As a professional certified matchmaker and dating strategist, I can honestly say online dating is problematic. Too many toxic and dysfunctional people using it as a quick fix. I don’t recommend it anymore.

Q:"Why are you still single?" A: Peace and quiet is preferable to conflict and chaos.

This is so important especially now. Online dating is a waste of time.

*I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.*

I’ve accepted that a simple peaceful joyful single life is much better than being very lonely with the wrong person

The truth hits hard. Settle when you find someone in your dating pool that treats you well and you are compatible with. You have to know that you cannot have the "most attractive" person, even though you have hooked up with people like that. Powerful.

One of the most powerful realizations I made about myself and whether I was making healthy, reasonable requests of my friendships and the women I dated was that I started to notice that the things I was expecting were things that I would expect of anyone. I would expect anyone to arrive on time-ish. I would expect anyone to text me back within a couple days. I would expect anyone to understand that they can't constantly interrupt me or blow off my concerns or things that are important to me. I think it's really important for people to remember that the fact they like/love someone doesn't mean that they should lower their expectations of that person.

I’m really amazed how this woman expresses herself so well. I’m not English speaking but she speaks in a such manner that it’s clear and understandable while I can learn new vocabulary and integrate the knowledge she is sharing ❤

1:14 What Men & Women should know about each other? Childhood creates a template of how they like to give love, receive live and resolve conflict. Check for pre-existing trauma 2:42 Should we ask our partner trauma? When should we express our traumas? Ask yourself what your traumas are first. Express your traumas when your self esteem is high enough. 5:10 What boundaries mean, not setting ultimatums- not pushing people away 6:05 Impacts of Online Dating 9:21 What are the Red Flags both Men & Women should look for? Stay away from people who doesn't know their own mistakes. 11:30 When should you settle? You might have an inflated perception of what your level is, but not what you can access. See the pool of people who give you attention 13:40 Reality of Life. Focus on your poor rather than getting somebody higher. Stick to your station, focus on that 14:44 Gold Diggers. Women are looking for somebody who can provide for her. Gold Digger women brings nothing for him, wants to be saved from her misery. High Value women brings balance (can't be bought), is one that can achieve things on her own but is now ready to do it as a family 18:18 Both have to know thyself. Men don't be focused on physical beauty. 18:48 What happens when Men get a broken women? What happens when a Men gives/fixes everything to a women? Women will see that men as stupid as she can manipulate him easily and she will lose respect. 19:35 Men tend to accept a lot initially and changes, why? In the beginning stages we are not in love, so we are not vulnerable. As we develop feelings, we start to become vulnerable and so become controlling. 22:10 Green Flags in happy couples. They came from a healthy environment, they learnt to trust people with love. They don't expect long lasting love to look like new novel attraction. Other people get so addicted to novel attraction as they get into smooth stage, they get uncomfortable, feel unlove & seek new relationships. 23:36 Novelty isn't essential. Couples that last take a vested interest in their partner. Anything that damages their partners, damages the relationship, damages themselves. They do simple things where they stay connected as much as possible, they replace criticism with praise. Other partners remain individuals, so they are not interconnected. Don't exaggerate the negative. 25:57 Life is responsibility, life is connection, life is simplicity. Praise versus Criticism Example. Turn your Criticism into Instruction. 27:23 How does one avoid or prevent financial disagreements? Find out what finances mean to them. Finances may not be the problem but the consequences. Finances spilling into other areas of life will ruin it.

Notes: 0:04: 🔑 Continuing attraction in a relationship is natural if both partners stay curious about each other's evolving lives and take an interest in the person they are becoming. 3:54: 💪 Building self-esteem is crucial for healthy relationships. 7:20: 🗣 the importance of having a sequential focus on potential partners and the drawbacks of continuously seeing multiple people or going back on dating apps. 10:42: 💑 Reflecting on personal patterns and taking accountability can improve relationships. 13:55: 💰 The importance of focusing on personal growth and the positive qualities of people who support you, rather than seeking financial gain or using others for personal advancement. 17:39: 💰 The speaker discusses the concept of gold diggers and the importance of intellectual compatibility in relationships. 20:59: 💔 When feelings develop, we start to lose control and become more vulnerable, leading to a desire to control and avoid being hurt. 24:26: ❤ Loving and supporting your partner is a form of self-care and strengthens the relationship. 28:05: 💰 Understanding the role of finances in a relationship is crucial to resolving conflicts and maintaining compatibility.

Sadia is very practical and sharp in identifying people's actual problems. I went through most of the mistakes she is talking about. I found answers empirically and improved my life. What she is saying should certainly help if people truly apply it.

I love when Sadia's talking,she sound mermaid sirens. I admired the way she speak,fast and calmly.

gems of wisdom, thanks sadia!

BOTH of you are awesome! Thank you for being clear, concise and compassionate...

My childhood trauma was love addiction. In love with Love, when I should have just been Lusting. After all, she's going to be doing the same. Let the progression begin. Lust, Like, Love. Physical attraction to romantic friendship to best friendship, the marriage ideal. Dating is so easy when you know where to start the adventure. Really cuts down on the confusion.

Thanks for the great lessons and insights 🙏

I hope Sadia can read this. You opened my eyes from months ago and I think I’m well off now. Just wanna say thank you and I love you ❤

We accept it in the beginning, you are still in the audition. Once we decide you are it, we establish the boundries and rules on what is and not tolerated in the relationship going forward. If this is not possible then #Next.

Thank you very much, ladies for the lovely learning curve. Dearly appreciated. Love listening and learning from your shows/ video clips. Good luck and looking 👀 forward hearing from you. Take care!

* Through the dating process you both have supported each other in becoming the best of yourselves. Marriage is a milestone for a celebrated ritual, that explains how the two of you are going to continue to support each other, through the growth of the healing that encourages the enrichment of both your individual, and combined inner potentials. * We all have a shadow side, and it's in knowing this side of them well enough to be able to live a lifetime with this. And if not, then we search for a shadow side that we can live with. Because when we ignore this part of them, it becomes the elephant in the room, and the reason to leave. We tend to ONLY look at the beauty of them, and then are dumb founded by this other part. When it helps to have Eyes Wide Open.

Thank you so much for this wisdom!

Hi sadia you are the best keep telling the truth a lot of people can't take your information but I love it even when some of your information hits home I still keep learning from you much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Mrs. Sadia

I wish to become more like her. Im so glad we have the internet, through that i finally found people who became my role models. (And that with beeing 25/ now 27 years old)

Great insight ❤ Thank you

Wow such great insight. Thank you for sharing this with us.

This was GOLD!

Definitely the dating culture is the problem. Now it is normal for someone to be multiple dating people and treating you as an option rather than seeing you as a potential future spouse. How can you get married to someone who treated you as an option in the beginning?

Princess Jasmine vibes. Thank you for exiting Sadiaaaa. ❤

I would like to see Sadia go deeper on personality types of men.

✨WOW, congratulations on your success ✨

I love your videos, keep going!! 🙏👸🏼

My and my wife have been married for 20 fantastic years , Sadia is spot on with everything she says.

Definitely earned points in my book!!

I'm Single out of Choice Sadia, and so so happy to be so. However, coming from an abundance mindset and having gain considerable experience and wisdom in relationships I fee l I am abjective enough to know when the On ecomes alone., if the One does not come along then that perfectly OK too!

You dont need explain your boundries, your No is No. Some people dont deserve explanation, sometimes it´s getting worse.

I could never be bough. Always supported myself.

I love ❤️ you, Sadia 😊 thank you

Not being in the right place at the right time has been my biggest reason.

Dating is hard because of economics mostly. Jobs aren’t as stable as they used to be, now, couples both have to be employed, and it’s hard to find jobs that are compatible and cost-of-living is higher. People are working longer hours and have to resort to things like apps, because they don’t really have time to get to know someone. Hard to have a relationship. If you can’t live close by easily or if one person is working the night shift and the other person working the dayshift.

Great ! Very Helpful

Great info thanks

because if you are not looking good, it is over. I was rejected over 4000 times and gave up ( I have never had any girlfriend) even though I took professional help...

Bored again hmmn next topic where to look for a new rabbit hole to go down ..thanks sadia your content is great cheers for all the info and thoughts to ponder good luck with it all ...next.

Unfortunately lonliness and depression are growing especially for average men. The population is declining in the US! God help us! 🙏

I think my number one problem is that I have these high expectations. I want the man to take charge of the relationship. I just love that dynamic. I’m 18, and would rather enjoy my time with an older (25-35), more experienced, and ambitious man than a young, naive boy. It’s so weird that I find myself really craving that submissive woman and dominant man relationship. It’s weird because you’d expect I’d have daddy issues, but I don’t. I love my dad, I love and respect him so much, he’s so hard working.

You are wonderful person dear Sadia ❤🌻🤗

I’m only available for the fairytale, that’s ME! ❤️ Let the unfortunate keep the rest.

Great content! It would be amazing if Patreon could also have the content with Spanish subtitles. I have friends that would help them a lot.

I just signed up for your channel just to say I have not dated in 33 years due to the dating rules have changed and also the times have changed and scammers ruin everything I do have crushes or admiration for ladies in sports that I would like to wish meet and see

My single friends are going off line fast to face to face socialising. Good listening

very touching

Highly motivated and successful people have their own brand of personal flaws. The problem with our culture, is that people are oblivious to them or choose to overlook them, it's all about the prize.

Good morning lady's and everyone blessings 🙌 🙏 ✨️ ❤

Very interesting ❤❤

Oh this is interesting. Entertaining the idea of alternatives is a major issue now.

And it's easy: "It is better to live in a corner in the attic than with a contentious woman in the same house." ~ Bible ;)

Not every female who wants some nice things are just about physiclaity, not even all the ones that don't "have it made"! Aka some females that do Not have it made are still educated/intelligent/gifted/

3:53 self-esteem

For all that happened to you in patterns First blame yourself What did I do wrong That is what I pick out of this Improving myself No online dating Single Woman from NL 🇳🇱

A very wise women.

Bound to just being honest my self.

If you're done with online dating, which is nearly a complete waste of time especially for men, it's nearly impossible to meet someone in a natural setting anymore.

Because others ate better than me this was the last relationship teaching. I am a good heart person and I donated my ax to better ppl than me. Also I did not wanted my ex to suffer because of staying with me.

Where do we watch the rest

Dating apps are evil...

So excellent! ❤️👋👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍

Strong Bring Outs

I'm Nadine fortilus I am from Brooklyn NY USA thank you for your voice message the world is perfect for me my beautiful coach my preacher is too high people provoke me everyday please My I you continue help me, because I would like to come to stage together

When discussing the statement his money is our money n the woman's money is her money, you both agreed "yeah makes that sense". What!?! It's that 'I deserve shit' attitude that drives me nuts! Maybe in a traditional relationship (which I would now call an old fashioned relationship) the woman stays at home and doesn't have a job and takes care of the kids then yes okay that's a given. BUT in the world today of self-empowered women ,hello equal pay for equal work, NO FRIGGING WAY! Traditionally men got paid more because they were responsible for paying for everything! Now women make the same or are starting to and they still want men to pay for everything! HOW IS THIS FAIR??! I was raised by a single mother raising two kids on a secretary's wage and she never even borrowed a cup of sugar from the next door neighbor she was so proud! And gave me the false impression that it was an equal give and take in the relationship which is bullshit I've never been with one woman that thought it should be equal. Women wanut equality but they just don't like it very much when it actually is. GROW UP!

Lots of reasons people struggle for men it could be lack of income, height, weight etc…

🙌 excellent

In order to ensure a healthy relationship, blossom n thrives I think both genders need to know about one another is that their childhood creates a template of how they like to give & receive love And how they like to resolve conflict & how they like to apologize These are the 3 things How they like to see love How they like to apologize & How they resolve conflict Now that childhood template means that no matter how much you push/pull Until you understand their triggers Your relationship can always feel a little bit like a roller coaster But when you take the time to understand that they may have preexisting triggers due to some experiences in their childhood or some experiences with their parents That makes them hypersensitive to abandonement /make them hypersensitive to silent treatment they don't enjoy it /makes them yell more than they should You'll realize that their behavior is not entirely personal It's not because of you It might be because of something they struggling with And then you'll be able to look at your partner in a more compassionate & understanding manner And resolve conflict & then have a more enduring, long lasting relationship But without that perspective, Unfortunately every fight feels like a thunderstorm & every resolution feels like pulling teeth When it could be a lot easier if you speak the language that they understood when they were children

Dating after paperwork is drawn up and given signatures for my ownership. Thus given protection to all punishment to those deserving for their tyrannical actions and lack of responsibility

It.s kind of hard to choose somebody of your own level, when you don.t actually like your own level. That.s why we are doing the best to improve ourselves so can access something much better. Usually the ones willing to invest in us are not as good as us. Everybody wants somebody "more" than himself NOT somebody "less". How "happy" we can be if we settled for someone beneath our level because we can not have what we like? Is this what miss psychologist Sadia did when she got married? Settled for someone not as good as her, just because that man was willing to invest în her?! ....Niiice!

How do you feel about dating older men who are a little on the wild side? I had a girlfriend who passed away a couple years ago that liked to speak in a British accent when we went out we had a lot of fun your voice reminds me of that. I really miss her but time heals all things. Almost four years single, I don't even know what to say to get a date, I keep buying shit at this store I don't fucking need because I chicken out .

Sadia kham any man who is married must be super intelligent, if not , I repeat if not

the sad truth accordingly to my experience both of my own and what I've seen. Woman are mostly loyal to their own agenda, and if she lacks emotional intelligence ( wich a lot of them do) depending on how they feel that's your outcome. And its very taxing, real life scenario my friend was with his girl for 10 years. He took her to 26 different countries and he was the one initiating these trips. When they broke up he got what have you ever done for me, and his not alone in this experience. Boundaries accordingly to modern gaslighting females is called insecure (lol), and the dating part. Peoples expectations are the main reason that thing doesn't work. Allways turn inside and ask what can I provide as a human to this other person and if not can I really extract that from the person if not then don't. And the I deserve mentality I don't even want to get started.

I lost the Woman of my dreams…we were together 3 yrs…she came up with the stupidest reason for leaving me…I guess I didn’t check her enough..she left for some ex “Just A Friend” from 7 yrs ago..he says everything the right way…asked her to marry him 15 while we were together ..she brought him into our rejauto ship.I told her he would kill it..he did..

Was going to scroll through my tinder likes while watching this….. till I opened the app and saw that I’ve been banned after being on it for 4 years T_T . I’ll take it as a sign

Questions to ask, "What are the reasons most of your relationships would end?" "What did most females complain about?"

People expect it to be like an episode of the Bachelorette or bachelor the first date. Expectation are why to high.

Very abrupt ending . Is there a part 2 ?

Video Idea : You can control whatever you speak and how you present yourself, but what if you find only women who are so f*ed up by ex boyfriends or her own behavior the she got major psychological problems. My last dates all are customers in local psychological hospitals and I don’t know if every woman in BERLIN is like that or why I always end up with this woman. Women from other city’s are the complet opposite. Every normal girl I met is from another country… so I stay single.

But most men tend to smash our confidence. It's hard to be in relationship and have a good confidence.

Some of the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. Beautiful stuff!

Why does this video cut her word in the middle? Where's the rest of it?

@11:19 or unhealed/unprocessed traumas

Im single because I'm 5'5... simplicity

What if your self-esteem is not high enough to even be in a relationship, can you please make a podcast about that and talk about how to raise your self esteem because mine is just down in the dumps right now 😂 and I have no idea how to get myself out of it((

I still want my 5’8 or taller man 😊

Sadly I avoid dating and relationship in the US as its so toxic now

Interesting

Pretty privleged men and women can easily aquire dates, etc. Life is on easy mode for these people.

This is for worlds best interests. Why would I want to hurt someone i have no connection to. GMO VIRUS ALTERATIONS : FOR BY Government to do what to civil within society

Why don’t you have a book already? I wish she was my therapist!!!!

What about when males call their exes crazy? 👀🧐🤔

Just to jump in on the gold digger question. She asked " how does a woman navigate this situation?" well men, with our exeptional levels of clarity and rationality, have already given you gals the template for navigating this situation when we ask "what do you bring to the table?". Sadia seems to agree btw

Giggling girls sounding so intelligent

Who is the interviewer? What's her channel?

Alot of her KZfaq and ticktock video make sence, but it's hard to believe à beautiful woman like her, wend she no averything about relationship, but she is still single......