make your bloodline your own worst enemy.

"Dogs die, don't get into financial distress over it." "Okay, I'll be sure to remember that when you're on life support!"

My whole life, my parents said, "Im your parent, not your friend" and now they're utterly confused about why I dont visit as an adult

I love how he gets mad while reading like- he genuinely gets frustrated at all those adults calling themselves parents

This takes the saying “all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children” to another level

Gotta love it when parents blame you for their mistakes and get mad when you point out that theyre clearly wrong.

I have a bisexual friend who's parents are very religious, raging homophobes, and overly controlling. They literally limited his screen time to 1 minute a day (which he figured out how to bypass lmao) and have basically shunned him for having "long" hair (just barely past the bottom of his ears). Can't wait for him to move out so he can make his own decisions, and so I can do his nails lmao.

I'm so happy that the concept of toxic parents is becoming more familiar because growing up i was told that they dont exist or im being ungrateful ngl this video really helped quite a lot, because the hurt you get from being called ungrateful by others is way worse than even having parents like this.

The “SD, 9” absolutely means “9 year old step daughter”. This person felt like her husband was cheating on her because he was texting his NINE YEAR OLD STEP DAUGHTER

Over 35 minutes of Robin raging at terrible parents? Christmas has come early.

"I pay for your existence" is the biggest reason I knew I parents didn't have any love or care for us. That's what you're REQUIRED to do. The bare minimum anyone can do (and they still managed to fail that much).

The only thing "I'm not your mom, I'm your friend", along with many other of her parenting choices, taught me was that she was not a safe space. She was not safe to talk to. Now as an adult, I still don't tell either of my parents how I feel, who I talk to, what I'm struggling with. Saying that to your kid just doesn't work.

The problem with "I'm your parent not your friend" is that it has a kernel of truth in it, but is almost exclusively used by abusive parents to defend their abusive behavior.

“WHO IS CHACHI? IS IT A DOG?!?” -a man slowly losing his sanity to those who lost it before him

Parents can act out the "I'm not your friend, I'm your parent" thing in 2 very different ways. The first (and correct way) is clearly establish that you are the authority but you still respect the fact that the child is an individual with their own personality, interests, dreams, and shortcomings. This is perfectly healthy since it allows for reasonable boundaries and an appropriate amount of autonomy for the child. As the child matures this relationship also matures by gradually allowing more autonomy for the child and will eventually evolve into friendship when the child grows into an adult. The second (toxic as hell) way this can be used is a dictatorship where the parent assumes a god like position over every aspect of the child's life. People that grow up in this environment tend to have a lot of difficulties in relationships (romantic or others) and struggle to live independently since drill sargent isn't there to tell them to clean their living space, eat, or pay bills. Also, based on new research, if the dictatorship is emotionally invalidating and/or doesn't allow for the development of a personal sense of identity there is a significantly increased chance of the child to develop borderline personality disorder.

0:38 seconds in and this kid already had the BALLS to go up against an insane parent, I love this subreddit already

26:37 This woman is actually angry that her fiancé writes sweet texts _to his daughter._ Yup, she's well on her way to being an insane (step) parent.

I love that all these parents are gonna be roommates in the nursing home, they can all talk about why they’re confused their kids won’t come visit. Love to see it.

I would've stopped treating these guys as parents as soon as I left the damn house. They think that their kids have to be nice to them and everything because they "raised" them, when all they really did was screw them up for a few years because they had nowhere else to go. I would've showed them real god damn fast how wrong they really were to even think that.

My favorite things about parents is when they yell at their kids for not following rules that they don't have to follow making themselves sound like hypocrites. If they're not going to regard the rules that they set in place, I or any other kid in the house shouldn't have to either. Also, I love how that mom didn't like how her son didn't want to do anything sports related and thought he wasn't a man. Clearly she has no idea how many sports related injuries can happen a year.

Tbh this hurts me to see how stupid people are. My mom is the best mom i could imagine. Yes she is strict but she still knows how to raise a child. I am very proud of her raising me the way i am. I could never imagine having parents like this.

Imagine getting grounded for being _52.8 feet_ short of your 3.5 mile goal, it's like people who complain about a 0.05 lb difference when they get deli at the store. I'm lucky my parents aren't like this

i just feel sorry for them and having to deal with parents like that, especially if you have moved out and are doing your own thing, not under their watch anymore and they still act like they control everything that you “must” do

at 24:26, those are "Spanish bayonets" they're plants that are so sharp you can use them like a knife, I uh, don't think its a good idea to have them anywhere near your house.

My mother is one of these. I literally not long ago sent her an email stating she is no longer welcome in my life. I'm in my 40s ... I should have done it so much sooner. My dad is also out of my life similar reasons. To anyone that is in these kind of situations... leave. They won't change. Save your sanity and be happy as soon as you can. From this complete stranger to the person suffering this way.... I send you hugs and love and just know, you can survive this xx

Yknow, robin going off ranting about how crappy these parents are really feels like a therapy session (in a cathartic way) as someone who has issues from having just A Really Bad Mom

4:50 The difference between 3.5 and 3.49 is literally 10 meters, literally a walk to the kitchen would be twice that

2:25 I had a friend who had cutoff her parents even going so far as getting a restraining order against her parents. why? she works to pay for the mortgage, she buys all the food, she cooks when she gets home, she literally do everything in the house while her parents sit on their ass all day and ask for money. one day they insulted her for not dating anyone when she literally works for 12 hours, and then do house work for 4 hours. that`s when she moved out, they told her she was overreacting then she lived with me and my girlfriend for a while. her parents called the cops on me for "kidnapping their daughter". so she took a restraining order against them, they lost the house a month later and started living to her grandmothers place then they also got kicked out. and lived on government housing. the father died 3 years later, the mother died 8 years later.

Scaring a child into submission will only teach them how to better hide the activities next time, not stop them. They will avoid communication with you as they will want to reveal less about their life for fear of unnecessary reprimanding, and will want to leave the situation in totality as soon as they’re able. If you want a respectable relationship with your child, instead of constantly questioning and belittling them, find alternatives you’re willing to compromise on, keep your line of communication open and as positive as possible, and support them through their mistakes-not controlling every aspect of their life, as they will find a way to gain freedom anywhere they can anyway (rightfully so). In trying to keep your child under your “watchful” (abusive/controlling) eye, you’re ensuring they will no longer want to be in your line of sight, effectively pushing them away. You are a friend, an authority figure, and an aide in survival. These are roles that are sacred, not to be undermined or abused. Someone who does so will face the long term consequences of no longer seeing/being a parent to their child, or will have set the precedent that this is behavior the child should accept from loved ones, ensuring they end up in a similar situation romantically. In this case, the individual they now dedicate their life to will likely perform a manipulation tactic such as isolation, gaining full control of their now partner, and you’ll lose the child through that means as well. TLDR; stop it. Get some help.

in my opinion the best type of Parent-Child relationship you can have, is your kid not hesitating to ask you to join their party as the 4th member so they can finally enter the 4 man boss raid.

Stuff like this makes me realise that, even though my parents can be very unreasonable and flawed at times, I’m still incredibly lucky for what I have, and that it definitely could be much worse.

1:10 I'm renaming my minecraft dog charles for this person

Whenever that timer pops up you know you're about to hear some PURE FIRE from Robin

Watching this makes me realize I'm very lucky to not have parents like this, another thing my dad always says im his best friend so thats nice, would literally cry if i heard "im your parent, not your friend"

I'm so happy that my parents aren't insane like this. They're actually normal. But, I'm so damn sorry that you guys have to deal with your insane parents, everyone. This had me in tears. 35:53

Listening to these videos have helped me to realize I’m not being dramatic or cruel for thinking my mother is abusive. She has been gaslighting my whole family all my life, so I could never trust my own thoughts, only her words. It’s taken a lot of time for me to even feel comfortable thinking I might not be to blame for being abused, and these videos, and Robin ranting, have helped me accept it. So thanks for for your unruly rants and rage over these terrible parents. You make me laugh and feel just a little bit more comfortable in my own skin.

1:31 "Refuse to give password" Passwords would be pointless if she gave them to you.

I’m grateful to have a mother who is the complete opposite of every single mother in this video.

Bro turned into gladose 16:47

'I am your parent, not your friend' is a good strat for Nursing Home Any%

This "I'm not your friend,I'm your parent" reminds me of that time when I accidentally saw my dad commenting under some FB post about parenting His comment said: "It's difficult to be a friend to your child" And this entire video makes me more grateful for parents I have,because it actually makes me realise how healthy my relationship with my parents is,and reminds me of how hard they are trying for me.

1:52 give her a dummy phone that causes an incident when that parent starts damaging it.

Mom of two teenage girls, and I’m not going to lie, I usually skip the r/insaneparents because it’s so hard for me to listen to. I think about how my mom treated/treats me, and I think about how horrible my girls would feel if I treated them like some of these parents. It makes me _genuinely_ tear up. I almost finished this one (it was on while I cleaned), but I had to stop at 28:50. I cried... legitimately still have wet cheeks right now, and I’m not even going to pretend it was ninjas cutting onions! I can’t imagine how that little girl feels, and I can’t imagine why a mother would EVER want to hurt her child like that. I don’t understand. I wish I could hug and comfort and hold every hurting child out there, including adults that still have their hurting young selves trapped in their hearts. ♥️ Love and comfort and hugs for everyone, and I mean everything I say. ♥️ I try not to hate because I feel that hatred does nothing but poison myself, but I do feel a special type of rage when I read or hear about a parent/parents hurting their child(ren.) These “parents” spit in the face of the unconditional love a baby has for their parents, of the innocence each human being is born with. Oof... I’m going to go watch some funny videos ASAP because my heart hurts from sadness and my jaw hurts from fury-related clenching.

That child evacuator better get him that Schlanket!!

What’s sad is the one about the dog wasn’t too far off from what my grandmother was thinking when my Husky tore her ACLs in both back legs. Just because it’s expensive, and the dog will take a while to heal, doesn’t mean you just give up on the dog

31:48 I know Robin is pessimistic and usually plays up posts (for anything, not just negative posts), but I think this is the angriest I've heard him be

These videos actually gave me courage to tell my story. Last year my step dad would always go out everyday whether is was in the morning or at night even after he got back from work. He verbally abused me and my sister including my mom as it felt like he was norhing but a ticking time bomb. One day he could come home and be happy, the next he could comw home and yell at everyone foe no reason. Him and my mom fought, he got mad at me for getting a math problem wrong, even one day he was telling me and showing me sexual stuff as it seriously made me uncomfortable and such as I couldn't say anything to anyone. He was soon suicidal and always threatened us be would off himself and of course everyday I was scared and nearly crying and such. Now Im a senior in high school and live with my sister and mom who live alright lives so far. We still see our step dad as he would take me and sis out sometimes when he had money.

Parents think that being a parent is a high status than being a friend

25:51 robin does a good plankton impression

The person punishing their kid for going .01 under is freakin INSANE

8:31 hey, I've been gaslit like that before by my grandma!

Honestly thank you Emkay and robin for going over these, seriously made me realize how fucked up my parents have been to me all my life.

I have awesome parents, and I’m really grateful for them. Looking at these monsters that the people in the video and the comments call “parents” is not only heart-wrenching, but also makes me even more grateful for my mom and dad. I feel for you all and hope you escape that situation you’re all in. I wish you luck. Stay Fresh, Cheese Bags.❤

Watching these makes me feel a bit better about my parents, bc at least they tend to realize thier mistakes and apologize. Now then that doesn't change that my mother is probably a narcissist and has what I think are may be autistic meltdowns bc idk any other reasonable way to explain her getting mad, throwing a tantrum, and angerly pouting and glaring at an autistic 10 y/o bc he had a panic attack and expressed he wanted to get off a fair ride before it started and she wanted to ride it. I know she's bipolar but damn that's a crazy thing to do. I (her 19 y/o child) knew and told her she needed food, she refused saying she was too mad, so I had her go back to go ride rides on her own since that's what she was mad she could do, while I took responsibility for the 10 and 17 y/o, so we got snacks and met up with her after she calmed down. Talked to her later about it and she thought it was ok to try and make him ride things he didn't want to bc that's what was done to her as a kid "and she turned out fine" (paraphrasing) but everyone's different and that's just how to break trust. She did however admit she knows she was acting childish. She thought her riding on rides and us sitting under the tent bc it was hot and we had no interest in the rides made her look like a bad mom, honestly I think the tantrum made her look worse I love her but I'm glad I don't live with her, cuz we're both a mess and my blunt honesty rubs her wrong about 80% of the time Will say later neither the 10 nor the 17 y/o wanted to ride the faris wheel she kept trying to convince the kid and I did a bit too but they really were just uncomfortable with it so I road with her and the two stayed together and were just fine. Boundaries and consent are very important even when it's small things, but especially with an autistic kid

25:56 oh hi plankton

What these parents don't get is that they are teaching their kids to use them and then leave them forever when they grow up to 18, since there is no emotional bond, why would they keep in contact after that?

Robin sounds so done with this, and I get it. My birthing parent is a master of psychotic manipulation, and my sperm donor is just abusive. I wish I had any evidence whatsoever, but they’re smart about it. Can’t wait to move out for college

15:37 I was making ramen when this one came up If you were wondering, I made beef ramen

0:49 that hurts cuz tho i may not be a dog im named after a dog..

That calm anger in Robin's voice was terrifying...

The more i watch/read through r/insaneparents the more i see the emotional and mental manipulation my parents put me through, like theyll yell at me for random bullshit and treat me horribly than have the audacity to ask why i got prescribed to have 9 antidepressant pills a day to stop myself from having bad thoughts constantly

6:10 Block mom.

0:30 aged like milk lol.

ngl i teared up a lil. its so tragic that people actually go through these horrible experiences with people that are supposed to take care of and love them. i hope anybody with toxic parents get out of that situation as soon as possible, take care guys :(

"I see the light at the end of the tunnel." *"GO TOWARDS IT"* that is one of the best single line responses the man has ever had

11:10 oh, if I was being held down hostage by someone, I would definitely start biting like a feral raccoon with rabies

i also love how hes being like a very nice parental figure its so sweet he cares about these poor kids unlike anyone else

If I had one wish this subreddit would be empty

Robin "WHO IS CHAICHI, IS IT A DOG?" *Snort laughs and rolls off the bed.*

Remember, there's a difference between relatives and family. Not all relatives are family, and not all family are relatives. You don't have to love a blood relative just because they're related. Some people don't deserve it.

Dude, I am so glad my parents are some of the best people on earth, they would give us everything we ever wanted if they could (including a schlanket for my brother if he asked)☺️ For people who have or have had abusive guardians, I'm proud of you for surviving or currently surviving the awful things you've gone through, keep being strong❤❤

Hearing these stories makes me feel blessed as hell to have a very good connection with my mom.

I was once told by my mother's husband that I was "acting like a bratty teenager" to not attend family gatherings all because I didn't want to see him. The reason was that I'm transgender and I didn't want to spend time with some who made it blatantly clear that I would not be accepted by him

There’s nothing better to make me appriciate my Mum and Dad than watching videos like these. I’m so sorry for people who had to grow up with such dysfunctional parents.

23:27 gotta love how this person specifies "don't tell [BLANK] or she'll get mad at me" which tells me that they actually really liked the gift but this controlling person just wants to take it away from them

It's so cathartic hearing you get mad at these people. It makes me feel like I have someone on my corner, cuz that's the sort of shit I've had to deal with. I'm 40 and no-contact for years and it *still* hurts.

Can we just give Robin a good subreddit?

i will never understand these kind of parents. its freaking horrible how they can act this way and the kid cant do anything about it. if yalls parents are like this, dont worry my mom offered to adopt you all

24:35 I think the bushes are called Yucca for anyone curious.

I am so thankful and glad that I have a fantastic relationship with my parents and that they don't treat me like this.

16:46 genuinely pissed off robin is something we all needed

Insane parents: "I'm not your friend, I don't have to like you/treat you with respect." Also insane parents: "You HAVE to love me, you HAVE to give me respect...hey wait, why are you refusing to let me see my grandchildren and leaving me in a care home alone?!?!"

3:44 It is very hard to realize something that isn't true.

2:12 I’ve actually talked to my parents about that and they brought up a good point. “We can be your friend but we will always be your parent first and as parents it’s our job to keep you safe and a friend would not keep you safe from what you are doing” brought up during a conversation about my unsafe choices

Damn, a 35 minute video? Robin's gonna have a field day.

I like the fact he was just reading the text normally, but just lost all of his patience about Chachi appearing in every message

Seeing those stories from r/Insaneparents just makes me happy that my mom realised what she was doing to me is wrong and got help for it

this post always hits me on a spiritual level .i don't know if i should be crying or laughing(while also crying).

Important note: I am transgender. Alright so when I was in 7th grade, three of my friends invited me to go to the mall with them. I ask my parents, they say yes. My mom went off shopping and left me with said friends. Only one person's parents stayed with us. Now, keep in mind that I was 13 and the others were 11-12 (6th graders). We had a really great time. I got food, bought stuff with my own money, and just hung out overall. Then it gets late and everyone starts going home. It's just me and the friend who's parents stayed. My mother comes to get me. We walked away and start heading to the car, everything is normal. Then my mother begins to (negatively) comment on the person's parents, who were a lesbian couple. She says some s*** about how she doesn't approve of their relationship, and that they shouldn't have stayed with us. Basically saying that we should be left completely alone in the mall. Reminder that the other people were in 6TH GRADE. We leave the mall and go home, and my mother tells my father about my friends. All hell breaks loose in the living room as my parents full on scream at me for a HOUR about how 1, you can't be transgender (note: most of the friends I was with were also trans), 2, apparently the gay people existing was influencing me somehow, and 3, I may no longer talk to those friends outside of school ever again. I also got a lecture about how my parents were tired of me dressing masculinely. As an addition, my father also said several slurs in the span of a few seconds. I still have the words "WHAT'S MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOUR FAMILY OR THESE G** D*** F*GS?" engraved in my memory. TLDR: Homophobic/Transphobic parents yell at a 7th grader for going to the mall with his transgender friends and tell him that he needs to dress more feminine before he "destroys his family."

To the dad freaking out about the Angel video- in the Bible the Angels are described like that! That’s why they’re called “Biblically ACCURATE Angels”!

One of the worst things when you cut your parents of is when you realize that the only reason you appear to feel worse now/ have more symptoms is because you don't have to be afraid of the consequences anymore, and you just have years of pent up pain and trauma expressing itself at the same time. And then your stupid brain is still going to ask you if you really did the right thing by leaving, because that's the kind of traces manipulative people leave with you. To that little voice, yes, yes it was the right thing to do. Hope everyone who's escaped terrible parents in the comments have a great life full of happiness and fulfillment

Everytime I get mad at my parents I watch these and compare parents and realize that I’m in a better situation than I think

Mom: I’m your parent not your friend Also mom ten years down the line: WHY DON'T MY KIDS TALK TO ME 😭

Now we all love Lexi and the voices she uses when she sees those cute wittle animals, but seriously *please* give one those subreddits to Robin. At least for a day!!!

5:38 Got a friend who's kind of like that. We can set up a day and time, be like. Okay, that's where we can meet. But like somethings always up. Last time right before I checked my phone messages to make sure nothing had changed since we agreed in a place and time, I got a "So what then?" Again, I didn't read that until I was about to leave. So I'm just like "Yes, we just agreed on it, *what have I said that made you think otherwise?*" (I'm still without an answer to that.) And I started walking there,, got no messages on my way, later got there and called them a few times, waited a few minutes. Left afterwards. They apparently thought it was unclear if we were gonna hang out or not, so they did something else with that time.

30:07 so I was playing a video game while listening to this, and I literally snapped my neck when you said “okay to abuse her” because I thought the mom actually put it. Honestly I love that you added that because the mom may of as well said that.

Okay so, my mother tried doing the whole "I'm not your friend I'm your mom" AFTER WORKING HER WAY INTO MY FRIEND GROUP FOR DND When I got mad at her because she was telling an (ex)friend of mine about my personal life when he started cyberstalking me, she proceeded to ground me. For 2 months. Because I "had an attitude" when she was telling a guy 4 years older than me about my personal life an encouraging him to harass me.

The fact this goes from pure comedy and absolute jokes to a sad story is crazy

I think the more rage he has, the more southern he gets.

“He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn’t your daddy.” Yondu, _Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2_