That elder care is only just now being realized by the boomers that underfunded it for years and are discovering first hand how bad it can be and their generation is too large for the amount of care facilities that exist.

It's different because there are no mandatory ratios for nurses in nursing homes so one nurse could be responsible for 50 people. It gets even worse if someone calls in sick.

Its also critical work, like most people won't remember who taught them to share, speak and go poo in the toilet instead of their pants, but it's us lol. It was me . 🙈☝️😭❤🤷‍♂️ like simple as they are, things like potty training, sharing, patience and reading are LIFELONG skills.

Right, my child went to primrose in ATL, paid 1500/ month, workers were paid $15/hr… such a pity, we left when I found that out. I 100% believe people who are underpaid will not do right by the people whether due to incompetence negligence or spiteful mess, would not trust it

I wonder how many of those workers have children themselves.

Natural selection of course

Plenty of women watch their own children, they don’t have strangers do it.

@@Magdalena287 If only we lived in a society where that was financially viable for more than a fraction of the population...

@Magdalena287 : It's not about who watches kids. There should be no shame in having kids in pre-school / kindergarter or other care facilities, just like there is never any shame when parents raise them at home.

Because it’s overrated

So much for all the talk about how much we love the children. Love them only if there's money to be made off them.

@@karlabritfeld7104 same logic republicans use to justify banning abortions; they're "pro-life" and "save the babies" right up until their born and stop being valuable for political pandering.

Nobody loves the children. The people in charge hate you because you’re not one of them. They want you to suffer because they think you’re an animal

There's an *easy* way to fix this! Just have businesses (factories, meat processing plants, mines, etc.) volunteer to provide care for these children, and in exchange, the children can perform tasks around the facilities, maybe ones that adults find difficult to do like sweeping chimneys! It's such an obvious solution that I'm shocked no-one has thought of it!

Yes, the family structure used to have all of that, but it got eroded. It takes a village to raise a child. We sadly have gotten away from that

Also people are having children later, so you have older grandparents

We also have a mobile society, so grandparents are in other cities.

Now a days many people don't even want to live with there parents. Plus beside housing issues most people couldn't afford properties with extra bedrooms for the in laws/grandparents.

They pushed back the state pension age. They won't let me retire until 67. At that point my stepdaughter would be 47. My stepsisters are grandparents in their early 40s. I'd be having to look after my great grandkids by the time I retire.

The costs for housing and food have skyrocketed, so in many households both parents have to work to make ends meet. In some countries, paid parental leave and government-supported preschool programs are available, but there's not much of that in the US. Something has to change.

Children are very affordable. We have 2 and want 2-3 more.

@@monicavandeventer5429, enjoy!

@@monicavandeventer5429Which state do you live in?

@@monicavandeventer5429It’s not affordable for the average person. Can you answer the following questions for me: 1) Where do you live? 2) How old are you and your spouse? 3) What are your jobs and salaries? 4) Did you inherit any generational wealth? 5) Does your family still financially support you? 5) Are you finished paying off major debts? Student loans, car payment, mortgage etc. 6) OR (piggybacking from #4) did your family assist with any of these payments? 7) Or perhaps you never entered this debt in the first place because you never went to college, haven’t bought a house yet, or you were gifted an old car from a family member? You likely had a lot of advantages that allow you to provide for multiple children without having to go into debt or worry about paying off preexisting debts

@@jaya-squishiehuntr019 It's depressing how right you are. Even in treatment facilities where clients will try to kill you on a daily basis, if they get a bruise while you restraining them and put them in solitary, you're done and put on an abuse list. Happened to a coworker and worse almost happened to me with a client who had a history of extreme sexualized behavior.

@@jaya-squishiehuntr019 Completely. There's still a lot about my experience I've never been able to make sense of, but I've absolutely no interest in another he said, she said when there's a clear paper trail proving what's going on. Especially when I sought eyes on the situation from the start. The kids are manageable, but the real issue is the rampant paranoia of people who care more about avoiding controversy than client outcomes. It's what I get for forgetting I worked for a religious affiliated organization that allowed supervisory staff to peddle trash like homeopathy.

I did refrain from working until my children were 10 years old. Their dad was irritated about it for many years and we lived in poverty but now that they are young adults they are better adjusted than most their peers. And the hardships we endured are vague memories.

@@yliannamarie403 Sadly, your family is a rare case in the US. From circa '973 to '022, the top 1% slowly drained out 47 Teradollars from the bottom 9 in 10 United Staters, depriving them of a mean average of $1,144 per month. Their methods included turning housing into a speculative market, cheapening wages, legalizing stock buybacks, and pricing dysregulation.

Yeah. I am an assistant preschool teacher, getting paid $12/hr. I love the kids, but the more senior teachers don't get paid much more, so I won't be able to survive on it. And childcare and preschool teaching require a lot of skill and patience, several of my collegues have degrees in child development. We want good, skilled, healthy people taking care of children. Those people need a living wage and healthcare, which can't happen in the current business model.

Yeah. My sister became good friends with one of the staff members at my nieces day care (she was an assistant teacher vs a head teacher) she hurt her ankle and couldn't work with the kids while recovering so had to take a desk job that paid more. My sister was shocked to know this amazing worker was paid min wage to take care of kids.

Yeah, because you're doing the job that teenagers and the elderly do in other countries. Be an adult and learn real skills.

@@jumboshrimps4498 um no. this is not a job that teenagers and elderly do in other countries. this is childcare and education. all of which require education and certifications. and what teenagers do you know can work at day care in the middle of the GD day. grow TF up

​@jumboshrimps4498a lot of countries have government provided childcare

@@michah321 1. It's mostly western countries; 2. So what? Just because everyone else is doing something stupid and destructive doesn't mean we should too.

Same. My kids are in elementary school now, but with the costs of after school care and trying to piece together summer care, it still hasn’t made sense for me to go back to work. Having high skilled women drop out of the work force en masse makes zero sense at a national economy level, not to mention how vulnerable it makes women in their relationships.

I hope your kids will grow up to be able to pursue a career and still be able to have a family too -

In that case, I wish the same people who tampered with the real estate market and put housing costs out of most of the nation's price range would stop complaining about women having a need to work when they demand everyone return to nuclear family values.

Does the fact you have a degree make you special? It doesn't carry the weight you think it does lmao

​@@Ryan-wx1bi she cant use her degree that ahe probably went into debt for how does that not carry weight

This is happening all over the world.

to get exploited harder by the US

It’s because private equity has all the money in the world, and is still trying to earn compound interest on it all. Guess who’s paying the interest.

Something, something bootstraps. /s A wisea$$ kid once said 🎶"Iiif money's such a proooblem, well they got mansions, think we should rob them!"🎶🎵 Edit: I never thought I would be advocating the economic philosophy of Good Charlotte, but here we are.

Lol its statically and factually cooperate greed but people can keep coping if they want😂

America is one giant Walmart. That's all. Only thing here that is rewarded has the purpose of making money and exploiting workers to serve the Capitalism machine.

Given how skewed the priorities are, the debts the political establishment keeps running up for their campaigns, and the industries that get all the fruits of socialism, I've taken to calling the US in this context the... Formerly United Corporations of Kochistan.

Meanwhile Mark Zuckerberg makes $7 billion an hour with government subsidies.

No, the country you grew up in just didn’t have good alternatives for women. We are seeing the results of the empowerment of women. It has costs. But they are worth it.

@@General8675 I don' t think we're responding to the same thing.

The citizens have been brainwashed into thinking this is the way it should be, because socialism is bad.

Half of the citizens allow it, and we all suffer

Not half, all. Its not a problem with one party or the other. Its both

@@degreeskelvin3025 Exactly. But remember, going 3rd party is throwing your vote away, something something, blue no matter who, profit!

weapons have nothing to do with it. Shipping all the middle class jobs overseas in the 90s is the culprit

Daycare is expensive and you don't see much benefit in the centers. Teachers are oftentimes people that really can't do much else; the food is suspect; sometimes there's infestation. We're paying these high costs for THIS?

​@@onedropruleWelcome to capitalism

They literally pay next to nothing. That means you often get people on staff who can't get a job anywhere else! It is a shoot-ourselves-in-the-foot system - where everyone loses (the workers, the parents, the children, and the future of the community).

st op having kids you cant afford... this is why we have abortion

I don't hear about any abuse. Most of those places have cameras now.

Canada is far better with social programs than the USA. Most Canadians have no idea how bad things are in the States. Until they live here. I'm also from Canada. Been here over 40 years and it's really gone downhill. It's not the same.

@@karlabritfeld7104 Definitely. Although Canada has many problems compared to the US, I think Canada is better off.

That annual cost is almost half of my family income with me staying home taking care of a 1 kid and hoping for a 2nd, it makes me sad i cant work for money but being a mother is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world.

You might as well hire someone to live in your house and take care of your kids!

@@karlabritfeld7104$325 a week?? That’s only a migrant who would accept that pay 60-70 hrs a week easily plus meals would be reqd and laundry prob, if not housework

@@YeshuaKingMessiah not true. not sure where you are getting 60-70 hours. a lot of people nanny and while the pay is less, the room and board is included. and they work NORMAL hours... 40 hours a week. not 60-70. you can look it up.

@@GorgieClarissaa nanny can’t work 40 hours/week if the parents are also working 40 hours/week because you need to include at least some time for commute to/from work.

Other countries offer over a year of parental leave some its per patent with additional leave of you had multiples.

But that’s part of what makes America EXCEPTIONAL!!! Every other industrialized country has some form of paid family leave EXCEPT the United States. 🤬

The US is truly the ghetto

@@hyperbunnygirl101 The difference is that those countries pay for parental leave as a government program rather than expecting employers to foot the bill the way the US does.

Just an edit... toddler rooms start at 18 months. Mobile infants are 9-17

Some people actually have a passion for that work..believe it or not. The only thing Iiked about it was the hours. Home in the evenings off on the weekends and most holidays.

Can you share a few of these issues?

@christinele8941 In the 1 yr I wked there: CPS was called 5 times Roach problem Some teachers we also napping when children were sleeping Carpet and toys were rarely cleaned The place smelled bad Too many children to 1 teacher Kids would cry and be ignored Babies would be left to cry in their cribs until they fell asleep (when I went to sooth a crying baby I was scolded by the DC wker to leave the baby alone because by doing that I was making their job harder) All the church/facility cared about was $$$$

Same here..I was shocked at some of the things I seen when I worked in daycare..😬

Scary to hear all this, thanks for sharing all 😮

It is wonderful that you got to spend time with your grandchildren. Some grandparents never get to meet their grandchildren, for one reason or another. Or the grandparents may still be working their own jobs.

@@MrVirus9898 I agree 💯. It was fortunate that I wasn't working and was able physically to be there for my daughter and her family. It has been a great joy for me. Childcare prices are ridiculous.

Your reply has me thinking about how there could be a program for retirement-aged volunteers for childcare. I’m time zones away from my parents, they need a bit of extra money because fixed incomes can’t keep up with the price of everything, and it’s been shown the cognitive benefits of being around children.

@@amandaburns8247 my mom participated in a foster grandparents program at the head start daycare in a local college. And received a stipend to boot she loved it. Perhaps it could be expanded into private day-care?? If it even exists anymore.

I'm not changing diapers for free. Hell no.

It is a more fundamental problem related to capitalism especially the neoliberal ideology which the rich and powerful running both political parties continue to peddle as a means to try and compensate for the unsustainable nature of the ever maximized profit motive in a finite world. In essence since the end of WW2 there has been a pushback by the rich against FDR's reforms any and all of what economists have referred to as positive externalities have been neglected by the insane and fundamentally unsustainable "neoliberal" ideology which is based around entirely parasitic forms of wealth accumulation at the expense of the government and the people specifically what us known as rent seeking and as has been noted by academics across the political spectrum including Adam Smith who is generally accredited as the founder of capitalist theory, is economical activities which provide no product or goods of value to the economy only the transfer of wealth from the poor to the rich at the expense of the economy and nation. (This is currently obscured in economics statistics due to "tweaks" in what is classified as Gross Domestic Product since the Regan era where rent seeking activities have now been treated as if they produce goods of economic value even when they do not as all the so called "production" is really a direct wealth transfer stolen from the American public either directly by extorting money for previously publicly supported goods and services and land ownership or by parasitizing the state. Women have and continue to be the hardest hit because domestic labor has been long ignored and written off as a positive externality taken for granted since its hard to put financial numbers on and thus very little of "women's work" has never received its due recognition, now add the even larger abuse/neglect of positive externalities and it only gets worse as we go further backwards. Housing is a perfect example of something not only neglected but even worse abused as the rich and powerful use real estate as an investment portfolio and thus buy up multitudes of homes which go unused.

It's an economic problem. Capitalism is a massive failure. The poor and middle class suffer and the rich are oblivious or just don't care.

@karlabritfeld7104 My point, though poorly stated, was that it was NOT just an economic problem, but a moral one. The US capitalist economy is a garbage fire, to be sure, but it's not the only garbage fire. Let me try again, speaking more broadly. "Conservative" political and social movements have been trying to eliminate so-called "women's work" from the economy forever, refusing to even talk about the home in any terms except financial. Conversation about childcare, education, or even manufacturing home goods is so violently suppressed, despite the fact that these industries are fundamental to our ecconomy and society. On the other end of the spectrum, feminist movements focus almost entirely on forcing a place for women in traditionally "male spaces," abandoning housekeeping entirely. They refuse to support "women's work" because they see it as socially and politically worthless, despite the fact that the home is the bedrock of social and political good. If you put these mindsets together, the financial institution becomes largely moot. In the communist context, the home is crushed by duty to society, the personal eliminated for the "greater good." In a socialist context, home industry starves as larger, more "worthwhile" projects are supported. And in our capitalist context, work in the home and family is an expense that gives nothing to shareholders, and must be cut at every opportunity. It's a moral failure, not an economic one.

The reason why feminists originally pushed for women working is because they literally couldn’t earn a livable income unless they married a man, it has nothing to do with moral failure. South Korea is a super traditional place that respects the house and more people there are dying than being born

@@marenjones6665It is both, because there is nothing moral about corporations and CEOs making billions and not paying proportional wages. Corporations need to be taxed, at least like they used to be.

@@jaya-squishiehuntr019 Absolutely spot on and a good comparison. When crack was running through black communities. It had to be dealt with zero tolerance methods that broke apart families and jailed anyone and everyone with one strike you're out rulings. It was seen as "those black being irresponsible problem" even after news broke that the FBI and the CIA were behind flooding black neighborhoods with the drug. But now that drugs are running through white neighborhoods. It's an "health issue" a pandemic that must be treated with care, compassion, and the understanding that it "can happen to anyone". Rehabs are the first go to, vs locking people up and slapping them with lifelong felonies.... The difference in treatment is disgusting.

Actually in the northern USA it's been immigrant women who did the childcare and still do for pennies on the dollar.

@@inaruboricua Yes after the civil rights movement, it shifted to immigrant women. Mostly still those who were of colour.

@@jaya-squishiehuntr019 I responded to your post with a really good comment, about how right you are. And the differences of how black and white neighborhoods are treated when it comes to addicition. But the comment was deleted by the you tube censorship overlords.

My fam are Latino immigrants, US citizens from Puerto Rico mostly, and our community was doing home childcare since the 1950s @@sexybluelady

Exactly gqp hates children

Edit: I had to add in legislators / the members of Congress, and not individual voters. It's almost like there is a disconnect from reality... If US capitalism is going to continue to be our socioeconomic template we need at minimum 3 things: 1. Well fed and healthy children consistently being born in stress free homes 2. A good education system (for free) 3. A steady supply of immigrants, cause not everyone will "win capitalism"... Literally by design I hate generalized statements, but Republican members of Congress generally vote against all of those things except for the babies being born part. Once the baby pops out it's "Screw you, use your boot straps". Someone help me to understand please; why are they are like this? Sure the ultra-wealthy legislators would be happy to go back to a peonage or peasant system. But is everyone else an idiot, or do they truly believe themselves temporarily embarrassed billionaires?

​​@@jaya-squishiehuntr019No one but other Republicans love having them anywhere. Speak like an adult and speak with objective fact, or keep your fool opinions to your damned self.

@@john2g1 there is very little truth to generalize statement, a lot of republican voters vote based on social issues, when you believe abortion is murder you can’t exactly vote someone who you may agree with on economics if they are on another issue supporting what you see as murder. In fact according to one survey socially right and economically left was actually the most common position for voters, but many of those republican because for certain issues there can be no compromise. And generally speaking the economic issues where republicans do have a lot of support would something like immigration or free trade it isn’t the case republican see that they will be millionaires but so they are trying to protect their jobs. A lot of this wouldn’t if the political discourse was not locked between just 2 options

​@@john2g1look up Paul Piff's research on playing the game of Monopoly. There are KZfaq videos. Basically the richer people get the less empathy they feel for others. .

public services are there for things everyone uses. tax parenting. stop having kids you cant afford. be part of the problem or part of the solution, you cant do both.

@@joeyglass6323 There is almost no public service that is used by 100% of the public. However, the entire society would benefit from universal public childcare the same way universal public schooling was the primary driver to make the US the world's biggest superpower. It takes a village to raise a child.

Is it really that hard for people to take responsibility for their own decisions? I don't have kids YET because i can't afford them YET, but I'll never get there if I'm bailing you out of your financial misjudgements

@@joeyglass6323

​@@joeyglass6323it takes a village to raise a child.

nooooo not the third yacht!!!

While I agree with most of your complaints, I wanted to chime in to say that it’s very difficult for daycares to offer daily or weekly care. Because of the ratios mentioned in this video, they have to know exactly how many workers they need at all times for the number of children they will have. Having a child that comes 2 or 3 days per week, or may come 2 weeks out of the month, makes it difficult to hire staff to keep the correct ratios.

My work has a daycare, but it is still just as expensive as other medium high daycares with an enormous waitlist.

This is what the video is missing….culture.

Or, you know, some of your tax dollars could go to daycare instead of corporate bailouts and stock buy backs. How come the US is the only developed country where this problem is created?

Not every old person is rich and not every grandparent is even close to retirement age let alone will be able to retire at retirement age.

subsidizing is just punishing the childfree though. how is this their problem?

​@@joeyglass6323you don't want the society you live in to continue? Children are everyone's future including those without children. Not supporting the next generation is punishing everyone.

@maxsteel32 I feel like children are a choice some people make, and we should all take responsibility for our own decisions.

@@joeyglass6323 i think paying for the maintenance of roads punishes the ones without a car, carowners should all take responsibility for their own desires and travelchoices ... (and it is btw way harder to get a car on accident then a child)

​@@joeyglass6323No children means a break down of society. No rejuvenating supply of workers for grocery stores, restaurants, medical staff, doctors, old age care homes and much more

Bernie Sanders never had a job. Only losers follow a guy who's going to make life harder before it helps. Meanwhile, Bernie's never actually worked. Imagine a bum oldman, that's Bernie.

The role of government under capitalism is to correct market failures. Yes it’s a problem of capitalism but this is the system you agreed to maintain

@@Bonafide188 I didn't agree to maintain it. I was born into it. And thanks to capitalism needing systemic poverty in order to function, and I wasn't born into wealth, I haven't been able to escape yet.

@@praecorloth I'm so glad inflation doesn't exist and any ills are not because of government.

Yes it's clearly not working. One person in a household with children cannot work and pay childcare at the same time unless the job pays over$200k per year.

@praecorloth it's not a failure of capitalism. Government regulation strangles those businesses. My childcare was a lady my mom knew that lived close to my school. She made some cash and I was watched after.

Capitalist population control in action

Fancy seeing you here in the comment section, señor Winskie. I agree. These childcare expenses are too damn high!!! 👏🏾

There's this thing where in some centers children of childcare workers attend for free. So if you really really want kids, one of you work at a daycare for a few years(if you have a BA you can even become a lead teacher or site director). That's what my mom did.

My wife and I dont want to have a child if our quality of life will all dimish. As of now. Just us 2 are trying to stay afloat. Id hate to bring a child. Struggle financially, let alone pay someone else to take care of my kid lol.

I've resolved to abandon romantic and reproductive interests entirely in favor of being a druggie. Atleast that is completely on my terms, costs me the same if not less and brings me more satisfaction than any female or child could. I only got one life and I'm not wasting it on those burdens. In the past maybe i would've, but they have really lost their reward for the work and finances you have to invest.

over here in civilized countries we get 1-2 years of paid leave and plenty of state funded daycares. You know your tax dollars could go to stuff you actually need instead of subsidizing billion dollar corporations that are already profitable. Just google how much of your tax dollars go to oil companies each year. I guess those poor billionaires need your hand outs more than the kids.

@@letopizdetz oh we are aware and most of us hate it

I’m glad you added the last part because the problem is monopolies. The cost of living has gone up because of monopolies.

How do parents working 8 hours a day and taking a half hour lunch only need 8 hours of child care.? Add in an additional half of hour in both morning and afternoon for travel time that the care giver has to be there and you are up to a nine and a half hour day, minimum. Now add in insurance ( workman comp, liability, which is probably super high due to threats of lawsuits., unemployment insurance, facility insurance and probably more that I can't even imagine), plus meals , janitorial services, lawn services, snowplowing. They probably have either a huge mortgage or an even higher rent payment due every month. And then there are the utilities , lights, heat, water and sewage., Internet service and phone service. Somebody has to do the bookkeeping and somebody has to take the time to order supplies . You used a 40 hour week and 4 weeks in a month. 4 times 12 equal 48, yet there are 52 weeks in a year . You have divide 52 by 12 to get 4.33 weeks in a month. New math 9.5 times 5 equals 47.5 hours per week. 47.5 hours times 4.33 weeks equals 205 hours per month, not 160 hours. 205 times 12 equals $2460 plus 7% social security equals over $2600. I would imagine that they need some kind of daycare license and regular inspections. The license come at a cost as do the need to have someone present the inspections . Furthermore the minimum cost of employees wage to the employer is about 1.25 times the wage. So 12 times 1.25 equals $15 an hour times 205 hours in a month is over $3000 a month. I know nothing about running a business, so I'm guessing there are many more expenses that I'm overlooking.

@@albertdraves7584you say you don’t know but your math is spot on. The lease on the building alone can run the Daycare 5,000+. It’s not a cheap business to run.

1 to 6 is bad!!!! 1 to 4 is good

Honestly there should always be 2 teachers, when you’re changing a diaper who’s watching the other 3-5?

@@seleneartsy9008 state law says that you don't need 2 teachers per room. I was often the only adult per 12 3 year olds. babies were mostly in playpens or swings or cribs all day.

Family income is 55k, not individual. 1:30

When I was working I never made over 24k in my whole entire work career.

The US does

Day-care for 2, 3 or 4 year-olds is not 'education'.

@@Pete.across.the.street😂😂

Oh really? Have you worked in a daycare with students this age? Learn numbers and ABC, writing, drawing, building, cooking, and ordering are all skills used in high school. I've been teaching for decades, and child education starts at birth.@@CarlGerhardt1

@@CarlGerhardt1 My wife worked in childcare for years, on the level of children at 3 and 4 it is inarguably a form of education.

American refugee. Cause fighting to improve is too much work. Americans don't want to work anymore

⁠@@PraisethesunsonRight? They should just go to the Country Fixing plant and put in their resume, like you and I did

​@@Praisethesunsonthat's not true. Millions are working.

​@@Praisethesunson Americans don't want to work anymore was the headlines of the 1930's. The decade of the great depression caused by bank failings. It's that the system is far gone. Being in this country feel like my generation has to fix everything neglected or underthought by prior generations, or be told the prior generations like how it is because it doesn't effect them anymore. We want to work but you see the system is pulling apart at the seams and it can feel like no amount of fighting will ever fix this much less make it livable. We have piss poor urban planning, forced car ownership due to said bad urban planning, Economic ramifications from covid, rapidly advancing A.I taking away entry level jobs, wage stagnation, environmental, pending retirement system collapse, pending recession, unaffordable housing, and to top it all off this coming election from the burners of the last election and one before will be a mess worse then the prior ones. If you're bombarded with this many wide reaching systematic failures and breaking points, wouldn't you say the American dream died? there is no dream it's already a nightmare to bear and survive.

Escape is truly an apt term. It's TOUGH to get out.

😢 exhausting and what about y’all’s love life 😭

This is not the subject today.

@karlabritfeld7104 Yes it is.

Mmmm

Which is why we aren't suffering under the burden of population that so many countries have that highly subsidize having children and have strong pro-natal policies. We're going for quality of life for the people we have not quantity of people

Yes all those Republicans that want people to forego abortions should have to pay to raise the unwanted children.

My husband sadly passed away from cancer shortly after our daughter started kindergarten. He had disabilities that made him unable to work beyond a roughly 100 customer paper route I always questioned whether we were breaking even on with the wear and tear on the car and mowing his parents’ and one of their neighbors’ lawns in the summers as he had done since high school, but the one huge thing he did was provide child care, starting when my eight-years-older son from my first marriage started kindergarten. He made sure my son got on the bus every morning from second grade through seventh, and took him for medical care more than my son’s biological/legal father ever has (which is zero). He took our daughter to baby swim (which she loved), toddler play group, and speech therapy. During the pandemic school year of 2020-2021, he also checked to make sure my son was awake for his weekly cyber day, put our daughter on the Head Start bus, then took her to Pre-K Counts when I switched her over so she could be in preschool more than 2 days a week. The last school year he was alive and functional for, both kids were finally in school and riding the bus full-time, but he was still supervising on for both and off for her, then he did one last bit of work, enrolling our daughter in kindergarten, which was a two-day process because the special ed system was involved, right around when he was diagnosed with cancer. He made it so I could work! He also helped as much as he could with our fight to get him disability benefits, including going before judges THREE TIMES before he finally was awarded the benefits that stabilized our finances about two years before he died. He did our family a great financial service, in spite of being unable to pull in much of a paycheck! ❤️💔❤️‍🩹

Probably by not having more kids than you can afford . You had to add another.

Pro life are pro birth. They don't care once kid is born.

Congratulations on permanently derailing your career and earning less money over your lifetime. Hope you never have to get a job with diaper changing on your resume for years.

You cannot be serious! The middle class has lost 30% of its real purchasing power in the last decade alone. Middle class wages have been stagnating during more than 3 decades! You really must be in a privileged position to be this disconnected.

@@haveaseatplease I look at my reply and then yours...where in the hell do I claim the middle class is rich? That's my point, genius. Whoever's making up these arbitrary 'percentages of income' that a person should spend on necessities obviously has no idea how much people make or can realistically afford.

Well, the comment could also be interpreted the other way around.@@Zyo117

@@Zyo117yep. The business/banks who created these ‘guidelines’ HAVE never actually used them.

Somebody in this vid made the choice to unironically use Dave Ramsey clips, so do with that what you will.

Exactly. That's why massive immigration is being done to make up the shortfall.

@@luddity Immigration won't solve the problem in the long run. Those immigrants are gonna see the childcare costs and decide to be child free too, we'll be back at square one

Ha! You want a well adjusted society?? Mothers need to stop abandoning their babies at birth for institutions to raise them!!

Americans forget their own Declaration of Independence. A guaranteed RIGHT to LIFE and the Pursuit of Happiness - a GUARANTEE. It was always bullshit, but it would be nice to make it happen.

Are you promoting communism or socialism?

Take a look at basically any government run service and you'll see a lot of huge problems with waste, corruption, and inefficiency. There are so many public schools in absolutely unthinkably poor shape with terrible facilities, not enough staff, and extremely poor student performance. It's not just a matter of funding but about funding models and administration. Services like the USPS and the IRS are also notorious for being wasteful, slow, and inefficient. We need change, but the answer isn't always more money and more government.

@@epicemmalee2000 You have offered no solutions. And furthermore, you misunderstand the sources of the things you complain about. Waste and corruption are implicit to a capitalist structure where private corporations are incentivized to undermine and infiltrate government. They staff it with their own goons, who run it into the ground and make it awful - the USPS has literally been headed by ex-Amazon and UPS execs. Same with the IRS - they're intentionally hobbled because corporations WANT them to be hobbled. Every complaint you made from schools is entirely an issue with both school funding but also poverty in general. Public schools become in bad shape because they aren't funded properly, and students in poverty have no realistic hope of succeeding. The solutions remain - make rich people less rich, and fund government apparatuses with their money. Ideally, both at the same time. And if the rich resist - they should not feel safe.

Nah, you have kids it’s your responsibility to provide for them

If you ever worked in the nonprofit sector you would know how much of a scam rich philanthropy actually is. The answer is higher taxes on businesses and the wealthy plus re-investing in social safety nets like rational countries. Closing loopholes and cutting out give aways to the oil and gas sector and military industrial complex that are un-necessary. Eisenhower is probably rolling over in his grave if he knew what warned about came to pass.

You basically said a whole mouthful of excuses and mumbo jumbo.

You forget they need to pay taxes anything from property taxes which on commercial property is higher, income tax/SSDI tax and so on. Then there is the insurance to pay this would be property insurance and then insurance for injury and being sued by workers or parents. Then there are the other bills like the water, gas, power and internet most also have a cleaning service that comes in at night to keep things clean. Then there are the fees in my state at least to keep your license to stay open you need to be inspected two times a year that costs money. Then there are all the other things that you need that go with running any kind of business.

@@krystelhardesty9960 then why does the owner of my company drive a new Tesla and has face fillers?

@@juliannehannes11 The new Tesla is because the past few years there have been tax incentives for EV if you buy them through your corporation. I have a family member that did this last year you get a tax write off for them. Face filler isn't that much you can even put them on a credit card. Also most medispas/plastic surgeons have payment plans.

It's already happening.

And now if you fuck around your wife is stuck with you because of her huge employment gap. You get to enjoy freedom while she's in prison.

Of course. Gotta make money off the poor and middle class.

Private equity takes over failing businesses for pennies on the dollar to make them viable. But If the original business model was viable in the first place, private equity wouldn't have token over. Private equity needs to make big changes or else the PE managers would just go bankrupt like the original business did

Capitalism doesn't want more of you

Thank you. People don’t realize this and parents sometimes don’t care. But the reality is family sticking together is the solution to most of life’s problems. The people who struggle the most have the weakest family connections.

Sounds good, but I don’t want to raise my grandchildren. I do watch them often, but not full time. Parents need to plan ahead of time and not expect grandparents to give up their life and provide full time day care. One parent works full time days, and the other works afternoons 3 days a week, one day being Saturday. Grandma needed 2 days a week for 4 hours per day. Works great.

Thank you. I saw that too. This is a manufactured problem.

This comment is everything wrong with my generation. You can grow retirement funds without working. It's called an IRA. I have one and I am a SAHM. I will never go back to work because my children are more important that a career or riches. Neither will get me to Heaven.

Holy crap really, that's amazing..✌️

Why should I pay for other people’s spawns?

​@@Bonafide188 Because sacrificing a little for the public good yields huge dividends down the line for you and everyone else. Public investment creates public benefits. Real "why should I have to pay for roads I don't use" mindset. You ought to spend more time talking with your neighbors

There are, they aren’t enough. They bring down the cost maybe $300 or $400/mo. And like… the daycares are sketch as hell too.

@@Bonafide188 Because that little kid that you helped pay for daycare for allowed his mom to complete med school which allowed her to be doctor and save your life. It allowed the kid to grow up healthy and do other kind things for the community. When everyone invests in the public good - whether they use those benefits or not - everyone profits.

@@loriki8766 I don't care about that kid or their mother. This society is one where everyone is out for themselves, no exceptions. No one deserves exemptions just cause they popped a kid out. In this case if she couldn't do med school with a kid then maybe dont have a kid or wait till she isnt poor

You want the taxpayers to fund you staying at home?

I hear you. It also totally negates that there is enormous work, sacrifice, budgeting, etc that goes into a family maintaining having only one working spouse, ideally the husband. I can afford to do this because I made it a priority and work hard to make it a reality, along with my husband.

A PARENT. It doesn't have to be " mom".

@@michah321 it’s better for it to be MOM, just like I said, up to age three and even beyond. Cope. Fathers play just as vital of a role but they aren’t wired to be the 24/7 caregiver and nurturer like mom.

@@jbb8261 I know plenty of men who would be FAR better at that then I would. I think that generalization is very over played.

@@michah321 that’s sad and makes no sense. Fathers can’t breastfeed, first of all, and second if they’re better caretaker than mom then that’s backwards

@@jbb8261 a mom can pump breast milk, if you haven't heard of the technology 🙄. And BOTH parents SHOULD be equally able to nurture infants. That's called PARENTING

And you'll pay for it, with your taxes. And it won't be cheap. Mothers should simply be home with their kids. Cut your lifestyle. Get on a budget. Make it happen.

agree, daycare will be for free if this affects men. Women are forced to stay at home at the economic leash and be happy. And then replace with younger one. Childfree is the best option in many aspects.

Why should we pay taxes to crowd our country with more children?

Child care has no impact on a father's life? How delusional is that 😂 You might want to find a new partner if he is completely uninvolved in your children's lives. But don't blame half of all people for your partners shortcomings.

Oh wah wah wah!! Societal negligence? Yes, absolutely.... putting your BABY, or TODDLER in DAYCARE is negligent. Yes, the rightly ordered thing is for mothers to be home with their children and fathers to earn the wages. No, it's not "old-fashioned." It was the way it was done for the majority of people for most of history until a few decades ago. Our society is not healthier with women in the workforce. Never has been. We are only sicker in mind, body and soul, because women are trying to be like men. We are the natural nurturers. It is our job to be home with the kids. Daycare was always meant to be for the POOR. Not the middle-class manager mom who just wants to live her best life and chase the dream. Women need to grow up. ~Signed, a Stay At Home, Homeschooling Millennial Mother of 4. P.S. If you can afford $2000 per month for daycare... you can afford to be a SAHM. Cry me a river.

@@ashleyslack5960 you define yourself for yourself. You have no right to push a definition of womanhood on other women. I didn't choose to have children because I didn't want them for many reasons including there are more than enough people already. My friends all have kids and careers. The kids are successful confident and happy. How dare you judge other women and try to force or guilt them into your chosen lifestyle. And for the record, I'm NOT a " nurturer" but for sure I am a woman. Sorry if that messes up your simple world view.

But that doesn't serve corporations and it's share holders so the peasants can starve and live on the street. That's their attitudes. Everything at this point in 2024 is here only to serve the rich and we're at the breaking point of late/end stage Capitalism.

Fr lol.

Christian organizations had the money to buy 3 Super Bowl ads ($7million each). Think of how many kids that could have fed, housed, or educated Too much of the wealth are in the hands of people who are not interested in investing in the people they claim to “save”

That's smart thinking..children are much better off with mom at home..😉

Don’t forget having to pay for liability insurance and taxes and any other benefits the teacher may or may not be getting. That stuff adds up quick.

@@PrillyBilly If they can't pay their employess a living wage, then they shouldn't be in business. Businesses that do not pay adequate wages or provide health benefits should be taxed at higher rates to off set all the taxpayer costs to support their employees.

@@mandycole3757 I agree businesses should be able to pay their employees more than a liveable wage, but that’s not what I’m discussing. Also increasing taxes on businesses that don’t or can’t pay a living wage isn’t the right move. A business is already paying 50% taxes to employee income. That doesn’t include what the employee pays in taxes either. Making them pay more taxes wouldn’t offset anything for the employee. Overhead costs for a business are a lot so I don’t think the numbers are inflated. I think the price of supplies is overinflated. But that’s not their fault. The problem isn’t the business, it’s the lack of government support. Similar European countries don’t have this issue bc they know how to prioritize their spending on their own people. We spend like it’s nothing and raise inflation to compensate government spending. It’s not us. It’s our government.

@@PrillyBilly Childcare is not a for profit enterprise in Europe. It is funded in the same way as K-12 education, healthcare etc. Workers are also approriately compensated for their skills. With regards to tax penalties for employers that fail to adequately compensate their employees, this is merey reimbursement to tax payers for the food stamps, medicaid that underpaid employees need to survive. . No business model should be premised on paying workers so little that they are reliant on medicaid, food stamps, and subsidized housing. The US system has evolved in such a way that employers will compensate employees to the minimum extent possible. This needs to change,. The fastest way to do that is to penalize those that do not compensate adequately. If this means the business cannot operate, then it was not developed using a sound model.

@@mandycole3757 I’m literally not disagreeing with you. Nor have I been. However, there’s a difference between what small businesses can do and what large corporations ACTUALLY do to harm employees and their livelihoods. What you seem to be angry about focuses mostly on large corporations and I agree that the process needs to be heavily adjusted. Small businesses do what they can to grow and thrive based on the government policies/restrictions placed on them. A childcare facility like this is a small business. Different taxes, different policies, different perspective. If it were a huge conglomerate, sure. But it’s a struggling small business trying to get by. I get your point and I agree with you, but you’re arguing a topic for Trickledown Economics and monopoly corporations, not a small town childcare center. Childcare should be universal, but (as I said before) it’s the government you should be upset at. Who do you think creates the policies and regulations? Of course it’s not a sound business model. It’s the U.S. But what do you want small businesses to do? Not exist? They’re stuck in this never ending loop of raising prices to pay fair wages and pay their bills like everyone else. But that can only go for so long. I’ve said it before and I will say it only once more: blame the government, not the regular people trying to make the government’s rules work. Done discussing this.

You will, she'll leave for a richer guy eventually.

Thank you for the sacrifices you make. You are a great dad.

Welfare started off as a government wage for domestic labor based on the number of kids etc. Thanks to a classic political fabrication, the racist myth of the welfare queen, the entire concept has been thoroughly demonized over the decades.

Let their partners pay them for that. Its not anyone elses problem random couples decided to have kids. We shouldn't have to pay for your problems and burdens

@@Bonafide188 it would be the ‪corporation paying the cost (possibly as a fee per employee) that they will eventually employ the gift of raising that employee for the ‪corporation. Can’t flesh it out in a YT comment but it takes an open minded individual to think outside their programming

SAHM of 4. No we shouldn't be paid to raise our kids. Do not commodify children or the mothering experience.

@@ashleyslack5960 what do you think childcare & public schools are doing-commodifying raising children & educating them to be good military & corporate servants!