Traditionally speaking, the honour of a father walking their daughter down the aisle was a symbolism to say "I have cared for and protected this woman up to this point, and I am now handing that honour to the husband." So given how the dad instead chose to neglect his daughter, he would be the one who broke the tradition. As for keeping up apperances, they procrastinated that point for, what, 24 ish years? 31ish years for OP....

It doesn’t matter if the child comes out a boy or girl. If you aren't going to treat them with the loving care they deserve, you shouldn’t have had kids. I'm glad the sisters are living a happy life, and I wish the best for the brother having to put up with the parents' BS

"you can't just sideline us, we're your parents" "Well you sidelined us and we're your daughters"

If that dude tried to hit me with the "Traditionally, the father walks the bride down the aisle!" I would've clapped back with a "Traditionally, a father raises, supports, and cares about his daughter"

"Oh my daughter didn't choose me to walk her down the aisle. My reputation is ruined!!! I shall teach them a lesson my not showing up for the wedding and ruining my image even more, while it won't affect them in the slightest" The ego on some people lol😂

Wonderful grandparents. It's bizarre that that kind of love can skip a generation, from loving grandparents to narcissist parents to loving children

“You can’t sideline us, we’re your parents.” You sidelined them and they’re your children.

Finally, a successful wedding in one of these stories.

...I never understand why there's always so much pressure to be #1 in school and then just....drop it all to marry and have kids the second you're an adult what fucking sense does that make for those "parents"? TwT

Even being invited to the wedding, or being in contact at all, was way more than those parents deserved. I'm surprised that the golden son didn't end up becoming as rotten as his parents, at least according to this story...

"What would you do with more education?" "Simple. Get away from you."

Male heir 😂😂😂😂 what are you, royalty?? Parents like this are so delulu

I wonder how their relationship with their brother look like. It's common in such stories for the golden child and neglected ones to have a strained relationship, but Op said only the parents didn't show up to the wedding so I'm asuming the brother was there and it seems like he doesn't cause any problems

What a W those grandparents are amazing.

'If you don't let us walk you down the aisle, we won't come to your wedding!' Noooooo... don't do that... that'd be teeeerribleeeee... Honestly, I'm amazed they were still invited at ALL.

Of course a father has the right to walk his daughter down the altar in her big day! But he has to ACT like a father in his daughter life too.

the parents have some nerve talking about tradition. “traditionally”, parents look after their children, but i guess they weren’t big on keeping that one going

I hope the couple can still stand firm if and when the grandkids arrive. They'll come slithering back as soon as they get wind of that.

I’d go a step further and make and itemized list of each and every instance of favoritism and forward it to the entire family. I would ruin their entire reputation simply because that’s what they fear the most. Anyone who raises a child as a “reflection of themselves” gets really ‘shocked pikachu face’ when the reflection they get, shows everyone everything they wanted hidden. It will never fail to amuse me.

While not traditional if I ever get married I'd like my aunt to walk me down the isle. The only real father figure I had was my grandpa as mom was a single mom, and she was also emotionally abusive and is now dead. Aunty has always been there for me no matter what and is still here for me, shes been more of a parent to me than my mother was and I'm so very grateful to have her. I'm not good at sharing feeling face to face and so I've never been able to tell her how much I appreciate her and everything shes done for me and don't think I'll ever be able to. That grandpa is to her what my aunty is to me and sounds like an amazing person.

yikes, it's parents like these that makes me think that that the school system should also be teaching parenting in addition to things like math, language what not.

Wonder what Op and her sister's relationship with their brother is like. She doesn't really talk about him too much except to show the difference in how the parents treat them. Doesn't mention him at the wedding either. Did he show up?

Not showing up is worse than not being able to walk the daughter down thr aisle. Now all the relatives find out what neglectful, selfish and terrible parents those two are. 😂

Let it be known, when th GRANDPARENTS of the OP are better than the parents in stories like these, really makes you wonder what the hell went wrong? Quick Edit: Also, Glad to see the OP and OP's sister didnt act spiteful towards their brother, because at the end of the day, it wasnt his fault, it was soley on the parents

Honestly, I hope to have both a son and a daughter in the future. Order doesn’t matter, and I won’t be upset if even that doesn’t happen. I’m a girl with two brothers, and from what I understand, the only real difference in raising a son and a daughter comes with when they hit puberty, or any medical factors related to their body (in terms of gender).

Wow how old is grandpa, still going strong

OP went from protagonist to deuteragonist with that one. Truly one of the life stories of all time

I hope OP and her sister can have a happy and healthy relationship with their brother. As much as my sister and I irritate each other (lol) I think it’d be weird not have a relationship with her

They wanna harp on their child about traditions? I would’ve said something about how traditionally, the parents love their children and don’t dump the “unwanted” ones on their own parents.

I don’t blame the lofty connection with their brother. He had all the time to see the parents for who they were. Even if it meant getting cut off.

The parents are the selfish one who think they can play happy family.

One of the ways you could have dealt with the harassment from your parents would be to threaten to out their neglectful way to their “friends” if they don’t back off.

Vile parents.

Ngl this was like the most wholesome story I’ve heard in a while

All children deserve parents; Yet not all parents deserve children ~A Wise Person~

Can relate, my parents spoiled my older and younger brother but completely forgot about me. I’m the middle child and I got the worst of it. There was obvious favoritism and got annoyed when I did anything. For the first 8 years of my life I spent most of my time with my grandparents and they were more like real parents than my actual parents. Everything was fine until my grandpa passed. Luckily since then my parents started paying more attention to me and treating me like a person again. When my youngest brother and sister were born they didn’t make the same mistakes and I saw to it.

It always irks me when I hear parents treating there children like that I myself was raised very religious and I still am at no point did my family ever treated us this way they have every right to cut them off.

This is why religious conservatism cooks the brain. They valued their social standing within their tribe over their own daughters.

Imagine the embarrassment the grandparents had knowing that their own daughter was so male oriented even though it obviously didn't come from them.

Its a miracle they are invited at all tbh. Personally I wouldn't want them there at all. They weren't present for her whole life and now they have demands about her wedding? No way.

I actually teared up.

Every time I hear such story of parental neglect and hear that parents ar religious, first thought that comes - "that explains EVERYTHING".

Being the oldest middle and baby all in a nutshell The first baby is the test baby Second most often forgotten/hardly ever seen Last child always gets what they want and never have any type of punishment It’s a sad but true point

I’m sure my dad would have loved to have a son. But by child #3(5 years after me), my dad was hoping for another daughter! He had waaaay more pros for another girl then adding a boy to the mix. None of us are married yet but the oldest is looking to get engaged this year so wedding planning is still a bit away for talks

This story os so heartwarming 😊 I hope them a happy loving lives.

how worthless of a parent do you have to be for YOUR parents are better parents than you for YOUR child smh

My advice to parents. Doesn’t matter if your child is a boy or a girl or whatever you love them unconditionally

Ugh, those parents are AWFUL, so glad they had granddad and each other...and that sister's fiance had a strong shiny spine, supporting her. I wonder how much of it had to do with the father's religion, since Grandfather seems the total opposite of his misogynist son-in-law🤔🤷‍♀️The parents obviously care more about their public image than their actual children, sad. Let's hope that the brother will end up marrying a no-nonsense type who will keep them away from any grandchildren, nobody needs that toxicity in their lives and maybe then, once they are left all alone, they'll realise that you reap what you sow

The math on OP's age doesn't work. She claims there's only a 6 year age gap between her and sister, but... - OP is sent to live with grandparents ("...when I was just 2 years old...") - Parents take OP back ("...until I turned 7 years old and people started questioning...") - Sister is born ("After 3 years, my parents were over the moon..."), so she would be 10 at the time. I also love the part where she complains about her sister never being given equal chores, even though that was before her brother was born which would make her 6 years old at MOST. But at least her child labour expectations are consistent, because she's not very pleased that her brother doesn't have to do any chores at all, and by the time she left for uni he would have still been somewhere between 2 and 6, depending on which math you trust. Come on, parents - make your toddlers pull their weight!

Your parents are real ah thank God my parents treat both me and my sister equally and with love and care

I'm glad these sisters have such a loving paternal figure in their grandfather. And I'm glad Robert supported the sister.

They could have had what they had wished from a son if they didn’t abuse their daughters 💀

Reminder, the dad title is earned, and that grandfather is her father whether the bio sperm donor likes it or not

The grandpa just makes my heart warm. Hes sounds like such a loving person

It angers me when people put on religion to look good while lacking any character at all. As a Christian myself the Bible says all childredn are a gift from God regardless of gender. From this we can take that the grandparents did their best it's just that their daughter(OP's mother) is the one who went wrong and adopted misogyny in raising her daughters with the guy she married. These people are no better than the Pharisees Jesus rebuked multiple times for only looking good in public while being horrible people at home. It's not about being religious it's about being a good parent and they failed abysmally at that task. May OP's sister stand her ground and keep them out of her life especially when she and her husband have kids because I guarantee they'll try worming they way into her life. They will definitely cause issues by favoring grandsons over granddaughters.

Can't stand these types of Hypocritical parents they want to do nothing to properly take care of their children and be there for them but then they think they are entitled to deserve to be involved in their children's milestones. In a way I was hoping the parents attended the wedding so the Sister could give a toast to the grandpa and older sister and out how horrible the parents were towards them so the entire family knows how horrible they were.

I’m the oldest of my siblings and i was also treated the worst. We’re three brothers, myself 29, my other brothers 27 and 14. I can’t find it in me to be jealous or resentful towards my youngest brother, although I can clearly see he is being raised with more love and affection than I ever was. That because I realize that when my parents had me they were just kids themselves, atleast mentally, and that they were fully unprepared to deal with adult life. I think a lot of people making these Reddit posts would benefit from considering their parents own experience

Imagine having to explain this to God, as in the parents' standpoint.

It's not called religion, it's called abuse or toxic tradition.

Its always “gods plan” until god gives them something they dont want

This story towards the end had me thinking about my grandpa and had me crying. He is technically alive, but has alzheimers and is more a husk now. I miss my grandpa every day and want to go out to breakfast wtih him one more time while he tells me his 3 favorite stories all over again. He was my friend and a rock for me when I needed one. I have only seen him one time while he's been at the home hes in now. I could only be there for 20 minutes and left in tears. The moment I walked in, he smiled then had a look of who are you and and confusion. The moment I realized he had no idea who I was destroyed me.

I genuinely want to cry now 😅 it’s a beautiful story that reminds me of my own grandparents who I felt the same way about, a super strong bond.

Read this title and thought my sister wrote this lol. I had my grandpa walk me down the aisle too

It is not a right it is a privilege to walk your daughter down the aisle, he gave up that right plain and simple.

*_L!Parents_** made their own bed, NOW they must lie in it !!!*

Makes daughter do a ton of random extra curriculars. Wants her to have less smarts.

It's kind of sad that the brother couldn't feel that kind of love as well ... Parents must be pressing him to now be perfect ... But i find the two sisters very strong willed !

i love that grandpa?? tell me someone gives him hugs every day

I hope that OP and her sister are having a better life away from their parents and I hope the brother can also deal with the parents’ bs ❤

Im only 3min in, but their parents did neither girl justice... at least she was set up to win.. but sister was set up for failure until the brother was born... he eventually got the worst of it. Worshipping your kids like that, will never turn out good.

The older sister is basically like my older sister

Parrot sound foreign like they could be Indian Korean Asian, because the value is placed on having sons more than having daughters

I’m wondering how the brother turned out

i hope for the sak that when they have kids these people are not going to ruin it

Where were the relatives that are pressuring the sister when the parents neglected the girls?

The fact that tue other first sister always supported the second sister despite the parent's strict rules that were more relaxed and them not holding grudges that's a W sister right there.

The parents are awful, at least they didn't care to safe face by attending the wedding, happy to hear that they were blocked everywhere, clearly they are not family

One the best I seen for a long time from this channel love it

I wonder how to brother reacted to the wedding and if he attended

I hate people like that, I feel so sorry for the guy. 😢

She makes a point to acknowledge that her parents treatment of her sister (before the brother came) wouldn't change her behaviour towards her and she'd try foster a great sisterly relationship - she doesn't mention doing that with her brother at all. It seems like he was destined to be the golden child before he was even born because he was a boy but he'd also be resented by his sister because he was a boy.

This is the sweetest story ever.

This is so wholesome bro 😭😭

The rare time where the event shown in the title is a good thing

When the parents were pleading it’s tradition that the father walk the daughter down the isle, I was wishing she could have said, “and its tradition that parents love, care and nurture for their children, yet here we are”

TW: swearing "My parent's couldn't fathom why my sister wouldn't let our father walk her down the aisle" Me af: "WELL WHEN YOU TREAT YOUR CHILDREN LIKE SH-T THEIR ENTIRE LIVES THEN WHY THE HELL WOULD THEY PICK YOU!"

OP is an absolute W SISTER!!!!!

Grandpa should walk you down

"Guys wouldn't be interested in educated women" tf💀💀 see im from india and still wtf

This story made me teary eyed at the last update 🥹

My father wanted a boy. My elder sister was born first. She is his most loved child. Gender means nothing when you actually love your own blood.

The parents' actions also alienated the son from his sisters. The OP does not mention he was even invited or attended the wedding. The brother grew up to be a narcissist himself, and the parents will die alone for it.

I feel really happy for the sisters personally, after having so much neglect and trauma from their parents and the grandparents are a W. (Like if you agree)

I am at 16-year-old girl with four younger siblings and I'm better a better parent than the OP 's

I was wondering how did a loving family (grandparents) end up having unloving kids (parents) until i found out the grandparents are from mom's side. It all makes sense now She married the wrong man People, set your standard, you need to date a person who see their children as a human being they unconditionally love, not a potential trophy thing to flaunt on your friends And ladies, don't be a PickMe because in the end, your children (both son and daughter) will suffer in that filth

All the mental abuse and neglect toward Op and her sister while the brother got golden child treatment for years and they expected Op's sister to be obedient and submissive by allowing the those who caused their pain to have parts of honor in the wedding. Sorry that's not how family and traditions works. Actions have consequences and Op's parents learned that the hard way when the news of their roles in the wedding being non-existent.

I would never have answered when they started blowing up the phone.

If I get married, and my grandparents are still here, I want my grandpa and my stepdad to walk me down the isle

I cried during this relizing how lucky u am to have amazing parents that will be with me through all of achievements and milestones and how I am such a pain sometimes. (God I hate emotions im crying again)

At least we all know who got the money when Grampa dies. 👌