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When a narcissist can't control you, they control the way others see you.

When I called my sister out on her bahavior, she told me never to call her again. It's been a happy and peaceful year!!

The best thing you can do with a narcissist is get away from them completely.

I love that quote - “they wet the bed and blame the blanket” - Perfect description!

In my experience, when a control freak runs out of control. He/she will try and control how everyone else thinks about you!

Life lesson: do NOT give these sick people any information of which they will attempt to use against you. Just don’t tell them anything about you. This has helped me tremendously.

The immense feeling of relief when you cut ties should tell you that you have done the right thing.

I think when a narcissist says, "I love you" or "I will always love you, " they really mean something like, "I own you" or "I will always target and seek to control and manipulate you."

I have found with a narcissist that the “apology” tends to be vague and they never really admit to anything specific. Meanwhile when they are complaining about your behaviours, you will get a very detailed list.

I have yet to hear a narcissist apologize. They must believe they are never wrong.

The closest I ever got to an apology was "If I did that, then I'm sorry". Qualifying it with the "if" means they don't accept responsibility for their actions.

Emotional cruelty takes on a whole other meaning and they care about no one. Profoundly disturbed individuals

“They wet the bed and blame the blanket” This expression really got me rolling on the floor.

"They wet the bed, and blame the blanket." Perfectly said!

Wow, this describes my ex 100%, started off being the perfect gentleman.... flowers, romantic gestures, etc.etc. then bit by bit, chipped away at every last bit of me... 25+ years always thinking try a little harder, perfect home, garden , cook... didn't like my friends, eventually one day I realised that if I was on my own, I could work a lot less & have peace... 21 years have passed & I've NEVER regretted 1 nano second

This guy knows what he is talking about. These kinds of people would rather see you die than to let you escape their grasp. I know personally.

*That didn't happen...And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was bad, it's no big deal. And if it is a big deal, it's not my fault. And if it was my fault, I didn't mean it. And if I did mean it, you deserved it.* I saw this description years ago and it seems to fit!!

1. Give up on any relationship with them 2. Grieve for the loss of what wasn't and what will never be 3. Make a get out plan and stick to it, and don't share it with anyone 4. Get help so you don't carry the burden of their abuse for the rest of your life 5. Smile and tell them however you tell them "we're done" when you finally give yourself permission to go no contact

God bless everybody everywhere, who is struggling you are important. God loves you cry out to him, give all your prayers and concerns to Christ. You deserve the best in life.

Lesson: Leave the relationship once you figure out what's going on and how they are. Be happy, don't tolerate their manipulation. Just observe them, laugh as much as you can, sing, dance, do whatever you like. Seeing you happy is a pain for them; watch how they burn inside.

In an age of narcissism a typical response is "I'm sorry you feel that way". They never take responsibility for what they've said or done.

Best advice I got from a therapist. "Well, you can't win with a narcissist." Suddenly a weight was remove from my shoulders.

This is so my mother-in-law. She is such a toxic person and after 38 years, I have decided to go no contact with her. Talking to her about her behavior and inappropriate things she's said did not do any good so I sent her an email. She printed the email and confronted me with it. She was angry and defensive and claimed it was all lies. When we started going through the things I talked about in the email, she would swear up and down something never happened OR she would remember it differently where I was the one to blame and she was the victim. I videotaped our meeting and it's quite amusing to see her in her narcissistic rage. She threw temper tantrums. She held her breath, gritted her teeth, stomped her feet, lied, played the victim, called me names, screamed, yelled, and even growled at me. She's a horrible hypocrite. She meddles in everyone's business. She treats her son (my husband) like he's her husband instead of her son. She tells you what you are supposed to do and how you are supposed to feel. I am a quiet, shy person and she's a loud mouth. I was expected to change to meet her standards. She is a master manipulator. And this woman is 80 years old!

Good for you. I cut my sister out of my life because I was fed up with her know-all, abusive behaviour. My life is so much better now that she's not in it.

When you finally tell a narcissist to stay out of your life forever, they tell everyone you're a backstabber.

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. They will treat you so horribly, that you will become withdrawn and depressed, and then, they will turn around, and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” - Susan Williams

I finally called out my wife, and then she filed for divorce. No more source, No more need.

you are describing my mother's behaviour towards me, even when I had a breakdown and had considered suicide,she was more concerned of whether I had told anyone she may be the cause of the breakdown and said I had blamed her for it,which I did'nt,I had said the situation between us had made me ill,years of emotional abuse and lack of genuine love,gaslighting,lying about me and I had never heard of Narcissism.I now have had no contact for around 15 years and now know what its like to live a normal free life with my own family,free of dreading the phone ringing or walking on egg shells,feeling unloved and worthless.

“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” - Karla Grimes

Had a narcissist mother. She brought me to several child psychologists because she thought I was a psychopath, because I couldn't be controlled by her. I know this garbage all too well

Since mother has smeared me to my neighbours and our distance relatives overseas. Now I’m having to move on from our family doctor because she’s slandered me to him. He’s bought her story even though I told him what she was like. He’s even got my psychologist’s report recommending I have no contact with her and my CPTSD diagnosis from her abuse. My mother’s an absolute expert at playing the victim when in private she’s an abusive monster… I’ve cut off all the flying monkeys connected to her, the Dr was the only one left, and now he’s changed with me. She’s like sludge that overcomes everyone she comes into contact with.

I’ve distanced myself from a lifelong “friend” once I finally realized she was always the victim in her story.

They devalue you, insult you, put you down, and push you away.

One of the hardest things about having a narcissistic mother is coming to that realization and truly becoming aware of how many years of your life they affected

My sister in law is like this totally. I hardly speak to my brother unless she’s not at home. She takes no responsibility for the damage she’s caused to anyone.

That statement was made exactly. I don't think I deserve this. Then followed by I will still be here for you.

“How dare you have boundaries with me!”, screamed my mother many years ago.

Normal people are transparent, loving, flexible, unassuming, and forgiving, unlike narcissists, who are none of these.

You just described everything my mother put me through when I started challenging her behaviour years ago. Thank you for sharing this.

This just explains everything, I am not the bad person I am being constantly told I am. Hard tho when you do love this person and genuinely care about what they need and want.

She- “Youll never find anyone that cares like me.” Me- “God I hope youre right!” Celebrating 34 years of bliss this October with a woman that is nothing like the last one.

"if they don't admit their own errors...to themselves, they definitely are not going to admit their toxic behavior to you or anyone else."

Oh boy! This sounds so very familiar. You could be saying my story. I was married 25 yrs to a Bipolar Malignant Narc and did not know it. The damage he did to my relations with my parents, siblings, other family members, and even our kids. I was manipulated like a pawn in a chess game. I grieved for all those losses, and I am presently grieving too, for the alienation of my son who has turned into a Vulnerable Narcissist and is very passive-aggressive as well. I've lost my beloved son and baby (youngest of two) and it is devastating and I'm at a low point. I had to let it go. Everything. My parents, my siblings, and family members, who all believed him and not me. I had to let go of both my adult kids who are now emotionally abusive and showing strong Narc traits. My ex had a lot of emotional incest with the kids. Emotional incest is when a parent is not an authority figure for their children with healthy boundaries, but confides in them like an equal when they are still children. I saw this happen so many times. He refused to discipline them for bad behavior and would buddy up with them against me. He confided things to them that should not be shared with a child. He ruined our beautiful kids. So sad. My son moved to east coast. He came several times to west coast and on one visit, verbally screamed at me publicly for 10 mins out of a 15 min lunch, because I spoke to another customer at the same bistro and petted her dog, while he stepped away from the table. He also wanted me to drive 120 miles that afternoon on Halloween, to help him clean my Ex's house. He was furious when I declined. I offered to come on another day, just to see his reaction, and predictably, he was still furious. I had to drop everything and drive 120 miles round trip to clean the house of my bipolar ex, who was very abusive to me. I am in my late 60's and it would be very dark driving back late on an unfamiliar road with cops and kids everywhere on Halloween. Just examine the entitlement in his reaction. I failed as a parent if this is the product I created, yikes! He is the twin mold of his father now, except he is not bipolar and has has a great career, thanks to me. He came again to west coast months later, drove by my house multiple times on work but never visited. He is coming again in a week, and again wants me to apologize for something that supposedly happened 23 yrs ago, but is a fabrication. He was 13 at the time. He is now 36 yrs old. Nothing happened, it is a lie. Maybe my Ex is putting false memories in his head, I don't know. I worked very hard to send both my kids to Ivy League colleges, trips abroad, and gave them a good start in life. Now this. I lost my daughter to cancer a few years ago, and now my son is gone too, I cannot have a relationship with him, as it drains me and makes me so small and sad. I feel so abandoned by him. He was my baby, and I loved my kids so much, my daughter too. I feel so shattered that I lost them both. I know he will never change. Anyway, my focus now is on myself. I have written him off. If he wants to see me, fine. If not, fine too. I am not going to be triggered any more, and going grey rock. I could forgive a lot when I felt that there was genuine love under that layer of hurt. But I see now there is no love. There never was any love. There was no abuse from me. This is all a lie and manipulation. This was earth shaking for me to finally realize that THERE IS NO LOVE IN HIS HEART. It is all about what he wants from me and how he can use me for the next task. I am useful to him, that is all. I did my best as a parent. But he failed me as a son. Now it is time to step away and heal myself. Thank you for the video. Very much appreciated and healing for me. ♥

So true. Seven years ago I went through divorce from a narcissistic cocaine and sex addict and the revenge was brutal. With full cooperation of his lawyers he did everything one can think of to drive me crazy and to leave me without a penny. He almost succeeded. I am not totally recovered from the trauma and the theft yet.

“They may apologize but they are not sorry for what they have done. They are sorry that they are suffering repercussions. They are sorry that you can now see them for what they really are.” Boy, did you nail that! They are sorry that they can no longer control you. The jig is up!

What worked for me, was " Love them as best as you can, and leave them where they are"

They are another breed. The exact same behavior. Both when they try to bait you, and when they are aware you're on to them. I'm a pro recognzing their behavior and scaing them away. I've met more narcissistic people than not. Something in the water?

My parents were very controlling of me..I was my mom's scapegoat and my dad felt I needed to be their maid and their chef. I moved out of state and came back after 6 years. When I came back, they were so hateful, angry and hostile to me, they even treated my son poorly . ironically, I married a narcissist. Of course I.didn't know at the time. When I told him.that he had.to.go he threatened to kill me and said that he wanted to.slap the 💩 out of me..He did say that he does not know what he did to me and he did go around telling people that I was the one that was abusive. I am glad he is gone. My son wants nothing to do with him . he's gone and I am refreshed. My son and I.are attending counseling and are healing nicely❤.Bless those.that have experienced such things

I had the misfortune to have a narcissistic father, then husband and finally a partner who kept it covered for about 8-10 years - then all the things you talked about started happening. When I left (after 17 years)there were tears and sorry's galore but no real remorse. He then stalked me for several months - but I escaped and am healing from it all. Starting a new life at 70 is interesting but exciting too - bring it on!

My mom’s favorite response to my problems is “try being me”, as if no matter how bad I feel, her problems are always worse.

He did nothing and listened to me express my confused emotions that verged on an emotional meltdown and said nothing back. This went on for a while and he ONLY responded whenever I said ‘I’m sorry’ to apologise for my emotional outbursts. To which he would ALWAYS say ‘it’s okay’ to emphasise my guilt and his tolerance. Finally, one day, the penny dropped, and I realised this was him hoovering up those negative emotions as supply. The moment I woke up, I texted him, without explanation, that I had an epiphany and I no longer am suffering and am happy to move on because this clearly isn’t working anymore and it was silly to suffer so much when we’re both so young and have so many more people to date. I was genuinely calm and even said things like, no hard feelings, let’s shake on it. With a smiley face. I ended with ‘Toodles, my little demon 😘’. He blocked me immediately. 😂 and of course, I returned the favour. I’m glad I was raised with a healthy self esteem.

I watch a lot of videos on this topic because of my family, and you have the most relatable way of explaining these things. It’s like you recorded my family members. I know lots of people go through this, I just really appreciate how you explain it. Thank you!

If anyone has to deal with a narcissist, whether it’s the parent of your children, a boss, or someone you have to live with, please create boundaries. Keep conversations short and brief. Do not elaborate. Keep conversations in writing too, which helps when they gaslight you 🤷‍♀️ There’s nothing wrong with you! Your biggest and best weapon is to educate yourself on how to deal with a narcissist.

What is really hard is when you grow up in a narcissistic family and believe this behavior is normal, that is until you break away and get out into the real world. It never gets easy, the triangulation, scape goating, the lying. My only saving grace was thousands of miles.

When I started to put boundaries in place with my mum her behaviour escalated. It actually became so over the top it was hilarious. If ever I thought I was being harsh it stopped right then.

When people start with “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry but…” I shut it down and tell them “NOPE. That is not an apology. Try again.” And we continue in that manner until they get it right. That’s the only way to make it clear to them that THEY are the cause.

I'm a victim of narcissistic mother. I went no contact 10 years ago. It was the best decision I've ever made.

My covert narcissist destroyed my soul. The gaslighting made me doubt my own sanity. The silent treatment was like being slowly cut open whilst being unable to run. The trauma bond I was left with took me nearly two years to get over and was like being addicted to a class A drug. My life was a living hell. I can’t even put it into words. I didn’t know pain like that existed. I kicked them out of my home and cut all contact, it was that or death. After a lot of support from family, friends and professionals I’m now happy again and learning to live with my pain. It’s a journey but please make that first step. I realised that I’m the one with the career, I’m the one that’s kind and has friends. They don’t have anything, you’re a vessel. They don’t love, only destroy. Anyone going through that right now my thoughts are with you sending love ❤️

My husband screamed in my face " I don't want to live with you any more" what a relief that was for me. Putting up with his narcissistic ways drove me crazy always thinking I did something wrong. His punishment was to give me the silent treatment for weeks on end. Then tell his friends what I constantly did wrong ..... he's been gone now for 3 months and I don't miss being married to that man.... he will never contact me because I found him out for what he is. I'm now 71 and should have freed myself years ago. A big thank you for your advice 😊

You will never get clarity from a narcissist because that requires accountability.

This is my mother. One day I had enough. It’s really hard to try and explain to people why you don’t communicate with your family, but they’re still all under her spell.

For survivors who go no-contact...They 'ghost' for 30-90 days, until they come to terms with the fact you aren't going to return, then they reach out to those you love in order to 1. make you return or 2. enroll the people you love (and still have contact with) into the role they feel you "abandoned"...so, warn your loved ones of what to expect and look out for; but, FOR GOD"S SAKE DON"T RETURN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!

After a marriage of 33 years, I realised nothing would change, so I left. All those behaviours mentioned, the begging, crying, happened and promises of change etc with not one apology for anything! plus running me down to everyone, but I held fast. I felt very isolated, having to leave my life and friends and move to the city, but knew distance was needed. In time I realised how much happier my life was and around 12 years ago, so 8 years after I left the marriage, he tried to do one last traumatic thing to me. But I stood up for myself, followed my heart, didn’t cave in and I’ve not had any issues since, so a peaceful happy life is mine now. Oh and he has shown his true colours to his extended family and said and done some appalling things to them too. I sometimes feel sorry for him as his behaviour has isolated him so much! But it feeds his victim mentality. I clearly remember the feeling of a physical weight being lifted off me in the decision to leave.

Yep... I had no idea what was happening but now I know and frankly feel sad for them. Makes me wonder what kind of trauma they endured to turn out that way. It was when I finally stood up for myself and said I wasn't going to apologize again for something I didn't do, that the very fear that had kept me in "keep the peace" mode, happened-I was told I had to leave (among other degrading things) and even though they knew I was A LONG way from everyone and everything I knew and didn't have the resources to go back to my home state they didn't care. "It's not my problem" they said. The last words I heard were "I'm done with you" as they dropped me off at an old mold infested hotel room. One last kick to my heart and stomach to let me know I was nothing. I'm still recovering but I am thankful. Thankful to be alive, to have my physical needs met, to be in a modest apartment now instead of that motel room(it was demolished) and to be away from the day to day dread of wondering when the next bomb would fall.

Oh yes! My mother, a covert narcissist, would tell people, "I am really concerned about her ...."whatever she made up. Made me look bad. And it worked! Her friends thought I was a horrible person. Very validating video. Thank you.

I was raised in a narcissistic family thankfully I've found them all out. Now none of them talk to me anymore, much happier now

When I finally fled my abusive narcissistic ex, he spent 3 days straight calling and texting constantly, apologizing, begging forgiveness, trying to talk me into coming back, saying he didn't understand where this was all coming from, etc. including saying he was going to kill himself because of me. (My son and I had fled out of state to my Dad's after the ex slapped him across the face) When I did agree to come back (to start the separation/divorce) he told a mutual friend he had gone to the ER when in reality, he went to court to have us involuntarily committed for a manual 72 hour psychiatric observation. (We were out in less than 12 hours) What he got, was a restraining order followed by a year separation and then a divorce. The last time he saw his only child was at the court hearing to extend the emergency restraining order, his child terrified and hiding in the corner of the courtroom. That was 5 years ago. BEST 5 YEARS OF MY ADULT LIFE.

I have been following your articles, and they give me a lot of support. I have been raised with 2 dysfunctional parents, and they have not made my life easy. It took me a long time to understand and adjust that they are using me. It is especially my mother i would like to understnd more about, and what is the psycology, when my mother never let me talk nicely about my life, and my children who are adults today. They are managing good in life. Mother talks to me like a 3 person, and she never ask me how the children are. It is the same with my father, i can never talk nicely of my life and children. I had this breakdown, and to survive i had to tell more about myself, to manage the life, and yo be more alive, and excistent. But still today, i also have doubts if it is right, even with my friends to tell about ordinary life, and goodness. I am 53 years now and ready to moove in my life. I have contact with my parents, but when i decide. That has veyr important limits for surviving. You help me a lot, and thank for for sharing. Monika

From my experience a narcissist will ostracize anyone they cannot control. Then act out in wrath. They only "apologize" by saying, "I am sorry you feel that way." Putting the guilt on you for your feelings about being abused.

Alice,👍👍👍👍👍 I am 85 ,my husband of 60 years was a narcissistic egotistical man with Abandonment syndrome! He passed away in 2017 ! That’s when I felt I was o longer a prisoner! Now my days are joy and sunshine ! Good Luck 🍀 and HAPPINESS ALL THE DAYS OF YOU LIFE !🌞🌈🌹🌺🌸🌼🌻🎄

I was once in a very abusive relationship with an narcissist Who tried to convince me that I was nuts. So without him knowing I went to therapy. Long story short I was not only not nuts I had above average I.Q. I prayed to Jesus to take me out of the situation and honestly. I think a miracle happened because the next day when I awoke. I was done with him. But the best part is after I left him. My friend who still worked with him said he went on a rage like you can't imagine and this behavior was so out of character from the person that I knew and that's when I realized how truly weak he was. I moved to another town and he came looking for me. Unfortunately for him , I was in a college town and living next door to some football players from the university who sent him packing when he came looking for me. Never heard nor spoke to him again thank you jesus!!

“I’m sorry you were carrying that hurt”, “I don’t remember/reciprocate those experiences”, “Well, you did this bad thing to me a few years ago”, “I was dealing with a lot of stress at that time”, “I never did that”, “That’s your version of the story…” Fake apologies I’ve received from my narcissist MIL.

(8:15) "How dare you see through them. How dare you no longer want to put up with their nonsense." No truer words have been said...mic drop right there. 👏

When’s the last time a narcissist came up to you asked “how are you doing”? Let that sink in. . .

I went no contact with my narcissistic mother. She still claims she doesn't know what she did wrong. She also said she could always jump in front of a train if things would not go "back to normal"

They may even admit something they did wrong but only with the purpose to get you back

“To turn the victim’s social circle into their flying monkeys” - so true

The absolute worst in a relationship… be very careful to anyone watching this that hasn’t been there. I was a victim of this. Had no idea what the hell was happening. I’m an intelligent woman. Being involved with an abusive narcissist is not easy to see at first. Everything you said is spot on. Worst time of my life.

I live with a person like this. So I run away and discover many wonderful places and things to do and life is good from running away from this person!

He has already wiped out my reputation so that is a kind of freedom. He starts the fire and wants wants an award for putting it out.

A story - A person began to realise they were being abused by a narcissist and started trying to create distance and boundaries. The abuser contacted the victims close friends and family saying they were worried about the victim and created a rumour that the victim was addicted to opioids and wasn't well. Thank you for this video, creating clarity and educating.

My mom is a narcissist and everyone has discovered who she really is and has left her. She acts like the victim and says it's everyone else's fault and sense she feels like she's so perfect and spiritual, she says that we cannot stand the spirit of God within her. As a Christian this is so triggering to hear from her because it's almost like shes making herself God. I've chosen little to zero contact because she knows how to trigger my anger and I don't want to fall into having anger issues anymore, I want my heart to heal and live a life glorifying God.

You did a great job on the video man! Moral of the story...the second you realize your involved with a narcissist...record your exit! For legal protection!

This is exactly what I’ve been going through with a housemate in a shared house. She’s done a smear campaign against me, and the third housemate has moved out unofficially, my crime being I stay in my room all day and am working on setting up an art business. - And she doesn’t like not getting attention. My father was a narc, and my room has always been my safe place, though not as a kid. I’m too old for all this now. I’ve just retired, and would like to enjoy my retirement. I’ll be moving out in 10 months when the lease ends, and hopefully by then I’ll be making extra income from my art. But day to day, I’m walking on eggshells, and I just can’t bring myself to say one word to her, and I now keep my bedroom door locked of a day as well as at night, so I feel safe.

Their apology is nothing more than a narcissist trying to shut you up when they've been caught doing something they knew was wrong

I actually heard mother tell someone that her goal was to break me, as though I was a was animal. I left home at 17. It took a long time for me to see the reality of the situation.

When I asked my narcissit brother for the money he owes me, the threats that came my way were unbelievable.

After 25 years of being with a mentally abusive narcissist, my mind shut down. I had no emotions and was on auto-pilot so wasnt responding to his threats, manipulations, put downs as I was so broken. When he couldnt control me he became violent. He threatened to kill me if I didnt leave the house. I think he thought it would make me crawl back begging to be forgiven and take all his rubbish again. Instead i went to Women's Aid and was put in a place of safety. After him having cheated on me throughout our marriage, he tried to tell people that I had run off with someone else

I was told I was nothing more the the kitchen table and that I needed to check in to a mental hospital because I was going mad. It took 32 years to leave but I’ve now had 17 wonderful years on my own and plenty more happy years to come!

I had to end contact with my sister. After being blamed for everything bad that happened to our family for years I just couldn’t deal with her anymore. It’s been the most peaceful successful and stress free 10 years of my life.

Had a neigbour, a woman, who was a narcissist. Lived 6 years aside from me. She wanted to get eachother front-door-key within 6 week living aside from me... I refused, she wass clearly irritated. She'd always stand next to me withing 5 minutes whem I started to work the front garden, offering coffee that I could NOT refuse... My wife and I started to ignore her completely after she became pushy in an abnormal way. She became furious and talked trash about us in the neighbourhood. Neighbours would inform us about it. After 5 years of completely ignoring her she suddenly sold the house at left. We're so happy now!!

Sometimes even normal people can lack empathy, have insecurity and want validation from others. We all have a bit of narc tendency in us.. but differentiates between a pure narc and us is that their 'intentions' are always to create an emotional turmoil in others whereas they keep themselves balanced and safe!

When I called my mother out on her gaslighting and narcissistic behaviours she proceeded to scream at me that I was the worst child, she regretted having me, told me I was worthless and would never amount to anything, told me to go take drugs because that's all I'm good at (I dont take drugs, i dont even drink) and that i was her biggest disappointment. I went no contact in about January 2020 and I've never looked back. She still sends me generic messages on my birthday and on Christmas she was 'kind' enough to send me a picture of the set table she had for family Christmas lunch that I wasn't invited to. Everytime it just reinforces why I went no contact. Since then my life has become so peaceful and my self esteem has improved drastically. I will never understand a mother who builds herself up by breaking her children down.

They punish you, that's what. Stalking, silent treatment, lying, accusing.... punishment. Edit: after 35+ years of no contact with my covert narc mother, she suddenly sent me a message via another relative. The message was one of "concern".... she said she was concerned about me. Wow! I did not respond. Whenever a narc says he or she is "concerned" about you, run! There is no concern, it's a ruse. It's the same old control game. The real reason she tried to get me back is that her "set is incomplete"... that is, she can only talk about three, not four, of her children. It makes her feel awkward when telling stories to her neighbors. The very best thing I can do is to never respond. 🎉 then I will have the last 😂!

My sister is a narcissist. In April, I got up the courage to tell her "we're done"...that I didn't want any contact with her, and I told her never to speak to me or contact me, EVER. The result: peacefulness in my life! I've come to realize that narcissistic people will not change, and I had to be the one to say "that's it....I've had enough!" While I love my sister and harbor no I'll will against her, I had to severe the sisterly relationship for my own sanity. Others in my family were shocked. But they didn't realize how toxic the relationship with a narcissist can be.

This just resonated so much with me - every single point repeated over and over

Character assassination is one of the most difficult things to deal with. You will find those around you looking at you sideways and acting "off" around you. It's confusing.

My sister was the perfect compliant robot for our narcissist mother. However I was not compliant and my mother would fly into physically abusive rages when I crossed her. Her verbal demeaning of me was incredible. I ended up moving 3K miles away and my life vastly improved.

gosh... so totally spot on!!! every single bit of what is said here, just went through this having felt the need to finally end a friendship of 19 years during which I had become aware of specific patterns that for a long time I thought I could deal with until it really flew off the rails and I had to choose for Myself and NCEA. Thank you so much for this video!!!!! It so helps me in recovering from that former friendship and strengthens me in my belief that I have done the right thing, eventually!