Sibling Rivalry: The One About Sobriety

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Bob and Monét dive into Monét's favorite topic of all time: Sobriety! Bob opens up about his past relationship with alcohol, Monét hypothesizes why she attracts a lot of sober friends, and the two of them discuss AA. Tune in as Bob and Monét attempt to recite the Serenity Prayer in unison.
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@nicollesalazar3335 2 жыл бұрын

When Bob said someone going out of their way to label themselves EMPATH was a red flag, I had war flashbacks to Shane Dawson, the supposed empath who is exactly the opposite of that. And, in real life, people I've met who claim the label are also quite sus.

@ZeroAfterDeath 2 жыл бұрын

Shane Dawson is a live laugh love empath. They need to be generalized separately. Same as how he is a live laugh love gay.

@zacharycallaghan7016 2 жыл бұрын

Bob is 100% correct

@ZeroAfterDeath 2 жыл бұрын

@@zacharycallaghan7016 In your perspective

@ZeroAfterDeath 2 жыл бұрын

@JLsaves Definitions change. Homosexuality was considered a mental disability until recent. Feel free to drop the attitude and step back into your lane at any time. I’ll say it again; Its not a factor of being telepathic. Its a factor of being more clairvoyant when it comes to peoples emotions when they aren’t even trying to actively express them. Its not mind reading. Its constantly deep listening and visual analysis to be able to recognize differences in the way people talk and their facial expressions. The amount someone talks, the spacing between their sentences, how (not what) they add emphasis. How busy their eyes are when they are talking, what their hands are doing, ect. It’s like a movie with top of the line prosthetics and someone can see the lines, despite everyone else going “wow i thought it was their real face”. Thats not xray vision or whatever superpower. You’re just way more actively observant. The skill(not power)/term is just watered down by white girls that want to feel more interesting. Just like how they all claimed to be severely depressed and bisexual in middle school because a couple of their friends actually were and they want to seem relatable. That doesn’t make depression or bisexuality any less valid. It just makes it more annoying to shift through authenticity vs. not. It’s just that, again. Please, for the sake of humanity, don’t base your understanding on something off of the live laugh loves.

@ZeroAfterDeath 2 жыл бұрын

@JLsaves It doesn’t take an Xmen to know the difference between social cues and body language

@stone5048 2 жыл бұрын

My friend was overweight and got leukemia but everyone just told him he looked great because he lost 60/70 pounds in 6 months from the cancer & chemo

@tokyoskyss 2 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s horrible how people said that to him 😔

@shad8623 2 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of when I was so broke I was literally eating just rice and butter and water. I lost so much weight and everyone kept telling me how great I looked, meanwhile I was starving! It was so surreal🤣 I was so hungry and tired and depressed.

@snowym7188 2 жыл бұрын

@@shad8623 Once asked my sister how she lost weight ... she told me shes just poor 😂... she had quit her job and went back to school full time... best decision ever for her..it worked out

@pugdad2555 2 жыл бұрын

And you want them to look ugly while they go theough all that? The privilege of some people, just be glad you look good while going through whatever you went through.

@DaxG-qp3jf 2 жыл бұрын

Is he ok now?

@freyjabrigid 2 жыл бұрын

While I strongly identify as an empath, this insight from my therapist blew it wide open: “Are you ‘an empath’ or have you developed intricate coping skills from childhood trauma? Constantly needing to read emotional states in order to create your own safety by being able to anticipate everything and everyone’s energy around you?” Welp … shit 😒

@tracytracy4971 2 жыл бұрын

Yooooo, that is a good therapist

@sosexymagazinerobinwatkins8467 2 жыл бұрын

Wellll, what if being Empathetic is something to be feared by your therapist and they wanted to Riock you? Sometimes I feel like they are so so about defending the position of science because it makes them feel out of control Just a theory. To me there's nothing wrong with feeling for and feeling what others feel. of course it does have to be a healthy distance . I have a teacher that said that I was an emotional sponge but I'm also a performer an actress a singer. We do feel a lot that's how that's how we're able to translate those feelings through the medium of theater of theater, film, song. Wait but it has to have a healthy distance so that you don't feel overwhelmed by all of it

@freyjabrigid 2 жыл бұрын

@@sosexymagazinerobinwatkins8467 I completely agree. I’m also an artist who absorbs and takes in everything around me in a professional sense as well as personal. Childhood trauma or not, I actually believe it’s a gift and also a skill I’ve intentionally developed. The therapist’s comment is sort of like the chicken and the egg. It’s like they were trying to disprove the concept of an empath, but at the end of the day we can always argue nature / nurture but regardless, I’m highly empathic either way. That’s how I approached it in my own mind after that conversation.

@iSerginhoo 2 жыл бұрын

Monet's quote on the intro being "I just love apples" 💀💀💀💀

@christinablacken4054 2 жыл бұрын

Really important convo. We live in a fatphonic society and it’s toxic. Associating beauty with being as thin as possible is just not the move at all. Appreciate you bob for mentioning that!

@TheYanGarciaa 2 жыл бұрын

sobriety? oh i know monét brought this one up 😂😂😂😂😂

@TheYanGarciaa 2 жыл бұрын

LMFAAOOOOOO bob with this sza thing is killing me 😂😂😂

@TerenceMakapan 2 жыл бұрын

30 months sober next Thursday. Thanks for sharing guys. Loved this discussion x

@wesleybaker6919 2 жыл бұрын

my name is trent and i am an alcoholic! i love this episode. i am working a sobriety program and to hear you share your experiences strength and hope is amazing! thank you both for the open conversation!

@jeannetterw 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Trent. I'm also an alcoholic! We got this ❤ Dried out 4 days this week. Baby steps.

@kuppo1560 2 жыл бұрын

It’s crazy how Bob said one his higher powers is coincidence, and here I am a month into sobriety and recovery when this video comes out. Very insightful and helpful to hear my favorite drag queens talk about this and make me feel at ease to be sober in this community

@motownangels5623 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@hezzycatasmr1886 2 жыл бұрын

Keep coming back! Very similar to where I am. LOVING this episode.

@motownangels5623 2 жыл бұрын

@@annaclairemauney3175 that’s a Godcidence!!

@Violettero 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for talking about sobriety! 💜 I am 20 months clean myself from booze/opioids/meth and I am so lucky and grateful to be alive today, even though life is so far from perfect. Being sober means I can get thru anything now.

@motownangels5623 2 жыл бұрын

Right on! Congratulations

@user-yg6wj3hd3s 2 жыл бұрын

Congrats!!

@arielmargaret18 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so obsessed with Monèt's laugh ❤️🤣

@casenpinkowski5240 2 жыл бұрын

“How you felt at the civil war is how you’ll feel when you die” ok Confucius Bob

@carlosdejesus137 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree with the healthier approach to beauty being unrelated to size.

@corgeousgeorge 2 жыл бұрын

First 15 mins of the show is "Is it Fashion? Or is it just skinny?" lol

@MegaGurr 2 жыл бұрын

Tldr; trauma dumping comment about being a fat person and getting compliments on being less fat. It always makes me feel so anxious when people comment on me "looking so good" from them thinking I look less fat. I am a fat person. I have been fat-fat since I was like 6. People telling me I look better only reminds me that they didn't think I looked good enough before. Even if they don't mean it that way, it feels like they're happier when I'm less fat. And it makes me sad about how I'm still fat and won't be good enough. Fat people are enough, being fat does not take away value of beauty. Beauty isn't the same thing as value. But we will be treated like it is.

@Gabriel-dg2rr 2 жыл бұрын

Lmfaooo Bobs lil SZA song was so funny and actually kinda good?

@joshuazeeman7553 2 жыл бұрын

Just wanted to say thanks Bob. I've lost maybe 60 pounds in the last year and I get a lot of "oh how'd you do it". Always awkward to tell them it's a combination of IBS and stress making me not eat enough

@taylifts 2 жыл бұрын

I said "and also with you" at the same time as Monét and I leapt out of my seat LMAO the church had us conditioned

@holdenmkrotch 2 жыл бұрын

I have a similar experience as bob, blacking out constantly like it was the goal… for me, the shame you can carry is worse than the addiction sometimes. sober now for 7 months though! no AA, just doing it on my own… Been hard but absolutely worth it

@NotTotallyHopeless 2 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who called herself an empath all the time. I told her that my husband was ill (possibly fatally ill) and despite heave sobbing at the time (while I comforted her) she forgot he was sick two weeks later.

@Sashakawaiicat 2 жыл бұрын

bob, I gurantee that you crying at something like betty leaving on S8 was due to you feeling empathetic, you understood that something sad was happening, others around you were sad, the environment was sad so you felt sad, thats empathy. People claiming their "Empaths" are describing a whole other ridiculous thing where they are taking something as simply feeling empathy and creating an identity around it. But I do feel like what some people describe as energy is litteral just what you descibed which is sensing someones social cues, like just someone slouching or frowning etc. being able to pick up on those cues, undersand and then share those feelings is something that litterally everyone is capable of doing, some people are just less likely to try to understand others or allow the moods of others to then affect their moods.

@daashazireael6613 2 жыл бұрын

I've been sober drug free for 5 years. I think the reason why Monet is attracted to the community and those type of friends are real and have gone through shit. And those type of people are usually more accepting and understanding. We're more interesting too lmao but that's why I love my community in recovery. I never have to feel embarrassed when I say something that normally others would like be super judgy

@humphreychannel582 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with Bob and those that call themselves an empath, they are usually too self absorbed to be empathetic enough to warrant calling themselves an empath. Note how they only feel the sad or other negative energies.

@NotTotallyHopeless 2 жыл бұрын

It's always a self applied label, too. "omg, I'm such an empath." No Gary, someone else told you about their problems and you cried and made them comfort you.

@blendofdays 2 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna start describing myself as a red flag 🚩

@lunavieira3616 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with Bob. I do not tell people they look good simply because they lost weight. I don’t like to equate my self worth and beauty with my weight and I won’t do that to others with my words.

@funty420 2 жыл бұрын

5,053 days! Congratulations Bob!

@amyheilman6082 2 жыл бұрын

My name is Amy, and I’m an addict. Bob, thank you for sharing your experience strength and hope. It had been so empowering to listen to another addict describe why they got sober. Keep fighting the good fight love

@samuelmwangi4431 2 жыл бұрын

"I don't think that want to...for myself...equate my beauty to my weightloss..." PREACH

@brandondupy3973 2 жыл бұрын

THE THATS SO RAVEN IMPRESSION 🤣

@urmomgayslay 2 жыл бұрын

a la jaidynn dior fierce

@talkindurinthemovie 2 жыл бұрын

I thought I was an empath buy really....I was just abused and hyper sensitive to negative emotion lol

@LastPersephone 2 жыл бұрын

The SZA song had me dying 😂😂

@taylifts 2 жыл бұрын

Okay but y'all making over twins together would be so fun 🤩

@miraza. 2 жыл бұрын

„someone describing themselves as an empath is a red flag to me“ (7:28) agreed. someone describing themselves as an empathic person is different though and i can get with that.

@seen.3 2 жыл бұрын

Bobs SZA IMPRESSION WAS 👌👌👌

@Deepconversationsovercoffee 2 жыл бұрын

About the empath thing - because I am empathetic (caring) but not a total empath it is easier for me to be around other people who are in a super emotional state and listen without feeling their feelings. My empath friends appreciate that they don't have to worry about "hurting me " when they vent. So like I am a safe space for them to emote.

@yvettemcphee5116 2 жыл бұрын

Monet can't stop moving while Bob is talking.

@selenatheedoll 2 жыл бұрын

Bob looks over it in the thumbnail alone 😂

@boycravesmeat3511 2 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this discussion! Thank you both for sharing

@akiag4678 2 жыл бұрын

Brave Bob, thanks4sharing your story and Monet for being a great moderator! LuvUboth

@Neo-dq5zz 2 жыл бұрын

That That's so Raven reference was exactly what I needed

@taylifts 2 жыл бұрын

Monét: I just want to eat healthier Green Chef: fuck my drag right?

@zigcarnivorous8028 2 жыл бұрын

hehehehe

@PerryPerfectPerson 2 жыл бұрын

“Baby you know what you do when you be coming through!!!!“ wait a minute Bob!!! That’s spot on.

@jessehampton7414 2 жыл бұрын

Not yall commanding my google home to search results for narcissist XD

@jessehampton7414 2 жыл бұрын

Amendment.... Not yall commanding my google home 3 times in 5 minutes XD i guess googles voice training thinks all gay men sound the same

@leilanie7724 2 жыл бұрын

Powerful episode! Thanks for sharing bob🤍

@ChristianStran 2 жыл бұрын

LOVE THE SPACE NERD SEGMENT! NASA is in Houston! “HOUSTON, we have a problem!” 🚀👩‍🚀🛰🛸👽 The Florida Kennedy launch center is where the shuttles liftoff. But the NASA Space Center is actually here in south Houston! :) Love y’all!

@heathercottongim3401 2 жыл бұрын

Drag has literally brought my family together. I started watching RPDR on Season Gr8 ❤ I love you Bob👑

@foxylee88 2 жыл бұрын

I love the empath convo you two had. For me an empath is someone who's able to see past the facade, they can see someone smiling but actually sense all the pain they're hiding. I think it's something we're all born with but some people don't develop it while others do ❤️. A good example is when you're sitting near a stranger, you're not looking at each other but you can sense they're interested in you. 2 minutes later they strike up a convo, I think that's a form of empathy too just being able to read vibes past what's surface and obvious.

@ceygib7747 2 жыл бұрын

Bob, I learned so much about sobriety! You are something else!

@shweeeerddddddxx 2 жыл бұрын

This came at a perfect time for me. I’m struggling getting clean off a substance and I want it so bad.. i’ve done it before so I know I can do it again it just gets harder every time. Much anxiety at first it is like so bad I don’t even wanna leave my house. Thank you both for the podcast 🖤

@YeyazWyrd 2 жыл бұрын

Hi my name's Jeremiah and I'm an addict. I've been in and out of all kinds of meetings over the years, but haven't been in a while and have fell of the wagon.... again. And I'm taking this as my sign to get back into it :) thank y'all so much! ❤

@giosantiago8648 2 жыл бұрын

Had a really hard day today but listening to you guys always makes me smile…even if im crying at the same time lol love y’all sm

@YeyazWyrd 2 жыл бұрын

:') life is really freaking hard a lot of the times, and if nobody else has told you this: I'm so proud of you for making it this far, and this might be weird coming from a stranger but I love you and really hope you will always be able to appreciate and bounce back from those bad days ❤

@sleepwith1755 2 жыл бұрын

But Bob you feeling people getting mad in the comments proves your empathic abilities

@Omin811 2 жыл бұрын

really special episode. thank you both.

@molly4561 5 ай бұрын

as someone who's been trying to quit weed for over 5 years, thank yall for covering addiction and sharing your stories/experiences. it brings a lot of hope to people like me

@esjayism 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Bob

@ericao1565 2 жыл бұрын

i WHOLEHEARTEDLY AGREE with bob about the weight conversation!!!!

@anthonythomas8502 2 жыл бұрын

Not Bob treating empath’s like they’re in the MCU - what’s the range LOOOOOL

@oliviabell7083 2 жыл бұрын

This was a really profound podcast and I'm so glad you both, but specifically Bob, had the courage to talk about sobriety in a non-stigmatized way. I really appreciate Bob sharing about her past, it means a lot to a lot of people to open up about being queer and struggling with addiction. Much love to you both xxx

@xobrittuhox 2 жыл бұрын

When Monet said they were all empaths, I literally groaned outloud. Bob is so hilarious and right, that's a red flag for me.

@roronoa_raf2201 2 жыл бұрын

I love watching sibling rivalry cause it reminds me of the banter I used to have with an old friend, love that y’all could joke with each other

@coffeeonzeetele 2 жыл бұрын

I just quoted Roberta’s perspective on empaths to my mom, you have a new fan

@jamm.u.a4450 2 жыл бұрын

This is BEAUTIFUL

@merizmawiz6233 2 жыл бұрын

7:24-7:34 Bob, thank you.

@Bradlee297 2 жыл бұрын

This was a great episode!

@pjae1076 2 жыл бұрын

I love how Bob is so emphatic about things he can’t prove. And then also so ironically emphatic about things he can’t prove.

@bryanmorgan4759 2 жыл бұрын

Bob made my google home wild out this episode

@ashamash 2 жыл бұрын

This was everything. Werk.

@BKDAYZ 2 жыл бұрын

I too feel uncomfortable being called or referred to as queer. I also grew up in a time where it was definitely not a word with positive empowerment. Early 50s in age. NYC

@corgeousgeorge 2 жыл бұрын

OMG Bob is really being vulnerable here. To expose something like how you yourself did something so messy to someone else takes a lot of courage. Yikes! That shit is rough!

@lemonz1769 2 жыл бұрын

Space stations are in space 🚀

@noelarbelo6684 2 жыл бұрын

“idk this song but i know its sza” love bob 😂

@humphreychannel582 2 жыл бұрын

There’s a difference between being an empath and being empathetic

@pmhayes7 2 жыл бұрын

what a fun podcast

@transfusionz 2 жыл бұрын

Me white-knuckling, head on a swivel ready to smack down my Google Assistant with the fury every moment Bob says "Hey Google" 😱

@haydentraynor2098 2 жыл бұрын

Sobriety is as sweet as Saint Lucia.

@pugdad2555 2 жыл бұрын

Not Bob being humble and saying he is not a celebrity🤣🤣🤣🤣

@josephlebron4205 2 жыл бұрын

Bob got my Google home going off over here with him asking google to look something up lol

@jacobhardbarger9060 2 жыл бұрын

Love them

@JamsOnya 2 жыл бұрын

love yall

@erichanser2807 2 жыл бұрын

Gatekeeping the term “sober” is one of the many reasons why I don’t do AA. 12-step programs are not the only way to be sober. I’ve been in therapy with an addiction specialist and sober for 3 years.

@rifa1673 2 жыл бұрын

bob is right, being an empath isn't a red flag but saying you're one is HUGE red flags

@imaphoenix7692 2 жыл бұрын

monet singing sza in the beginning were the first time i’ve heard the actual lyrics 😂

@norikadolmy7274 2 жыл бұрын

Narcissism is a typical feature of psychopathic behaviour 👀

@janeapplebee 2 жыл бұрын

😍🧐plumbing the depths, fab, just fab 🤔😍

@zigcarnivorous8028 2 жыл бұрын

Lol, bob, there's no zero gravity chambers, sillybilly! You have to get in a plane. Then it dives, and during the freefall you can experience weightlessness

@spencerburrows624 2 жыл бұрын

God, Monet looks so damn fine here. She was biting that lip like daaaamn

@staceycameron4157 2 жыл бұрын

It's hard deciding what feelings are yours and what are other people's, it has to do with caring about them in your heart. But, in the end you have to let go and let God on all of your feelings and theirs, so it really doesn't matter. The range is infinite.

@aaronmartinez5139 2 жыл бұрын

omg Bob gagged me when they said Marti relapsed, I gasped

@humphreychannel582 2 жыл бұрын

I believe there is other sentient life out there but we will never encounter them as they will be too far away for us to ever see them let alone reach them. As when we look out into distant stars we see what they are like many many years ago when life hadn’t begun yet.

@jordonc6655 2 жыл бұрын

okay yall gotta move back to NY

@Tamlin. 2 жыл бұрын

Love #SiblingRivalry❤. Long time listener from #CapeTownSouthAfrica🇿🇦🇿🇦❤️❤️ ❤. Request: for those of us who love watching the podcast, can we see Bob and Monét for the entire podcast instead of having the thumbnail image of the podcast showing for other half of the podcast please. #LoveFromCapeTownSouthAfrica🇿🇦🇿🇦❤️❤️

@chachan2583 2 жыл бұрын

Whoop whoop SA! 🇿🇦

@grizzlybearsd 2 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who had a drinking problem, and he was kinds an influence on my other close friends when it came to getting shit faced drunk. And it got to a point where he would want to fight everyone. There was big fight between him and the love of my life and after that day we just decided not hang with him anymore. This was 5 or 6 years ago. I don't know now if still drinks but I do know he did turn his life around a bit. But the damage was already done within our friend group.

@KimmiesPerspective 2 жыл бұрын

To touch on the empath subject There are different kinds of empathy .. there are ones who sense the energy.. which is like Bob mention where someone can act happy but can be really sad .. some people just have the sense of knowing .. hell some can hear the thoughts of people .. it depends on the person

@rosannam7623 2 жыл бұрын

There's empaths and dark empaths , some people can empathise with your struggles and want your best interest at heart , dark empaths will use your struggles to manipulate you , they dont care about your struggles

@letzsnuggzz 2 жыл бұрын

Cropover is in Barbados. Caribana is in Toronto, Canada.

@drewboo1857 2 жыл бұрын

My "Hey Google" was going bananas. 🍌 🤣

@deepreddawg2510 2 жыл бұрын

Bob: "I don't believe in energy."😂😂😂

@MrJayWonderful 2 жыл бұрын

19 minutes in and I’m having an existential crisis lol

@steveb1155 2 жыл бұрын

Honestly, empaths being a red flag is a hit for me. Always the same people who make assumptions you don't need or are online being like 'my toxic trait is that I care too much'. If even half the people I met who claim to be empathic really did have powers and could read my feelings, they most certainly did not care about them and instead just loved talkin about what they thought was going on with me. Honestly, I think they're just confused about normal ass human empathy and that's about it.