SALES Is Just Like DATING

SALES Is Just Like DATING | Simon Sinek

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If we try to "close the deal" by bragging about our accomplishments and material possessions, we won't get very far. But if we start by sharing what we believe and WHY we are who we are (or do what we do) we give people the opportunity to connect with us on a deeper, more human level. People don't buy what you do, they buy WHY you do it.
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Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together.
Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do.
Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, and The Infinite Game.
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@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын

*"Pain of regret is so much worse than pain of discipline."*

@alespogacnik 3 жыл бұрын

What if you regret of being disciplined instead spontaneous? :)

@thebesttheworst2277 3 жыл бұрын

... like Muhammad Ali said about his training. Suffer now and live as a champion forever

@opreadumitru1 Жыл бұрын

Hello I believe Jim Rohn was probably the first one I think who said something similar to that quote you wrote there but using different words

@angelica333 3 жыл бұрын

I remember reading this in Start With Why! It’s so true, most business try to sell their what right away. Boosting about their company when actuality, being humble about ones achievements, explaining ones purpose, is so much more heart felt and effective.

@JaneNewAuthor 7 күн бұрын

When you talk about your feelings you come across as authentic. Then people feel as though they can trust you. Love this!

@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын

*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤

@bellan812 3 жыл бұрын

Ill remember that and say it to myself everyday

@geoffnorrena5707 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah man, be the best YOU that you can be, those who don’t “get” you, aren’t meant to be in your life’s groove, at least you working on your own game instead of changing others... kudos!

@WinkLinkletter 3 жыл бұрын

Even your life could get easier if you stopped concerning yourself with writing this message repeatedly, hoping and wishing on our account. Right?

@varunprodigy 2 жыл бұрын

What podcast/interview is this, anyone care to share?

@amanagarwal8011 3 жыл бұрын

This is so true, the best people I've ever met or heard such as yourselves, talk about themselves only in ways that are inspiring. You've outlined a very important fact for us Mr. Sinek, Thank you for that.

@trainkinder-getinspiredtol6433 3 жыл бұрын

It's so true. If you don't like yourself and what you're doing, you can't ask others to buy in.

@karengaray5114 3 жыл бұрын

Everything in life is about relationships, but people often forget that.

@consultativeselling9233 3 жыл бұрын

This so true!

@anabreseneuman 3 жыл бұрын

Love it Simon! Great reminder of your message once again that 'why' is bigger than trying to impress.

@Deanforbes Ай бұрын

Simon and Gary Vee have this laidback attitude because they really embody the mindsets that they talk about. They have just figured out how to teach it, which is what makes them the best!

@TinaLeder 3 жыл бұрын

Simon *GETS IT*

@aiya2323 3 жыл бұрын

Why I’m bad at sales: Never DATED

@MixSonaProductions 3 жыл бұрын

You are either a back office person or a field person

@consultativeselling9233 3 жыл бұрын

Don't say that to yourself! :)

@samricher Жыл бұрын

No. Why you never good at dating? You never sold

@opreadumitru1 Жыл бұрын

Not enough reference experience in real life. You want to see it as a game you play on pc. If you get the same outlook in dating or business you will almost become addicted to being always out there as opposed to being part of "Thank god it's friday" club in the words of late Jim Rohn When you remind yourself always that the chance of death is around the corner (it's possible even if it's probably not going to happen) and maybe today or tomorrow it's the last day you live you will suddenly and hopefully get that urgency feeling inside to do the best you can as fast as you can either/or both in business and dating. There is no rejection only feedback Failure is only defined by time limits. Learned that from Richard Bandler watching one of his older video seminars on youtube he is the co founder of NLP along side John Grinder (neurolinguistic programming) which is almost like a secret ace you have up your sleeve if you learn it well and apply in real life situations.

@mthomo90 3 жыл бұрын

One thing you notice in this snippet is the presence Simon has. Absolutely owns the space, which is a beautiful setting (props to the person who designed it). Totally engaging and it's because of his passion for the subject. For all the insights Simon offers in business and relationships, I think it's his understanding of social mastery that is the biggest takeaway.

@Brian-tb1op 3 жыл бұрын

dude this is on point LMAO. This is exactly why I love sales. I love serving other people.

@karengaray5114 3 жыл бұрын

Same! I work in customer service in grocery, because I love helping people. And helping people goes much better when you get to know them. It's all about relationships.

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek I really wish I get to speak to you atleast once.. Love to hear you

@tywincannister 3 жыл бұрын

@@DRISHKRISH He's an imposter, don't message that number. It's fake

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@@tywincannister Yes You're absolutely right.. I reported and blocked him on WhatsApp.. as i had an intuition of wrong person and he wasn't able to prove...

@keifer7813 3 жыл бұрын

Then why don't you work in customer service? Oh yeah cos the money's not as good

@khalidsafir 3 жыл бұрын

I love your intuition Simon, thank you.

@ELFOUAD 3 жыл бұрын

Simon is direct to point.

@wisdom-for-all 3 жыл бұрын

*TelePhone batteries* last longer than most *relationships* and *sales promises* these days - another thing they have in common 🖖

@stefanosxenakis9928 3 жыл бұрын

You always have a unique way of putting this precious insight directly into our heart

@takundamusengi5112 3 жыл бұрын

Listening to Simon is enriching and very inspiring. Indeed the greatest human act is to inspire. I feel so good about myself and how I handle and develop my fintech business every single time I listen to him. He is a philosopher.

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek - I simply adore your speeches and i have been your Silent Admirer since the day I have known you

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek that's an honour to hear from you.. I have noted down your number - can I text you please?? Would love to connect with your kind of personality personally

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek --- are you a genuine guy??

@SidOfRivia 3 жыл бұрын

@@DRISHKRISH it’s an imposter, don’t text him

@DRISHKRISH 3 жыл бұрын

@@SidOfRivia Thanx for the info..I realized it

@CamiloHolz 3 ай бұрын

He forgot to mention the most important thing... that it is not abaout telling this or that but much more about listening

@alexanderbayer4348 2 жыл бұрын

I love that he’s keeping tempo with his right foot. Similar to a musician in the zone

@beccagoldsberryswc Жыл бұрын

Always start with your passion!

@donniglesias3073 3 жыл бұрын

Learning about sales now and then Simon uploads this...hmmm Alignment???

@AkeSatia1 2 жыл бұрын

Funny :) And so true! Yes, this approach won't close the deal and if it does, it won't last for long. Bcz in relationships, looks, money, property can attract, but they're not rooted in the heart so they don't strengthen connection. And in business, comp, benefits, title can attract but they're not the reason why people stay bcz they're not seeded in the heart so they don't enable connection. Sharing one's beliefs and cause are key because "the mind can be convinced but the heart must be won." Hmmm... You said that :)

@petrs1154 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate so much... so many sales guys were trying to impress me with their standard presentations :)

@consultativeselling9233 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's a shame, isn't it?

@dinamasri4200 3 жыл бұрын

Just totally amazing and utterly true 🤩

@ModorFix 3 жыл бұрын

The underlying message here is love what you do. A lot of people don't love what they do, they love the money they get paid. So unfortunately to do what Simon says would be difficult, or even worse fake.

@sacdaabdurhman 3 жыл бұрын

“Don’t limit your challenges. Challenge your limits. Sharing some love from small KZfaqr

@dominiquelavoie3060 Жыл бұрын

Simon, thank you!

@debmalyaray1416 3 жыл бұрын

I love this man. He is best

@kiranvrao9714 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@natehoward6605 3 жыл бұрын

So good!

@EniolaMakinde 3 жыл бұрын

Gosh! This is excellent advice.

@itsPhD 3 жыл бұрын

Someday I will find my purpose in life, I appreciate the post Thanks =D

@IAMARisingPhoenix 3 жыл бұрын

SO GOOD!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@444NRG 3 жыл бұрын

your's helping a lot of people

@natehoward6605 3 жыл бұрын

Simon is a poet

@gianlucacrosatti4226 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely right

@miguelsalazar1602 3 жыл бұрын

This is wisdom!

@yoursimplesite-promoteyour7233 Жыл бұрын

Even though these 2 things are very similar - I HATE dating and LOVE sales. Good job I'm happily married and I can focus on Sales instead :)

@Bill0102 5 ай бұрын

I'm taken by this. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and I was truly taken by it. "The Hidden Empire: Inside the Private Worlds of Elite CEOs" by Adam Skylight

@amincorporated4224 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing

@saeedbasabain4188 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks brother

@madhusmitasharma601 3 жыл бұрын

Such a Catchy Headline...I can relate with this 😂😁

@personspec8881 3 жыл бұрын

the funny thing is there are people who go on dates doing things exactly on the former

@Zalzal019 3 жыл бұрын

Aren't the best salespeople the ones who talk the least, ask the most questions, and listens? Make it about the person sitting across from you, not yourself, right?

@UpfulWarrior 3 жыл бұрын

I love that I have the same taste in snickers as Simon :)

@racaciaruth4460 3 жыл бұрын

Let the authenticity sell for itself. People who talk too much and advertise themselves are seriously empty. We buy the why right!? ❗ 💕 💕

@vicoboss22 3 жыл бұрын

Fascinating. I'm there for the dating advice though

@juanroaguilo 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing!

@ramoncerda5812 3 жыл бұрын

Where can i find the complete interview? ¿What's the name of the full video?

@mariusduus425 3 жыл бұрын

Does this apply also to consultants? Like Simon Sinek...

@_Diggler 3 жыл бұрын

The foundation: lead with why.

@MonaMarMag 3 жыл бұрын

Personally I do not care for money they have as long as they honestly work for it and not still from other people . What interest me is what all those people do for other people . Are they helping or hurting others ? Only that what interest me .

@judecruze8300 3 жыл бұрын

True happiness

@djsarkar2886 3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@stevengibson4349 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Simon what do you say when someone tells you they can possibly lose their job

@SamM-gh5kd 3 жыл бұрын

Nice carpet 🤔👌🏽

@abhipatil4844 3 жыл бұрын

So true

@crystalbrooks2684 8 ай бұрын

excellent

@duckmcnutty 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah. Yeah.

@darkrangerl 2 жыл бұрын

Let tell you why I love this business!

@obakengmogafe880 3 жыл бұрын

Great sales advice.. wish you could give us the dating equivalent as well

@charlesg7926 6 ай бұрын

Part 1- The dating equivalent: don’t say “I’m rich!” Talk about your business, recent stock trades, your moral views on being debt free (except for real estate) and financial independence, and your love for what you do in terms of work/investing. She’ll figure out you’re rich naturally without you bragging and saying “I’m so rich”

@MarkoWolf4242 3 жыл бұрын

Really love what you said. However, at one moment I thought you'll say that sales is like dating because someone's gonna get f*cked... Although knowing you, I knew what you will say is serious, logical and profound. Can I get any pointers how to get rid of stupid thoughts like this one I had?

@sethumrathnayake4920 3 жыл бұрын

I am getting dating advice from this guy

@RobinsonWamae 3 жыл бұрын

Knowledge

@aaronholder6294 11 ай бұрын

Need advise on how to sell relationship advice

@adz333 3 жыл бұрын

That guy said “yea” too much... Rude!

@yeeleng6449 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

@albarleta2361 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

@webfreakz 3 жыл бұрын

Nah..

@palanmi4345 3 жыл бұрын

I agree..I just have troubles dating men

@IvayloSimeonov243 4 ай бұрын

Full video podcast?

@helderlage 3 жыл бұрын

good looking... indeed :) ... everything seems so clear and obvious, said by you :)

@helderlage 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek I was shocked when i received your messages... 1st thought :did Simon Sinek replied to my comment? then: is he asking me to text him?... to much... nice feeling though, i have to admit :)

@musadiago7100 3 жыл бұрын

Facts ❤️🔥

@fathulbariofficial 3 жыл бұрын

This os SO ON POINT 😂

@cosminpopa8208 5 ай бұрын

I was a cashier for a couple of years, and most people came to me because I am a gemini but nobody knew and I am extrovert or ambivalent in Jung Carl Gustav theories, and I am the master of words and communication. Even today few people knew why I knew the psychology of dostoyevsky characters and communication skills. being a salesman is easy to sell the prodcuts, you need to know how to speak with people, even with those stupid illiterate ignorant jerks all characters

@ruveenarossitto1239 3 ай бұрын

I go on first dates all the time, it really helps me have 0 nerves in sales.

@nickkingspoint8161 3 жыл бұрын

The dude that our man talking to be like "yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, by product, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah."

@sales-kate7 Жыл бұрын

Good

@nataschalaros4334 3 жыл бұрын

I was expecting you to say a good sales person should not talk about himself but listen to the customer 😁

@rumiexistence 3 жыл бұрын

Sell yourself as a product that you don't need to convince yourself is worth having.

@gerthechanticleer 3 жыл бұрын

Great

@salesenablementon-demand4594 3 жыл бұрын

You know, years ago as a sales enablement trainer I used this very same analogy in an onboarding training. A week later my HR team asked me to stop as they had received a complaint. Any thoughts?

@JaneNewAuthor 7 күн бұрын

Somebody was feeling very confronted!

@mikimousemousemiki1907 16 күн бұрын

Nobody says that during sale in the way you say it.

@lisahyyppa3360 Жыл бұрын

Well, it's not far down to paradise At least it's not for me And if the wind is right you can sail away And find tranquility Oh, the canvas can do miracles Just you wait and see, believe me It's not far to never never land No reason to pretend And if the wind is right you can find the joy Of innocence again Oh, the canvas can do miracles Just you wait and see, believe me Sailing Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be Just a dream and the wind to carry me Soon I will be free Fantasy It gets the best of me When I'm sailing All caught up in the reverie Every word is a symphony Won't you believe me? Sailing Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be Just a dream and the wind to carry me And soon I will be free Well, it's not far back to sanity At least it's not for me And if the wind is right you can sail away And find serenity Oh, the canvas can do miracles Just you wait and see, really, believe me Sailing Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be Just a dream and the wind to carry me And soon I will be free Source: LyricFind Songwriters: Carter Burwell

@lisahyyppa3360 Жыл бұрын

Wikipedia ~ Paul Lavon Davis (April 21, 1948 - April 22, 2008)[2] was an American singer and songwriter, best known for his radio hits and solo career which started worldwide in 1970. His career encompassed soul, country, and pop. His most successful songs are 1977's "I Go Crazy", a No. 7 pop hit which once held the record for the longest chart run on the Billboard Hot 100, and 1982's "'65 Love Affair", which at No. 6 is his highest-charting single. Another pop hit, "Cool Night", was released in 1981. In the mid-1980s, he also had two No. 1 country hits as a guest vocalist on songs by Marie Osmond and Tanya Tucker.

@RevdKathy 3 жыл бұрын

I don't think I'd give you a second date on either of those conversations. I could have been a wall. Or a table lamp. Try asking what I like, what I want... I'm not buying what you're selling either personally or professionally if it's not a good fit for my needs. 5 minutes finding out whether I actually have a use for what you're selling could save us both days of negotiations. And if I'm going to be a long term customer rather than a quick one off sale, you might actually want to know who I am.

@RevdKathy 3 жыл бұрын

@Simon Sinek thank you, no. This is exactly what I highlighted about the video. You have not remotely engaged with me as a person across the table from you. I am not interested in what you are selling. This is a shame as some of your views on leadership are very interesting

@yamaotung905 3 жыл бұрын

@@RevdKathy I agree with your point completely re both sales pitches sounding self absorbed (for dating or business). But FYI the person responding to you is a fake Simon Sinek account.

@RevdKathy 3 жыл бұрын

@@yamaotung905 I guessed as much, but it gave me a chance to reiterate my point!

@jaysal_dies 2 жыл бұрын

My man is literally like "bro everything is just you trying to get laid" alright i feel u simon

@mariusduus425 3 жыл бұрын

Gut gesprochen... nur leider funktioniert so nicht der Mensch und nicht die Welt.

@janvanschuppen5040 2 жыл бұрын

that carpet really tied the backyard together..

@Ryanp1267 3 жыл бұрын

2:14 onwards. If i had a dollar for every time the interviewer says 'Yeah'... i'd have a lot of dollars.

@yeeleng6449 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

@Ryanp1267 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

@malaashok275 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks,Simon. But I disagree about this. Forever your fan.

@unmiss-com 3 жыл бұрын

Provide value first and then sell your products

@peteraugsten5305 3 жыл бұрын

Aha you know ahhh

@franacha 3 жыл бұрын

If starting a business didn't seem unreachable enough, this is what it needed to be 100% unreachable. Sales is like dating. Absurdly difficult to the point where it's practically impossible And just like dating there are people out there who somehow were born capable of doing it, but not us, not the failures of nature. Life is shit

@franacha 3 жыл бұрын

@@user-yg3fo2od4p I don't know. I've seen a lot of guys through my life that could simply go and talk with women, never needed to practice anything. Or talk to strangers in general. Whereas I struggle to keep conversations going even with my friends, for all of my life. I can't even comprehend how people flirt. But people who do never had to learn, they simply can. because is a skill necessary for the species to continue existing through time. It's logical to think that this skill is something you should have already when you are born. Animals don't need to learn to interact with those of their own species, then how come humans have to? What sense does it make? Nature does produce failures, evolution is trial and error after all. When successful you have an adaptation, when not, an evolutionary dead end. It happens in nature all the time. That smaller animals who eat last in the pack, the weaker, the one less likely to survive, the one that doesn't reproduce. But in human society we do not die. We keep living a terrible existence.

@user-yg3fo2od4p 3 жыл бұрын

@@franacha it is very much possible that some people learn things faster than others. I'm /have been terrible at communication all my life. Only now am I realising how growing up I was conditioned to think or behave in a certain way that impacted my communication skills. What happened wasn't my fault. But it is my responsibility now. We all have a different set of skills and we all can leverage it. You may be thinking that you need to learn to talk to or impress a girl. You are missing then that communication is not just talking. It is also writing, drawing, singing, dancing, or just a random helpful gesture. I write this as a female- I'm more impressed by a kind gesture than grandiose verbal vocabulary from any man. Perhaps your kind of partner is not the one who might be impressed by fancy speech but who is impressed by your other kindness, or generosity or the work you do. Sure you have something good about you, leverage that. It's about finding the people who believe what you believe. Hope you do so. Life becomes easier when you believe in what you are doing. Then it becomes easier to meet the same kinds of people. All the best! Cheers!!

@franacha 3 жыл бұрын

@@user-yg3fo2od4p I agree with the conditioning. But what I am now is just an empty human being. I never have anything to express, to communicate. Not only I can't hold conversations, I can't dance, and I can't sing either. I could technically write or draw but again I would have what to express. How do I not need to learn to talk to impress a girl? I've seen that it is the most important skill necessary to even begin to flirt. How can you even meet people when you never have anything to talk about? Kindness, or generosity are no useful. You need to already be in some level of confidence for those to be noticeable. There's also no work to do. As someone empty I don't have dreams, goals, or even desires for my life. I don't even have reasons to get out of bed every day. I don't have anything good to leverage. I don't have anything to believe in. How could I find the same kind of people if I am no kind of people? The idea of a woman finding me even remotely attractive is simply science fiction. I can't even make friends. There's no chance of finding love. Life is boring and tedious and the only thing it brings consistently is anxiety. This life we live in is the true hell. And I wish I could get out of it. I can't wait to be dead.

@franacha 3 жыл бұрын

@@user-yg3fo2od4p That's a great insight, thanks