Dear lord, Richard describing how many feel love really resonates with me. My experience exactly was along with how he describes watching porn at a early age and then not fully understanding why the idea of “love” is not working well with the other sex. Pretty flawed perception that is being created. I know several people that are single not wanting to date, I’ve been in that boat for a while because finding intimacy that feels authentic is difficult. Thank you for the interview! Great conversation.

Absolutely loved this interview. Richard is a rare gem, a brilliant mind and gifted communicator. The best coach, he’s given me the missing CPTSD piece and tools to heal. He’s a life saver and life changer. Thank you both. 🙏

32:00 love and life 35:00 Fargo movie evil person with kind people 2:30 vetting 38:00 advise for u 7:30 don’t fall with a narssist 40:20 don’t survive them just leave

Right around the 37 min mark, Richard takes on the idea of diagnosis and its limitations. This is an important segment for non-clinicians. Personality disorders are detectable from the second a person walks in the door, and you don't have to be a psychologist to fine tune that radar. The precise diagnostic criteria met in any particular case places the person in a useful category for other clinicians and for research purposes. On a related note, I would also argue that most of us contain some personality/character flaws that click off as criterion from these sets. The key there is to know what yours are, and how sever/maladaptive they are or have been in past relationships. The essential feature of a truly disordered personality disorder is egosyntonic drive (the problems are others, not you).

Richard Grannon is the best so far i came across who really has a great method of explaining these issues

Richard is a top mind and he knows how to spread his wisdom

I've wanted to collab with him for a year! He's awesome, so are you. I'm pressing play _now!_

Good one! I think it's important for men to hear that it's okay to have standards in relationships. Now we just need Richard have a chat with Slavoj Zizek...

Youve opened my eyes, I wont preach this information because I dont know enough, but ill keep it tucked away for myself, thanks heaps Dr. Shawn T. Smith and Richard Grannon.

One of the huge problems with a lot of PhD or other higher degrees in psychology is that they have that flat scientific varnish and they are not allowed to use humour, laughter or to throw some self deprecating humour in. In order to look academic, they must remain stiff and unaffected by anything they hear. This stuff is great for poker or when you face an opponent after the weigh in in boxing but it is not natural. This where Richard shines. He obviously knows his stuff but he operates ouside of the academic trap. He pulls his knowledge from various areas as well.

Richard has a great way of making this subject approachable and practical.

Dr. Smith, thank you for introducing me to Grannon. Between the two of you (and many more) I am advancing my post-divorce and shell-shocked-by-modern-dating-world understanding. I am incredibly appreciative of the work you do. Thank you.

Thank you, Dr. Shawn for the podcast with Richard. Richard your work never ceases to amaze me. Such an excellent Topic. Very insightful, informative, intelligent, valuable information and thought out solutions. That was a excellent presentation. Awesome sense of humor. You’re crushing it, Richard.

Brilliant Richard!! 🌟 so good, so well said. I don’t know how you do it but you explain it so well, and can put all this messiness into words that can identify what the hell is really going on. ❤️

Well done Dr. Smith and Richard. This was a great interview. Thank you both for the works you are doing.

Always nice to receive a notification from you. 👍

That was a great interview! Thanks, Shawn.

Richard you have the glorious gift of the gab - and your wisdom and humour work a treat, thank you.

Thanks for making this happned. Learned a lot. Keep em coming 🔥

Congrats! Been following both of you for years!

Great to hear from you again Shawn.

Two of my favorite content creators

I really appreciate this interview!! Thanks!!

Great guest! Richard is right, you can’t read a handful of articles and gain a true understanding of personality disorders. You can, however, experience a relationship with an individual with a personality disorder and between research and reading articles and that time you’ve experienced that relationship gain a pretty solid understanding of the traits and characteristics of personality disordered individuals in a sphere you experienced.

Excellent. Thank you so much.

This channel is great, I have all your books

This is brilliant!

Always great and in depth insight from Dr Shawn. I still use your book for assessment when it comes to women.

Exquisite discourse. Appreciated.

Love Richard Grannon! Top Bloke! ~Peace

Good stuff!

I always liked Dr. Grannons approach to sensible topics. There are too many people on YT who just create division.

💪👍👍👍more of this

i like your temperament, doc. you have a very even, and enviable, constitution.

Awesome !

Safe attachment is an excellent approach. Difficulty with reconciling with the ' shit tests' women do. These tend, in my experience, to eliminate any possibility of SA.

Dr been missing you! Glad to see you again uploading your videos. Will you be on Rich Cooper's channel soon?

Interesting that you bring up Facebook, I was on it briefly for around 6 months around 2006 but simply found it an exercise in narcissism. I was convinced by my sister as my family lives on either sides of the USA and Canada as a way to "keep in touch"....I prefer phone calls. I do no social media except for LinkedIn with no pictures of me- and I use it strictly for business.

God Dam that was good

47:00 too many of us men think we can muscle through grief.

I asked Mr Vaknin . When can you diagnose someone with a personality disorder. Can you pinpoint a certain age. He said fifteen. I thought it would be atleast 25 to wait for the prefrontal cortex develop. Also he said specifically npd can be diagnosed at 25 but the others can be diagnosed much younger.Which I found interesting.

There is a tendency to label immaturity and maladaptive behaviors as disorders. Some people are just selfish, immature jerks. I think it's been said. If you aren't happy, what does it matter what you call it?

Hi Richard, Is the DSM-6 ever going to be published & will it include Vaknin's schema of trauma response conditions?

Very insightful but somehow saddening.

I think it is important to not confuse narcissism with selfishness or vanity.

You put out more context 👍

🌊🌑hey this interview might be good🔵

19:00 ideology and sex drive 40:30 love is the bigger challenge 45:40 how u are 52:00 ideology and force

they're bending Science indeed.. Just the way the ideological people bend religion ...

I've got a couple of questions & have no intention of triggering or upsetting anyone with my ignorance. How do you approach a new relationship after being subjected to a covert narc? Are you constantly worried that the new partner is also a covert narc that you have yet to unmask or is there a part of you that actually needs that torment in a relationship for it to feel legitimate now? I've noticed that people, usually women, will seek to replicate relationships where they have been treated very poorly ...aka, like shit.

Are you done with Richard Cooper’s show “Before Train Wreck”?.

Hi skittles 😉

Yes, tell your partner you felt shame and emasculated when she adressed you like that in the supermarked. That is like confronting the dragon in you.

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Grannon's latest conquest :) instagram.com/_mischell_d/

I'm reading the comments and they're all from women. Well ladies, I had a narc mom that would make all your exes look like Sunday school teachers. Narc women just hide better.

52:40 advise for releaship set a rule even with hot

31:30 Jordan Peterson no disrespect, but dayum that's funny.

I've really enjoyed Richard over the years but the last year or so I've really noticed a leaning towards the British alt-right in his messaging. I've already been down that rabbit hole and I have no desire to head back. He's a good content creator sure, but everything is now with a pinch of salt unless I directly resonate to what he says. His self help channel has been awesome for me and I've worked hard on it for the last year, so I'm incredibly grateful for what he taught me in that regard. Great interview though, first time I've visited to this channel but it was a great interview, so thank you.

Well, I let my immigrant “take” to the point this time ( 3rd or 4th time) to the extreme! It’s turned into litigation now....I kept thinking could love him into healthy relationship. I see the millinial obsession with porn. I see how ALL of us are being poisoned by the millinial values in social media ....on and on.....and I’m fricken 74!! What’s the difference between these border line PD and born criminal”personalities??

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Oh fabulous Richard. So because I’m diagnosed with BPD (quiet version), that I’m not capable or worthy of having a long term relationship? Wow! Your views are VERY narrow minded.

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