It sometimes annoys me when people think that interracial dating solves racism between those communities. I think that's why people on social media uplift interracial relationships so much. I think there are people who think that dating a Black person (or praising interracial relationships) makes them more liberal/less racist automatically.

So she learned Jambo from mean Girls Got it lol

I can write a whole dissertation on why Black men and women date who we date based on conversations my friends and I have had. Dating someone Black when you're Black isn't just about race. Sometimes we don't want to explain our experiences as a Black people to a White partner. It can be exhausting to be explain why what their friend said was problematic, etc. Or sometimes they will make concessions/excuses for racist family members.

@Bob: Swahili is usually the African language discussed in English-speaking schools as its the easiest African language for English speakers to learn. The language has the same alphabet, minus X and Q, and (like English) there's no lexical tone/change in pitch that determines the meaning of a word. This makes the language easily readable by English speakers - the words sound like they look (to English speakers), so we only have to learn the meaning of the words, rather than (what we find) "difficult" pronunciations. For this reason; Swahili is often the language used as an example when teaching linguistics to English speakers. Considering this is the first time I've ever used anything taught in my college linguistics classes - this comment cost thousands! :)

There is definitely something to be said about not having to explain your point of view when dating within your own culture or race

I’m so glad bob knows about James Charles predatory behavior 😭 people always try sweeping it under the rug

It’s not that Asia was calling Bob out for dating a white person and calling out their issues. It’s that Bob was LITERALLY calling white people annoying and irritating but he’s dating one 😂 it’s just ironic and Asia was calling out the irony. But Bob doesn’t like to be called out is what I’ve learned from this podcast lol

I have had this conversation with many other gay black men and they always talk about exclusively dating black because of shared history, trauma, or experiences. They also assume, since I am in an interracial relationship, that I ONLY date and am attracted to white men. Love isn't about skin and my blackness shouldn't be reduced to our collective historical trauma or experiences as POC just so that we can be eligible to be in love with another black person. There are so many other ways to relate to people and you'd be shocked to find out a lot of them aren't trauma or race related. I don't understand dating someone simply because you share the same amount of melanin. THAT IS NOT ENOUGH. It isn't enough for me and shouldn't be enough for anybody else that is of color when it comes to loving another human being. There is more value to dating as a POC than just our skin and experiences and all of that value can be loved, seen, and cared for by whomever we choose.

How come interracial relationships always has one white person in it? Do we minorities not like each other? I seriously wanna know

It feels like you release new episodes every day, thats not a bad thing tho

Don't ever change the intro for Sibling Rivalry please . Thank you!

"Interracial dating"...me being a product of it..😃 ready for this episode 😂 lmao.

I have dated different types of men but I have personally decided I would prefer to end up with a Mexican man like myself because sometimes it makes it easier to communicate and to understand each other’s experience. And when it comes to the whole celebrity thing I have always noticed, especially with pro athletes, that they end up with a specific type of white man, I’ve always been curious why that happens.

Bob already starting with them lies 🤣🤣🤣 She learned it from mean girls!

Great points have been made, please revisit this soon!!

Always here for these two!

I’m not saying bob said anything bad but it makes me feel some type of way when someone says a persons nationality as that person’s race people do that a lot with Latin people, being Mexican or Puerto Rican… does not make you a POC with that being said bob’s boyfriend is Mexican and he could be white or mix(mestizo) or indigenous…

I do not understand how anyone of any race or gender doesn’t ding everyone attractive. I do however understand cultures wanting to date within the same culture .

Obsessed wait all week these episodes luv y’all

i’ve been loving these episodes

Not Bob talking about “my definition of pro black” but also saying that you don’t get to say “but that’s not what that word means to me.”

28:56 I love when monet just goes along with bobs bullshit 💀

You both are everything. Only two I watch.

Perfect timing! Love u Queens!!!

Bob spoke swahili, oooooh I feel so included😂😂😂 I'm a fluent swahili speaker (my mother toung) So, if Monet wants some receipts on what Bob said, I'll gladly provide 😈😈😈 *long live rivalry*

Monet's Sharon Needles voice was pretty good!

I honestly don’t think any of it’s odd because at the end of the day there are so many varying reasons as to why people date who they date. And honestly those reasons can make complete and total sense based on one’s own lived experience.

Popping out episodes faster than my hairline can recede

As a 50+ Black Man, who has experienced racial discrimination from white ppl my ENTIRE life, I CANNOT/Will Not be romantically/sexually attracted to WHITE ppl of Any gender. However, I DO see beauty in ALL races. Yes, i realize that not every BLACK experience is identical. #NoPink4Me

Bob's favourite topic!

I never comment on videos but I just want y’all ladies to know that I love and appreciate you keep the podcast going I love it

Can’t wait to hear how this turns out. Looking at you Roberta 👀

I'll tell you why gay people of color of feel like that. It's mostly representation. On most TV shows, you never see two black men together, besides Noah's Arc like 20 years ago. We just saw representation at least for black men in the past few years. I'd challenge you all to find one, aside from Noah's Arc that shows black men. But that's no reason to hate

I heard Naomi in that impression! I also heard Sharon, and the Jinkx laugh was spot-on!

Bob have you seen any of Ms. Pat's stand-up?? She's friends with TS Madison but also people like Bobby Lee and Bert Kreischer. Oh my *_GOD_* she is so so funny!!!! And she has her own show through BET+ that she got to create and base on her life, her story is *_WILD_* 💀😂💓

It's nice to hear them mention Guyana... My country of Residence. Love ya'll . Guyana is actually located in South America but is considered as apart of the Caribbean through History, Culture and Colonialism.

Thank you for these endings 🙏

Passover celebrates the liberation from slavery in Egypt. It also has an agricultural significance as the spring festival. One of the three big festivals whose main imperative is to be happy. You really don’t have to be religious to celebrate it … 🤷🏻‍♀️

People from the US are so weird about race… MEXICAN IS NOT A RACE. There are many different races in Mexico and Latin America (this is coming from a white Latinx).

i personally dont date someone outside of my ethnicity out of comfort. (i dont like being fetishized or be someone’s token race collection, etc.), BUT dating someone within your race/ethnicity doesn’t always lead to a good/better romantic relationship. I don’t do it but I am open to interracial relationships if it is someone open minded and respectful.

Oh my god I could hear you speaking spanish FOR EVERRRR come to Mexico again for practice anytime!

I don't have a problem with interracial dating, but I do have a problem when the 'N-word' is use so casual when you are in a interracial relationship. That's just my opinion, but to each your own. I feel that we all teach others how to treat us... great conversation.

I’m mixed and refer to myself as mixed or biracial sometimes just black when I feel uneasy about telling people I’m mixed (which doesn’t happen often anymore). Iv never felt mixed was a bad word to use. But when i would say in in middle school-college i would get unwarranted reactions like, “oh… you’re mixed” or they would start going into detail about how I don’t look mixed.

Speaking specifically to the sickness concept, sickness is defined differently in each culture. My boyfriend is Hawaiian, and in 'Olelo Hawai'i, you say that the sickness got you (roughly translated). No one got sick, the sickness got them. Even the way sickness is defined is a social construct.

Spanish translations: both Bob and Monet forgot the "hopefully" (ojala) of that third statement. Aside from that they were pretty good

When Bob said Asia is 2/3 of the world I thought he meant O’Hara ksks.

Not Bob asking for "The Great Replacement", omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

FYI Queen latifah has came out. She gave an acceptance speech thanking her significant other for their kid or something but I don’t think they are interracial

Bob know he learned that Swahili from one of them kid KZfaq channels he got nieces y’all 😂☺️

I think we should have a good "Social Construct" conversation because people who like to split the hair at "Its a social construct so it doesn't exact" (which is not a direct Bob quote cuz yall know how he gets when he's misquoted even A TAD lol) are starting to lose me it is 2022 I don't think we need to get lost in what reality is anymore. When it comes to the Black Experience, I think a Social Construct is apart of our existence. Just because it doesn't exist doesn't mean it can't happen because human beings are constantly evolving what can and cannot exist. Pulling the Social Construct card might as well be the new version of giving white people "an n-word card" because just because you can say it doesn't mean it won't get you fucked up/just because you said what you said don't mean what you said isn't some bullshit lol the definition of Social Construct is "An idea that has been created and accepted by the people in a society. Class distinctions are a social construct" and I personally read that and go, "ok, so its an ACCEPTED idea by the people in this society" that means people all around you have accepted ideas other people put on you and put on you and put on you until it was put on you so much we now call it and all know what a Black Experience is people literally willed this into our reality. TL;DR (cuz this was so much chile jeez I just wanna hear yall talk XD): Get rid of the "Social Constructs don't exist" argument or put a pin in it for later because we have bigger fish to fry. We literally had to stop talking about the black experience to discuss if it was even real and the real social construct is thinking we have time for that.

Please do "The One About New York Tiffany Pollard". You guys both did brunch with Tiffany and are fans!

Not Monet outing Queen Latifah 🤣🤣🤣

I wanted Bob to play that nigga thoughts clip!!! I automatically thought of him and would love to have him redo do it.

Not Jacob being the ghost of Hannukah past on that mic though

when did they switch sides?

yep. i was involved in a 500 comment fight with some people calling me racist for defending bobs partner choice ...

12:53 not bob doing the hunger games noise

I'm from Guyana and for Bob it's in South America 😆 🤣 but consider part of the westindies via Caricom.

As a multiracial person, I’m often weary of dating period. There’s this tendency white ppl have to fetishize me or give me backhanded compliments or tear others down to lift me up (you’re not TOO dark, you’re not ghetto, you have GOOD hair). I feel like black men put me on this pedestal or claim I’m “too white.”

How did Guyana get pulled into all of this?!?!?!

on the note about Jewish people wanting to date other jewish people, it is usually purely religious. There are many jewish people who prefer to date other jewish people, but it is usually bc of the religious law, which states that you can only marry other jewish people. Many religious jewish people will date non-jewish people, and will only talk about conversion if it comes to marriage. Sidenote converting to Judaism is very complicated so its not super easy lmao

Love y’all

"How do you say hallo in Swahili...JAMBO" cool song I learned as a kid.

There's always some friction in dating outside your race, ethnicity or any other kind of cultural in-group, around the world. Yes, the Black experience of racism specifically adds to that kind of insular thinking, but it would still be there, even if America never had a history of racism. Perhaps not in the same way or degree, but yeah.

We need to stop trying to solve social problems through relationships, it’s just not a good idea

I thought that was an evie impersonation too monet lmao

@36:23 OMG! New vocab word from BOB…. “DoppleBanger” totally using this!!!!

Roberta, ya gotta add Quinta Brunson to your list! Wanda interviewed Quinta on Tonight Show recently. *I see you eating carbs!*

Let me Help you out Jason Bolden and Adair Curtis Nicolas Ashe Justice Smith (They were so cute) Judy and Da Brat Anthony Hemingway and Stephen Norfleet Terrell and Jarius Jarrell Gucci and Taj (I think they are still together) Bre-z and Chris Jamal Sims and Octavius Terry NIecy Nash and Jessica Betts Kyle Gofney Jones Tamar (so sad to hear about the Early Passing of Teyon) Britrney Griner and Cherelle Rafer Johnson and Dr. Kelly Johnson Antonio and Kervin (Alvin Ailey ALums) Deandre Gossett and Quincy Lenear Lil Nas X and Yai Ariza (I think) Rahquise & Ahmad Honorary Mentions Wade and Noah Marcus and Darby They were both Imaginary couples, but they were the 1st ones I saw. They got me through.

I learned "jumbo" from mean girls... lmao

🇭🇹 🇭🇹🇭🇹🇭🇹🇭🇹🇭🇹 here!! Love y’all!!

Not this testing my spanish! I aint learned shit bc i was besties with my spanish teacher n we just gossiped about the other people in my class

32:12 Guyana is in South America, Bob 😘

& Jacob is sooo adorable to me 😍

17:32 NOT THE KZfaq PREDATOR STOPPP

Qapla'... Jup.... (success, friend)... Finally two of my fav things intersect... 😁

This is spooky. Sidney Poitier just died today!!! Bob with the foreshadowing although points should be taken away for the Lawrence Olivier reference.

Omg I Love that Monet mentions Dimitri Martin! SO DRY

come on full intro✨💋

We both have tons of personal stories and opinions on inter racial relationships. Sometimes you just fall in love with someone and and you make it work. You see beyond color and gender. I am a Bi, white lady married to Bi Black man. I’ve dated all types of people in my lifetime, but my husband became that person. We face more scrutiny from our own racial communities than society by large. Often feels like a never ending battle that neither will understand. U.N.I.T.Y

i would've sworn queen latifah was out

Just a reminder that there are differences to race, ethnicity and culture ✨💖

Thank you for talking about Drag Race underscoring everything... One reason I have a hard time watching a full episode... It is why I love Sibling Watchery and Pit Stop...

They should make a movie based on The Coldest Winter Ever.

I know Bob did not say Queen Latifah isn't out....was that a joke?

Bob “What was the secret ..was it your anus” Poor Money BAD BoB 😭😂👊🏻✨ I FKG LOVE THIS PODCAST 😭☄️✨💔

My favorite thing I learned from this podcast? MLK was a trekkie. LLAP. (To be fair, I'm only a few min into it)

Not watch out he’s gonna cheat on you im cacklingggg

Your honor, let the record show that Bob was the one who was cut off at the end of the podcast 🤣

It was a a lot of “they feel” or “those people” very separate “us” from “them”.

I’m early early!!!

Andy sunflower story 🌻🥺💖

His super power is that is remembers in detail

One time I went on a date with another black guy and he was nervous to talk to me because he assumed I only dated white guys due to how I presented myself?

I think it's kinda sad how they couldn't really name more than two famous black gay couples. AGAIN, it's not a coincidence... It's a pattern. Let's keep it real. 💅🏾

I recommend Gary Gulman he’s a great comedian imo

Was y’all’s audio version of the pod all jumping back and forth? It’s happened before but this episode was particularly hard to listen to because it would skip back like 30seconds randomly

Lol the Chris rock thing aged well🤣🤣🤣

avatar language is actually based on Polynesian languages, like Tahitian and Maori

Yes