It's your life, your business, no explanation is needed to anyone.

와 Woahhhh, we woke up this morning to a whole wall of comments and we are completely floored over the positive response this video has gotten. Thank you all SO much for your supportive words and for taking the time to share your own stories and experiences here. We wanted to make this video because we thought that many people can also relate to this topic, so thank you for being part of the discussion. Even though we are unable to reply to everyone, we have been reading every single comment!

0:23 I thought your cat was a stuffed toy before he moved 😂😂

I think that you nailed it with the phrase, "social construct". Frankly, children can be enjoyable, but they put a burden on a marriage that many couples never recover from and that no one wants to admit resulting in affairs and spouses leaving the marriage as soon as the last child leaves home. You two seem to enjoy each other's company a lot and I think you are to be commended for making a choice that falls outside of the social constructs. After divorce in my 20s as a young mom, I CHOSE never to marry again primarily because of the unreasonable expectations and pressures that married people put on each other. Given the opportunity to do it all over again, I would never get married OR have a baby, but I was obsessed/brainwashed with the notion that I was supposed to marry and give birth by 26.

I admire you, saying "We don't want to have kids" at loud requires courage because nowadays people are very judgemental towards married couples that prefer not to have children. Usually people would reply to you by saying "Well, than why did yoy marry for?". I noticed that many couples like you prefer to say "We don't know, we'll see" cause they don't want to be pressured. I like your attitude, well done!!! :)

I'm a 31 year old female and I'm not married and people do tend to ask me when am i getting married. Also, as much as I love kids, I don't want to have any.

I understand. When I was 21 I married the most incredible man. He wanted a huge family. Unfortunately I had several miscarriages. We had that question a lot. It hurt. Unfortunately he passed away when I was 28. Life is odd. Avoided relationships for a few years. Last year remarried, now at 35 have a month old baby girl. Choices are personal. In retrospect I never understood why so many presumed we would start "breeding". It's a choice. I applaud your honesty and respect your decision.

Really sensible video from the pair of you. I have an aunt who married for the first time aged 60. I started a new career aged 55. I have two friends who moved countries in their 40s. The decisions you make in your 20s need not be the ones you stick with in later life. The only irreversible one is the decision to have kids and I'm impressed that you two are being so thoughtful about it.

Hi Sarah and Kyuho! I love watching your videos and I want to share the "having babies" story in my country Vietnam. If a woman is pregnant before the wedding she is considered a nasty one. However if she isn't getting pregnant in a few months after the wedding she will be under pressure of everyone around: parents, relatives, the in-law family, colleagues, even the neighbours gonna ask "why you are not pregnant", "when will you have a child", "you must have kids when you're still young", etc. Telling "I don't want to have kids" is not exist in my country, if anyone has the courage to say that words she will be considered having a mental problem (?!!!!). After having babies a woman becomes both a house wife and a working mom, no freedom, her life is all around the kids and family. I'm 28 and has married for 2 years. I don't want to have kids for many reasons but no one accepts it, I'm struggling right now. Once I tried to talk to my mom, she yelled at me: "only you have that idea, you need to meet a doctor to see if you have any mental problem. Can't believe a woman has an idea like this". My parents' mindset is we have to have at least one child to maintain the marriage and as many children as possible so that we have many supports when we're old (such an awful old mindset but I can't do anything to change it). I was so shocked. Many future plans of mine can't be done because the plan to have a baby must be privilege. I even couldn't apply for a new job because no employer wants to hire a "married but don't have any kid" woman.One day I went to work wearing baggy clothes, a colleague suddenly stared at my belly and said: "Oh you're pregnant, congratulations!", wtf. Another day a neighbor texted my husband: "I saw your wife getting pregnant, I want to share some nutritious foods", wtf again. One time I met another neighbor in elevator, she told me with a serious strict tone as if she was my parents: "you have enough free time of your marriage you must have kid now". Oh my god they have no shame! I fell difficult to hang out with friends or colleagues because all topics are "when will you have a kid/ why don't you have a kid". I wish I lived in another country. I'm so glad that you guys can freely express your opinion and you mom is so open-minded. Hope you enjoy your live, travel a lot and achieve anything you want :)

I so much feel you ^^ I'm 36 years old, I don't want to get married and definitely don't want children. I haven't had these questions for a very long time now, cz everyone in my life knows, but 2 weeks ago though the questions came again and the "sth is wrong abt her" look. So, good for you if you follow the life you want to live 😊👌

I find it so rude when people assume stuff like everyone wanting kids.

항상 영상 잘 보고 있습니다 두 분은 항상 저에게 새로운 시야를 가지도록 영감을 주시는거 같아요 . . . 매우 진지하게 보다가 NG에서 빵터 졌어요 XD

Both of you are amazing.. :)

Came across one of your videos the other day, and wanted to say thanks for all of your post and looking forward to your new ones. Thanks!!!

Yay!! I always get so excited when you have a new video. 🙌🏻

항상 열심히 구독하고 있었는데, 이번 비디오가 정말 최고네요.

This topic is the most seriously thing to me in thesedays. Thank you so much. This video gave me a brave!!

너무 좋아요 :) 공감해요. 감사합니다! 블로그에 공유했어요. 속 시원해요. ㅎㅎ

이런 대화 너무 좋아요^^ 공감하는 부분도 많구요 이런 생각나눔 대화 같은것도 마니 올려주세용❤❤

Totally agree with you guys. Social pressure, expect you in certain way make you feel annoying. But luckily my parent understand me. I love your videos. So inspire ! Keep up. Be happy and healthy.

Thank you soo much for tackling this hard difficult topic. You are sooo correct in your opinions and judgement of this "thought social norm". And I'm very glad your sediment and solid on your decision. Gives people hope and way out of thinking differently than what's parents expect of them and perhaps cause less stress in their lives Thank you thank you🙏🏼😌🙏🏼

그리운 한국의 영상도 너무 반갑고 세라규호 그리고 비모 모두 너무 사랑스러운 영상입니다. 성숙한 가치관과 친절한 마음을 있는 그대로 보여주시는 편안한 영상들과 멋진 편집들도 보기 너무 편합니다. 컨셉에 너무 목말라 하기 보다는 자연스러운 삶의 모습 하나하나 공감하는게 세라규호커플 다운 것 같습니다.

저도 이런저런 사회적압력을 받고 있는 사람으로서, 사회규범과 삶의 기대치에 대해서 이야기하신 영상 흥미롭게 보았습니다! 좋은영상이에요!!

영상들을 보기시작했는데 영상들이 하나같이 편안하고 따뜻하네요 그리고 이번 주제는 저에게 많은 힘을 주네요! 좋은 영상들 감사합니다!!: )

Love the vlog Thankyou guys

와 진짜 오랜만에 본 영감을 주는, 인상적인 영상이네요. 그저 두 분이 앉아서 질문에 답해주는 영상인데도 너무 공감이 되는 말들과 본인들의 소신이 담긴 의견과 그것들이 다 합의가 되어서 온전히 서로를 존중해주며 살아가는 모습이 너무 인상깊고 멋져요. 그걸 보고 듣는데서 오는 뭐랄까 감동과 비슷한 벅차고 정신이 충만해지는 느낌이 들어요. 앞으로 내가 어떻게 살아가야 할까 어떤 방향으로 가는 게 내가 원하는 것일까 에 대해 더 진지하게 고민해볼 수 있는 시간이었어요. 감사해요 두 분! 언제나 항상 행복하시길😁

This is your best talk video! I really like it. You talk about the mind of Millennials. Social pressure is a big issue to youth nowadays. I am going to show this to my family. Thank you for making this, Sarah and Kyuho. ❤

좋은 영상이군요 항상 즐겁게 시청하고 있습니다

I recently just started watching your videos and I love all the different aspects of life that you guys talk about. I completely agree that people are always expecting you to follow the "normal" steps in life, because it is what is expected. I dislike when people say that I'll regret my decision to not have kids as if I don't have a mind of my own. The life that you guys are living as a strong married couple who just traveling and vlogging together is a dream I hope comes true! I love your videos and will continue to watch them!

This is the same decision that I have made as well. Being questioned all the time is not easy. Good for you two. Making the choice that is right for you is amazing!

I'd love to see a video of you talking about your jobs and discussing them. Really interested in that :)

좋은이야기 들려줬네요. 늘 응원합니다

I really commend you two for not following the social norm and doing what you guys want to do! You don't need to justify why you aren't going to have kids, you just aren't and that's totally okay!! I really appreciate this video.

I can see you two are so passionate about this topic! It’s kind of a taboo topic, so I’m really glad you two made a video on it and brought it to peoples’ attention😊

Thank you so much for this video & your honesty. It's disappointing that so many people feel entitled to comment on and judge other's lives. I think it’s important for people to see that there isn’t just one way to live, so it’s great to see you both being open and confident in your decisions. Your videos are always a joy to watch, but as someone moving towards a “non-traditional” path in my life I especially appreciated this one.

You guys absolutely right! Everyone live happily and do what like and love. This is the most important thing in the life! We are happy with my husband and our 2 dog. The happiness was chosen instead of compliance. I love you guys, thank you so much this amazing video, I look forward to the next one!

I know this video's kinda old, but I can't help but notice all of the questions about kids that are STILL being asked even after you guys addressed it thoroughly in the video.

THIS is EXACTLY what I think about life! just do you, do whatever that makes you happy, live the way that YOU want to be, and just don't judge others about whatever they do... you guys are awesome as always!!

매주 챙겨보고 있습니다! 오늘 영상 너무 유익한 것 같아요~~ 감사합니다:)

I love both this kind of discussion videos (the topic today was really good!) and the vlogs you do throughout the week.. a big THANK YOU to both for taking the time and effort for making them and uploading each week :) Keep up the good work

이런 주제를 다뤄주셔서 정말 감사해요.도입부 보다가 너무 좋아서 엄마한테 같이 보자고 해서 같이 보고 얘기도 했어요.정말 평소에도 특정 나이에 따라 주어진 미션들이 암묵적으로 존재하고 이에 따르지 않으면 결국 개인의 잘못으로 느껴지는게 너무 싫어서 이런 주제로 친구들과도 얘기했었는데 막상 이렇게 영상보니까 또 멍해지네요..전보다 변화된 시선만큼 앞으로도 더 변화되길 바라는 바입니당. 다들 원하는 선택을 눈치보지 않고 당당히 할 수 있기를 바라요.아 판단이라는 단어가 죄다 재단이라고 뜨는거 같아요! 다음주에 뵈요! :)

you guys have mentioned some critical points in this video that allows me to reflect back on my choices and my judgements on others. i really love how you guys stand up for your perspectives and stay strong together. there are so many perspectives in this world, and the term social norm itself is a socially constructed framework. no one shouldn't be blamed or ashamed for making their own choices, it is every individuals right to create their own world, comfort zone, and ultimately life :) Thanks Sarah and Kuho

This is my fav vid of yours so far. Thanks for discussing. I relate in many ways.

Hey there from a fellow East-Coast Canadian also over here in SK! Thank you for putting this out there! I've definitely felt the pressure of that awful question of "when" from my family and friends, too. I'm glad that you are putting a voice out there for all of us who are daring to live a different path. (Love keeping up with your videos btw)

잘 보고 잘 듣고 갑니다. 항상 건강 하시길...

규호랑 세라언니가 생각하는 삶의 가치관이 저랑 비슷하네용ㅎ 주변사람들의 말에 쉽게 흔들리지않을 본인의 의지도 중요한것같네요 항상 비디오 잘보고있어요:)

why is [almost] everyone making a fuss about this couple not having kids? And If they decide to have kids, would it change your lives as theirs? it's not like it would add to your moral responsiblities. let them be.

Awesome video as always! I love how you think... Thanks for sharing, have a nice week😋

you both have spoken is truth and yes if we want to make choices we should be in a position to support our decision mentally as well as economically.......u guys are really amazing and well talkative persons too...love u both :) sarangey...

Omg I watched this video THREE times... I agreed with everything you and Kyuho said... 💗

Love this video.

I'm happy for you guys. Live the life you want to live and not let others live your life for you. Great topic, everyone should watch this video :)

Thank you for this video! I've gotten many weird looks and comments from people when I say I don't want kids, so it makes me feel better to hear that you two are not afraid to post a video telling everyone about your decision. I also love that you guys have serious discussions about topics others can relate to, instead of doing a bunch of makeup challenges and things that many other KZfaq couples do!

좋은 영상 감사합니다~ It makes me think about my life again and our society...Thank you so much

I found your video last night and I slept only 4/5 hours. It's 3 PM in Bangladesh now and still feels awesome to watching your videos over and over! Such a inspirational couple you are! :)

this video is def my fave video of yours. exactly what I say to people all the time!

I'm very happy that you guys touched this topic and are so sincere and honest about how you feel! That's one of the main reasons I subscribe to this channel - to hear your heartfelt opinions on various topics and still be respectful and mindful that everyone has a right to their own decisions. I do think society along with their use of media has brainwashed many of us into thinking we need to follow a certain route to be happy. That you need to graduate college, get married by a certain age, be within a certain weight range, have a specific type of body type, follow mainstream trends, etc etc. And I feel that this limits our creativity and freedom as human beings. And with so much pressure from society, family, and peers we sometimes find ourselves caving in to what they believe is the best for them. I'm personally very happy that you guys feel this way. Because in college, I was pressured into drinking alcohol to be popular, and when I didn't, I was left out of a lot of events. But the ones I was invited to, I did my best to show that I'm still a fun and awesome person to be around, and while I didn't please everyone, I did manage to change the viewpoints of many people and we are now good friends. The first step towards change is awareness, the next step is to take courage to change thoughts into action. You can't expect society to comply to you completely overnight, but you can follow your own dreams and your own path and by doing so, you can change many others gradually. And that's what I've learned. I am very proud of both of you, and everyone who is following their own dreams without caving into demands of society, family, and peers. As long as you don't hurt yourself or anyone in the process, you should be entitled to your own happiness in every right.

그 사람의 의사와 관계없이 당연히 다음에 마땅히 해야할일로 염두하고 '언제'할거니?라고 묻는다는 말이요. 정말 공감도 되고 위로도 되었습니다!!! 저도 내심 2세계획은 없는지 궁금하던 차에 이런 영상을 올려주셨네요!! 두분 응원해요 계속 영상많이 올려주세요!!!! :>

This is so true. Good video share. Seems like a lot of people have these kinds of social expectations asking "when are you going to have a kid, etc." I agree in the fact that asking, "do you want to have a kid?" is often the best way to go about it.

This video hits super close to home for me, thank you for making it! I just moved to another country to be with my soon to be husband and the number one question I've been getting from family and friends is "When are you having kids?". A part of me wants to be like "Hold up, not only have we not even gotten married yet (oh, paperwork, how I love thee...) but also, who told you we even want to have kids (we don't!)?". I feel like we need to update the list of "socially acceptable questions" and dock those kinds of questions off the list, because damn... it's not anyone's business but my fiance's and mine. Thank you so SO much for making this video, guys. It's great to know we're not alone in our struggles. Stay awesome!

아주 좋은 주제이네요. 잘 들었습니다. 저도 결혼한지 얼마안되었고 그쪽이랑 완벽히 일치하는 가치관을 가지고 있으며 부모님들과 주변의 시선에 스트레스 받고 있어서 그런지 보면서 놀랄 수 밖에 없었네요. 아무리 자식이라도 다른 인격체와 취향을 가진 사람이라는 것을 점점 부모님들이 인정해주는 사회가 되어갔으면 좋겠습니다.

Loved this video, it really helps with what I am going through currently.

Thank you for this video. You made my day. I very much needed to hear this😊💞💞💞

Perfectly put :) It can feel like such a release when you let go of the thought that you should have done xyz by a certain age (but still hard to stop these thoughts creeping in every now and again).

Wow, that was a brave statement to make. Thanks for sharing! :D

I really liked this specific video of yours. 😄 It's so deep but it is spot on.

great post!

어려운 주제를 잘 풀어서 얘기하시니 놀랍네요. 많이 배웁니다.

This was such an amazing video guys, and you talked about things that I really related to! Thank you for making this video and sharing your thoughts :-)

신병휴가 나온 군인입니다 1년넘게 영상 잘 보고있어요 오늘 이 주제가 군대에서 여러가지 문제로 고민하던 저에게 중요한 키포인트를 준거같아요 감사하고 언제나 응원합니다 thank you so much you guys

i am agree with you guys. love it.

'today we wanted to talk about life expectancy' killed me! thanks for making this video~ it's so important :)

당연한것인데 우리가 많이 잊어버리는 것에대한 거네요! 응원해요!♥

just came across your channel guys! watched a couple of videos and absolutely in love! love your point of views on things. cant wait to be done with my exams this week so i can binge watch your videos not that im not now haha. xoxo love from malaysia!

Hey,I've missed you!! Thanks for the useful video and have a nice day^^

Great video! Lovely couple. Great cat.

GBYB. You do what you have to do, everyone has different opinion and I'm glad that you guys are just fine the way you are as long as there is communication and understanding between you two. Only God know when it's time just enjoy your life and have God in your mind and soul. Love you guys I never miss one you of your segments.

Couldn't agree more with you guys ✌

Totally agree with you guys opinions. :)

Haha, I love the YOLO part when you guys crack up! And I couldn't agree with you guys more about everything you said. One of my favorite quotes is "Life is a journey not a destination."

Really good topic to have a discussion about, I'm glad you guys decided to bring this up as it's something I think a lot of people struggle with sometimes..their own desires vs what society expects of you. Being able to live the life you're happy with is ultimately what I think will lead you to be fulfilled psychologically, as you said at the end of the day you're the one living your own life and having to live with the choices made. Great video, loved the outtakes :)

Really love this video :)

Funny, all I want to know if what Korean beauty products and goodies your using in that makeup cabinet! Great video guys :) do what makes you happy! 💕

LOVE this video! People don't think when they ask questions like that, but they should. I don't think it's only up to us as individuals to be strong in the face of other people putting us down for our life choices, but also in them stopping the judgement. Do what makes you happy and let others do the same.

You're very lucky to have find each other, with such similar mind sets and aspirations! I wish you all the best in life.

I completely agree with you guys. People can make comments and push expectations on others based only on what they know.

Thank you for this video! I'm in my last year of high school and I always get asked about uni or what I'm gonna do with my life. I've been feeling really pressured on what to do especially because I haven't decided on what course to take yet. Should I take the safe way and just go to uni or follow my gut and travel and just make the most of my life. I really needed to hear this and again, thank you☺️❤️ 👍🏼

This would have been a very different video if it was about life expectancy LOL! Great video with some great advice!

Thank you for the comforting message. Sometimes we are too busy going along with what is expected of us, like a school of sardines, that we don't really stop and go, ''wait a second- is this what I really want?'. I've lived almost five years working office jobs like a workaholic, and recently when I was asked the question "where do you see yourself five years from now?" I went completely blank. And I realized that what I least want in 5 years from now is to be living exactly like I am living right now. I always look forward to watching your videos- until next week then!

감사해요 항상 영상 잘보고있습니다ㅎㅎ

I'm impressed!

오늘은 1빠입니다 ~~ 미국에서도 쭉 보고있습니다~~!! 폭염날씨에도 항상 힘내세요

영상 진짜 감사해요ㅠㅠ 학교 휴학하고 외국에서 조금 살다가 1년간 여행하면서 저 나름의 방식으로 삶을 살고 있다고 생각했는데, 막상 한국에 돌아와서 다시 남이 만들어놓은 잣대에 저를 평가하고 있었네요ㅠ 말씀하셨던 질문들에 괴로워했던게, '언제'라는 가이드라인의 압박감이었다니 공감합니댜😹 오늘 처음 보는 유툽채널이었는데 벌써 2시간째 다른 영상 계속 보고 있었네욬ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ anyway thank u guys :)

Wow, I'm sorry to hear you have felt such pressure as newly weds. Having kids is a big step and that you both felt to make a video to address this... =[ I'm happy to see you both have an open dialogue between each other about these things. Who needs kids when you got Bemo! He is a kid just hairy. You guys probably hear this from friends and family, not so much from strangers.... You're doing fine and I wish you both happiness together in your adventure called life.

Glad you decided to do this video. It really made me stop and think. I think after watching this video, many people will be more careful about questions that they didn't even realize put pressure on people. I know I try to be sensitive but you brought up some points that I hadn't thought of and it made me look back and think...hhhm did I ever do that? As for deciding to have kids or not, as long as both partners are on the same page that is all that matters. If one partner wants kids and the other doesn't they definitely cannot expect the other to change their mind. It doesn't work. It leads to major resentment . It's a question best resolved before marriage.

i've been feeling stuffy in my insides for quite some time already. This video made me feel better even if its just for a while. thanks xoxo

This is really nice to hear from a couple... It's so rare and people need to hear that there isn't one right way to live your life. Coming from a woman (I'm 29), people never take me seriously when I say that I don't want kids and that I doubt that I'm going to get a husband/long time boyfriend. It's a choice that people have a hard time respecting and they always say that I'll regret it and I absolutely hate that response. I would never say that to someone who chose to have kids and a traditional family, so I get really frustrated when people can't understand that my choice is just as valid as theirs - I (like them) am not a kid, I'm perfectly able to make rational, longtime decisions. So again: thank you for speaking up!

Wish that my family and friends could have the same understanding. Thanks for sharing! Glad to know I'm not alone for choosing out of the norm.

I think it' s so impressive how you know what you want for your marriage, and for your life. I wish you the best guys! Please upload more videos soon!

Such a refreshing video, you guys are seriously my favorite couple on KZfaq. You guys always have awesome content, great editing, and great quality. Have you considered doing the KZfaq challenges? for example the: "not my arms challenge" or "my husband does my make up challenge" ?