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@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
I'll see you all there!
@julijopeterson7096 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the invite. I’m to busy dealing with my dastardly narcissistic landlord that’s trying to evict me. Good luck to everyone though. Learn lots!♥️
@myfuturepuglife Жыл бұрын
@@Wishyouwereabeer321 So sorry you are going through all of this. I read your whole comment and when I got to the very end where you say "you probably don't care to answer nor help but needed to vent anyway." and then I don't see where anyone has replied back to you so I had to reply. My situation is different from yours but being dealt bad hands comes in many different forms. I sure hope you run into someone good, caring, and intelligent enough to help you either fight these narcs or at least help you to find a path around their attacks.
@Gowardh11 ай бұрын
Your videos are a help to me and others . I just want say however just in a loving way even though this knowledge helps in the emotional sense the new age vibration doesn't actually help in the spiritual sense please let Jesus in your life if you haven't Rebekah say Jesus is lord please he heals
@myfuturepuglife11 ай бұрын
@@Gowardh Amen! Jesus Is Lord!
@kathleenlangenecker2428 Жыл бұрын
In 7 years, I never heard I am sorry and never saw a tear shed. Total lack of empathy for anyone.
@jbs3144 Жыл бұрын
The dead eyes also…
@Bluesnakes333 Жыл бұрын
Or tears only when they’re throwing a temper tantrum to inspire pity from others. The dead eyes are so creepy.
@starflyer3219 Жыл бұрын
They can cry over themselves.
@sonictheheadshock756 Жыл бұрын
@@jbs3144 yup like my first stepmother 😕
@phillipcarter8045 Жыл бұрын
Being nice to early
@billkilpatrick9617 Жыл бұрын
They always try to one up you, and turn all conversations back to themselves.
@bradleyblauvelt1572 Жыл бұрын
Hell that’s everyone I know 😅
@deborahrichardson3731 Жыл бұрын
Yep
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@leahtreck1083 Жыл бұрын
@@deborahrichardson3731 Aloha, yup, yup, yup. I learned very late in life about Narcissism, but very grateful that I FINALLY got it✌️.
@ZakBear Жыл бұрын
Then they ask how you spun it😮wth
@Gk2003m6 ай бұрын
#2: they often deploy this conversational trick: they will ask you a question about yourself, but use it as a vector to talk about themselves. It goes like this: “Lucas, tell me about your trip to Ireland.” “Well we flew in to Dublin and” “OH I WAS THERE A FEW YEARS AGO! I STAYED AT BLAHBLAHBLAH AND DID ______” - and that goes on for eight minutes, and Lucas has not had a chance to say another word in that time.
@7hilladelphia6 ай бұрын
Yeah, the feigned interest to secure a slot in your time while they do their talkaholism 😅 ugh.
@Haberdashery226 ай бұрын
Yes this is typical! They're not interested in you and will always find a way to top anything you do manage to say.
@mariahconklin41505 ай бұрын
lol! That's how my co worker is. I'm like that also but I at least don't go on for 8 min that's insane haha.
@Haberdashery225 ай бұрын
Psychologically, this condition must have a name? Does anyone know what it's called? We come across it all the time! 1. On work courses where the person running the course will insist on beginning with - "Now before I begin, let me tell you something about myself and my qualifications." 2. The teacher/parent consultation where the teacher compares your child to hers. 3. The tour guide. She introduces herself and all that goes with her. Then - "And now it would be nice to know something about each of you! Your name and where you're from.. " By turn !!!She'll then relate her own story to a time she was in your hometown or knew someone who went there once. This happened to us recently on a one-hour tour where we only got to actually tour the place for 30 minutes. I gave her a terrible but honest review on Trip Adviser. Many ego-centric people out there!
@jackilynpyzocha6625 ай бұрын
Yes!
@Kdaniels20099 ай бұрын
Narcs Ive dealt with never apologize, they never admit they are wrong and they always gaslight and find fault with the other people and its never, ever, ever theirs!
@dessire18036 ай бұрын
My mother
@gayesthusky21776 ай бұрын
My old church
@cathymorrison85376 ай бұрын
My ex used to say “I’ve never been wrong. Once I thought I was wrong, but I was wrong”. It always brought a laugh but I could see that he BELIEVED it!!!!!!!
@chrisantoniou43666 ай бұрын
Quite so, but the traits in the video is about identifying someone from conversation, the traits you have pointed out come later on.
@carparthero7 ай бұрын
8 ways to identify a narcissist from conversation 1-interrupts a lot. 2-they don't stop talking about themselves. 3-they don't stop to ask about you. 4-if they ask about you, they don't stop to listen to the answer. 5-constant criticism of others. 6-gaslighting 7-lack of interest in others 8-inability to accept any type of criticism
@debbiemillo15567 ай бұрын
DONT FORGET -JEALOUS TO THE CORE OF YOUR CLOSENESS TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS/WORK COLLEAGUES TILL THEY TEAR ALL THAT APART TOO WUTH THEIR POISONOUS BACKSTABBING AND SMEAR CAMPAIGNS OF YOUR GOOD NAME AND NATURE
@debbiemillo15567 ай бұрын
PS ALSO -VERY VERY SECRETIVE -CAN LEAD A DOUBLE LIFE WITH SOMEONE ELSE EVEN AT YOUR JOB WHILE STILL GIVING YOU A MAGNETIC SINCERE PERSONA
@Lambchoppe537 ай бұрын
Someone that interrupts a lot could have adhd.
@brightpage10206 ай бұрын
The criticism is so key. They must always point out others as “bad”, from coworkers who don’t know how to manage their own store to randoms at Wal Mart who just get under their skin for existing. They are the authority for who should be / do what when and how. The only authority… in everyone else’s lives. 😂 To put themselves in the 1 up position.
@cyndimoring93896 ай бұрын
@@Lambchoppe53 yes that’s me
@pclifton4 Жыл бұрын
The main thing I watch out for is the sob story, their almost shakespearean tale of tragic woe that is their life they seem almost proud of. It sounds rehearsed and like a performance because it is.
@MsCraftyWPB Жыл бұрын
Yep..sad stories about events that happened decades ago.
@jeffbauer96726 ай бұрын
For sure! Don’t Forget that they will tell you this same epic story to you on nearly a weekly basis. Also, if he says he’s a genius then run!
@AudraGibson Жыл бұрын
Vulnerable narcissists will ask you about yourself. But they are on a research/fact finding mission. They are sizing you up to see if the other person fits a profile to provide narcissistic supply.
@addiedn11 ай бұрын
Spot on! I lived through this nightmare and still am. Had kids with him and his out there telling all that I am the narcisist.. I remember in the beginning of it all, he asked a lot of questions about me from the get go. I stupidly thought it's cause his interested... Yes!!! 100%accurate for a vulnerable /Covert narc
@Rickettsia5056 ай бұрын
Looking for ammunition.
@mariahconklin41505 ай бұрын
Oh okay good that's not me. lol! I get so worried. I don't want anyone else's drama I have too much of my own lol
@u.m.a.81197 ай бұрын
As someone with ADHD, the interrupting and the getting distracted when someone else is talking can be viewed as narcissistic and/or self-centered, when it’s totally not.
@Rissaalia6 ай бұрын
i was just about to comment this
@traceycrawford99386 ай бұрын
It’s far more than just this. Lots of people interrupt others. That alone, doesn’t make you a Narcissist.
@ninacarrier89796 ай бұрын
Or you might interrupt when you are excited
@d.f.90646 ай бұрын
Keep a notebook, jot down ideas while you're waiting for your turn.
@rdmanzo66916 ай бұрын
Ah, YES, thank you for pointing this out!
@sehryn6 ай бұрын
I have ADHD CPTSD Severe Sleep Deprivation and severe Social Anxiety. I interrupt, focus on myself, etc etc. By this definition I could be seen as a narcissist. I know I’m not. So anyone watching this with ADHD, please do not think you are a narcissist just from this list.
@SoundsBogus Жыл бұрын
The narcissist in my life never stops talking; drones on and on. Everything is a problem to rage about. I can't get a word in edgewise, I HAVE to interrupt, which makes him insane that I'd want to clarify a detail. Then I'm accused of "interrupting all the time". When I'm talking he listens intently, to come back later with, "You said, you said" 🙄but it's a twisted interpretation, not what I said at all. I have to be so so careful about choosing my words. 😳
@lorenconey5635 Жыл бұрын
Ever just see how long you can keep them talking about themselves for fun? Feed their ego like a bloated tick full of blood? Very entertaining. They can go on for hours. Sit and listen to them ramble. They only break when they have run out of inflating themselves. They can narcobuster (filibuster) forever!!
@SoundsBogus Жыл бұрын
@@lorenconey5635 6 hours. At that point I couldn't stand it anymore and interrupted. The worst is driving him somewhere, an hour away. I can't get any peace. He'll rage and rant very loudly the whole time. I can't focus, miss my exit, worry I'll get into an accident, and have to interrupt to remind him I'm trying to drive, then he gets pissed about the interruption and how disrespectful I am, and the raging continues. I'm an anxious mess.
@lorenconey5635 Жыл бұрын
@@SoundsBogus there will come a time you have to break away or you will break. They do not respect boundaries as for them, they are to be broken. There's tons of online counselors out there. Get a good one you can talk to. A drowning person will drown those who try to rescue them. Save yourself first.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@SoundsBogus Жыл бұрын
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thanks! It's a constant struggle. He's elderly, not going gracefully.
@maureenwilson6031 Жыл бұрын
This resonates with me. Married to one for 30 years. Nuts in the head. I've learned how to handle him to keep my sanity. It can be done, but you loose alot of yourself along the way.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@MrsNsf74 Жыл бұрын
Some times I ask myself if it's even worth staying because I'm afraid of destroying myself financially at this age by diverting.
@allanfischer94177 ай бұрын
Do you ever wonder if you are carrying the whole relationship? That's a lot of weight on you!
@gracesanity6314 Жыл бұрын
I certainly have allot of these traits. I am not proud of how entiteled l get. I am growing to learn how to treat others with respect and dignity. Bounderious are vital. Both inner and outer. I will change l will. Amen
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@MrsNsf74 Жыл бұрын
I have read a lot about this condition. You accept your faults ,narcs don't have any faults since they are perfect.
@mcwatchy18 ай бұрын
Thank you for even attempting to better yourself,as someone who doesn't see people do that often just by your recognition of your own faults i find value in you.
@allanfischer94177 ай бұрын
At least you recognize and accept the need for change. You are on your way! Good for you!
@texannadeb50057 ай бұрын
You may have selfish traits or narcissistic tendencies, we all do, but you do not have narcissistic personality disorder. You could’ve never recognized the need to change certain behaviors if you did. Congratulations to you for seeing the need to improve and doing something about it. You and every one in your life is going to be happier. Best of luck to you!🙏🏻🥰
@mercenary1881 Жыл бұрын
Hi Rebecca I dated a woman recently, I noticed a few times I had to put her on ice for poor behaviour, this sent her insane. HOWEVER upon reconciling she had a saying "But they(men) always come back" I found this sinister, she basically wanted to see how far she could push men, instead of being a well rounded human.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@allanfischer94177 ай бұрын
Great pattern recognition!!
@hollyn9547 Жыл бұрын
My boyfriend of 4 years would never ask how I was doing, never ask how my day was. Even after I asked him how he was and how his day was. He'd give me a detailed answer and then never even ask how my day was lol. He would also go into great detail about something that happened at work, tell me the whole story and how he fixed everything... it usually involved him being so awesome and the best of course lol. But when I would tell him stories of my work day his eyes would wander off and he showed absolutely no interest in what I had to say. Yet he expected my complete attention and interest when it involved him. There are so many behaviors he displayed that match all the topics in this video. I still struggle with feeling loss over our relationship because we did have so many good times together. But overall, he didn't value me as a true partner. I constantly felt like I was just a fixture. He liked having me around and how I made him feel. But I didn't deeply matter to him. If I was struggling with something, it was just "my problem". To any of you out there in a relationship like this- you deserve far better.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@Haberdashery226 ай бұрын
Red flag was there at the start!
@cassiewife2narrowgatehomestead Жыл бұрын
I used to work for the court system. We had a judge that loved to tell us about his life and how successful he was. I figured out if I started talking to him about my kids and life he would cut the conversation and walk away. I used that to my advantage.
@jackilynpyzocha6625 ай бұрын
Good for you!
@KoKo-gu3dh Жыл бұрын
One thing with a narcissist is they dont know how to read a room everyone would be talking bad about him & yet he will say: they like me, they really like me!
@trololol0l Жыл бұрын
My mother in law definitely ticked all the boxes. Always felt like we had to be careful or check her mood before planning anything. Felt like walking on thin ice.
@lorenconey5635 Жыл бұрын
You sink a little when you see they are calling...you have to work up to communicating with them. Masters at stealing the oxygen out of the room.
@Earthoceanfire435 Жыл бұрын
My father as well
@kimgordon3695 Жыл бұрын
Sorry 🙋
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@StressFreeDentistry Жыл бұрын
I think it’s important to define and distinguish between narcissistic personality disorder and just narcissistic traits or tendencies.
@josereyes11488 ай бұрын
why? Either way get away from them.
@sleepingwithcats51218 ай бұрын
Absolutely, and a lot of these traits standing alone or even beside each other don't make a narcissist, there can be many different reasons, not even a disorder just someone having a bad trait or a bad day, one need put everything in context and so on and so forth, it could be low self-esteem, it could be nerves at a party, who knows... she's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I've noticed the trend and it definitely is a trend, where everyone is tagging anyone as narcissist.
@sleepingwithcats51218 ай бұрын
@@josereyes1148You can't tag someone from a few bad choices, nobody is perfect. My goodness.
@josereyes11488 ай бұрын
@@sleepingwithcats5121 you made the assumption that it's based on a few choices. What if someone is a jerk and shows 12 of the 30 possible traits of a narcissist? Maybe you can't say for sure that they are a narc but you can tell you need to get away from them. My friend is a jerk 75% of the time. Can I say for sure he is a narcissist? Maybe not. Still, the obv choice is to get away from him.
@slivkask83297 ай бұрын
Very good point. Actually everybody has those traits in a certain degree.
@Elfdustify7 ай бұрын
In my experience, narcissists have always been very very interested in me, asking lots of questions and listening carefully - that's how they find our weak points. So I actually dislike intensely when people ask me personal questions. And out of courtesy I don't like to ask them - and I'm not really interested in those details anyway, as long as they are well. I'm talking about acquaintances here, of course. When the friendship deepens, then it's time to open up. One thing I've noticed, they ''love'' you intensely from the first moment they meet you, irrespective of gender.
@sandysmith46476 ай бұрын
My brother did this, he abused me for 64 years, in his later years, he started with the questions. One day within one hour, I counted 34 questions. I didn’t know exactly why, except that he was possibly trying to figure me out better so he could better use me. They are horrid ugly people.
@sandysmith46476 ай бұрын
My brother did this, he abused me for 64 years, in his later years, he started with the questions. One day within one hour, I counted 34 questions. I didn’t know exactly why, except that he was possibly trying to figure me out better so he could better use me. They are horrid ugly people.
@sandysmith46476 ай бұрын
My brother did this, he abused me for 64 years, in his later years, he started with the questions. One day within one hour, I counted 34 questions. I didn’t know exactly why, except that he was possibly trying to figure me out better so he could better use me. They are horrid ugly people.
@sandysmith46476 ай бұрын
My brother did this, he abused me for 64 years, in his later years, he started with the questions. One day within one hour, I counted 34 questions. I didn’t know exactly why, except that he was possibly trying to figure me out better so he could better use me. They are horrid ugly people.
@sandysmith46476 ай бұрын
My brother did this, he abused me for 64 years, in his later years, he started with the questions. One day within one hour, I counted 34 questions. I didn’t know exactly why, except that he was possibly trying to figure me out better so he could better use me. They are horrid ugly people.
@tqmnini Жыл бұрын
If they do listen to you, it's only so they can shoot your thoughts down
@reneeweber1623 Жыл бұрын
So right on!
@sweetielady7710 Жыл бұрын
Yep, or if they can somehow use whatever you’re saying against you later on
@tqmnini Жыл бұрын
@@sweetielady7710 they're so predictable once you notice the pattern, aren't they?
@sweetielady7710 Жыл бұрын
@@tqmnini they really are! My husband has a narcissistic relative and he got into an argument with her (again 🙄) the other day and was starting to tell me about it, and I said, “let me guess, did she then say this, then follow it up with this, and then say this?” (Can’t remember exactly what I said but it was along the lines of stuff that involved blame-shifting, gaslighting, guilt-tripping, etc.) He froze and said, “wait, did I already tell you about this?” I said no, narcissists are just that predictable. Lol. Almost all of them seem to follow a similar pattern of behavior. Once you learn it, it’s so easy to spot and predict.
@tqmnini Жыл бұрын
@@sweetielady7710 your husband probably thinks you're psychic now. My husband and I now laugh at my mother's manipulation tactics, although I won't deny that those tactics worked on me for a very long time.
@texannadeb50057 ай бұрын
I’ve experienced all of these. A tell tale sign is to go completely silent when they interrupt you mid sentence and launch into a completely different topic, focusing on themselves of course, and making it clear that what you had to say was of no interest. Let them speak and just wait to see if they ever even remember that you were speaking at all or the subject you were in the middle of when they interrupted. It is rare if they do. When that happens, I don’t bother to try to pick up where I left off. I just pick up and leave the conversation.
@trishdowd75115 ай бұрын
Yep! Perfect response... don't it myself lol
@janeglover9978 Жыл бұрын
"What do you want me to do about it?" A favorite phrase they use when they don't want to address an issue
@lindajohnson706811 ай бұрын
Yep! My Narc always says “I don’t know what to tell you”. Drives me insane, always putting putting the problem back to me to figure out alone instead of working together for a resolution.
@cherobinson637110 ай бұрын
What they are saying is what would a healthy soul like u do or want. They know they are missing Empathy they know they Are Bent.
@harleycarousel50606 ай бұрын
I use that phrase to the narc, during the "closest to grey-rock I can get" moments. He'd rage to me daily about any issue, I'd offer compassion and a bunch of solutions, he'd crap on each idea and make me the idiot. Id just tell him to do whatever the hell he wants to do and he'd call me careless, heartless...etc... I didn't stick around to hear the rest of the verbal battering I got trapped in. The next day I find out there was never an issue to begin with.
@yukio_saito Жыл бұрын
Yes! Conversation hijacking is a huge sign🚩
@marlonsmith7342 Жыл бұрын
💯👍🏾
@theyrekrnations8990 Жыл бұрын
that is the truth for sure
@loneranger7573 Жыл бұрын
I was called a narcissist because of this, but in reality, I have ADHD and have a tendancy to blurt things out while others are speaking if it relates to me, instead of listening quietly. it is very hard to manage. but its not narcissism.
@theyrekrnations8990 Жыл бұрын
@@loneranger7573 guess your just gonna have to get on top of that. Lol
@yukio_saito Жыл бұрын
@@loneranger7573 How do you cope with it?
@Keyprinciples97 ай бұрын
Tolerating a narcissistic parent as an adult can be very psychologically damaging. The worst part is that it is like you get trained to be around someone like that, then unconsciously find other people who will do the same thing. Make an effort to be around normal people who are capable of being considerate, and man is it refreshing to be around someone who knows how to have a normal, reciprocal ,conversation, not be talked over, and disrespected by someone who thinks human interaction is a game you have to win by running your mouth the most..
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@ladyloungealot51198 ай бұрын
I've been on the phone with this person for a while. She didn't make any of those sounds that ensure they are listening, but she had done that before, so I wasn't suspicious. Suddenly I hear her arguing with a staff member about not putting enough chicken in her kebab. She managed to order a kebab, wait for it and start eating it before it was obvious all the time I was talking to empty space. Happened more than once.
@jj576i96 ай бұрын
As a nurse majority of people I would say 80% people are very self centered and you only find a handful of people that genuinely care about anyone else. Even their helper.
@randycoolbaugh1408 Жыл бұрын
Im in my 11 year of a relationship with a full-fledged Narc. Its not at all fun, very positive energy, personal happiness killing person... Just the fact i know just what i am dealing with makes it easier to deal with. All thanks to you Rebecca!!
@bobinthewest8559 Жыл бұрын
Successful interaction with a narcissist requires only two words: “Bye bye”
@kimgordon3695 Жыл бұрын
💞
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@michaeleckert5877 Жыл бұрын
Yes, all the time.They ask a ? Then you give the answer. Then they pay little attention and behave indifferently. That's how I know.Thank you for sharing your situation. You always make me feel better.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@Haberdashery226 ай бұрын
Yes they behave indifferently or more often use what you just said to put you down, make you feel stupid.
@alcudiababe1 Жыл бұрын
For me, and this is my experience, from perhaps the type of Narcissistic relationships I had as friends they actually told on themselves at the beginning of the relationships. One of them said she was sick, she is that's why she needed a therapist - and the other was crying down the phone at me as she was telling me she pushes people away. Of course, I was always like you're not sick, and trying to calm a hysterical woman down over a phonecall but they tell on themselves like that and if there's a truer time to believe them that's the time because they've just given you an insight to their character. We, as genuinely nice kind people get taken in to want to help them, yet, our biggest lesson is others can only fix themselves just like we can only change ourselves
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@verseau8360 Жыл бұрын
When they are trying to “love bomb” you in the beginning, they will ask you questions about yourself, in an exaggerated and fawning manner, to make you feel like you’re the most interesting person in the world. Once they’ve got you hooked however it will start to decline and then they start ignoring you, which makes you feel desperate for their attention and approval again. Sick game. They want to manipulate you and keep you enslaved to their machinations.
@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi5 ай бұрын
🕊 🙏🕊
@susanjones84896 ай бұрын
I called out the old narc where I live for her gaslighting and conversation hijacking, which is another sure sign, and turning every conversation into an argument with triangulation. I can spot them a mile away ! Her narcissistic injury was such that she rudely turns her back on me and acts like I don’t exist..all in a group setting. 👏🏻 perfect.
@RebeccaZungEsq11 күн бұрын
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@lightloveandawake31148 ай бұрын
💗😊💕Thanks for this talk. I’m becoming aware of the narcissist, I have a few of them. I’m educating myself by listening to videos on this topic. 8 Tell-tail signs that you are talking with somebody who is a narcissist 1. They interrupt a lot. 2. They don’t stop talking about themselves. 3. They don’t stop to ask about you. 4. If they ask about you, they don’t stop to listen foto the answer. 5. Constant criticism of others. 6. Gaslighting. 7. Lack of interest in others. 8. Inability to accept any form of criticism. 💕😊💗
@7hilladelphia6 ай бұрын
Add "grooming" to the list, the charm offensive love bomb cuteness, puppydog eyes etc.
@Heather-kz7tn Жыл бұрын
Also when they ask you questions and you begin to answer, they will take the initial part of the answer as the answer and then "one up" you instantly either with their accomplishments or the accomplishments of others that they know. You can never have anything "unique" about yourself because they already do, have done or know someone who does what you are interested in.
@qt2shooz Жыл бұрын
Yes, this!
@MsCraftyWPB Жыл бұрын
I used to think I made up that term "one up," but after researching the internet and coming across videos like this using the same term, I've realized it's actually a thing!!! And, if his attempt to one up me proves "less than," he'll come back with a humble, well, I don't know much about that. I've called him out in it. "Then why did you act as though you do?" He goes silent. Then I get silence. 🫤🙄
@christinel66167 ай бұрын
Our narc rarely talked about himself. He mostly kept asking open-ended questions to us, trying to get us to divulge sensitive information that he could use to split us apart.
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@richardlebreton66906 ай бұрын
Autistic/ADHD will check off several of these without being narcissistic
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@Applecidergirl516 Жыл бұрын
When he’s screaming in your face, telling you it’s your fault he didn’t pay his child support, and that he’s dad of the year (even though he only sees his kid once a week for 10 years) but it’s all YOUR fault they screwed up, then you can be pretty certain they are one. Nothing is ever their fault.
@gwynnielsen5081 Жыл бұрын
The absolute worst is the narcissist who claims others are narcissists when he or she is actually the narcissist. It comes down to "It takes one to know one."
@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi6 ай бұрын
🙏 I'm just learning what a narcissist is ! I'm 50 . 🙏. Seems there is a lot of them in this world ! It seems like most of my sister's are narcissists , explains a lot.🙏
@gwynnielsen50816 ай бұрын
@@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi I have a sister who is one as well. They are hard to negotiate.
@JadaGates5 ай бұрын
I can totally relate. I never cheated yet he constantly says I’m a cheater and that’s the reason he cheats. He accuses me of being void of emotion and the only reason I cry all the time is because I want attention. No I cry cause I lost my mom 2 yrs ago to breast cancer and all you’ve done is yell at and hit me. And call me names, he tells people I prostitute to pay my bills, I have a good job. I have ptsd and I am not the person I was. But by GODS grace I will be
@gwynnielsen50815 ай бұрын
@@JadaGates You need to lose this man in a big way.
@JadaGates5 ай бұрын
@@gwynnielsen5081 once I started standing up for myself it was no longer fun, so he moved on to a young girl…. I blocked him and poured all my love into GOD and my babies!!!! Pray for that girl she has no idea what’s in her future
@michaelbordowitz772411 ай бұрын
This is my first video of her and im getting the interpretation that she just used anecdotal examples of her own behavior to identify narcissism
@RebeccaZungEsq11 күн бұрын
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@TonyRedunzo6 ай бұрын
0:29 @globally recognized narcissist negotiation expert and attorney? Helluva introduction
@lanamuir9352 Жыл бұрын
Gosh, listening to Rebecca for the first minute had me thinking that she was a narcissist.
@levornspencer57526 ай бұрын
Exactly
@voohoooh6 ай бұрын
She is, how she perceives herself and how wonderful she is, best seller blah blah.
@jakoblevantinus91135 ай бұрын
There is such a thing as "healthy narcissism"
@carolpelletier7631 Жыл бұрын
“……see things that aren’t there…” Bingo! 💯
@marlonsmith7342 Жыл бұрын
💯👍🏾
@lukecarey613 Жыл бұрын
I feel that covert narcissists are more tricky to figure out. Thank you for the video though, very helpful.
@ND-or5so Жыл бұрын
Luke Carey: Omg, yes. They really hide big time. They are the worst of them all in my eyes. They are very sneaky and never reciprocating.
@hugmc Жыл бұрын
Yes and the most dangerous
@mariastewart9861 Жыл бұрын
Agree. They are the ones who WILL ask you questions so they can gossip about you and start a smear campaign if they need it
@SusanBame Жыл бұрын
Married to one for 25 years and wouldn't have known it, until I read a book on verbal abuse and realized he was doing all the covert passive-aggressive stuff. Another guy I met, however, was doing all the aggressive-aggressive stuff, and they were BOTH verbal abusers. I wouldn't have discovered my ex was a covert verbal abuser without the other guy being an aggressive-aggressive and I had to figure him out.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
Glad I could help. You got this! ❤
@user-hn4oi7yz1h7 ай бұрын
I think I may be a narcissist, I have done the things mentioned and feel really bad. In the past I had people who told me I was interrupting and not allowing others to speak, I was very embarrassed and made a point to watch out for that behavior in the future. I am guilty of many social mistakes. I was also taught, when growing up, not to ask personal questions. I am trying to be more aware of my negative behavior and improve.
@Cadia3697 ай бұрын
You’re not a narcissist. A narc wouldn’t consider themselves to be one.
@Haberdashery226 ай бұрын
You're not a narcissist. You are sensitive enough to learn by any mistakes you might have made. Narcissists don't ever change because they don't see themselves as anything less than perfect.
@happym30085 ай бұрын
Relax U may be codependent
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@axis2946 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, right on. My mother ticks all the boxes. She's 92 and sometimes she asks how I am, but I think it's because she's worried I won't be able to look after her. They are LOST, but they think they're God's gift to Humanity. It's hard to be humble when you're so Great.
@qt2shooz Жыл бұрын
Yes. Espescially criticism of others and gaslighting. Also, unfailingly interrupting specifically to one-up, whether an accomplishment, a funny story, or something sad... It gets to be comical.
@d.f.90646 ай бұрын
I knew she was smart. I like that in a woman. I knew she had life experience, as I did. I knew she was a narcissist when she thought she knew more than I did about things I know a lot about, from MY life, from MY experience and from my education.
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@JohnBarrylizard7 ай бұрын
I appreciate your putting this information about there and think it's a wonderful public service. My story is like so many others it's pointless to reiterate it. I am grateful that you, and people like you validate what a narc is. I would like to add: the enablers, and people who play dumb, or are paid-off by the narc, and let the narc get away with horrible things are toxic and bad news. My greatest fear is becoming a narc and constantly self-evaluating.
@LisaLisa06247 ай бұрын
●Iterrupting- Yep constantly ● Talk abt themselves-Yep always abt them ● Nope never ask abt me - litterally does not care - hates me - I can see it in those eyes full of hate & rage ● Not interested in how I am - absolutely not ● Constant Criticism/ JudgeMENTAL AF ● Gaslighting- Absolutely ● Lack of interest ● Rage / Cant disagree or have independent opinions/ or Else I'm " Attacking" them
@CLHS1944 Жыл бұрын
Wish I learned this almost 11 yrs ago when I met tj the ex A COVERT NARCISSIST. Ty for information now! NAMAslay!
@katealison60876 ай бұрын
Just on 2 and 3 so far. Narcissist will often ask about "you" at the start of a relationship. In fact they will ask a LOT of questions about you (can be spotted as a red flag if it's just that bit more than you'd expect) mining for information so they learn two things 1. your emotional and psychological weaknesses - so they can exploit them later on and 2. the type of partner/friend etc that you're looking for so they can construct a personality that reflects that eg pretend to be that - this allows them "in," and to gain deep levels of trust to create the trauma bond around.
@7hilladelphia6 ай бұрын
Yes, its grooming....
@suejohnson535 Жыл бұрын
Yes Rebecca ,yes indeed !!!! Thank you Rebecca for you being here with all your videos and thank you everyone here with all y'all's comments here and I hoped you Rebecca & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 evening / night 🙏
@konablu Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Rebecca. Oh, yes, I grew up with elders on one side of the family that constantly interrupted people. Critical of things that did not match up with their plans. I chose to learn more about the study of the mind so I could deal with them. There were many moves to new places involved. The more boundaries we made, the fresher the air became.
@lucyhall526 Жыл бұрын
I finally threw my husband out Thanksgiving night 2019 (TRUE)! At that point 19 yrs. living together then married, (WHAT A DUMMY I WAS), still not divorced as of this date, but I finally have the money to file, thank god! I knew something was off after not even 4 yrs., but I couldn't quite put my finger on what was definitely a personality flaw, I knew what narcissistic meant in the simple context of certain behaviors at any given time and would call him out using that TERM OF ENDEARMENT on too many occasions to count. It wasn't until I started to see many YT videos that pertained to narcissistic personality disorder! I'm a PSYCHIC EMPATH and was interested in that genre and similar topics that had become a daily ritual until I clicked on that 1st video on the many different types of narcissistic personality disorders, and when I did it was like a lightbulb went off in my head! Finally, it all made perfect sense! Every one of these crazy making conversation tell tale signs is absolutely right on the proverbial HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD! Hope everyone is paying attention! Awesome video!
@alcudiababe1 Жыл бұрын
To be fair we ought to ask each other questions and learn to be a listener just because the more extroverted you are, and I am, I naturally talk, so growth for me is asking and listening it's just because I enjoy talking so much. I said this once to someone and she said, you're alright but some other people all they can do is talk about theirselves
@ShelleybutyoucancallmeShell Жыл бұрын
People who are more introverted, but also curious and empathetic, actually enjoy listening to people such as yourself, as people like me would find you entertaining and interesting, and if you were in need of suggestions, or consolation, that's when people like me are helpful. As long as when people like me step out of our comfort zone and want to share things about ourselves and/or need a shoulder to cry on/listen to us, and people like you are there to offer emotional support, (and you are providing that for others) then I would say you are doing absolutely nothing wrong, and keep being you!
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@PJAndersson733 Жыл бұрын
It’s the ones that work under cover, covertly that are the hardest to spot in my opinion. They will fool you. They are masters at disguising themselves as a victim in a situation to get you comfortable to open up to them only to take everything you told them in confidence to use against you or smear you with. Trust your instincts on people. Usually if you feel like something is off you’re right. Don’t stay and play
@lisanedrouin3926 ай бұрын
Thanks for the video! The first point though can easily be due to symptoms related to ADHD when a person can interrupt and blurt out stuff … even people in ASD autism spectrum disorder. Both pretty common here in Silicon valley (as are narcissists)
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@Powerage_86 Жыл бұрын
YES and I will say they don't show interest until they see it as something to gossip about which has been true with narcs I deal with.
@macnchessplz5 ай бұрын
! And watch for how the person gossiped abouts (what ever it is they or doing or have done) is effecting the gossiper. In fine detail.
@margdisbrow1214 Жыл бұрын
My daughter is living with a FULL BLOWN Narcissist. She cannot seem to ditch this jerk. My fear is that he is a cocaine junkie, and is dragging hwr down with him. I hate living with this, and watching the slow demise. Heart breaking for a senior.😢
@faithinjesus7817 Жыл бұрын
Except when a narcissist is gathering information to use against you. Then they will ask questions about you.
@mariastewart9861 Жыл бұрын
Or when you are going through a tough time they want to know because it makes themselves feel good about themselves
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@Kent-Eric3 ай бұрын
The first 5 points really defines my child’s mother. Constantly interrupting a conversation about her self. I told her that the three most important persons in your life must be Me, Myself and I. She never took such statetment well. This was many years ago and even if I didn’t think of narcissist behavour, I often mentioned to her being so self centered. Today I can see her in the light of a covert narcissist.
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@MissionForward36 ай бұрын
You fully described my narc. She checks all seven boxes.
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@ccalexander1924 Жыл бұрын
I interrupt a lot. Especially if they are a slow talker. It’s terrible. I hate listening to drown out story where they could have said it in 10 seconds. I think I have some ADD tho. I don’t interrupt if they talk quickly and get to the point but I hate having to hear someone go on and on and on. I’m trying to work on being more patient . I bern like that since I prob started talking. I’m always like omg get to the point already.
@LonnaLocaa Жыл бұрын
same
@ShelleybutyoucancallmeShell Жыл бұрын
Me, also. Especially if the same person is taking too long repeatedly. (Not a one-off situation. ) However, it is just impatience and frustration on our parts. Character flaws- yes. But that alone doesn't classify us as narcissists.
@belavera9948 ай бұрын
I've once dated a narcissist and this video is so on point, because he never asked me anything about myself, since he was a covert narcissist, I kept telling myself that he was probably just too shy, I'll never make that mistake again😂 he was never too shy to flirt or ask for nudes (which I didn't ever send him, thankfully).
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@mariahconklin41505 ай бұрын
I really needed this video I am so negative and angry all the time and for no reason. I want to take someones course in narcissism and possibly get counseling. I am so excited for this journey. It got so bad that I ended up in the hospital only to get gas lit even more by the psychiatrist, overheard nurses talking about the patients, and had to be around a mentally ill person who hit on woman it was truly awful. I know if I watch these videos and focus on a hobby of mind I will be okay. Thanks for this video I've been doing so many recovery videos today and I'm sitting here sick from all the stress.
@satsumamoon Жыл бұрын
2) A nacissist will want to know everything about you, they commit it to memory so they can weaponise thwwt information. They arent just interested in facts, they need to ascertain your level of vuonerabioity , your ability to stand up to people , your agreeablness level . Never tell people you dont know intimately thst you were abused or neglected in the past. Never present yourself as a victim in your stories to non- intimates.
@cmbr. Жыл бұрын
They are paranoid little monster toddlers. Judging fishes out new enablers
@15Beaches6 ай бұрын
Oh yes!! I've unfortunately had a narcissistic mom (she passed over years ago) and my ex is a classic narcissistic personality. We still talk.. Not only bc we have a 22 year old daughter, but bc it seems no one else will! Anyway he is classic.. Constantly interrupting conversations... I've never known anyone who is as blatant doing this as he is... It is hard having a conversation.. The asking a question about me, you start to answer and they either start talking to someone else, or check the phone. I always end up just stopping what I'm saying, and he doesn't even notice! The gaslighting reigns supreme. Too many examples to even talk about. So yes, I'm familiar with these points! Please save yourself before you get too involved with someone with these traits. Listen to Rebecca!
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@SusanBame Жыл бұрын
First time I met a certain guy from a dating site, we met at a restaurant, ordered only coffee, and sat and HE talked for four hours straight. I kept looking for a place to jump into the conversation, because we actually did share some things in common, but there was no entry. If I'd watched this video after that first date, that would have been the last date. Unfortunately we got together a few more times, but then HE got a job and I was happy for him and told him, and then I got a job and told him, and never heard from him. I pestered him on all ways of contacting him that I could, to get some response from him -- and that's when he dumped me. Good. The only issue I have with your list is, it's probably part of my INFP personality not to want to ask prying questions about other people. I don't think it's narcissistic not to ask about other people, but I don't pry, out of the box. I was sitting at a dinner table with ten other coworkers, and out of the blue one of them asked, "so WHY DID YOU THINK GETTING A JOB AT OUR PLACE OF WORK WAS SOMETHING YOU WANTED?" I mean, right there in front of everyone. It was a little embarrassing. I answered, of course, but -- that's not the way I'd go about showing interest in others and their lives. I had built no relationship with her up to that point. I thought that was pretty rude. And if that's "showing interest in the lives of others," I don't do it that way.
@Malumbrus Жыл бұрын
I'm having a hard time determining if I'm a narcissist or something else. I feel like I exhibit a lot of narcissistic traits, and yet I don't like taking advantage of people, I don't like abusing people, I have empathy, but I also engage in narcissistic behaviour without realizing it. I don't do it intentionally, I don't mean to hurt others. What is wrong with me
@thewhitewizard1320 Жыл бұрын
If you think you MIGHT be a narc, then you aren't. It's THAT simple.
@Malumbrus Жыл бұрын
@@thewhitewizard1320 Amazing, so I'm some other kind of fucked up.
@thewhitewizard1320 Жыл бұрын
@@Malumbrus Most of us are !
@deborahrichardson3731 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Carter says it's called narcissistic fleas. You take on some of the traits. But since you recognize it, you can help yourself with it.
@Malumbrus Жыл бұрын
@ToddWraith-qu8nl Thanks... I am always hard on myself. That's what happens when you are raised by narcs and emotionally unstable people.
@gregcarcaterro9633 Жыл бұрын
Thank You I noticed some of the traits in myself that I need to stop like be quick to hear slower to speak and slower to anger again Thank You
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@sandracrawford98136 ай бұрын
On number one, interrupting a lot. I had a boss who would have a meeing with you and would not allow you to interrupt her justifyably - not once - to defend yourself from her unfounded criticism. They will say "let me finish," but in reality they will never let you begin. They dominate conversation and will not allow much interruption of themselves.
@zoeazsss50356 ай бұрын
The opposite of narcissists are people pleasers,, and codependents.. One needs the other to operate in a sick kind of way. I look forward to reading your books.
@t.l.7733 Жыл бұрын
Yes. They've asked me a question as I started to reply, they walked away. It's like a teenager putting their hand in your face saying "talk to the hand" & walking off.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@allanfischer94177 ай бұрын
Cool! Now you know how to get rid of them!
@hawaiigirl8089 Жыл бұрын
My husbands narc ego so big he shot down an easy helpful idea I had on AIR PURIFIER VIA AIR LINES! I had this idea in 2012!!!!!! We could have avoided a ton of covid had my idea been implemented. Why I’m a nurse - my Narc ex travels a lot & would always come home sick from plane travel. He is an Aerospace Engineer ! Works on jets. We could have made millions & been a power couple. But it wasn’t his idea 💡. But I needed his input as an engineer to implement it to practical - but nope 👎 I’d spoke to airline pilots & attendants and they loved my idea. They get sick a lot too from being locked in planes all day for hours with germs passengers
@Cadia3695 ай бұрын
31 yrs. Together. 23 married with one child-( now a young man). 2010 swat at my house cos husband threatened suicide/suicide by cop. My son was 7 at the time. Major manipulation and hoovering led me back. I left Feb. 3/24. Police advised me not to return to our home. Much healing to do, and I’m involved with services for women who have been abused. I’m in hiding for now. Will go to another province in order to stay safe. Even if he catches up to me: I DID IT!! I LEFT !! I made it out. My son is so proud of me. There is no going back. It’s all about self respect and self love. I MADE IT OUT!!!! And you can too!
@_l.w.a.6 ай бұрын
Yes! I loved the part where you say you don’t want low vibrational people in your life! I’ve been accused of being snobbish by not wanting any people with negative energy in my life pulling me down. Why would anyone want to share in their self inflicted misery is beyond me.
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@NikkiGRocks4Ever Жыл бұрын
My aunt is definitely a narcissist. Rebecca, my aunt has done all 8. I remember that we went to a bakery together. There was a stack of French bread loaves. They are looked the same to me in thickness and length. She made a scene because she claimed that the loaf given to her was inches shorter and thinner. The clerk behind the counter was nice. He switched out the loaves to the one she pointed. She whispered to me, “That is how you get the biggest loaf”.
@DennisMathias Жыл бұрын
I don't think that's a good example. She's just trying to be clever. Grass is always greener in the other loaf. I don't know which number you're referring to.
@BlaecOleander Жыл бұрын
I think one could try to be clever without giving a stranger a hard time when they're just trying to do their job and probably don't get paid enough to deal with that mess
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@NikkiGRocks4Ever Жыл бұрын
@@RebeccaZungEsq Hi Rebecca. I appreciate you and your informative videos. I have learned and healed a great deal. May God bless you and you succeed exponentially in all your endeavors.
@martyvirtue40518 ай бұрын
Thanks Nikki that is a great example. I had the experience with a narc who gave an employee a bad time because of old pastry. Even the pastry that got just out of the oven was old to her opinion...
@silentscreams2842 Жыл бұрын
When I was talking a lady was listen to what I was saying, but when I said the word narcissist, she turned her head and started talking to the person beside her. This same person is bossy and controlling, making a person work like a slave driver and is trying to take over the business of the person she is helping.
@phakeacount22286 ай бұрын
The things you mention can indicate narcissism, but can also indicate other things, too. Gaslighting means to convince someone that what she observed or logically deduced is untrue. It causes a person to doubt her own perceptions.
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@lgnyqvist6 ай бұрын
Old now and I have a lot to go trough with my life. Regards to my parents and sister. One memorie among all. Dont remember my father even once asked me anything. My parents did not want to know anything about my life. My job, colegues, what I worked with etc etc. Nothing. They looked at the watch... But I knew everything about their lives Yes I know exactly
@christymckee8133 Жыл бұрын
When first interacting with a narchole, if theyre persuing a person, they want to know all about you (looking for your vulnerabilities to better manipulate you) and are pretty vague when it comes to anything you want to know about them. Or theyll outright lie to you. For example telling you alllll about their ex then later you start to realize they were really telling you about theirself...
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
Stay strong! ❤
@betqpublic9901 Жыл бұрын
Sometimes with “healthier” narcissists it is initially far more subtle. Like a test to see if you can be used
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@SheSooWaavvyy6 ай бұрын
Honestly, I've seen ALL of these things. I'm not exaggerating either. I wish I was. I've been in a narcissistic abusive relationship for almost 4 years. The craziest part of it all is that I didn't realize it until recently. There were some that you didn't mention such as making things up that never happened, lying yet dont want you to lie to them, lack of empathy, blame shifting no matter what it is/was, it's my fault, and no accountability. 😢
@rascallyrabbit6 ай бұрын
"Enough about me, what do you think about me." movie line
@user-ef1ry9ti7x Жыл бұрын
Yes. My ex bf is completely narcissistic person. He always does everything what he wants. He doesn't respect me at all and my family. Domestic violence team took me away from him. Right now, my ex is using gaslighting over me and trying to be nice
@billpetersen298 Жыл бұрын
Ughhhh, you just described my wife. She zones out, when I tell her of things. Then enjoys getting mad, that I didn’t tell her.
@user-q9923 ай бұрын
Every point completely true. If I even said there is something wrong with some item of grocery which my narc husband brought from the store, that is enough to start him on a raging and yelling stunt and will end up nearly wetting himself! 😱
@TheSquiggleySpooch5 ай бұрын
i have a friend i believe is a cover narc. Among MANY factors, one things i’ve noted is that she doesn’t listen to other people talking … she’s just waiting to talk about her stuff. Anytime she starts talking in a setting where people are having back-and-forth. It brings the whole conversation to a screeching halt. It often doesn’t really connect to what we’re talking about and it just puts a spotlight on her and nobody knows how to respond, because it doesn’t connect to the conversation we are having. she also takes it as a personal slide. If you ask for her opinion on something, but then you also ask someone else, “oh i see my opinion isn’t enough? what you don’t believe me? You don’t think I know what I’m talking about” I actually despise this person. Unfortunately, she’s in my friend group and my other friends have never really dealt with narcissistic abuse so they don’t see that she’s one.
@belleray2 Жыл бұрын
What annoys me is when they butt in they change the subject to make sure they have the floor and your opinion is ignored. Also they will bring up a topic such as speeding in the complex. Next thing you they have told the flying monkeys that you are kicking up a fuss about the speeding problem, when they're kicking up a fuss. Unbelievable!
@omnipresent1215 Жыл бұрын
I feel though that some who are hyper sensitive to criticism are very likely suffering with inner scripts that are near constantly self deprecating. This greatly reduces their ability to respond in a more balanced way. I think many 'narcissists' are in fact suffering more from a degree of 'well masked' mental illness/depression which can have some inadvertently define them as a 'narcissist'. They are in fact on 'critical overload'. Reaching out to them with an aspect of actual help can by very problematic/challenging. And a note on criticism if I may... we should all be able to handle a *constructive* and criticism (hopefully tactfully delivered at the right place/right time etc). A *destructive* (or negative) criticism is another story IMO. My advice... be careful you do not reprimand (or worse) someone who is in fact trying to legitimately help you. If you misunderstand them only to realise later, you will feel like a complete ass and you will put a great distance between someone who you may well need and benefit from in your life!
@DennisMathias Жыл бұрын
That is a good analysis! I'd like to say I was thinking the same thing..but I can't claim that! Good job.
@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын
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@MarySSpeer Жыл бұрын
The one I know best always, always has to be right. And is at his happiest when he ‘proves’ someone else to be wrong even when they are not.😜
@joanneleckey1810 Жыл бұрын
Yes, yes, yes and yes again this is my mother up and dressed!!!!
@francesbernard24456 ай бұрын
Are you sure? People with so called normal hearing loss while getting older often find it harder to understand what people with higher pitched voices are saying. Most of all whenever they are trying tto have a converstaion with grandchildren on the telephone.That is why when they are trying to appear sociable soon after they show up in a room with distractions or that is crowded while starting to run out of quesions to ask which they could understand better when hearing the answer they might start having only themselves to talk about. The same is true for middle aged men who have worked as a tradesperson all of their adult life.
@zoewhite8977 ай бұрын
I disagree. This is a description of self absorption. Narcissists will ask questions to gain access to a person's weaknesses in order to push buttons. They absolutely will listen intently during the lovebombing phase. This is also the description of someone grey rocking another narcissist. Destructive Criticism, gaslighting and lack of accountability is a narcissistic pattern. That I agree with you on.
@delphilungwyn5308 Жыл бұрын
I think I'm the narcissist... I needed this. Thank you ❤
@karinteubes5838 Жыл бұрын
A narcissist never acknowledge any bad behaviour or negative personality traits. They are always right. So you're fine, just change a few habits.😊
@delphilungwyn5308 Жыл бұрын
@@karinteubes5838 ✌cool. Thanx
@sherrilee1334 Жыл бұрын
I was just watching this because recently I have had to work with a person that fits every point. I and my coworkers really had a difficult time dealing with her. The bad part of your video is that my suspicions of my husband of 30 years has been verified. I love him but, I have also tolerated him.
@koolbeans8292 Жыл бұрын
An old acquaintance, friend of mine, from 45 years ago, that I have kept in contact with, but never spent more than a day with him mainly a couple of hours at a time. Apparently he has been living with his mother for over 45 years she passed in January at age 86 full-blown selfish narcissist. He has nothing now except getting $50,000 from the house that might sell. So I paid his way up to Alaska so he can stay with me little did he know that I’ve been studying these narcissistic behaviors for six or seven years and when I picked him up at the airport before we even got back to my place with which was 40 miles away, my hair was already standing up on the back of my neck. He lasted nine days up here I shipped his ass back. Kicked him out on the curb at the airport and threw his bags on the curb, and drove away. That’s how I treat a narcissist. And he wasn’t the first one or the fifth one for that matter because they are not in my life. He would ask me a question, and then, when I started to answer, he would interrupt me almost every time.
@gracesanity6314 Жыл бұрын
Watch out for the covert narc. They play humble, sweet, passive. But watch. I almost lost my mind....but l got out.
@RebeccaZungEsq5 ай бұрын
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@k_spats Жыл бұрын
How are you? Okay, that's good. Now, let's talk about me.
@CarolynnMc016 ай бұрын
Having to hear about all their interests and life during a conversation incessantly but when I talk, they stare at the floor and look like they're half asleep. I also receive criticism, judgment, and more. I felt beaten down. One day we were returning from a short trip and they started up... i told them not to talk to me until the manipulation and gaslighting stopped. Otherwise, just shut up. This worked splendidly. I was actually surprised I wasn't asked for examples, but maybe they realize I'd have had to talk for days! haha! Since then I have realized everything on earth isn't my fault and i've regained confidence. I can also see this person is jealous of me in several ways. They are still a mess. I have to be around them because of life circumstances, so I avoid them most of the time. It's a huge relief! Walking away is my best defense these days. And "I gotta go" are my three, favorite words. ....then I get up and leave. Fantastic!
@saramakela66013 күн бұрын
Thank you very much for your wonderful teaching ! I really appreciate your speesh !❤