Samw

They’re becoming more and more common, my friend got her prom dress *because* of the pockets It was an adorable dress

Auddy Doe my phone om dress had pockets and I absolutely loved it!

Exactly the same my mind is blown legit the more you know.

They can put pockets in a lot of dresses if they dont come with them. Not all but alot

And more if that person is fuckin dead

i thought that she seems a lovely polite kind girl and needs to be herself

I know what it’s like. It’s made me very depressed and unhappy 😞

@@YeseniaRamosG live your life. You only live once! Literally.

Omg Georgian must’ve been the favorite, Leah was literally shoved into being her new Georgian. Atleast Monte opened her Nana’s eyes, cause man she needed it.

Jersey... my identical twin sister died 16 years ago...I will grieve for the rest of my life. Bless her heart. Her granddaughter looks exactly like her late aunt. ( But shouldn't have to live through her..) ( I know Granny knows this)

Its denial. Grandma needs to see a grief counselor. Its not fair on her granddaughter

Blunt. Abrasive

She needs to deal with it without imposing her will on her granddaughter

@@TrudyPatootie I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you can feel her love surround you still. God bless.

did you not watch till the end? The grandmother loved the dress. She supported her granddaughter. What more do you want from her?

@@janetannerevans2320 for her to stop forcing her granddaughter to play the role of her deceased daughter. She only accepted the dress because the bride was headstrong like the deceased daughter. That's just sick, she's not been given a chance to be her own person.

I feel bad for the group

I feel bad that Leah had to grow up in the shadow of an aunt who passed before she was born, I don't agree with that. However, losing a child is not just something you really get over, some days may be easier than others, but I think that grief never fully leaves so I feel for the grandma in that respect

@@30teriann If the grandma's grief is so bad she's seeing her granddaughter as a replacement for the daughter she lost, she needs to either seek help to cope, or not come dress shopping.

and she doesn't really look like her aunt to begin with

@@colesmith7509 I thought I was the only one who thought that

@@colesmith7509 they look similiar a little

I’m like, “Where?”

Ok calm down. She is allowed to process her emotions

(super excited noises)

it's so crazy how something that pretty much has no function is so important to us! I guess on the wedding day, since you have no purse, pockets in the dress could be useful.

@@joyfuljaj well for carrying your lipstick for touch ups, nowadays your phone to take pictures, ... Sure you could have the groom carry some stuff but it's nice to have your own space

@@joyfuljaj Orrrrrr... And, I know this might be *totally* crazy, bear with me- but... Maybe not every girl LIKES lugging around super very stealable arm-and-shoulder irritants. Maybe some girls find those obnoxious lumps of 'I bend to the will of the fashion industry' completely unbearable. Maybe some girls can get by with just a phone, some cards, and maybe a bit o' lipstick during the day. Oh well, that's just crazy talk. After all, pockets are just *soooooo* useless. (Ahem, in case you haven't noticed, pockets are pretty damn important to me.)

I hate pockets so not really

I thought the same thing!

Such a sad way to pay tribute to someone who was supposedly so sweet and giving.

I'm sure she's giving her niece a proud round of applause in heaven

Facts

If her daughter was alive; I bet she would find this treatment to her niece unfair

Finally someone who has some sympathy with the grandma . Damn

@@tianzhanaesmith9398 her grandma is practically trying to reincarnated her dead daughter through her granddaughter. It’s weird af.

* reincarnate

@@user-xc9di1ko4t It is. Clearly the grandmother is still struggling-- and honestly can't imagine the pain of losing a child, even if it was an adult child. She's unable to see her granddaughter because she's still so consumed by her daughter's death.

With out a doubt, the Grandma needs some help taking that final step on moving on or risk it escalating like they saw here. Must be difficult for any parent to outlive their kids.

Yes obviously (not an excuse) but it’s so obviously trauma

Yeah by the grandma is still hurting that her disagree passed before she did

Yes I agree, but you have to know that the granny is still really hurt... I kinda get why she wants her to wear that dress. Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to you, and that will hount you for the rest of your life. Having a grandaughter that look like her own daughter can be really confronting. :(

No Thanks123 she's not at all

I agree with the granny.

And the family member who dies young is often remembered in idealized ways. My aunt was named for her mother's baby sister who died at age two, and the whole family still talks about this little girl (who died in 1929!) being so beautiful and adored by everyone. I'm sure she was in many ways, but these exaggerated beliefs are a reflection of grief that was never allowed to heal and that got passed down. Even worse, my poor grandmother blamed herself for getting her sister sick by "bringing home measles from school." BTW, I found the baby's death certificate and saw that she had measles but died of TB, something no one had told my grandmother! She was shocked. She'd tortured herself for 80 years. 😞 I hope that news brought her some peace.

None of the other granddaughters are going to have to go through this when they go wedding dress shopping either because they don't look like the deceased aunt. Their day is going to be thiers while half of poor Leah's appointment was about someone else

thats a good idea

It's not really about the dress being a heirloom. She looks like her late aunt that's why they want her in it

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.

Yup, my family has also used jewelry for several generations, a necklace and a set of earrings the bride borrows on her wedding day, if she wants too though.

Exactly in my family we pass down the veil unfortunately my sister will probably get it as she’s older 😭

THAT LAST ONE HAHAHAH

I read hand cuffs lol😂

@@sanjanasawant2034 that too!

The crushing reality of life, my mental baggage, snacks, iced tea, phone-

Its first tissue didn't you hear someone say! LOL

That is beautiful, perfect advice. As long as the bride loves it is all that should matter.

I mean yes but if it looks absolutely atrocious you need to tell them. I’d sure as hell hope someone would tell me.

Hahhaha I’m mexican...granny sound like mexican granny like Coco’s movie

That phrase just translate my entire family, Jesus Christ

Okay, that makes things easier

“ That Granny is GOOD”.... you said it,Monty.....

The energy to put us on our ground and feel uneasy.

Well said!

When I got my wedding dress. I picked it out In about 5 minutes. Tried it on, loved it, and bought it. I brought my 2 bridesmaid with me , and they picked out their dresses while I chose mine. Why bring everyone with you for their opinion. If you love the dress ,get it. Who cares what anyone else thinks. I knew it was my style, and I knew it looked really good on me. P.S Guess I did good, because it was a big hit. That was back in 1975. I still take it out now and then on our anniversary to remind me of all those years ago.. They sure flew by!

Totally agree with you Alina.

Sue, you were right to do what works for you. Sounds efficient and made your dress shopping easier and probably more fun.

Alina Carpenter holy sh*t that’s really true

And manipulate...

Wearing her daughter's dress won't bring her back

Or all the other grandkids

I think it’s mostly Leah cause they apparently look exactly the same and her middle name is her aunt’s name

You don't know crap

I was thinking that too! Nobody asked what the mom wore

I think she’s a bad actress

When you get to a certain age you stop caring what people think. Tale as old as time.

Paputsza bahaha so true

I know she kept saying her opinion didn't matter and then kept mouthing off like her opinion was the only one that did matter

Well, if she listened to her granny she'd save 4000. Granny has a point.

@@annaheart7731 No, Granny does not have a point & if she chooses to spend that on her dress, that's her decision.

I wish grandma some counseling...

@@yannickh.1300 Grandma will definitely not go for counseling, unfortunately. But it's really sad that this family is trying to keep her in her late aunt's box. She's lived in it all her life already. They need to let her live her own life.

Best reply ever.

@Chrysaura the girl has been confused and compared with her aunt her entire life, how is that "normal grieving"?? She's even expected to wear the same wedding dress ffs.

@Chrysaura it is because her aunt died before she was born. And has lived in her aunt's shadows. Her past , present and even her future is supposed to mimic her departed aunt. That's not natural . Yes it's perfectly normal to grieve. What's not normal is morphing a person to replace the person you loved. If you cannot see how sad and overwhelmed the grand-daugter is, then you need to watch it again.

Her dead aunt at that.

Totally

It is kinda creepy now that I think about it.

It like they wanna replace her😥😰😢

They are not trying to turn her in her aunt, they are just really afraid of letting go.

Nobody can ever understand what it is like going through all those special moments n dates n holidays without their child unless they have lost a child too and that I would never wish on anybody ever!!! I can not imagine how bittersweet it is to look at a granddaughter that could pass as a twin to a deceased daughter, seems bittersweet is not a strong enough term for it!!!

I agree

That's what I was thinking...

I was about to type the same comment. That's not your daughter grandma, that's your GRANDdaughter

unless you lose a child you'll never know the pain and frame of mind.

Stephanie Blair sure, but that still doesn’t mean the granddaughter should pretend to be her aunt. It’s unhealthy.

Lol but what if the answer was no

That was my thought too! Monte did such a great job with her

Yes, quite clever! Good on them!

@@W-I463 then the answer will be but this is Leah not Georgian.

@@ayf449 b

I was told..... lovely wedding shame about the train on the dress. But I loved it.

i shop alone......never go with anyone.....i have a "fashionista" in my family who has horrible "taste"..........

Yep, exactly! I don't understand it either but there it is, sometimes people pleasers can't help it.

A lot of the time families help pay for a bride’s gown. Not that they should be so opinionated and cruel about it for sure, but it does make you want to please them more

@@Renee60722 yh well I was taught this BS too, but actually now that I'm an adult, I'm not going to punish myself by surrounding myself with horrible people. Family or not. If you're rude and entitled, I'm not going waste any of my precious time trying to be nice. Some people are too needy and can't bear to be independent and tolerate bad behaviour and then end up crying because of how they are treated. I'll have to pass.

Especially since the granddaughter isn’t her deceased daughter’s daughter. I understand it can be very hard to let go. Because no parent should ever have to bury their kid. But the force another person’s life on another for some reason, it’s just rude. Not only rude but it’s traumatizing for the person.

Agreed.

It's really sad too

Show a bit of fucking respect

no it is not creepy! She just wanted her to try it on,, she looks just like the aunt.. don't be a hater.

PREACH

There was a show called Whose Wedding is it, anyway?!

DAMN RIGHT

I love it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

periodt as it should

Yeah bc it is a *dress* with *pockets*

I got so freaking excited when I found out my Sunday dress of a few years had pockets!

When you get accustomed to even jeans lacking pockets and just having freaking fake cut outs of pockets you'll clap for pockets everywhere you find them😂

😂 Guilty!

I worked in womens clothing and I put a woman in a dress who try on. She ended up screaming at me that she LOVED the dress and EVERYTHING about it and there was NOTHING I could say that could make her love that dress more. I took that moment to tell her about the pockets. 😁

Seriously right? She can use her veil is they wanted to use something from her aunt.

Erikaahh_Mae Why would should she even be forced to honor a woman she never met? I could see if the grandmother or the mother honored her but not the niece who has no memory of her...

Kk dragon her aunt that she didn’t even know! Like goddamn.

Right? Like she’s never even met her! It would be one thing if it was her mom or something

@Kk dragon correct! She can honor her aunt another way but also ON ANOTHER DAY. Weddings should be about the bride and not extended family members.

You’re absolutely right. Granny’s love for her family really shines through. She just needs some help with her grief, and Leah getting married probably brought a lot of what’s been brewing underneath to the surface. Leah recognized that a little bit of lace means a lot to her, and that’s why she compromised on the laced veil.

Right...idk why so many ppl are tripping on the grandma in the other comments...

That actually would be awesome

😁😹können

The bride is a sweetheart and absolutely beautiful. Her grandma is manipulative.

@@dianedizayee5211 Her grandma is pushy and overbearing. I still do not understand why a bride brings an entourage knowing full well there may be a fly in the ointment when it comes to trying on dresses. Never had the opportunity to do the dress trying on thing, but I can assure you that I would not have put up with snarky crap and would not been in a mood to bite my tongue, so I would have done what my sister did, which was shop entirely independently and picked my dress on my own without any input from anyone other than perhaps a store employee, and the only opinion solicited would be regarding whether the dress fit my body, with no comments as to the style of the dress. But, that's just me, never and don't like being told what to do, especially when the end result has absolutely no effect on anyone else.

cimogm Because she loves her grandmother so she wants her to be there with her. You may be a more practical and pragmatic person, while she seems to be much more sentimental.

You mean her sister

@@fayezentner619 The grandma had a daughter who passed away. That daughter was the bride's aunt. No sisters involved.

Faye Zentner 4:14 it’s the grandmothers daughter they’re comparing her too. Leah’s aunt

It IS sad... Wake up,Granny. Go away.

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Every girl can relate to that. Pocket is everything!

Literally what I thought LMAO

@@ilovecatsqwq1861 how is this relevant

@@ilovecatsqwq1861 Amen

She always will grieve her daughter, but she can't replace her with another person. That's just not fair.

I know... I cried

Of course she's still grieving, I don't think any parent would ever get over that kind of loss & pain, however she shouldn't be making her granddaughter feel guilty for saying I want my own dress or I don't like that style of dress.

Ikr When she said just like her for 2nd time.. Its just so sad!

I lost my 32 yr old Son almost 8 years ago. It never leaves you. I feel for this Mother but at the same time I feel for the bride. My living Son is getting married next year. He is nothing like Charlie and I wouldn't want him to be. Their wedding is a bit more upscale compared to Charlie who wore boots and jeans for his wedding. My hurt is that Charlie won't physically be here but he will be watching from above!

Yes finally someone who see its that way💀💀

Same here, tho some of the music was ok.

the music was so good lol what

Yes, "oh that's just the way they are" is another one. I call BS.

Or manipulated into believing it's ok

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Well she did say that she is one of the most important person in her life. So please understand. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇

This grandma is grieving and trying to live "double vicariously" (through her daughter through her daughter's niece). It's awful, but it really is just grief.

Well she wanted her to feel bad for it.

@@skylovermc2146 Yes, very passive aggressive!😡

That was so manipulative!

Its such a manipulative line.

She was just trying to guilt trip Leah.

I think Leah's mom is an enabler. Appease mom at all cost including Leah's mental health & well being. Some people will do anything to boot lick & "keep the peace in the family".

this has nothing to do with being southern lol

I like how you triggered a few southerners in this comment 😂😂

@@silverdarling2 How are they being triggered? Lol, from what I'm reading in this section, they aren't being rude or anything.

Pat McGregor Yes,it needs to stop absolutely.

Exactly

So hard when just because you look like a family member they expect you to be just like them (good or bad)

@@Oraerilla حنشرية

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She even said it

I don't think it's unfair, but I do agree that the granddaughter should be able to be her own person :)

@@Lavenderjams it's unfair that the granddaughter is being pushed to be someone shes not because someone can't move on

Jamila Emerson-Elliott it’s very unfair, but because of trauma of losing her own daughter she wouldn’t know that

Guilt tripping grannies. If that was me, I would be too oblivious to the comment.

It’s called passive aggressive and it’s so wrong when someone hasn’t dealt with their loss and attempt to inflict their opinion by using emotional blackmail.

Definitely sounds like my grandmother. I was just like.... Nope your opinion DOESN'T matter. Sorry GMa

Manipulative tactics

Old hags like this give us grandmas a bad name.

I know. I can just imagine her childhood... “Young lady! How could you get a B in math?! Georgeanne always got A’s in math!”

I loved it. I think it flattered her so well too

It does look so much like Kate's dress, it's clearly derivative and I like it a lot, but if the bride doesn't like it that's all that matters

I think so.

That dress was amazing and was very flattering on her. However, if the bride doesn't like it or feel comfortable in it, she shouldn't wear it. Period.

Didn't like Kate's dress didn't like her aunt's dress. Seems like something someone over 50 would wear.

I really wish i hadn't laughed at this comment 😂

👀👀👀👀 what

@@corrinnaangel damnnnnn😂😂😂

Vicious? VICIOUS? The only thing that's vicious are the hens cackling in this comment section.

@@giantslirpy888 🙄

Exactly! As sad as it is that her daughter died, the fact that this family made this poor girl become an extension of her dead aunt since she was born so they didn't have to accept reality is absolutely awful. They need a wake up call, badly. And some good grief therapy. The reason for these actions is sad, but it does NOT excuse the result. They need to check themselves.

PREACH

VICIOUS????? ARE YOU SERIOUS? OMG SO NASTY AND UNCALLED FOR. THATS A TERRIBLE THING TO SAY. REALLY SICK

Yes she's projecting onto her, but the girl is not reincarnated she just shares some genetic similarities... the grandma needs to let her be her own person -the niece of the deceased aunt, not a replica Yes offering something as a borrowed, or old?? would be nice, if she chooses, maybe take something from the aunts outfit, Something not too obvious though, just to honour her, give granny some respect, but only if it fits in. The veil she had on suited it beautifully so she should be and sounded very pleased with it, saying it made the dress, when the dress was gorgeous in and of itself, but the traditional aspect I think is what the granny was alluding to as that's what it sounded like she was wanting, (besides ressurecting her daughter and having her live again through the granddaughter, which is kinda heartbreaking, & tough for the girl to live up to such expectations) she's living in the past a bit, but they all seemed to think it was a "Southern" thing, they said

There's a sarcastic side of me that would have snarked at granny that after twenty years she needs to love her granddaughter for who SHE IS and not because she looks like her aunt, miss her and love her but let her rest in peace

🤣😂😂🤣

Why invite soooooo many people?

You’re hilarious 😂

@@Neilsowards it’s a drama reality show

Thank you

Where you get all that from?

@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 who knows? It is pretty easy to find information on people who have been on tv shows

Well bless her heart

Repent.

Especially the ones that offer to pay then want to have the final decision how selfish why even offer

I agree. Getting opinions isn’t bad but it should always be the brides final decision. It’s her wedding and they deserve to get what they want

Whose paying for it?

I agree with the 3 comments absolutely 💯 💯 💯

I really don’t like when the mom, sister or granny or whatever wants to make the brides day there one.

TabooTalz I agree. Seems like granny raised the aunt to cater to her granny’s needs instead of meeting child’s needs.

It's a good thing - depending on how much you live it out. I also am someone who always WANTS to please everybody but that doesn't mean that I'll always sacrifice what I want.

I think we figure out what killed the aunt: pleasing everyone and neglecting herself

Yeah when I heard her say that, it totally clicked; the grandmother's a manipulative control freak and wants to only be surrounded by people who are eager to please her.

I was thinking the same thing after watching other episodes today. There are so many different styles why are they always picking this one?

And they are NOT flattering to every woman's figure! I've seen women 300 or 400 pounds wearing them, and no one has the courage to tell them they have rolls and rolls of bread dough everywhere, especially under their upper arms. It's just not flattering to them. I was a size 4 when I got married and the first thing I said was, "No strapless, no sleeveless. I'm not a Swedish supermodel!" I was conscious of what looked good on me and what didn't. Maybe now, 30 years later, it's not important anymore, all brides want is to feel "sexy". Sexy is for the bedroom, sweetie.

Well I'm tired of poofy ballgowns😂😂

@@20PINKluvr ok, non-poofy ball gowns AND non-strapless, sweetheart necklines! Other designs, please!

Grandma speaking enough for everyone I guess...😳

Mama hasn't been able to open her mouth since Georgianne died!

That granny is straight up rude and I bet bride's mom knows it's no use trying to make her understand.

She couldn't talk Granny was to damn loud

miaskittens D The mom needed to support her daughter!

Ikr??😂😂

Considering this aunt died before this bride was born, that's rather too long to allow grieving to interfere with her wedding choices.

@@terrib627 ikr

It's so annoying

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