When An InstaFundie Writes A Book (Karissa Collins)
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Күн бұрынHi all, today I'm reviewing the book 'Should we stop?' by Karissa Collins.
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0:00 Who Is Karissa Collins?: A Recap
9:09 Karissa Does Not Like Me
15:54 A One Star Book
24:16 Never Too Old For Kids
29:13 Who Needs Quality Time?!
39:21 Overpopulation? Just Put Everyone In Texas!
45:45 Stop Thinking, Silly!
49:53 KYRA TIME
58:49 Karissa's "Music"
01:02:30 Barbie Bad.
01:07:15 Who Cares About Health?!
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
My beautiful necklace in this video was made by my wonderful friend Nervardia: www.youtube.com/@Nervardia Go send her some love :)
@CoreenMontagna 4 ай бұрын
It’s gorgeous!
@misskid7689 4 ай бұрын
You always look fabulous and I love your videos but I don't usually comment. I was totally going to ask about this necklace tho, so glad you mentioned where you got it ❤ Also you are amazing ❤❤
@taylorexploresmore 4 ай бұрын
Such a beautiful piece! Wow! 💚🌿
@hexmaniacalexis 4 ай бұрын
oh i just commented asking this 😂 leaving it up for the algorithm anyway haha
@ladylazulisystem6766 4 ай бұрын
I'm always so jealous of ur amazing looks! Like idk where u find ur outfits but theyre AMAZING & also look super comfy. Anyway, love ur vids & content & keep up the good work!
@camiladeandreis1930 4 ай бұрын
"pregnancy keeps us from aging as quickly" is she a sim????
@missjackson627 4 ай бұрын
Underrated comment!! 🤣🤣
@Claudia18915 4 ай бұрын
She is actually just doing the 100 baby challenge in real life
@radschele1815 3 ай бұрын
Also, is she stupid. Pregnancies are a strain on the body. Your body is aging faster with Pregnancies.
@T0ya 3 ай бұрын
It's such a weird thing to say b/c there are studies showing that pregnancy ages you several months to years and that multiple pregnancies compounds this...
@princessoftheworld1107 2 ай бұрын
😂she's going to be rudely awakened
@a_wyrd_witch 4 ай бұрын
Literally using your child as a moderator for questions about the spouse is disturbing! Why would anyone put their child between that?!
@kyleyoung8476 4 ай бұрын
That video has NEVER made sense to me. And then it was like awkward couples therapy only the therapist never talks and is a child and it isn't therapy haha
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
It could be cute if a couple actually likes each other. Ask me and my husband to imitate the other when we’re made, and we’d start teasing each other and laughing, aka displaying healthy interaction in front of our child and we have a healthy family dynamic. Our daughter will sometimes ask questions like about superpowers, and it’s fun. But if a couple doesn’t like each other, like these two, and a family lacks a healthy dynamic, then it has a kid literally stuck between two people who argue over even silly questions like superpowers. So it really depends on the particular couple and how they interact. The Collinses are just an example of dysfunction, and even happy events can’t be healthy for them.
@v3inbunny119 4 ай бұрын
Exactly what I thought
@HeiwaTori 4 ай бұрын
& like, those 'games' & videos are supposed to be playful & fun, never serious issues... & you include a friend or sibling not children
@emilybastong3896 4 ай бұрын
This entire clip was so cringe and awkward with them basically fighting on camera with their kid between them
@KH-zr6pt 4 ай бұрын
They went to LUNCH after their baby lost all control of her muscles??? And everyone else stayed to FINISH LUNCH????? How have any of her children made it past infancy with that level of "care" 😭
@KH-zr6pt 4 ай бұрын
I know that's from the other video (which I also plan on watching) but that was just shocking to me... It makes it seem like, because they have so many kids, they're not that concerned about any of them individually
@hannakarenina728 4 ай бұрын
She also talks about it in such an unbothered way, she doesn’t seem to realise how terribly they handled the situation. It’s horrifying.
@emmelineannie5236 4 ай бұрын
It made me cry!! Sepsis kills and it kills fast. The poor bubba is lucky to be alive.
@Anon_159 4 ай бұрын
Their sister mom takes care of them
@withyoctopus 4 ай бұрын
Being able to emotionally connect to their children is not a thing with with all parents.
@SarahL9568 4 ай бұрын
The way they speak to eachother is abhorrent! I genuinely feel bad. Imagine committing your life to someone and you hate them so much you can’t even act normal in a 10 minute video?! 😓
@SarahL9568 4 ай бұрын
My husband and I are best friends. Cant get enough of eachother for 12 yrs but I have endometriosis and I’ve failed ivf twice. I try to understand everything is random. But trash people getting pregnant 10 12 times is so hard for me to digest. They don’t care about the kids.. but it’s all gods will. Bullshit.
@MagnoliaPantherWoman 4 ай бұрын
Exactly. The first time I spoke to my ex that way, I knew it was over.
@hanatemonstas4485 4 ай бұрын
DONT TRANSLATE OR REPLY to @OfficerZ637 comment. Report to YT and move on.
@melissabattles3196 4 ай бұрын
Your disgusting comment has been reported to KZfaq.@@MagnoliaPantherWoman
@melissabattles3196 4 ай бұрын
@MagnoliaPantherWoman I reported a comment to KZfaq a moment ago by someone whose comment was under yours (Part of it was in English, and the other part was in some otjer language; when I used the auto translate it was a vile, offensive statement they'd made). For some reason, now it's tagged uour name with my comment to them acting as if I reported you. Just wanted you to know in case you saw it!
@catsncrows 4 ай бұрын
Now you'll get a cease and desist "stop saying we eat children😡"
@kaitlyn3588 4 ай бұрын
“She lost all control of her muscles…so we went to lunch…her eyes were just 🙄…so we went to the emergency room….”
@ambermariestewart 3 ай бұрын
"They tried to blame her sickness on us not vaccinating..." VALID. Maybe not directly, but both are signs of neglect so make sense to connect. Plus, omg be grateful - the medical professionals you're asking to treat your daughter are trying to figure out what ails her. You want them to ignore relevant factors like you did with symptoms? I hope these kids all heal ASAP
@hailieshouse 4 ай бұрын
wtf, I almost DIED from sepsis in 2021, my heart stopped, and she's just talking about it like nothing, AND it happened to her CHILD? I can't.
@happytofu5 4 ай бұрын
Not only that I think she sounded annoyed by her being sick. How could she have to be brought to the ER when we wanted to eat?!
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
@@happytofu5the child’s timing was exceedingly poor, it’s true. It just goes to show what kind of selfish person she’ll probably grow to be! 😾😾😾
@zekova 4 ай бұрын
Omg I also almost died from sepsis (I ignored my pneumonia ._.) in 2021!! Twinning! 🤣💀
@roadlesstraveled34 4 ай бұрын
My mother, my ex, and my girl friend all nearly died of Sepsis. It's REALLY scary and it's not something that can, like, sneak past you. Anyone with it LOOKS like they are dying BECAUSE THEY ARE. I can easily picture how that poor baby must have looked and felt. Any parent worth their weight in salt would be traumatized after this.
@myja100 3 ай бұрын
Hope you’re well now ❤
@lindseystein9676 4 ай бұрын
They had to have ignored many symptoms for quite some time in order for a UTI to turn into sepsis… That’s so sad.
@morgianasartre6709 4 ай бұрын
Probably left the other kids to look after the baby
@ashleyhall6098 4 ай бұрын
Karissa has proudly spoken before about how she only changes the babies' diapers 2x a day to save money. It's just a shock that more of them haven't gotten so sick from it.
@lizzybeary 4 ай бұрын
Wtf?! @@ashleyhall6098
@shogun19731 4 ай бұрын
@ashleyhall6098 she just let's them wear a dirty diaper??? Not only utis they would also get rashes like- if you can't afford the kids you have, stop having more 😭
@ashleyhall6098 4 ай бұрын
@shogun19731 yeah she bragged about it once but I haven't been able to find that screenclip since I saw it. I believe it was in a group chat of sorts. The dad talks about how he's beaten toddlers with spatulas. And they (allegedly) were involved in covering up sex abuse within their church. Truly awful people.
@PurelyCoincidental 4 ай бұрын
You know, I never thought of vaccines in this way, before watching this video, but when I'm sick, they mean that there's a long list of diseases that doctors know they can probably discount. That's incredibly valuable, especially for someone like me with an autoimmune disorder. Thanks, Karissa!
@meredithnavin1358 4 ай бұрын
That's a very good point.
@latronqui 4 ай бұрын
True, I didn't think about that either.
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
Excellent point and way to frame it. Having access to vaccines from birth is something we take for granted and it’s such a privilege. We are so lucky and we don’t even know.
@juu0n 4 ай бұрын
unfortunately you can still get illnesses even if you’ve been fully vaccinated. they won’t be as intense or life threatening, but it’s still a possibility. the effectiveness of a vaccine depends solely on our immune systems, so some people still get sick and others never get the illness again. the tuberculosis vaccine is given to infants, but only in places where TB is common enough to cause an issue. i think in this situation her kids probably wouldn’t have been given that vaccination even if she wasn’t anitvax. i got it because i wasn’t born in the US, and i always get asked what the weird dots on my arm are lmao- if you see a grid patterned scar on someone’s arm that’s from the TB vaccine.
@hakayonder3396 4 ай бұрын
@@juu0n They're required in many EU countries and I honestly don't see why they shouldn't be required everywhere. TB is not dead and if people are unprotected then it only has more chances to spread. It seems like the kind of disease that will not die as long as humans live, same how some insects evolved to live in our houses and we'll never eradicate them.
@warlordofbritannia 4 ай бұрын
I met a girl back in high school who was suffering from parentalization. The burden she carried was so heavy she eventually snapped and tried ending it all….few things affected me more than how heart-wrenching it was, listening to her berate herself for her attempt-not because she could have died but because she felt she was letting her siblings down. She was a brilliant, beautiful girl and I hope she’s a brilliant beautiful woman now.
@JamieLBW 4 ай бұрын
I literally gasped when she said her daughter was feverish and suddenly limp AND THEY WENT TO LUNCH. She should not have been allowed to take that baby home
@blue_shoes8715 4 ай бұрын
The cease and desist letter really feels like an admission. The number of times they bring up p*doph*lia is really concerning. What are they and their church doing behind closed doors?
@shouldbewritig 4 ай бұрын
Right? Maybe it’s common with babies, I don’t know, but the UTI for me was also kind of suspicious since I know it’s relatively uncommon for children. (Babies I don’t know because of the whole diaper and wiping situation like how they say don’t wipe baby girls back to front)
@faust9488 4 ай бұрын
@@shouldbewritig exactly! thats what i was thinking too, very weird
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
I only have a boy child so can’t comment on the diaper issue, but I know overall folks with vaginas get UTIs more than folks with a penis. But anyone can get one. I’ve only gotten them in conjunction with sexy times a couple of times. Ugh, not fun. I bet they don’t change their babies often enough.
@faust9488 4 ай бұрын
@@edvh88 the "best" outcome would definitely be that instead of something else really grim happening, again, im paranoid when it comes to kids and i heard that UTIS can be a red flag
@deathmetalmermaid 4 ай бұрын
@@shouldbewritig coupling that with the fact that they put off taking her in for so long makes it doubly suspicious
@lottiebirdie 4 ай бұрын
It sounds like the hospital was worried about meningitis and not TB in her baby. The US does not routinely vaccinate for TB, compared to H flu (a common cause of meningitis in unvaccinated infants). I wouldn’t nitpick normally but it speaks to her lack of comprehension when dealing with health information. I don’t know why she would think she’s qualified to speak on how fertility or pregnancy works.
@colleen.g 4 ай бұрын
Ah, that makes sense! It didn't sound like a typical tuberculosis presentation and as you say, the vaccine isn't commonly administered any more in the US. Meningitis makes a lot of sense.
@annafe9920 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for saying this, I was so confused why they'd suspect TB in the USA
@lynnfrancke7926 4 ай бұрын
came here to make this exact comment! The medical staff was worried about meningitis, not TB. Scary how this woman has 10 kids but doesn't have a basic understanding of common childhood illness and symptoms.
@mianagy 3 ай бұрын
She thinks she’s qualified simply because she’s done it a bunch of times and she trusts god and denies science. At least that’s what I’ve gathered. It’s terrifying honestly. I hope no one is actually listening to what she’s saying and advising.
@Microbrielle 3 ай бұрын
@@annafe9920 I work in a TB lab in my local hospital in Canada, people are diagnosed with TB every few days, it’s actually a leading cause of death worldwide. I agree this baby probably was at risk of meningitis or sepsis due to either the uti or being unvaccinated, but suspecting tb in and of itself, in the US, isn’t a rare or unlikely idea.
@megpie404 4 ай бұрын
My parents wanted multiple kids, but when my mum was pregnant with me, she got very sick and almost d*ed. I was born 10 weeks early due to my mum having a life-saving c-section. After everything that happened, the trauma to both my parents, the very high risk for her next pregnancy to actually k*ll her, and the risk of leaving me without a mum it made the decision to not have more kids pretty easy (their words not mine). How she can prioritise having more kids and pregnancy over her living and breathing children here on earth astounds me.
@2okaycola 4 ай бұрын
Maybe adoption could be an option
@megpie404 4 ай бұрын
@commentlikeshare they're past the point in their lives where they'd want more kids and due to various things when I was a child (undiagnosed autistic/chronically ill etc) it wouldn't have been suitable. If I'm ever able to support having kids financially/physically I'd love to adopt tho
@ash-is-napping 3 ай бұрын
Yeah they could adopt OUT their kids to other families. Then maybe they will get adequate care.
@leothenomad5675 4 ай бұрын
6:29 Wait, wait wait, your child has to go to the E.R and the father decides lunch us more important!?!?
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
Mother and father decided lunch was more important... and she says in another post that the baby started losing muscle control during a basketball game, so they waited until that finished, went to lunch and only THEN went to the hospital. Awful.
@leothenomad5675 4 ай бұрын
@@RachelOates Yikes!! That's even worse.
@lovers807 4 ай бұрын
Yeah I was screaming about that I was like omg no muscle control and you’re having Sunday lunch?!!! Go to the ER LADY!!
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
Right? My daughter is 14, and it takes MUCH less than that for my daughter’s father and I to drop ALL our plans to take care of her. The Collinses? Their kid is going limp and they gotta finish a game and go get lunch first. I’m not someone who runs to the doctor for ever little sniffle and fever and injury, and think most people are far too quick to run to the doctor (that shit’s resulted in the wait to see my doctor currently being two months), but a child going limp? We’re heading right to the ER. Immediately.
@purrgundy 4 ай бұрын
Exactly!! And she has the gall to pretend she'd die for her kids?! Please 🙄🙄🙄
@slushyslushfund9626 4 ай бұрын
One of my great aunts had a Collins-sized family. When the Duggars first got famous, her oldest daughter went on rants about how they were fucking the girls over. "At least I was able to leave the babies at home and get to be a kid for a few hours at school!" is a line I particularly remember. I can't imagine what she'd say about Karissa constantly risking death and *really* making her older daughters be their siblings mom.
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
I’ve yet to meet a large family where the older kids didn’t grow up to wish they had more parental time, privacy, food, time to be kids…. The younger ones always do better since there are fewer kids in the house as they’re growing up due to the oldest marrying and getting out. I’ve never, ever met a single family with more six or kids where all the relationships were healthy, and even the households with five were pushing it. No matter how much actual love there is, time is still finite, and children need the security of knowing their parents are there when they need them, rather than to not know if their parents will have time available to schedule in the next week. That’s just so sad to me. And when there are so many kids that you overlook them, the kids who are left out never get over knowing how there wasn’t enough care left for them.
@AshChiCupcak 4 ай бұрын
@@NoelleTakestheSky It's wild for me to look back on my Great grandmother who had 19 kids. Not for religious reasons though, it was the early 1900s and they were basically birthing employees to run their farm. She was a wonderful person unlike a lot of these brood mothers I've seen. She even received hand made jewelry monthly from a nearby Cherokee reservation. She had the respect of everyone. Never realized how special she was til I saw all these families.
@xoxorosequartz 4 ай бұрын
i’ve always hated being an only child but i’m honestly glad that i’ve never had to share my parents attention or ever had to help raise anybody and just be able to focus on myself
@zekova 4 ай бұрын
I have an Aunt and Uncle that live in Lithuania & they have 13 kids, all the oldest ones came back to the US though & somehow they're one of the healthiest families I know. Idk how the fuck they do it, but I swear they might be the only ones with a family that big that's also not dysfunctional as fuck.
@optiquemusic6204 4 ай бұрын
The notion of having such a large family outside of a cartoon series is horrifying to me.
@cedardelossantos5987 4 ай бұрын
Another thing to bring up about her “empty land” spiel is that a significant portion of this supposed “empty land” may very well be sacred or heritage sites for indigenous communities in the area. That whole section of the book screams “manifest destiny fantasy”.
@annabeinglazy5580 4 ай бұрын
Apart from the fact that plenty of those "empty Lands" are empty for a reason. Good luck building a homestead in the frigging Desert, especially tradwife style
@hotelbibles 4 ай бұрын
As someone who had a severe (near fatal) bladder infection as a toddler, I need people to know that it causes lifelong symptoms. My bladder is absolutely destroyed because of scar tissue. I have UTI symptoms regularly with no infection. I cannot tell if I need to pee or not because I literally always feel the need to pee, and I have to avoid carbonation, caffeine, alcohol, and capsaicin because they all irritate my bladder so badly that I will soil myself if I consume them in large quantities. Like, yes there is a chance it will have no lasting consequences, but I will be surprised if that poor baby doesn't have at least some of the (life altering) symptoms I've described later in life, all because of something that her parents could've easily avoided.
@teaganrichichi 4 ай бұрын
If this "lawyer" were to try bring this to court, this could put their license in danger
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
It’s an attempted SLAPP suit. I was named in one, and the attorneys who filed the case against me and a few other, claiming defamation by calling their client a felon, despite the fact that he literally was a convicted felon, lost their licenses in the end.
@user-ft3pj1nr6c 4 ай бұрын
@@NoelleTakestheSkythat’s interesting. I got an illegal c&d threatening a slapp suit from an HR person at a former employer (long story but it was definitely illegal to send me that lol) and it annoyed me that an attorney would sign off on that behavior. I did file charges against the HR person with the relevant agency but I didn’t think anything could happen to the attorney.
@gowanmetal 4 ай бұрын
So I gave birth 4 months ago, and it went as well as it possibly ever could. Super fast labor, unmedicated but was never too painful to handle, zero tearing or complications, beautiful 8lb baby. I loved labor, it was like riding a rollercoaster. I was absolutely the best case scenario and I am still healing at 4 months. I can’t imagine what 13 pregnancies would do to a person. I would never want anyone who wasn’t 💯 sure they wanted this to ever have to do it. Pregnancy, birth and parenting are completely all consuming and incredibly physically taxing. I was already pro-choice, but even though I had a great time, nothing has ever made me more pro-choice than pregnancy and birth. Parenting an infant is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’m on easy mode- my partner induced lactation so we’re both nursing and so we can trade off sleep shifts. Being queer parents comes with extra legal threats and hoops to jump too. Having the energy to handle those while also recovering physically and keeping up with 24/7 care is hard. We chose to dedicate this part of our lives to this process and I’m really happy with that, but it’s not an idle choice and I will not be doing this a dozen more times.
@jonathan_herr 4 ай бұрын
Not meaning to sound negative or dismissive or anything, but it kinda/shouldn't matter if you're a lesbian, gay or straight. I mean, not that you shouldn't be proud to be parents, and doing the share-the-load feeding thing is a smart idea. All I'm saying is that you should be parents first and foremost, and what TYPE/relationship style OF parents should be secondary. Normalizing the label of parent over the type of parental structure is a step towards societal acceptance of "nOnTrAdItIoNaL" familial structures. In a nutshell, you're "Parents that happen to be lesbian" not "Lesbians that happen to also be parents"
@guronyan6663 4 ай бұрын
@@jonathan_herrI don't really get where your comment on them being queer comes from...op only said that it gives them as a couple more legal trouble specifically and nothing else. in any case it's fine to recognize that dissident identities tend to have certain types of issues due to discrimination.
@egg_bun_ 4 ай бұрын
What an amazing story, thank you for sharing
@AW-uv3cb 4 ай бұрын
@@guronyan6663 And an extra reason for OP to mention it is that they're both partners who can lactate, which puts less physical pressure on the OP in the breast-feeding stage because they can switch. So the OP explains how parenthood is hard even though they were lucky to have the best possible physical outcomes in their birth and later. Yeah, I don't really get where this person's comment is coming from either, the OP literally approached it from the "parents that happen to be lesbian" perspective.
@elliesnotes 4 ай бұрын
100% agree. I had a baby 16 months ago and while my body is generally physically healed, my hormones still are adjusting (I am breastfeeding as well) and my mental health still needs looking after and my pregnancy and birth was also great. No PPD at all, and it was as smooth as general pregnancy and birth can be. My active labor was barely 12 hours and, while painful, wasn’t traumatic. But no way would I want anyone who didn’t want to go though it, go though it. It’s tough. I also plan on having more than one child, I want my son to have siblings but giving birth the first time did set my perspective to having one or two more for a total of 3 kids. I can’t imagine having so many. My husband has 16 siblings but they aren’t from the same mom. That’s between 4 different women with the same father. I can’t imagine the havoc that has been caused in her body but having so many kids so close together. It can’t be healthy.
@rachelnotluf4585 4 ай бұрын
I knew nothing of the lawyer that sent the Cease and Desist prior to this video, but I did a very quick search out of curiosity, and found an article from 2013 which mentions that she provided "free legal services" to a Las Vegas family with 9 children whose names all begin with "D" - and I thought, what are the odds?! Is this her thing?
@sadgirl2.0 4 ай бұрын
Oh my! That's odd, maybe she's a family practitioner/lawyer with a preference for quiverfull families?
@T0ya 3 ай бұрын
I can't believe the lawyer actually exists - the cease and desist letter was so poorly written I thought Karissa was just pretending to be a lawyer...
@maddieb.4282 27 күн бұрын
Probably a church affiliated person who happens to have a law degree
@tetsubo57 4 ай бұрын
If an adult strikes a child it is abuse. Full stop. Always has been, always will be.
@emmanarotzky6565 4 ай бұрын
Yeah I’m really confused at how they’re not in jail if they actually publicly admitted to hitting both kids and babies..? And beating them with an object? I don’t think they could convict based on the internet stuff because they could be lying/joking, but if anyone examined the kids they’d surely find evidence.
@scarletthanley5704 4 ай бұрын
I typically do not discuss grammar errors anymore, because education (and good education) is a privilege to have access to. However...you are right. She is homeschooling her children. She has a lack of understanding of even basic tools of language, and this is what the church wants.
@agravery223 15 күн бұрын
Yes I think most religious homeschooling is done for indoctrination purposes for your religion but also for the older children to NOT get a break to not parent the younger ones. Quiverful families NEED to parentify their elder children because 2 parents cannot truly watch over 10 kids. There just isn't enough time in a day. If the eldest kids went to school, who will cook, clean, & watch the younger ones???
@creamworks8798 4 ай бұрын
I'm finishing up a crochet UFO and this is exactly what I need to listen to while I do!
@claytonfitzgerald782 4 ай бұрын
Classic saucer?
@Amira_Phoenix 4 ай бұрын
You're a goofy one 😂👍
@caitxrawks 4 ай бұрын
I'm doing cross stitch! These types of videos are so great to listen to while crafting
@WitchOracle 4 ай бұрын
I need to make some baby mittens for a baby shower in two days, perfect video to keep me company!
@anothernightonmars 4 ай бұрын
I'm making blankets so I'm very excited to get something good to listen to as well!
@yamiswife101 4 ай бұрын
Before I started birth control at 18, I had 2 periods each month. I bled through heavy/overnight pads and could not eat the first two days. My cramps made me nauseous and my doctor gave me prescription Motrin at 800mg each. That was my high school life and it happens each time I run out. I hate how much the pills can cost without good insurance. I also hate when people try to say that the only reason why anyone takes it is for sex without kids. It’s even harder to plan your week around daily bleeding than children. You can’t send your period to daycare or a babysitter!
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
My daughter started when she had barely turned 9, and by 11, her periods were so heavy she had to go on the pill since she’d bleed nonstop. She’s 14 now and not even interested in kissing. I have bilateral tube blockage and needed IVF to have her. I’m infertile as can be! I have an IUD because of how much I bleed otherwise. Yeah, we totes use this shit to not get preggers, a virginal celibate barely-teen and her infertile mother….
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
I hate how awful periods are for so many people. Even for those of us with not super bad periods, it’s a waste of time, energy, money, it’s messy, what a pain. I don’t need the option to conceive every MONTH for like 40 years of my life!!! Wtf
@zekova 4 ай бұрын
I really recommend trying an IUD, specifically a hormonal one, it can lighten or completely stop your periods. I haven't had a period in 8 years because of my IUD. It's fantastic. More money upfront, but Planned Parenthood and sometimes certain women's health clinics that have federal funding will do it for cheap or free, depending on where you are or course. I will also add that some people's bodies reject IUDs, but that seems to be pretty rare. I think they have like an 80% satisfaction rate. 😅
@ChatMort69420 2 ай бұрын
I am so sorry. I was having similar issues and it’s indescribably awful. I had no quality of life until I got my IUD put in. Now I’m not bedridden and in excruciating pain all the time. I also have narcolepsy, and the medication I have to take for that in order to be functional would have extremely negative effects on a fetus, so I have to be on birth control. But I STILL had people try to talk me out of getting my IUD. I was bleeding every other week, and the one week in between periods, my hormones were going so haywire I was experiencing PMDD all the time. I had no idea how much havoc it was wreaking on me until I got Mirena. My moods are more stable, I’m not a danger to myself, and a lot of my back pain and intestinal issues have drastically improved because it turns out they were being caused by my inflamed uterus. The attack on these medications from the far right is so ignorant and dishonest.
@maddieb.4282 27 күн бұрын
The minipill is now available at an extremely reasonable cost OTC! You can find it in the aisle you would normally find condoms and stuff. Honestly it’s not good for everyone (you have to be so consistent taking it and obviously everyone has different side effects and bc works differently for everyone) but it’s a huge step towards birth control accessibility and affordability
@mikalcarruthers 4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry that Erica sent you a cease and desist letter and making lies about what you said about the Collins. It's so ridiculous and cowardly on her part
@seraphonica 4 ай бұрын
it makes me wonder how many people took down how much content because they felt bullied and couldn't afford a lawyer of their own to defend their lawful speech.
@kyleyoung8476 4 ай бұрын
I'm not. That's a dope story and I'm glad Rachel shut it TF down. It taught me something!
@ChristopherSadlowski 4 ай бұрын
Honestly, it wasn't worth the paper it was written on. It'd be kinda boss if Rachel read it to the camera and then ripped it up and threw it in the recycling. Because that's where a shitty "document" like that belongs. Or she could have simply ignored it.
@ouijacorn 4 ай бұрын
So what do we think? Did Karissa tell Erica that Rachel said those things and Erica is just too lazy to verify it, or did Erica make all of that up off the top of her head to intimidate Rachel?
@mikalcarruthers 4 ай бұрын
@@ouijacorn Both can be possible
@Goblin_book_nook 4 ай бұрын
Karissa has a point about there being a lot of empty land. I'm Canadian and a lot of Canada is pretty empty. Imagine how many more people we could fit in the country if only they were willing to live in the arctic circle. Sure there's no sun for half the year and it's too cold to grow any crops and there's a good chance you'll be eaten by a polar bear, but not living there is leading to the overpopulation of the less hostile parts of the country. /s
@minakiel2930 4 ай бұрын
not to mention the ‘empty land’ is super useless and doesn’t perform super important ecological processes /s
@pensivelyrebelling 4 ай бұрын
“Eaten by a polar bear” - they are starving thanks to climate change. 🤷🏼♀️😈
@JLB0880 4 ай бұрын
It’ll be prime real estate farm land in about 100 years.
@druidbottles 4 ай бұрын
And also, to further prove that her point is bullshit, arctic Canada is not empty! Inuit culture has thrived there for generations. Just because she's not seeing huge urban settlements doesn't mean the land isn't being used and populated by humans. If she really believes that overpopulation is a lie, then we're going to get to the point where even northern Nunavut looks like Toronto, and that sounds like the worst timeline, honestly.
@minakiel2930 4 ай бұрын
@@JLB0880 actually the soil quality is very poor for growing and all the gases trapped in the permafrost will change the pH. It won’t be useful and it’ll actually hurt our existing agricultural systems. Not all dirt is good for growing, and even if it was good, it’s very rocky because of Canada’s history of glacial activity in a relatively recent time period. Most crops that will need to be climate change resistant require tap roots that go down far into the soil. But if the geography is affected by recent glacial activity (can be from hundreds of thousands of years ago) the soil will not have built up enough to support those kinds of plants. It’s a real lose lose situation lol
@EmmaSower 4 ай бұрын
Rachel, I’ve been a fan for years and I have to say you are the only content creator I have ever come across that would apologize for a nearly hour and a half long video being “shorter than usual.” We see and appreciate how hard you work on your stuff. Take time for yourself when you need it
@zombie.xo333 4 ай бұрын
I always struggled with severe suicidal ideation when pmsing and cramps so bad I’d spend hours throwing up due to the pain. After leaving the Catholic Church (the church doesn’t allow contraception) and starting the pill I no longer get cramps and no longer get suicidal when my cycle starts. Birth control probably saved my life.
@treasurechestofsorts 4 ай бұрын
The only contraceptions the Catholic Church allows is the calendar/rhythm method and abstinence, unfortunately. I agree with this. I've semi-left the same church and am looking actively into birth control at my late 30s rn too~ I want to stay childfree as someone with dysthemia/functional but chronic depression. Something someone I talk to/chat with rn doesn't understand. :(
@tessapal 2 ай бұрын
PMDD is so hard. I also got suicidal around my period, until a very kind gynecologist diagnosed me and got me on hormonal birth control
@Snowstorm187 4 ай бұрын
I wonder if I could get away with saying “Oh yeah, God specifically told me to never have children! Did the whole burning bush thing and everything, so, y’know. Told me I have to be gay, too. If you hear anything different, that’s just Satan.” I really try to not be snarky about other people’s religions, but I’m tempted when someone’s telling me how to live my own life.
@talynhastime9343 4 ай бұрын
Given that God and Satan are so easily interchangeable to these people for motivations, literally just say something like “the angel michael came to me in a dream and said if I had children I would be siring the antichrist because Satan operates within women”. Idk, it’s sexist, but maybe they’d believe it.
@ashleyhall6098 4 ай бұрын
I don't see a problem being snarky with beliefs when they're actively hurting others.
@KMCKLL 4 ай бұрын
I mean I wouldn't want to have kids with a burning bush
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
@@KMCKLLis that an anti-ginger comment? 😉😉😉
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
Frankly it sounds fine to me. How do these people know the mind of god better than god? And if you exist, you must be as you should be! Right?
@chloexelyse 4 ай бұрын
I’m quite shocked by how she talks to her husband given how fundie women are supposed to submit to them. She’s disrespectful for any wife, let alone a fundie!
@PurelyCoincidental 4 ай бұрын
I nearly stopped the video because her tone bothered me so much. I've got enough stress in my life....
@MagisterialVoyager 4 ай бұрын
@@PurelyCoincidental mood 😭
@warlordofbritannia 4 ай бұрын
Submission for thee, not for me
@KatherineAcosta20 4 ай бұрын
Not to use the race card but…
@C0tton_c0re 4 ай бұрын
Honestly using the word "hate" is good and okay sometimes it's not good but I seriously hate her and her husband not the kids bc it ain't they're fault they're parents are pieces of shits honestly I hope they get away from this social media bs and these weird fundies...😒🙄 That's why I can't stand big family dynamic like this if they gonna use they're child for clout and exposing them online everyday.....like leave them tf alone!!!!
@DiegoMorales-wn1jp 4 ай бұрын
Jesus christ, what absolutely horrible people. No wonder she's worried about CPS!
@celloafterdark4173 4 ай бұрын
The casual way she said her daughter might have tuberculosis... 👀
@shaynestanz1 4 ай бұрын
I used your discount code and now my dog won't stop chanting in Latin, thanks Rachel!
@angelamaryquitecontrary4609 4 ай бұрын
@@nony_mationITA VERO! AVE ATQUE VALE.
@endlessaaabatteries9827 4 ай бұрын
Hold on, I've just started the video, they forgot to include one of their children in a family photo!?! I'm the oldest of eight kids, I can't imagine my parents doing that. I also can’t imagine either myself or my siblings not noticing one of us is missing and not saying something. Like either they completely ignored their kids or their kids are so punished for speaking up/disconnected from one another/knew it was done on purpose to not say something.
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
I grew up on of too many cousins, and when there are that many, it’s easy even for kids to lose track of each other. It’s a sign of there being too many kids. The risk is why school field trips, when those existed, partnered kids up. It was another set of eyes on each kid. Horrid as they are, Jim Bob and Michelle’s buddy system meant that someone was keeping track of reasonable sized groups of kids. K&M don’t officially group up the older kids with younger, so who would know who to watch? It’s on the adults to not have so many kids that others might semi-blame the kids.
@endlessaaabatteries9827 4 ай бұрын
@@NoelleTakestheSky Obviously it's entirely the parents' fault for forgetting their kid. My point was that siblings typically look out for one another and it's very unlikely that none of the kids noticed their sibling was missing. And i ment to imply that I think they left the kid out on purpose. Uncooperative, crying, visible injury, punishment, ect. But that's entirely assumption with absolutely no supporting evidence. Which is why I only hinted at it in my original comment.
@onceuponamelody 4 ай бұрын
At first I thought the cease & desist was gonna be from Janet 😂 iykyk
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
OMG. The crossover NO ONE needs.
@theflamedragon2508 4 ай бұрын
not Janet 😭 She tells lauren the mortician to call wellness checks on you
@findyourcenterbbc8483 4 ай бұрын
Oh God only started this, just the recap section is making me mad. God bless you Rachel for covering this.
@warlordofbritannia 4 ай бұрын
That attempt at a legal notice reminded me of when my parents got divorced as a kid. My father, in his typical brilliance, retaliated by sending my mother a document summoning her to “trail court.” And yes, he used Comic Sans.
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
Trail court sounds like kangaroo court but for cowboys.
@devonmmi 3 ай бұрын
he used WHAT
@missanthropy6174 4 ай бұрын
This is a weird thing to kind of stand out but when you said “kids aren’t typically spending 4 hours a day doing extra curriculars” I immediately thought “I did lol.” For context, I have ADHD and even though my mom only had two other kids when I was born, I was hard for her to manage. I was basically an energizer bunny and I ALWAYS needed to be doing something. I’d get hyper focus and spend like 3 hours doing whatever I was interested in if you let me. The town I lived in also had great community rec programs for kids so my mom threw me into as many activities as she could when I was like 4. Tap, ballet, t-ball, soccer, swim, art class, and she taught me to read early so she could occupy me with a book. By the time I was 13, I was on track to be a professional dancer and was in class and rehearsal every day from 4:00pm- 10pm every day. But I also realize that’s probably not very common. Just something I found funny.
@2okaycola 4 ай бұрын
You have a great mom
@WitchOracle 4 ай бұрын
I think this can also be very different for different kids at different ages! By the time my brother was 16-17 and was driving himself to school and had a leadership role in the stage and building department in theater, he easily spent 12 hours at school for weeks on end. On the other hand, I had a few 12-14 hour days more sporadically for my choral rehearsals but I also had a big chunk of time to do homework and get dinner. We were older kids, we still had a lot of time with family, but yeah we were also developing some independence and learning to be in charge of and responsible for our own schedules. I feel like Karissa would think we should have been learning to be responsible for younger siblings at a family compound instead or something
@latronqui 4 ай бұрын
That sounds like a clever way to cope with it, if you liked your extracurriculars. Good for you and your mum ❤
@missanthropy6174 4 ай бұрын
@@2okaycola I do have a great mom. I’m very lucky.
@missanthropy6174 4 ай бұрын
@@latronqui it really was. And I was super fortunate to live in a community where so many activities were offered to kids that I could occupy myself with and my mom could get some rest or time to take care of things other than making sure I didn’t get bored enough to climb onto the roof of our house. Since then GOP got ahold of my local government and obliterated social spending. The rec programs I was so lucky to enjoy don’t exist anymore and the rec center was turned into corporate office space. It makes me really sad for kids like me growing up now.
@rachelanne2436 4 ай бұрын
As a response to Karissa’s book intro, and coming from a Christian; yes, I believe that God makes no mistakes. However, humans do, and having more children than you can provide for is a mistake.
@theflamedragon2508 4 ай бұрын
This is a good way to put it
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
So it’s not a mistake to create a species that beats its children, then to make decent people unable to have children at all while making it so that people who are abusive (neglect is abuse) can keep having them? You might say “it’s free will,” but undesired infertility isn’t free will. And there are other limits on what we can do as a species. Either there’s no god, or he made mistakes.
@mariammosashvili4150 4 ай бұрын
I love your thinking
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
Also it doesn't say to have as many kids as possible in the bible. It just emphasizes that they are blessings and should be treated well. The "quiverful" passage is about teaching them well so they will be loyal to you. These huge families are not accomplishing this unless they are in a cult like IBLP.
@MagnoliaPantherWoman 4 ай бұрын
41:00 About the land issue, I worked in enviromental science, education, and conservation. We have more residential lots of land on the official platted maps than we have people to buy and build on them. We have problems with sprawl, overbuilding in cities that removes green spaces and public places, lawn chemical runoff, commercial parking lot pollution runoff, and habitat fragmentation and destruction. That's not including water resources and transportation.
@claritybadb 4 ай бұрын
Great work; also, oh the loss of animals is so deeply difficult and completely legitimate. My partner and I have lost 2 together, her dog and my cat, and we love on our other cats even harder now... we all send you our love. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
So sorry for you losses, really hope you’re ok and thank you ❤️
@claritybadb 4 ай бұрын
@RachelOates aw ❤️ thank you. We have beautiful pictures and videos of them and we will always remember how they made us laugh. 🐾
@audreytwo Ай бұрын
I lost three pets pretty much within the span of two years. Cleo ran away and probably got eaten by a wild animal, Pepper passed from old age, and Ruby had advancing lymphoma and we had to take her to the vet to get put down.
@Alexisk273 4 ай бұрын
"My child was basically paralyzed and looked really bad so then we went to lunch" WHAT
@RexxTheFirst 4 ай бұрын
I love seeing your pup show up in these videos. I lost mine on February 23rd in a freak accident and the grieving process has been very hard. And then hearing about your brother’s cat, I’m so sorry.
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
I’m so so sorry for your loss ❤️
@alexcox2481 4 ай бұрын
yay new video! Also loving the Poison Ivy vibes ❤
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
Funny you should say that - I actually used Revolution's Poison Ivy eyeshadow palette for this look! It's a favourite and she's a favourite comic character of mine :)
@lindseystein9676 4 ай бұрын
I always hoped for a poison ivy movie after I saw the Batman movie with uma Thurman as poison ivy.
@audisoddisme 4 ай бұрын
I'm glad you mentioned that some people can't risk even 1 pregnancy due to medical concerns. My best friend was told if she ever got pregnant, she would likely die of a heart attack due to a preexisting condition. It was hard for her to cope with, but many people face this reality and still get judged by others.
@FeministCatLadySpinster 4 ай бұрын
I'm so baffled as to why Karissa wrote this book, when we all know 1.) she's not going to stop and 2.) she isn't going to listen to anyone about anything she disagrees with anyway.
@kyleyoung8476 4 ай бұрын
3. She can't write
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
4. She just says the same tired crap that all those other weird "quiverful" parents say.
@francoislacombe9071 4 ай бұрын
In my experience, people who go around forcing their beliefs on others are people who are very insecure in those beliefs.
@isaacbenrubi9613 4 ай бұрын
I'm so happy you're getting your health issues taken care of! That is wonderful news!
@isaacbenrubi9613 4 ай бұрын
Side note: The "singing" around the 1 hour mark was certainly a choice. I'm not the best singer, but my pitch recognition is pretty good and that was ############## AF
@johnmcclure40 4 ай бұрын
Having now heard some of her music, I can only assume that the deal with the record company was something like, "We will give you fifty bucks to leave the studio and never come back."
@shelbycurry721 4 ай бұрын
Wow… that lady is such an a-hole to her husband. It’s quite shocking.
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
Her husband is also an a hole but at least has the poise and restraint to not do it on camera.
@ChatMort69420 2 ай бұрын
It’s pretty incredible when someone’s defense of their parenting techniques (or lack of them) continuously boils down to “a child going through this is better than them not existing at all/being dead.”
@jammer9rtglz 4 ай бұрын
omg yay thank you for the video... This will distract me from how nervous i am for my orthodontist visit in a few hours 💪
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
Hope you're doing ok! You got this!!! :)
@brittanythebeast 4 ай бұрын
Congrats on the mirena! I’m in the US and had my first one placed in 2017 out of political concerns, had it replaced early in 2020 (although at the time in the US it was only approved for 5 years, now it’s 7) again because my country is very against child bearing people having bodily autonomy. Anyway. Love my mirena. I hope you have a great experience with yours!
@pensivelyrebelling 4 ай бұрын
Interesting. I’m in Canada. A friend had hers in for a few months over 5 years and it took three tries (separate appointments) and a lot of pain to get it out. Just curious if you know: Is the 7 year one different or is it the same one with a longer approval?
@brittanythebeast 4 ай бұрын
@@pensivelyrebelling it’s the same one, as they get more data they adjust the time it’s approved for. As I understand it, the reason for the approval times is based on how long they are found to be effective at preventing pregnancy, I don’t not know whether it affects difficulty with removal. I know ease of placement and removal vary a lot and we should definitely be offered medication for the procedure.
@pensivelyrebelling 4 ай бұрын
@@brittanythebeast I’d be so happy if they’d do something to reduce the pain of placement, too. It’s bizarre that they don’t. Thank you so much for the info. Might need to see if we have approval for longer than 5 years here.
@electricponyx 4 ай бұрын
Mirena was absolute hell for me. I'm so jealous of the people who can use it without issue. 😢
@OverAnalyst 4 ай бұрын
I just had my 3rd mirena placed (US), they told me 7 yrs. Such a game changer to not dread periods anymore. Wish it worked for everyone who wants it.
@Silverballoondog 3 ай бұрын
In the future, there will likely be a Surviving Karissa documentary or a memoir from one of those poor children. It’s insane that they still even have custody of Anthym 😢
@luciasmatanova9163 4 ай бұрын
on the "healing effects of pregnancy": my mom felt amazing while she was pregnant with me, and thought it would happen to me too. When I ended up in a burnout from work, she said "now would be a good time to get pregnant, you will feel so much better!" (I don't want kids, never expressed intention to have them, pregnancy would definitely stress me out even more that I already was)
@Conval-wi5eh 4 ай бұрын
I have some female friends who actually got recommended pregnancy from doctors. One in particular suffers from endometriosis and has been dealing with hormonal imbalance and depression for years. Her doctor said a pregnancy can kind of "reset" her body and her hormones. Most of the females in my family suffer from migraines (I am the exception, thank God) and a lot of them were healed after being pregnant. The mother of a friend got cancer in her uterus and she might not have gotten it if she had birthed more children. So I guess there can be positive side effects, maybe even healing effects that can be caused by pregnancy and having a child. However, there are major risks as well, you have no guarantee, and you might have long lasting effects or even permanent damage. Pregnancy does not have only positive effects like e.g. a clean diet, staying hydrated and moving your body regularly have.
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
@@Conval-wi5ehit’s good to know that for folks who want kids, it might help other symptoms they’re struggling with. But seems like it would cause even more havoc at least short term! It’s such a take over, pregnancy.
@Conval-wi5eh 4 ай бұрын
@@edvh88Absolutly agree with you. Noone should get pregnant and birth a child if they don't want to be parents. That is definitely no quick fix for relieve in health related symptoms. I just wanted to give some input on ways a pregnancy can actually help your body - especially because it is so body-altering. But at the same time, this body-altering absolutly will include the negative side effects (organs shifting, there might be tearing etc.). Your body is different afterwards.
@user-rc2yf8kt7i 4 ай бұрын
@@Conval-wi5ehPregnancy healing endometriosis is dangerous misinformation, please stop posting this. You are going to kill people.
@umhi9778 3 ай бұрын
Is it just placebo effect? Idk how morning sickness and constant cravings are making anyone feel good. I heard it can make your hair get thicker (before it falls out after birth) but that's the only positive pregancy symtom I heard of.
@ryguy56 4 ай бұрын
23:00 i completely understand but in a totally different way!! i always wanted kids, but i’m a trans man and would never carry my own. thank you for putting it into words, bc i can confidently say going on hormone blockers 4 years ago is the most freedom i’ve ever felt. not having a period every month changed my entire life for the better, and i feel like a new person honestly. the same man i was before, just completely relaxed.
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
Happy for you! Periods suck, and I can only imagine even more so if you’re trans. And there are so many great ways to make an impact in a child’s life, or ways to become a parent if you want to be one. ❤
@jannecapelle_art 4 ай бұрын
"who taught her to write" you just KNOW she was homeschooled as well. best education ever
@h1d34w4y 4 ай бұрын
On a less serious note, the fit is gorgeous, I love the colour matching
@Moonpie90 4 ай бұрын
26:20 Karissa ignoring medical warnings from Drs about health risks reminds me of the story of the guy in a flood turning down 3 rescue boats because god will save him. Then he passes and god asks why he didn't make use of any of the 3 rescue boats god sent. God (if they exist) could surely be sending her signs and help in her worldview, those Drs could be her boats
@pennyraehawkins9788 4 ай бұрын
RE your coil: I’m someone who wants children one day, but neither I nor my partner is in a financial position to do so yet. When I got on the depo shot a little over a year ago, it lifted this huge weight off my shoulders. Knowing I don’t have to worry about getting pregnant before I’m ready has done WONDERS for my mental health. I also suffer from debilitatingly painful periods and the depo shot actually completely stopped them. It’s been absolutely wonderful and I can’t imagine promoting the idea of taking that choice away as a good thing.
@samanthadickson5943 4 ай бұрын
I appreciate seeing your thought process around 37:43 . You are a wholesome person that I admire and it is refreshing seeing someone actively thinking about if what they’re saying is too mean or not relevant to the critique. It’s something more of us should be doing so I loved seeing you normalize it ❤
@snehapradhan5591 4 ай бұрын
even these shorter videos (according to your standard, trust me they're still long enough for me lol) are so much fun. as interesting as these deep dives are into these topics i also love your personality that shines through all your videos!
@Catglittercrafts 4 ай бұрын
The fact that they brought up child molestation when you never did is super creepy. what is going on in that family?
@ericahouston4395 4 ай бұрын
Hormonal birth control has a causal link to blood clots. But notably, so does pregnancy. I had a pulmonary embolism after one of my pregnancies, and I am now contraindicated from any hormonal treatment (birth control, HRT etc), but I also had to use blood thinner injections throughout subsequent pregnancies.
@vincentb5391 4 ай бұрын
Congrats on finally getting the coil, I hope it works out amazingly for you! Condolences on the loss of your family member, wishing you the best.
@atlas956 4 ай бұрын
it’s so sad how she seems to get her entire self worth from… giving birth and being seen as a mother. not even actually being a mother, or caring for her kids, just in… getting pregnant no matter the circumstances. it looks so obvious that the poor woman has horrible self esteem and no actual mental capacity for her children after they’re born. feeling obligated to is a horrible reason to have kids, let alone ten.
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
This is what she’s chosen to base her self esteem on. She wasn’t raised this way.
@atlas956 4 ай бұрын
huh, good to know. still just as problematic, though. thank you.
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
Michelle Duggar seems to be the same. She would take care of the babies but would immediately hand toddlers to other young girls and get pregnant again. The boys were taught that you can be an absent family member early on, yay!
@umhi9778 3 ай бұрын
@@NoelleTakestheSkyWhat makes you jump to that conclusion? She probably was raised that way as many misogynistic people, families and society in general teach girls their only value is holding the label of mother. As a society we expect every women to give birth and have kids but don't focus to much on the details of how those kids are raised. She probably likes the attention and romanticization of being pregnant and a "mother" but isn't actually interested in caring for and raising other people. Which you can actually say about a lot (though less mentally ill) parents.
@verdantvixen96 4 ай бұрын
39:44 “There’s countless uninhabited land” As someone who lives on some of that “uninhabited” land in central USA… does she know that’s where a large amount of food is being grown? My house is surrounded by wheat and corn fields, and in the off season those fields often have cattle there to graze on what was left after harvest. Large populations require large amounts of food and that food has to be grown/produced somewhere. How could one possibly rationalize that overpopulation isn’t a problem just because people aren’t crammed into every square inch of land available?
@edvh88 4 ай бұрын
6:25 “it was just really scary, so we went to eat lunch” IM SORRY WHAT????? The MINUTE you see your infant exhibit symptoms like total muscle loss, at a bare minimum you should be on the phone to your doc IMMEDIATELY. WTF!!! I carried my son 9 months there is NO way I would risk all the time and care and love I have put into his life, to play games with his health!!! Literally my job to keep him healthy and safe.
@gibbygabi 4 ай бұрын
love your necklace in this!!!
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
Thank you, it was made by my friend who goes by Nervardia here on youtube :) www.youtube.com/@Nervardia
@gibbygabi 4 ай бұрын
@@RachelOates Thanks! I’ll check them out :)
@dariaernst8247 4 ай бұрын
The part where you played her "music" SENT me 😂😂😂😂
@Conval-wi5eh 4 ай бұрын
I am so glad someone is mentioning that. How can something with autotune turn out so bad? And what about her sense of rhythm? Is there any? Why don't the lyrics align with the music?
@peraspera934 4 ай бұрын
I agree with you, and I'm the oldest daughter out of 12 kids. We were taught that the fundie lifestyle is God's perfect plan for us. I believed it as a child. Looking back now, I can identify how we didn't get the individual attention that children need to thrive. I've struggled with parentification, under-developed personhood, feeling like my needs or opinions are a burden on others, and deep loneliness/depression. More of my siblings have opened up about similar inner turmoil. ***Trigger warning*** We lost our youngest sister this last year due to her existential despair. Life is really hard. Everyone needs individualized support in childhood development and finding their way in this world. My parents took on more than they could handle physically, mentally, and emotionally, thinking this was God's will. Quiverful propaganda has consequences. Thanks for standing up to it.
@jessem.4214 4 ай бұрын
Hearing the “why don’t we trust god…” song again was like a jump scare.
@MagisterialVoyager 4 ай бұрын
gods, the poor children... i hope they grow up well
@Ale_V72 4 ай бұрын
Congratulations on your Birth Control!! I got the Mirena IUD a few years back and it has been one of the best decisions ever!! No periods and no pregnancies. Nothing could be better for me 😎🤟
@ashleyhall6098 4 ай бұрын
Love Mirena! I've only lightly spotted for the past 5 years!
@mst3kharris 4 ай бұрын
Here’s the thing, Karissa. God gave me a fairly aggressive form of breast cancer two years ago. During treatment, I gave up my right breast and both my ovaries. That’s right, I decided to sacrifice the slim chance I had for still having children on the altar of beating my cancer. You see, I _might_ have had children, but I _definitely_ had Stage IIIB estrogen-responsive cancer. Getting pregnant or trying to harvest my eggs would have been a disaster, _because estrogen helped my cancer grow and ovulation and pregnancy drastically raise estrogen levels._ You can scold me for my lack of faith all you want, but I will never be ashamed of choosing to sacrifice my potential for children to save my own life. On the contrary, I think God wanted me to fight, because He sent me an amazing care team, and I kicked my cancer’s ass so hard it’s scared to come back. (I’m a pagan, but sometimes you have to speak to them in the language they understand.)
@NoelleTakestheSky 4 ай бұрын
Kids don’t need parents when they’re already responsible for raising themselves and each other, y’know.
@sabrena5515 4 ай бұрын
Congratulations on kicking cancer's ass!
@mst3kharris 4 ай бұрын
@@sabrena5515 thanks! It’s been a wild couple of years.
@nataliapolova2850 4 ай бұрын
Congratulations!!!! Hell yeah!
@Asty-pf9rq 4 ай бұрын
my grandmother has 7 siblings, her life growing up was hell. she lived in near poverty. her mother forgot her birthday, she had to share her own BED with her sisters, she cooked, cleaned, and cared for her younger siblings because her mother often couldn't. my great grandma was also very unwell mentally, which has left life long mental scars on every member of that side of my family. i myself came from two addicts and for the first year of my life i was neglected and abused before my grandparents took me in. Karissa needs to understand that not everybody should have kids.
@arosebski 4 ай бұрын
My dad is the youngest of 11 kids and while he says he liked having that many siblings (and he didn’t have to help raise anyone since he was the youngest) it does impact me and my brother. We never met our grandfather (born 1917) because he’d passed away long before either of us were born. Our grandmother was 98 when she passed in 2018 (born 1920) and my brother was only 12 and I was 18. We have a massive family and most of our cousins have kids that are our age which makes a weird dynamic for us at least. My grandpa’s reaction to meeting my dad after he was born was that he “looked just like all the other kids” and while I know they loved all their kids it was always a very different situation than my mother’s family where there are two kids and as a result we were always much closer to my mother’s side of the family than my dad’s. My dad is also just less involved than some other dads because his parents weren’t able to be super involved since there were so many kids. I know it’s different for everyone but as someone who is the product of a father who has 10 siblings and a mother with only 1 there are very obvious impacts of that many siblings even if the parents do their best.
@angelthedemon666 4 ай бұрын
My grandma gave birth naturally 18 times, 14 lived. She didnt even want to have any kids or marry her husband but he threatened her and was a horrible person. My mom is the oldest daughter so she spent her whole childhood raising her siblings, even naming some of them. My grandma now is very disabled, she didn't really get to live a life besides being pregnant over and over and it wrecked her body. Having that many kids was beneficial to absoluely no one in that situation. When they came to america they all had to live in a 2 bedroom apartment. My grandma lives alone in another state cause she doesnt like being around her kids, their kids, and their kid's kids. My grandpa died sad and alone cause they all hate him. The siblings dont even get along because theyre all such different people. They let god decide and ig he wanted to have 15 people to suffer 🙄 I feel like most situations where people have 10+ children, all of them suffer. It truly makes no sense to me. It causes so much trauma and problems that couldve been avoided
@Otterwaffle 4 ай бұрын
Amazing Poison Ivy vibes today 🌱⚘️🌿
@koihoshi 4 ай бұрын
"The doctors with their fancy PhD told me that i was a big ol dummy for not taking care of my kid, HARRUMPH, what do THEY know?" Anyone remember the Oregon parents who denied their kid medical care and went to jail for it and were like, "Well that's just my beliefs bro." Actually did not believe in medical care and believed in faith healing, their kid died over it.
@kelsey990 4 ай бұрын
i’ve never been so early! so excited to watch ❤
@chellyfishing 4 ай бұрын
So sorry to hear about your kitty relative, Rachel. My parents lost one of their two dogs last year in a horrific attack and one of the things that broke my heart the most about it was knowing their surviving boy would have to be without his sister. It’s gutting. But don’t worry, the Satan sponsorship was still extremely funny.
@dazeval2372 4 ай бұрын
I’ve been bingeing your videos all day and as a long time viewer I wanted to say that I appreciate your presence here on KZfaq so much! The work you do is incredible and so thorough, I honestly don’t know how you handle looking at this stuff for us. Just wanted to send you and Kyra a bit of love 💕 (Her little snuffles and snorts are such a comfort while hearing about these infuriating people!) Thank you for all your hard work!
@issiep327 4 ай бұрын
I see her children on Instagram reels all the time despite never searching for content like that. I just think about all the creeps on the internet and it makes me sick. The child exploitation is insane. I feel so bad for her kids
@flamebloom4659 4 ай бұрын
Sending you lots of encouragement after the hard news you got during this video. I hope you took the time to rest and let your emotions recover! You are not a downer. It's sweet that you empathized so much with what happened.
@hmsquared8603 4 ай бұрын
Commenting an additional thing as I continue to watch this, related to 24:59. My parents had me when they were a bit older, and when I was a child I didn't understand that. As I've gotten older, I've learned that my parents waited so they could be financially stable. My grandparents also had their kids fairly young, which was apparently not pleasant.
@CalamitySane 4 ай бұрын
Oh I’m so early!!!!! Cannot wait to get into this video!!!
@WitchOracle 4 ай бұрын
Congrats on getting the Mirena! I've had mine for a while and it has been life changing. I love that its efficacy has been shown to last longer that originally expected, too. I'll be removing it in about a year to start trying for kids, but if I wasn't doing that I would happily get another.
@TheCagedCorvid 4 ай бұрын
I have no notes on the subject matter, you're always so eloquent, but I wanted to offer you virtual hugs during this video. I've lost a lot of pets over the last few years, (mostly to age or age related illness) both my own and those of family. It's so awful, and it's every bit as hard as losing a human family member. The fact that you soldiered on through the video despite this is far more than I could have done, you are so strong, and it's very inspiring ❤❤❤
@cassaroli7830 4 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss, I’m sure your cat had an absolutely wonderful life and they loved you very much. Also, the video was great
@claytonfitzgerald782 4 ай бұрын
Thank you. Enjoyed the reference to The Tribe (NZer) and random staffy snuffles. Condolences for the loss of your furry pal. Pets are indeed family.
@meganc6306 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for another great video! So sorry to hear about Jerry, losing any pet is really hard, he will be missed😢 sending you and Jerry's family good vibes and prayers🙏🏼🥺🩵
@RachelOates 4 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@dawnschafer8 4 ай бұрын
I am so so glad you were able to get your IUD! I agree, it is such a freeing feeling! My IUD made a huge difference in my quality of life with my heavy periods. Side tangent, I been really uneasy with the increase of fear-mongering around IUDs and birth control on social media. Yes, people should be educated on the side effects and the insertion process. But IUDs are literally more effective at preventing pregnancy than getting your tubes tied! And are completely reversible!! And have hormonal and non-hormonal options!! They are not perfect, but having them as an option is a huge positive for reproductive rights.
@katd3340 4 ай бұрын
I am SO HAPPY you finally got through the pain of getting your first IUD!! I’ve tried three brands and the Mirena is the best one by far!
@C0tton_c0re 4 ай бұрын
I'm so glad someone actually did a video about them too, pls keep it up luv!!!
@user-ov3yb9lk4o 4 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss💔 hearing your voice break hurt my heart. sending you love
@joelychambers7076 4 ай бұрын
truly an inspiring creator, i have loved your videos for such a longtime rachel! thank you for sharing once again!
@zevrxn 4 ай бұрын
what fascinates me is the fact that this kind of people never stop to think that birth control is not in the bible because birth control didn't exist when the bible was written. would be kinda weird if god said "don't go on the pill" or "don't use condoms" when these things didn't even exist.
@Sableagle 4 ай бұрын
Not a single word in it about the structural failure risk inherent in the design of the Latécoère 631, either.
@spOOkytimes 4 ай бұрын
It doesn't say to have as many children as possible either. It only says to treat your kids well since they are "God's gifts". People seem to forget that you could abstain from sex or at least not do all steps to become pregnant even back in biblical times.
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