Social Anxiety | Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

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Social Anxiety | Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

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Explearning Communication and Social Skills

4 жыл бұрын

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@xermita 2 жыл бұрын

I hate that moment when you're at your lowest and loud mouthed family members call you lazy

@HerExpressiveMind 4 жыл бұрын

I think telling people how I felt, making new friends and trying new things are things that I let my fear get in the way of. Great video, it was really helpful!

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hi! I am so happy you found this video lesson valuable :) Thank you for sharing those examples with us. We all let fear get in the way sometimes, but the most important thing is checking ourselves and building that awareness around it so that we can overcome that fear. It's wonderful to have you in the Explearning community. Feel free to let me know if you have any lesson requests (many of our lessons are requests from Explearners!). Happy Explearning ⚡

@jch8376 3 жыл бұрын

I think religious people handle this problem better because the only judgement they care about is God's so others don't matter to them .

@TheReminisce777 4 жыл бұрын

it can be a living nightmare literally.

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Sean, indeed it can. Luckily, it is an obstacle that we can surmount! Great to have you in the Explearning community :) Happy Explearning ⚡

@TheReminisce777 4 жыл бұрын

I like your point of view Mary. Very clear perspective!

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

@@TheReminisce777 Thank you, Sean! So glad you found this lesson valuable :))

@Sniffy0727 2 жыл бұрын

@@ExplearningCo what's a good Bible study lesson or lessonS on this that I can study and get into my head

@DAClub-uf3br 9 ай бұрын

I am 57. My fear of public speaking spun out of control in my 40's. At that time my work would be publicly reviewed. Some people were unnecessarily unkind. This not only hurt personally it also had a negative reflection on my income. So when someone says that it doesn't matter what others say i have experience that says otherwise.

@timmurphy2107 Жыл бұрын

It has affected me especially when meeting other peoples friends at a bar or similar setting. Stress level 10.

@AlifyaLifestyle 4 жыл бұрын

You make such great points! If only people stop caring so much of what others think, they can achieve it all!

@jesuslopezl1268 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent Video! Apologies for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard the talk about - Peyichael Simplex Precedence (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a great one off guide for getting rid of shyness and anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my old buddy Taylor after a lifetime of fighting got amazing results with it.

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hello! I am glad that you enjoyed the video lesson :) I have not heard of that talk, but it's great if it works! If you're interested in boosting confidence (during public speaking, online meetings or in social interaction more broadly) then you might enjoy this playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Happy Explearning ⚡

@antonmanalo2544 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t thank you enough for this video, I’m only 15 and I’ve been struggling with my social anxiety for years. It has stopped me from doing what I love and experiencing new things in school, it also prohibited me from talking to people and making new friends due the fear of being perceived as a loser. It causes me to just hide in a bubble and just to wear a mask that conceals who I really am.

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hey! 15 years young and you already have the self awareness on this. Good for you. We all go through periods where we fear the judgment of others and experience social anxiety, so you're certainly not alone in this. And the fact that you are addressing it so early on will serve you well in life! Keep up the awesome work 🌟 You got this ⚡

@cpafcma Жыл бұрын

A beautiful way to bring it out. Really good.

@k3nny235 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, words of wisdom. I can totally relate, given that I am in my early twenties and I would constantly think about how others would judge me. I would avoid any social interaction with strangers if necessary, but now I've been trying to be myself and not care much about what others think about me. I was also partially distracted by how charming and pretty you look Mary, you look like you're in your late 20's. Thanks for the info.

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Kendrick, it's great to hear that you are feeling more confident in social situations! The truth is that everyone cares what people think of them to a certain degree and that we all have some type of social anxiety. Recognizing that reality enables us to address it and equip ourselves with confidence-boosting strategies to help us overcome such obstacles. Here's a confidence-boosting playlist I'm sharing with you: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w So happy you're in the Explearning community! ⚡ (And thanks for the compliment!)

@Augvsty 3 жыл бұрын

I have a movement disorder(involuntary movements) and it makes me feel embarrassed when it happens especially at inconvenient times, and that lead me to have anxiety. Your tips were helpful though, i subscribed to your channel.. keep up the great work :)!

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Everyone has some sort of social anxiety, so you're not alone! It's great to hear that you are enjoying Explearning and it's awesome to have you in the Explearning community 😊 Happy Explearning ⚡

@maiz3558 3 жыл бұрын

Same I have ET

@ukhtiiiojo9186 3 жыл бұрын

Abdurrahman thats a Muslim name!! I hope your having a great ramadhan and inshallah allah will help you in feeling at ease overall however I do have a tip you can message me on insta if u want to talk more but don't worry I promise if you change your mentality it will all work out ❤️

@namjoonstolejiminsjams 2 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@namjoonstolejiminsjams 2 жыл бұрын

It sucks

@humanbeing6988 4 жыл бұрын

A huge amount of love for you

@ShanqKoo 4 жыл бұрын

Great video! Keep up the good work!

@afreensaheer1668 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video 💖💖💖 I was facing social anxiety so badly and after watching this video I feel so much light and motivated. Keep making wonderful videos like these so it can help others.🥰💓💓💓

@ExplearningCo 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Afreen, so happy to hear you found this lesson helpful. We all face some kind of social anxiety, so you're not alone! Thanks for being part of the Explearnity! I'll keep making my lessons, keep tuning in :))

@sabinaa653 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, Mary!

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Sabina! Glad it was helpful! It's great to have you in the Explearning community :) Happy Explearning ⚡

@nontokozombatha9182 3 жыл бұрын

This video was literally made for me. Thank you for taking the time to make it and upload it. More blessings to lady! 🙌🏽💖🌟🇿🇦

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Nontokozo! How wonderful to hear that this video resonated with you :) Very happy you found it! Thank you for your kind words. It's great to have you in the Explearning community! More videos to come. Keep up the excellent work :)

@valeriemadsen2310 Жыл бұрын

Lovely video, thank you so much. 😊

@jigglypuffu 4 жыл бұрын

Very helpful! This boosted my confidence uwuu❤

@charmaineapplesilagan1111 3 жыл бұрын

Very timely to how I feel now! Very helpful, thanks a lot!

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Charmaine ! I am so happy you found this video lesson helpful :) If you're interested in more confidence-related lessons, you might like this playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Happy Explearning ⚡

@JOVI08 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Mary. You are very pretty and i love your voice. I can probably learn a lot from you. ♥️✨

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jovelyn, welcome to the Explearning community! It's great to have you here. Thank you so much for the kind words :) We have hundreds of lessons at Explearning (and we've also started an Advanced English channel, which may be interesting as well:) so stay tuned for that!). Let me know if you have any requests for content you'd like to see at Explearning or at Advanced English! Happy Explearning ⚡

@nicoleadams9018 Жыл бұрын

This is helping me so much. Thank you!

@ExplearningCo Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome, Nicole! So happy you're finding it helpful 😌

@williamdavis132 3 жыл бұрын

Your speaking Skills made me keep my concentration Still.

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi William, so happy that you enjoyed this lesson :) and that you found Explearning! Delighted to have you in the Explearning community. ⚡

@andrefelipe2643 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much i wanted to make a video call with a friend... I was fearing my family reaction... Thank you so much

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hello! So happy that you found this lesson valuable :) Social anxiety CAN be overcome! You got this :) Happy Explearning ⚡

@directvirtualneeds 3 жыл бұрын

I love this information!

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Since you liked this lesson, you might also like this playlist of confidence boosting exercises: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Happy Explearning ⚡

@shivamkumarchoudhary12 4 жыл бұрын

very much helpful

@hamzaarif6000 4 жыл бұрын

I had always avoid my bigger missions just because of this sentence "what people will think about me, about my skin color, about my outfits, about my fat body. I believe that i have so much guts to make progress in my life but i always avoid gatherings, school activities and so much in my 21 years life i can't even explain you. But now its time to grow up, its time to do something and that motivation bring me here And thank you sooo much Ma'am you explained it very well. One of the best motivational video ❤ Love from Pakistan Ma'am ❤❤❤

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Hamza, first of all, thank you for sharing your story. Secondly, I am so glad your journey brought you to Explearning. It's great to have you in the Explearning community ⚡ It sounds like you're now on a mission that you care about, so keep it up! It's a very liberating feeling to not worry so much about what other people think of us. This quote from Eleanor Roosevelt is a great one to think about: “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Happy Explearning ⚡

@hamzaarif6000 4 жыл бұрын

@@ExplearningCo Thank you Ma'am ❤

@Moneypenny1960 3 жыл бұрын

This was helpful. Thank you

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Connie, glad it was helpful! You might also enjoy this playlist of Explearning lessons. It's all about confidence building: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Great to have you in the Explearning community! Happy Explearning ⚡

@K_Sparkxx 2 жыл бұрын

This helped a little, I'm starting a new year and I want to open up to more ppl be more social. I wanna join the softball team but I'm scared that they'll judge me and I won't be good enough to be on the team.

@ExplearningCo Жыл бұрын

Just join! Everyone is judging everyone all the time... including you! It's okay 👍 Join otherwise you might have regrets if you don't. Putting it in perspective helps 🙂

@spell5869 3 жыл бұрын

I'm scared to tell people where I'm from because they might just think about the stereotypes of my country...they might think oh there skin colour is pprb this and they are prob poor. I have cried many times because of this, since I make online friends, mostly that is where it makes me cry. I'm sometimes even scared to tell my age because I'm prob way too young then they have thought i would have been..😭

@sle279 3 жыл бұрын

ya same dude, i mean i was like this, my advice to you is just be you, be confident!! don't wait for the confidence to come to you you give it to yourself no matter of who you are or what you look like you should be confident you don't need to please anyone or like if they think like this it's their problem you should never judge anyone based of their country prove them wrong and you can do it trust yourself say that you can do it AND YOU CAN!! ˢᵒʳʳʸ ⁱᶠ ⁱ ʷᵃˢⁿᵗ ᶜˡᵉᵃʳ ᵉⁿᵒᵘᵍʰ ⁱ ᵈᵒⁿᵗ ʳᵉᵃˡˡʸ ᵏⁿᵒʷ ʰᵒʷ ᵗᵒ ᵉˣᵖˡᵃⁱⁿ ˡᵒˡ

@syedjafferimam5789 2 жыл бұрын

What an underrated channel. 👌

@ExplearningCo 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you think so! Feel free to share it with people who'd like this content :)

@marymayseguros1422 3 жыл бұрын

I have social anxiety that sometimes leads me to hurt other people's feelings. Sometimes I questioned myself why does people need to have this kind of fear? I'm trying my very best tho to overcome this but still I always end up crying and hurting. Am I too fragile to feel this kind of pain? I wanna get rid of this already. Thankfully I saw ur video. And hopefully this will help me to get through with this and will make clear improvements for myself. 🙏🏻

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Maria, thank you for sharing. I am very happy that your found our channel, which hopefully will be a resource for you :) We all have social anxiety, which manifests differently in everyone. So, don't bee too hard on yourself. The first and most important step to take towards progress is realization. You might be interested in our confidence building playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Check it out and let me know what you think! Happy Explearning (it's great to have you here!) ⚡

@Moneypenny1960 3 жыл бұрын

I have experienced the same thing. I have a question for you though; why does having anxiety cause you to hurt other people’s feelings? Curious because I had a boss who was continually thinking I was mad at him.

@Natsuo969 Жыл бұрын

i have a job next month and right now im dealing with fear of being outside cause i always seem like im being watched and judged about my personality and how i would panic being outdoors because of it i have stayed indoors for the past week and everyone around me seems to enjoy seeing me like this especially the neighbors who always look at me it annoys me always

@Leo-ul5pc Жыл бұрын

I have a similar problem, I applied for a job and I am not ready for my first interview

@wiisalute 3 жыл бұрын

My biggest struggle is worrying about saying something or it might come out offensive and someone will get mad, which is why I stay quiet and reserved. Like for example if I was approaching a group of people and they didn't want me to be a part of it, how would I handle that?

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Think of the value you could be adding to the conversation. Maybe you have an inspirational message to get out there that will transform someone's life or save someone a lot of discomfort. It's easy to think about what we're doing or saying wrong, or fear saying something wrong, but changing your mindset can really help you see that you can provide so much value in your conversations. Also, what if THEY DO WANT you to be part of it? :) Don't let them miss out on the opportunity to have an authentic conversation with you!

@wiisalute 3 жыл бұрын

@@ExplearningCo well let's just say if I say something or do something awkward that might offend someone or something doesn't go the way I anticipated, how can I recover from that?

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

@@wiisalute We find ways of moving on. As long as it's not an intention offensive or insulting communication exchange, don't live in fear of saying the wrong thing. Speak your mind, but of course be respectful and sensitive towards others' feelings. You might want to check out our lesson on symbolic interactionism: (1) explearning.co/blog/mp0lq8l5/symbolic-interactionism-%7C-build-don't-break-relationships-with-communication and (2) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mrN1kqSqs9PRlZc.html and here's a confidence building playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w

@jamaicaorlando198 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe youve been hurt before and so you learned to be cautious to not offend other people becoz you already know it feels.

@wiisalute 3 жыл бұрын

@@jamaicaorlando198 well last year I lost some close friends of mine. Apparently I said jokes that I thought were funny, but to them they were offensive. And the messed up part is that they didn't event tell me before. A girl friend of mine told me I made everybody feel awkward and she ended the friendship right in my face. I dont want that to happen again with my new friends I made recently.

@elenakovacevic4369 3 жыл бұрын

I have social anxiety and fear of emebersment(sorry i just cant spell it right) i have huge problems with PE and school itself people back in 5th grade would be annoyed would yell at me for not knowing certain activitys (in pe),thats the problem i have been dealing for since 5th grade, and im afraid to raise my hand in class that i think people would make fun of me be angry at me for not getting the question right and even not using a correct word. i really just cant stop thinking about what other would about me i just cant help myself i wish i wouldnt care i even cant walk right because i think people judge me how i walk, I have been trying didfrent metods but it just wouldnt work. I would sometimes even faint of the fear and anxiety

@ExplearningCo 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Elena, thank you for sharing this. I am so sorry this is happening. You are not alone, social anxiety creeps into all of our lives and recognizing that is a step in the right direction! The fear of what other people think of us is limiting and holds us back from doing the things we enjoy, accomplishing our goals, and being the person we want to be. What helps me is remembering that time is precious and if I'm not doing something (I enjoy) because I'm afraid how I'll be judged then I'm not honoring myself and my life. I wouldn't be living my truth if I worried about how people perceived me. It took me a while to understand this, but once I did it felt like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders! The goal should be to enjoy life each and every day and appreciate the little things. I've learned over time that letting go of others' opinions of us is very liberating and I'm much happier when I stopped caring what others think of me. People judge others even if they are "perfect" and "do everything right" and we know that perfection doesn't exist. We cannot be liked by everyone, and that is OK -- that's just not how it works. Realizing this takes some time, but by working on it a little bit every day we can overcome these limiting beliefs! I think this playlist on confidence-building might help: kzfaq.info/sun/PLSgyHuMB_1oiKmkhefo1iV4r0j-zPKD1w Give these lessons a listen/watch and let me know if there is anything else I can answer. Please keep your chin up and be proud of who you are. You don't need to change for anyone. The most courageous thing you can do is to be yourself. 🌟Stay strong.⚡

@melodyjohnson5647 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been there and am still walking through something’s now but God’s got us ❤️

@GDramaTVandEntertainment Жыл бұрын

Mine is terrible that even coming out from my room to eat at the dining table is hard, much more as going out in restaurants to eat with my family. It's crippling. I don't know what to do. :(

@Study.acl1 2 жыл бұрын

A necessary video ❤

@ExplearningCo Жыл бұрын

So happy it resonated with you 😁

@anonymous-tich. 10 ай бұрын

Yes

@captainrickk Жыл бұрын

Can you talk about childhood trauma and obsessive-compulsive disorder?

@We-kv3ze Жыл бұрын

If a simple sentence like make your goal bigger than your fear can help you overcome your fears, your fears are not big enough.

@bradmarkmichaelduffy5915 2 жыл бұрын

I'm currently scared to approach women I find attractive when I'm out and about because I'm scared others seeing then spreading that about resulting and me getting a bad reputation even though I have no bad intentions whatsoever.

@davidwhitcher1972 Ай бұрын

I can't do step one because nothing motivates me.

@captainrickk Жыл бұрын

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@captainrickk Жыл бұрын

3:00 I actually yawned right here 🙂🤣🤣

@Sufishot 3 жыл бұрын

@rishabhbhandari6339 4 жыл бұрын

Loved the content but imo you'd do much better if you fasten up a bit..the video looks really slow and ofc people'have very less patience these days🙂

@ExplearningCo 4 жыл бұрын

Hello! Glad you found this Explearning content valuable :) We like to make the content as accessible as possible, which is why we speak at the pace we do. One thing I like to do with the content I consume is increase the speed to 1.5x or 2x using the speed adjustment settings on the video (or podcast) player. It allows me to double my intake (a productivity hack!). Great to have you in the Explearning community. Happy Explearning ⚡