OMG 100% agree with this sentiment... thank you 🤗

That seems very judgmental of people. They are who they are, just because they aren't like that perfect TV family doesn't mean they aren't wonderful humans in many subtle ways you may not come to realize till after they are gone, then those thing become very apparent like a bright searchlight you can't believe you did not see all along.

@@spazoq We should all do what we can to keep our judgementality of people to a minimum. To live and let live is, in general, a good way to view the the lives of others. But emotional or physical abuse, belittling, and most other kinds of ill treatment directed by a parent toward a child are easy to spot, especially by the recipient of the abuse as that recipient matures, and should be judged as such. Very few parents are wholly bad. For the vast majority, a childhood filled with abuse 24/7 is very unlikely, but any of it at all is a terrible thing for an innocent child to have to bear. The idea, when it comes to parenting, is to take the things you learned from your parents that were good and apply them to your own child rearing while leaving what you experienced, and deem today, as dysfunctional behind.

@@Mary-tj5qx May I suggest purposely choosing to relate to the people you meet, professional contacts, friends, and loved ones in the ways you wish your parents had related to you has the power of healing too.

@@Mary-tj5qx It's true, I think, most people raise their children similarly to the way they were raised themselves, good, bad, or indifferently. It is, after all, the child rearing experience they're familiar with - and typically, because of that familiarity, most comfortable with too. And yes, as you say, many parents, raised themselves in dysfunction, probably don't have the skills necessary to positively change the course of their generational familial history. But if you're unhappy with how your parents did it, begin to have kids of your own, and care about how they turn out, you owe it to their future happiness to use what you believe was the harmful parental behavior you experienced yourself as examples of what NOT to do and strive with all you've got to do things differently, to do things better, to provide for your own children the most healthy, loving, caring, and disciplined family environment you can. I saw these ideas purposely attempted in my Sister's family - and accomplished with spectacular results.

And don't forget the sacrifice she put out to raise you as a single Mom. My Mom raised six kids, I am the oldest, Dad worked his butt off to feed us and put a roof over our heads. Both are 83 and have been married for 64 years. Right now Mom has some memory issues it is so tough for Dad and she Mom go thru this

@itsME, She certainly loves and support her mother, but she spoke clearly about boundaries she had to put for it stop to be suffocating and unhealthy relation. She said also, as she's the only child and her mom had no life partner, all care-expectation were put on a daughter what is utterly unhealthy and toxic for both sides. Normally parent is more or less supportive but the child shouldn't be own mothers (or father's) guardian. Making comments like this you're not helping but making her feel bad about cause toxic relations base on guilt and she said, she already feel guilty (for nothing in fact). I have in my own family examples of similar unhealthy relationships and I can tell you, she loves her mom. But she must also go away and take a breath, cause love isn't about sacrificing own life and being unhappy (at least that's my opinion). You can see super-clear, how upset she was in that video and how much those two can piss off each other, without any bad intention. Such personalities CAN'T live close all the time.

She’s 63. I’m not sure that even qualifies as elderly.

So true! My intense pain and numbness was brushed off by so many because I was a young woman who looked healthy on the outside. It turns out I had something seriously wrong and it was exactly what I had been begging them to check for. I didn't get early treatment that could have seriously improved my long term prognosis and now I'm permanently disabled at 30. People really need to listen to complaints of pain more. Pain isn't a joke, and it isn't just a symptom, it's a disease that literally shaves years off your life and sadly many people who can't get proper pain relief end up commiting suicide.

I likeyour video

Kylea Perrott right on girl! Not all families are like the ones on tv

My girlfriend of about 14 years, let me go on my birthday about a year and half ago. That sentence where you said .......It doesn't matter how much you love someone.....really makes sense to me.

I can understand that... but I could tell my mom anything. My dad and the rest of the family? No. I gave love but didn't receive in return. Anyway God bless you.

Kylea Perrott I definitely agree with you. I removed myself from dad's life and he disowned me for. I'm happy cause that was the best thing I've ever done for myself and he has ever done for me. I'm exploring and have less emotional baggage

And like you I am an only child..so I do know how you feel.

I scrolled down into the comment section to see if I was the only one that thought this as well. Wild by the mile. When our parents get older we have to be as patient as possible. After all when we were young, our parents were extremely patient with us. When the tables turn, we should exericse patient, respect and love. Much of what is lost with the youth today. You should tell your mom you love her back. We only have one mom and one dad and when they pass away we will never have a new set of parents. Cherish them and overlook their crankiness.