Done lad

Always

To me, this is very much like making a documentary - without the fuss! I'm thinking about making a 'simple' documentary .... Probably be very basic and 'brutally' honest .... I just can't believe the way some people have been treated and yet they DON'T upload - 'their own story' .... I mean .... we all know there are certain 'stories' the mainstream media - WON'T touch! Even though they need to - because it is definitely in the public interest to do so!! It really means something to hear/read/see someone's personal journey .... Especially when they shine a bright-light on wrongdoing! Why wait for someone to make a documentary for you ....? Make it yourself!! x x

Damn. Don't mind telling you I'm only at 7:50 and crying. Wow. Thank you both.

Great interviewer .. clever , serious.

@A. Fox Thank you for such a lovely reply; it means a lot x.

@@Threemore650 Thank u for your kindness It's really heart-warming that a stranger has taken the time to comment. Hope u have a good Christmas:-)

How horrible I hope that you now have found more understanding and support. Cruse is one further option. Xx

Wow, powerful message. Thank you for sharing that, but I am so sorry you had to experience that. I really hope you are in a much happier place now. I was almost the other part of your experience. I was married (to a fabulous wife), with two wonderful children, but I was planning to kill myself. I had become disabled (paraplegic), after having lived a very physically active life (which happens to be about the only common factor of people who end up with physical impairments later in life…not always, but often we have put ourselves in the position where we get injured. I had played rugby, parachuted, ridden horses and motorbikes, even raced motorbikes, I had been a farmer and lumberjack.). So when I became disabled, I thought my family would be better off without me, as I could not be that person I had been to them. I came really, really (scarily) close to doing it. I had it planned, and found that once planned, I was much calmer, as I thought I had the answer. I was days away from enacting this. When a friend realized or guessed what I was planning. Had he confronted me, I would possibly have denied it, because in my mind at that time, I had the answer. He just asked me not to do anything, and indeed I had to promise him that I would not do anything “major” as he wanted to send me something. It was a book about suicide, called something like Suicide; the final option, (not completely sure as it became a book I would happily loan to others, and it hasn’t come back. In it, there was a chapter about the “legacy” that suicide leaves behind to loved ones, especially offspring. Children of people who have committed suicide are 10 times more likely to commit suicide themselves as that is the legacy; that suicide is a valid option. I could not leave them with that. So, I had to learn a new way of living my life, and how I would interact with my two young sons, if hiking in the mountains, or such activities were not going to be an option for me. Instead I learned to play computer games with them, and bizarrely learned to properly talk with them. That was 20 years ago…still married; we celebrated our 36th anniversary together, and I am here to help her with her chemotherapy treatment as she was found to have Leukaemia earlier this year, after beating off breast cancer a few years ago. Both sons are grown up, flown the nest and are happy in their different careers, and I became a father again a couple of years ago when we adopted a teenaged girl, from a dysfunctional home. But I have to agree with your own message, and I am so thankful to this day that I had a friend who recognised what I was going through, and was I mistakenly was planning to do about it.

@@sarahh4458 I am so sad to learn that the warning in that book applied in your own circumstances. If you ever find yourself down that road again, then please try to find a copy of that book; I will try to dig out more info on it, or reach out to someone. I have lost friends to suicide, and the devastation that they leave behind is enormous, as we all ask ourselves how we should have noticed, how we should have done more… I am sure in each case where a friend did die, they would not have done so if they were to know the sadness that they caused us all. We all just wish they had reached out, said something. But, I know full well, that is not the way one’s mind works in those dark times. I am pleased to know you have a lovely partner now, and are more secure. We never know what life may throw at us. For much of the last 20 years it has been my wife to be the one sat in hospital waiting rooms while I underwent spine operations, and then operations on my shoulders as they wore out from wheelchair activity. But even that reversed, and I have been the one in the much more difficult supporting role, during my wife’s chemotherapy. I even administer injections for her for a week each month, as she is unable to inject herself. It is not enjoyable, but I am so thankful I am still here, and able to help her now in her own fights.

I concur with your sentiment 100% Australia.

Me too! What an amazing man. I wish him Good Health and Happiness always. 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺

Why would you even consider lying ?

So true. He could be a therapist himself.

Completely agree, he always seems so grounded, humble, funny and smart. Tbh watching this has just made me appreciate him so much more to know he struggles with similar things to all of us. I wish him luck for the future

I forget where I heard this:- "Those that carry pain know what empathy is."

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so why is he throwing mud at Nigel Farage, Osman has gone down as being a silly billy by doing so, his remarks are NOT called for. Take a look at yourself before you slag others.

Aside from Osman, bravo for you viz alcohol - I know that ain't easy!

@Lilas faves . Same with me 28 years in recovery at 64 and learning the same as you. Such respect for Richard too speaking out about his personal problems and so pleased he has met his soul mate.

@@tonyves thank you Tony! It’s a day at a time as I’m sure you’re aware.. they just add up 😊 it’s good to give back to society these days as Richard says.. 🤗

sounds like you should dissociate with that label, congrats on your sobriety

I’m always in awe of people that can recover from an addiction well done you should be so very proud of yourself.

It’s quite ironic how tall women and short men experience a lot of the same struggles fitting into society

Ya, i get what you mean. I lost my leg in an accident. People point it out constantly, like I lost it on the way in the door. Some people 🙄

Try being short. The exactly the same.

Going through life like you feel you don't belong anywhere or fit in. Uncomfortable, awkward and I wear my life like an ill fitting t shirt. I understand that feeling, hope you find peace of mind 👍❤

@@natureisallpowerful Thank you, I have found a level of peace, mostly by just accepting that I am different, and that I don't have to conform.. :)

Welcome to your herd 🥰 We have snacks! My mum was diagnosed at 62 and I was diagnosed in my 30s. It definitely gave us both food for thought

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I was going to comment the same thing. I'm in my late 20s, exactly when Richard said the earthquake comes, and I've realised I'm autistic. Absolutely agree with you; on one hand it's liberating but on the other I can't help but second guess everything I've done so far and wonder where on earth I am in all the masking. I wish you all the best ♥

Real skill to allow guests to tell their story and interject appropriately. Many will relate to R.O. journey and his pursuit of happiness and contentment. Addiction is not always negative, R.O. made a fantastic living from his TV addiction and used his new found skills to sell an idea or concept to executives who so often forget what the guy in the street wants to watch or read. The HGV example is so pertinent, whatever industry or profession you are in and you have a passion, success will follow as surely as winter follows autumn. The art of RO is that he can articulate the emotions of his own highs and lows in a relatable and pleasant way. Breaking the cycle of his childhood and giving compassionate support to his children will prove to be his finest work on this planet and you can't monetize that particular currency.

He looks 20 years older since growing that silly beard.

@@reggiesmith3866 who cares? His choice right?

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Good luck Mary , you can do it 💪🍀x

Likewise Mary!! We have done it before (congrats btw,) and we can do it again! It’s about giving ourselves love rather than rubbish food to comfort ourselves I believe .. good luck!! 🙌😘

Good luck Mary, another victim of covid restrictions and not covid. So many people suffered so much but were denied a voice.

Vitamins, real 1s, & water & fiber with foods. I know all of these yet comfort foods like sugar feel so good. Eric Clapton said sugar is our 1st addiction when ppl said weed was. I totally understood SUGAR bc who can be unhappy eating choc. SECURE by Andrew Lessman Soy Choc Meal Replacement stops my choc craving or sweets. Alot of times ur body is craving something so maybe something like this could help u.

Sending you a hug 💟 I found your comment very honest and giving. Thank you for being vulnerable. Australia

As a mother of my youngest child who’s at university, if she felt the way you do, I would say that you have to be true to yourself and do what you feel is right. It’s a huge cost to succumb to just to do what you think others expect of you. 😊

Don’t let anyone run you out of the university you have the same rights as the others . Speak out and push for your needs thru this situation your experiencing. Wish u well and achieve what you have set out to achieve from university.

Just make sure you find something better or the whole quote is meaningless. Don't just quit.

I've just quit my job because the new boss hasn't been allowing me to take holidays even though if I don't take them before the end of the month I lose them. Also she's just been being a dickhead about loads of other things. Felt like a huge weight off my shoulders so can totally relate.

@@rcaldwell7255 Bit heard that for ages women can be dickheads too. Have a 1 to 1 with her ask her straight out what’s your issue my holidays are mine to take at my convenience so what’s the fucking problem ?? Hope u sort yah issue out don’t swear though be polite Iv learnt over the years working life is about putting on a mask at times so many 2 faced folk . Wish u promotion so don’t let her run u out of yah job.

Glad this resonated with you Judith ❤

@@samuelhogan1324 why be negative for no reason?

@@samuelhogan1324 You are the exact guy Richard references in this interview.

What a fantastic guest. So honest ✅

What would you eat in a day at your peak?

@@hmq9052 He was eating a whole pack of jaffa cakes, it was dark, man

@@FuuuckOffff Dear God. I had no idea things could get to that stage. Imagine if he smoked dope too.

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Taking the power back.

Could not agree more, his tv persona I gave a wide berth to, but this interview is incredibly personal, honest and so relatable.Brilliant Richard I had you so wrong and thank you for enlighting myself personally 👌❤both highly intelligent and likeable, same goes to you Steven you produce an outstanding quality of work/ your interview technique is warm, personable and highly informative, thank you....

@@MrNypdblue911 100% agree

If you click on the arrow to the right below the video the show-notes will drop down, scroll down and you'll find 'Show Transcript' option for the whole interview.

@@caroldonaldson5936 how have I been on KZfaq this long and not known this? Thanks!

@@wonderwoman5528 I know! I use it all the time now because sometimes the dialogue is not that clear in parts and I'd find myself pressing rewind all the time. Genius idea!👍😁

Richard touches on it but food addiction/eating disorders must be a total nightmare. Im definitely a believer abstinence is easier that moderation for addicts as a whole which is well and good when its booze/drugs/whatever. But when its something you literally need to live it must be one hell of s struggle to reach balance.

I so agree. I hate all that "you are the weakest link" nasty,humiliation type humour

The nice guys meet ❤

He gave jeremy clarkson some stick on HIGNFY

What a lovely way to describe Richard....the nice guy of alternative comedy . Bet he'd love that. ❤️

Yes,completely agree. His intelligence is scary,not unike Stephen Fry's who draws you in without patronising you.

Me too, wasn't it amazing how he articulated it!

James, It is my hope for you that you find your true North ♡ Australia

Personally i think there's a balance. You absolutely have to be true to yourself, but I've found going to the effort of looking 'normal' makes life a lot easier. Not that I'm trying to say "just fit in and youll be fine!" far from it. But if through therapy or whatever you can tackle your deep down problems by looking like you're 'normal' you don't have the additional pressure of trying to justify your existence to other people all the time. And it really is just looks, people can be super judgemental unfortunately. Guess I'm trying to say find that balance between "Fitting in" and allowing that lack of pressure for you to work on those deeper issues which are at the heart of things.

Brave ? Hes a bit tall ! Wow big deal. People make some silly quips about it wow big deal, there are worse attributes to have

@@jamesallen8917 Brave to reveal his struggles, which aren’t just height related! Always a good idea to listen to the whole thing before you start arguing in the comments boss.

I’m not sure brave is the right word but let’s not be unkind. I would say generous is the best word to describe what I feel about him. I think he honestly wants to share the results of the treatment he’s received with the many that cannot afford it or who haven’t arrived at the point of decision making.

@@jamesallen8917 A bit of self reflection, would not go amiss!

Working on it

I wonder if our anxiety would have the power they do if they were on a whiteboard where we can see them.

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Same

Like Jason said, don't eliminate because otherwise you'll see it as "bad" and if you do "relapse" to sugary stuff you'll end up just knocking yourself down and guilt yourself because you craved it so much. Substitute it into your meals, my friend uses chocolate milk in her cereal. Must be worse because the diabetes too but I hope you're able to control your levels too, have you discussed with your diabetic nurse (assuming you have one)

I discovered the Keto fitness club on KZfaq ( they have a website & are on Facebook, Instagram too ) they helped me to cut right down yet still satisfy my sweet tooth Jeannie. Their recipes like chocolate brownies, taste amazing & are all quick & easy to make . You can even make your own keto chocolate from cream , cacao and stevia sweetener! 😋 ( I freeze mine , lasts a bit longer that way lol 😆)

Ooh,I remember robin Day as quite abrasive or aggressive. This is the first time I've come across Stephen and he seems a much more gentle,empathetic person

@@lindalong5052 Ascerbic but genuinely interested. It’s the genuine trait that I’m likening. 🙂

Paul I am sending you a hug and wishing you a safe expedition into who you are. ♡ Australia

felt this 100% bro. I basically always grinded exercise my entire life so have been able to keep it in check a lot so people think oh you look fine, when in reality behind closed doors I have these huge binges. I hope one day I can get it under control.

Ive had chronic depression for years, and was an alcoholic/medicating for about 10 years. When you hear somone (i dont mean richard in this interview) describe EXACTLY what you've thought and felt its so fukin relieving knowing you're not the only one. With depression in particular theres a habit of being all soft/touchy feely about it but when you hear another bloke describing these things matter of factly you suddenly feel free.

Perfect response

I loved this interview, it’s the best guest I’ve listened too. Steven really enjoyed it and engaged as well. What a clever man Richard is. I intend watching this a second time, I rarely do that. I can’t wait to buy his book.

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so true, it feels like he’s inside my head

Me too and good to hear Mitch D P. Sending you love 💌 #hugastranger

Haha. Yes,me too. I think when people buy concert and theatre tickets they should declare their height. I always seem to be sitting behind the 6' plus rugby players. Maybe shorties to the left, lankies to the right? We pay the same 🤣

I am 5.11 and it would be my Hearts ♡ desire to be 5 foot nothing. Australia.

Appreciate it Marty, thank you!

Thank you Sarah 🙏🏽

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