“Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” That rang so true. Nice one Sadia.

"A man that doesn't give into his impulses is the most free man in the world," is a brilliant commentary. If you are beholden to every desire or temptation, how truly free are you?

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Her answers are extremely intelligent I must say. The way he interrupted her but she still listened to what he has to say… that’s the next level of patience. And also when she took down the red pill theories and talked about self control really got me liked and subscribed this 100%

I don’t understand why people in these younger generations don’t understand that the benefits of relationships come with sacrifices. You don’t get something for nothing!

Getting any woman you want is very easy. The secret is to train yourself to only want the ones who want you first. Read up about body language while you're at it. Being desired by a woman should be the only requirement that makes you even take a second look at her, then you can decide if you are attracted to her. No matter how beautiful she might be, if a woman isn't giving you the right body language signals, just don't waste your time with her.

I met my woman one year ago when i was broke and homles. One year later i have my dream job (working with the youth of the street) i have my home, i al a artist and my art is better and better and slowly i start Selling my art pierces. I start from Rock bottom and she is still on my side. It is a challence because she is high class but because of her i find more and more the best version of myself. I thank God for her.

Self-control is true freedom. She's right absolutely 💯.

Sadia 4:56 The ultimate source of high value is self control . YES ! He said at 8:40 "You should do somthing that scares you every day" Sadia 14:35 ....The ppl that spend the most time in social media usually are'nt that happy.

A high-value man can resist temporary desires for long term goals. Who can't respect that?

For men not to cheat, it's not just impulse control, it is placing a high value on commitments he has made and integrity.

The self control bit was the most powerful and important segment and should be shared like CRAZY

A 1% woman is a attractive grown woman who is a virgin or a body count of 1 ! She dresses modestly and doesn't advertise herself on social media. That type of woman all heterosexual men would respect and other women would try to put down and smear- because she is what they aren't and will never be !

"Pick correctly" ❤ selection is everything ❤ don't choose chaos then get angry cause its chaos, just choose peace.

This was so good, and so pointed, it’s insane.

The search for a faithful woman is a daunting one, indeed. For such a woman is a rare and precious gem, one that is worth more than all the gold in the world. She is a woman of virtue and integrity, who is committed to her partner and her vows. She is a woman of strength and resilience, who will stand by her partner through thick and thin. She is a woman of love and compassion, who will always put her partner's needs first. If you are fortunate enough to find a faithful woman, cherish her. She is a gift beyond compare.

Unity is what every successful relationship has in common. Going way on trips with your friends while you are married could lead to a breakdown of the Unity. 😎

I’m a high value man. I’m still single at 66. Just proving western women are too far gone. Been celibate 17 years, a physique a 20 year old envies, handsome, degreed engineer, own a successful business, emotionally, mentally and spiritually in tact after decades of counsel and self improvement, a God fearing man and… still far from perfect. It’s called respect for oneself, self discipline, love your neighbor as yourself and do everything to the best of your ability.

Wow Sadia, you are such a good role model. Keep being true to yourself and the relationships you appreciate having.

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1. Be attractive 2. Dont be ugly

“Take her into your world.” I love that so much! There is no other person that I’ve heard present that idea before 💡 This is my new expectation

Sadia You're Love. You Talk Sense and purely, Thank you for saying things that weren't talked about before.

Out of 10 approaches, I get rejected probably 8-10 times but I wouldn't trade approaching with any online stuff. There's nothing like it.

Hearing this man is refreshing

I once asked a coworker what kind men she was into . She wanted man who can make her laugh and handy man who can fixed things around the house . I told her get a clown on the left side of your bed and a plumber on the right side of your bed , hahaha that was a good one she said 😂😊

You guys hit the nail on the head on every level!

When you really like your partner, you don't need that much self-control. And when you exercise a lot of self-control, you are in a relationship with a friend.

Also I 100% agree on rejection. I think the thing that makes it worse is when you get the nerves to talk to someone and the expectations are high on the outcomes of them accepting you. Everything's based on that and when it goes left... it crushes everything... mix that in with 2-4 in a row, you tend to lower your standards a bit out of desperation which ultimately becomes your downfall. There are people who swipe away from people they would love to be with, but know it wont happen simply because of how the person looks.

"friend" is an elastic and contextual definition..knowing the "position" is the key... :)

Thanks for posting! This is great information for anyone who is struggling to understand relationships and dating. (Like myself!)

Fascinating. As the interview progresses it was almost like they were evaluating each other as potential partners, without even realising they were doing it. I can't be the only person that saw this, the human mind and psychology is amazing.

Sadia comes from Pakistani culture where women tend to be much wiser. Plenty of beauti there as well.

I love BOTH their words and thoughts. They don't make people like us any more. Edit: I... need a woman like that in my life.

Beautiful Sadia! This video is a good example of what women say vs. what they will actually do

After 20 years of opposite sex "friends" I finally closed all the relationships, it is a boundary illusion. Sadia is rapidly contradicting herself in the video and not acknowledging it. As a partner you cannot put your own boundaries according to how sexually attractive you find the partner's friends, unless you are a hypocrite. Men have almost to no benefits from being friends with women, women have multiple, including reality checks, not provided normally by females friends, also attention, validation, help etc.

Finally ! A man and a woman having a conversation that is almost non-existent in the current culture. For the love of all that is holy, these two need to continue this conversation, maybe even explore a relationship.

I lived in Dubai 10 years. I wish I knew about Sadia earlier)) and I wish everyone why lives there (and not only there) watched this podcast! So good. Thanks for making it you guys!

I am so glad I found this podcast, wow. So many golden nuggets in here. Also great to hear these things from a woman's perspective, I've never heard the exposure element explained in that way before. It's always bothered me but I've never been able to articulate it properly.

Gosh I just saw your video and you spoked everything real about what my wife is doing behind me and my daughter’s back! And about my self control to doing betrayal to my wife even when I have all the evidence of what she has been doing outside with those men whom you had mentioned that she had made herself available opening up her blouse and skirt. I even gave voice recordings of them! Even me trying to get my six-pack! So so true! So happy to hear you mentioned that about loyalty, coming from a woman! ❤

I would suggest that the "options = freedom to walk" hypothesis is one side of a coin. The other side of that same coin is "having the option to have whomever you want, but CHOOSING to be committed to the partner you are with is the highest level of commitment." Because you DO have the option to walk away. You could hermit crab up to a bigger shell. A new person. Or just go to that perceived greener grass. Because it will always be greener somewhere else, if you're only looking for that. However! If you choose the person you are with and you're with them because that was an active decision and a garden you put daily effort into, you are there because you WANT to be and not because you HAVE to be. I think that settling for someone because you feel like thats the upward limit for your ability is.... well dangerous to a relationship. Because it means the only reason they're not cheating isn't because they WOULDN'T, but because they CAN'T. ...until an alternative arises.

I agree Sadia you just go for it and if your rejected just move on and don't let it get to you.

Sadia is one of the most insightful people on this topic.

This is so densely packed with some of the most true, insightful facts on KZfaq. So many content creators should just take a break and listen either/both of these two.

Big respect to this man for real . Also Sadia you are not strict at all , that’s just a traditional woman’s behavior and there is nothing wrong with that at all . My wife is the same way , and I’m the same way as well , and trust me I have a lot of options but I have disciplined so no I don’t cheat nor does she , married for 15 years and we act goofy like we are still boyfriend and girlfriend.😂 she’s into my hobbies now like working out and building cars , so when I’m out sometimes she knows where I am 9/10 of the time , but also we think traditional when it comes to relationships that’s why our relationship doesn’t feel like a burden of some sort .

Sadia Psychology, you are dropping bars, facts.

sadia speaking pure unfiltered facts

I love how Sadia’s opinion about opposite gender friends changed from “yes” to “it depends” when hot fitness model scenario was presented.

A conflict of interests is anything that simply appears to be one even when it’s not. A respectful relationship is one without a conflict of interest.

Sadia is just spitting wisdom one after the other. Just amazing

you said correct. And I do appreciate the ideas you both share. Bravo to you both!

We need more women like Sadia. She speaks facts.

im loving every second of this

this is so good pls do a motivational compilation out of this

1 of 1. Exclusivity is the highest form of value.

Wow, that was all much more engaging than I expected it to be! Especially 23:54 to 28:46 which helped clear up a quandary I've run up against repeatedly, about how not to end up locked into the friendzone by a highly attractive woman who really likes me as a friend. It's just not worth it. Yet they'll truly chase me down to keep me there.

Your mindset is absolutely amazing, Sadia!

Thank you for your channel. I feel that you know me, as I know myself this way, Sadia. It is a releif to see your commitment to the science on this. I will follow, so I can hear how you organized you this way.

Self-respect is the ultimate high value trait. Self-respect is attractive and powerful and transcendent and it will make you into a literal superhero

It’s hard to remain faithful in this day and age to a very weak person.. someone whose strong and in control of themselves,, remaining faithful is a simple walk through the park!! Only you can control you so take accountability for your actions..

Self control = self respect. It is a simple yet profound truth

"Do you think people attach to people who give them more drama?” Absolutely, positively, 100%, *NO!* There’s enough drama in life without coming home to it as well.

Sadia, you are brilliant the way you analyze things.

Thanks. Self control is from committing to ur long term goals. A fruit of the spirit

Mike took that male female friends argument apart in 30 seconds. Respect

Thank ya'll for this.

lack of options makes one invest heavily in what they have.....words to be etched in gold

She is a psycologist and is surprized that rejection hurts! Wow she is a genius

High Value Woman "by most men's standards" goes as follows… She understands natural beauty. The less cosmetics the better but still beautiful. Nothing fake on her. She has a healthy diet and a healthy fitness routine to preserve her beauty. Intelligently stimulating. Confident but not overly confident. Talking with her is exciting and makes her irresistible. She is a woman that conscientiously brings peace to her man with smiles. Doesn't bring a bad attitude to the table. She doesn't shame, insult or make her man feel guilty. She also doesn't have a need to be right! She is discreet. She doesn't arouse sexual desire or interest deliberately publicly. She doesn't constantly run her mouth or express "big personality". She is feminine. Women that practice masculine posture, talk and attitude are a turn off to men! She isn't easy to bed. Has a low body count or even better a virgin saving for marriage. Religiously against infidelity. Loyal. High pedigree. Nice upbringing. Good parents. Nice family. Hard worker with home, can cook and has motherly aspirations. Low maintenance. She doesn't ask or need a lot. She is not materialistic. Is sexy in the "bedroom". Can make her man's recreational interests her interests. For example loves boating, football, golfing etc. When "important decisions" need to be made she is cooperative, agreeable and submissive in to her man's program. Trusting her man's decision making and supportive. College degree. Before having children and after the children are grown she is determined to work and support the household financially "if asked". Women aren't born with these qualities. It takes time, training and growth. For a woman to have all of these qualities she would be nearly perfect. A very high quality woman. This woman doesn't exist. A man today could only hope she has most of these qualities! Also, different men prioritize different characteristics. Some men just want gorgeous and fit in appearance and not care if she is materialistic with a bad attitude. Or one may just want feminine, socially and intellectually stimulating, mediocre in appearance. Obviously, Religion and political views are very important in a life long companionship!

Gorgeous conversation! Thank you so much guys! ❤👏👏💪

I’m in Walmart listening to this and picked up a pack of cookies RIGHT when he mentioned getting in shape and discipline. I put the fxking cookies back!!

When I was in my 20's & 30's I strived to ask at least one lady out each & every day. Even if the lady says no, she then knows you are interested, and tomorrow is a new day!!🥰

Traditional values have been eclipsed by pop culture, unfortunately. People have become what they see and hear on the tv/social media and media in general. It's refreshing to hear Sadia reflect on the importance of old fashioned behaviors between men and women in a relationship. Most couples I know who are very successful and loving in their marriage is because of that. Their core VALUES and not necessarily their monetary status are similar of not identical.

As a man (a masculine man) I think the world would be a much better place if men listened to Sadia

11/25 frame-work 4:55 Discipline (self-control, bettering reputation with self and increasing self-respect and decreasing tolerance) results in true confidence/self-assuredness 16:53 Bring her into your world, if she's not compatible, it's alright, try again 25:55 practice platonic and practice boundaries/self-control/intolerance

You can do whatever you want in this life as long as your ok with the consequences

I haven't seen in a while in the online environment such a beautiful conversation and healthy....just two people talking and not sending hate to each other. You can see from miles away they respect each other and want to bring the best quality on the table. Well done guys.

I just found this channel, liked and subscribed. She seems close to the type of lady I would like to be with. He is a bit full of himself. I’ve seen guys like this get the rug pulled out from under him.

It was kind of an eye opening video on culture, values and morals. Sometimes the values can cross cultural boundaries, as it seems in the video.

One of my functions is protecting my wife. This applies to getting her from point A to B safely. If she needs to go somewhere outside of our general comfort zones, I'm standing next to her. She can either love that about me, or hate that. But it is what it is.

Sadia what lab were you made in? Why are you the only woman who understands boundaries? Don’t put yourself in a position to fail, it’s simple. Thank you for letting me know I’m not crazy!

22:30 damsel in distress, spot on, so true, my "friend's" younger daughter is just that and he BF steps up and takes care of everything. Older daughter the opposite.

Your word. Your honour. Your integrity. Your self efficacy etc etc.

Options = Ego😂

Get your parents to not emotionally neglect and or abandon you during childhood.

"take her into your world" this is everything.

You can tell that he was demonstrating masculine energy with this interaction and Sadia was definitely feeling it. Look at her body language and listen to the tone of her voice go up an octave, and the excitement in her talking. You can tell towards the end it kind of ended up being a date, imo. I liked this interaction a lot. It was mutually respectful. A lot of positive results from this.

I think a lot of people are attracted to drama in relationships because they have nothing else substantial going on in their lives, so drama becomes a kind of entertaining themselves. What they actually need is adventure but they don’t have it so instead they create drama to feel some excitement.

Never ask a fish how he wants to get caught. Ask the fisherman.

Everything boils down to being self disciplined to become a 1% man: 1) in relationships by avoiding cheating: 4:38 - 5:13 2) in life with self control: 5:17 - 5:56 3) With your diet, eventhough you hit the gym, to get a six pack and becoming muscular like mike: 5:57 - 6:50 Top quote of Sadia: “Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” Sadia & Mike appear so mature and disciplined, i hope they are like this in their personal life as well.

Regarding what was said at the 10:40 minute mark, I understand if you are someone who actually works and makes a living from social media. However, if you are in a relationship that you truly care about, I strongly suggest closing your personal profiles. My girlfriend and I did this at the beginning of our relationship over three years ago, and it worked wonderfully for us in this regard. Although our story has now ended, it was for entirely different reasons. A relationship is WAY BETTER and HEALTHIER WITHOUT social media, and it is not mandatory to have them!

your interest doesn't has to match, it's the values that has to match for a relationship to work.

People don't want to look after people who are capable of doing for themselves especially when you do help and they keep emphasizing the independence point

It's a good rule of thumb to look for adventure in someone, try doing things you wouldnt normally do & sharing that experiance, or things you don't do so often it could be 10 pin bowling lazer quest, there are so many options, originality can often impress & can be fun

God bless you Lady. Your wisdom truly is a light in the present darkness of thoughts.

Would love to see a discussion like this but regarding older men over 50. All of this applied to me when I was in my 20's so understand it all so well. But dating later in life hasn't been a problem for me but the quality I want has been elusive.

Interesting guy and insights revealed through personal evolution. ... ... ... Kudos to Sadie & Mike for the great interview. Dropping absolute truth bombs within an intelligent, adult, realistic, pragmatic conversation. Is it not almost painfully obvious beyon the pale... (?) In this life construct, It all comes down to choosing a path of "personal discipline" in a world that exists to fully exploit your lack of it.

Thanks Sadia, you are an amazing psychologist.

I think the universe is the ultimate judge in how stuff works out. Choice and the physiological receptiveness play its part. Also more importantly the mental well-being of an individual has its role too.

Sadia talks about all these things and all about “average man” whereas she herself won’t go for an average man. She complains about men who are rich rewarding onlyfans girls or models etc in Dubai. Whereas, she will never even respond to an average guy and will go for high status man