Should You Text Them Again?

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Matthew Hussey

10 ай бұрын

What have your experiences with attraction been? ❤️
#Shorts #datingadvice #relationshipadvice

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@MelieSue 10 ай бұрын

This right here is the most important lesson in modern day dating, in my opinion. It really is so simple, yet so many of us get hung up on what we’re “allowed” or “supposed” to do. Just model the behavior you want to see! And if your partner isn’t “dancing” with you, then he’s not the right one.

@hawaiigirl8089 10 ай бұрын

Ya and accidentally step on his toe while stepping forward & you’re ghosted

@sudenims5235 10 ай бұрын

@@hawaiigirl8089nah not ghosted. A lovely warning shot. they’ve shown you who they really are-be thankful for that and they’ve set you free to find someone who will treat you better.

@MelieSue 8 ай бұрын

@@hawaiigirl8089 then he wasn’t the right one, was he? If someone feels like their “toes were stepped on” because you showed too much interest or acted in a way they weren’t wanting to reciprocate, then they’re not on the same page with you with what they want and they’re not right for you.

@TheHighVibrationStation 3 ай бұрын

It really is so simple, right. One person should not be showing all the interest while the other one does not.

@bluecoffee8414 11 күн бұрын

I took a screenshot of your comment to remember it. Thank you.

@sherrylshesellsart546 10 ай бұрын

1980s were so much easier...cell phones ruined dating

@MrSnrub69 10 ай бұрын

I wasn’t alive back then, but yes absolutely

@mikechai906 10 ай бұрын

and social media is a biggest dating apps

@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892 10 ай бұрын

No. Internet did

@joanna6570 10 ай бұрын

I wasn’t even born then but I wish I was around because dating today is treacherous!

@kimking3909 10 ай бұрын

People went to dances or bars dancing or roller skating and met that way. Or they’d walk up to a restaurant or a library or a video game arcade and meet face to face that way. Yep! Miss those days!

@Ambyycious 10 ай бұрын

Dating is a mind game and I'm too old for those so I guess I should just adopt a lot of pets.

@nuez23747 9 ай бұрын

Or start a dance to learn it

@yoesemiat 8 ай бұрын

Loser mentality

@Emmile.17 8 ай бұрын

you are never to old for it, it is a lot but it is fun

@viciousv9671 7 ай бұрын

You’re still young

@cannonrange9977 7 ай бұрын

I dont see it as a "mind game", I see it as a logical experiment gathering data. But if a person is just going to give up and prefers pets... please evaluate yourself, so that pet ownership is healthy for the pets and doesn't turn into unintentional mistreatment (like hoarding).

@celinechristinealme2568 10 ай бұрын

After I went to your virtual seminar last year, I learned so much. I spent some time working on myself so that i could attract the right type of guys and learn what my needs are in a relationship. I stopped with entertaining guys who played games, and now I'm 5 months into my first healthy relationship with the most humble, loving guy who gave me a promise ring and are already planning our future together. My advice to you single ladies. Spend some time by yourself. Learn what you like and what you don't like. What are your non- negotiables values and future goals while dating. Show them how you want to be treated by the way you treat them. Ask important questions without downplaying your intentions. Lead with your heart and ask yourself, " How do I feel around this person?" You are never too much for the right person. Good luck, girlies 💜✨️

@user-ns2rj8wu3d 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing :)

@jenettemeeks3548 3 ай бұрын

Paying it forward! Thanks girl and best wishes to u and your boyfriend!

@ogechukwuokpala9607 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing ❤

@laurentinaazevedo888 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your posting. Very grateful

@camillabartlett9128 Ай бұрын

Ask Or you’ll never know Legit or not You know what to do Sometimes guys have a lot of responsibility and need space and rest need clarification before they can move forward How you’ve reacted goes to show him that So go slow Walk through your own life Be brave resilient enough to stand on your own For we are all abundant and be safe and really journey is important before the destination Love and light to all

@lamia3987 10 ай бұрын

Invest and then test 👏🏻

@AnaFB9696 5 ай бұрын

Mathew is a master. This is brilliant. What a gem

@analozada9475 10 ай бұрын

I learned to match energy/effort. I never go the extra mile for anyone who doesn’t do the same for me. My motto is quid pro quo. Life is a two way street. And when I notice that they are playing games, I go grey rock and cut them off. No need to entertain that bs.

@philvalentine7665 4 күн бұрын

Agree. I'm too old to be wasting my life playing games.

@mcdalek2233 8 ай бұрын

Great short, and indeed a very true lesson to learn. I understand that things like this make dating feel like a game, however I would argue that tips like these actually help us become better people. There's someone I like at the moment, we get on fine and have spoken a few times, but recently I texted her with a little more intent, try and meet up, get the ball rolling. No reply. Tried again a few days later, still nothing. The implication here- as tough as it is to admit- is that she's simply not attracted to me in the same way. It's a real pity, but frankly the worst thing I can do now is undervalue myself, and keep trying to chase her. It really is only going to make me look needy and desperate. It sucks, but I simply have to accept the situation for what is is, and move on to whatever comes next. When I finally do meet someone who likes me back, I will know because they will invest in me the same way I invest in them. Until then it's all about enjoying my own life as I am, and keeping myself open to whatever that next opportunity to find someone might be

@TheresaEspinosa-xf7bf 22 күн бұрын

You are right

@TheresaEspinosa-xf7bf 22 күн бұрын

I WONT TEXT AGAIN

@mcdalek2233 22 күн бұрын

@@TheresaEspinosa-xf7bf Have you had a similar experience recently?

@willemijnmadeleine7164 10 ай бұрын

THIS IS SUCH A GOOD AND IMPORTANT SUMMARY

@JheriJohnson 10 ай бұрын

That makes so much sense, thank you

@marcelamunoz2668 10 ай бұрын

Someone has been taking salsa lessons😊 dancing is a wonderful way to illustrate a whole relationship. Not only the atraction aspect❤

@maxinepeel7057 10 ай бұрын

It always takes two to tango.... sometimes ones tired and takes a break but as long as they are upfront about it then you too can take a step back. Meet up again and if there is a need for less dancing then you know where you stand.

@naut_nigel 10 ай бұрын

I constantly need to remind myself of this gem of advice.

@joanna6570 8 ай бұрын

Know your worth

@AjaySharma-ul6ow 20 күн бұрын

Matthew indeed the best relationship counselor

@lisarebelo7268 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! I did your retreat 2022 in Florida. YOUR advice has helped transform my life.. let go of old baggage and learned how to create expectations and boundaries. Most importantly! I am worth those expectations and boundaries! From the bottom of my heart, thank you!!

@sambhumeta8837 3 ай бұрын

You've changed my perspective of seeing things in a relationships . I do appreciate your support to those , who really needs you in their difficult times. Thank you for sharing your healthy knowledge with us

@DPIII1 10 ай бұрын

I so sick of games like is. Why do we have to do this. What's so hard with being straight up with someone. "I like you" or "I don't like you anymore"...am I crazy or is this to high of a level of thinking.

@v.o.warrior9021 10 ай бұрын

Same like wtf is this🤷🏾‍♂️ We’re wasting time instead of enjoying each others company?

@ElusiveSights 10 ай бұрын

I feel you, but I think its off putting to the other person in some cases. Imagine this from their point of view

@v.o.warrior9021 10 ай бұрын

@@ElusiveSightsis it really? They like you let them know I’m not interested. So sensitive creating anxiety over nothing

@MelieSue 10 ай бұрын

I don’t think you guys get it. He didn’t say you couldn’t say that. You can totally do that if you want…that’s just taking a step forward. But you have to be prepared for the other person not to reciprocate. Which unfortunately a lot of people (women in particular) won’t accept and instead will try to chase a guy. The point he’s making here is to model the behavior you want to see, but if the guy isn’t meeting you half way you need to stop chasing him and go find someone that will mirror you.

@HeartsAdventures 10 ай бұрын

That's the best thing to do. A lot of people struggle with being vulnerable and saying they like someone... or they want to get to know them first before saying that. That's the best option if you're bold and brave enough to be vulnerable and express your feelings. He's also not saying to play games. He's just saying not to put forth more energy than you're getting in return. What he means in this case is: If you reach out and say you like them and they ignore you and don't respond. Don't keep reaching out. The ball is in their court now. I think the purpose behind this video is to stop people from expelling too much energy on someone that's uninterested and on a different level.

@kathyhou4648 10 ай бұрын

This is such a valuable content because it is so true, people these days have forgotten what it’s like to call somebody and be in connection with somebody. You need to be there it’s not all about the Internet. Thank you for your content amazing

@ipage1 10 ай бұрын

What would stop this game playing , is honesty

@wendytube007 Ай бұрын

I really am happy that people have someone that they can really learn this from It's just such great practical advice that's not necessarily easy to get.

@Dana-oo9kp 8 ай бұрын

I just got a rush of anxiety listening to this. FML

@CrystallyLavender 10 ай бұрын

Perfect advice! That’s exactly how it should work, wish my girlfriends that act desperate all the time would do that, instead of throwing themselves at anyone that shows the least bit of interest.

@karendougdeengokool9259 10 ай бұрын

If only I could get me a guy as cute and smart as Matthew Hussey. Excellent advice!

@ashluagri 10 ай бұрын

Wow! This is the best advise ever. So very true and it really helps in my current situation. Thank you so much! You have no idea how much this helps.

@AO-hc1wi 6 ай бұрын

I am currently dating someone and everything seems so easy and fluffy. And I am sure its mainly bcs I am still prioritising myself. Its a dance but I know that I will be able to dance with myself as well if it doesn’t work out. I would say that confidence is the key 🙏🏼

@devonwatkins223 6 ай бұрын

Quit hating on this guy some of us didn't have healthy parents to explain standards and if he's able to help anybody find their worth - this video was worth being made

@nadinereeta7401 8 ай бұрын

This advice is GOLD y'all!!! Only the BEST get to 2-step with me. 💃💃💃 safeguarding my energy for the men that deserve my Beautiful self ❤ Unrequited love sucks

@lisamarieb3853 8 ай бұрын

This is good advice. People hate dating in this day and age because cell phones and social media have ruined things, but those things aren’t going anywhere so we have to evolve our dating behaviors because of them. This is a perfect example of how

@user-fn9bn6gx4o 5 ай бұрын

To avoid take a bad decision you must react in hurry but be atentive,i love this dance

@bunnyboonot4u 4 ай бұрын

The dance is a game. some people just love the game. I was one of those people

@TheresaEspinosa-xf7bf 18 күн бұрын

❤I know o can't forget our beauful love it only happens once

@monicajones4924 2 ай бұрын

This is the best advice I've ever heard !!!@@@ i needed this . Thankyou Matthew ❤️

@charlakiley9994 5 ай бұрын

Thank You for always reminding me to guard My energy❤ Hugs from Texas

@nancykane8680 8 ай бұрын

That is true Do not invest waay more if it is not reciprocated

@AndresDX1 10 ай бұрын

Thats called dancing salsa my guy

@esohe81 8 ай бұрын

Loved that. "Safeguard our energy"

@bymariagil 10 ай бұрын

I would happily dance with you, Matt. Congratulations on your engagement, btw. 😂😂😂

@barneyboy2008 10 ай бұрын

Who says women can't simp.

@Flokoli1 10 ай бұрын

@@barneyboy2008the Simpsons.

@AO-wg9ne 10 ай бұрын

@@Flokoli1 😭😭😭

@reneetreece2996 9 ай бұрын

Team work makes the dream work❤

@kjwolfe8907 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, Matthew! You bring a reasonable approach to getting to know people in the dating process.❤ invest then test...

@tallyhopesetaeuini5595 10 ай бұрын

THANKS DARLING FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING

@laurentinaazevedo888 2 ай бұрын

This theory I use with friendships and even family members. For as much as it is not Easy this is the best Approach to this reality.

@aishanakayiza6011 6 ай бұрын

I really love this mack it's now five years following him

@storyteller0610 9 ай бұрын

It so easy to understand with this example

@amyhagen94 10 ай бұрын

Have you been taking salsa classes?

@MelySarai16 10 ай бұрын

😂

@lightiz_biekie 10 ай бұрын

Thank you coach everything is clear ❤❤

@lukelond 10 ай бұрын

That's facts

@wizerd2089 10 ай бұрын

I took a step forward and asked him to call me, as my hands were full. He never responded and hasn't hit me up in 2 days. Dang. So I'm taking a step back too I guess. I hope he reaches out again. But I don't think it's my turn to step forward right now.

@eavescent 10 ай бұрын

What are you hoping for? Trust me if he was interested he woulda contact in no time. Move on to someone who would see your value and lose no time to establish relationship with you.

@nightskylights4501 10 ай бұрын

@@eavescent, that's not always true. A few years back I went on blind date, on a sat and I didn't hear from him. I thought he didn't like me. He didn't contact me until 5 days later on the thurs. His reason? He liked me, and was so attracted to me, and wanted to call me that night, but was too worried that I'd think he was too needy and weak! Then I heard, men think they should wait for 3 days after the date to call the woman. Have no idea why. People hear weird stuff from others and think is true!

@goldenparachute392 10 ай бұрын

@@nightskylights4501that’s different. You didn’t ask him to call.

@mstwilight1612 10 ай бұрын

@@nightskylights4501LAme excuse. Is he a cancer? Run for your life or later on after several years he will discard you giving the same bullshit excuse🤦

@hawaiigirl8089 10 ай бұрын

Definitely not! He’s not worth it if he can’t remember or, he needs validation.

@lifeoutsidecomfortzone 20 күн бұрын

I love this man 😂

@tinachristine4573 21 күн бұрын

Matthew showing off his salsa steps. He's got rhythm 😎

@ajapplesauce 8 ай бұрын

This sounds complicated, BUT he's right. While tech has brought about ease of access to one another and perhaps certain expectations, dating & marriage has ALWAYS been a dance. You give yourself and if someone wants to reciprocate, they will. If they don't, it may hurt, but then you have the opportunity to come across that person who will. Be strong, be patient, have FUN, and the person who wants you as much as you want them can come along. ❤

@daliagrigonyte6872 10 ай бұрын

its great advice in theory, but i cant figure out in practice what constitutes step forward step back from both sides with all the little things we have to show attention

@HeartsAdventures 10 ай бұрын

I think a step forward means, if you or they reach out in any way. A "like" of content isn't really reaching out, but it's showing interest at least. It's like a nervous wave hello. If you want more than just that, it's safe to reach out with a text. If they only ever "like" content without reaching out despite your efforts, don't expel more energy on them. If they reach out and comment or talk through one platform, then you can follow up later with a step forward on your side by reaching out through the same or a different platform. If you're reaching out through all platforms without them initiating or putting forth energy, step back. Let them take initiative. Or better yet, move on! There's nothing wrong with being friends with and getting to know someone at their pace if they reach out but it takes them longer/days. Just don't place significant hope and interest in them as more than a friend. And don't constantly step forward/reach out.

@reneesanchez2621 2 ай бұрын

Matthew is doing a little salsa dancing! Lol😊

@nuez23747 9 ай бұрын

As a professional dance dor salsa i can confirm that it helped me check others investments more. Now I'm chased

@annasokolowska714 10 ай бұрын

Nooo! Why did KZfaq recommend me this short a few seconds after I decided to text him again? 😅😂 Yeah, I'm doomed 😅

@marianak6006 10 ай бұрын

Oh, dear... same here 😅

@lnaph 10 ай бұрын

atttaction is dynamic. if he doesn't return the investment just pull back hard.

@QualityIsQueen 10 ай бұрын

Not doomed. You were dancing forward 😊

@sudenims5235 10 ай бұрын

Get a book on boundaries. Boundaries will keep you on track. Take it from one that spent too much time on people that did not have my best interests at heart, You deserve a healthy relationship. All the best.

@LaraCameron05 4 ай бұрын

Ditto😂 But now I'm just chilling. No expectations anymore. I have learned my lesson.

@kylies1411 10 ай бұрын

I love this. It's so true! ❤

@JDfaith2024 10 ай бұрын

Exactly. Like you wouldn’t bombard text after text with no response lol I’ve heard too many stories from men where women become psycho and don’t know how to stop.

@mariapap8962 10 ай бұрын

I'd cringe if someone did that to me and a 100% i wouldn't want anything to have to do with them anymore. Desperation is hugely off- putting!

@hawaiigirl8089 10 ай бұрын

I think that’s greatly exaggerated by …MEN. All men are truly the drama queens & game players - just like divorce men scream their heads off mean while they are barely paying the child support & living with a whore- happy to shatter their family for selfish reasons /. MEN wish woman were blowing up their phones

@patsysinclaire3217 10 ай бұрын

Wow....that was THE BEST EXPLANATION ❤

@BBihari 14 күн бұрын

Matthew, this!!! Finally, I understand...I thought I am a warrior in a war, and I don't get why everyone is running away😂!! Thank you for the description❤

@rachysparkle 10 ай бұрын

You’re amazing

@rainbowbrite81 7 күн бұрын

I love this analogy!! ❤💃

@idontwhy3132 9 ай бұрын

actually based dating advice

@TheHighVibrationStation 3 ай бұрын

Damn, this guy is a genius. ❤

@CrystalDatingCoach 10 ай бұрын

I NEVER have a conversation with anyone with a Text! Have Standards Ladies!

@LaraCameron05 4 ай бұрын

I wish. It's an LDR and we have not met yet in person.😂 But I'm just chilling now.

@grannyronna 9 ай бұрын

The most important comment here? "how we safeguard our own energy." That is the key to so much of a happy life.

@silverhetch3383 6 ай бұрын

this video should be mandatory once you enter middle school

@mpshields 9 ай бұрын

WOW!!!! This is COMPLICATED!!! 😂🤣🤣😅😅😅😅

@i7abella 4 ай бұрын

So true!🙌🏻

@pinkconfidantp2me912 10 ай бұрын

That is a perfect way of explaining it. ❤❤

@CypressWhyman 2 күн бұрын

I really like this! Thank you 🙏🏼

@kittykat226 17 күн бұрын

Wow, so true and valuable x

@jayleigha68 6 ай бұрын

I see you Matthew - that salsa step wasn’t too shabby at all 😂

@shilpachhabria8300 7 ай бұрын

My god ur so good I wish I had heard ur videos earlier It is so easy to fall.in love with u

@veronikavanquish 18 күн бұрын

Sooo helpful. Great visualization

@MaraKara-kl4dk 6 ай бұрын

Thing is not everyone is willing to learn or give back. Too many takers.

@dikshasingh5947 6 ай бұрын

When I took the step back, they never took the step forward. I stepped off 😎

@Patriotgirl1130 9 ай бұрын

Wow this is perfect!!! I had to share it and save it ❤❤

@OrchidTingz 9 ай бұрын

So good thank you ❤

@shubhisingh9842 7 ай бұрын

I just feel , if there’s something left in your heart unspoken , Just say it and let it go Or else , it will haunt you more than anything.

@teodorateodora1059 2 күн бұрын

Man, you are good!❤

@gonuloztas1795 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your time. ❤

@Sonalkabra 10 ай бұрын

You are truly creative in expressing your thoughts. It's done in such a nice interesting way. 😊

@olivepostma6874 10 ай бұрын

Man your good ! ❤

@raquelhernandez7049 7 күн бұрын

I love your advices❤

@ElusiveSights 10 ай бұрын

Can someone give me examples of stepping forward and back? For both men and women. I dont fully get it…

@HeartsAdventures 10 ай бұрын

Stepping forward is any form of you or them putting in effort to communicate. Sending a text=step forward Calling them=step forward Sending a Snapchat message=step forward Sending a FB message (direct or on their wall)=step forward Sending a like is a weak step forward though. It shows vague interest rather than interactive interest. However, a message can still be sent as a result of it. Unexpectedly running into someone when out and about isn't a step forward, but rather a happy coincidence. Telling them you like them and or asking them out as a huge step forward. If none of these are met with a response. Or you're disappointed in the reply. Say something. Be vulnerable and communicate what you want. If they don't comply. Move on to someone else. Or just move on if you're also not invested enough to ask for more.

@em.e4368 26 күн бұрын

When I met my husband everything was so straightforward! What’s going on these days?? Why can’t people be honest and direct?

@okas_art 9 ай бұрын

It’s just called matching each others energy. It’s not a game. It’s seeing if you have chemistry or even common interest in eachother 🤷🏽‍♀️

@laurentinaazevedo888 2 ай бұрын

Beautifully said this is not a game, this is life. As aspects of life even when closing a deal. Thank you

@TheresaEspinosa-xf7bf 22 күн бұрын

Like the concept of dancing.no more chasing 🎉

@gewfone 19 күн бұрын

Women don't chase !!!!

@AudelizAngiePerezNJ 22 күн бұрын

That was the salsa lol 😂

@calvinfloriankatunzi5001 10 ай бұрын

❤

@snjezanaspahija249 10 ай бұрын

Bravo-;invest and then TEST❤😂😂😂

@andilemanganya4552 10 ай бұрын

So true.

@mariaelisanaimegiovanardim1102 Ай бұрын

Very important lesson🎉

@antoniusdueringer5178 2 күн бұрын

This short is pretty strong. You can skip on a lot of content by understanding what's said here.

@reyhanebarekati 3 ай бұрын

I love this man

@susanreyes9 7 ай бұрын

Thank you. I really needed to hear this tonight.

@garden2356 6 ай бұрын

I think thos is true, for not just dating.

@smileandjustbreathe 10 ай бұрын

Nice moves 👍

@rangtajha 6 ай бұрын

Agreed!!!

@bronxbaubles 6 ай бұрын

Matthew your dancing salsa. The dance language of love. Wepa!!!

@suzankhodanian9945 10 ай бұрын

Love ❤❤❤❤this

@terencechia9827 10 ай бұрын

absolutely

@debbieseiffert 10 ай бұрын

It was never like this tit for tat baloney years ago, just be you, then you know you’ve done your best and didn’t play games…game playing takes up to much head and heart space…it’s really not that complicated…just don’t be a psycho and hound someone…