As soon as the mom said " if you kick him out, I'm leaving too" a few spots would have opened up at my table🤣🤣🤣✌🏾

Attention seeking is real out there, some people can’t comprehend that a wedding is a special day for the couple. They’re so many days and ways to propose.

Y'all should have read the comments on this thread. Because OP said he and his wife were not even expecting. He was being petty as hell 😂😂😂😂

Grandma is spicy 😂😂

Proposing at someone's wedding or someone's event is just extremely lazy. Not only is it mad disrespectful,its showing your partner they dont deserve better than a piggyback at someone's event

The Nan’s amazing. He needed that support. The mum obviously has a favourite and it’s not him.

James saying he isn't bitter like that has me side eyeing him because... since when? 🤣

Imagine proposing at a setting that your brother and his wife paid for? Like how lazy are you?

My thing is if you’re never going to see them why do they even need to know about your engagement??? Absolutely not

The mom and brother are pricks The sibling said no, he should have moved on. And who is the mom to intervene anyway? It's HER/HIS wedding, even though you are a parent, it's not your day. That mom has FAVOURITES and it's ridiculous P. S. I agree with James saying to do it at the end after the dance and cake, that's really nice and it's a good compromise

My sister, knowing I was going to propose to my now wife, actually asked me to do it at her wedding, using the entire family would be there reason. I was like nah that’s your day and she really insisted that it would make the wedding even better if we got engaged there. It ended up being awesome. Shout out to her for that!

“Who are you sorry”😭😭

What throws me about the story is that they're using the excuse of family being there but at the same time it's like he doesn't care about any of his girlfriend's family being there to see it because they obviously wouldn't be there unless the missing link to the story is that there are really old family friends so her parents and siblings were there but I doubt it

The disrespect to his brand new sister-in-law is wild! She's put all that effort into planning her wedding, and you want to overshadow her like that without even asking her, and going behind her back by asking the brother instead. I don't think he realises in the battle between the wife and him, he'll back his wife every time.

people proposing at others weddings - remind me of when theres a birthday cake and some kid (who is not the birthday kid) is constantly trying to blow out the candles. because they cant fathom something is not about them

James your wife will loose her shit if you let your siblings propose at your wedding

Hey, fair is fair. Mom should have just charged it and kept her mouth shut.

“I can never have attention me….” James is a bold-faced effin lie 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You asked, he said no. Respect it. The moment mum and brother moved mad like this they should have been disinvited. The lack of care and respect is wild and I wouldn't be able to forget it, especially as it seems apparent that it is probably the last thing in a list of scenarios in which the brother was favoured. I can love you from a distance, my peace and that of my spouse is going to be protected.

Those siblings had beef long before the wedding and mom is the culprit. My mom is just that type.

If I spent a year plus planning one day, you best believe this day is for me and my wife

but why do all those extended family members have to be present at a PROPOSAL??? since when is that even a thing??? they just dont want to be bother to call them all to tell them about it.

i mean they say to do onto others as they do to you so seems pretty fair 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

"I have the screenshots and the text to prove this" They kept ALL the receipts! 😆

Favorite child can't do no wrong

lmao “who are you” is crazy 😂😂😂

"WHO ARE YOU?! WHY ARE YOU SPEAKING?" had me dead 😭😭.

Before I heard the scenario I knew there was a mom involved letting this nonsense happen 😂 he should have told him to pay for the time a lot to propose.. weddings can be expensive and they are PLANNED for a reason. You wanna propose? Run me $1000 and you can do what you want 🤷🏻‍♀️

A cute way to do it if it was permitted would have your wife “toss” the bouquet at the girl he wants to propose at the end and he drop down on one knee 🤷🏾‍♀️

even if you dont like the spotlight it's still disrespectful of someone to propose at your wedding

James know damn well he’s not saying that to his mom 😂

Stop picking favourites😂😂😂 fair play

Grandma is genuinely the 🐐

Seems like the feelings of the wife was left out.

I need that granny update…..she on point

Mum is bad vibes ngl😂😂

I'm sitting next to Grandma at every event

That first family scenarios and announcements at weddings...messy, petty, toxic and dysfunctional and mum has a favourite son. Shame on her for the duplicity.

Charlotte Dobre will be on this story next!

But would it really make sense and not just be attention seeking because would the girlfriend's family be there to see her get proposed to?? Wouldn't that matter too? I doubt her family would be at her boyfriend's brother's wedding.

Oh he's an asshole alright 😭, but he's not THE asshole. I think his grudge is justified. As an aside, proposing at another person's wedding is lazy and uninspired. You are benefiting from someone else's hard work in planning, and their financial and emotional investment. Someone's wedding is representative of their journey together, nothing there is unique to your and your partner's process. It always gives "I'm too lazy to do anything effortful or creative". Such a weird thing to do.

For me it's about consent. Sure it's a bit harsh for her to completely deny him given the circumstances. But she said NO, the reason does not matter and they completely disregard her consent. So I'm on her side for the revenge part. People who don't respect clear boundaries don't deserve your energy.

The family is only in town for that one day? Oh well, they'll be back for your wedding when it's time 🤷🏾‍♀️

I went to a wedding where the groom was doing his vows and said "if my brother dare proposes at this wedding, I hope he knows she's going to say no." Groom was the gf's BFF and already knew she was considering breaking up with him.

That's why I love Desi weddings they are easy no one offended if women wear same color or their wedding dresses, and proposing and announcing other family members' good news are more fun.

When James says stuff like “why are speaking” it truly cracks me up bro ima start using that one 🤣🤣🤣

I've seen video's of weddings where the bride and groom are happy to allow other moments, and it's beautiful. I personally would too. I don't believe in the "it's my day" mentality. But you should definitely ask, and you should definitely respect the wishes of the bride and groom. Anything else is intentionally disrespecting them, and you shouldn't be there if you're fine with doing that. As for Mom trying to gaslight, then manipulate the situation with her threats, would've gotten them all uninvited.

Pay for your own wedding and then come tell me you'd allow it 🙃

The mama CLEARLY has a favorite! He isn’t the a-hole. He was in his right to be petty back at his brother. Now they should either apologize to each other or don’t speak at all.

Everything isn’t meant to be shared. Most times people come in early or stay a day later then you can do it on one of those days but not on my wedding day.

Grandma is the hero in this.

Congratulations on the 1million subscribers. Well deserved.

Even if OP said yes, he’d have to get his brides permission, so it doesn’t really matter what brother and mum says.

The mother clearly has a favourite. And they are brothers just on paper, they hate each other

Grandma for the Win!!! 😂😂😂😂

Grandma is a Gangster

Telling your mom "who are you????" Is James white side coming out. The caucasity of it. Ik fuhad would never.

"I really struggle with attention" says the Internets favourite baby girl😂

Brother A told the mom that he didn't care because he was probably tired of her favoritism towards Brother B and this was the final straw. She was probably the kind of mom to give Brother B a gift on Brother A's birthday because B was crying about not having a gift. I'd bet money on it. If she's not careful, she's going to ruin her son's relationship with each other if she hasn't already. 😒😒😒😒

Yeah, if the mum was like that you can imagine the trials and tribulations during their upbringing… And I bet when my man asked, and he said no, the brother was like “MUUUUUUUUUUUUM”

😂🤣💀⚰️ this first one is gold

Yes Grandma!

Mom playing favorites for real.

James…imagine you spent 30k on your girl’s dream wedding and your sibling proposes on that day, at the event you paid for, in front of you family (with little or none of their girlfriends family or friends there) and your wife is devastated because this day you’ve spent months and so much money on is now not a celebration of you and your love but someone else and their love…I don’t think I personally would be upset about it but if someone asked and I set a boundary and they disregarded it I WOULD BE FUMING - the disrespect to me and my partner!

People spending 100’s and possibly thousands of dollars on a wedding isn’t “just for the guests” babes, it’s so they can have their unity celebrated and witnessed by family and friends 💜

If someone’s sibling proposed to me at their wedding, I would have to take that L and bounce. Why would anyone think that would be a memorable moment😂

Im very double minded on this topic. Because i find most people HATEEEEEE that shit. I get its THEIR wedding and THEIR day, absolutely, but i really dont mind... obviously its going to be a few minutes taken away from myself and my husband but who cares.. id be happy as hell to see a proposal at my wedding. And how long would the attention really be on them anyways? 10-15 minutes of congratulations? Get over it. I was a bridesmaid of my older cousins wedding December 2022. It actually fell on my birthday. She phoned me monthsssss before and told me the date which was the only saturday that worked and it was destination in Jamaica where we're from. The date was Dec 17th ( my bday) and i was elated and honored to be in her wrdding and to celebrate. I didnt even care. But she actually took the time to get me a cake.. took the mic, played happy Birthday by stevie wonder, made me dance on the dance floor with myself and my partner and said a veryyyyy long and sentimental speech. It was her day, but she always wanted to include me. Yes different scenario. But we are both alike like that.... 15 minutes of celebrating or cheering on someone else isnt going to kill you. And i love my cousin and her husband sooooooo much for that because i NEVER expected it.. it was such a wonderful suprise. And i did turn 30 and she kept saying all night there was noooo wayy she wasnt going to acknowledge that. 🥹🥹🥹 i juet love her. And going to visist them in London in August for Carnival 😏😏😏🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

they are even now, order has been restored 😂

Mom absolutely has a favorite. Lol

I love the grandma 😂❤️

At the end feels so right. After food dance and maybe cake that’s perfect

Some parents just don’t care about their kids knwing they have a favorite. This is one of the reasons some siblings just act like strangers even if they were best friends when they were younger.

It would be 💔 to be surrounded by such toxic, biased, and selfish family members! 🥺😔

I would hired guards to make sure my brother and mom don't enter the wedding.

How often do you hear, "Mum's an a*******?!" 😂😂😂😂

James! James- you're not even going to talk to your bride future wife first before talking to her to gauge her reaction it her day too! "Do it when I've left for my flight for my honeymoon" because if you do it in front of my friends it doesn't make any sense!!

Here for the content always

😂😂stressing the poor guy at his wedding,they dont hsve his back in this world at all

That's like proposing at someone's wedding. It's tacky. So you mean to tell me that he did it because he thought that no one would ever see the family members again but clearly they saw the family members again at the second guys wedding

The thing is everything depends on the nature of the relationship. They didn’t give really any context as to if this is part of a larger picture of thunder-stealing behavior that the brother has done for a long time and the mom has supported the whole time. I’d say the same thing James did where I’d understand the brother’s POV and let him do it at the end but that’s ifffff that wasn’t just an excuse to get what he wants

Grandma is a G frfr!!! Mom has a clear favorite and I'm with him keeping the same energy.

He’s broke propose on your own time I wouldn’t let my sibling come and my mum wouldn’t speak 😂

0:57 let's go grandma! Granny knows what it is!

Thats one wild family

I would have told my brother to propose the day after my wedding. Everyone (family) will still be present however not on my wedding day. If he got an attitude about it or anyone else decided to share their opinions (like the mother did) then a solid no. If he proceeded to do it anyway, they would all be escorted out, even the mother. They have all been warned, do not try my gangsta!!

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 shout out to him congratulations on the baby 🍾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

1:22 big man just found out which one of her boys mum loves more!

The petty part is that they weren't even expecting a baby!!!

Agree with James, do it at the throw of the bouquet. It is literally the time to foreshadow the next wedding

Family warfare is no joke 😢😅😂😂😂😂

I would just let them know “NO” and if you disinvite yourself that is “OK”. The day is suppose to be special for BOTH groom and bride so asking 1 person is SELFISH! Next, they pay for their venue and if they say no it’s NO. Also, they mentioning about family being there, however, the gif family and friends are also NOT there either, so it’s not fair for her. All I see his him wanting to piggyback off his sibling schedule event, dress up and think he’s creating a special moment when he didn’t set it up. Then the mother is an unfair and toxic jezebel. Just a young jezebel grown into an older jezebel (old habits die hard).

I beg your finest pardon?! Absolutely not why can't he call them on the phone like normal people do lol there is FaceTime, Zoom, Skype, Facebook shall I continue the means of communication that he could take to let people know. yes I would have called security to drag both of them out lol byeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. they could have did it at he dinner the day before the brunch after. I'm just say infinite opportunities besides my wedding reception

When the ladies catch the bouquet, that would be a special moment to do it. Spread the love not the ego

Another reason you don’t propose at someone else’s wedding is because now the newly-engaged couple will have people who came to celebrate your hard-planned, likely expensive day, now oohing and aahing over the ring 💍 (and maybe even comparing it to the newly-married bride’s ring set.)

The guests aren’t paying for anything so why would the wedding be about them? 😂 as much money as wedding cost…the day will be about me and my husband. point blank. Cough up some money for a joint event and you can announce whatever tf you want 😂 😂

I too would say okay but do it at the end just in case she says no lol

Based on how the mom responded to both instances, I’m guessing the brother who proposed often makes events that are supposed to be centered around the poster about them and the mother encourages it.

I absolutely won’t mind if my brother proposed at my wedding.

I LOVE LOVE Y'ALL 😆😂😍

sounds like a classic case of favourites'