The first story made me really angry. Guilt tripping a 15 year old out of her college fund is really unfair
@chibikonniehehe98673 жыл бұрын
Yeah
@evadedenbach12263 жыл бұрын
It will only enable the sons addiction. The only way would be to put the college fund in a separate account, and the mom should only have access to it until the daughter turns 18.
@HarelquinMonarch3 жыл бұрын
@@evadedenbach1226 The mom and stepdad have separate finances already so the money is safe. He can't access it at all. He just wanted them to fork up the money from that account.
@completelyuselesstrivia53193 жыл бұрын
Exactly, he wasn't that much of an AH for asking OP for the money, its his kid's life on the line. But putting a 15 year old in that position, no child deserves that and asking the kid is what made him a big AH.
@Haru-nee3 жыл бұрын
Go read the real story and read OP's comments. Link: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kfi8io/aita_for_not_using_my_daughters_college_fund_for/?
@BobBlumenfeld3 жыл бұрын
Regarding the first segment: Asking step-daughter if she was willing to give money quickly turned into shaming and blaming when she didn't immediately say yes. That wasn't really an ask, it was a masked demand.
@agentmaryland12393 жыл бұрын
He may as well have been holding a gun to her head while holding his hand out as he said "will you help?" Obviously this wasn't the case but it definitely wasn't an inquiry as much as it was a clear "help my son or else" situation.
@user-do2ev2hr7h3 жыл бұрын
Or it was an "ask with a social expectation". Not necessarily saying that's right, but that's how family dynamics often tend to work.
@thesandguardianofthesand3 жыл бұрын
And him asking for 30,000 might be them conning money out of them.
@Darrylizer12 жыл бұрын
In no way shape or form should she compromise her future for someone who's demonstrated the will power of a grape.
@peblezQ2 жыл бұрын
For the "deaf customer at the hairstylist" story: I mean, OP was basically accused of commiting a massive crime. Their reaction was understandable. If you think someone's being human trafficked, it would make more sense to take like 10 other steps before calling the police. Did the stylist even attempt to communicate with a notepad?
@SeraphSeph Жыл бұрын
Yup I said the same thing. I stutter so I tend to let other family members and friends speak for me. She didn't even fucking ask any questions or anything. Not even a passed note. The fuck? My perspective may be different as a black man, but if you call the police it feels like you just threatened my fucking life.
@kgoudreau89 Жыл бұрын
As someone who works in an area and sees that sort of thing I can see why the stylist thought that. It can be deadly for the trafficking victim to get caught communicating so her actions were justified in my book. Her getting fired for simply looking out for her customers was not justified. I can understand why the one doing the talking was upset, but to go so far shows such a lack of understanding of the world at large. It's truly unfortunate because it could mean that the stylist sees something again but doesn't speak out because she is afraid to lose her job again.
@SeraphSeph Жыл бұрын
@@kgoudreau89 so anytime you meet a deaf or mute person you just assume they're being trafficked?
@Some_Guy6 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! And such accusations can and will destroy someone's life. Especially if other people believe it and start spreading the false rumour more. Happens a lot.
@Some_Guy6 Жыл бұрын
@@kgoudreau89 Nah, hairstylist played a dumb game, and got a stupid prize.
@krab17913 жыл бұрын
The husband was wrong to ask for the. Daughter’s money. Period. THE END. He SHOULD NOT have tried to guilt trip the daughter at all.
@LonelyZaku3 жыл бұрын
I would have tried to do the same for my kid. if I have to kill people in the end i would
@wifflewaffle50063 жыл бұрын
@@LonelyZaku if he’s willing to kill for his child then he should be willing to work to make up that money himself instead of trying to take from another child’s college fund that he had /no/ input on to begin with. While it’s true parents should do everything they can for their children, it does not mean you automatically get to take from other children just because your child is a piece of shit 🤷♀️
@the_great_mammon3 жыл бұрын
@@LonelyZaku I understand where you are coming from, but to take away one child's future for another child who has ALREADY wasted thousands? Maybe don't do that. Also, that guilt trip that the father used on his daughter was NOT cool.
@geminiadastra86623 жыл бұрын
I wont say he was wrong to ask for it. But he was definitely wrong to guilt her for it
@the_great_mammon3 жыл бұрын
@@geminiadastra8662 Exactly
@truckerwolf83693 жыл бұрын
If that husband doesn't learn, the only thing he going to worry quick scoping him is child support.
@cozycascreates3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like he has major depression
@MooflesThaCat3 жыл бұрын
...or hooked on Adderall.
@averagefailboatenjoyer99403 жыл бұрын
Call fricking cps
@SpookyBur3 жыл бұрын
@@EvanEdwards problem being she tried to get him help with the kids and he threw a hissy fit. There. is. no. excuse. Not depression not whatever. He’s a garbage human being. And mommy calling her. Instant divorce.
@lysandrarenshaw35843 жыл бұрын
@@EvanEdwards he needs to stay at his mother's place. No matter his problems, neglecting children is a punishment to the mother and not the father and that's unfair to a good mother and children.
@taylorlibby76423 жыл бұрын
1st Story- NTA for not wanting your daughter to be victimized by someone else's addiction.
@AchillesCheeseFries3 жыл бұрын
My brother blames me for his addictions. I dropped out of school to help our struggling mom with the bills while he runs around, using her money, buying whatever he can. And then he turns around and says that moms kicked him out, everything's handed to me (even though I've bought everything with my own money) and that his life is in shambles because of me.
@moelester41653 жыл бұрын
Never trust a junkie
@Jayjen353 жыл бұрын
@@AchillesCheeseFries He's lying to himself and everyone else hoping to justify his behavior. If he can make you the bad guy he hopes that he can get sympathy - meaning he can use other people to supply his habit. A very old junky con.
@Billaim3 жыл бұрын
Im a recovering addict !! Herion and cocaine! I went from being the dope dealer to the dope addict! Its a shitty story being i kniw both sides!! The situation is shitty and 100 percent NOT fair to that little girl to have to give up her future for his choices! Not gonna lie, once hooked its impossible to see the light at the end of tunnel! Every time i got caught id play the pitty card and say WHATEVER i could to get my family to not be mad and to take pitty apon me! I ended up going to rehab 14 tomes each with no real intention to stay sober!!! Beyond selfish i know but at some point the drug takes over and unfortunately all morals and self respect go out the window! It was not till i lost all my money sold my guns my bikes my car countless credit debt and it was not enough, once my wife gave me the opportunity to get clean for real or her and my three kids would be gone! I went in one last time and have been clean now for 4 years! Its not till I lost EVERYTHING and then faced woth losing what i loved most . My point is NO MATTER WHAT NO ONE WILL GET CLEAN UNTIL THEY DECIDE THATS WHAT THEY WANT! I get both sides but tbey both made there choices so its NOT right she loses due to his decision!
@velvetdarksoul87413 жыл бұрын
@@Billaim that's basically what I hear every drug addict say that made them get clean the ones with the most to loose get clean because they don't want to loose what little they have left usually girlfriends, spouses, children or their parents, friend of mine was hooked on some stuff and to her the eye opening moment was when CPS threathen to take away her child who was basically all she had left as most of her friends gave up on her and her family disowned her, she's been sober 2 yrs now The drug addict kid doesn't sound like he has reached that point yet since dads always trying to fix the problem with money
@Toongeek453 жыл бұрын
"That baby was probably crying because she was uncomfortable and stinky." Don't forget IN PAIN! She probably got a very bad diaper rash over time! It WILL burn them if you leave it sitting for too long!
@kaycollarfeild3 жыл бұрын
As someone who had to wear them until I was 9, I can agree there that its literally one of the worst rashes. I have eczema and then ending up with bodily fluids is awful pain for a little baby.
@darkyami121413 жыл бұрын
not to mention the fact that baby girls are EXTREMELY susceptible to yeast infection
@yasmin7903 Жыл бұрын
And probably hungry and thirsty as well.
@PaddySnuffles Жыл бұрын
Plus baby skin is much thinner than a grownup's, so a rash to them must feel at least twice as bad as it does for us if not worse.
@miragedown Жыл бұрын
That man needs to be thrown out of the house and charged with child abuse. He can go live with his mommy and him and his PS5 can be happy and alone together. Don't forget to get child support too.
@SamuraiFluff3 жыл бұрын
Having a deaf wife, I'm in agreement with the OP in the second story. It would not have been that hard to ask a few questions to find out what was going on. Snapping next to a deaf persons ears is one of the worst things you can do to them. My wife would have been mortified and ashamed if she was in that situation and its not fair for her to feel that when the worker could have asked a few more questions to figure out the situation. Hell I've heard of women who are being trafficked to where the worker slipped them a note or found some other sort of way to communicate with the person who was being trafficked. The Deaf as it is already have a hard enough time with society and there is a huge difference between "failing your arms around" and sign langue. I wouldn't have made as huge of a fit (would have embarrassed my wife further) but you can bet I would have had a word with the manager over it. Sorry the worker was in the wrong to make such a jump in assumption.
@SamuraiFluff3 жыл бұрын
Not to mention me being male and older I doubt the cops would have listened to me at all and would have booked me first then asked questions. OP is lucky very lucky the cops listened to her. What hair stylist did was straight dangerous.
@normajoe2 жыл бұрын
Snapping your fingers in their ears is the worst thing?! You’re joking right? That’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard in some time. Congrats
@dtz10002 жыл бұрын
I have never seen rSlash get one as wrong as this one.
@lahlybird8952 жыл бұрын
@@dtz1000 innocent bean
@ShadowSorcerer2 жыл бұрын
Not to mention OP could have gotten arrested
@audreyflohr19443 жыл бұрын
As someone who works at a daycare, we change diapers at least every two hours and just hearing how neglected that child was made me so sad
@hollsoldaccount41013 жыл бұрын
As for the first story: HOW is she being 'selfish' when she already invested thousands for the step sons rehab multiple times? I know its a very difficult situation, but spending thousands more isnt going to work. I understand he's a desperate father, but what he's doing/saying isn't right.
@jays.28233 жыл бұрын
He isn’t desperate he is delusional there is a difference
@BlurryC61653 жыл бұрын
helping fix an addiction should be funded by the government as a public service, besides drug related crime will go down and doing this can reduce the potency and production of drugs. This has already been tested and it works much better than the war on drugs in the US
@Nik.No.K3 жыл бұрын
As a former addict throwing money at the problem is a terrible plan and a good way to burn through hundreds of thousands of dollars with zero results. Getting sober is totally up to the individual. What kind of rehab you go to makes absolutely no difference.
@Jayjen353 жыл бұрын
I agree. She has repeatedly tried to help her stepson -only to be out of thousands of dollars and living in a house in which everything of any dollar value has been stolen BY that stepson. Why should she be expected to sacrifice her daughter's future for another stab at rehab. The truth is that an addict has to keep doing rehab "till it works". He may have to go through it 5, 10 or however-many times before it sticks. That's just how rehab works. And it doesn't matter how much he spends on it. What matters is whether it's a good fit for his son and whether or not his son is committed to getting clean. If he's not -he could spend a million on a rehab program and it still would fail. The father needs to stop trying to spend money for expensive rehab programs and look for one that his son can actually work within. But first and foremost his SON has to be willing to work the program - if not nothing will work.
@BlurryC61653 жыл бұрын
@Fishy Tree It doesn't have to be the government, but if it was free it would be a lot more accessible to people blowing all their money on drugs
@johannaaviles28393 жыл бұрын
With the story about the husband leaving a diaper on his baby for 9 hours I've seen people question if he even fed the baby within that time. Honestly I don't doubt it, if he was "too busy" to change a diaper he was too busy to feed his kids
@NicoUnken3 жыл бұрын
I could imagine a stinky, hysterically crying child probably wouldn't even WANT to eat sometimes, too.
@SkylerLinux3 жыл бұрын
Well there was a 6yro in the house, while I'm sure they couldn't change their sibling I'm betting they got the bottle
@shaunalennon31443 жыл бұрын
@@SkylerLinux My brother used to change me every morning and then roll me into our mom's bed for breakfast (breastfed). He was 6. But usually when I'm taking care of babies, my line of thinking is (if they're not napping) if I have to go pee, they're had to pee at some point too. I go to the bathroom every 3-4 hours anyway. Poops get changed at the first whiff though.
@_Fizel_2 жыл бұрын
@@SkylerLinux WOW way to start the abuse super early there.
@funnypenelope2 жыл бұрын
I work assisted living with elderly people who are incontinent. I'd be fired if I didn't change them in 9 hours! Health concerns anyone?!
@airaysickle3 жыл бұрын
You know what's the MOST messed up on the first story? The fact that getting help costs 30,000
@ArcanineEspeon3 жыл бұрын
Real talk. The father is definitely an asshole, and the son does not seem to want to get clean, but the true overarching villain here is the American healthcare system.
@shellyfox8633 жыл бұрын
I agree 100 percent. I also think that the way it is set up these rehabs are set up as a business that of course makes more profit on people having to return. Doesn't leave a lot of these places any motivation to try and do their best. I know there are many people who work with addictions and mental illness who care deeply and on an individual basis do all they can. I also know there are also those who are in positions away from the frontline who often profit greatly by the suffering of others.
@mckenziemarsalis94823 жыл бұрын
@@ArcanineEspeon for real though they only way they can get treatment for free if you just throw em jail
@Jamie-nv3wp3 жыл бұрын
Thats am American thing, but yeah its sickening.
@TJDious2 жыл бұрын
Pay attention. No, getting help doesn't cost 30,000. The particular intensive therapy this kid is at costs that. F him and f his dad for trying to raid a girl's college fund.
@BorninVirginia3 жыл бұрын
Just throwing money at something doesn't fix it. If the step son doesn't want to get better it doesn't matter if they spend $100k on him.
@Starman0623 жыл бұрын
You could throw Jeff bezos’s entire net worth at it and if he doesn’t want to change he won’t change
@robertaylor92183 жыл бұрын
That and we have a non-medical based rehab system. John Oliver did a thing on them.
@skyrask19483 жыл бұрын
@@Starman062 Nah i bet you if you throw few billions on that problem you can solve it quite easily. For example buy an island for him with single small port and have everything that comes to that island go trough properly trained animal for narcotic search.
@Niakoda3 жыл бұрын
@@skyrask1948 Not even then... He will just find other things to get addicted to and other ways to get high. This coming from someone who is in a relationship with a former addict and has dedicated time to learning how to see the behavior to help keep the communication open to it
@BorninVirginia3 жыл бұрын
@@skyrask1948 i don't know about that. It seems like to me that the government throws billions at problems and the government is still crap. I think most people on both sides will agree with that.
@C-Herzog3 жыл бұрын
That last story: The boyfriends parents are straight up stealing from him and the mums response is not okay. As she is a teacher, I would straight up have reported her to the school, and mentioned that she now has a restraining order against her.
@lupessreturns3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that's straight up financial abuse of a child. Children are not responsible for their parents' financial situation, even if their parents are struggling. They were controlling their child by using his finances to "support" them, and preventing him from leaving. One of my friends has had to deal with that in the past and it sucks because he's not neurotypical so they use the "you won't be able to survive in the real world without us here to protect you" excuse.
@Stefisgarden3 жыл бұрын
I would be some real money that there was even more abuse going on behind the scenes than financial abuse. Those parents hit so many red flags in such a short amount of time. I'm so glad the boyfriend managed to get away from his abusive parents!
@NicholasWiewiora3 жыл бұрын
@@lupessreturns I'm sorry your friend had to go through that.
@emeraldqueen19943 жыл бұрын
THREE restraining orders actually... that should be even worse in the school’s eyes
@Tabby-Cat983 жыл бұрын
@@lupessreturns I pray your friend is no longer in that situation and if he is gets out of it soon. I just got out of that situation about 7 months ago with my husbands help. I hate to picture the emotional and psychological abuse they’re/were dealing with. I have both epilepsy and migraines I was told the same thing that I could never make it on my own in the real world; with guilt tripping and gaslighting to boot. While working for my Parents business. It’s a hard situation to get out of let him know he has someone praying for him.
@TheLemzia3 жыл бұрын
*Warning* RANT ALERT: I am mostly deaf, about 80% loss of hearing and I am also used to reading lips as an assist and I find this mask thing to be VERY frustrating at times and will generally give people 3 shots of me telling them that I am Deaf and that they need to speak up and mask tend to muffle voices a bit, which does not help the situation but you'd be surprised that even after 3 times asked, people still tend to return to normal speaking voices after a sentence or two. At that point, I just start nodding and give up. The worst offender happens to be my DOCTOR! and the FACT that I am Deaf is IN MY CHART!!! I was at the Store on New Years day and the woman said "Happy New years" to me and it took me a few seconds to process what she had said, which feels awkward, in fact, it always feels awkward when that happens. I know that people get frustrated or even impatient with me when this happens, especially my Cousin, who is actually my Best Friend too! What is even Worse my Ex-girlfriends and my Ex-Wife would always accuse me of FAKING it or calling it "Convenient" when I can't understand what they are saying or the WORSE offense to me, is when someone is talking to me and turns Away and I can no longer hear them. There is only so many times I can tell a person "WHAT" or "Can you please repeat that, I'm DEAF", that I finally GIVE UP! I wish I had a T-shirt that simply said "I'm DEAF" but, I'm sure that it wouldn't make a difference, even if I pointed to it. I hope that was coherent and thanks to anyone that read this to this point, Thanks for letting me RANT LOL! I know it can be hard for people to get it and it is equally hard for me to deal with it. Like mutual combat LOL!
@beek19653 жыл бұрын
For the hairstylist one: tbh I’ve seen so many videos of hairstylists giving people hair styles that the customer clearly didn’t ask for/like. Sometimes you have to hover and micromanage so you get exactly what you want instead of what the stylist thinks will look best
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
Ok but still she is doing her job she had to call the cops or she could be fired
@Kruhee3 жыл бұрын
Geeeeeneral rule, if money is earmarked for a kids education a person isn't the a--hole if they keep it for education. Especially if it's been saved for a long time. If it was a gift for the kids education then that money belongs to the kid. I could go on but these are pretty basic.
@lasagnalovingcat53353 жыл бұрын
I don't blame the husband for asking. He just needs to be willing to accept "no" as the answer.
@marisan82653 жыл бұрын
Here in Canada, when you deposit into a Registered Education Savings Plan, the money can not even be withdrawn for anything else than post-high school studies to the name of the beneficiary. If that beneficiary doesn't go to post-high school education, it can go to another child of the parent. If there aren't any other child, it's going to go into a Registered Retirement Savings Plan, which then means that if you want to withdraw it before your retirement, you'll have to give a pretty fucking good explanation
@Kruhee3 жыл бұрын
@@marisan8265 that's a good plan!
@Kruhee3 жыл бұрын
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 yeah, it's okay to ask but guilt tripping when the answer wasn't what he wanted wasn't okay.
@averagefailboatenjoyer99403 жыл бұрын
If money is set aside for education, the money is FOR EDUCATION Crazy I know
@thathumangiraffe65483 жыл бұрын
in the 3rd story, I like how op's husband says that op is overreacting when later in the story he gets his own mother to call op after he got offended and then he blames op for not reminding him about his own kids.
@littlesongbird13 жыл бұрын
Classic man child who was enabled by his mom. Sadly women think that if they marry them or have kids they will change. Nope: my sister married won and when he comes home he wants to focus on his video games and not his kids. He was like this when they were dating but she complains about how having kids didn't make him give up his video games. I let her vent but I also think to myself: this isn't new behavior and we all warned her that this is what he was like when they were dating.
@lasagnalovingcat53353 жыл бұрын
rSlash: "I don't think that I can say that the hairstylist sucks" Gotta respectfully disagree. Yes, that stylist had good intentions. Yes, she was ignorant for missing the obvious clues and the way she went about "testing" Gemma (snapping her fingers in someone's ear???). She also went about everything wrong, and good intentions aren't always enough. What if the cops had shot OP? Would good intentions absolve the hairstylist of an innocent person getting shot? If OP was arrested on suspicion (even though she would have eventually been cleared and let go), OP's future could have still been screwed. A story about a "stylist who saved some poor girl" could spread quickly on social media, and a lot of people would assume OP is guilty (regardless of reality). Again, I don't fault the stylist for her intentions, but jumping to conclusions and making false accusations can also destroy lives. I know we all love to hate on Karens, but in this situation, I don't blame OP for her reaction.
@velvetdarksoul87413 жыл бұрын
The watching her get fired part is where their in the wrong hair stylist watch out for this stuff because pimps and traffickers do dress them up to sell At most the stylist should have been written up for ignorance but getting her fired yeah, that's what made them the asshole
@BossMr513 жыл бұрын
@@velvetdarksoul8741 i have to respectfully disagree...i get what your saying, but i feel like the fact that how she reacted. She's been told it hapens at that salon a decent bit. And her reactions and what she was doing. Would've likely gotten her taken as well, if not killed or extremely hurt. If anything. Being fired...saved her from getting hurt when she eventually did this in an actual situation ans made things far. Far worse
@kirby40773 жыл бұрын
The part that hit me was snapping her fingers in her ears. I was worried the stylist was denying her deafness. Damn I hate those people.
@BossMr513 жыл бұрын
@@kirby4077 Mhm
@christianablackburn3 жыл бұрын
I think I would have to disagree with this comment From the looks of it, nobody mentioned to the stylist that Gemma was deaf. sure, she was wearing a shirt from Gallaudet, but you can’t fault the stylist for not paying attention to the shirt when it’s gonna get covered up by an apron right away. what the stylist saw was someone who was pretty much unresponsive (possibly due to drugs) and had someone else making all of the decisions for the client. OP mentioned that they had corrected the stylist multiple times while Gemma sat confused, which means OP was not communicating to Gemma about what was going on, in a situation that’s literally about her. In that case, the stylist recognized signs of what she thought was human trafficking or abuse. they are trained to recognize similar signs. so she did the right thing and called the police because she thought something was wrong, and luckily, she was mistaken. but that’s no reason for OP to yell at her and get her fired for helping someone who she thought needed help.
@crazyinsane5003 жыл бұрын
About the salon story. The woman working in the salon thought the person wearing a school for the deaf shirt, not responding to verbal cues, and "waving her hands around" was being human trafficked instead of, y'know, deaf? Not only that, but her story didn't add up. The woman was "catatonic" but also "waving her hands around?" Sign language is *never* mistaken as "just waving hands around" since it has pretty precise movements and has been pretty mainstream on TV, but we have seen bigots and karens using the "just waving hands around" excuse, haven't we? Sounds like the "human traffic" excuse was just there to excuse her actual bigotry against differently abled people. Seriously, the chain fired her *without hesitation* suggesting this wasn't her first rodeo. What would really cement this is if the school for the deaf was a local establishment and the worker had a history of refusing to serve or wrongly serving (as, again, this all started because she wasn't doing her job right) differently abled people.
@Kruhee2 жыл бұрын
You make some good points, but also made me think of something a little nutty. What if she was trying to punish OP for hovering and correcting the way she did her job?
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
Nope salon artist are trained to call the cops in cases like that she's unresponsive
@crazyinsane500 Жыл бұрын
@@tfordham13 She wasn't unresponsive. She was responding in sign language, or as the Karen who got fired without hesitation said, "waving her hands around."
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
@crazyinsane500 nah your just wrong she didn't understand sign and it can be a sign
@justshanie1013 жыл бұрын
I can absolutely blame the father in the first one. His son doesn’t want to be helped. It’s not right to take from his step daughters college fund because his son can’t keep it together. I hope his son does get clean, but not on his step sisters dime. That’s not okay, at all.
@TheBluePhoenix0083 жыл бұрын
I also blame him, but desperation is bitch. I can imagine myself trying desperately to help my son and keep him from dying.
@nickslittlemind83303 жыл бұрын
@@TheBluePhoenix008 imagine* sorry if i sound like a butthole for correcting you but i wanted to let you know
@nickslittlemind83303 жыл бұрын
i don’t blame the father for trying to save his son i blame the son and don’t act like you wouldn’t do the same i know i would i don’t believe in god but i would be praying to him if i was in the father’s situation
@justshanie1013 жыл бұрын
@@nickslittlemind8330 Let me clarify that I don't blame the father for wanting to help his son. He wants him to get better. Addiction is a disease and it drives you to do horrible things to get your fix. However, you can all you can for an addict to get them better, but if the addict doesn't want the help, there is nothing you can do until they truly want help.
@TheBluePhoenix0083 жыл бұрын
@@nickslittlemind8330 fuck. Don't worry I do the same
@wakeangel20013 жыл бұрын
I'm not willing to cut that stylist the same slack that you are from the story about the deaf girl. The stylist was such a smooth brain they didn't understand the idea of a deaf person. Disabled people should be able to enjoy services without having to explain to cops that they aren't being abused or whatever
@CrankyConniver3 жыл бұрын
IKR right, also who the fuck takes a trafficked person to a PUBLIC HAIR SALON, if they’re gonna due the hair, might as well do it in private instead of screaming your location out to everyone else there.
@joimumu3 жыл бұрын
@@CrankyConniver Also OP friend had her phone on her so if she wanted to call the call she could
@the_devil46763 жыл бұрын
exactly. if she just thought outside her able life for five seconds this wouldn’t have happened like she couldn’t even ask something a long the lines of ‘may i ask are you talking for the client?’ literally that’s all she had to do. also how can some frail there arms around and be catatonic at the same time?? those are completely opposites
@commander86253 жыл бұрын
@@the_devil4676 well, to play devils advocate here, would you ask a potential murderer if they murdered someone? If they said no, would you then trust them? It would be way to easy for OP to lie of the hairdresser asked, assuming that OP was actually human trafficking.
@the_devil46763 жыл бұрын
@@commander8625 dude the hair dresser doesn’t understand that cationic people can ‘wave around hands’ or know what sign language is. there is no reason for them to think she was being trafficked other then her not speaking
@KayaWolf3 жыл бұрын
The story about the daughter's boyfriend who had to give all of his money to his parents, to be honest i think she actually saved his life. His girlfriends mom was the reason he was able to escape his toxic and controlling parents, who knows how long it would have taken him otherwise, without being homeless??
@shellyfox8633 жыл бұрын
Yeah it is nearly impossible to escape an abusive situation like that without money. I'm glad that young man has people in his corner now.
@samanthaflanagan51703 жыл бұрын
As someone who has a brother in recovery from a heroin addiction, the only thing that actually got him better was spending 6 months in county and another 4 months in state prison, along side having no contact with us and our parents for 4 ish years. I know it sounds sucky but sometimes you just gotta cut ties and let them fail and at the end of the day it’s their life. If they wanna use they will and if they wanna get clean they will.
@shellyfox8633 жыл бұрын
The greatest love one can have for another is to hold them accountable for there own actions. In situations like these the best thing to do is to drop the rope and hold the space until such a time that a lifeline would actually make a difference.
@NakushitaNamida3 жыл бұрын
Lesson : do not pay rehab for an addict that doesn't want it. It doesn't work like that. Rehab works for people that want to part with their addiction. It's not some magical treatment
@Alteusgirl3 жыл бұрын
yes and the kid sound like he's only saying he'll do the rehab to please his dad
@callanightshade80793 жыл бұрын
Look at Eugenia Cooney for an example of rehab not working for those who don't want it
@iris56783 жыл бұрын
This is what pisses me off about people wanting to push reform. I live in a reform state. They don't work unless the person wants to change.
@mochacino61983 жыл бұрын
Kid's got daddy and drug issues. Father is TA, OP and daughter are not because it is not up to the father to decide. If the kid's relasping, why are you sending him again?
@MsTemptation3 жыл бұрын
Plus he's not a kid. He's a grown man. It sounds like he's been manipulating his dad for a very long time. Interesting how the bio mom isn't being asked to help pay for the son's rehab but the stepmom is expected to keep coming out of her pocket for his son.
@masterme13373 жыл бұрын
I'd really only give the hairstylist any flack. Her lack of knowledge about human trafficking or disabilities makes me think she was trying to be a hero. In cases of human trafficking the police expect you not to intervene as traffickers will resort to violence. The only thing you should ever do is give the police as detailed a report as possible. Don't endanger your self or others over something that you're clearly not trained to handle.
@mahe43 жыл бұрын
finally! thank you! the hair stylist didn't even ask whats up. she never considered anything other than human trafficing. i mean at some point you are so stupid, that you automatically become a butthole and this is one of those cases. acting in good faith while being ignorant doesn't excuse the outcome. i really have to disagree with rslash here, by a lot.
@the_devil46763 жыл бұрын
@@mahe4 the hairstylist pissed me off soo much. they couldn’t ask if there why op was talking for the client??... they didn’t think for five seconds that non-verbal mute and deaf people exist?. they had to be cationic because they didn’t talk or respond to sound it couldt be anything else in their mind?. (also there are far more things that would need to be wrong for it to be that) like dame this person is soo fucking ignorant it’s gross. i can’t imagine how embarrassed and upset the client felt... even people simply pointing out i don’t talk a lot makes me soo uncomfortable and kind of upset and none of my disabilities that are diagnosed really affect my ability to talk i just don’t for no reason i would literally feel so fucking bad if something like this happened. ‘this is your fault’ is probably still in that poor persons head like just fucking ask what’s up it’s not hard
@JSainte173 жыл бұрын
@@mahe4 I think OP and her friend suck just as much. They didn’t even tell the stylist she’s deaf! Why? She just assumed she’d see the letting on the shirt? And why was the deaf girl ignoring the stylist to the point that she thought she was catatonic? She had to reallllly be ignoring her for her to think that. There are tons of ways to communicate that you acknowledge a person standing in front of you.
@Rhaenarys3 жыл бұрын
@@JSainte17 I'm sorry, not really, but you're an idoit if you think a person "wildly moving their arms" (and hands) and not "reacting to snapping fingers next to the ears" makes you automatically think human trafficker and not even THINK to try to read the sweater in the mirror your client is facing. Sorry, not really, but that's a special level of ignorance to not even consider the possibility of her being deaf before jumping to the conclusion she MUST be drugged up and is being trafficked. For real. All the signs were there. And it's not really on them to tell the hairstylist what should already be obvious. Maybe she should ACTUALLY pay as much attention to her clients as she tries to act like she does, because damn! Just a little bit of effort couldve told her what a major dumbass she was about to make herself into. No excuses for that amount of blatant stupidity. So if you feel the same, lol...that's all I can say really. For real sorry this time, but cmon! That's a pretty poor excuse to remain stupid.
@mahe43 жыл бұрын
@@JSainte17 yeah lets be even more demeaning. let's tell everybody we interact with about our disabilities, even if they don't matter, that would be totally normal... smh
@xami55113 жыл бұрын
Second story: shirt with: ,,school for the deaf" was enought to say she was deaf NOT HUMAN TRAFFICED
@commander86253 жыл бұрын
We don't even know if the shirt was visible. All we know is that Gemma was wearing it, and the hairdresser clearly didn't see it or doubted that it was true.
@jaycee16703 жыл бұрын
It’s also really unreliable to rely solely on a shirt to explain an entire situation.
@dustypaladin92163 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly, also even if she didn’t see the shirt, there are deaf and blind people who literally go everywhere with someone over there shoulders. It’s not that fucking uncommon. Accusing someone of human trafficking is goddam insane. Like if you had any evidence besides another person being near the person with a disability then fine but jesus
@normajoe2 жыл бұрын
They put a cape on you when you’re at ANY salon. You guys are so dumb
@Sammy_The_Umbreon2 жыл бұрын
@@dustypaladin9216 but the thing is, OP was constantly making decisions and correcting the stylist, without consulting Gemma and Gemma seemed confused by OP interrupting. That would raise concern (it honestly seemed odd to me, even with the knowledge of Gemma being deaf). Not to mention that the stylist is trained to recognize signs of human trafficking and abuse, which is probably why the stylist first jumped to that instead of Gemma being deaf. The whole thing resulted in a false alarm, which is better than if it was actually a case of human trafficking and nothing was done about it.
@tylersteinkuhler92903 жыл бұрын
The last story actually made me mad, as my ex's parents are exactly like that, physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive, and she's going to move out the moment she turns 18, just a couple months more, and probably get a restraining order against them too. It just makes me so sad that parents actually do that to their children
@miracleo24613 жыл бұрын
For the first story, the husband was definitely not right. Mom did the best she could. Jesus, why should the Daughter have to pay out of her college fund for her stepbrother's addiction? Edited: Oh wow. Didn't expect this to blow up. 🥺🥺 thanks for the likes.
@BeckBeckGo3 жыл бұрын
Actually it's to fund ending her stepbrother's addiction. And I'd argue the daughter will be fine regardless, while the son is in more need of saving. But yeah, I have a daughter. And if I had a step kidI wasn't close to, she'd most certainly get to keep HER OWN MONEY....
@BorninVirginia3 жыл бұрын
Also the daughter will probably put that money to good use, if the step son gets it for the program, but doesn't actually want to get better that they are just wasting it
@Vernhali3 жыл бұрын
@@BeckBeckGo I completely disagree. He had 3 CHANCES he wasted. The empty words "I'll do better" mean nothing. The therapy or whatever it was the first 2 times I can understand that didn't help. The 3rd time he had the audacity to barely even shop up. And you may argue whatever but it's not solely op's money that she saved up for the daughter. It was also her paternal grandparents and someone else. And why am I so against it? He didn't really show up the determination that he wants to end the addiction (at least it wasn't portrayed as such). I have a friend that was in the same situation (a heroin addict) and also stole from his parents. But when he went into therapy he was determined to get clean and he did it. While this stepson is trash
@MaxTheCat-eh5ts3 жыл бұрын
I do get where the step father is coming from, he wants his son to not die and he’s willing to do anything to save his son.
@thebestscientificmethod93043 жыл бұрын
I honestly doubt he'll get clean
@anonymousaxolotl8053 жыл бұрын
Story with the stylist: Poor Gemma.
@Rhaenarys3 жыл бұрын
Right! Imagine having your sign language be misunderstood for wildly flailing, and your lack of response to sounds being compared to someone drugged out. Meanwhile, while sherlock there was doing some grand detective work, she completely missed the sweater that couldnt be missed in the mirror showing the girl went to a school for the deaf some how...way to go, sherlock!
@dx14503 жыл бұрын
@@Rhaenarys Exactly. I mean, who doesn't know what sign language is? I don't know sign language but I recognize when people are using it. That's why I kind of disagree with rSlash on this one. I understand the stylist was just trying to help but she was a total dunce. Of course maybe the OP could have explained to her that Gemma is deaf.
@Patches9883 жыл бұрын
@@dx1450 didn't she literally have a shirt that said that they were from a deaf school
@dx14503 жыл бұрын
@@Patches988 The hairstylist may not have paid attention to her shirt. And even if someone's wearing a T-shrit with a deaf school logo on it doesn't mean they're hearing impared.
@mckenziemarsalis94823 жыл бұрын
Y’all obviously don’t know about human trafficking
@best139993 жыл бұрын
In the first story, the father sucks. He is an enabler that keeps giving his son a net and wants to penalized other people for that. As someone who has kicked multiple addictions, the son has to want it enough and figure it out himself. Don't care if it unpopular, its true.
@nna_3 жыл бұрын
Not to mention the son is an adult. He's more than capable to fix his own issues without daddy's and mommy's help.
@TipTheScales273 жыл бұрын
Not to mention how the step son has already victimized her! I’d be devastated if someone stole my heirlooms. She’s a saint for helping him twice despite that
@user-do2ev2hr7h3 жыл бұрын
Sure, but it's often extremely hard for people watching a loved one go through that not to be an enabler, when the alternative is often watching said loved one crash and burn.
@Bubu-tg6ul3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY
@driversuz443 жыл бұрын
And if he doesn't want it enough, he will likely die. At the end of the day that is also, sadly, his choice.
@simana98913 жыл бұрын
I hate when people say they’re going to “help” with their kids. Like, buddy, you’re not “helping”, you’re doing your job. It doesn’t matter if you also go out to work, if you have kids, raising and caring for them is your job. Don’t go whingeing and whining when attending to your kids stops you from playing video games, you need to take your share of child raising responsibilities.
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
No if someone has a job it's there partner's job to take care of th
@clubpenguin135314 ай бұрын
@@tfordham13he wasn't working at the time
@DerRotSpassvogel3 жыл бұрын
"The fund has around $180,000 in it" Holy crap! With that much, you could almost pay for all her books in a semester!
@SamuraiFluff3 жыл бұрын
Depends on the school. Harvard or over high end schools that's barley anything, and from the sounds of it that seems to be the goal is a high end school.
@tempodopop55713 жыл бұрын
@@SamuraiFluff They were joking that the fund would cover the cost of textbooks for a semester. Most of us know the painful cost of education.
@SkylerLinux3 жыл бұрын
Hopefully she's young still
@al3x_4353 жыл бұрын
@@SamuraiFluff r/woosh much?
@SamuraiFluff3 жыл бұрын
@@al3x_435 Lmao Yeah went right over my head.
@DarkCrow023 жыл бұрын
For the last story, it's the boyfriend who's working and therefore he has a right to the money he earns. As you have explained clearly, his parents are controlling machiavellian freaks who are crazy and need to go down. Edit: It used to say owns where it says earns. I believe earns is far more appropriate.
@DraMaster3 жыл бұрын
Even my mom that was a bit controlling (looking back I understand she was just scared for me and treed to help me) wanted me to get my own bank account when I started working and still living whit my parents. She only asked me to pay a small amount every month as a rent/living expenses (it was way less from what I would pay to rent a apartment whit someone) and said the rest is my to handle just "please put some away as savings". She even refused to accept the "rent" when I lost the job and was jobless for tree months. Whew listening to this story I was like: WTF?!
@KnittingGirl283 жыл бұрын
That story reminded me of the first time I got my own bank account, 18 in high school. She had some benifits coming in for my brother and I so when I was old enough and it was about to cut off she had me open an account so Id have my money and could start taking over my own finances. I can only imagine how much money the son had contributed without ever knowing, if only he could have had that money. Even just a year could net about 10, 000-20, 000. Top trier trash parents.
@changejenn14 Жыл бұрын
The story where the hairstylist called the cops because she thought the friend was being human trafficked is a butthole. Imagine that didn’t get cleared up that would have ruined op’s life because she assumed that op was a human trafficker. I can’t say I’d do anything different. I’d be pissed off especially since op’s friend very clearly had a shirt on for the school for the deaf. You can’t just assume something like that.
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
She is doing her job she legally has to it's in her contract plus the op was showing clear signs of being abusive and asking for drastic changes and the person was show signing of shock
@changejenn14 Жыл бұрын
@@tfordham13 there’s a way to try and check these things before jumping to conclusions though. She jumped to a major conclusions without seeming to even attempt to talk with op’s friend away from op and ask if they needed help. You can’t just jump to conclusions like that without even attempting to figure out what is happening. It ruins lives and very well could have ruined op’s.
@martinboudrias96312 жыл бұрын
that story with the parents taking their kids money is literally abuse. good job on OP for helping him escape an abusive environment
@janetac17383 жыл бұрын
OMG the first story, a thirty thousand dollar rehab is going to be a vacation spa...../ send him to a state run FREE rehab, heres a tip, THEY ALL TEACH THE SAME THINGS. you dont get a magic wand just bcuz u spend thirty grand!!!!!!!!!@ DUH
@BorninVirginia3 жыл бұрын
Exactly, just throwing money at him is not going to help unless he wants to be help. You might as well just throw the money into a fire in that case
@Ikajo3 жыл бұрын
Or convince him to go to NA meetings (Narcotics Anonymous) which is free and gives continuous support. If he keeps it up then maybe, maybe, a rehab could be discussed.
@ReigoVassal3 жыл бұрын
@@BorninVirginia yup. Addiction is like drowning. If they don't want to try to get out of the water there's nothing you could do.
@KumiChan20043 жыл бұрын
The step son is sadly looking for a free vacation.
@theunknownone56633 жыл бұрын
That is a lot of money. I would just buy a car for her for school it be in way better use. Or buy 30k in lottery tickets still better use. The only way to help the son is to drop him off on a deserted island.
@weareallbronies90313 жыл бұрын
As for the first story; nta and this marriage is over.
@crazeeaz3 жыл бұрын
You know things are going well when they keep their finances separate.
@TheMegalusDoomslayer3 жыл бұрын
@@crazeeaz I found the gold digger.
@terra_the_nightingale1353 жыл бұрын
@@crazeeaz I mean, I personally want to keep my finances separate in any relationship. Why share them? Sure you can have a joint account ig. But always have your own.
@Nalothisal3 жыл бұрын
agreed. Kick the two choosing beggars out.
@nuages89153 жыл бұрын
@@TheMegalusDoomslayer weirdo
@colinburdett99503 жыл бұрын
The second story, remember that Gemma had a shirt that said her school.
@JSainte173 жыл бұрын
So? We don’t know what it looked like. Maybe it was small lettering. Maybe the person wasn’t focused on the clothing. Why the crap did they not tell the stylist she was deaf? Why was the deaf girl ignoring the stylist to the point that she thought she was catatonic? That’s bizarre. There are many ways to communicate that you acknowledge a person.
@flyykiller49273 жыл бұрын
@@JSainte17 so snapping in her ear and she not responding do not tell u she dead sum ppl stupid and she had a whole shirt on for the dead school and how can u mistake sign language for waving if u think that do not Tell u she deaf then you are just stupid sorry I have to tell u but if u can’t you’re stupid
@friendlyneighborhoodhater3 жыл бұрын
@@JSainte17 Yikes, and if someone is so unaware in a situation that they think a deaf girl is being human trafficked, you need to revisit school. Words catch eyes. Obviously. Designs and words.
@itsmeyt___3123 жыл бұрын
Where is the cloth I get to put around you when you get your hair done that covers up your clothing so they don’t get messy so you wouldn’t be able to see the shirt that says school for the deaf on it
@RevolverOcelot20083 жыл бұрын
1) not everyone is that observant. I had lunch with friends a few hours ago and I could only say vaguely what they wore.(although quite frankly I don't care what people wear so I don't pay it any mind) 2) what if the trafficer made her wear that shirt as a ruse so an observant person wouldn't ask questions
@pog94163 жыл бұрын
The 2nd story made me angry bc the hairstylist was completely in the wrong,OP said that she was wearing a shirt that said that she’s deaf.If the hairstylist was paying attention,she would have noticed that and nothing would’ve went wrong.
@cuteizombi69463 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't understand the everyone sucks response is it because she was yelling? If so then yeah the yelling was completely uncalled for she should have just let the cops handle it on the other hand I'm starting to think that maybe they've experienced something like that before hence why she was yelling so much I wouldn't blame her if that was the reason the hair stylist reason for doing that was really stupid it's almost like she left her brain at the door before she came to work LOL
@Recoil18083 жыл бұрын
Not to mention, her holding them there was not only a criminal act (kidnapping), but could have both endangered herself and the victim if it WERE a slaver. At the most charitable, it may cause one to grow suspicious and attempt a kore proper flight, and then be lost forever. It is a breach of procedure.
@businessman33953 жыл бұрын
Op should have 0 and the hairstylist should have 2 or 3 she is incompetent dumb and rude she should not be handling scissors
@tempodopop55713 жыл бұрын
Wow. First a Gallaudet shirt doesn't mean you're deaf. They should have explained why Op was speaking for someone. I'm hard of hearing and also a healthcare worker who has to complete bi-annual human Trafficking classes. Not everyone knows deaf culture and the hair dresser was wrong. But her intentions were to save a life. Now, she will be hesitant to speak out or offer help in the future. The snapping in the ears was ridiculous and she should get training not lose her job.
@Recoil18083 жыл бұрын
@@tempodopop5571 Ignorance and stupidity is not, and never is, an excuse. Don't get me wrong, human traffickers are absolutely a threat that need to be wiped out completely and with no mercy or compassion, though you do not fight said threat by closing your eyes and shooting in the general direction of any sound you hear. This exact sort of stupidity is exactly what has led to single parents being suspected by hotel workers, wait staff, etcetera, of being child molestors. Much like with a firearm, you need trigger discipline, not blind fire. Blind fire needs punishmentl not encouragement. There are reliable ways to confirm these suspicions, such as by a written note or showing a picture of what the supposed captor said she wanted. If she was RIGHT, then congradulations, she would have endangered not only herself but the victim using her techniques. No criminal is more dangerous than when backed into a corner, and illicit jobs like this breed paranoia. What would have happened if the hypothetical human trafficker smelled something off?
@bubbletea19853 жыл бұрын
That poor guy in the last story... that's extreme financial abuse, and I'm so happy he managed to escape
@yuffiefan76373 жыл бұрын
I agree with r slash on the first. If op would give the daughters money away, they would favor the addicted kid over the daughter. Op had given soo much money on detox, no, the fund-money is not hers to give away Last story: op saved her girls bf. He needed that money to set himself free
@Gir0Fan0Number013 жыл бұрын
Not to mention that, at that point, if the son is relapsing right after leaving rehab twice, he doesn't actually want to get better. They may be spending money and trying, but he isn't putting in any effort, otherwise he'd help pay for it. It's wasting the parents time, money, and effort, and pulling the husband into insanity. Op's daughter doesn't deserve to be dragged into that, and sacrifice her education simultaneously
@krytenfivetwothreep24853 жыл бұрын
@@Gir0Fan0Number01 It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to get better, it could be that he's continuing to hang around with people that use and gets pulled in that way, or there could be some trauma that he's trying to deal with that causes his relapses. I do agree that it's basically throwing money away though, there's clearly something more going on if he's instantly relapsing, and no amount of detox will fix that. Therapy might though
@arenburns90323 жыл бұрын
1st story pisses me off. They've already spent thousands of dollars to help him and the stepson clearly doesn't want to stay clean. If the dad wants to spend even more money on his addiction he should cough up the money himself, not guilt trip an actual child out of a huge amount of money for her future
@shellyfox8633 жыл бұрын
It wasn't addressed in the story but wonder if the father is also giving some money directly to his son and if parental guilt is a part of the equation. My spidy senses are saying that maybe the father has not been completely honest with OP about something.
@merlinathrawes7463 жыл бұрын
Deaf girl story: No, rSlash, it is NOT a reasonable misunderstanding, it was entitled ignorance!!! Yes, I'll grant the stylist MAY have had good intentions, but doesn't it seem strange to you that the problems didn't start until AFTER OP CORRECTED the stylist on what she was getting out to use? It sounds to me as if the stylist was unwilling to accept that she made a mistake and was embarrassed and looking for a way to take the pressure off herself and avoid a bad review. There was too much evidence for most to to realize OP's friend was truly deaf.
@KirbyKips3 жыл бұрын
My workplace is a resort, so human trafficking is something that can and has happened. Every employee goes through training on how to identify it and what to do, however most of the identifiers are very similar to normal things like a child that looks sad or crying, no suitcase, and things like that. Because of this, we’re told to look for multiple identifiers, not one or two. I read the original post and looked at some of the comments OP made because I was confused why neither Gemma nor OP tried to do anything to explain to the stylist why Gemma wasn’t responding. OP mentioned that Gemma’s shirt was on full display and they were signing back and forth in front of the stylist. How she didn’t notice is beyond me. Why OP didn’t say “Gemma is DEAF” is also beyond me. But I feel like this stylist was amongst those who don’t understand what being deaf is or how to identify it and automatically assumed she was being trafficked. I know she was probably doing the right thing, but she made a major jump in judgement and I don’t know if that’s just a mistake or ignorance.
@Connor-ONeill Жыл бұрын
I imagine OP didn't tell anyone Gemma was deaf because, unless Gemma wanted them to know,it wasn't any of their damn business.
@sailorstar3148 Жыл бұрын
@@Connor-ONeill I thought the hairstylist would know since Gemma had a university shirt for the deaf school on and Plus they were hints of her being deaf when is dumb being her not hearing the hairstylist snap her fingers
@sinfulwrath6663 жыл бұрын
Time to judge other people's actions.
@Cutejohn12343 жыл бұрын
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@r.w38003 жыл бұрын
Yup! It’s Karen time!;)
@unicornsprinkles89643 жыл бұрын
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@jackedwards22033 жыл бұрын
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@FireVixen164 Жыл бұрын
Final story: that's straight up financial abuse. Way to go OP!
@omayasimler39782 жыл бұрын
The part about the husband neglecting his kids to play a game was infuriating. I was a sick kid, and one time my mum had to take me out of state for a doctor. We were gone three days. All her husband had to do was take my brother and sister to daycare, feed them, and change my sister’s diaper. He didn’t change her diaper for THREE days, and never took them to daycare. My sister was very sick when we got back and my mum rushed her to the hospital. My Gran watched my brother and I. My sister almost died and broke our hospital’s record for highest fever. She was either 2 or 3 and her brain reset. Safe to say my mother divorced him. My sister didn’t talk until she was 5. She got vision therapy in 2019, at 13 just so she could read without frustration.
@kaseyremer3 жыл бұрын
Tbh I don’t think Op in the deaf friend story is a complete ass. Maybe 1/5. Hair dresser 2.5/5. All she had to do was ask why she was talking for Gemma.
@the_devil46763 жыл бұрын
exactly!. also the stylist somehow mistook sign language for hand waving. and that’s not mentioning she thought gemma was catonic while she was moving her hands....... like how??? like dose the stylist think not responding to sound only specifically means catonia???
@JasperCatProductions3 жыл бұрын
You don’t just feed or change a baby, you interact with them......that was child neglect and I would never trust the SOB with a plant much less a living beautiful infant who deserves care and attention. He can game during the nap.
@okami77513 жыл бұрын
Well hopefully he realizes his mistake and gets better. If you really can’t handle a night shift, try to sleep while the baby is instead of gaming. Also it seems he’s just adjusting to having a console and the feeling of “new” so hopefully this changes because this is not okay.
@sadpicnic5071 Жыл бұрын
“He Told Me It Was My Fault Because I didn’t remind him on the phone” No. She shouldn’t have to remind you that you need to look after your kid.
@ShadowSora84913 жыл бұрын
I'm glad that OP in the last story helped get her daughter's boyfriend out of a REALLY bad situation. Those parents had NO right to mooch off their son and take almost all his money, just to control him and keep him from leaving. I'm also glad that OP, her daughter, and her daughter's boyfriend all got restraining orders against his parents.
@papabear13333 жыл бұрын
It’s not your daughter’s fault that her step brother is a druggie. Why isn’t the father asking his son’s mother for the money. He’s their son. 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
@dimsufferer99513 жыл бұрын
Stylist story, I disagree, the hairstylist was way out of line calling the authorities like that without even trying to understand the situation. Yeah, op sucked for getting her fired, but what was she supposed to do? Be happy that the stylist called the cops on her for bs? How is that a “reasonable” misunderstanding? Catatonic and deaf are two very different things and most people should be able to tell the difference
@HeoBaby243 жыл бұрын
The styles had every right to be concerned about a wellbeing of a client like yah I would probably do the same thing because key points *Op always telling the styles something that her friend wanted but the worker didn't know *The friend stayed quiet the entire time *And that neither the friend nor the op told the worker she was deaf! So what does the worker gonna think?
@KxngXav3 жыл бұрын
@@HeoBaby24 she literally had a shirt that says she's deaf...
@bethanntay3 жыл бұрын
@@HeoBaby24 yep, all deaf people are being human trafficked, better get to it. So many to save🤣🤣🤣
@HiddenBrother6193 жыл бұрын
@@HeoBaby24 She also said the stylist said Gemma was "agitated waving her hands around" she mistook sign language for fits? I know Jack shit about sign language and could still recognize it. No that stylist deserved to be fired, she does thst to the wrong person and person could end up in jail
@HeoBaby243 жыл бұрын
@@bethanntay I didn't mean it like that I was just saying there signs that made the worker worry they've could at least told her that her friend was hard of hearing and I'm pretty sure there protocols for something like this
@D0TL0LAnimation3 жыл бұрын
If I let someone take care of my baby (who doesn't exist yet) and they left them in the same diper for 9 hours I would never talk to them ever again.
@fairladykd67343 жыл бұрын
Exactly - & the baby prob. didn't eat either
@Some_Guy6 Жыл бұрын
That hairstylist was a lawsuit waiting to happen. + With such accusations you can destroy entire innocent lives.
@doggo34703 жыл бұрын
Second story: THE GIRL HAD A DEAF UNIVERSITY SHIRT ON
@Spartan04303 жыл бұрын
you do know that it's pretty common to have a sheet covering you up when you get your hair cut right? if the stylist didn't notice the shirt before she put the cape on she sure as shit isn't going to notice when it's completely covered up.
@karma-47303 жыл бұрын
Spartan0430 she didn’t get they at tho they had no service
@Spartan04303 жыл бұрын
@@karma-4730 she never specified. we have no idea how long they were there or what was done. the deaf girl was clearly sat down, the stylist was told what work to do and was preparing stuff, and then trying to figure out what was going on because she clearly started getting concerned over the behavior from the customers. she might have left to call the cops before she got around to putting on the cape but we'll never know.
@D64nz3 жыл бұрын
Like human traffickers wouldn't use a ruse like that to sneak someone through a salon.
@doggo34703 жыл бұрын
@@D64nz why would they even take them out other than to take more girls...
@j.rbry.89903 жыл бұрын
If I had ever neglected one of my kids like that, I would have kicked my own ass.
@starryloveasmr41342 жыл бұрын
It’s so disgusting that fathers taking care of their kids isn’t seen as normal. It’s seen as being a saint. It’s expected of women to do everything. It’s INSANE
@wamrainc176 Жыл бұрын
For the first story, I’ll pour my heart out. I was an addict heroin addict for over six years, and regardless of whether my parents or the state would pay for my treatment and recovery none of it won’t ever matter unless I was able to finally is acknowledge my problem where I finally had enough and was fully prepared to begin healing. It was never about the money, it was about me truly wanting to help my self. And for those who is curious, I have been clean since 2011. I thank god and my family daily for supporting me on the road to recovery
@t.abellard62803 жыл бұрын
I highly disagree with you on the second story, you don't need to be a rocketg scientist to notice someone's deaf. Rather than just confirming with the friend and using her brain, the stylist went with the nuclear option.
@alicedickinson53563 жыл бұрын
Exactly, the stylist could have very easily tried to communicate with Gemma through writing on a piece of paper to ask if she was ok and safe. Or better yet she could have asked op questions about her friendship with Gemma to see if they were really friends. The hair stylist was fucking stupid
@supervegito22773 жыл бұрын
Yeah. I cant say OP is entirely innocent, but i can definitely understand the rage. I will say i feel OP is more in the clear, than the husband of the first story. id reverse the X/5 on those. Getting her fired might be Asshole level, but screaming at her? Nah.
@dazerla3 жыл бұрын
Same disagree, the hair stylist made some really abeliest assumptions and could have put OP and her friend in a dangerous situation. Hint cops don't always know how to interact with deaf people. And if either of them was POC...
@c001Ba30nDuD3 жыл бұрын
Agreed, she really should have tried to communicate with her but getting the stylist fired was an assholish move tbh. The screaming was fine, time was wasted on interacting with the police and she stalled them to stay but getting her fired was a little bit too far.
@alicedickinson53563 жыл бұрын
@@c001Ba30nDuD Just think though, if she called the police on something innocent like this imagine all the other times she could call the police when she feels like something is wrong. She'll probably call the police if a bf and gf are having a small arguement be wise she thinks the bf is abusive, she'll call the police on someone coming in with a service dog because she'll think they're taking it or that they've stole the dog. I don't know about you but I wouldn't want someone who calls the police without checking with management working for me, it just brings issues to the business
@hollyandstelladoodle87483 жыл бұрын
Don’t throw away the daughter’s future for a drug addict.
@franl1553 жыл бұрын
Especially one who doesn't want to be cured.
@Leonsbanki3 жыл бұрын
@@franl155 tbh i feel like the son would try to steal the 30k and use it for something else other than treatment for his addiction
@franl1553 жыл бұрын
@@Leonsbanki - yeah, he'd only see how much of a good time he could have with it
@jayxfrost89873 жыл бұрын
Specially a drug addict who clearly doesn't want to do anything about his addiction.
@Ender110373 жыл бұрын
Considering that it's an inpatient rehab program, I doubt he himself would get the cash.
@marbysa3 жыл бұрын
Im just wondering how big that mess from the chili was. He had to cancel the evening with friends to clean it up AND was exhausted from it the next day at work?
@johnnsong50783 жыл бұрын
Cant agree on the second story, how is the friend considered an ahole for being falsely accused of human trafficking? And of course OP had every right to go off on her, she tried to falsely accuse without any proof. Doesn't matter if the hair dresser had "right intentions". So can't argue with you on that.
@boywiththebread1013 жыл бұрын
It’s a very common human trafficking tactic, it’s all about the intent, the stylists thought she was saving a life from being trafficked, she didn’t deserve to be yelled at
@johnnsong50783 жыл бұрын
@@boywiththebread101 doesn't matter if the intent was good or bad. The ends justify the means and this case the stylist didn't have enough info and just assumed like wow and if the cops believed her instead of hearing both sides OP would have been wrongfully accused for something she didn't do. The stylist got what she deserved
@boywiththebread1013 жыл бұрын
@@johnnsong5078 I’m sorry, I can’t agree with you. Maybe the stylist was stupid, she thought Gemma was getting human trafficked, her intentions however ignorant they may be were good, you can’t say intentions don’t matter, because intentions are everything.
@commander86253 жыл бұрын
@@johnnsong5078 if the end justifies the means, then murdering random people just because you thought they were Hitler would be ok, so long as you actually got Hitler.
@mattw83323 жыл бұрын
Wow, the last story! So glad the boyfriend escaped his situation of being financially manipulated and credit to the OP for stumping up the money. Best wishes to the three of them.
@joel62303 жыл бұрын
Lol that op in the first story needs to talk about this
@rkoncenasupporter3 жыл бұрын
For the fist story, yeah the husband is definitely the butthole, the money is NOT for his son at all. As for the 2nd story, I do think that the hair stylist went overboard, especially when Gemma's shirt said she went to a school for the deaf.
@kkp43733 жыл бұрын
Take pictures, he needs to see what he caused. Divorce him
@commiedog4253 жыл бұрын
Old rslash: welcome to r/nicegirls where bitches be crazy Rslash now: we hugged each other with extra spice
@BeckBeckGo3 жыл бұрын
He has to make a living and KZfaq sucks.
@unicornsprinkles89643 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@waddleworth73603 жыл бұрын
Eee
@TheBluePhoenix0083 жыл бұрын
He kinda has to make a living.
@commiedog4253 жыл бұрын
I'm aware he has to make a living I just find how shitty youtube has become kinda funny
@ThingMaBobJimmy3 жыл бұрын
The story about the dad leaving his kid in a dirty diaper for nine hours? Dump him. Trust me. I was the kid that was left for hours in a dirty diaper by his dad, and believe me, the neglect only gets worse from there.
@dandotvid3 жыл бұрын
The dad in the PS5 story has an addiction. It's pretty clear.
@KrisBailey3 жыл бұрын
I've had some family members that I've lost to drug addiction. Yes, usually someone suffering from severe drug addiction will need a lot of help from friends and family to heal, but in the end it doesn't matter how much help they get, the change HAS to come from them. They have to have the willpower to break free themselves. Sounds like the stepmom already did a lot to help this guy. As for the dude neglecting his child for video games; shut that shit down immediately. I'm a big gamer myself, but video games are never an excuse to neglect the wellbeing of yourself or others.
@galactic74583 жыл бұрын
AITA for wanting everyone who says “first” to have their teeth rearranged?
Saying someone's human sex trafficking someone is a pretty big accusation
@FoxyMomma4ever3 жыл бұрын
I know, right?!? How does anyone NOT recognize sign language?? I mean, what the actual hell?!?
@NekoYuki3 жыл бұрын
@@FoxyMomma4ever It literally involves precision hand movement! That's not flailing.
@xlifexwithxlithiumx3 жыл бұрын
Stylist are trained to calle the cops if they think someone is trafficked ! She was showing signs of victims of trafficking she fid what she thought was right!!!
@NekoYuki3 жыл бұрын
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx She didn't show ANY of the fucking signs of being trafficked. She did, however, show all the signs of being fucking DEAF! Catatonic is being unresponsive to outside stimulus. She wasn't catatonic. She responded to visual stimulus. They claimed she waved her arms erratically. Sign language isn't erratic, it's precise. What the STYLIST did, however, was insanely rude. including snapping into the deaf person's ear. She literally pulled discriminatory behavior. People here have showed this to stylist relatives who said "no, that stylist deserved to be fired". Make of that what you will.
@willchr19553 жыл бұрын
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx idc she 100% went about it the wrong way
@azizcalva-navarro6170 Жыл бұрын
For the last story, NTA, OP had to help the boyfriend get out of that situation, the only reason I can see the 2 parents taking his money is because their money is so tight in bad assets and they don't want to admit, so when they saw their son had a girlfriend and job, they saw it as a money grab.
@shelbyberry43493 жыл бұрын
Ugh, that last story I really related to. My mom told me when I started working at 16, that she was putting all my money away in her savings account for my college, but when I turned 18 and she signed the account over to me, I found that she had spent everything but 8 cents. She then was very surprised that I moved in with my boyfriend without telling her.
@keerthana73533 жыл бұрын
I don’t get it. How would you feel if you were accused of human trafficking? So she’s a Karen for being humiliated and retaliating?
@LilDevyl173 жыл бұрын
That's what's getting to me. Her friend had a hoodie that said "School for the Deaf" on it! Yet, everyone here keeps saying that if OP said that her friend was deaf then this would've been avoided. How would like to tell everyone you go that someone as a disability all the time? It's not like they have a calling card! Plus, I'm sure OP was *signing* while talking to her friend! Plus, how the hell can you mistake signing with "Waving her hands around"? This Stylist could've easily have ruined OP. OP could've been arrested and then the Stylist would've gone on Social Media like she was a damn hero. Only to find out the OP wasn't Trafficking but the damage is done! Plus, the whole snapping next to her hear. It's like girl, she's deaf so yes, she's going be unresponsive! It's like no one wants to admit that having a disability and then what the Stylist did was completely wrong and against that disability! It's like saying, "Hey we are normal so you have to be normal too and I'm going to ignore the fact that you aren't normal!" rSlash is really losing his marbles here with some of these stories! Last time, he literally said that it was the Sister's job to make sure that her sister go the help she needed after, almost having her baby kidnapped! Now this? I don't know man. I hope he actually reads the comments here and just Reddit b/c some of the Redditers are just Trolls/Assholes, where KZfaqr Comments have a more level head on them.
@alicedickinson53563 жыл бұрын
Exactly, op isn't a Karen for getting this woman fired. A Karen is someone who gets innocent people fired for the hell of it this isn't what op did. I'm sick and tired of people being called Karen for sticking up for themselves.
@xlifexwithxlithiumx3 жыл бұрын
Stylist are trained to calle the cops if they think someone is trafficked ! She was showing signs of victims of trafficking she fid what she thought was right!!!
@ClockworkChandelure3 жыл бұрын
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx she was showing signs of a *disability* , not of being a victim of trafficking. Or are disabled people not allowed to get haircuts anymore just in case some wannabe Sherlock Holmes gets their friend or social worker arrested because they cannot recognize sign language or read a shirt that clearly mentions the fact that they're deaf? Good intentions don't always mean that the person is innocent, she wasn't. It could've ended up in tragedy. I have a pretty sucky eyesight, and if my glasses broke I would need someone to guide me. With your logic, if my glasses broke in the middle of the road and my dad was there to guide me, someone should call the cops because it may look like a scrawny boy being kidnapped, instead of doing the logical thing and asking if everything is alright.
@Holychickendinner Жыл бұрын
OP was clearly being obnoxious, critical, and controlling which are clear signs of an abuser. Also, stylists are TRAINED to call the police in those situations. The stylists can't and shouldn't ask more questions because the traffickers will catch on quickly and try to lie their way out every time. OP sounds like a little Gen Z who gets offended at every little thing. Oh, and anyone can wear a shirt that says anything without it automatically pertaining to them. Some people buy clothes from a second hand store or are given hand me downs without caring about the graphics on the shirt. And no, it is not offensive to wear a deaf school shirt if you're not deaf. Reddit is so full of people who refuse to see both sides of a situation. I suppose the wisest people are too busy actually being responsible and living life to argue on the internet.
@radarw643 жыл бұрын
As with all addictions that destroy a family, you have to separate yourself from the addict because they will continue forever.
@sunnydragon7223 жыл бұрын
There are people who do get clean. And yes there are still addicts even when they arent using. Most addicts face a live long struggle to not relapse. But there many examples of addicts staying clean for the rest of thier lives. I just supported my (ex) husband over his alcohol addiction and have attended some of his AA meetings and met members that had been clean for 24 + years.
@belafeldbusch33973 жыл бұрын
@@sunnydragon722 as a family friend who had a long time alcohol problem once said „It is you who raises the bottle to drink, you are the one who has to say stop“ ...sounds better in german
@suitov3 жыл бұрын
Last OP saved that poor young man from financial abuse and *she's* been manipulated into feeling like the baddie? I'm so glad she seems to have got the responses she needed to stand firm. +1 for Reddit there.
@Excalibur-Sonic3 жыл бұрын
I would of of given the Stylist 3.5/5, while she 'might' of had good intentions, she didn't do enough investigating (plus the snapping in ears was quite rude). With the deaf shirt easily seen (it would of been visible when they walked into the salon), she could of just asked. "Hey is she deaf?" That would of solved the whole thing before the cops ever had to be involved. Alot people are also pointing out: how can the girl be catatonic but 'waving her arms around', that contradicts each other. There is also a vast difference from 'waving arms around' and sigh language. While OP could of handled it better. I'd give them maybe 1/5 for that. The police being called could of easily ruined OP's life. She could of been arrested if the police hadn't talk to her and her friend. OP had the right to talk to manger about the Stylist's mishandling of the situation. I agree with another comment that since the manager fired the Stylist right then, leads me to believe the Stylist has had trouble with her boss before. That this was the last straw. It is a everyone (but Gemma) sucks one. But I feel Rslash you let the stylist off too easily. This is the only 2nd time I really disagreed with you. I love your channel alot. Please consider the situation more. (Oh and give Yugo a belly rub for me)
@Josh_the_jester3 жыл бұрын
15:08 you're not a butthole you a saint, you saved that man from two greedy controlling narcissists, you deserve trophy.
@1bendykat3 жыл бұрын
The second story - this is one of the rare times I disagree with rslash. Deaf people are frequently dangered by, injured, or even killed by police due to “ignorance”. Why didn’t the stylist text with Gemma or write it down or ask OP? Excusing the stylist and calling OP a Karen for reacting emotionally to a stressful and dangerous situation without any knowledge of the Disabled community was ableist. I’m not saying OP wasn’t partially an AH, but it’s more understandable than what the stylist did (“testing” the hearing of a Deaf person, judging ASL as “flapping”, etc.)
@NekoYuki3 жыл бұрын
In fact, this is one of the times you can EXCUSE a person for being an asshole.
@FoxyMomma4ever3 жыл бұрын
I know, right?!? And saying she was “catatonic”? The stylist obviously doesn’t know what that means!!
@TehNemoz3 жыл бұрын
Look, I can't speak on how terrible addiction is. I've never been through it but girl RUN!!! New husband gives nothing to her daughter but expects her to dump $30,000+ on his sons addiction. Plus she has to live like everything of value is going to be stolen from her all the time. Take your daughter and run!!! Relationship is getting toxic (if not already) and the 2 of them don't deserve it!! Throwing money down the drain won't fix the problem. The step son has to WANT to change.
@angeleradescent51523 жыл бұрын
Okay so a lot of chain businesses are required to know sign language. If Gemma is using sign language, the stylist should’ve recognized it at the least. Also if she’s suspicious about Gemma not being able to hear she should’ve asked OP about it. To which OP can explain. Also the stylist was being ignorant because she assumed human trafficking first without evaluating signs. Also OP isn’t paying as much attention as she claim because if she noticed the snapping she could also explain that she is deaf in that moment to. The stylist was ignorant for immediately assuming human trafficking also. There are usually more signs. The way the stylist tested also is NOT efficient. I know btw a lot of places are required to know a bit of sign language since I have a lot of family members that were born with, experience an accident to cause, or are now experiencing hearing loss. I know the human trafficking “test” the stylist did isn’t efficient because I have family in law enforcement.
@tf76023 жыл бұрын
Last story is straight up financial abuse and yeah, probably more that isn't obvious from the post
@adamwentz85183 жыл бұрын
Hoping the rest was going into a high interest savings account for him and they just weren't telling him but even if this is the case they are completely effed.
@evadedenbach12263 жыл бұрын
And the poster needs to get the cops involved for the threat to do bodily harm. She raised a smart and empathetic daughter. The poster and the daughter helped the daughter's boyfriend finally escape from a bad situation that was only going to get worse. Thank God and Buddha that everyone got restraining orders against the boyfriends parents and are willing to get law enforcement involved if need be.
@evabelle52843 жыл бұрын
Talking from personal experience, it’s sadly probably more than just financial abuse...
@evadedenbach12263 жыл бұрын
@@evabelle5284 There was definitely a lot more going on.
@monkeybench3 жыл бұрын
Complaining about shitty service doesn't make you a Karen. Being a Karen makes you a Karen. (8 years of retail assistance and manager experience here. I've seen them up close.) Imagine being accused of human trafficking because your hair stylist can't read. It's not outside the realm of possibility, of course, but it's suuuuuch a jump
@clumsypuff3 жыл бұрын
We have forgotten to change my nephew's diaper at his parents wedding..... we all thought someone else did it as he didn't fuss at all or stink.
@EarCat3 жыл бұрын
Yeah that second to last one was absolutely horrific. That father needs a reality check. If im gaming with the baby in the same room im exiting queue after every match to check on the baby.
@ShatnerLover3 жыл бұрын
Regarding the first story: before I even comment on the money and whether OP is TA, I want to point out something from a recovery perspective: the stepson needs to be ready and willing to get clean, otherwise they’re wasting money on programs. Considering they already spent as much money as they did on a previous treatment program (out-patient for heroin? Sounds like methadone maintenance) and it didn’t help, it won’t be anymore helpful if they deplete the college fund for him. Cheap programs work just as well as the expensive programs do, but they only work when the addict is in the right place to be sober. Being forced into rehab has a low success rate because most of us thoroughly intend to use again when we get out. I happened to find clarity the third time I was forced in and I’ve had 6 and a half years clean, but the first two times, I just did it to appease my family. I get that his father wants his son to get better, but the son has to want to be clean. But I’ll come back to that thought in a moment. As for the post: the college fund is earmarked for the daughter’s college. The husband doesn’t even contribute to the fund, so he has no right to the money, nor does he have the right to emotionally manipulate the daughter into handing it over. Addiction is a horrible disease, but OP’s daughter should not give up on her own future because her step brother is an addict. While addiction is a disease, we still have to accept responsibility for getting on the substances in the first place. I don’t know whether the stepson experienced trauma, and injury, or just liked to party, he is still accountable for using in the first place. OP’s husband needs to be supportive without babying him. I understand he loves his son and doesn’t want him to destroy his life (or lose his life,) but that doesn’t give him the right to demand OP destroy her own daughter’s future for an expensive rehab which has no guarantees. OP’s daughter sounds like she works her butt off, but the chances of getting a full-ride scholarship to the school of her dreams are very very slim and she will need all the money she can get! The husband went too far, but he’s acting out of desperation so I’m not going to be too hard on him. OP is NTA. Honestly, the stepson needs to get it together. Whew!
@Talnaernihae3 жыл бұрын
The Last story: financial abuse is a thing, and that was a classic case of it, compounded with everything else. Glad he got out of there.
@MannifyYT2023 Жыл бұрын
Second story: NTA. The hair stylist got what they deserved
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
Nope 1 up the shirt didn't say school for the deaf,even if did it allows all sorts of people in she could have also wormed there or just bought it at a sports event also who reads shirts?, plus it's covered up by a big ponch and op was showing signs of an abuser and g was showing signs of shock and hs are trained to look for this stuff as it's common
@sustainablesolutions79762 жыл бұрын
The controlling parents might just be a serious case of "not wanting to let their child go" rather than evil abusive parents.
@r.w38003 жыл бұрын
Rslash releases: Me: It’s Karen time! ;)
@carlosv92083 жыл бұрын
Stfu with these stupid “Me:” comments.
@r.w38003 жыл бұрын
@@carlosv9208 why does it bother you?
@35joannecoleman3 жыл бұрын
@@carlosv9208 Your name literally has me in it what are you even complaining about? A comment? Really??
@carlosv92083 жыл бұрын
@@r.w3800 They're unimaginative, overdone, and cringey.
@Kenny1one_23 жыл бұрын
@@carlosv9208 ._.
@takeovermars3 жыл бұрын
Being accused of being human trafficking by an employee yeah I'd probably want to speak to a manager I don't care how "understandable" it is that's super insulting and they clearly didn't think. I'd say 1 butt hole just for the firing.
@riversrhodell23593 жыл бұрын
I know the deaf community was kind of split over this story, but just being a disabled person in general, I would be horribly offended if someone assumed I was being human trafficked just because I needed help communicating or working things out. I have so many bad experiences with able bodied people just failing to get it and putting me in danger. I also have a sneaking suspicion that the "human trafficking" suspected here probably falls more along the side of QAnon propaganda and hysteria than actual concern. It just has those vibes.
@paladinboyd12283 жыл бұрын
@@riversrhodell2359 , Qanon?
@riversrhodell23593 жыл бұрын
@@paladinboyd1228 A somewhat violent political conspiracy group (they have bombed places and killed people) that spreads a ton of lies about human trafficking because they believe the country is run by a giant pedophile ring of celebrities and politicians who also eat children because why not. They have put so much bad information out there that it causes a lot of hysteria among people and kind of creates a high level of paranoia about this sort of thing.
@paladinboyd12283 жыл бұрын
@@riversrhodell2359 Ah, thank you for filling me in.
@TheSniper7213 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@Krabnut3 жыл бұрын
The OP of the stylist story wasn't getting mad for Gemma, she was getting mad that they thought she could be a trafficker
@sliceofbread3815 Жыл бұрын
She shouldn’t have to remind him to look after his own kids..
@aer0153 жыл бұрын
In story 2, I have to agree with reddit's judgement of ESH, as although the OP is definitely acting like a Karen, the hairstylist claimed the innocent party was catatonic (immobile or unresponsive) but never checked if she could write or text for communication. Edit: I would also like to add that I believe OP was acting like a Karen after the cops left with her outburst of choice words and expletives, but tbh, it was deserved and OP is only a 1 to 2 on the AH scale. The hairstylist was definitely an AH here though. (Please bear in mind I did say "acting like a Karen," not that OP was a Karen.)
@Justcallmeaqua4203 жыл бұрын
Yeah
@ihateyouall46413 жыл бұрын
She was trying to show her her phone but the stylist preferred snapping her fingers instead. That's why op has to intervene multiple times
@alicedickinson53563 жыл бұрын
How is she acting like a Karen? I find it ridiculous how people can't ask for a manager to get someone fired over something serious like this without being called a Karen.
@Justcallmeaqua4203 жыл бұрын
@@alicedickinson5356 You see how she acted? A lot of Karens do that and whenever someone does that it will be generalized to that group when they are not entitled and nor act like an idiot
@alicedickinson53563 жыл бұрын
@@Justcallmeaqua420 I know and it pisses me off. I've seen a Karen in the wild before had she asked for the manager because she had to wait in a long line......during covid. Ops situation and this Karen's situation are two completely different things. Op asking for the manager after being though all of that shit makes her an angry woman who is pissed at the mistreatment of her friends and the disgusting assumption on her.
@cydniestes28103 жыл бұрын
I think the hairdresser should have ask questions like why are you talking for her? Or what are you two doing with your hands? If I was Op, I would be a Karen too.
@BorninVirginia3 жыл бұрын
If Op had used it as a learning moment then Op wouldn't have been NTB, but since Op did everything she could to make sure that hairdresser was punished. What that hairdresser learned from this experience (mostlikely) was "if you see something you better shut the hell up"
@beep54063 жыл бұрын
Whilst thr hair dresser did what they had to do when they believed there was a legitimate concern for trafficking. But there are still plenty of giveaways some one is deaf like not responding to her clicking in her ears which is extremly rude to do to people. Whilst i dont think she should of got fired i do belive op had a good reason to be mad, she got accused of human trafficking thats i would be mad as well.
@Justcallmeaqua4203 жыл бұрын
@@BorninVirginia yes and no, different things can be learn from that like "if you see something suspicious then get proof or get help before doing something drastic like calling the cops," but then again, you are right to a certain point and it was a shame they lost their job
@Ubya_3 жыл бұрын
@@Justcallmeaqua420 i don't think it was a shame, you really need to be dense to miss something like that and jump the conclusion of human trafficking. as a hairstylist you work with people, you can't assume stuff and call the cops randomly on them, if she was sospicius she could have asked the opinion of a collegue, i doubt they are all dumb in that shop. so 1) she was cutting the hair wrong, 2)she assumed a major crime by just the fact that the girl wasn't responding to adutory clues and her sister was talking for her, 3) she called the cops as her first action. nah someone like that doesn't deserve to work with customers directly. imagine if you were in a mall with your child crying because you wouldn't buy him a toy and see the cops stopping you because someone thought you were abusing that child
@Justcallmeaqua4203 жыл бұрын
@@Ubya_ OP is her friend but okay I can see your point of view
@Star_Joker3 жыл бұрын
2nd story: NTA I don't care that the stylist was fired, OP could have literally been sent to JAIL, and a deaf person can't hear what the police are asking a supposedly catatonic trafficking victim, can they???!!!
@tinasears93942 жыл бұрын
Okay as someone who graduated cosmetology in the past few years I need to speak on the issue with the hairstylist. When you go to cosmetology school there is an entire chapter on domestic violence and looking for signs/being aware of any red flags for domestic violence. They even provided us little domestic violence panflets that they said some salons carry in them so that while you know a man or woman is outgetting a haircut and they're away from the abuser/ they feel safe with with somebody that they see once a month or once every couple months (the stylist) can give them a safe space to be able to be able to call and report the domestic violence or to try and get some sort of help. That's literally taught to us to be part of our jobs it's not her being nosy she was concerned for one of her clients and she did what she was trained to do. It's unfortunate that she's being accused of starting drama when we are taught to look out for things like that and to try and get them help in the safest way possible. Did the stylist I'm this story go about it the right way? No I think she should of tried communicating with her client in different ways, definitely not snapping next to her ears, I do think she had good intentions though, human trafficking is serious and if that really was the case what she did could of saved a life.
@tfordham13 Жыл бұрын
If it was actually ht she could have saved tons of lives reunited tons of families sent a bunch of evil people to jail but now she is fired but probably not and the Manger just said that so the crazy women would leave
@mongoose9851 Жыл бұрын
The hairstylist literally saw Genna signing. She told the police that Genna was "waving her arms around". She'd have to be pretty ignorant not to know what signing looks like. And how can Genna be "waving her arms around" and "catatonic" at the same time? Here the hairstylist is has to be exaggerated or lying because both statements can't be true.