Syria is nice this time of year.

Why not come back to your real home? It's a good time. Didn't you hear? America is about to become great again.

Strip Ria on a live-cast

You know, people who complain complain no matter where they go. People who are unhappy are unhappy no matter where they are. People who are happy are happy no matter where they are. You are your own limitation.

Okay, so he failed in America, he failed in Japan, he failed in Thailand...where next?

Ryan, your expectation of Thailand is just too high. There is no such thing as perfect place. People are just people. No matter which country is not much different.

The "us and them mentality" will be everywhere if you are a foreigner thats just how it is. Even if youre from a neighbouring country etc

Hi Ryan: I have been interested in the truth about Thailand for quite some time and have done my own research. I lived in Thailand with my wife for 5 weeks. While this is absolutely no qualification to be an expert on Thailand, it's culture, or it's people, I interacted with a good number of expats while I was there. My general impression was exactly as you put it. These are people (expats living there) who have stopped growing and are basically living in la-la land. There is a recent video about how to spend an inexpensive day at a new mall in Hua HIn. Really? Is that what you want to move to Thailand to do? The bottom line is that there is a reason things cost less in Thailand and as a retired expat living in Thailand, you are basically gaining from others losses. No one vlogs about the police shake-downs. No one expresses their opinion about the King or about religious beliefs. They say they do it out of respect for the culture; but, in reality, I believe they live in fear. I was in Thailand the month after the king's death. It was suggested that I wear a black ribbon to show my sorrow and sympathy towards the Thai people for their loss. I am sorry, but the truth is, I do not believe in mourning. While it could be argued that I am wrong for taking such a position, I'm sorry, that's just who I am. These are cultural rituals that belong to the people of the country and while I appreciate their customs and culture, I am certainly not a part of it. The one consistent thing I have picked up with vloggers is the frequency with which they get ill; yet, no one vlogs about the unsanitary conditions found all over Thailand. Or that certain whiff of Eau-de-open sewage you get while you are walking down the street. You see videos about the beautiful beaches but hear little of the jellyfish invasions or garbage washing up on the shore. You are very correct that people are showing Thailand through rose colored glasses. The average Thai very possibly resents the average farang because of the economic reality that they must serve the farang to survive. Some may live in the fantasy world where they believe they fit into the Thai culture and are genuinely accepted as part of the culture, but I believe you are spot on in your observation that you will always be an outsider viewed primarily as a source of revenue. While I found Thailand to be a charming place and it's people generally kind, I have no urge to return for any extended period of time; been there done that. Best of luck to you in your future adventures.

Ryan bro just go back to the USA and be happy.

sounds similar to Japan. With that superficial front they display and the foreign vloggers painting it as a paradise

My question is: after spending that time in Thailand and coming back to Japan, do you APPRECIATE Japan now??

Why do you say you have hundreds of thousands of dollars and are constantly e-begging? (give this a thumbs up, everyone)

This guy is so far off beam, did not go up North, please do not believe 90% of what he said, he is a loner, not too many friends, no wonder, with his negative attitude, Thailand is a great place, good riddance

He left because he has no money, no work permit, and can't afford a Thai Elite Visa. His big savings he boasted about in his other video is gone. Such a croc poster

Maybe what Ryan is searching for in his travels is a place that will also fully accept him. He didnt find that in Japan and he didnt find that in Thailand and it might be something that's really hard to find. I think wherever you go there will always be an Us Compared To Them attitude no matter how shallow it may be. Thats why we have the saying Theres no place like home.

go Kabul man, coffee shops and culture, the bombings are exaggerated just like them bloggers paining Thailand as paradise

I lived in Thailand for years, taught in S. Korea and Japan as well, am in the US now. One thing that Ryan is definitely right about is that of all the people you meet there, only a few will ever stick out and hold on as friends. I have heard others talk about this as well. To me it is peculiar when I think back on all the people I befriended in Thailand over the years, yet I can only truly count one or two as friends. Maybe three at the most. It is actually something I think about from time to time. Maybe it is because Thailand is a transitional place, always in a constant flux. With people coming in search of their own "something", the people they meet there just systematically becoming interwoven into the background tapestry of the greater Thai experience as a whole. Peculiar.

I spent time in Hanoi..... Now I love Bangkok ! Even though I lived in Bangkok for five years. Comparing Bangkok to Hanoi..... Bangkok is like heaven on earth !

i dont get why you hate living in the US.... just curious

Ryan, came back to see your videos after a long hiatus. You've got some serious inner torment that doesn't seem to let up, and I doubt traveling to all these different places is what's going to help you.

Love this video...really like the honesty and candidness.

One of the first video's I have watched that gets to the point, introduces the topic, then gives you more details and gives a brief conclusion. NICE !

ahhhh dreamcrusher: thailand edition. I came all over the screen.

You went to the wrong places in Thailand.

Why didn't you try living in Chiang Mai?

You are a wanderer, a vagabond, you won't call any place home, you aren't going to change, so relax and enjoy your wanderlust.

When is the wedding?

I agree with you, the heat in Thailand is more than I could deal with, it zapped my energy every day. Best of luck to you Ryan.

You and I are pretty similar in our adventures in Asia, and i think youd really like China. Chinese people are fun, full of personality, and they dont have the work obsession of Japan either. China also has way more work options than Japan does, for the average foreigner that is. First tier cities in China also pay more on average than first Japan. Lastly, Chinese people dont treat you like an outsider, gaijin, in China they treat foreigners actually better than they treat their own, usually. These may be generalizations, but for me, they all rang true.

Thank you for lengthily explaining that Thailand was not your problem, but you are your problem.

I say you try Korea next. My brother lives in Seoul and when I visited it was AMAZING!! But expensive as well.

FAKE NEWS. BUT THE ONLY FACT I SAW IN THESE RECENT VIDEOS IS THAT YOU CAME BACK TO WORK AFTER LONG VACATION.

I've been to Thailand for 6 months. The heat can be hard to deal with, but everything else is great. People are helpful and honest, and just generally have a positive attitude. I have never had a concern for my safety either. I avoid the big tourist traps like Bangkok, Phuket and Pattaya. If you expect Thailand to be like America, you may find it culturally challenging though.

home is where your heart is. so where's your heart, ryan? looks like you're not quite sure..

Ryan, I agree with many of your comments and observations (throughout your videos) but at other times wonder how you can be so negative! You have a life that many dream of! I admire that you're a free spirit, and by taking chances, you've enriched your life beyond what most people will ever experience! I used to travel to Japan often, during the years I was a flight attendant, and I loved Japan for many of the reasons you don't! Lol. I loved the order, the cleanliness, the polite interaction from the Japanese people, the beautiful temples and mystery surrounding much of Japanese culture. When you described appearance requirements for getting/keeping a job there, it reminded me of how the airlines were years ago. I'm ok with that. You obviously did what you wanted to do in life but do you see yourself moving on, either in location or profession? What is your dream job and destination? I'm not sure if you're happy where you're at. You seem like a great guy, and you deserve to be happy!

The grass ain't always greener on the other side, huh? Now you realise there's some truth in every stereotype.

Ria is a keeper. Good luck Ryan.

Don't know why you didn't try Chiang Mai

I really like listening to your honesty.

U know there's no perfect place anywhere ......

I like your videos because it’s all just the truth and nothing fake. You are real! ;) But one question I have: “Why traveling all the time? Why all the time in another country? I think you are maybe running away from something? Maybe it is hard for you to connect with people? Therefore, you never feel home anywhere?” Maybe you want to make a video about that topic, too!? Anyway, may God bless you! You are 100 percent real - and I like that. Cheers

Holy shit Ryan, good video mate. Appreciate you sharing. Troll videos are boring tbh.

So you are the next man who comfirms that thing, Ryan: "If you want to enjoy Thailand to the fullest, you need to visit Thailand.... but not to live there". Im tottally getting that point every single time Im there. First days and weeks are amazing but after month or so Im totally exhausted and "overtired". If you want to find great place to live and enjoy your life for many years you have to go Spain or Portugal in Europe. Maaaan, just give it a try :) Even for two weeks, but just try and see. You wont be dissappointed and maybe you will get wider perspective.

Thanks for getting to the point. I hear ya about Bangers. Never considered living in Pattaya. Chiang Mai was less friendly IMHO than Bangkok even. Samui has areas that may suit guys like us. My Thai wife and I may try Cambodia and Vietnam for 6 months and Thailand 6 months. Rent is so cheap, why own and be stuck? - especially if a bad neighbor moves in.

Ryan, no country is perfect. An to expect perfection just isn't logical. Thailand has figured out a niche in the world. It's not for everyone. Some advise, Rei helps you grow, don't let her slip away.

I lived in the Dominican Republic por 7 years and it was HELL. I wish I had thought about vlogging my experience. Anyways, thanks for the series, your thoughts resonate with me in many levels.

Wow, this might have been what my life looked like if I didn't get married.

"they either are scared of you, or they want something from you" - That was so ignorant! - What a way to generalized a whole country, when you only lived and hung out mostly in the red light district area of say country! Fool.

Maybe give Rie's suggestion of Okinawa a shot? Might have the climate you are looking for and be more in her comfort zone

So you working as english teacher again?

For tomorrow's video I am going to address the most thumbed up comment in the comments section of this video. Anything goes.

I could almost feel how he feels: a sense of unsettleness. You just keep looking until you find something and then move on again.

Jomtien are way more calm and with less peoole and traffic compered to Pattaya and its a 10 min bikeride south...

If you want to go back to Thailand Go Chiang mai or Chiang rai its a lot cooler and less living expenses than Pattaya.

Ryan, I'm in agreement with you about the heat. Yea, people say you will acclimate to it but even the Thais are affected by the heat, just ask them. The high rise areas of Bangkok seem to simply amplify the sun and heat. Man, I fucking died there most every day for the 3 weeks I visited.

Yesss!!! I've been waitin for this moment! Fuck yeah ready for the j-vlogs again

I love how your videos are to the point and you do not mislead your viewers, keep it up

Im sorry Ryan but moving to Pattaya is your issue that is not Thailand ?Have you been to the South of Thailand ? I have been regularly visiting for the last 2 decades and have been all over Thailand , in recent years my British family has invested in land and have built unexpectedly a holiday resort on an island near Samui , they have experienced nothing but an excellent reception from the Thai and have been shown nothing but respect during their stay ,i myself have decided to join them this June and say goodbye to my life in the UK for good ! , for me i can only say Thailand is a beautiful country and a place full of opportunity

Yes time to move on but back to Japan??? No Burma or India!

you left Thailand because you ran out of ladyboys

I have lived there 60% of my life. White dude like you. I tried to leave after 25 years and it is very difficult. WE were very spoiled by the earlier years, safety, jobs (hard to find now) and money and an easy life. Thailand is great to visit but to live can be lonely and draining. It takes a certain sort. I would need more than beach, bars etc everyday - I like using my brain. Problem is that work is very hard to come by now in Japan and after so many years near your 50s - forget it. No company wants you.

Hey Ryan, what about Okinawa? I heard Ríe commenting about that tropical Japanese place in one of your previous videos . Buena suerte amigo :)

I like your candidness about the dodgy Thais and how fake they can be. It is similar in China for the most part except from maybe the shrewdness of scamers. In China they are shy and awkward around foreigners and the vast majority act in a similar way towards foreigners, they just befriend you to make a profit from you. And yes I can imagine the lack of a cool season in Thailand would just get under your skin after a while. More northern and developed countries are better just to be yourself and lead a more private life, many westerners would be in sync with the Japanese way of life in terms of the orderly fashion of their sysytem and manners I guess, once you get into the tropics people become more loopy and crazy.

Its important for us all, that we don't mistake a yearning for inner growth, for an unresolved problem we may have carried from some point earlier in our lives. The need to move on, the constant searching for something, this may never be satisfied if we don't identify the real reason we feel like this. Its fine when its a reasoned thought out decision with a clear goal at the end, but when its a yearning from within, it usually means there is something far deeper going on. When we find out what it is, we can be happy, settled and at peace with ourselves.

What is your plan with Ria? She is beautiful and so nice. You should include her in your plan.

Hey Ryan what kind of videos are you gonna make now that you are back in japan?

I lived and worked in Thailand for almost 15 years. I'll never go to Pattaya. Pattaya sucks, along with Phuket and the tourist areas of Bangkok. Money grubbers, scams, etc. I prefer Chiang Mai, but it certainly gets hot there and scamming foreigners happens in Chiang Mai too. The important thing is to get away from the tourist areas (like Pattaya) and the people are very friendly. My advantage is that I speak, read and write fluent Thai. Because of this I get Thai prices and am treated differently (better) than most foreigners. I'm a very easy going, mellow and level headed person who fits well into Thai culture. Most foreigners don't fit into Thai culture. Thailand's not for everyone, but I enjoyed my life there. To each his own ...

I must tell you Bangkok & Pattaya are not the only places in Thailand to live. I live in Udonthani, where things are alot more laid back. I think Udon is about the same size are maybe a little larger then Pattaya. Here it's not all about hookers & bars. The people here are very friendly and don't bother me at all. I feel very free here. Please, don't judge all of Thailand on what you see in Bangkok & Pattaya. Life is alot better North of Bangkok.

Most people don't get to the point. I make videos about Asia. They have a topic which you are interested in but proceed to blab about other shit.

I love and respect the people of Japan even though I have never been there. I have lived in in countries where I should respect their culture but after having lived there I don't !

sure Ryan. problem is u in Nippon now and it's 2 western. But thanx for enlightenment along the way. was FUN. Vaya con dios, man...:-)

Simply Put your Skint n Begging, good ridance, go beg back home.

I know what you mean. As a frequent former frequent-traveler to Thailand, I could only stand Pattaya in small doses. Admitted, I was there for what most guys were for, but man, it can and does get old. I'd see an army of red-faced, overweight older guys warming bar-stools daily, frequently with a bored, Thai bar-girl sitting beside him in silence, staring at her smart phone. I'd sit bleary eyed on Walking Street at 2 am, watching the dregs of society parading by while drowning in a sea of neon and noise. ...and i realized i was no different from those "dregs". So, i tended to avoid Pattaya, but adored Phuket. There, i learned to sail, would ride my motorbike to little-known and quiet Surin Beach. Was as active as i wanted to be on Bangla Road in Phuket if the mood struck, but mostly, spent my days in quiet exploration of a beautiful place. Yeah, everybody's for rent it seems on Phuket, but it's not nearly as intense as Pattaya, and once you get away from Patong, the people seem much more warm and genuine. Good video man.

I just watched a few of Ryan's videos, it just shows the mind's eternal search for the next "better thing". There is always something on the horizon that promises that "there" you will feel better, but when the "there" becomes "here", and the effect of "new-ness" is over, you end up being what you always are with all your problems, fears and such. Whatever the circumstances are, it will not make you happy as long as you feel the need inside...

I like it when you keep the camera focused on the scenery instead of your face.

Are you losing it

Any place is boring if you don't have a job, no friends, and don't put down roots. I lived in Pattya for 2 years its a crazy place, and just as busy as BKK. If you don't want to work as a teacher you could invest your money in some kind of business venture? Wherever you go your own personal demons are gonna follow you. One thing that makes Thailand good is the cost of living is low.

A colleague has been living a Thailand for 15 years now and leaves the country every 3 months for visa purposes. You get used to it.

Hi Ryan, it seems you feel stuck right now. I don't know you at all, other than watching your videos, and I don't want to sound condescending, but I think you could get something interesting from a journey that is more than just another apartment in another town in Asia. I think you seek something deeper. Have you heard of the great Himalaya Trail for example? That is an extraordinary journey, and a very spiritual experience. You can decide the length, rhythm and level of difficulty yourself. The higher route leads through the mountains and is hard, but the lower route goes through beautiful valleys and towns. More here: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Himalaya_Trail

Hawaii is in Asia, in the USA, and it also has Japanese culture. You should move there.

This guy is always complaining, never happy! Why come to Thailand at all ??

I don't know how I came across this guy but he creeps me out.

I kind of had the sensation you liked your trip to Cambodia. Of course a 'holiday' is different than a daily routine and doesn't allow you to evaluate and point out the pros and cons of living in a country, but I was wondering wether you might be thinking of moving to Cambodia next. Isn't tourism different there? Isn't it less polluted and crowded? Also, it is quite funny to hear you praise cool Japan weather as one of the things you said you could no longer stand was the greyish tone and rigid temperatures,...but I guess hot hot weather can be exhausting too (for me it would be unbearable on the medium and long run!)...I'm not criticizing :), I just find funny and ultimately interesting how sometimes things in life can be very relative yet we base our decisions and even opinions on such things. As you say, it's ok to be in search, coherence in many cases is overestimated in my opinion, and changing mind, contradicting ourselves, learning from experience, seeking and finding and losing and finding again our balance is very important. For whatever reason, by whatever means. I like "where" you are right now. I think I am the same age as you and I understand it, even though I haven't learned to act according to these feelings. But that's another story. Hope you are fine during this period in Japan. Take care.

Glad I stumbled upon this video and thanks for the great info! Ive been googling the hell out of Thailand recently, with hopes of moving next year before summer. 32, would live off my VA disability checks and not have to worry about working, perhaps even go to college full time as well but man this video woke me up a bit!

Welcome back to Japan. The stable life is better than constantly worrying about the visa. You can still explore Japan to find a peaceful place to live. Japan is not entirely concrete jungle. More than 70% of the area in Japan is mountain. The empty beaches in Japan are not as pretty as Hawaii but you can still go surfing.

Honest as always. If you come back to visit Thailand try Chiang Mai. December-Jan. Season, and cool weather (comfortable), and completely different scene.

You are correct in everything you say. You may like Chiang Mai. I have not been to Hua Hin, I heard there are many British there. Jomtien is south of Pattaya. Much more relaxed, no heavy bar girl scene. I am interested in Vietnam. I would like to see you visit there and get your impressions. Also, your impressions of: Burma, Laos, and Cambodia. Did you break up with your Japanese girlfriend? She seemed to be in love with you.

thanks for the insight

Saw this coming it's not where you're at, it's who you're with, happy for you both, you look good on each other !

Well Thailand is cheap, but the real reason to leave, home is where the heart is, and the heart is Rye, in Japan.

i feel your pain---my families have relocated from China long long time ago to Thailand. now, Thailand is exactly as you described. 90% of my families are now in laos or America doing businesses. most of my friends that grew up there have moved to chiang mai or somewhere in the countryside.

I think you would adopt very quick in Thailand If you stood open for it. When i talk to a girl on street i could pretty fast find out what there intentions were. I'v grown to be suspicious bombs and antennas here. That's always on high alarm :) And believe me they know i carry the heavy bomb also. And they will very soon leave ya; if they now your secret bomb :)

Thank you! Your words towards the end are timely for me.

So Okinawa it is.....

yes. I felt the same way. personal development was put on hold. ya bangkok is crazy. i enjoyed chaingmi and still need to post some of my videos

That's not true. Mr Boundless has responded to my comment on a number of occasions. That being said. Throwing positive vibes your way brother. Keep on keeping on is all you have to do. The world has a way of alignment. Bless

Ryan if you like beaches try the Riviera Maya in Mexico or I hear good things about Portugal too. Even places like Croatia has a nice vibe. If Asia is your thing the Phillipines might be good for you. Personally I spent some time in South Korea and if you can deal with living in Japan I think Korea is nicer in terms of meeting people. Your skils in teaching english definitely can work there and its a pretty good gig, people make good money in cash for private tutoring if you had to do it just to make some pocket change. I assume that your investing takes care of the basic living. Plus its something to do. A lot of people think just going somewhere to chill is the dream lifestyle but people need a purpose in life beyond just chilling out.

Excellent video. You are 100% right. I am thinking of moving on myself. But I will be leaving two people behind.

I agree with you on so many points, Although I miss it there, I've been back in England after spending 5 months there and I have to admit I miss that life, but I'm definitely kicking myself for not going to Japan whilst I was in Asia