Does social media is causing tension and jealousy in your relationship? Watch Paul explains what usually happens in the marriage when causing problems through jealously and how you can deal with it.
I'd like to talk to you about this and see if maybe we can open things up a little bit. First of all, we need to have context for what social media is because what happens is -- it's sort of a low-level pornography. Forgive me if that's insulting. But what I mean by that is the friends that you have in social media and I'm not talking about your real friends that you meet up with on social media. I'm talking about social media friends. They're not real friends. They use the term so loosely and it's true that people complement each other and they develop relationships, and they start feeling comfortable but think about it.
You're not comfortable with how they smell and look. You're comfortable and your spouse is
comfortable with a few words of agreement or a like, or a heart, or a smile. It's just not real. In other words, you don't have to worry about it. It's sort of like going to the movies and let's say you're the wife and your husband goes, "Oh my God," because he sees a starlet on the screen.
You don't have to worry about her. It's silly to be jealous of her and that's the way it is in social media and that brings me to the other side of the coin. Jealousy.
I'm not big on the old testament style God of anger and wrath. For me, God loves us. God wants us to be happy. God does everything in his power, her power to bring us closer, a loving parent.
Think of God as the ultimate loving parent. The term sin has these connotations of evil and
you're going to spend time in hell for saying the wrong thing, for swearing, for making a mistake and telling and untruth. We create our own hell. There are karmic laws. You just can't get away from that. Everyone today knows about it. What goes around comes around. We call it karma. Everyone knows karma is real and the study of it, lets us realize that it's a very mechanical thing.
But jealousy is one of those things that is like a demon. It gets inside of our mind and we feel threatened and this is its source.
This is the door in which it comes into our mind is the fear of whatever. It's a drive to survive and
jealousy is manifesting going I'm in danger because my spouse blah blah blah or someone's interested in my spouse. Jealousy isn't cool. Now as soon as you find that jealousy is in your mind. It's your duty to control your mind to mitigate the effects of the triggers in your mind that are caused by the drive to survive.
Did you know that?
They don't teach us this in school. Everyone has a mind. Everyone has free will but we don't put together that we are obligated to use our free will to control ourselves. Ourselves meaning the mind in this case to make sure that it doesn't work against us that we recognize the biological drive to cause jealousy -- it's biologically driven. And so, we don't allow that to ruin our day
and especially ruin our spouses day. So those are the two sides, one side is the side of social media. Come on, it's nothing. It's not real. It's entertainment. It's like playing jigsaw puzzles or
pre-sale in my case. It's just a time consumer but the other part is much more important.
Jealousy -- if you're experiencing jealousy if you're experiencing resentment, whatever, any of these things that we feel that upsets us it's our obligation to control that. It is and to rid ourselves of these so that we feel the joy within because that's the natural you. We're souls.
The nature of soul is love. You don't feel love and anger at the same time. If you're feeling anger it's blocking the love. The love is coming from within. You don't want jealousy. You don't want
anger, suspicion all these things. You don't want them so you get rid of them. Your life will be
much happier. Take a look at the stuff that we have. It's very interesting. I believe that marriage, the experience of marriage, the exercise of marriage should all be based on deep universal principles, and I lay them out, spell them out and you can do the same.
Remember marriage is there to make you happier and to feel love. If it's not doing that, you need to learn how.
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