Which part? I live in Alabama and grew up in a super small town

I don't know how you did this I got tired just by watching this.

@@kokomi270 sand mtn but I’m in section now

Midland city?

Heyyyyy me toooo!!

Connie is the woman that woman should think about being more often! Gossip is all fun and games until your the topic, or you dont have any friends.

@@MorningStar3400😊😊😊😊😊

Only young sheldon fans get it 🤧

​@MorningStar3400 you're

Thanks 😊

Southern People love holding court. They do it on a porch in rockers or on swings, and they have mason jars instead of goblets, but by and large the tenor and tension is unchanged.

Oh my god, the connection between tiny rural social circles and ancient court drama is not one I would have made and that is AMAZING. The fact that it's for the exact same reasons, too, is so poetic. It really is because you -need soldiers for the war in Prussia- want to keep borrowing their cousin's husband's truck on weekends

This is gold.

As a Southern girl I die inside when other Southerners call folks from the North rude. No! They're just more straightforward, it saves time and agony in my eyes... as someone who also misses social cues. PS: I'm sure there's some different sort of mind games, I'm just not aware of them yet.

Being autistic and from the South, I can get confused sometimes. I tend to overanalyze situations and can't always tell if someone is being hateful. This can lead to anxiety for me.

Transplant to the south here- Bless your heart is frequently bad, it's true, but not always. It's tone specific. There are times it's bless your heart that means that was the stupidest thing you could have done," and there's bless your heart that literally means bless your heart, you're sweet. It's tone and context dependent - which made things really hard for me growing up raised by Yankees!

Above person is very right! I've been absolutely told it in a condescending way, but an older woman told me bless your heart as thank you when I walked her over some ice, and I've been told bless your heart as "I'm so sorry" when I told someone else about my dad forgetting my birthday.

Fr Connie a real one

@@FoundHorchata35tbh y’all that is the bare minimum one can do in a friendship lmao

​@@emsa5034 Yeah, but pretty much everyone has such bad trust issues that you don't always know what kind of friends you have. You're truly lucky if you are certain you have a good and loyal friend like "Connie"

​@@emsa5034 the average person can't meet the bare minimum in most friendships.

‘Bodyshame’ 😂

Yep, she's still got the gossip skills, she just uses it for good now.

Connie is who we should strive to be

Connie a real one

Apparently people get mad now if you tell them what other people are saying behind their backs, something about it interrupting their 'peace' and you should just not tell them so they can remain in ignorant bliss. I know this because I am this friend who will go tell someone when others are talking smack about them and more and more people have told me they don't like it and get more mad at me than the person who was actually trash talking them.

@@thanatosonpluto5098 I mean, I personally prefer to stay ignorant because I get stuck up on ppl for months but that doesn't mean I'll get mad at the person who told me that ppl were talking shit abt me. I don't understand what the point of getting angry is but I do understand not wanting to know if ppl (if they're not ur friends ofc) were talking shit.

I had an 8 year old come up to me at my ex’s family bbq to ask if I was pregnant. She wasn’t usually the type to say or ask things like that, so I immediately figured her mum (my ex’s sister) put her up to it to make me feel insecure

​Last year at a church event my sister's bil asked me if my sister was pregnant, said his mom was speculating and I just blatantly told him that I would appreciate if him and his mom can stop calling my sister fat and stopped speaking with him

One day I shall be fluent in subtext and passive aggression

LMAO same

I don’t it reminds me of the hell I live in.

I guess I'm too autistic to enjoy this. Subtext is fun in novels and other art forms, not fun in a conversation that's literally gossip 😂

If you start reading Marx, you will develop the necessary tools to de-hell where you live. I grew up in the South, so believe me when I tell you I get it.

YESS

The only think that strikes me different is how slow her drawl is, I always found we talk 90 ta nuthin in Cajun country.

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@@ConsciousOatmeal I suppose that’s what I was tryin to say 😂 same conversation just twice as fast.

literally same

From one autist to another- ✨ it ain’t worth it ✨

Okay, but subtext is useful? 😂 Rude subtext is one thing, but it's a way to soften awkward topics.

@@nala7829 its not useful if the recipient isnt underestanding. stuff like autism can make it impossible to even pick up on.

​@@kayd9405Fr like I love these videos because they're entertaining but I do not pick up on this kind of stuff when my family does it. Say what you mean or don't say it at all!

​@@nala7829I get what you're saying and I'm personally not bad at picking up "hints" but im very direct and indirect people piss me off. 2 reasons: 1. They expect you to be 24/7 mind readers and will talk shit about you if you don't cooperate with something they literally never told you they wanted from you. 2. They expect everyone else to be equally as indirect as they are and get offended when you say what you mean, no matter how polite (and then they talk shit about you again)

Wait… this level of subtext is a real actual thing?

Google "RAADS test" rn. take it. first link, Embrace Autism get back to me w the results? I'm (also?) autistic btw

I’m autistic but somehow I understand perfectly lol

​@@mssophiad03haha yeah some of us have been trained so much that we're able to connect the dots. I have a special interest in sociology and language so I find these videos absolutely fascinating, I do think I would've missed some of these without subtitles but I also pick up on a lot nowadays.

I really feel that

​@@mssophiad03me too, but I wouldn't be able to pick up all of that without the captions. Some of the more obvious parts, maybe, but not all of it

*Glory Days starts playing in the background*

Ikr

I think the specific difference (weight gain) could only be guessed if you knew Bethy, so that's pretty good!

That sounds like a fun game! I'll give it a go next video. Thanks!

I did the same but assumed pregnancy 😅 close though

They see all that happens in their communities, and it's a matter of if you piss them off whether they ruin you or not.

Your body is healthy compared to what it was while you were on drugs. 💯 You can get more active, running around and playing with your child, and try to choose good meals to keep your family healthy, and that’s the best thing you can do for you and your family. Thin doesn’t mean healthy and it doesn’t mean beautiful or disciplined or anything else - it just means thin. You were thin while taking something that was killing you, that’s nothing to pine for.

Your ED was telling you that your worst fear is putting on weight. But everyone who has babies puts on weight, therefore your ED tells you what babies do to your body is your worst nightmare. Now that ED has to be wrong, coz you love your babies, your body when you were barely eating was a body who never brought those babies into this world, it simply would *not* have been capable. If it weren't for you putting more food into your body, your body would never have been able to build, birth and bring up babies. Your ED must be wrong about this being your nightmare body, because by that logic, your ED thinks your dream body is a body who never had those babies. You don't dream of never having had those babies do you? Your body is exceptional and it's living out the dreams of so many, it created new humans and birthed those humans and supports those humans in growing up! Your body is more than a dream, your body is a fucking superstar!

Maybe look at what that fear of “getting fat” really means? Is it bcs you are afraid people won’t accept you or think less of you? If you can get to the root of what any fear actually means and maybe even where it started, then you can begin to heal and remove the hold it has over you. Then, you can use that mental energy for so many other things in life. Those people have an image and memory of who you *used* to be, not who you are. Your opinion of you matters… not theirs… And, in the end, folks will judge you based on who *they* are not on what’s true. Besides, if they judge you for extra weight instead of strength of character is that someone you want in your life? Does their opinion matter a tinker’s damn, in that case? Your body’s given birth to your beautiful babies and is capable of so many wondrous things. It’s brought you this far every day and is the only one we get. You’re beautiful regardless of how much weight you carry. You were strong enough to kick a drug that is so very difficult to quit. You’ve cared for those babies even with your own inner demons. You are strong enough for this, too. You got this, girl 💪🏼💗✌🏼

Just focus on being a good mother for your children. Focus on avoiding drugs and paying ample attention to your babies. Weight loss can come later 🤷‍♂️. The main thing is don’t relapse and don’t be a negligent mother. Almost all mothers I grew up with were negligent. Working moms, stay in bed mothers and wine moms. Just provide your children the adequate care and attention they deserve. They don’t care if you’re carrying a little extra. They just want a mother who isn’t napping or drunk or working most of the time. You’re doing great just getting off the drugs tbh

congratulations on your baby and your sobriety! you've gone miles for yourself and your kid. i have no kids atm but i always like to hear from parents who do good for their kids bc i make note for the future where i do hope to have kids. i take note of your willingness to sacrifice and make change, even before your child arrived. i hope you are both happy and healthy today and in the future. if your into that, know you will be in my prayers for continued success. i really hope you can get used to your new, and seemingly healthier, body. i got real ill (physically and mentally) last year and was dealing with the life long eating disorder but it got worse as well and got so thin. as far as I am concerned, anorexia is a type of addiction/addictive behavior. especially if one abuses drugs (like caffiene or ephedrine/amphetamines. which is why i maintain one can be a caffiene addict, namely anorexics) to do it. anyway, people were concerned i would die. larger now, but still alive! and i'm not in a hospital! i can get out of bed on my own! how awesome is my heavier and healthier body! I aslo found God and accepted Christ (so stereotypical for those in recovery, but i get it now. fighting the ED behaviors comes easier and latter day saints are advised to be cautious about coffee and tea) and doctors aren't edging around the topic of death when they talk to me now. heroin use may be similar, i think, not to minimize your struggle, but in that it can cause a look of illness and death about a person. and for some reason, that got labeled as attractive along the way. but we are both alive! i can't say that about other people i knew from anorexia spaces, unfortunately. may they have the peace they didn't have in life.

Same here.

SAMMME I’m binging them all just back to back for the 4th time in like 2 months 😭

My autistic ass watching this video like 🧍

Therapy

mmmmm, that's only somewhat an okay way to go about it though if you're acknowledging where everyone else is coming from, their struggles and situations, and if you understand that you are not the only person in the world who is insecure and jealous. but also ??? who tf be gossiping because THEY'RE insecure ? not saying you are, but that comment makes you sound like a drama starter and rumor spreader frankly, just to try to divert anyone's attention on you to something else. you really should work to change how you treat and view yourself. respectfully. because that's just a terrible fight or flight, anxiety filled way to live, and it's going to make you lonelier in the longrun if you end up accepting that as a part of your personality, rather than trying to fish the trash out of the lake and better yourself. but like i said, you gotta sympathize with what you don't know about people and where they're coming from, so I'm not trying to be mean or make you insecure any further than you already might be. just coming from someone who used to be so deeply insecure and hateful 24/7, I literally hated myself and wanted to end it all, know that it really is a matter of your perspective on life and that you can improve the way you view yourself and the relationships you end up creating with other people. don't become someone who just talks about themselves and overshares all the time because you wanna hear everyone else talk about themselves too and you want someone to be vulnerable with you. you won't get far in friendships because you'll come off as conceited rather than "here for the tea." again I'm sorry if this all sounded mean, ik we're just people in a youtube comment section, and I mean this more as a girl you okay? you need a helping hand? not a personal attack

@@taylinj4834 youll never force me to read all that 😅

like AA, but it's for quitting gossip and learning to not take your own self hatred out on others

Okaaaay

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Speaking as someone whose ancestors were delegitimized British royalty who crossed the seas to become lace-wristed Virginia terrorists and then headed to Kentucky to forget how to read and become moonshiners, it's basically the same people.

If you're straight up with them when other people are around, they'll probably pretend their passive aggressive comment was a misinterpreted compliment.

This is so funny. I’m southern and I work at a doctor’s office. I have to call insurance sometimes. This lady with the insurance was getting rude with me and a switch just flipped in my head and I referred to it as ‘gettin real nice’ lol

I had the same problem moving from New Mexico to Oklahoma, I got a huge culture shock when I found out about fake friendliness and gossip.

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