Shave Your Head and Get in the Closet: Dark History of Marriage
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Күн бұрынHi Friends, happy Thursday!
Welcome to the Dark History podcast. We’re going to the chapel and we’re going to get married! But it’s not all pretty dresses and delicious cake (mmmmmm cake). In fact, a lot of the wedding traditions that we hold near and dear have a pretty dark past. In today’s episode we’ll find out why we kiss the bride, why the father gives the bride away, why bridesmaids exist and what’s with their matching dresses, and why the garter toss is even a thing.
I appreciate you for coming by, and tune in next week for more Dark History.
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Chapters:
INTRO - 00:00
BABYLONIANS DID IT FIRST - 04:05
A BRIDAL RETURN POLICY - 10:15
BIG FAT (ANCIENT) GREEK WEDDING - 15:55
THIS IS SPARTA - 19:24
THE ROMAN’S POWER PLAY - 26:48
KISS YOUR BRIDE THEN SMASH CAKE ON HER HEAD - 30:37
LANDLORD=MATCHMAKER - 37:42
A MEDICI MARRIAGE - 43:03
DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER - 47:22
WHAT HAPPENS IN VEGAS - 54:06
CONCLUSION - 56:04
Dark History is an Audioboom Original.
This podcast is Executive Produced by:
Bailey Sarian, Kim Jacobs, Dunia McNeily from 3arts, Kevin Grosch, and Claire Turner From Made In Network
Writers: Katie Burris, Allyson Philobos, Joey Scavuzzo and Bailey Sarian
Research provided by: Regina Dolza and Xander Ellmore
Special thank you to Historical Consultants: Vicki Howard
Shot By: Tafadzwa Nemarundwe
Edited by: Tafadzwa Nemarundwe
Post Supervisor: Kelly Hardin
Production Management: Ross Woodruff
Hair: Angel Gonzalez
Makeup: Jill Powell
I'm your host -- Bailey Sarian
@freddie488 Жыл бұрын
I'd love to see Bailey tackle children's stories - Disney, Grimm, Christian Anderson, etc.
@AN36 Жыл бұрын
When I was getting my degree to become a teacher I actually took a class about children's literature and the history of it. It was really fascinating!
@caitlynguthrie5641 Жыл бұрын
Aesop’s Fables
@lillibenton9715 Жыл бұрын
can this comment get more 👍 please!
@michaelahesketh5719 Жыл бұрын
That would be awesome!!
@pri.sci.lla. Жыл бұрын
Yes that would be great! Disney has stolen so many of the Grimm stories and changed them to much
@shanerifficc Жыл бұрын
FINALLY someone who feels the same way about the cringey activities at weddings. Why can’t it just be a giant party with everyone we love? 😂
@Jpev2022 Жыл бұрын
I'd prefer small intimate weddings with the two families and close friends. I think the cringe-y weddings and activities are due to having too many random ppl there and everyone is nervous. Then it just gets weird and cringe-y. LOL.
@ohmyquadfpv6648 Жыл бұрын
The secret is most people think they are cringe. Idk the weird people who keep these going.
@deisycervantes9092 Жыл бұрын
Agree 😂😂😂
@jennagreer2659 Жыл бұрын
Literally my wedding. We didn’t do any traditions that didn’t mean something personal to us. No garter toss, no bouquet toss, my Dad walked me part way down the aisle, no rice throwing, no cake smashing…. It was just a giant fun party with all our favorite people, food, and games and bounce house for the kids so they wouldn’t get bored! We bounced too though😜
@laurenkay9292 Жыл бұрын
Eloped at the courthouse and have 0 regrets lol.
@AlyKat. Жыл бұрын
Bailey: "they would chase her around in the pitch black" Me: "yikes, sounds terrifying/traumatizing" Bailey: "yeah, idk. It sounds kinda hot. idk"
@raveneyes7191 10 ай бұрын
Shes not wrong 😂
@ashleyhenderson8613 Жыл бұрын
You'll probably never see this but as I was scrolling your video to pick my night time routine video, my 10 year old daughter saw the thumbnail for this video and went " mom, what disney princess is that? I've never seen her movie before, she's so pretty". It melted my heart
@cherylmaden5989 9 ай бұрын
Bailey is our princess
@candycanelover101 7 ай бұрын
Aw that’s so sweet
@qo4914 3 ай бұрын
🌚🌚
@arditasopa1688 2 ай бұрын
The KZfaq princess👑
@epefania Жыл бұрын
“That’s what we do best ladies. Bring in shame to the family.” Amen.
@frickusernames Жыл бұрын
I wanted Bailey to do marriage but figured it was too broad. I am so glad she covered it! Dark History really is the first time I've considered myself to be interested in history!
@maryjane4432 Жыл бұрын
Same for me
@gaiaswildchildtarot Жыл бұрын
Same here 🥲
@meglyda2219 Жыл бұрын
💯
@dazanii Жыл бұрын
History is fun once you do away with the idea of only paying attention to specific dates and rich white dudes like how they do it school, lol
@mels2702 Жыл бұрын
“She brokey, no workey.” 😂😂😂 that’s awesome.
@suzimonkey345 Жыл бұрын
🤣😂🤣😂🤣
@kimberlyelliott7933 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@keyasday7910 Жыл бұрын
Same 😅
@ARG-BUR 9 ай бұрын
Still dying 12 minutes after😂😂
@Olga-ph3ur Жыл бұрын
I was watching this with my husband nearby and when you said "This is Olga, she's beautiful if you squint hard enough, and if you take her you get this cash bonus!" My husband goes, where is my cash bonus? 😭😂
@xxxKida-Himexxx Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@Stephaniefarrah Жыл бұрын
🤣
@jettsetgirl Жыл бұрын
😂😂Is he still alive ? My husband half listens & then interrupts and asks me questions- I took his phone & hit subscribe 😂😂 - Let him watch on his time ..and he does cuz now he says That’s Suspish 😂
@allysondenton.5673 Жыл бұрын
i was like that’s kinda mean but then i saw your username
@janaskibo871 Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness. Doghouse or couch? LOL
@marywieland795 Жыл бұрын
would you ever do the dark history of hazing in colleges? it’d be so interesting!
@lisaswanson7442 Жыл бұрын
My Fathers brother died at USC due to hazing. The story is really sad. They killed him. The movie Fraternity Row was loosely based on what happened.
@chanelfitzgerald Жыл бұрын
I am not American and have always been fascinated with hazing and why Americans do it.
@aliigatorwine Жыл бұрын
I’ve never known why they do hazing!
@Vikki_G_ Жыл бұрын
Hazing??
@PamelaH_HappyVibes Жыл бұрын
@@Vikki_G_ - hazing is done colleges (and other organizations) in the US. It’s were the newest people have to go through an initiation. They have to do humiliating things. It’s very harmful and people get really hurt or die. It needs to be made illegal.
@cdfranklin1599 Жыл бұрын
"Lets say you're a lady who loves another lady, you love an Arby's sandwich" I about died. 😂🤣😂🤣
@bagarozzi927 Жыл бұрын
Me to!!!
@kelliesaunders4905 Жыл бұрын
Roast beef 🤣🤣🤣
@vjquiles147 Жыл бұрын
I had to pause the video for second. 😂
@dorindadouglas2847 Жыл бұрын
Same! 🤣
@starboggle Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry, I don't understand this. Someone please explain it to me.
@hollyadams6252 Жыл бұрын
The story I heard is that, since Spartan men weren't allowed to live with their wives until they were in their 30s, and started training at about 7, they had only ever really been around men. So some historians think that the hair shaving and men's clothes was supposed to ease the men into heterosexuality.
@karentalbot5798 Жыл бұрын
Wow!
@kassandraanderson6742 Жыл бұрын
I was looking for this in the comments lol I understood the shaving and clothes was entirely to ease them into heterosexual relationship and homosexual relationship wasn't frowned on, just if you were the femme one. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ History. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
@malikawatkins30 9 ай бұрын
10 months late but wow! I never heard this but it makes soooooo much sense.
@thesacredbombshell 5 ай бұрын
That's exactly it---- heard this years ago.
@sheliahutcherson168 Жыл бұрын
This history on weddings just made me feel even better about our choice of just going to the courthouse and getting married 50 years ago😊❤.
@cchastee0614 Жыл бұрын
I literally called my dad after watching this and told him "you know how you regret not making out little shindig (courthouse marriage) .. it's OK that you did bc I don't want to be given away as a transaction" 😅😭 So I'm right there with you ! Lol
@jasminejanelle1228 11 ай бұрын
Another sad truth is that they had to repopulate that early because their life expectancy was our equivalent to 21 years old…what a world.
@cherylmaden5989 9 ай бұрын
U are right
@baylorsailor 4 ай бұрын
My husband and I also went to the court house. We had a big party a few months later. Easy peasy.
@_SerenityBlooms Жыл бұрын
The fact that the men thought it was a woman’s fault that they didn’t get pregnant is just mind blowing 😂.
@Nat-ff9wr Жыл бұрын
Right?! I wonder is these men tried to get many women pregnant and they never got knocked up. So they still thought it was the women's fault or did they ever think maybe it was on them? Plus, some people's dna just doesn't mesh.
@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 Жыл бұрын
Seriously? That blows your mind? Why? Plenty of women can't get pregnant today. It was far more back then. Infertility is a huge issue for many women. So they weren't wrong. Ntm, many women didn't WANT to get pregnant. The risk of death during childbirth was super high. So ... how does it blow your mind that people believed something that is true in many ways?
@cheetahlover156 Жыл бұрын
@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 they meant that men never considered themselves the problem, like perhaps it was men who were infertile
@Nat-ff9wr Жыл бұрын
@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 re-read Amanda's comment because you obviously didn't comprehend what was written.
@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 Жыл бұрын
@@Nat-ff9wr No... I definitely read it properly. Perhaps she MEANT it in a different way. But she LITERALLY SAID: It blows my mind that men blamed the women for not getting pregnant. Which is exactly what I replied to. Are there other words in her comment that only you can read? Bc my reading comprehension is fantastic.
@mayamiles1130 Жыл бұрын
"that's what we do best ladies, bringing shame to the family" 😂 a word
@Buggle7619 Жыл бұрын
Needs a t shirt with this!
@tracynorth2275 Жыл бұрын
😂
@1animefreak4u Жыл бұрын
Kinda wish she talked about some of the old pagan wedding traditions! So many cool things and pretty sure it's where "tie the knot" comes from
@felishatiepner5545 8 ай бұрын
🙌
@Synfulz. 4 ай бұрын
It is because Christianity comes from paganism.
@perrydixon344 Ай бұрын
tying the knot... a Celtic tradition... the bride and groom would hold hands.. the person officiating the joining would tie their hands together.. the bound couple would then walk through an arch... signifying a new life together.
@greengal2063 Жыл бұрын
I'm getting married at the courthouse next month and I've never been more excited to NOT be doing all of those traditions!
@TheKayCore Жыл бұрын
got married at our equivalent to this, after watching this, kinda happy i did
@onecuet Жыл бұрын
Save the money for a comfy home. You don't want to start out a marriage in huge debt. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials 💒
@evelinaz1548 Жыл бұрын
yeah im gonna be having a regular wedding (ceremony & reception with everyone) but also v excited to not be doing all those traditional things haha tbh i havent known anyone in so long to actually do them though, i thin it's very.... boomer-esque?
@InsaneLaughter01 Жыл бұрын
…..you are literally getting married. That is THE tradition.
@tat2mytoes270 Жыл бұрын
5 months later congratulations on the marriage ❤
@Dazed.confused Жыл бұрын
You know what I’d actually really love to see you do on dark history? The dark stories behind the Disney princesse’s stories! I think that would be a fun episode. A lot of classic Disney princess movies are based off of true stories and most of them are dark, but I’d love to see Bailey cover them because I haven’t looked into them enough my self to have a clue about a single one however I’ve remained very curious 😭
@berthaschwarze6704 Жыл бұрын
Oh yes the original stories are grim. No pun intended. But the original mostly Grimm brothers stories are DARK. And they already lighted them up. The little mermaid original has haunted me. My grandma has a book full of the originals and I am traumatised
@datheamore6395 Жыл бұрын
Pocahontas, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Mulan, Beauty and the Beast... all rather dark origins. Sleeping Beauty and Mulan were always fiction, but the stories have been bastardized over time.
@AllTheHappySquirrels Жыл бұрын
This could be a whole season of episodes! 🤯
@rachelellis8416 Жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@jodeemackenzie Жыл бұрын
Yesss!
@WinewithKadz Жыл бұрын
Bailey is honestly the best storyteller to exist. I'm excited whenever she posts.. so happy to see how much this channel has grown too! 🇯🇲❤️
@anitaramirez4427 Жыл бұрын
Yes! I've been following since she was around 50k! So crazy!!
@mariewhoo7616 Жыл бұрын
Yes!!! She literally makes me laugh out loud the ENTIRE video! And that’s rare for me 😂
@RedHotMessResell Жыл бұрын
Yes she’s my favorite woman storyteller. And Mr. Ballen is the best male one imo. Just comes so easy to them.
@mercedezz Жыл бұрын
Best storyteller and best KZfaqr 💯 Infact imma go buy me some merch RIGHT NOW!
@gray8916 Жыл бұрын
So true!!
@_se3_thru9h_9 Жыл бұрын
As Monroe from Grimm said: ‘A wedding is SUPPOSED to be overwhelming so you don’t want to do it again!’
@Diarrheagod 6 ай бұрын
That must be why people only ever get married once
@Lauren-7777 Жыл бұрын
She is proficient in sarcasm I thought it wasn't possible to get this level and I just can resist my ears are beyond happy to hear her.
@puddin12dt Жыл бұрын
You should DEFINITELY do a Dark History of Diamonds, that could be a 3-parter, so much juicy history there. 💎💍
@katelyns419 Жыл бұрын
Blood diamond!
@samanthastikeleather4521 Жыл бұрын
she has to include jewels coming from a fallen angel ❤
@TheRumours13 Жыл бұрын
Diamonds, mica, general slaves and child labour today.
@nvm5016 Жыл бұрын
True... I don't want diamond. I want either rose quarts, amethyst, or black tourmaline. My christan grandparents are gonna be shook after my wedding. Nothing is gonna be like the traditional wedding.
@larenahernandez3995 Жыл бұрын
@@katelyns419 Came here just to say this!
@miltoncat Жыл бұрын
I told my husband that if he shoved cake in my face, I would turn around, walk out, and go straight to a courthouse to get the marriage annulled.
@shaec3405 Жыл бұрын
A men!
@BABYPINKSUSHI Жыл бұрын
I threw the cake at my husbands face soo I’m the dominant being
@miltoncat Жыл бұрын
@@BABYPINKSUSHI ha! To be fair, I didn’t smash cake in his face either. I love cake too much for that.
@abbynormal3068 Жыл бұрын
@@miltoncat 😄
@datheamore6395 Жыл бұрын
We just lightly put icing on each other's noses and handed each other a napkin. The photographer got a picture of us making funny faces as we went to wipe our noses. It is one of my favorite pictures of us.😊
@adeleennis2255 Жыл бұрын
I double majored in history and women’s studies because I wanted her story too.
@sabrinacochran9808 Жыл бұрын
Love this ❤
@ShanePodClips Жыл бұрын
I always thought the government wanted us to get married so if one of you dies, the other can just assume all your debt. 😳
@emilymonson1 Жыл бұрын
What about the dark history of funerals? I feel like they are so unnecessarily expensive!
@cookiemonstersgirl5630 Жыл бұрын
Agreed!!!
@susannaj1758 Жыл бұрын
Yes!! And most funeral homes will prey on the emotions of the family to spend more, "show how much you cared for them" cause you know, the dead will know and care.
@DarkFire1536 Жыл бұрын
Great idea. I want to be cremated and then everyone can eat food. The end.
@emilymonson1 Жыл бұрын
@@susannaj1758 honestly! It is so crazy and sad how much they prey on innocent people and families!
@emilymonson1 Жыл бұрын
@@DarkFire1536 same lol
@MissMeggarz142 Жыл бұрын
Bailey seems rejuvenated thanks to her break. I love how she makes you feel like she is your one cool friend that is going to educate AND entertain you. Bailey is MAGIC! 💜💐💐🌈
@thoahxbzjsn6610 Жыл бұрын
Yes
@nyclady27 Жыл бұрын
I still feel her disappointment. But... 😔🌹☘ I eloped! That, and a couple of other choices I've made, and although a young women of 22, I didn't have a clue about marriage! I still don't and we've been married for decades. 👍 ☮ 😱
@marinamelo1246 Жыл бұрын
Hey Bailey just thought I'd let you know the true origin of the word "history", even though His Story fits like a glove, it comes from historía (Ancient Greek: ἱστορία, romanized: historíā) meaning to inquire or to judge 😊 Have a great day and keep teaching us more!
@marielledelaine Жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying weddings are Cringe at every corner! That totally explains how I feel about them! I have felt so..... blech, uncomfortable, whatever, about weddings for years now. It's not because I'm single and bitter LOL it's really just.... a huge pointless and expensive performance for WHO?! I have seen a few of these performances and those folks are already divorced so i'm just like..... why...?..... but thanks for the food and drinks!
@Loralanthalas Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Diarrheagod 6 ай бұрын
People have big egos and just wanna live the fantasy of being a celebrity for a day
@erinhansen614 5 ай бұрын
It's for your guests silly
@britt9861 Жыл бұрын
"That's what we do best ladies...bring shame to the family" 😂😂
@berthaschwarze6704 Жыл бұрын
Female history in one sentence
@leahflower9924 Жыл бұрын
True lol
@angelamurphy4938 Жыл бұрын
We ate the apple that started it all....
@karmica7591 Жыл бұрын
Favorite new quote. We nasty ladies.
@flyingfig12 Жыл бұрын
@@angelamurphy4938 what do they expect.. they started off as a man's rib after all.
@lehannaallen Жыл бұрын
My partner and I thought it would be fun to have a "We are each other's Emergency Contact" party.
@tironnarexxmorriss2883 Жыл бұрын
Love this idea
@elaic19 Жыл бұрын
Love that lol
@amy-leacoopertwiggyvonlea8969 Жыл бұрын
amazing lol
@candacecasey5222 Жыл бұрын
Lol
@therealzahyra 11 ай бұрын
Can I just say: You should open a school for the neurodiverse. You're THE ONLY person that I can listen to for hours without needing to speed up the video and can keep my ADHD brain focused and pay attention and actually learn stuff about history. You are a goddess.
@cathychase663 5 ай бұрын
same
@carryemetcalf8216 5 ай бұрын
I could not agree more!! I would go to that school all year round! I listen to her literally all the time. Vacuuming, shower, driving, just sitting there watching her videos. She keeps my mind distracted and personally, I LOVE that way she tells us about these people and/or events.
@Synfulz. 4 ай бұрын
Can assure you it’s not an ADHD thing.
@FoxRogers Ай бұрын
Same
@stella-kb4tp Жыл бұрын
love how bailey has pajamas and a wedding veil on at the same time
@steffiew6935 Жыл бұрын
I love when Bailey says ‘exspecially’ because she is so consistent with saying it wrong. It makes me smile. I say ‘excsape’ wrong every time.
@PiXie232 Жыл бұрын
It is super cute:)
@coco-cliveasmrgenealogy6171 Жыл бұрын
I say yacht wrong and economy wrong
@bethcraig5206 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely loving dark history, Bailey really genuinely seems to be enjoying herself now
@sfspurri Жыл бұрын
Agree!! They finally gave Bailey the freedom to be Bailey and haven’t overly produced her. This is the Bailey we all have known and loved and I’m glad they realized there’s more than just her name for why we watch her! 💕
@chanelfitzgerald Жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed this week too. I haven't watched many lately but definitely back on it.
@constanzaesposito6333 Жыл бұрын
Feeling the same there was really a time where she did the job was funny but over the top funny and it seemed masked. Now she kinda got over that. I love her!
@britnysnyder4991 Жыл бұрын
Was she not enjoying herself at one point? Or what do you mean? Lol
@constanzaesposito6333 Жыл бұрын
@@britnysnyder4991 yea I really felt like she was kinda just doing it because that's her job now. Tried to be funny and all but it wasn't really her, some mikro expressions gave that away. And now she really is in the tea having fun looking really destressed and happy
@waterlily2743 Жыл бұрын
I literally had a courthouse wedding we got our marriage license and then scheduled an appointment to have a judge sign it off. The judge was actually happy he really loved doing weddings, He said it was a nice break from the divorce proceedings.
@InsaneLaughter01 Жыл бұрын
As long as folks treat marriage like a trend, there will always be divorces. 🤷🏻♀️
@Synfulz. 4 ай бұрын
@@InsaneLaughter01Liturally this!!! I know people who get engaged to every partner and it lasts a year and there ends up being no wedding. I’ve never had that nor would I want anyone to propose so early on it’s just strange and pointless and a desp attempt of commitment. lol 😂” take this ring now u have promised not to cheat” like a ring has stopped someone cheating.
@verbinrain Жыл бұрын
Me over here: “Babylon sounds like OG Handmaid’s Tale.” Bailey: “you know, like Handmaid’s Tale. And if the wife was caught cheating, she and her lover were bound together and thrown in a river.” Me: “ALSO LIKE HANDMAID’S TALE!”
@stephaniekeeler1924 Жыл бұрын
I got married in a backyard and handmade everything, from decor to my wedding dress. My mom's husband made all the food, me and my mom made benchs and tables (and sold them after the wedding) and my sister in law did the photography. Cost like $1500 after selling the table sets 🥰 And my ring wasn't a 'wedding ring' it was a black stone (my fav) and like $400 lol.
@wolfiesasha887 Жыл бұрын
That's so cute 🥰
@cjofloorish Жыл бұрын
The best wedding!
@Chefnxss Жыл бұрын
That sounds so wonderful!! And way more meaningful
@b.a.j5168 Жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!! Mine was definitely a community effort... it was perfect 🥰
@cassandrarudolph1307 Жыл бұрын
I seen bench dyi very creative way to make things U thought smart how to save $ So many go out and spend thousands on 1 day of a event. Sure it’s important but I can’t see spending over $10.000 on one day! Those benches must of been upper nice
@jordanb.6675 Жыл бұрын
Petition for a series where Bailey deep dives into Disney stories and other fairy tales!!! 📝✍️😆
@shalinitiwariscorner5210 Жыл бұрын
Same ! She needs to dissect into those lores.
@leahgathoni3730 Жыл бұрын
I conquer 😂
@daisflowers99 Жыл бұрын
I'd sign
@2Madre Жыл бұрын
Toooo dark 🙈
@hayliemarie1281 Жыл бұрын
YESSS
@dpzamora11 Жыл бұрын
My brother is getting married next weekend and I’m half tempted to share this with him just for fun 😂😂😂
@mamallama826 Жыл бұрын
Did you? 🤣
@user-rq3yh9ew8l 8 ай бұрын
Yeah did you?!?!
@katryd9295 Жыл бұрын
I got married two years ago during COVID and we kept it small. We did the dress, my sisters were bridesmaids, and we had a friend make us cheesecakes rather than a big wedding cake. It was more intimate and personal and we were with our nearest and dearest family members and friends. We even wanted that before COVID. We didn’t want to do the bouquet toss or the garter. We didn’t have a big dance party (just a friend with a speaker set up playing violin versions of popular music). And it was the best day ever. I’m hoping to see more of a trend that direction because for me, a lot of wanting a smaller wedding was because of cost and the icky consumerism of it all. And it ended up being absolutely perfect for us. Also-with what you said about Vegas weddings-I’d say it’s the same case with courthouse weddings too, which is so sad because those weddings can be incredibly sweet and intimate too.
@lisaverzosa9586 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I agreed not to shove cake in each other's faces, he got all dressed up and I spent like 2 hours on my makeup
@laughingcorrpseholly4136 Жыл бұрын
Right?! Lol
@mariaharrington8708 Жыл бұрын
Same! Such disrespect
@derryceanderson2371 Жыл бұрын
She killed me with ladies who like an "Arby's Sandwich" she has the most hilarious descriptions for both female and male genitalia. I love her to pieces. 💞
@hannahquinteroart Жыл бұрын
One historical account that Bailey should look into which is pretty dark is regarding the Pied Piper of Hamlin. At least 100-200 children disappeared under mysterious circumstances.
@kadysousa5678 Жыл бұрын
I’m dying laughing at the thought of these Spartans chasing each other around a dark room 😂
@coleenfrancisify Жыл бұрын
hahaha ur not the only one!
@rainbowduck4496 Жыл бұрын
All of these facts aside, its so much more important to be on the same page as the person you're with. If one of you wants a big wedding but the other couldn't care less and would be happy to elope in a McDonald's you're going to clash badly.
@TheSlong123 Жыл бұрын
Usually when a groom smashes the cake into the bride's face, when she specifically asks him not to, and she gets upset as well afterward, it's a sure sign that it won't last. There's animosity disguised as something fun and cute mixed with disrespect. A million wedding photographers and planners can't be wrong. And as for the burning bush...there's a cream for that.
@The_Cherokee_Gypsy Жыл бұрын
I tell you what. I know my husband wouldn’t smash it in my face, cause your right, it wouldn’t last. It’s disrespectful if you ask me. To each their own though lol
@summer-xt1gg Жыл бұрын
I read a comment from a wedding photographer saying it’s a somewhat reliable litmus test to predict which couples break up too!
@butterbeanqueen8148 Жыл бұрын
To me it’s always been a power play from the groom. Expressing dominance immediately after getting married. Like I don’t have to respect my wife. So it makes sense that it’s a predictor of the marriages viability.
@lesliecall2923 Жыл бұрын
I've always heard it's bad luck to smash cake in the face. Definitely makes sense that there is some underlying psychology type of stuff to it too.
@marandadavis9412 Жыл бұрын
@@The_Cherokee_Gypsy same here. I specifically told him that if he did, there would be a fight and he wouldn't win
@aubedawn2 Жыл бұрын
Giving a diamond as an engagement ring is also rooted back to medieval times when they believed different stones held different powers of protection (described in their medical textbooks called "lapidaries"). Emeralds, for example, protected against poison, and pearls could prevent heart failure, etc etc. The diamond was believed to be the catch-all, be-all of stones, believing that it was the best overall stone to protect against most myriad of things, so to gift your new bride a diamond was to say that you were trying to protect her from most harm that could come her way.
@evelinaz1548 Жыл бұрын
this is so interesting!! literally only thought that came about because of the debeers
@LadyPictureShowMedia 11 ай бұрын
i seriously got an awesome one! it may make a pretty necklace one day!!!! jk
@ingemoers420 Жыл бұрын
Okay, this episode was so interesting to me. I loved to learn about the history of marriage, I am getting married in May 2023 to my boyfriend, on our 10th anniversary. I am from the Netherlands so my dream was to have my wedding the "American way", because the traditions in the Netherlands are quite different. You see, my fiance is going to get me from my parents place, Where I will be sleeping the evening and night before the wedding, and that is where he Will see me for the first time in my dress and all. I never really liked that idea, because I always thought that me and my dad walking down the aisle was more of a "blessing" to my dad, since I am a real big daddy's girl. Now I'm thinking, this, the Dutch way, is really sweet too. Because it's a blessing for my parents to see my husband to be, taking me to our wedding location from their house, the house I grew up in, it has something special now i think about it. Idk, I normally don't comment because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say, but now I wanted to make an exception. I litteraly cannot wait to be wedded to him, because I always thought it was an honor to be able to carry his last name, although I'm not sure if that is also done the same way I'm America? 🤔 anyways thank you Bailey for helping me see the beauty in my own county's traditions. Now I see and understand not anything, including wedding traditions, have to be the American way,! I love you so much Bailey, thanks for everything and all your hard work!!!❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
@MistaMaine. Жыл бұрын
I wish you and ur boyfriend all the best. Nothing but happiness and joy🌼 This was beautiful to read.
@krisy-in-italy Жыл бұрын
Inge, the Dutch way sounds lovely. I’d go for that. Wishing you the very best! 💜
@ingemoers420 Жыл бұрын
@@krisy-in-italy thankyou so much for your sweet and kind words! 🥺🌹 so sweet of you to comment! I am indeed going to do it "the dutch way!"✨️✨️
@ingemoers420 Жыл бұрын
@@MistaMaine. thankyou so so much for your sweet comment!! Brought me Joy! 😊⚘️🥰 same goes to you tho, nothing but happiness, bliss, and joy to you too!!
@joanodom2104 Жыл бұрын
Well, in less than three months, you shall be marrying your love of ten years! I don't even know you, but I am so very happy for you and your future husband. I actually love the tradition of your country and I definitely think you should have him retrieve you from your parent's home, in your wedding dress. I think it is sweet and more private and meaningful. I wish you every happiness life can offer! PS your English is excellent.
@Theivoryparadox Жыл бұрын
Bailey! If those are Dark History Jammies go ahead and make those available so you can take my money.😅 So cute
@kaykatt Жыл бұрын
Hope everyone who sees this comment knows they are amazing and I'm rooting for you in all you do! Stay strong my perfects
@harmdizzle1979 Жыл бұрын
You too! We love a positivity queen!!
@seandersg Жыл бұрын
You don't know everyone here... what if you are rooting for someone to be amazing at family annihilation or something? 😂
@avshay24 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kay for the amazing positive comment. And YES, I totally agree with you and I too am rooting for all out there. I love a major positive attitude. It’s hard to find one lately, and it’s super sad.
@Jane-Doe.1126 Жыл бұрын
Thank you no one ever says that to me.
@amberyoung4425 Жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! Thank you! 💜
@chloe5555 Жыл бұрын
I'm proud to say my wedding costed less than 2k for 2 venues, food, flowers, photographer, dress, husband's tux etc. Everyone thought it was a 20k wedding, but my dress was a closeout for $75, decor came from goodwill, we made the food and cake ourselves, flower arrangements were done by some volunteers from bulk bought flowers etc. Weddings can be done cheaply and still look amazing with creativity and hard work/planning. And a dash of luck 😆
@rhearamkhelawan348 Жыл бұрын
I sense extra sass in this one - and I am here for IT!
@LdyJezabel Жыл бұрын
You could do a series when it comes to weddings. So many different cultures do different and strange things for weddings. Not mention the ones where they marry the entire family. I did enjoy this episode.
@andreawhite6585 Жыл бұрын
I’m 36, never been married, I’d be fine if it never happens. Especially having been in not one but TWO abusive relationships, freedom is glorious! I never fantasized about any dream weddings as a child like they do in the movies lol. But even if I had money to spend I still would never want a big expensive wedding. Literally go to the courthouse and have a fun party afterwards with loved ones.
@angelac141 Жыл бұрын
I could have wrote this only difference I'm 38 haha
@ohyesitsjackies Жыл бұрын
Totally agree about not spending tons and going totally over the top! Both my siblings had big grand weddings, and although they were beautiful my fiancé and I are going a totally different route. Exactly what you said, we’re going to go to the courthouse and then have a party after with just family and close friends (not every person we’ve ever met lol). We want it to be about our love for each other and not about putting on a spectacle for everyone else.
@andrijana5723 Жыл бұрын
i always looked up to my great grandma 'cause she got married at 28 in times where girls still usually got married at a very young age (15-18) and she agreed to give birth to only one kid and that's it, lived like a lady
@menmykrazycat8129 Жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏
@jacquihesher5424 Жыл бұрын
She sounds smart
@RB-rd9lq Жыл бұрын
My grandma was the same! Lived her best life and got married at 29 🤩
@mariadacosta7264 Жыл бұрын
She sounds like a smart lady! My grandmother married at 28, thinking she'd be a spinster forever, because her beau was forced to take over the family business when his brother eloped and left him in the lurch. But they eventually were able to marry. Had 5 kids (because they didn't know a thing about birth control) and were very happy together. Raised their kids in a Bristol, UK, during WWII.
@Wynter_Heat Жыл бұрын
@9:50 after marriage she is no longer “a VEIL able” 🤣🤭 great line 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@conciouscleo1880 Жыл бұрын
His-Story... This feels like the time I realised Rapidash was a play on rapid-dash. I sat there doing nothing but thinking about how silly I felt for not seeing it sooner, about what other Pokémon puns I could be missing out on. The world is our oyster, and these puns are the beauties that are pearls.
@ouwebrood497 Жыл бұрын
Everage woman: Marriage is about LOVE! Bailey looking at history: Marriage is about procreation, submission, social control and spending money.
@user-bx8sj6qm3w Жыл бұрын
Based bailey
@maryg3143 Жыл бұрын
@@user-bx8sj6qm3w Bailey is correct.
@lilyt18 Жыл бұрын
She’s RIGHT and I’m here for it. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️
@Kese157 Жыл бұрын
Many cultures still utilize the same practice
@tironnarexxmorriss2883 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree with Bailey
@ohyesitsjackies Жыл бұрын
“Let’s see that back-end Bertha” almost made me spit my coffee out 😂
@mariannahusztik Жыл бұрын
"She brokey, no workey" 🤣
@packersgirl1978 Жыл бұрын
Same! 😂
@lydiaacret4649 Жыл бұрын
DO A DARK HISTORY on Birthdays 🎉 and Funerals 🙂🖤🫶
@KhaleesiDelRey Жыл бұрын
That lip is PERFECTION! I need to find a color that blends with my skin like that.
@greeranelson Жыл бұрын
Yesssssss how I always have felt: “it’s like a series of unfortunate events…a cringe around every corner”
@RowanWarren78 Жыл бұрын
Without the addition of the bride wearing men's attire, it's actually tradition for some Orthodox Jewish women to have their head shaved upon being wedded. Of course, they would proceed to wear a wig, but shaving the head was viewed to be the removal of an element that existed before becoming someone's wife.
@bethwadeson9527 Жыл бұрын
My third marriage, yes my third marriage, was at a county clerk's office and my mother who had severe dementia was my witness 🤣. We are still actually married and four times longer than either of my first two marriages. My advice is wait till you're older to do that stuff. Life is crazy🤗
@nonniperkl6273 Жыл бұрын
My parents got married on a whole another continent fron their home with two Chinese dudes as their witnesses. Went to mcdonalds for lunch afterwards. They had their silver anniversary few years ago
@faylinameir Жыл бұрын
I got married at 16 at a court house. Still together almost 20 years later. 😊
@tammyjoseph2417 Жыл бұрын
My ten marriage
@crazedmom23 Жыл бұрын
My second marriage was in 1999 and we're still hanging on. Lol....We drove to Memphis and got married at Justice of the Peace then went to McDonald's to eat. Lol. I did the whole fancy wedding thing with the first wedding and it lasted 5 years.
@gigijerrie322 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@Lady.V Жыл бұрын
I love that Dark History is going strong and that the MMM Monday episodes are back too! They are getting me through a very hard time and I love that Bailey is continuing this and just going hard for us all out here 💖
@feveneddy Жыл бұрын
Love your videos. I got married at a courthouse and I didn’t regret anything. My uncle spent over $75,000 and got divorced in one year. Marriage has nothing to do with the wedding ring or the party ( it’s nice to have) ❤
@milyorozco1196 Жыл бұрын
Hahahaha between "the dark room sounds pretty hot" and "nuts to your face", I'm dying. Great dark history video like always ♡
@PiXie232 Жыл бұрын
The nuts to the face had me dying too lol😂😂😂
@raelogix Жыл бұрын
As a native to Chicago, getting thrown in the river is literally my worst fear. I’d never make it in ancient times.
@leahflower9924 Жыл бұрын
Haha did you ever read The Jungle 😅
@chixgotskillz Жыл бұрын
That's how my parents tried to 'teach' me to swim...I didn't, now I'm just scared of the water 😔
@JH-we7xf Жыл бұрын
Bailey's hair always looks so perfect.. can we get some product plugs for your hair too? 👀
@_..._3453 Жыл бұрын
I'm Hmong and in my culture (back in the day) if you wanted to marry a girl, all you had to do was kidnap her and she would have to marry you. My father is very traditional, but this was one of the traditions he said he was happy ended. He said because he wouldn't want to have to k!ll someone for taking me XD made my day when he said that.
@Evehjm Жыл бұрын
I had my wedding in my husband’s grandparents backyard…super small, cute, intimate, classy! Not stressful at all!! I think we spent $600 and that was just on the catering. It was absolutely perfect🥺❤️
@BreeValerie Жыл бұрын
Props to you for doing it so lowkey with such a small budget. Hopefully more people choose this type of parties
@evelyonbyrd758 Жыл бұрын
Me and my husband did the exact same thing it was his family, another Evelyon j in the world
@Evehjm Жыл бұрын
@@evelyonbyrd758 love that for us ❤️
@angeniquehopkins5246 Жыл бұрын
My daughters were 9&10 when they started their menstrual, my oldest baby only cried cuz she wanted to go bac to the park and play! I couldn't imagine marrying them off at that age!!!🤦🏽♀️
@BaileySarian Жыл бұрын
so wild, right?
@MelissaThompson432 Жыл бұрын
They put growth hormone in vegetables now: kids enter puberty years sooner now, and they grow to be 6+ feet tall....
@reginamushi6582 Жыл бұрын
@@BaileySarian Thank Bailey for doing this, you are doing an incredible job!
@RowanWarren78 Жыл бұрын
I was only 11. It's scary to think that, if that occured in this era, instead of 1989, and I had become impregnated at that age because of SA, I would now be required to carry and give birth to my attackers baby. Furthermore, if I couldn't prove the assault on court, he could ask for shared custody.
@dawnlilymc Жыл бұрын
Definitely not trying to justify the tradition (it's horrifying!) but ancient women often started their cycles much later than modern women due to poor nutrition and other health issues. So there probably weren't any 9 & 10 year old brides outside of possibly nobility. Lots of early to late teens, of course, but not often before that.
@Ladysalvador Жыл бұрын
The whole money making industry isn’t just weddings. Every holiday, especially Christmas is a huge money maker for the industry and we all go along with it lol
@RNslayer22 2 ай бұрын
Watching this after already being opposed to rushing into marriage and having a wedding , solidifies my choices and I feel so blessed to be woken on this money making traditions that so many fall into. Thank you Bailey for educating us on this topic, it was very much needed when being pressured at a young age. 🙏🏽❤️
@katienunez1340 Жыл бұрын
Joan makes such a beautiful blushing bride! I wish her and Paul all the happiness in the world.
@nicolebrown1927 Жыл бұрын
I love me some Joan!💙😁
@RowanWarren78 Жыл бұрын
Absolute cutie-patootie!!
@nataliechavira3288 Жыл бұрын
I can’t wait until my kids are old enough to use Dark History as social studies supplementary learning. I swear I’d remember so much more in school with Bailey as teacher 🤩
@earthmamma85 7 ай бұрын
I’m married, didn’t want a traditional wedding… got a traditional wedding. It was definitely a celebration for everyone else. It’s been 17 years and I still get a touch upset about it all. 😢
@confucius2833 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I both agreed no cake smashing. He doesn’t like his face being played with, and I didn’t want the makeup ruined. Especially since I don’t really wear makeup, I wanted to enjoy having it on at least that day
@halfdeafdragon420 Жыл бұрын
The nerve of Joan to show up to Baileys wedding in a veil smdh
@bbyjscx Жыл бұрын
I love joan 🤣
@louisejohnson6057 Жыл бұрын
It's like those mother-in-law's of the bride that we hear about. They show up in a white floor length dress, that's also lace, and has a small train. Joan isn't that bad, but you're correct, she's got a lot of nerve. ✌from 🇨🇦
@Genie2386 Жыл бұрын
Ahhh, something tells me this is the episode I can send my family to get them off my case about getting married 😆
@ericlawson8155 Жыл бұрын
Might work!
@ally24688 Жыл бұрын
I literally just sent this to my mom😂
@anosjc Жыл бұрын
my whole family, relatives, distant family are after me to get married and I have no interest
@sarahhall8406 3 ай бұрын
Watched this while getting ready for our Valentine's Day elopement at the courthouse! Completely agree, it's about you and that person.❤
@MsArri81 Жыл бұрын
I've Been married twice. The first marriage I was totally brainwashed into the American standard of weddings, though It was a smallish affair on a small budget with family and a few friends but it was extremely stressful with planning a venue, a reception and spending WAY too much on a dress that I only wore once! And of course it was a marriage doomed to fail. The Second time around we made an appointment to get married at the county clerk's building, the location was still really nice because it was outdoors on the harbor and with a simple ceremony. I ordered my dress from Amazon and only paid $40 for it and arranged my own bridal bouquet. We also ordered our rings off Amazon. Two friends attended and one took photos. My husband was happy because he could still wear jeans with a dress shirt and a snappy blazer. I loved how the photos came out! It was perfect and stress free!
@ashleyhuze Жыл бұрын
“Cringe around every corner..”😂😂😂 lol I’ve never really thought about it but you’re right! me & my husband eloped and didn’t even tell our fam🫣 total cost was $50 to sign our license 🙃
@EleniKouvelou Жыл бұрын
As a Greek..I laughed a bit too much " bragging ouu my daughter is getting married to the olive oil family " 🤣🤣🤣
@emmat5267 Жыл бұрын
Loved this video Bailey, great content as usual. Maybe you could do a video on the Vikings sometime in the future? They really did a lot of interesting stuff and I haven’t found many videos about them on here. Thanks again to you and your team for posting these videos, they are the highlight of my week ☺️
@ronjakinnunen9163 Жыл бұрын
Im once again asking for the episode "the dark history of getting thrown in the river" 🙏
@stephaniewilkinson4496 Жыл бұрын
Another fun fact: The whole concept of holding flowers walking down the aisle originated from when people had the yearly baths and apparently weddings were most common around April due to the nicer weather but it was still two months away from the yearly bath as they were usually in June for some reason so the holding of flowers when walking down the aisle and past the guests was to disguise the smell of sweat 👀
@danamardell1209 Жыл бұрын
That's disgusting
@jessicavardeman6543 Жыл бұрын
It’s also not true. While people in the 18th century had clothes for seasons, people even farmers bathed more than once a year. If they didn’t have a well people bathed in natural waters such as creeks. Yes, people did use flowers as perfume, but not because they bathed yearly….did people have terrible hygiene compared to now? Yes. But that statement was a HUGE exaggeration.
@kacy9892 Жыл бұрын
I don't think that's entirely accurate ngl. I do 15th century medieval england reenactment and we have historically accurate showers and hand washing systems. Which there are texts corroborating this. Now I don't know about the earlier centuries, but cleanliness was close to godliness so they would have been clean, especially on a wedding. To today's standards they wouldn't have been the same, but they had the means to shower and be clean, as well as having soap and natural deodorant, like the natural flowers and herbs as well as using rose water. So 🤷🏻♀️
@davidvento5481 Жыл бұрын
Bailey neglected to mention the rice or nuts being thrown represents fertility (seeds) and the guests throwing it is symbolically wishing the couple a long, fruitful life. Recently it was discovered that birds who ate the rice sometimes died because it expanded in their stomach so the custom changed to throwing confetti. Also, the “honey-wine” the newlyweds drank in antiquity is called “Mead” and it still exists (mainly in Europe.)
@SombreroPharoah Жыл бұрын
@@kacy9892 I find it interesting how people think people ate really bland foods back then too. As a side note. Things like hogweed seed, Alexander seed, Avens root and many more. They're flavours we're actually way stronger and often better than ours today. Most of which are just normalised because they were fancy expensive imports. I'm looking at you black pepper and cinnamon especially
@cam20118 Жыл бұрын
I’ve always rejected the idea of being married since I was a girl. Always thought it was so misogynistic and patriarchal and I would have an extremely non-traditional wedding if anything. But the idea itself I don’t like the history of and what it has always meant. This just further confirmed everything I believed and felt. Thank you for doing a video on this! You had me cracking up the whole time.
@brandinelson7941 Жыл бұрын
"A lady who loves other ladies. You love an Arby's sandwich" 🤣 The scream I just scrumpt!!!
@rebeccalaufenberg4069 Жыл бұрын
My wedding day was very chill and simple. My stepson was with us and also my husbands sister and one of my best friends as witnesses 🥰 afterwards we went to a restaurant and had a nice meal. than we took some photos at a park. it was end of february and just perfect.
@courtneytuten9587 Жыл бұрын
" I say some because I know some of you get tired and just go to bed. " Way to call me out bailey 😂😂
@mizzprettyhuston Жыл бұрын
"Let's say you're a lady that loves another lady, you love an Arby's sandwich" Girl you're hilarious!
@TheRumours13 Жыл бұрын
Your storytelling never fails. You're awesome.
@KM-tk2ih Жыл бұрын
This one made me angry, but I knew what I was in for. I hate marriage. Great job! 😉💜
@alyssabird720 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I had 10 people at our wedding and spent less than 1k. We also did NOT do the garter thing cause EWWW! We just got a room instead.. .
@BaileySarian Жыл бұрын
love that!!
@AllTheHappySquirrels Жыл бұрын
My husband and I had a hike-in wedding with no traditions or religion. It was a great day!
@aleishataylor973 Жыл бұрын
Mine was similar, we basically had no wedding traditions, especially the garter thing 🤢 if my husband put his head up my dress in front of my family, I’d knee him in the face
@alexshaw8167 Жыл бұрын
Since I was a kid I’ve thought the garter “search” is so inappropriate for a wedding
@jaime4890 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I got married in our preachers living room. The only people there were the preacher, his wife and son. I wore jeans and a flannel shirt. Had my hair in a messy bun. I wouldn’t change a thing. Best decision ever.
@ravensalters5769 Жыл бұрын
Yep I feel you. Got married in jeans and t-shirt, after Sunday service I ran up to the front of the church and asked the preacher who's my cousin if he could marry my husband and I real quick before church dismissed. Loved it, simple, not costly, and meant as much as a million dollars to us!!!
@abbynormal3068 Жыл бұрын
I love that!!
@mollya4772 Жыл бұрын
Great episode! And I LOVE Joan Crowford's veil 😂❤
@jojodiaz75 3 ай бұрын
I love love this!! I am looking for a simple “backyard” feel wedding and I was doubting myself but you have literally reassured my process! lol 🙏🏼
@alyssagarcia5290 Жыл бұрын
Bailey and mrballen should totally do an episode together - “mrbailey” -KZfaq’s greatest storytellers united!
@jessicatompkins4703 Жыл бұрын
YASS!!!
@justinastylski5185 Жыл бұрын
YES!!!!
@justinastylski5185 Жыл бұрын
Great idea Alyssa
@rossiieeee Жыл бұрын
Who's he?? Tell me more please 😁🥺
@aylashaded8705 Жыл бұрын
I totally ship this!!!
@kristiblankenship3033 Жыл бұрын
Watching this AS I do my makeup for my wedding today 😅💍
@neemaj15 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations!
@maresdreams8731 Жыл бұрын
Congrats some of us wishhhh
@elizabethhayward8238 Жыл бұрын
Hope you are both very happy and that you had an amazing day. LOL.
@kimberlydominguez8370 10 ай бұрын
Just found your channel. Love it. Thanks for all you do!
@milehighspice Жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this learning experience of marriages thank you for doing all that hard work and research, it was very enlightening!!
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