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In 7 years, I never heard I am sorry and never saw a tear shed. Total lack of empathy for anyone.

They always try to one up you, and turn all conversations back to themselves.

#2: they often deploy this conversational trick: they will ask you a question about yourself, but use it as a vector to talk about themselves. It goes like this: “Lucas, tell me about your trip to Ireland.” “Well we flew in to Dublin and” “OH I WAS THERE A FEW YEARS AGO! I STAYED AT BLAHBLAHBLAH AND DID ______” - and that goes on for eight minutes, and Lucas has not had a chance to say another word in that time.

Narcs Ive dealt with never apologize, they never admit they are wrong and they always gaslight and find fault with the other people and its never, ever, ever theirs!

8 ways to identify a narcissist from conversation 1-interrupts a lot. 2-they don't stop talking about themselves. 3-they don't stop to ask about you. 4-if they ask about you, they don't stop to listen to the answer. 5-constant criticism of others. 6-gaslighting 7-lack of interest in others 8-inability to accept any type of criticism

The main thing I watch out for is the sob story, their almost shakespearean tale of tragic woe that is their life they seem almost proud of. It sounds rehearsed and like a performance because it is.

Vulnerable narcissists will ask you about yourself. But they are on a research/fact finding mission. They are sizing you up to see if the other person fits a profile to provide narcissistic supply.

As someone with ADHD, the interrupting and the getting distracted when someone else is talking can be viewed as narcissistic and/or self-centered, when it’s totally not.

I have ADHD CPTSD Severe Sleep Deprivation and severe Social Anxiety. I interrupt, focus on myself, etc etc. By this definition I could be seen as a narcissist. I know I’m not. So anyone watching this with ADHD, please do not think you are a narcissist just from this list.

The narcissist in my life never stops talking; drones on and on. Everything is a problem to rage about. I can't get a word in edgewise, I HAVE to interrupt, which makes him insane that I'd want to clarify a detail. Then I'm accused of "interrupting all the time". When I'm talking he listens intently, to come back later with, "You said, you said" 🙄but it's a twisted interpretation, not what I said at all. I have to be so so careful about choosing my words. 😳

This resonates with me. Married to one for 30 years. Nuts in the head. I've learned how to handle him to keep my sanity. It can be done, but you loose alot of yourself along the way.

I certainly have allot of these traits. I am not proud of how entiteled l get. I am growing to learn how to treat others with respect and dignity. Bounderious are vital. Both inner and outer. I will change l will. Amen

Hi Rebecca I dated a woman recently, I noticed a few times I had to put her on ice for poor behaviour, this sent her insane. HOWEVER upon reconciling she had a saying "But they(men) always come back" I found this sinister, she basically wanted to see how far she could push men, instead of being a well rounded human.

My boyfriend of 4 years would never ask how I was doing, never ask how my day was. Even after I asked him how he was and how his day was. He'd give me a detailed answer and then never even ask how my day was lol. He would also go into great detail about something that happened at work, tell me the whole story and how he fixed everything... it usually involved him being so awesome and the best of course lol. But when I would tell him stories of my work day his eyes would wander off and he showed absolutely no interest in what I had to say. Yet he expected my complete attention and interest when it involved him. There are so many behaviors he displayed that match all the topics in this video. I still struggle with feeling loss over our relationship because we did have so many good times together. But overall, he didn't value me as a true partner. I constantly felt like I was just a fixture. He liked having me around and how I made him feel. But I didn't deeply matter to him. If I was struggling with something, it was just "my problem". To any of you out there in a relationship like this- you deserve far better.

I used to work for the court system. We had a judge that loved to tell us about his life and how successful he was. I figured out if I started talking to him about my kids and life he would cut the conversation and walk away. I used that to my advantage.

One thing with a narcissist is they dont know how to read a room everyone would be talking bad about him & yet he will say: they like me, they really like me!

My mother in law definitely ticked all the boxes. Always felt like we had to be careful or check her mood before planning anything. Felt like walking on thin ice.

I think it’s important to define and distinguish between narcissistic personality disorder and just narcissistic traits or tendencies.

In my experience, narcissists have always been very very interested in me, asking lots of questions and listening carefully - that's how they find our weak points. So I actually dislike intensely when people ask me personal questions. And out of courtesy I don't like to ask them - and I'm not really interested in those details anyway, as long as they are well. I'm talking about acquaintances here, of course. When the friendship deepens, then it's time to open up. One thing I've noticed, they ''love'' you intensely from the first moment they meet you, irrespective of gender.

If they do listen to you, it's only so they can shoot your thoughts down

I’ve experienced all of these. A tell tale sign is to go completely silent when they interrupt you mid sentence and launch into a completely different topic, focusing on themselves of course, and making it clear that what you had to say was of no interest. Let them speak and just wait to see if they ever even remember that you were speaking at all or the subject you were in the middle of when they interrupted. It is rare if they do. When that happens, I don’t bother to try to pick up where I left off. I just pick up and leave the conversation.

"What do you want me to do about it?" A favorite phrase they use when they don't want to address an issue

Yes! Conversation hijacking is a huge sign🚩

Tolerating a narcissistic parent as an adult can be very psychologically damaging. The worst part is that it is like you get trained to be around someone like that, then unconsciously find other people who will do the same thing. Make an effort to be around normal people who are capable of being considerate, and man is it refreshing to be around someone who knows how to have a normal, reciprocal ,conversation, not be talked over, and disrespected by someone who thinks human interaction is a game you have to win by running your mouth the most..

I've been on the phone with this person for a while. She didn't make any of those sounds that ensure they are listening, but she had done that before, so I wasn't suspicious. Suddenly I hear her arguing with a staff member about not putting enough chicken in her kebab. She managed to order a kebab, wait for it and start eating it before it was obvious all the time I was talking to empty space. Happened more than once.

As a nurse majority of people I would say 80% people are very self centered and you only find a handful of people that genuinely care about anyone else. Even their helper.

Im in my 11 year of a relationship with a full-fledged Narc. Its not at all fun, very positive energy, personal happiness killing person... Just the fact i know just what i am dealing with makes it easier to deal with. All thanks to you Rebecca!!

Yes, all the time.They ask a ? Then you give the answer. Then they pay little attention and behave indifferently. That's how I know.Thank you for sharing your situation. You always make me feel better.

For me, and this is my experience, from perhaps the type of Narcissistic relationships I had as friends they actually told on themselves at the beginning of the relationships. One of them said she was sick, she is that's why she needed a therapist - and the other was crying down the phone at me as she was telling me she pushes people away. Of course, I was always like you're not sick, and trying to calm a hysterical woman down over a phonecall but they tell on themselves like that and if there's a truer time to believe them that's the time because they've just given you an insight to their character. We, as genuinely nice kind people get taken in to want to help them, yet, our biggest lesson is others can only fix themselves just like we can only change ourselves

When they are trying to “love bomb” you in the beginning, they will ask you questions about yourself, in an exaggerated and fawning manner, to make you feel like you’re the most interesting person in the world. Once they’ve got you hooked however it will start to decline and then they start ignoring you, which makes you feel desperate for their attention and approval again. Sick game. They want to manipulate you and keep you enslaved to their machinations.

I called out the old narc where I live for her gaslighting and conversation hijacking, which is another sure sign, and turning every conversation into an argument with triangulation. I can spot them a mile away ! Her narcissistic injury was such that she rudely turns her back on me and acts like I don’t exist..all in a group setting. 👏🏻 perfect.

💗😊💕Thanks for this talk. I’m becoming aware of the narcissist, I have a few of them. I’m educating myself by listening to videos on this topic. 8 Tell-tail signs that you are talking with somebody who is a narcissist 1. They interrupt a lot. 2. They don’t stop talking about themselves. 3. They don’t stop to ask about you. 4. If they ask about you, they don’t stop to listen foto the answer. 5. Constant criticism of others. 6. Gaslighting. 7. Lack of interest in others. 8. Inability to accept any form of criticism. 💕😊💗

Also when they ask you questions and you begin to answer, they will take the initial part of the answer as the answer and then "one up" you instantly either with their accomplishments or the accomplishments of others that they know. You can never have anything "unique" about yourself because they already do, have done or know someone who does what you are interested in.

Our narc rarely talked about himself. He mostly kept asking open-ended questions to us, trying to get us to divulge sensitive information that he could use to split us apart.

Autistic/ADHD will check off several of these without being narcissistic

When he’s screaming in your face, telling you it’s your fault he didn’t pay his child support, and that he’s dad of the year (even though he only sees his kid once a week for 10 years) but it’s all YOUR fault they screwed up, then you can be pretty certain they are one. Nothing is ever their fault.

The absolute worst is the narcissist who claims others are narcissists when he or she is actually the narcissist. It comes down to "It takes one to know one."

This is my first video of her and im getting the interpretation that she just used anecdotal examples of her own behavior to identify narcissism

0:29 @globally recognized narcissist negotiation expert and attorney? Helluva introduction

Gosh, listening to Rebecca for the first minute had me thinking that she was a narcissist.

“……see things that aren’t there…” Bingo! 💯

I feel that covert narcissists are more tricky to figure out. Thank you for the video though, very helpful.

I think I may be a narcissist, I have done the things mentioned and feel really bad. In the past I had people who told me I was interrupting and not allowing others to speak, I was very embarrassed and made a point to watch out for that behavior in the future. I am guilty of many social mistakes. I was also taught, when growing up, not to ask personal questions. I am trying to be more aware of my negative behavior and improve.

Yeah, right on. My mother ticks all the boxes. She's 92 and sometimes she asks how I am, but I think it's because she's worried I won't be able to look after her. They are LOST, but they think they're God's gift to Humanity. It's hard to be humble when you're so Great.

Yes. Espescially criticism of others and gaslighting. Also, unfailingly interrupting specifically to one-up, whether an accomplishment, a funny story, or something sad... It gets to be comical.

I knew she was smart. I like that in a woman. I knew she had life experience, as I did. I knew she was a narcissist when she thought she knew more than I did about things I know a lot about, from MY life, from MY experience and from my education.

I appreciate your putting this information about there and think it's a wonderful public service. My story is like so many others it's pointless to reiterate it. I am grateful that you, and people like you validate what a narc is. I would like to add: the enablers, and people who play dumb, or are paid-off by the narc, and let the narc get away with horrible things are toxic and bad news. My greatest fear is becoming a narc and constantly self-evaluating.

●Iterrupting- Yep constantly ● Talk abt themselves-Yep always abt them ● Nope never ask abt me - litterally does not care - hates me - I can see it in those eyes full of hate & rage ● Not interested in how I am - absolutely not ● Constant Criticism/ JudgeMENTAL AF ● Gaslighting- Absolutely ● Lack of interest ● Rage / Cant disagree or have independent opinions/ or Else I'm " Attacking" them

Wish I learned this almost 11 yrs ago when I met tj the ex A COVERT NARCISSIST. Ty for information now! NAMAslay!

Just on 2 and 3 so far. Narcissist will often ask about "you" at the start of a relationship. In fact they will ask a LOT of questions about you (can be spotted as a red flag if it's just that bit more than you'd expect) mining for information so they learn two things 1. your emotional and psychological weaknesses - so they can exploit them later on and 2. the type of partner/friend etc that you're looking for so they can construct a personality that reflects that eg pretend to be that - this allows them "in," and to gain deep levels of trust to create the trauma bond around.

Yes Rebecca ,yes indeed !!!! Thank you Rebecca for you being here with all your videos and thank you everyone here with all y'all's comments here and I hoped you Rebecca & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 evening / night 🙏

I finally threw my husband out Thanksgiving night 2019 (TRUE)! At that point 19 yrs. living together then married, (WHAT A DUMMY I WAS), still not divorced as of this date, but I finally have the money to file, thank god! I knew something was off after not even 4 yrs., but I couldn't quite put my finger on what was definitely a personality flaw, I knew what narcissistic meant in the simple context of certain behaviors at any given time and would call him out using that TERM OF ENDEARMENT on too many occasions to count. It wasn't until I started to see many YT videos that pertained to narcissistic personality disorder! I'm a PSYCHIC EMPATH and was interested in that genre and similar topics that had become a daily ritual until I clicked on that 1st video on the many different types of narcissistic personality disorders, and when I did it was like a lightbulb went off in my head! Finally, it all made perfect sense! Every one of these crazy making conversation tell tale signs is absolutely right on the proverbial HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD! Hope everyone is paying attention! Awesome video!

To be fair we ought to ask each other questions and learn to be a listener just because the more extroverted you are, and I am, I naturally talk, so growth for me is asking and listening it's just because I enjoy talking so much. I said this once to someone and she said, you're alright but some other people all they can do is talk about theirselves

It’s the ones that work under cover, covertly that are the hardest to spot in my opinion. They will fool you. They are masters at disguising themselves as a victim in a situation to get you comfortable to open up to them only to take everything you told them in confidence to use against you or smear you with. Trust your instincts on people. Usually if you feel like something is off you’re right. Don’t stay and play

Thanks for the video! The first point though can easily be due to symptoms related to ADHD when a person can interrupt and blurt out stuff … even people in ASD autism spectrum disorder. Both pretty common here in Silicon valley (as are narcissists)

YES and I will say they don't show interest until they see it as something to gossip about which has been true with narcs I deal with.

My daughter is living with a FULL BLOWN Narcissist. She cannot seem to ditch this jerk. My fear is that he is a cocaine junkie, and is dragging hwr down with him. I hate living with this, and watching the slow demise. Heart breaking for a senior.😢

Except when a narcissist is gathering information to use against you. Then they will ask questions about you.

The first 5 points really defines my child’s mother. Constantly interrupting a conversation about her self. I told her that the three most important persons in your life must be Me, Myself and I. She never took such statetment well. This was many years ago and even if I didn’t think of narcissist behavour, I often mentioned to her being so self centered. Today I can see her in the light of a covert narcissist.

You fully described my narc. She checks all seven boxes.

I interrupt a lot. Especially if they are a slow talker. It’s terrible. I hate listening to drown out story where they could have said it in 10 seconds. I think I have some ADD tho. I don’t interrupt if they talk quickly and get to the point but I hate having to hear someone go on and on and on. I’m trying to work on being more patient . I bern like that since I prob started talking. I’m always like omg get to the point already.

I've once dated a narcissist and this video is so on point, because he never asked me anything about myself, since he was a covert narcissist, I kept telling myself that he was probably just too shy, I'll never make that mistake again😂 he was never too shy to flirt or ask for nudes (which I didn't ever send him, thankfully).

I really needed this video I am so negative and angry all the time and for no reason. I want to take someones course in narcissism and possibly get counseling. I am so excited for this journey. It got so bad that I ended up in the hospital only to get gas lit even more by the psychiatrist, overheard nurses talking about the patients, and had to be around a mentally ill person who hit on woman it was truly awful. I know if I watch these videos and focus on a hobby of mind I will be okay. Thanks for this video I've been doing so many recovery videos today and I'm sitting here sick from all the stress.

2) A nacissist will want to know everything about you, they commit it to memory so they can weaponise thwwt information. They arent just interested in facts, they need to ascertain your level of vuonerabioity , your ability to stand up to people , your agreeablness level . Never tell people you dont know intimately thst you were abused or neglected in the past. Never present yourself as a victim in your stories to non- intimates.

They are paranoid little monster toddlers. Judging fishes out new enablers

Oh yes!! I've unfortunately had a narcissistic mom (she passed over years ago) and my ex is a classic narcissistic personality. We still talk.. Not only bc we have a 22 year old daughter, but bc it seems no one else will! Anyway he is classic.. Constantly interrupting conversations... I've never known anyone who is as blatant doing this as he is... It is hard having a conversation.. The asking a question about me, you start to answer and they either start talking to someone else, or check the phone. I always end up just stopping what I'm saying, and he doesn't even notice! The gaslighting reigns supreme. Too many examples to even talk about. So yes, I'm familiar with these points! Please save yourself before you get too involved with someone with these traits. Listen to Rebecca!

First time I met a certain guy from a dating site, we met at a restaurant, ordered only coffee, and sat and HE talked for four hours straight. I kept looking for a place to jump into the conversation, because we actually did share some things in common, but there was no entry. If I'd watched this video after that first date, that would have been the last date. Unfortunately we got together a few more times, but then HE got a job and I was happy for him and told him, and then I got a job and told him, and never heard from him. I pestered him on all ways of contacting him that I could, to get some response from him -- and that's when he dumped me. Good. The only issue I have with your list is, it's probably part of my INFP personality not to want to ask prying questions about other people. I don't think it's narcissistic not to ask about other people, but I don't pry, out of the box. I was sitting at a dinner table with ten other coworkers, and out of the blue one of them asked, "so WHY DID YOU THINK GETTING A JOB AT OUR PLACE OF WORK WAS SOMETHING YOU WANTED?" I mean, right there in front of everyone. It was a little embarrassing. I answered, of course, but -- that's not the way I'd go about showing interest in others and their lives. I had built no relationship with her up to that point. I thought that was pretty rude. And if that's "showing interest in the lives of others," I don't do it that way.

I'm having a hard time determining if I'm a narcissist or something else. I feel like I exhibit a lot of narcissistic traits, and yet I don't like taking advantage of people, I don't like abusing people, I have empathy, but I also engage in narcissistic behaviour without realizing it. I don't do it intentionally, I don't mean to hurt others. What is wrong with me

Thank You I noticed some of the traits in myself that I need to stop like be quick to hear slower to speak and slower to anger again Thank You

On number one, interrupting a lot. I had a boss who would have a meeing with you and would not allow you to interrupt her justifyably - not once - to defend yourself from her unfounded criticism. They will say "let me finish," but in reality they will never let you begin. They dominate conversation and will not allow much interruption of themselves.

The opposite of narcissists are people pleasers,, and codependents.. One needs the other to operate in a sick kind of way. I look forward to reading your books.

Yes. They've asked me a question as I started to reply, they walked away. It's like a teenager putting their hand in your face saying "talk to the hand" & walking off.

My husbands narc ego so big he shot down an easy helpful idea I had on AIR PURIFIER VIA AIR LINES! I had this idea in 2012!!!!!! We could have avoided a ton of covid had my idea been implemented. Why I’m a nurse - my Narc ex travels a lot & would always come home sick from plane travel. He is an Aerospace Engineer ! Works on jets. We could have made millions & been a power couple. But it wasn’t his idea 💡. But I needed his input as an engineer to implement it to practical - but nope 👎 I’d spoke to airline pilots & attendants and they loved my idea. They get sick a lot too from being locked in planes all day for hours with germs passengers

31 yrs. Together. 23 married with one child-( now a young man). 2010 swat at my house cos husband threatened suicide/suicide by cop. My son was 7 at the time. Major manipulation and hoovering led me back. I left Feb. 3/24. Police advised me not to return to our home. Much healing to do, and I’m involved with services for women who have been abused. I’m in hiding for now. Will go to another province in order to stay safe. Even if he catches up to me: I DID IT!! I LEFT !! I made it out. My son is so proud of me. There is no going back. It’s all about self respect and self love. I MADE IT OUT!!!! And you can too!

Yes! I loved the part where you say you don’t want low vibrational people in your life! I’ve been accused of being snobbish by not wanting any people with negative energy in my life pulling me down. Why would anyone want to share in their self inflicted misery is beyond me.

My aunt is definitely a narcissist. Rebecca, my aunt has done all 8. I remember that we went to a bakery together. There was a stack of French bread loaves. They are looked the same to me in thickness and length. She made a scene because she claimed that the loaf given to her was inches shorter and thinner. The clerk behind the counter was nice. He switched out the loaves to the one she pointed. She whispered to me, “That is how you get the biggest loaf”.

When I was talking a lady was listen to what I was saying, but when I said the word narcissist, she turned her head and started talking to the person beside her. This same person is bossy and controlling, making a person work like a slave driver and is trying to take over the business of the person she is helping.

The things you mention can indicate narcissism, but can also indicate other things, too. Gaslighting means to convince someone that what she observed or logically deduced is untrue. It causes a person to doubt her own perceptions.

Old now and I have a lot to go trough with my life. Regards to my parents and sister. One memorie among all. Dont remember my father even once asked me anything. My parents did not want to know anything about my life. My job, colegues, what I worked with etc etc. Nothing. They looked at the watch... But I knew everything about their lives Yes I know exactly

When first interacting with a narchole, if theyre persuing a person, they want to know all about you (looking for your vulnerabilities to better manipulate you) and are pretty vague when it comes to anything you want to know about them. Or theyll outright lie to you. For example telling you alllll about their ex then later you start to realize they were really telling you about theirself...

Sometimes with “healthier” narcissists it is initially far more subtle. Like a test to see if you can be used

Honestly, I've seen ALL of these things. I'm not exaggerating either. I wish I was. I've been in a narcissistic abusive relationship for almost 4 years. The craziest part of it all is that I didn't realize it until recently. There were some that you didn't mention such as making things up that never happened, lying yet dont want you to lie to them, lack of empathy, blame shifting no matter what it is/was, it's my fault, and no accountability. 😢

"Enough about me, what do you think about me." movie line

Yes. My ex bf is completely narcissistic person. He always does everything what he wants. He doesn't respect me at all and my family. Domestic violence team took me away from him. Right now, my ex is using gaslighting over me and trying to be nice

Ughhhh, you just described my wife. She zones out, when I tell her of things. Then enjoys getting mad, that I didn’t tell her.

Every point completely true. If I even said there is something wrong with some item of grocery which my narc husband brought from the store, that is enough to start him on a raging and yelling stunt and will end up nearly wetting himself! 😱

i have a friend i believe is a cover narc. Among MANY factors, one things i’ve noted is that she doesn’t listen to other people talking … she’s just waiting to talk about her stuff. Anytime she starts talking in a setting where people are having back-and-forth. It brings the whole conversation to a screeching halt. It often doesn’t really connect to what we’re talking about and it just puts a spotlight on her and nobody knows how to respond, because it doesn’t connect to the conversation we are having. she also takes it as a personal slide. If you ask for her opinion on something, but then you also ask someone else, “oh i see my opinion isn’t enough? what you don’t believe me? You don’t think I know what I’m talking about” I actually despise this person. Unfortunately, she’s in my friend group and my other friends have never really dealt with narcissistic abuse so they don’t see that she’s one.

What annoys me is when they butt in they change the subject to make sure they have the floor and your opinion is ignored. Also they will bring up a topic such as speeding in the complex. Next thing you they have told the flying monkeys that you are kicking up a fuss about the speeding problem, when they're kicking up a fuss. Unbelievable!

I feel though that some who are hyper sensitive to criticism are very likely suffering with inner scripts that are near constantly self deprecating. This greatly reduces their ability to respond in a more balanced way. I think many 'narcissists' are in fact suffering more from a degree of 'well masked' mental illness/depression which can have some inadvertently define them as a 'narcissist'. They are in fact on 'critical overload'. Reaching out to them with an aspect of actual help can by very problematic/challenging. And a note on criticism if I may... we should all be able to handle a *constructive* and criticism (hopefully tactfully delivered at the right place/right time etc). A *destructive* (or negative) criticism is another story IMO. My advice... be careful you do not reprimand (or worse) someone who is in fact trying to legitimately help you. If you misunderstand them only to realise later, you will feel like a complete ass and you will put a great distance between someone who you may well need and benefit from in your life!

The one I know best always, always has to be right. And is at his happiest when he ‘proves’ someone else to be wrong even when they are not.😜

Yes, yes, yes and yes again this is my mother up and dressed!!!!

I disagree. This is a description of self absorption. Narcissists will ask questions to gain access to a person's weaknesses in order to push buttons. They absolutely will listen intently during the lovebombing phase. This is also the description of someone grey rocking another narcissist. Destructive Criticism, gaslighting and lack of accountability is a narcissistic pattern. That I agree with you on.

I think I'm the narcissist... I needed this. Thank you ❤

I was just watching this because recently I have had to work with a person that fits every point. I and my coworkers really had a difficult time dealing with her. The bad part of your video is that my suspicions of my husband of 30 years has been verified. I love him but, I have also tolerated him.

An old acquaintance, friend of mine, from 45 years ago, that I have kept in contact with, but never spent more than a day with him mainly a couple of hours at a time. Apparently he has been living with his mother for over 45 years she passed in January at age 86 full-blown selfish narcissist. He has nothing now except getting $50,000 from the house that might sell. So I paid his way up to Alaska so he can stay with me little did he know that I’ve been studying these narcissistic behaviors for six or seven years and when I picked him up at the airport before we even got back to my place with which was 40 miles away, my hair was already standing up on the back of my neck. He lasted nine days up here I shipped his ass back. Kicked him out on the curb at the airport and threw his bags on the curb, and drove away. That’s how I treat a narcissist. And he wasn’t the first one or the fifth one for that matter because they are not in my life. He would ask me a question, and then, when I started to answer, he would interrupt me almost every time.

Watch out for the covert narc. They play humble, sweet, passive. But watch. I almost lost my mind....but l got out.

How are you? Okay, that's good. Now, let's talk about me.

Having to hear about all their interests and life during a conversation incessantly but when I talk, they stare at the floor and look like they're half asleep. I also receive criticism, judgment, and more. I felt beaten down. One day we were returning from a short trip and they started up... i told them not to talk to me until the manipulation and gaslighting stopped. Otherwise, just shut up. This worked splendidly. I was actually surprised I wasn't asked for examples, but maybe they realize I'd have had to talk for days! haha! Since then I have realized everything on earth isn't my fault and i've regained confidence. I can also see this person is jealous of me in several ways. They are still a mess. I have to be around them because of life circumstances, so I avoid them most of the time. It's a huge relief! Walking away is my best defense these days. And "I gotta go" are my three, favorite words. ....then I get up and leave. Fantastic!

Thank you very much for your wonderful teaching ! I really appreciate your speesh !❤