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You missed a huge one. They also do a fraction of the work of those around them yet claim that they contribute a tremendous amount.

Totally !!! Very subtle at first !!! Then things get worse as time goes on !!! They become the victim and they make people believe you are the predator or someone off balance or crazy or lazy.

This is entirely my coworker. Everyone thinks she is so nice, really just an opportunist that is not good at her job, but from before my first day, she has been after me. At least 2x a week, she fakes a headache and comes back with filler, botox, nails, lashes, etc. 10 months into my job she physically attacked me and no one believed it because she's too "nice". Over time, she created a posse to help play her game and even had work removed from me to a less experienced posse member; by the way, they do the same as she does so that she can orchestrate and get away with her behavior. When I was on medical leave due to the physical symptoms of the stress, she called HR to say I am a bully, making herself into a victim. When I returned 6 weeks later, she was surprised thinking I would have been fired just on her words and it continues. . . all that is in this video is the roadmap of my experience, except I called her out early and it made my treatment much more targeted and worse.

I have a business partner who did all of this. This is why I am getting out of the partnership. He's a nutcase.

Yes yes yes! Exact playbook happened to me. Extremely manipulative.

Totally! They act stealthy. It's worse than traditional or classic-style narcissists. I didn't realize they are covert. 😨 Run fast as soon as you notice something is wrong.🏃🏃‍♂🏃‍♀

I work with nothing but covert narcs,especially management

Wow- this is the BEST video on coworker narcissist stages. I am familiar with narcissists and their behavior, so I’m disappointed in myself that I didn’t catch this current one or use my narc bug spray. You are spot on. Here are other details I’ve noticed: - the second day of meeting at work, she wanted to go to lunch and talked more on how she could be helpful (she had experience prior at the campus), she then bought my lunch (I refused) and she said she was trying to make friends. From then on, it was LOVE BOMBING galore with me, other coworkers and management. Bosses got upset and told her to stop buying coffee for them. When we had to work together, she kept love bombing me with random things. One was a powder to flavor water. I refused and set a strong boundary and SHE got upset and said, “fine. Since you drink coffee all the time, your water intake is not good.” Very controlling. - she found little things to put me down- “oh what’s this? A heat map? How come I have 95% and you have 82%” - I told her I was interested in learning something she was an expert in and she snapped/mask dropped and said, “why do you need to learn this?” Scary I attribute my success to work ethic, mental growth, positive attitude. For the past few months, her energy rubbed off on me and depression snuck in. I wasn’t happy at work and I believe a lot of it is her, even if it’s a brief interaction. She was out of office for 2 weeks and the stats from my apple health improved. I had freedom to be myself and network/branch off like I normally do. Now that she’s back, I know she can sense it and she’s be-friending those that SEEM close to me and making it a competition. Weird because she always proclaimed she’s “bad luck” and would name off the names of people in our department who don’t like her. She wanted to catch up with work things when she got back and kept bugging me with, “I need help, we need to work together in person” (and we honestly didn’t need to do it in person). I gave in for a set amount of time so I wouldn’t have to deal with smear campaigns or have issues. She pretty much wasted my time and dumped her negativity on me and only wanted me for supply. Now that that’s happened, her behavior flipped and she’s acting as if I’m the one who has the issue and she’s the professional one… Anyhoo, now that I’m reflecting, I think she targeted me bc I have the most experience and education on our team. I’m also very friendly and can network very well. I apologize for the rant. I really resonated with this video and feel validated ❤

I have family and Supervisors

The female narc, my boss, in the workplace was ruthless. She would constantly cut and threaten anyone that she viewed as a competition! She never played the victim, she instead would just laugh and say something like “your stupid”!

Just asking a rhetorical question, why does anyone want to live that way? I know bad behavior is rewarded nowadays. But damn, to me it’s madness.

Seen them all my life, Rebecca.

Well.. since getting back to work after a lifetime of abuse and financial hardship, all I’m finding is nasty narcs in power. Even narcs half my age thinking that they know everything: it’s crazy because it’s a small company. Like 10 people but he has a 23 year old step daughter running the place along side of his 25 year old sugar baby. These 2 walk around with their noses in the air, talking mad shit about those doing primarily all the work. Now the 23 yr old is set to have a baby by next week. I left this job due to mean girls syndrome/mentality. I gave them no time to find someone to fill my spot prior to all these vacations and the owners red headed step child’s maternity leave . Some may say I was being petty. No, actually they shouldn’t have not bit the hand that fed them. They’ll have to find out the hard way.

Absolutely they’re very cunning. At first I hired an employee her first real job paid her over what entry-level people are made promises that she would stay long-term then networked herself into our clients lives to use them now covertly to change careers, and then points out every little thing I say, or doas I’m wrong and she’s my superior sad she’s 20 years old I’m 63 and have been in the business that we both currently work in until her final day is Tuesday, January 2, 2024.

totally, ive lost contracts because of this poor behaviour, now phasing them out to concentrate on furthering my education and skills

Thank you for this post, because I see a couple of things at work that needs to be identified.

Totally ! ... every step of the way you've described. I always thought I'm in the wrong movie ...

Totally! I off😊ered help. Before o knew it, I had a list...literally a list of to do items. When saying this is too much on my health, all things blew up. I had offered to do, what I considered the most important, which was to write her lawyer & judge, as a character witness. This was beyond anything I expected... so I do write the letter, but asked repeatedly for an email to where it should go. I never received an email or address. So I still have the letter. She sent 64 text messages degrading, lying, and bullying. It doesn't work from my ex-husband.

Yes! Totally! I didn't realize it was narcissism at the time. This was years ago and I have taken myself out of her orbit. Her flying monkeys have left the company, or quit hanging out with her, and this is going to be a weird year for her.

Wow this is great! I been struggling lately. My sales manager is a narcissist and was laid off by him. I was very thrown off by getting laid off. The manager told me I “didn’t have the capabilities of doing the job” but the owner of the company called me a couple of days after to check up on me. (I was close to the owner) but he told me the reason I was laid off was because I didn’t take ownership of some of my deals. I was so confused and still to this day. Sorry for my rant hahaha 😂

Totally. Dealing with a male sociopath and a female narcissist at one of my jobs.

This hag at work was always trying to tell me what to do. We didn't even work in the same department. So recently I decided to rid myself of her. She actually told me if I ever had something to work on for Halloween, to come to her for help😂😂😂😂. I did up a picture book of past parties at work, she saw it & did not say anything about it. I could feel that jealous vibe coming from her...hardcore. But anyway, I am happy now. She tries to look sad, I just don't care.

Good day. I have come to the realization that we can only enjoy the decline of America. I’m not getting upset about this crap anymore. I am doing my best to enjoy my life now. God bless everyone here. Smitty

How should an Empath react when 2 male Narcissists and 1 female Narcissist try to destroy one Super Empath?

Word salad, poor me baby, talking about everyone behind their back, two faced, taking credit for other's work, always late, don't keep their word...

Thank you for your help and support Rebecca. ❤

My covert narc boss tried this with me. Never followed through and end up quitting. Before quitting overtime he began making weird and nasty comments to me when no one was around.

Seen it both in sports and in business. It's hectic what people like this are capable of!

Satan knows he cannot hold in bondage a believer who exercises their authority over him in Jesus Christ. May God watch over me now during this Life's Challenge of danger and uncertainty. Lord, please hear my cries.

This all describes my coworker. She came in very kind very sweet I just want to work. She uses this I'm very nice sweet voice but I've heard use her real voice. Little by little everything you described started to come out. She does the opposite of what she says. She acts like she's a team player and will do the work and she doesn't. I have assigned her some things and she acts so sweet and kind and I'm going to do the best. But then she falls through which i have called her out on and then she gets passive aggressive. Even bangs get stapler her note books the cabinet door in the restroom. And this is a cycle i noticed not just once. But in times I call her out she does this. Bangs everything to intimidate. She'll also greet people over the phone or in person like she's very nice person and courteous and hospitable and ready to help, chatting up the person and being so charming and laughing but when the person asks for work related thing her tone of voice will change to you're bothering grumpy sort of way. It's like no one catches on. They still see her as so nice and very nice. There are so many things she does that only I can see. She's even helicoptered (i don't know how else to describe it)my other coworker always hovering her to herself so i won't get near her and talk to her but even for work related things because she accuses me of being mean to her. I have speculation she's also poisoned said coworker with those lies that i can't approach my other coworker without getting attitude as the covert narcissist is just eyeing me. I have resorted to just emailing her instead of approaching. And i know no one will believe me at work because the covert narcissist is in everybody's good grace.

Totally. I have the story to end all stories. Let me know if you want to know.

Totally!😢

SO totally!! Like youve been following me around at work!

I've seen it and am living it.

Ms. Rebecca Zung, Everything about your videos has been so true, I am married to a narcissist/covert and I have tried everything said in your videos to recognize and yes I am tired of his lies, victim, hero that he is not. I thank you for your videos it made me stronger but we still argue and yes it’s hard for me to get him to leave me alone cause we go in circles; love numbs that I ignore, future hopes of lies, and more. Always Michelle Quon

My son’s girlfriend and her Mother to a T!!!!! Also my daughter’s friend is doing this she is only 12! Covert narcissists are the devil Horrible evil

TOTALLY

What should an Empath do when Flying Monkeys move into the neighborhood of the Empath?

WHY DO THEY ALWAYS- “think” you are AGAINST Them??? Life is Not a boxing 🥊 match. Maybe 🤔 you just see they have flaws like everyone on earth. My exiting husband & his koo koo family see marriage as a Hillybilly “for me or, against me”. Ya nooooo support!!!! That’s how they find us.

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Totally!!! Thank you for this.

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I agree and your examples resonate with me

Oh meer cats!! Thanks again!*

Sounds like a guy at work told him go away from me today he got up and ran and dobbed on me to the manager he always says his the victim not sure i did the wrong thing today

Yeah my coworker is a full blown narcissist I can’t believe my boss deals with her weird ssa

TOTALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The guy who has to be center of attention, even tho they are not a lead or manager, they tell the lead there is something wrong with you because you have gone silent because you don't want to listen to the man's screaming and life lessons

I’ve seen it!

Can someone tell me the main thing to do at work? I've noticed when it starts getting weird

Can a suicidal individual also be narcissist?

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I had another jerk try to cat phish me! I felt so stupid... I fell for it for about 3/4 days... And they got me for about 50$. Oh jeez my best friend! These guy's said they were my old friend,*! Ha ha 😂 I believe it!!!

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