the last few weeks without my husband home I became my worst. When he was coming home, the house became clean. My niece and nephew came over and now the house is a mess? I'm so happy to clean it now. My husband told me that when I had a family to do for, I wouldn't mind dishes as much. True. Love him so much. ❤️

Facts I'm only 15 but this is something that interest me

@@alyssamurphy2002 Good that you are listening to this content, making a home. Even WITH a good husband, it ISN'T for Wimps! Telling yourself (and others!) that managing a home and preparing for Motherhood is a CAREER, and the most Important thing a Woman can do!! It WILL be the thing you are Remembered Most so may as well make it the Primary Goal in your Life. I say this as a 48-year-old, Mother of 7.

What???😂😂😂

This is so encouraging to see your post! Just want to encourage you that you aren't JUST a teenager... You are a young woman and the time you have left at home can be a blessing to you if you choose to see it that way. Learning to cook, clean, and bless your parents and siblings (even when others have disagreeable attitudes or are just being mean) can strengthen your relationship with the Lord (as you seek to lay your life down for others as Jesus did for you) and those basic skills would be a valuable asset when you are ready to marry and have children. (I was not wise with my time when I was a teen, so if I can encourage you to not make the same mistakes I did, maybe your learning curve will be shortened ❤️)

I've taken many great nuggets from my years of listening to her show as well. 😊💗

Husbands are also strongly cautioned in the Bible to be good to their wives "lest your prayers be hindered"

Do you really believe that good men (and good people in general) exist? If you're submissive to someone, he/she will definitely abuse you.

Amen! I know it too!

Thank you! I too come from a family of very strong women so I'm battling with submission although I'm very open to it. I've been enjoying the content from this book and wanted to read it. Now I will 📖🙂

Listen to pastor Paul Rika here on KZfaq.... you will learn more about truth, Holiness and righteousnes

Such an amazing family member

Girl if he making less than you and yall both working, it's not a priority to take care of a bum, it's a priority to take care of the breadwinner and the person paying all the bills and leading the household

Honestly I feel like you should do it when your heart is in it.

@@icomeinpeace3756 he’s not a bum. He made less than me because I have a nurse profession and he doesn’t have a profession. He still an always has been the one to pay everything around the house. It was just my mentality that as I made $15k more than him that I was worth more. And I should keep working. But that completely stopped. I decided to be a sahm.

@@GigiR247 i don't get the men yall be choosing. By a certain age, they should have masses a tangible amount of wealth dispersed through saving accounts, 401ks, investments and actual cash. Your average man at 30 will have those things, but the problem is you all are so focused on getting with average BLACK men and that's the problem. Stop trying to build a brother up and meet your man that has a profession like most men do past 22 and is your +15k equal. Don't be afraid to date out.

@@icomeinpeace3756 Hi sister, I think you are confusing things. My husband is t a low life, even though he didn’t have an education because he came to the country when he was older and had to prioritize work instead of school, he still mad over 70k a year. After COVID, he wanted me to be a sahm because it was biblical. We sold our cars, our home and moves over seas into one of our apartments. He built me a house in the country that looks like it belongs in a high end city. It’s full with everything I want that people around there dont even own 1/8 of what we have because we have been blessed. Plus coming from America we have the income not like the locals in the Caribbean. We don’t have to work anymore because we live out of our real estate that we own because he planned and purchased them all although I didn’t agree at the time. So you see, we live very comfortable. But as I at times get bored at home I fly back to America and work for a couple of months at a time. Not cause I have to, but because I want to as I get bored. The reason I need to stop completely because I know no one will take care of my kids the way I do and I want to educate them and take care of my house as the Bible calls. Blessings.

Thank you sis 👸

@@misstownes Stay at home mom

@@brittneyr.5114 Feminism stole this option from me- programmed and shamed it away! I was a little girl in the 1970s watching the once-happy neighborhood moms getting divorced so they could be "actualized" and "free"... they became lonely and they hung out in bares, what a waste o thought .

Thank you so very much for your words of wisdom! There are occasional words of wisdom in this book, but they are drowned out by the tendancy of the author to gaslight women and pretend that real problems women have faced don't exist, or that marital problems are somehow all due to the woman. You hit the nail on the head when you said that a false balance is an abomination. That is such an excellent way to describe why this book, which could have been good, is truly problematic and not something I could recommend to anyone who wants to know how to be a godly wife. In today's economy, most men, even if they wanted to, aren't earning enough for a woman to be a SAHM. This is a reality that the author seems to have a hard time admitting, and she also has a hard time admitting that a woman who is willing to follow biblical teachings on submission could be in a vulnerable position if the man she thought would be a good leader turns out to be a tyrant a few years into the marriage. She also showes a complete disregard for the fact that the feminist movement would not have had a reason to come into being if more men in the 1700s and 1800s had been loving and caring for their wives instead of abusing them, financially mistreating them, and regarding them as property instead of people. There elements of feminism today that are offensive to Christians, but to paint the entire movement with a broad brush and describe the whole movement as demonic is to tell women that they should have no right to a bank account without a man's permission, they should have no right to vote, they should have no right to prosecute a spouse who physically abuses them, they should have no right to an education (and therefore should be happy to end up in poverty should their husband die before they do, assuming they did not marry a rich man). The author, who has earned hundreds of thousands of dollars (or more) from her career as a syndicated program host, speaks from a position of great financial privilege, acting like those women who work from financial necessity are somehow evil Jezebels, while she herself rakes in all kinds of dough that makes her life much easier. As a Christian woman, I accept the scriptural teachings of allowing the man to be head of the house. I will follow true leadership. I will not follow foolishness. The challenge for many of us women is that many men are not raised to have godly wisdom and they do not have an understanding of what it is to submit themselves to Christ. Too many men choke on that concept. They're men; they don't have to submit to anybody. And therein lies the rub. A godly woman wants to have the man be the leader, but a godly woman will not follow after a man who is only halfheartedly (at best, if at all) submitted to Christ. I have known a few men who really do follow Christ and openly state they are submitted to him, and their actions show it, so I know they exist, but I have known many, many more who don't.

You might also like the book "Eve in Exile" by Rebecca Merckle. 😊📚📖

Today it isn't enough. A strong, valuable, respectable woman, mother and wife should work hard in and outside the home to provide for her family, unless her husband is super rich, of course, but a few women have this fortune. Marriage is a woman's responsibility. They should give a good example of hard work to their children (also because children spend most of the time with them), not portraying themselves as beautiful and delicate flowers who are only able to clean the floor and cook cakes, while their husbands work all day like slaves.

@@der_tod_und_das_madchen4727 someone’s bitter

​@@der_tod_und_das_madchen4727lol you just devalued woman's work at home. Raising children and keeping a home is a hard job on its own

Though you may prefer a different word, abnormal is the correct word as it is the opposite of normal which is synonymous with traditional. Just the dictionary. 🤷🏿‍♂️

Hi Taty! I never wanted kids and wanted a cool career. (I did that). I didn't want kids or to be a sahw...until I met the man that inspired me to do that. Made me gag. He's so strong and admirable. Life has a harmony this way (I still work outside the home part time). As a musician, it really does feel that way. I do think God calls a few women to be single, but that means they have an unusual MISSION that is ab(away) normal(default). I think health for women means learning what makes a woman healthy...what promotes the creation of good levels of estrogen? I would recommend John Gray who discusses activities that promote our sex hormones. :) Also...Jordan Peterson to contemplate what makes life meaningful to human beings. The ultimate adventure and challenge is to shape ourselves to become like Jesus. Absolutely savage level of daily difficulty.

I agree with @hardheelgal7313. Most dictionaries define the word abnormal by indicating that the word means that something worrying or undesirable is present. Those same dictionaries define the word normal as conforming to what is expected or usual and customary. God does not give every women identical gifts. Some are gifted to be nuturing and make excellent moms. And some of them do not have gifting in that area and are not cut out for motherhood. Each woman needs to walk the road that God has designed for her, and not be bothered trying to fit an image created by an author who never even met her. Trying to meet expectations of people aroiund you of what you as a woman should do is a great way to miss whatever life God has planned for you. A woman who does what God expecs of her, whether or not it is expected by society and customary in the eyes of other humans, is a woman who will hear, "Well done, my good and faithful servant" at the end of her life. A woman who simply does what people around her decide is expected of her will probably not end up doing what God has called her to do, because she is following people and popular opinion instead of seeking the Lord's will for her life. God's will for her life will frequently NOT conform to what others around her expect her to do.

What do you say now to the books? Was it worth it?

lol, just bought the book my self halfway through.

@@lucamackenzie9229 it's worth it!

@@Getrudebyela thanks 🙋🏼‍♀️

@@lucamackenzie9229❤️❤️

Exactly 💯! Infact Paul said "it's best to stay single like I am". And marriage somewhat reduces us being an open vessel to God because we have to please our spouses. Something like that don't quote me

The only thing that perfects any human is Jesus and our search of him. And doing what He calls us to do,not everyone desires marriage or has a libido. Paul explained it perfectly.

Whew. Yeah, it's definitely a chore to take a look at some of the unconscious attitudes we have and stack them against the Bible. Its hard but so necessary. Thank you for watching 💚

Interesting you would think men have no responsibility in a relationship

@@norfantify they act like it lol

I have seen this quote before and it is very powerful. I tried to find the dare of this quote, but no luck. He passed away in 1936

Wow, amazing insight from that qoute.

This actually appears to be a misquote. I looked it up and it appears he is actually referring to birth control, not feminism.

Thanks a lot for the quote! It is the wisest quote I have read today.

Love that! The truth is the truth!

I love this comment

Same!!!

I used to try to listen to the Laura Schlessinger show, hoping there might be some words of wisdom. That woman looked to find faults in whatever woman called. If there weren't faults, she made them up or made assumptions so that she could somehow blame the caller for whatever was happening. It was like listening to a battered woman have somebody say to her, "Well, what did you say or do to him to make him hit you?" The only reasonable answer to that kind of a question is , "I cannot make him hit me. He is an adult with free will and he chose to use it badly. He alone is responsible for his choices, just as I alone am responsible for my choices." I found her to be an example of finger-pointing, being critical instead of being objective, jumping to conclusions, and rudeness. If you want to show how NOT to talk to people, she was an excellent example. If you want to learn how to berate people, she was an excellent example. If you want to learn how a woman can show love to a husband, and what kind of person to be in order to be pleasing to a man, and how to lovingly set boundaries with a man, look elsewhere. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day, so occassionally she would say something useful, but to me, if the ratio of trash and garbage and beratement to useful pearls of wisdom is that low, my time is better spent elsewhere. I found that books by Liberty Savard, which taught how to identify and tear down internal strongholds within one's self, and Stormie Omartian, which taught about praying as a wife and a as mom, and Tony Evans, which also taught about marriage and being a Christian wife, and the Chapman book about love languages were helpful. There was a book about marriage roles by Robert Lewis and William Hendricks that was greatly helpful, also.

Same. I just got done cleaning the kitchen

@@shevannaellis6917 Yes!! Great info to listen to as we clean the kitchens! Have a blessed day! ❤️

Trad wives rock!

Don't condone or endorse her life choices...that's an understatement. She's a bigot!

I really appreciate your comment, I sense a lot of compassion in it when you stated: “its not possible to be a person living in this world and not have been affected by these attitudes.” I haven’t read the book nor do I know the author, but I think we can lend a little compassion to ourselves & eachother when we realized we’ve been lied to.

Thank you for doing the scary thing and watching a video that appeared like it might be an uncomfortable watch. Let's learn together!

Had a selfish wife like you. We got divorced after 15 years. We started to go to church about 6 years in where I focused on my roles as a man. This helped but like you she refused to budge on her roles. Said the same thing as you “I need time to myself.” That’s a sign of unhappiness with your husband with him not doing his role and you being self centered and not doing yours. Remove the I and focus on the “we” and find why your husband is unhappy not doing his part. If you need more money he needs to work harder. If he doesn’t clean up after himself he doesn’t respect you, maybe you don’t respect him either. You should read the book together and focus on what both your roles need to be. Men and women are not equal, but neither better than the other. They are two pieces to a puzzle both bringing value and strengths the other lack. Wish you the best at happiness.

@@lbarker8 I don’t think she’s selfish cause she realizes she needs time to herself. Maybe your ex wife used it as an excuse but that doesn’t mean everyone does. A woman and man need time alone to rejuvenate themselves, renew their brains, and get the cobwebs out. I put my son in church daycare for a few hours four days a week so I could get myself together and come back fresh. Everybody needs that. I’ve seen mothers break down because they were with their kids day in and day out without a break. They almost broke. One was crying and one was going bananas because she was making up voices for stuffed animals and realized she was feeling looney tunes! Every person needs to do what’s best for them.

​@@OmatimestwoExactly 💯. That's why I'm opposed to the author. The author is very unbalanced and disregards the well being of women. The day we are individuals as well and we also have dreams outside the home. Some women like me have calling outside the home and would like to make their mark in society and would not be fulfilled merely in the home.

​@@lbarker8Dude I think you are the one that's selfish.

Exactly and everybody on here acting like this book is cool! It may have some points but it's toxic and disregards the role that men play their own demise when it comes to the feminism paradigm and how they behave in marriage such as disregarding our needs. I'm glad there's someone on here with good sense.

I definitely hear you on the author. I touch on her tone of writing in the video I just posted last night. Thank you for watching and commenting. 🙂

@wearemoalofthestory I've read the book. The best way for me to get through it was to remember that even a stopped clock is right twice a day. A lot of what the author says is finger-pointing, gaslighting, and garbage. There is willful, deliberate ignorance of the fact that some women are with men who have become apostate and who are no longer safe to submit to or follow. There are repeated attempts to blame women for things that grown, adult men choose to do when the fact of the matter is that the only person responsible for what a grown, free-thinking man does is that man. (The same is true for adult women). There are a few truths here and there in this book. It's worth buying from a dollar store or Goodwill but I wouldn't pay $10 for it. There are better books out there on how to be a godly, submissive wife, and how to prayerfully change one's self from the inside.

I pray your husband finds you soon. Learn about warfare. Ephesians 6 because the devil will try and mess up your Godly marriage. Your walk..period.

@@danilaroche1156 this is a beautiful message thank you and you are correct

She is still on the air. Sirius XM channel 111

@@enriquemata8558 Oh, my gosh, thank you!

Titus 2 KJV 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, knot given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, *obedient* to their own husbands, that othe word of God be not blasphemed.

1 Peter 3 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, 4but from the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight. 5For this is how the holy women of the past adorned themselves. They put their hope in God and were submissive to their husbands, 6just as Sarah *obeyed* Abraham and called him lord.

@@Bindi_Marc While we should study the words of the Prophets and try to adhere to them as best we can, the problem with reading instead of studying the Word is that many times the interpreters take liberties with the meanings of these words. When you study these words of the passages you listed, all of them are different and for one of them, everywhere except the one that speaks of wives means "subject to". The Bible also gives you distinct examples of the difference between submit and "obey". For instance, in the stories of Ananias and his wife, Sapphira (obedient) vs. the story of Abigail (submissive) and Nabal. To "obey" means just that. No say so. No individual discernment. If he says it, you do it. We have to be careful with these messages because women have souls that will go somewhere at the end of this life. Being "obedient" to a husband won't save you on judgement day because we will give an account of everything we do including those things we do in subjection or obedience of a husband or even a parent. The Bible tells us to obey our parents but there are also verses that tell us that if our parents are doing something wrong and we follow in this then we will be judged as well but if we do what is right then we won't. In this verse (Ezekiel 20:18-19), the Father warns the children not to follow their parent's laws or their idols. But everything you hear from the Church is obey your parents and honor your father and mother. This gives the impression that no matter what your parents are doing, obey them, even though that is not necessarily what the Bible says. When you read the Word, you will see that the men during those times made laws pertaining to women or divorce that the Father or our Messiah overturned or explained that this was not the Will of the Father. This is where discernment and having a relationship with the Holy Spirit will come into play Every person will stand for themselves on judgement day and there will be Christians in hell. Women must be careful that they place NO ONE above.The Father.

Your original comment (which has since been edited) alleged that “no where in the Bible are wives told to obey their husbands.” I just wanted to demonstrate using the Bible that your statement was false so that others would not be misled. Thanks for watching 💛

@HardTimes LifeLessons you are very spot on. We women have been led to believe that we are supposed to obey and do whatever our husband says and that’s not true biblically speaking. That has only led to the oppression of women. Many people don’t understand that all people were created for Yahwehs glory not the glory of each other. The meaning of the words used in English don’t mean the same in Greek or Hebrew and it’s important to dig deeper. Think about when Sara “obeyed” Abraham and lied and said she was his sister. That about got them killed. The Creator made man, in His image, male and female. Neither is less or more than another. The word helpmate is ezer in Hebrew which is warrior. Not someone to just wait on a man and “serve” him like he is God because at that point the husband becomes an idol. And neither is a woman to be used as a husbands slave or maidservant to gain more in the material world. This is a misconception of many. We are, as male and female, husband and wife, supposed to work together in our journey together for His kingdom. Is it important for the wife to be home taking care of the family yes as it is important for the man to go out into the world to provide. Unless one does a deep dive in Scripture asking for understanding and wisdom, it’s easy for meanings to be twisted.

We are all broken and sinful. But God is in the business of restoration and He can teach us how to be wives and men how to be husband.

Same! That's a great idea if she decides to do a virtual/live discussion.

Finally someone on here that smart.

Basically in almost all world.

@cleanchannel3029 I would give your message a thousand likes if I could. I agree with you.

They live in a self made lala land...they sure change channel each time a domestic violence related crime comes up.

They also had a considerably smaller volume of academic material that they had to get through with their children if the homeschooled them. They had a smaller bible to teach their children. They had a lot less information they had to cover with their children regarding financial literacy, biblical literacy, sex, drugs, alcohol, character development, what it means to be an entrepreneur, interviewing skills, what it means to be a good employee, how to get a job in the workplace, how to be a good roommate in college, what does it mean to be a Democrat/Republican/Independent/Socialist/Communist/whatever. There is a great deal more that today's mom has to do to raise children compared to women who lived in simpler societies.

@@lovevioletflowers3442 Do you think Israelites lived in caves? You don’t think there where modern vices like prostitution and alcoholism and drug use? You don’t think people had to seek employment? The Israelites had the mosaic law to deal with; 613 laws that ruled their lives.

I perfectly agree. Wise mothers work for their children, for their safety and then for their husbands. NEVER stop working. In my country (Italy) housewives are treated like garbage because they don't have any economic power. They let their husbands humiliate them, abuse them, even kill them because they can't escape from marriage. But in the end, it is always their children that suffer the most. Money=power, freedom and safety.

So husbands should hold back on providing for their wives and children and avoid making sacrifices for his family because she might leave him one day?

@@CS-yn2wg how does what you have said have anything to do with what I am saying??...so you only take care of your family so they don't leave you??, not taking care of your family speaks to who you are as a person , how is that the same as women working for security for themselves and their kids??...its like you people think all men are good people, most people don't even have to look far to know how bad men can be..they just look at their fathers. Its not a crime for women to want lives..women are people too , as a person try to look at things from different perspectives its not safe for an adult woman to not work yet she has kids... your husband maybe good and reliable but people get sick, die and get arrested ..lose jobs and get disabled. People need to be proactive, you as a couple sit down and make the best choices for your family's security and future with the knowledge you have.

@@jacquelinemuwonge3618 You missed the point big time. You said that a woman shouldn’t rely on her husband to provide for her because her husband might leave her, why should a husband provide for his wife if she might just leave him?? It’s completely logical. Biblically men are responsible for providing for their wives and family, women are not.

@@jacquelinemuwonge3618 How is it safe for a man to sacrifice and financially pour into a woman when she might just divorce him, take the kids and take half the house?

good reason to read it...

So can you ship it to me? 😊