Today we're discussing 2 interesting examples of 'pick up artists' and self-proclaimed 'self help gurus' in small KZfaqr Jay Mistry and somehow bestselling author Mark Manson - both are an absolute danger to men and women based on the advice they give people and we really need to talk about it. Update: Between writing my script and finishing editing this video Jay has deleted nearly 400,000 views worth of videos including some of the ones I spoke about in this video... so that's interesting. 0:00 Introduction 4:32 Approaching 3,000 "Girls" 14:29 The KZfaq Channel 16:48 Dangerous Mental Health Advice 42:29 Terrible Dating Advice 58:15 Reviewing Mark Manson's 'Models' 1:15:53 Is She Into Me? Probably Not. 1:25:01 9 Versions Of The Same (AI?) Book

i love how he's mad about women saying "i bet you say that to all the girls" in a book where he explains how he says that to all the girls

Telling people they're "a character" that they're "playing" just sounds like a recipe for depersonalisation if anyone is susceptible to that

Dating with self harm: The fifth category of men seem to be understanding at first but then very much fetishize your scars.

This is so dangerous. Just acting as if you could outdiscipline mental illness. You can be as disciplined as it gets, if your mental illness includes extreme fatigue, shutdowns and dissociations you don't stand a chance. Your brain is the one doing the discipline, and if it's sick, there's no "outbraining" the brain.

One guy told me “If you stop seeing yourself as the victim your depression will go away.” 😂 I don’t even know where to start… Honestly love it when guys show their emotional and social immaturity right out the gate. No wasting my time

"No man who is adored by women isn't creepy sometimes." Counter argument: Keanu Reeves.

I think this guy is actually even more dangerous. Build up your muscles so you can overpower women and fight off any challenges; build up communication skills so you can talk yourself out of any situation; and so on…. I may be older and more bitter but it screamed ‘recruitment’ to me….

I once had a health teacher who put it this way. "You have a really bad cold and go to see the doctor, you don't feel embarrassed. Therefore, you shouldn't feel embarrassed if you need to see a doctor for your mental health."

I appreciate how passionate, clear, and fleshed-out Rachel's videos are, particularly when the subject material is so distressing. I'm so glad she's able to put such important videos out.

"Women's radiance decreases over the years"... Eh, could it be because we have decades of dealing with men like that absolute CREEP under our belt?

he straight-up said "if you're depressed just stop it" 💀

When i was self-harming in my early twenties, it very much was because i hated myself and thought i needed punishment. Every time i would swear never to do it again and make a bunch of plans to be the most productive, healthiest person ever-and when i missed those goals i hated myself more and was more tempted to cut. I didn’t need to grit my teeth and get up early; i needed medication and therapy and to realize that most of the things i was punishing myself for were actually abuse i was too naive and vulnerable to escape, not sins or failures of mine. This “advice” that boils down to “have you tried NOT being mentally ill?” is incredibly banal and insulting, while also as Rachel said being dangerous.

I think he’s right about the three things I want in life as a man. I’m disabled physically so I do want a body that functions well; as a therapist I do want money to not be stressed about bills and so I can open up my own therapy practice; and as a gay man I do want lots of women in my life as friends that we can mutually bring each other support and joy!

Wow. That thing about "the character you've been playing" is doubly creepy. One, it's telling someone: "You're not a real person anyway!" That's not helpful, especially at a time like that. Two, it's a giveaway that he doesn't see anyone as a real person, _including himself._ He's been playing a character his whole life to manipulate the world and he doesn't see a problem in admitting it. Yikes.

"Don't be depressed, it could be so much worse" I wonder why this hasn't ever helped me. Maybe I'm just awful and dumb. Idk.

he kept talking up audiobooks so much I was fully expecting an audible sponsorship to pop up at the end of his videos lol

Dude really told other men to "smize". Every time I hear these dudes' advice, it reminds me of the time I had this routine pulled on me while I was walking the dog alone and it was so weird and off-putting that I legitimately thought the guy was casing the neighborhood. And what's wild is: that guy was not unattractive! If I'd been on OKC or something, I probably would have clicked on his profile, but he blew it by being a Grade A creep! Also, that Don't Kill Yourself pep talk sounded like the random conversations I have with my mom when I'm just riffing. Like: "My apartment is pretty small but at least I wasn't born as a the earwig I vacuumed up the other day..." Real enlightening, thanks.

"see if she passes the vibe check" I hope I fail ALL of his vibe checks so he leaves me alone lol

25:51 I once got a death threat by text for being a fat b**** while I was running on the treadmill. I’ve been told twice in as many years to kill myself for being a fata** while having eating disorders. The gym lecture will never be enough for toxic people.

These men made me nauseous, but it was good to listen while im working with disgusting food in shit kitchen. It fits!

Rachel if you happen to see this, thanks for helping me understand I shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting children and finally gain the courage to ask for a refferal to an autism specialist. I'm 24 in the year or so I've been watching your videos you've said so many things that really made me think or even inspired me to research things on my own. Thanks for all the great video essays and getting me thinking in a good way.

THANK YOU for speaking about self-harm in adults and correcting misinformation. I used to self-harm in my pre-teens, teenage years, and adolescence and now it's about 10 years since I stopped cutting which I'm extremely proud of because it was NOT easy to quit. I now have several tattoos covering most of my scars so people don't usually recognize them (they just see a tattooed woman lol), but still, it was a huge part of me coping with childhood and even young adult trauma. However, I still get furious when people misunderstand self-injury and self-harming behavior and they don't even make the effort to understand.

love how this guy meets one woman with a history of self-injury and he then makes a video acting like he is an authority on it. truly the audacity of man. I also am an adult that currently deals with self-injury and it really is frustrating how the majority of discourse on it focuses on teens and people rarely considers adults who currently injure themselves. Its also funny to me how he think that people seemingly cant both experience self-injury and also be productive??? (like your experience you mentioned.) its just so simplistic. Also harm reduction is very much a valid way to approach self-injury that is underutilized IMO. "Just stop and replace with exercise" or whatever isn't achievable for a lot of people, and its dangerous to shame people who can't manage to abstain like how most people expect people who self-injure to manage it. but harm-reduction requires a degree of nuance and autonomy that people like Jay can't wrap their heads around.

Dear Rachel, as a fellow autistic woman (very late diagnosis) who has also self harmed into adulthood, I am so thankful for your openness about your struggles. I love your videos anyway but this was sth I wanted to comment on. We need to talk more about self harm in adults. We need to stop the endless shame about this topic and sign post where to find help, explain the multiple complex reasons for it and give others who suffer ways to express themselves and show them that there are not alone. ❤

All these pick-up artists live in this weird little fantasy world where everyone is heterosexual, it's kinda wild

My partner deals with self harm, and it's really hard to find help as an adult! We're in our 30s and it seems like after 18 services targeted towards it (and other things like eating disorders) disappear. Like you, he's looking to get some tattoos as motivation. The past couple years he's seen a ton of improvement too. Self harm seems a lot like substance use. It's often an urge and a fear, lapses can happen, for many people it can be lifelong, but also functional recovery is possible at any age. Thank you for drawing attention too. It's your own personal health information and none of us are owed it, even if you've shared in the past. It means a lot to see other adults dealing with it and talking about it.

It's also morbidly fascinating when you're someone with scars that aren't self-harm scars, and honestly don't even look "clean" enough to be considered as such, in my opinion, but the guys who think you're easy prey, or have that saviour complex to them, start armchair diagnosing you. Love seeing their faces fall when I tell them I got the scars from being a careless kid who fell down a lot, AND I'm a psychologist, and proceed to point out everything they did and assumed wrong. Most don't stay around long enough to hear the whole list. Then again, maybe more people than I think don't know what self-harm scars look like, because an.ex thought my stretch marks we're self-harm scars...

'Replace cutting with working out' is essentially 'replace cutting with an eating disorder', so, replace with one kind of self injury with another. Like, it would be really easy for an excersise replacement to spiral into an eating disorder, for hunger to give you the same feelings that cutting does. It's such a dangerous suggestion.

I just want to say, from a SH-addict, thank you so much for all the trigger warnings / censors / timestamps etc that you provide when this topic is being covered. I wouldn't say I'm in recovery, but I'm 'abstaining' for lack of a better word. And I recently accidentally wounded myself (not deliberate at all) but it's brought back all the urges and feels to do it. I'm right now in a very vulnerable state regarding SH so I appreciate SO much you recognising not everyone is in the mental state to hear about that topic

Wait, you are telling me I could have avoided a couple hospital stays & years of therapy by just listening to a couple audio books? Who knew!? 🤦🏽‍♀️

What the heck did I watch “k your mental self not your physical self” NEWSFLASH they are both linked. That was such harmful, disgusting advice. People who are suffering cannot simply just think their way out of it. 😢 I truly hope no one ever takes his awful advice.

The “just go to the gym” is so stupid. When my mental health was at its worst, including self-harm and being suicidal, I also trained martial arts five to six times a week. I was on my country’s national team and won a bunch of trophies at national tournaments and traveling to international ones. I went to weekend seminars with Japanese grandmasters all over the country whenever I could. And yep, I also went to the gym and went jogging in addition to training at the dojo. I don’t think I could’ve worked out much more before it would’ve been harmful. And yet I still hurt myself and wanted to die. Weird, huh?

rachel !! you’ve been looking so radiant ur last few uploads! idk i just wanted to tell you you’re glowing ♡

If someone stopped me while we were alone and tried to kiss me, the urge to run away would be immeasurable. He would not want to be between me and the door once the fight or flight response kicks in, let alone hope for anything "spicy" happening. It's just so disgusting to even think about.

...oh my goodness. I am so, so grateful for you articulating how self-injury can be a form of self-care, in a way. I've been struggling for so, so long myself to make sense of that and put it into words, but you *nailed* it, and so simply and eloquently. Thank you so much, Rachel. ♥

I don't think you'll see this but I want to say thank you for being so honest and normalizing talking about SH. it's something I've struggled with and many of my friends have as well (it's unfortunately extremely common among queer and neurodivergent people) and I think it's so misunderstood. The wide variety of reasons people do it, how complex it is to stop, how it functions often as a genuine addiction. I wish it was discussed more in healthy and safe ways. One specific thing I think is so ignored is the variety of what can be SH. I didn't believe what I do was a problem for years because it doesn't leave scars or marks that last for more than a few hours/few days. Yet it still functions the same way and gives me a sense of control over my emotions. I'm trying to stop now but it's so hard, but I'm so proud of you and everyone else who is succeeding, even a dramatic reduction in frequency is so impressive.

I get the sense that these type of "self help gurus" really think they're being helpful, which makes it all the more troubling 😕

Do they imagine themselves as male protagonists in romance films or something? Well, it's about time they stop imagining women as being actors playing characters, because this is real life, and we're just normal human beings. This guy failed to learn that one obvious fact after allegedly having approached 3000 women...pathetic.

I'm an adult woman who's been dealing with depression literally for as long as I can really remember. (Probably also autism, but I haven't been diagnosed yet.) I had this one male housemate in undergrad, and we were chatting about depression one afternoon. He admitted he had dealt with it, but he said he realized one day how selfish it was, and that was that. Like, all he had to do was say to himself, "This is a selfish activity," and he was cured for life. I don't know how I responded, but I distinctly remember thinking, "Yeah...yeah, you know what? F*ck you." He later turned out to be far weirder than I ever imagined-along the lines of, he talked a good game, but it was clear he'd never actually been with a woman. He also made very strange comments about my relationship with my boyfriend at the time, who (looking back) was a decent guy, just a bit immature.

One of my best friends has self harmed since we were teens, thank you for talking about it in adults. People often don’t acknowledge adults struggle with it too

Some people just don't understand that "exercise can help with mental health" doesn't equate to "your depression will disappear if you exercise in this precise way I like to exercise."

It's really cute how your doggo looks at you smiling - she's in love

As a former self harmer who has never spoken professionally about my near 20 years long experience with self harm whilst trying to cope with CPTSD and BPD I found your frank and moving explanation of how you coped and at times I was so still I caught myself feeling so emotional as you talked in such a striking and eloquent way. Proud of you Rachel, I always consume your videos when i want to learn something new about an interesting topic I especially love your own sub genre of Fundies and i love getting glimpses of my favourite snuffle queen Kyra,speaking of which; when I hear the adoring way you talk to hear, I’m genuinely happy to hear from a fellow furbaby mum. Kids? Pah!! We got paws. 🐾 ❤

Imagine trying to attract a woman by showing her your genuine personality while trying to get to know her and learn what her interests are. That would be crazy, right? Women clearly don't want to be treated like human beings, right? That would be crazy! Love your videos, Rachel! Your points are always very well researched and eloquently said. You look smashing today, as well!

I hate how he “gives advice” to teenage boys and young men. We are so impressionnable when we’re young and its so easy for an insecure guy to hear what he says and believe that it’s the truth, that girls like “real men” that act like this and that. My worst experiences have been as a teenager with another guy who fits in his definition of “a real men” and its shit. Because in this definition, theres no consent and you feel just like an object serving its use.

Kissing someone without consent is sexual assault. Spanking, pulling hair, choking someone without consent is a VIOLENT form of sexual assault. 💔💔💔

Ain’t no way this guy approached 3000 girls, but maybe he did and got rejected 3000 times 😂 Edit: I didn’t know you were autistic, Rachel. I’m impressed how well you speak. I’m an autistic guy and can still struggle with that.

Loving the hair, you look great!!

Some advice for Rachel or anyone suffering with cutting. There is this pen. It has mint so it stings a little, but it doesn't actually harm you, it helped my friend a lot with their self-harm, it doesn't leave a mark, and if you do it because you like to see blood you can get one with red ink. If you can't afford it then you can get some mint oil and dab it where you want to cut. It helped me, not sure if it will help others, but I hope it helps someone

24:20 i completely understand. I think this self care aspect is why getting tattoos is an effective coping tool for self harm.

I'm glad you are doing these videos to call out these self proclaimed "pick up artists'" crap. I find it disgusting and harmful that they think it's great advice to not value women and men who are vulnerable. It's scary and sad. I just hope to god no one falls for their crap but sadly some people are

Rachel I just want to say I’ve been watching you for years and I really admire your strength and intelligence. You’ve been through so much, yet you continue to persevere and grow, and you speak about these topics with empathy and kindness. Your work isn’t going unnoticed ❤

i know im days late to this, but the self harm discussion is really important to me. i speak openly about being an addict, my substance of choice was alcohol - i didn't try other substances except weed, and im glad i never did. many people think that me being an alcoholic (about 5 and a half years sober as well) means i can't call myself an addict. my *first* addiction was various forms of physical self harm, eventually cutting. addiction is not limited to substance, but is heavily characterized by taking over parts of our lives in unmanageable ways, or leading us to continuous harm that doesn't change what's stressing us. the way you speak about not making a choice to do it so much as dissociating and havign reality come back after reminds me of the way i hear people in the rooms of narcotics anonymous talk about using against their will. despite my better knowledge, it's the fix i knew. it was the release, it was the quickest coping method i had to change how i felt mentally and physically. there is a genuine addiction element to self harm for SO many people!!!

I hate gym bros who think the gym is the solution to all your problems. Exercise and moving your body helps yes but its like saying tea with honey will cure your strep throat, it'll help elleviate some symptoms but it wont cure you, you need a doctor. And thats any form of exercise because the gym is not a safe/ comfottable space for everyone.

The closest thing I have to a pick up line would be, "So, do you like Star Wars are comic books?"

As someone who is suicidal: I am genuinely sorry to hear about your trauma, Rachel. I hope you have adequate help now, and for what it's worth: I am grateful you're here to educate us.

Rocking the hair! Vibes are vibing!

"IF" you can pull it off?? Of course you can, you're Rachel fucking Oates!! Can't wait to see it! 👏👏💕

I tried to substitute self harming with sport and I just found out how to self harm with exercises, whitch was a lot worse, because I've damaged my body a lot more that way. The marks on my skin don't hurt at all now, but my herniated disks and all the other trauma are debilitating at times...

I love how you worded that video title. Often titles of vids like this say "... need(s) to be stopped", but you worded it like it should be, _they_ need to stop. Of their own accord. They need to take responsibility and realize how toxic and harmful their own thoughts and words are.

Excellent video. I respect your sacrifice in watching and reading that tripe. Thanks Rachel!

I'm autistic and have adhd. I was feeling pretty poorly in 2022 due to stress related to so many thing happening. I was thinking about the good old "focus on the positives" but then I got into that toxic positivity mindset pretty quickly earlier yesterday. That idea that people who are experiencing success might hide their feelings or bottle them because they can't be sad. Because they're doing so well there's no way they're struggling. Or the whole "I'm not doing as bad as some African kid without shoes so I shouldn't complain." this happens way to often. Sure when you're doing poorly you learn to value the things you have inevitably. I remember during covid I was grateful for things I knew many people didn't have and I wasn't doing as bad. I have a decently sized balcony, I had coffee at home everyday, I live in an area that is more residential so I was able to walk around here without getting in too much trouble. I wasn't doing so bad not compared to others but looking inside myself. Mental health is so much harder than writing affirmations. It messes with you really badly. I remember feeling like an idiot because I was aware of my struggles, yet I didn't act upon them. I knew why I was failing. I knew it was my newly diagnosed adhd. But having had the same mentality for 20+ years meant that I couldn't just act upon it. It's not as easy as "If you struggle doing things just do them" I wish it was that easy. I know because I get dopamine boosts from doing things I love. But because I feel a certain way, I can hardly ever set my mind to do those things. I love doing graphics design work. But I was never able to sit there and complete the work I had to do for my university exams. I love cycling. Yet I was never able to fully set my mind to actually go because it feels like such a big task. Regardless of the fact I love riding my bike a lot. At the same time I knew that what was happening with my body (the pretty bad chronic gastritis outburst I had that year) was outside of my control. But somehow I still felt guilty that I was doing something wrong. I genuinely hope that my perspective and experience will help someone see things for how they are compared to the gramourized versions we see online or in movies.

"You will always overthink, act before your thoughts rot your mind" Loads of people definitely underthink. Many could benefit from thinking MORE. "Smile through your eyes and don't be the first to look away". Tyra Banks also taught us to smile with our eyes (it's called smizing, you uncultured swine), but that is for posing in pictures. Genuine joy SHOWS in the eyes. Sounds to me like what he means to say is "don't let them see you are faking positive feelings". It feels very "day one of acting class", and damn how I hate that finding love/sex has become this crap. Oh how lovely to meet someone who is good at FAKING they ENJOY MY COMPANY. And yeah, never admit when you actually DO (because compliments are validation and me having that would be THE WORST). Imagine if I knew you think I'm a fun to be around, charming, insightful? SUCH A TURNOFF! For real, some men are like "never give a woman validation" and "would you rather talk to a tree or a woman" at the same time and like, guysssss? 3 a day is absolutely wild. Bahahaha the #10. This guy did NOT follow #9 "don't be an annoying cringey dickhead".

I've watched a whole video with my mouth dropped

This one really hit home for me Rachel. I have a problem with self harm in both verbal and physical forms (the verbal punishment is a real kicker because it has alienated me from others all my life…). The way you described it really clicked with me in a way that I feel nobody ever understands… I look up to you so much, and seeing how you’ve been making good progress, in addition to your way of just putting the feeling to words (like the brain fog where it feels like you don’t choose), brings me such hope. I’ve been in a bad cycle, and this gave me the courage to start seeking more help again. Thank you so much for all you do!

Aaaah, editing a video, having a cup of coffee, and listening Rachel dumping on silly men. Best way to spend a Saturday 🥰

I can't wait to hear more about your book, Rachel! So exciting. I will be sure to read it.

I haven't watched the video yet, just started it, but wanted to say that I'm really excited for this one, and you're looking extra stunning!!

I saw this video where a guy saw a woman he was interested in eating with her friends and the first thing he did when he approached her was ask if he could have a minute of her time. I thought it was really sweet that he 1 approached her in a public place where she wasn't alone and 2 made sure the interaction was consensual.

Re: women are replaceable: If something were to happen to partner I do know I could live without her and maybe find love again. But that doesn't mean she's replaceable. It means she's in my life because I want to be with her, not because I need to. I could live without her, but I don't want to. I hope we get to grow really old together.

It’s OK Rachel. It’s OK don’t worry about it. I wanted to see this.

Rachel I love listening to your videos while doing chores. Your voice is so calming, you are well-spoken and the strength and perseverance that shines through the stories of your personal life is admirable. That's all. I hope you have a wonderful day ❤ lots of love to Kyra Edit: I love your sarcastic humor it always cracks me up 😂

This video was legitimately so healing for me. Thank you for all your well-researched videos.

It took me years to realise that self 'harm' was actually a reward for me. It had nothing to do with self hatred. somewhat recently the DSM even acknowledges this by including non-suicidal self harm as a sensory seeking behaviour particularly in autistic people (like me). There are also plenty of societally acceptable ways to feel pain (like going too hard at the gym, violent sports). So i did deal with a lot of people judging my scars and just making assumptions. I do feel shame for my scars and try my best to hide them. I also acknowledge that many people do self harm because they are hurting, and it is not my place to judge others or guess the reason why anyone else has scars.

I'm not sure he actually *does* think it's worth £50 a month, but he *does* know that his own income stream from all this depends on him promoting that kind of crap and attracting the sort of person who falls for that kind of crap. See also: flat-earthers, crypto scammers, Amazon refund scammers, televangelists, ...

I love your hair Rachel! Great video. Thank yoi

Give that bear some pants!

I haven't self-harmed in years. I went to the hospital for it as a teen, and ever since, I have been terrified of that happening again. I've had some urges to do it again at points, but I haven't since then. I've been able to listen to and watch things about self-harm after that, but for some reason, I couldn't listen to that section of the video today. I'm not really sure why, but I kept cringing and it kept bringing up visceral memories. I haven't felt that kind of thing in a long time. Thank you for having the warnings Rachel, and also having chapters so that I could easily skip right when I knew it was to much for me. You're such a help and light on KZfaq, talking about important topics, being real, and being supportive of all people.

Super off-topic, but wow, didn't know you had autism! I've been doubting whether or not I fit the criteria (mostly unlearning all the harmful stereotypes about autism I've grown up around) and seeing such a confident, bright, well-spoken independent woman also being in the spectrum has opened my eyes girl Gonna take the steps into getting my diagnosis soon hopefully 💪💪 Thanks! ❤❤

I always look forward to your videos ❤❤❤

Happy for the progress you're making ❤

Thank you for opening up about how you are still recovering. Really made me feel seen and valid

Your tattoo is so gorgeous! It's great to see that you are doing better :)

I'm excited for your new poetry book, I recently purchased your reflection on healing poems book after hearing your poem Puppet Master on this channel. It has inspired me and helped diminish my inferiority complex when it came to writing poetry and now I'm working on a few books to publish myself with full confidence, so thank you so much for that .

A new book??? Aaaah how exciting! Love the shorter hair, really suits you. And I love how Kyra looks at you with so much love.

24:00 thanks for talking about this. In training to volunteer in crisis counseling, one of the things I learned was to ask about this kind of self-care. We are there to listen to their experiences and we often ask what kind of self-care they can practice to make what they feel the need to do be safer. People often feel shamed for doing that. I certainly did as a teenager and none of my friends are aware of my adult history with it.

Can't wait for your book, it sounds amazing!

Have Just started the Video but in just gonna say: Love the Hair. The colour is amazing and the cut suits you really well. Plus that eye Shadow is fire

Right to a bad start with that reddit post title. If someone has dated over 3000 people, it just tells me that they either have a very loose definition of dating or change partners faster than socks. You certainly can't see all your dates as individuals with that number. And naturally that leads to bad results, because it's pretty obvious from the start if someone is hitting on you just because of your gender/genitals instead of you as a person.

"be thankful you're a human." You mean be thankful that I'm a species that's self aware to be depressed? Being human is why I'm feeling this way in the first place. He has no idea what he's talking about.

I usually don't comment as I am more of a passive viewer but congratulations on your progress! Also that design looks amazing! What helped me will sound quite cliché, I would curb the urges by drawing over my old scars with a sharpie and try to come up with a cover up. I want to get my cat tattooed as I always used her as a cover (on hindsight that was such an obviously bad cover since sh looks too organized for a cat's work and my cat was the sweetest angel)

So excited for the book Rachel is making, it sounds really cool. This is my favourite KZfaq channel because of her personality and the way she explains things, how she values art, helping people, and hopefully making the world a better place. I find Rachel very relatable and easy to agree with, despite living a very different life from her. These videos are thoughtful yet easy listening whenever I’m doing laundry, working on an art project, on a bike ride (etc). I love passion projects and I’m sure I’ll get a lot out of reading the book when it comes out!

It really feels to me like this guy made up the story about talking to a woman with scars from self-harming because he liked the “cute” little narrative he created around it. It seems unlikely that a woman would have just told this creeper all about her self-hatred during a brief, surface-level interaction where he (a stranger) is approaching her. It seems disingenuous to me…and his simplistic conclusions are so one-dimensional, but he seems to think he’s sharing some kind of deep wisdom. These guys are a dime a dozen online.

So glad I never read that “subtle art of not giving a fűck” book. I guess it’s a best seller because Amazon pushes it in every single “for you” section for years on end.

Thanks for letting me know about Marc Manson. I feel both embarassed and ashamed for being excited for The Subtle Art.

I cannot believe this man actually suggested that waking up at 2am to write emails would fix your mental health. He's just....there are so little words.

I'm so early and happy!

Just when I thought that I couldn't dislike Mark Manson more... 🤮

Bro really said “have you tried just being mentally healthy?” and thought he solved self-harm