9 Things Women Should Never Do For A Man

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9 Things Women Should Never Do For A Man - Even If He Loves You
[Women MUST WATCH]
As a Relationship Coach who regularly helps you navigate dating, relationships, and self-love, I see many of you doing things to prove your love, which often backfires by pushing him away, making him take you for granted, and eroding the attraction.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Starting
01:00 Women Should Never Do For A Man 01
01:51 Women Should Never Do For A Man 02
02:51 Women Should Never Do For A Man 03
03:42 Women Should Never Do For A Man 04
04:12 Women Should Never Do For A Man 05
05:03 Women Should Never Do For A Man 06
05:43 Women Should Never Do For A Man 07
06:11 Women Should Never Do For A Man 08
06:44 Women Should Never Do For A Man 09
07:40 Bonus Relationship Advice For Women
08:04 Closing
01. Don't Become The Female Version of Him
It's natural to be interested in your partner's hobbies, but don't abandon your own passions. Faking interest creates a disingenuous connection. Embrace activities that make you unique - that's what initially attracted him anyway!
02. Don't Hide Your Intellect
Don't hold back your opinions or water down your arguments. A stimulating partner will appreciate your sharp mind and engaging conversation. A healthy relationship thrives on mutual intellectual growth.
03. Don't Become Mom 2.0
Constant nagging and cleaning up after your partner creates an unequal dynamic. He's a grown man, capable of taking care of himself. Focus on building a partnership, not a parent-child dynamic.
04. Don't Put Your Dreams On Hold
Don't put your life aspirations on hold for someone else. The right partner will be your biggest cheerleader, encouraging you to pursue your passions. A supportive relationship allows both individuals to blossom.
05. Stop Avoiding Conflict
Disagreements are inevitable. Learn to communicate your needs and concerns respectfully. A healthy relationship thrives on open communication, even when it's difficult.
06. Don't Fully Rely On Him Financially
Having your own financial security empowers you. Don't become dependent on a partner for money. This creates an imbalance and can be used as leverage.
07. Don't Excuse His Behavior
Love shouldn't mean accepting disrespect or mistreatment. Set clear boundaries and don't tolerate bad behavior. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and trust.
08. Don't Isolate Yourself
Don't let your relationship become your entire world. Maintain strong connections with friends and family. A healthy social network provides support and balance in your life.
09. Avoid Uncomfortable Intimacy
Don't be pressured into any physical intimacy that makes you uncomfortable. A good partner will respect your boundaries and prioritize your feelings.
Bonus Tip: Avoid sending revealing photos!
Remember: Strong, empowered women attract healthy relationships. By prioritizing self-worth and setting boundaries, you create a foundation for love that respects and celebrates who you are.
Ismael Gomez III
I'm a Cuban - American Relationship Coach, Author, and Speaker.
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@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

Please support our KZfaq channel by Subscribing - kzfaq.info It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

@victoryirhabor9734 26 күн бұрын

I appreciate all you are doing but what about gifting a guy you are datin? Or suporting him financially more like a loan??

@integrityisnotforsale1531 4 күн бұрын

Great advice! Thank you! A number ten might be…that I’ve witnessed a lot with some friends…is “Don’t become a raging feminist”…where the woman refuses to let the guy do anything nice or gentlemanly for her and accuses him of thinking she can’t do things for herself. It really puts a guy down, from small issues like opening a door or car door for a woman, only to get the response “I can do this myself”…or….tit-for-tat, where she might sulkily or self righteously say “ well if you’re going out with the boys then I’m going out with the girls”…as though she only arranges to see her friends because he is seeing his friends….

@holacomoestas_imERICA.520 3 күн бұрын

Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it 🙏🏼 many blessings to you.

@user-ui3lh2fe1n 2 күн бұрын

Like that thanks 😊

@JRS888LOVE Ай бұрын

Women-never do this for you men 1. Do NOT become the female version of him. 2. Do NOT hide/down play your intellect. 3. Do NOT become mom 2.0! 4. Do NOT put your dream on hold. 5. Stop avoiding conflict. 6. Do NOT fully rely on him financially. 7. Do NOT excuse his behavior. 8. Do NOT isolate yourself from your personal circle. 9. Avoid uncomfortable intimacy. Bonus: never send him naked pictures!!

@streaming5332 Ай бұрын

Yuk only a dipstick would take naked pictures.... zero self respect.

@vilmabock478 Ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

@aprilcollins8552 Ай бұрын

Thank you

@kellywade8275 Ай бұрын

1. Most of us women can't be the female version of him, because, he's acting like a girl. 3. No matter how much you try to be his lover, he will take his mom issues out on you. 6. I don't know any woman who can fully rely on him financially...Nor, would want to...except lazy, entitled dummies. 9. There has to be intimacy for it to be uncomfortable and avoided. Bonus: Only a moron, needs to learn this. Send him a fake of body parts...Kim K, JHo, etc. ? Sebastian Soto, please school the masses on this.🤷🏾‍♀

@Portia620 29 күн бұрын

Never send anyone naked photos!!!!

@Ivana_piranha 25 күн бұрын

“A grown man should be able to take care of himself.” Say it louder for the people in the back. 🙌🏻

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

I'm glad you found my video helpful.

@jacksprat429 13 күн бұрын

@@Ivana_piranha I know a grown boy of 37, who cannot even boil an egg, and expects to be waited on, hand and foot. Unfortunately, he has obviously been enabled to do this all his life. He won’t even wash a pair of underpants, or a shirt if he needs it in a hurry. He definitely will not wash his own cup, or plate. He dumps it with half eaten food, on the sink, and expects someone to clean up after him. I am actually surprised, he can even go to the toilet by himself, or even wipe himself without assistance.

@Ivana_piranha 13 күн бұрын

@@jacksprat429 sounds like my ex

@jacksprat429 13 күн бұрын

@@Ivana_piranha 🤦‍♀️🙈😱😂🤣🤣

@LesleyWarner-dt9il 7 күн бұрын

amen❤

@amaliakonrad8133 26 күн бұрын

I am married for more than thirty years and according to my experience this young man is absolutely right.

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing. What was the most challenging part for you?

@lauracullifer730 23 күн бұрын

Yes

@amaliakonrad8133 23 күн бұрын

@@SaveTheMessenger the most challenging point is to stay discreet😉

@mrscalifdreamer 21 күн бұрын

Same here. Been married for 35 yrs. 6 children, 6 grandchildren so far. Biggest challenge is losing yourself. Always have a balanced life. I know it’s not always possible when you have little children but never lose site of this. If you do, you will become an empty shell and you’ll start harboring regret and anger and blame your husband and children.

@kathybieganski1258 24 күн бұрын

This young man has excellent advice. Over 70 yrs old/40 years married… he speaks the truth !

@sandragray3951 9 күн бұрын

I was just thinking the same. 41 years of marriage and still going strong.Yes he gave very goid advice, take heed ladies.👍👍

@ann5765 26 күн бұрын

My dad told me to never rely solely on a man. Boy was he right!

@talenalewis1823 15 күн бұрын

He will control you and make your life a living hell.

@ann5765 15 күн бұрын

@@talenalewis1823 yeah. Like my father did my mother and us kids.

@josutton7322 26 күн бұрын

It's really simple ladies. Respect yourself. Love yourself. You don't have to have a "man". Be who you are, do what you like, and if you meet someone you like, and he can't handle you being you, that's his problem. Single is best.

@loriobrien7957 25 күн бұрын

Very well said!😊

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

Love these insights. Thanks for sharing.

@JWayne-ej4jy 24 күн бұрын

It takes a hell of a man to beat no man at all....

@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131 3 күн бұрын

Tell any guy ; "As is" is what's on offer.

@NotAStanAccount 14 сағат бұрын

@@JWayne-ej4jy Dude, this is aweaome. I think I may make this new mantra: "it takes a hell of a man to beat having no man at all."

@redwoods7370 27 күн бұрын

I am a 68 year old woman and I endorse every point he enumerated. Great advice.

@Keekonuts 27 күн бұрын

Me too. They don’t make women like they used to.

@gurinapsait8602 25 күн бұрын

Been there in my 20's and 30's.. I'm 68 and I love have friends with benefits but not having them around everyday..

@teresamcmurrin8672 24 күн бұрын

I'm 68 too, and I agree 100%!

@sandramartin9784 27 күн бұрын

A therapist told me years ago to never do anything sexual you don’t feel comfortable with. Comfort equals trust. Listen to yourself and trust your gut if it doesn’t feel right.

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

Great advice. Comfort equals trust 💯

@user-bn5br3xr2b 25 күн бұрын

That's very right. I strongly dislike, even hate, anal sex and won't do it with a man. I only like vaginal sex. The hype about anal sex is a huge lie.

@lilyLily1824 19 күн бұрын

Why would anyone do that? It Means, It’s time to move on!

@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131 3 күн бұрын

Always check if, and what sort of porn a guy watches...

@Leilamauka 18 күн бұрын

My dad told me to NEVER call the boy back if he doesn’t return your call and he’s so right.

@headstonelover 27 күн бұрын

my ex husbands wanted me to like the same things they did and I told them that's not good for a relationship. I started to lose myself because of this. I did forget my dreams because they kept calling me dumb. at 59 I am now continuing my life and what I always wanted to do. they relied on me financially. and NEVER MARRY AN ALCOHOLIC and if you date one or marry one get out

@aheartofworship27 26 күн бұрын

@@headstonelover Exactly right. My dad was an alcoholic and he married this woman who now I consider family after being married for 30+ years when she finally ended the relationship she ended up with another alcoholic whom she tremendously helped get recovered, but he almost destroyed her life. When she finally had enough and walked out, she left him alcohol-free, and with money in the bank.

@empressofenlighten5302 25 күн бұрын

@@aheartofworship27I'm going thru the same time

@elizabethcanterbury1507 22 күн бұрын

Thirty three years married….. MY HUSBAND IS A HARD CORE ALCOHOLIC….. IT IS BAD!

@Selah1141 20 күн бұрын

So happy for you that you found your way ❤

@headstonelover 20 күн бұрын

@@elizabethcanterbury1507 i know how hard it is t get out stay safe

@mnikaluza4 Ай бұрын

I hit all 9 of these in my marriage … and he not only had zero respect but he became very cruel to me and walked out on me & our daughter… he’s my ex husband and I’m an ex people pleaser

@raziakhankashmiriactress Ай бұрын

I can understand how hard it all must have been for you!

@nolimits7495 29 күн бұрын

Why do we do this though? Why idk

@melissabryant2251 29 күн бұрын

Bc of narcissism.

@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131 3 күн бұрын

Empath plus narcissist always ends in tears...

@writer1986 Ай бұрын

Amen. I learned the hard way. I made excuses for my husband's behavior; made him my world; celebrated every birthday, unbirthday, and family event with his family, even though they never made me feel like part of the family. After 6 years, I packed up my kids and left. I didn't want this lifestyle anymore.... Now, my husband is finally showing up, making changes, and limiting contact with his controlling, enmeshed family.

@RacilleAshley-sf7yv Ай бұрын

I'm GLAD that you WOKE UP, out of a DEEP SLEEP.. now you have your happy life BACK!

@Nela1481 Ай бұрын

Me alegro mucho por tu Amor Propio 💕

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

We're all proud of you. Thanks for sharing your story.

@rich-ard-style6996 23 күн бұрын

Congratulations. Stay independent❗️

@pinnaclepottery635 26 күн бұрын

It’s so nice to be 67 and have worked through all this crap!! A book that changed it all for me was ‘The Road Less Traveled’. 😊

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?

@Noora11_3 23 күн бұрын

I LOVE that book

@ajcraft-hello Ай бұрын

“…Being yourself is the ONLY way to be IRREPLACEABLE…”🐝🐑😘

@maryforbes4277 23 күн бұрын

@ajcraft-hello I love that statement too!!

@yankeedogg2212 20 күн бұрын

My wife and I married right out high school and this year make 33 years. We have similar like but we have dislikes as well. We agree , we have disagreements. It’s about balance and compromise. Marriage isn’t easy but, it’s not impossible. A good marriage is a beautiful blessing.

@arianahoule7223 27 күн бұрын

My first impulse about your video was not to like it. However, I made myself listen to you. I ended up agreeing with a lot of what you were saying. There are so many arrogant and disrespectful men out there doing videos on how to abuse women. I'm glad you are not one of them.

@zelmalang1695 26 күн бұрын

As a retired pastor I can say, right on bro. I have seen so many couples in trouble because they did not follow your list. And your recommendations apply to both parties in the relationship, not just the women. Good advice.

@cassandraknight8804 Ай бұрын

No need for disagreement to be a “ FIGHT “ … I’m so glad how you explained that one at the end. It’s so scary and hurtful to have a man fully yelling at you.

@kathybikadi9854 23 күн бұрын

Yes, believe me, I know.......

@katelyncourtright866 3 күн бұрын

@cassandraknight8804 The amount of times iv been told my husband screaming profanities at me and insulting and calling me names in front of my kids was my fault (usually in different words but that was the point) bc I had a "bad attitude" or bc I'm "hard to handel" bc of my mental health disorders, or even bc "he's stressed" is insane iv even been told that it's OK bc "everyone looses their temper" even though it's a multiple times a week occurance. Society today literally teaches men that screaming and throwing fits is normal and it's sadly the women who try to love them who pay for it.

@cassandraknight8804 3 күн бұрын

@@katelyncourtright866 He is targeting any weak spots in your self esteem ( we all have them) sometimes I’m not even sure they realise they’re doing it, it seems to come so disgusting naturally to them… SELFISH.. your to blame for all his feelings he is struggling to process, didn’t you know that? So he has very low emotional intelligence and low ability to regulate his tantrums… can’t seem to sort out his own values and worth….. and again it’s all your fault, hey your even doing it to HIS kids. I know tHIS type well … If you have the resources and or support, run and lawyer up fast. If not know he cannot destroy who and what you truly are…. And what he feels you are- BETTER THAN HIM!! what they fear and believe.. they create.

@leexinping Ай бұрын

Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@LindaD.Rowland Ай бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

@leexinping Ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@LindaD.Rowland Ай бұрын

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@leexinping Ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@sanschmidt5457 Ай бұрын

@@LindaD.Rowland you might want to rethink if you want to directly write the name of a person that you don't wish harm in a youtube comment section. especially if she's working in a highly frowned-upon field like spirituality. people can be so cruel and just need a name to google the person and ruin her life just because they feel like trolling today.

@demelzahunter8504 Ай бұрын

I'm going to be my independent self no matter what my man does. It's being fake to take on his attributes. Always be you. ❤

@lynndurbin9476 26 күн бұрын

A Christian woman...date for marriage. Be modest, be honest, be straightforward, and be in control of yourself. Save yourself for marriage, get to know who you're with.

@bronwyn8110 25 күн бұрын

Christian men too, right? It had to go both ways.

@gewfone 25 күн бұрын

There's no god, delusional rubbish, offensive to read that, keep your misguided beliefs off media

@LisavonAustralis 24 күн бұрын

Wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house sight unseen. You need to know what you're getting into. "Save" yourself for marriage is some of the most harmful advice an adult can give.

@Inquisitor2024 24 күн бұрын

💯 %....

@lynndurbin9476 24 күн бұрын

Trust....trust God.@@LisavonAustralis

@deeveriamoore2205 23 күн бұрын

As a 45 year old woman this gentleman is 100% correct! 👏🏾👏🏾

@Purpurschnecke 27 күн бұрын

It's sad that these things even have to be pointed out by a coach. They should be natural to everybody

@sharitacash9318 25 күн бұрын

I agree it's basically common sense.

@Dalabombana 25 күн бұрын

…because love and emotions are rarely based on logic. Humans are imperfect, often inexperienced and vast majority carry baggage or unresolved trauma. It is what it is.

@maryforbes4277 23 күн бұрын

@@sharitacash9318 Unfortunately, common sense is not that common.

@sciencenotsrigma 21 күн бұрын

Social behavior that works in not obvious to everyone. I’m autistic, so I know it’s not obvious to me. That doesn’t mean I’m not capable of learning. I think a lot of other people are similar to me, and that’s OK. I think that, at certain points in history, this information was handed down by parents, relatives, schools, friends, religious leaders, etc., and was learned by repetition. Now, many of us have to seek it out. I don’t take offense to your comment, or anything. I know what you mean. I think there could be means employed to make sure people know these things well enough that they become automatic. I agree that it would be a good thing!

@diamond6256 23 күн бұрын

GREAT VIDEO. I have separate bank accounts and some hid. Separate home space for doing my own thing, since I am retired. I have 2 self worth rule. You hit me or cheat on me I am done. In 2021 I divorced my husband after 18 years for cheating. I am an independent woman in Texas. I know how to talk to my guy and when to shut up. I don't want him like a toddler and I nag him. He is himself and I am me. We had different skill sets and we balanced each other. He just made a bad choice. There are consequences to your choice, he made his decision and I made mine.

@deannsmith8903 15 күн бұрын

I’m married 30 years and this young man is spot on!

@pamelasimone5084 Ай бұрын

I used to argue with a friend about dumbing down. She kept telling me to hide my intelligence because it scared off guys. I kept saying they would find out eventually. I think your advice is very helpful. I fall into the traps of avoiding conflict, changing my tastes to match his, excusing behavior, and dropping friends to be with him. These behaviors come from my own insecurities.

@user-es9mb8wi3m 29 күн бұрын

I remember these feelings from my younger years. Some advice, not that you asked, btw. Spend time with yourself for awhile, no relationships. Get involved with a group whose purpose is to help others. Not to meet men, but to care about other people’s challenges. Grow spiritually. I believe in Jesus. Find your core values, discover your beliefs. Read books, limit social media, listen to calming music, learn something new. The topics/skills are endless.We live in a very interesting world. You will emerge a much more confident, stronger, more centered woman. You will begin to value your worth, and expect that a man should do the same. There are nice men everywhere. Take time to get to know someone, rather than projecting onto a new guy your wishes and dreams and rushing into a relationship. Make him prove that he deserves such an outstanding woman. Never stop learning and growing. I wish you many blessings.

@maryforbes4277 23 күн бұрын

@@user-es9mb8wi3m So much WISDOM in one paragraph! I wish I had known (and applied) this as a young woman. It would have saved me a lot of heartache. But, in the long run, "All things work together for good for those who love God, and are the called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)

@user-es9mb8wi3m 23 күн бұрын

@@maryforbes4277 Amen. I am a Mary, too!

@maryforbes4277 18 күн бұрын

@@user-es9mb8wi3m Hi Mary! Happy 4th of July!! (if you live in the US-or even if you don't!)

@CamiKaze22 27 күн бұрын

Had to learn all of these the hard way. I kept giving my energies out to the wrong people esp in romantic relationships. My ex of 10 years left out of nowhere. I had no choice but to rebuild myself. Now, I've learned to truly value my authentic self. You have to become the love you seek or else you will attract many unhealthy relationships with people who also carries the same trauma as you. Thank you for the advice!

@SaveTheMessenger 27 күн бұрын

"You have to become the love you seek" Couldn't have said it better myself.

@aheartofworship27 26 күн бұрын

@@CamiKaze22 Facts

@GreySquirrel-xs5ki 3 күн бұрын

If you lose someone but find yourself then that's a wtn isn't it?

@rebeccav.3734 22 күн бұрын

Oh my gosh the last one made me cry because I'd been in a relationship where I did things that made me feel super uncomfortable and gross. Please don't let it happen to you, I will never let it happen to me again!

@G.G.8GG 28 күн бұрын

I confess I thought this was going to be another one of those arrogant videos where a guy tells women how they need to behave and what they need to give and give up to have a chance with guys. But this is right on. All us female oldsters can vouch fir this advice.

@annettewestley7076 25 күн бұрын

Relationship is built on accepting and respecting the differences in each other. Learning about each other and enjoying each other's company. Laugh, talk, discuss subjects, ask for each other's support. Work hard together. Play hard together. Have a good argument and agree to disagree. It's not about winning. Wear what you feel comfortable in. See your friends and family when ever you want. Study as you wish. That is how you stay together and thrive.

@SaveTheMessenger 25 күн бұрын

I couldn't have said it better.

@julietellsthetruth4811 23 күн бұрын

#4. I put my life on hold for him. Married for 28 years, followed him around the country for his job. I had to keep starting over while he got transferred and promoted. Then when he finally started resenting me, I had to get a lawyer through the divorce because he was only going to allow me a third of our assets because I only made two-thirds of what he did. And after 28 years of marriage, I had to learn to buy a car, do household repairs, all the stuff that I, as "the little woman" wasn't allowed to do. After divorce, I bought a car, bought a house, finished two more college degrees. Moved across the country, spent time volunteering overseas... The first half of my life was lived for other people. I'm living the second half of my life for me.

@staywellandstrong4199 Ай бұрын

All good points for staying secure in developing emotional boundaries. Thank you.

@Theancientninja Ай бұрын

I don’t think it’s that women become a sponge, it’s that we are mirrors and multipliers. So often if we love someone or they mean a lot to us, we will mirror them in many aspects. So I think it’s important to understand there is a balance we must keep in that

@gborowme Ай бұрын

Smart talk

@lindahandley5267 27 күн бұрын

I think that's true of everyone to a point. We seem to mirror the people we love and admire in subtle ways. God made men and women different in obvious ways, but in ways to balance each other out. Thank heaven for men. He knew what He was doing!

@MizrahiChick 26 күн бұрын

I used to watch my love addict cousin morph into her partners. She would even dress as they did, take on their interests , beliefs, values, friends and troubles...their ENEMIES even.... Money...sure , 50 grand, live with me right away, no problem, Ignore my famiky , sure. She would disappear and his girlfirend was left in her place . Took me into contra independence , absolutely . I deprogrammed and have been single since widowed .

@lindahandley5267 26 күн бұрын

@@MizrahiChick It is laughable, embarrassing and ridiculous!

@Susie_86 28 күн бұрын

A financially independent woman gets a double edged sword. Men definitely feel relieved through actions if the woman doesn't spend his money. In fact when a woman makes her own money, men hardly take care of them but if asked he'll say she doesn't make me feel needed, doesn't let me provide. These are regular guys I'm talking about not the toxic ones. The discrepancies in how they feel and what they say will always remain a major contributor to failed relationships or miscommunication. Most of my friends are males and I've often seen these discrepancies. Perhaps I've gotten to know them too well that they've kinda lost their charm to me but I love them as friends.... hardly any drama and almost always a very breezy and great hangout! ❤

@Kayprofessor 26 күн бұрын

They are sooo confused. Everything they say is contradictory. It’s always something the woman is doing wrong

@johnu-dj6xp 29 күн бұрын

When you’re married, it’s a little different. The level of tolerance when single is different from when you’re married

@tonirad9577 26 күн бұрын

I am not sure why though . Why do we have to be more tolerant of bad behavior because we get married ? Because my old husband thinks it's fine to be nasty to his wife while acting like the golden boy with everyone else .

@zahiraameen6371 26 күн бұрын

@@tonirad9577 Cos children are involved and they have a right to both parents. Don't have kids until you understand each other well..give it at least 2 -3 years ...discuss parenting thoroughly before having kids. At least until adulthood, parents must work things out. If you are adult enough to have sex, be adult enough to communicate, negotiate, compromise and have the common vision of raising children in a peaceful household BEFORE marriage

@childearth4039 27 күн бұрын

Shows you dont have to be a woman to understand how women should treat themselves. Thank you Mr Gomez from all women.

@maryforbes4277 23 күн бұрын

@childearth4039 I whole-heartily agree! Mr. Gomez understands how women should treat themselves better than a lot of women know how to treat themselves.

@whiteorchid116 Ай бұрын

Ismael, what could it imply if a man is not willing to communicate openly about intimacy? I'm the type of person who'd talk about it to see what we're both comfortable with. I absolutely agree with you on all these points, Ismael. I can't stand immature behaviour and recently have stopped playing dumb and agreeing with everything that a partner says. Life is too short to not go after your dreams!

@sharikavenugopal Ай бұрын

Single me watching this at 2 am for God knows why😅

@Mridula713 Ай бұрын

Same here but at 10pm😌🤦‍♀️

@Angel-light. Ай бұрын

Exactly me, its 2 a.m 😂

@betterme8412 Ай бұрын

Same..2.29am now

@theresaavril8274 Ай бұрын

It’s 2:19am😂

@gborowme Ай бұрын

Haha me too 😅😅😅

@ceecee811 4 күн бұрын

ISMAEL, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO WHO I AM. I AM WHO I AM, & IF ITS NOT LIKED THEY CAN KEEP IT MOVING. WHAT THEY MAYNOT APPRECIATE ANOTHER CAN & WILL!

@lilolmejusayin8671 24 күн бұрын

Great suggestions. I did all of those things and am married to the same man for 30 years and still going strong. Nothing is totally perfect but we always work things out.

@LadyParisien 10 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for this! I'm only on point two but was immediately impressed by point 1. When I was a newlywed over ten years ago, information I looked up online and read in books for women told us to do exactly this - like what he likes and do what he does! I was also given other bad advice which really made my marriage uncomfortable and eventually learned on my own how to adjust to a healthier lifestyle. Really appreciate you are setting the record straight and helping us learn the truth!

@fabianafran927 Ай бұрын

I agree 💯 with everything you said. You pointed out some really important issues that are overlooked most of the times. Thank you so much! ❤

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

Love these insights. Thanks for sharing.

@alwaysrighton 27 күн бұрын

So true. Especially about changing when it changes. Acknowledge when you gambled. You got to know when to hold 'em, know fold them...

@loveshorses7 Ай бұрын

Hi Ismael, I am guilty of doing some of these. I have a problem with #5 Because my previous relationship was very abusive when he didn't get what he wanted. Thank you so much for being here to teach us what you know. Your videos are wonderful.

@nancymelloh4222 16 күн бұрын

Have been married 60 yrs. Realized after video, I made mistakes. My parents divorced when I was 9. My dad was everything and he left me, mother and sister. I thought pleasing a man would keep him from leaving me. I lost myself and should have demanded more from my marriage. Never have been left alone and not sure how I will adjust. We have a beautiful family, due to many sacrafices. Prayers everyday

@Inatfromdenmark Ай бұрын

Good to hear that what’s I’m doing is actually someone’s advice. Every single one of them. ❤

@lindahandley5267 27 күн бұрын

I'm not saying that I'm 'Ms. Perfect', but I would never have been comfortable not being myself. It would have been the other way around. And, if a man is not in it for the same reason I am, loses interest, or disrespects me, I'd be SO gone. I taught my 2 sons early on that when it comes to relationships and marriage, you can NOT have love with OUT Respect. I read a great explanation of respect that has stayed with me: 'One husband said that receiving respect from his most intimate friend, his wife, reduces his fear of failure and being inadequate....it is like wind in my sails.'❤

@sharitacash9318 25 күн бұрын

❤ respect is definitely important, in relationships and in everyday life.

@lindahandley5267 25 күн бұрын

@@sharitacash9318 Oh absolutely. Respect is a 'life' thing...for other humans, animals and the planet.😊

@pennyscott4474 Ай бұрын

I am amazed at your advice. I have daughters that are 23 and I’m going to share one of your videos with them! This is good news for today’s young ladies! You speak with a calm and reassuring voice of wisdom!

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

@gracesanity6314 Ай бұрын

Never be the first to cook dinner. Let him be excited to cook for you. Oh and don't help. Be the guest. Later much later...then you can cook if you want.

@vodkavuitton Ай бұрын

I don't play games or follow anyone's rules about when I can or can't cook 🤷🏾‍♀️

@muratazaarzai Ай бұрын

@@vodkavuitton... I agree with you... Never manipulate the relationship... U may even lose a genuine partner....!!

@Lisa_M_V 28 күн бұрын

Yes. Women need to receive more. He’ll disrespect you if you start running after him from early on. Only once you’re sure of him and know he is willing to invest in you then you can cook ❤

@lillieknight Ай бұрын

I think your best tip was that little snippet at the end when you said when your relationship changes, you need to change.

@sonamsingh5874 Ай бұрын

Now I came to know,I was doing this mistake everytime. Thanks now I am aware.

@belleiccm9801 Ай бұрын

Thank you very much, Ismael! I am learning a lot about myself and relationships in post-break up and your video helped me learn more.

@rjulsb Ай бұрын

Just got the validation. Thank you for the tips Ismael!

@marilynwarbis7224 Ай бұрын

Ismael really hits the nail of my failed relationships on the head. The mistakes he mentions are utterly ingrained in me. Were I to be myself and follow my own dreams, I'd be a completely different person. This is partly my own failures, but also a great deal down to the fact that we still live in a male-dominated society in which men are served more than women, so men can afford to say to their womenfolk - 'it's my way or the highway', and go their own way. In this circumstance, to be oneself and do one's own things leads the woman to being on her own.

@RiverWoods111 4 күн бұрын

This is a wise truth! I subbed, and honestly, you need to be over 100k!!!!!

@user-nl1be7uq5c 23 күн бұрын

There's so many things I've learned in this video. Great lessons for women. I appreciate this and learn what is self worth.

@Mai_AU Ай бұрын

Love your videos… very helpful and amazing info. Thank you Ismael for your dedicated work…

@jislanecarrasquillo9849 Ай бұрын

Number one had to be the most surprising!😮 I genuinely cannot recall any other male coach who has given his female audience such crucial piece of advice. Not being into the same hobbies or interests as my man is still an insecurity of mine but I’m so glad that I’m hearing something so reassuring from another male. There truly is beauty & excitement in other people’s differences. This is why I love your channel Ismael 🎉 You give great wisdom that is not heard enough for your audience 🙏🏻☮️

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

That's very sweet of you. Thanks.

@saintejeannedarc9460 Ай бұрын

A man will respect you most if you are just confident about being you. Men and women will always have different hobbies and interests. It's pretty crucial that they do have some separate time. You eventually live together and share so many things, that it's good to have some separate interests. Some women just lose themselves in a man. This can be compounded when they have kids.

@Riddhi3583 6 күн бұрын

Ismael, you are the elder brother that every girl needs.

@mariehernandez007 10 күн бұрын

Thank You ,That was very eye opening.Appreciate the Sound Advice◇

@jacksprat429 23 күн бұрын

Such good advice, and should really be taken into account, when in a relationship, especially the ‘mommy’ one! Some guys never grow up, and expect everything to be done for them. I have seen it over and over again.

@mariasvensson4558 21 күн бұрын

Wonderful advice. Well explained each point. If followed with true awareness then the flaws/incompatibilities become evident. ALL of these are essential to follow/acknowledge for true happiness and fulfillment in finding and establishing a deeply loving, appreciative, peaceful synergistic living environment with one's life partner. Don't just settle...from experience it's not worth it, especially if you want to raise a loving family. Very well done.

@anitta_Ima Ай бұрын

Ismael Gomez Godbless You for this Particular Post, Iv Learnt a whole lot from your Channel, You're Brilliant. Kp doing great 👍👍

@Cynthia-iz5qp 22 күн бұрын

Absolutely one if the best young man who tells it like it is. Thanks. If i would have had your advice 20+ years ago i may have dated and remarried a good & decent man. I have always told my children, adult's now, that the person you're with has to love you the way you want to be loved (no violence). And #2 you have to heal yourself before you look for another relationship. Because part of the problem in your past relationship is you. You may have to stop dating up to a year but the outcome is you find your soulmate. My eldest son did. Beautiful wife now of 10+. My youngest is going through this because of his "crazy ex girlfriend" (read violent). TY, youre the best

@esmemostert6476 6 күн бұрын

This is a great and interesting video. I have been married to my husband 57 years but know him for 😮 65 years We went out then broke up then went out again. I love him like I loved him since I first saw him. We are very much inlove . I still get flutters when he touches me with love He treats me with respect and I to him I really think what you give out you will get back and if it's love and respect it will be a match made in heaven. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@LaciRae Ай бұрын

i had a touch of healthy skepticism before watching (never seen You before so unsure if You could be trusted). but You have integrity. thank You for giving excellent advice.

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

I also embrace healthy skepticism. Thanks for watching.

@kimberlymiller9154 27 күн бұрын

Eye-opening and beautifully authentic❤ Thanks so much ❤

@user-hc1zk8nn6d Ай бұрын

Thank you, this was very very informative and I think you are great xxxx

@JenniferBurbank 27 күн бұрын

Thank you Ismael.. made my day better… feel more confident… finally subscribed

@barbaracampbell9405 23 күн бұрын

I don’t normally watch this type of video but everything you said I can completely agree with.

@makelifematter1896 Ай бұрын

All is true this was me 30 yrs wasted ..all about him nothing about me ...pay attention this young man has wonderful insight pay attention so you don't throw away your life as I did for so long...on the road to recovery have a beautiful man friend I'm trying to make sure I grow in the right direction this time❤

@reemsaif3105 28 күн бұрын

Never felt that way with any man to dumb my self down. I enjoy fully expressing myself ❤

@alexisl4158 21 күн бұрын

Thank you! This is wonderful advice. ❤

@hairbymichelleandbeautypar7199 27 күн бұрын

I absolutely agree with you! Thanks for sharing and educating our women. 😊

@susanleblevec6613 3 күн бұрын

This was great! Thank you!!!

@nigoagamah3911 27 күн бұрын

You have done well my wonderful coach. God bless you.

@MEugenia-601west 23 күн бұрын

I totally agree 💯+ on ALL points. Thx you for creating such important content 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

@marieschmidt9416 Ай бұрын

Actually really good encapsulation of this subject.

@lisanewman6065 3 күн бұрын

I wholeheartedly agree. Sadly it took me almost 35 years before I learned all of this. 😢

@melastaicu6887 29 күн бұрын

So true! You are so right! I never did anything different than all you said here! Finally, a man whose advice resonates with me! Thanks!

@SaveTheMessenger 28 күн бұрын

I kept smiling as I read your comment.

@KS-ne5mq 24 күн бұрын

This came up in my feed for whatever reason, so I thought I’d check it out. I listened, and as someone who’s been married for decades, it came to me I wish someone would’ve told me these things while I was looking for a lifelong partner. But I also bet unmarried people are probably going to dismiss this good advice so they aren’t alone or for their own personal reasoning.

@EstherImaetteAkpan 22 күн бұрын

It's so good to hear this from a man. Thanks so very much

@heatherjarrell2391 3 күн бұрын

This really hit the nail on the head this really helps thank you so much

@lindabish8110 21 күн бұрын

Ty, I subscribed, that was really good Ishmael. Your last comment made me laugh, very funny how you said that

@coleendelaquerra2202 20 күн бұрын

Brilliant advice. Thank you 🙏.

@beauxmimi77 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for a helpful video. I am just over 60 and haven't dated in many years.... so many i lost count! I met a young man who is acting interested in me and he and I have chemistry--though unfortunately he is in alcohol recovery. Your videos are helping me to cope with this difficult situation.

@charlottecheverton9227 Ай бұрын

Good on you, such great words of wisdom ! I agree wholeheartedly with all of what you said wish I heard all this 30 years back, never mind am very aware now😃 .keep up the great work!

@Michelle.A79 Ай бұрын

Good advice thank you!❤️

@Marie-yx5ie 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for such valuable information ❤❤

@Lilpayasa29 Ай бұрын

That last line 😂 Thank you for all of your insights, Ismael. I really enjoy your perspective and advice towards women. You do it in such a tactful and respectful way that isn’t polarizing or condescending. I wish I would’ve found these videos years ago when I used to date. Now that my teenager is starting to show interest in boys I can give her great advice. Thank you! 🙏🏽💕 P.S. Tu acento es muy lindo 🔥

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

That's very sweet of you. Thanks.

@gigidiaz3828 26 күн бұрын

Wow, you were on point with every item. Keeping to myself to avoid conflict and possibly losing him…gotta be true to my piece of mind. Gonna take your advice and talk to my BF. Might not be as bad as I think & will surely take a load off my shoulders, chest & head 😅

@Lucida1818 Ай бұрын

Hmmmmmmmm thank you. 🙏 Thank god I intuitively know so many of these points.

@eileenmcmahon6269 4 күн бұрын

Very good advice. I needed this years ago..

@ykt4343 Ай бұрын

Wow. That was so interesting. I can thankfully say I don't do most of those things. I have always spoken my mind and I truly believe if you don't have respect for the person you're with you can't love them. For me my respect is very important. Your video has validated my thought process and I am so grateful for it. You always make things so clear and provide great examples which are relatable. Thank you😊

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

@Frankencelery05 5 күн бұрын

Wow you're smart. Thank you. This was very good advice

@carbonfootprint3635 27 күн бұрын

Your advoce is really good and the way you deliver what you're saying is really calm.and reassuring. Apprecate your channel

@carineokeh3543 Ай бұрын

Thanks for this video. It came at the right time. You won a new subscriber.❤

@SaveTheMessenger Ай бұрын

Welcome to my channel. Thank you.

@dannmurray1199 Ай бұрын

Trustworthy advice...thank you.

@laurieoverton9797 24 күн бұрын

You're pretty awesome young guy with all the sage wonderful advice and I am approaching my 70s right now this month and I'm telling you I wish I would have known that when I was a young woman although I landed the right loving respectful husband but my second husband wasn't I'm a smart woman I raised 5 wonderful children as a single mom after my first marriage ended...I also grew my own Home business... But somehow I let my life revolve around his and that wasn't right but I am living on my own couldn't be happier have a lovely family and a great circle of friends and I feel the best about myself in years! Thank you for sharing this and I hope it helps a lot of women and men. Keep going and keep growing!