I read an article once that said "Don't beat yourself up with hindsight over the limited awareness you had in the past," and I think that sums this video up pretty well. Really needed this video tonight, thank you Mary ❤

Mary's just like this wise village elder who everyone looks up to and I love it.

Mary, thank you so much for making these types of videos. Whenever there’s hardship in my life I love to revisit your Mama Mary’s Lectures playlist and listen to your sage advice. So many times you have put the wind back in my sails and taught me to handle myself with grace. I hope your Christmas is merry and bright this year ❤️

I love this so much. I have a lot of little regrets, like we all do. But my one major regret is not standing up to people, including some "friends" that were negative and downright abusive to me. I allowed it for years and it had a massive effect on my self worth, which was basically in negative numbers. I'm 32 now and I have a daughter. The main thing I hope to instill in her is to never, under any circumstance let people walk all over you. Stand up for yourself; fight back. I can't get those years back that I spent hating myself and avoiding other people and fearing interacting with them because I was so broken I could barely find my voice to speak. I love my life now. I love my people. But I lost a lot of years.

A note on the praising kids for everything - I have a bachelor’s in education and actually the research says to not give generic praise. To not say “good job” without giving a specific thing they did well. It can be subjective “I like the way you used orange in that drawing, it looks really nice” but that all feedback should be specific otherwise it means nothing

I love how you HONESTLY care for your viewers. And are so right that everyone experiences regret

Some of the dumbest things I’ve done in my past were things I did because I was afraid I would regret not doing it. Now I regret doing it!😂😭

TODAY...I finally addressed my one regret that has been eating away at my mind for about a year or so, I'm learning to be a better friend to myself.

I regret getting something I was heavily pressured into getting despite me knowing there were risks. And now I have debilitating chronic pain and my entire life has been ruined. It’s extremely traumatizing for me because this thing that ruined my life is praised and pushed onto me every single day. I regret getting it so much but I still don’t even feel comfortable saying what it is because it has such a good reputation, yet it ruined my life. I regret getting it so much. Thank you for making this.

You are an amazing ASMR artist, and you never cease to fascinate every viewer with your outstanding content. So much wisdom in such a short amount of time!🤗

Thank you, thank you Mary. I have been spending a lot of time in my head dwelling on my regrets and you have really helped to put things in perspective. The one thing I have gotten from this, that I think will help me the most, is to learn from my mistakes so I don't repeat them and to help others to not make the same kind of mistakes that I did.

There was all kinds of older ladies that went to college when I did... and they usually had the best insights during class.

I’ve been struggling with something I did 6 months ago, I regret it so badly it’s actually made me depressed because all I can think about is how much I want to go back and undo it

I’ve been in a really deep depressive spiral recently because of several life events, and I have been feeling so much shame and regret, so this is an incredibly helpful video. 💗

Mary, I love when you do videos on life and when you share your experiences and knowledge. I, for one, would love it if you could make these videos more often. Thank you for this❤

Words of wisdom fro momma Mary. I have really had to deal with regret because not taking care of my Helton has led to some major complications but I realized dwelling in woulda, coulda, shoulda does not change or help matters .

My fav quote is “live as if you were living already for the Second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to now’ I think an important thing I had to learn is learning to forgive myself and others EASILY. You may never get that apology and you may never get to apologize but everyone STILL deserve to eat, laugh, smile, and live.

Thanks mama Mary! I love your gentle yet firm way of giving us your advice. A lot of the time I will be having a pity party for myself and then get a dose of your tough love and it helps pull me out of it. ❤

I let go of the idea of toxic people. We are/were toxic to some people at a time and vice versa. I think we live in a world where we are told to like everyone,get along with everyone, be alway positive etc. but I realized that a lot of people in my past I thought were toxic were just people I wasn’t compatible in Jobs, partners, friends hell even dogs.I was always constantly trying to fit in places and make things work that wasn’t meant for me. Now I go where I’m celebrated and leave when I’m not. It’s liberating

Wow Mary I needed this right now. I do agree with writing your feelings down. Journeling really helped me. Mary you truly do help so many of us. I truly appreciate you so much.

Loved watching your video! Sometimes we just have to do what we need to do and not regret. We always have to push ourselves to finish something we need to finish. You did well talking about this topic. Just dealing with family issues for a while and listening to you I feel good! Your great Mary!!!! Thanks for this video!!!😊👍

Mary, Thank you for giving us advice and truly caring about your viewers. This really spoke to what’s weighing heavy on my heart, and I appreciate you so much ❤️

Mary, I do have a video suggestion/request if it's okay. If you have anything to say about dealing with relatives you're not on speaking terms with, I'd appreciate it. My husband is about to have to face some relatives he and his brother have been feuding with for years(long story, I'll spare you) at his grandmother's funeral. She was moved to hospice last week, so we know what's coming. His plan is to just avoid speaking to them, but they usually go out of their way to be snarky and rude and it's hard to not respond.

Very wise and practical advise. Something much needed. Thank you!❤️

Every day I have yet another reason to adore and admire and aspire to be you. Always insightful and thoughtful Mary. Thank you always for these videos to remind us we're all human 🖤

Love your videos! My 2 year old loves watching you, you have the gift to relax him into a sleep for bedtime 💕

thank you so much for this, so much amazing advice and wisdom 🥰

I regret not finishing college because employers will often hire a college degreed person before a non degreed person. They are often higher paying jobs. I'm looking to change jobs and this is what I'm encountering now.

Loved this. My boyfriend of 7 years broke up w me last weekend and your videos always help me feel better

It really depends on how much of it you can help as far as regret goes. Don't beat yourself up over *anything* in life, regret or not. It's unproductive. Made a mistake? Regret something? Couldn't right a wrong before someone you knew died? Regret something that you did or said? Doesn't matter what it is, accept it (you owning your mistakes and regrets is worthy of forgiveness) and push forward. Don't look back constantly. Move forward and keep on going. You've reflected over what you feel you've done wrong or fell short on and wish you could have changed the past. You can't. That's done. Now *STOP IT* and do something else to move forward and do something different. Do you know what you can change? The future. Right now. Insanity is repeating the same thing over and over and expecting a different result even when you haven't altered any of the choices, variables or parameters. Case in point: I'm a 39 year old guy who has been fit and active since my early childhood years, but I have had cognitive issues as far back as my childhood that I didn't know how to describe and that nobody would believe. Elementary school and high school were exhausting for me, I had trouble focusing on the classwork and staying awake in general. I barely graduated from high school and did not go to college or have any formal training after high school. Reading aloud in class and public speaking were the worst for me in school. A couple of years ago, around 37 years old, I was working at a distribution warehouse. One night before bed some symptoms started and I ended up in the ER. The ER couldn't find anything wrong with me and the ER doctor literally didn't believe me and kept asking me if I had taken any illegal drugs, which I hadn't. They worked me over for everything from cocaine to barbituates to meth. Of course, all negative. I was jittery all over, had a blood pressure of 170/110 with a red face, tachycardia, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, etc. The ER thought I was having a heart attack or some major episode. They discharged me hours later when the pulse and blood pressure went back down. They had no clue, blamed 'anxiety'panic attack and sent me home. I spent 2 years going from doctor to doctor getting tests. One even claimed I had Munchausen Syndrome, the condition where people make up medical conditions that they don't have. I was dizzy in 2018 and sent to a neurologist, who claimed I was "normal" even though I was very hyperreflexive muscle-wise. She later resigned. What do I have? Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome, also known as POTS Syndrome. A few doctors have not said that I have probably had it for most or all of my life. I also have a number of "dysautonomias" aka autonomic dysfunctions of the body and brain. I don't have a 'disease' per se, it's a malfunction of the body. At 39 years old, I have never held a driver's license. I thought I was just stupid. I felt the same in school when I couldn't grasp the classwork that my peers seemed to get easily. I couldn't learn to read a measuring tape properly. I literally couldn't "grasp" the simple rules of the road and every time I practiced driving, I nearly had an accident, turned when I shouldn't, etc. I'd forget names of roads I literally grew up around, directions, was too fatigued to concentrade and would literally fall asleep while riding in the passenger side with someone. I have worked a variety of jobs since my late teenage years after graduating from high school. Lots of retail, some manufacturing/production and other clerical-related jobs. Again, barely making it through my days at some of them. Some jobs I had to resign from after just a few months because they were too taxing on my body. The big-name doctors couldn't fix it and their medications didn't work to help it. In late November 2021, I saw what is usually referred to as a "functional neurologist". Most regular MD doctors badmouth functional neurologists and claim they aren't real doctors, are scammers, etc. First visit and he immediately recognized my severe and debilitating autonomic dysfunctions. However, because most MD medical doctors frown upon them and don't feel that they are really 'doctors' because they also tend to be chiropractors. Their facility is the only known "POTS" clinic that I could find in my state at all. A lot of the reviews online of patients who have gone to them are former patients who traveled all the way to the Chicago POTS clinic and Mayo Clinic in other states, spent tens of thousands of dollars (some of them are $50,000 and no insurance accepted to be a lab rat for 5-7 days straight just to get a diagnosis) and they did not find much help. The reviews of the place that I went to state that they helped them get back to a more reasonable lifestyle. So what else do I have? Testing at the functional neurologist showed I exhibit considerable Nystagmus (eyes jumping everywhere but on the target that I should be looking at) and also Hippus, which is another dysautonomia where my pupils constantly get larger and smaller regardless of light stimulation. My reflex/neuro exam shows shocking autonomic 'startle' reactions to light/sound, my body is intermittently in a trembling and panic mode that exacerbates itself and various areas of my brain like my Frontal Lobe and Middle Brain were said to be malfunctioning and receiving far too much information. My brain isn't filtering signals like it should. This causes considerable problems in reading. I have to read a sentence a few times in a row, otherwise it won't make sense because my brain and/or eyes 'skip' words in between. A similar VNG in 2020 did not have those findings, so something has apparently worsened or they missed it somehow. The functional neurologist believes that because the clinic in 2020 was looking for a "brain tumor" that they ignored my other VNG results that were abnormal. My inhale/exhale breathing was also found to be very choppy, which interrupts how my voice sounds, as well. My physical workouts are also choppy. Guess what? All fixable with time and treatments with the functional neurologists that MD medical doctors, though they are held in high regard for some reason, have said they don't know how to fix. Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do and what is and isn't possible. Even though I had to go on SSDI at 39 years old and haven't been able to drive a vehicle before, I plan on coming back with double vengeance to do all of the things that I've missed and have a happy and fulfilling rest of my life and my girlfriend is patiently waiting by my side as I have also been by her side with her own medical issues. Be you. Not who/what others want you to be.

Enormous thank you for the video. I have too much regrets connected with studying at a university, that completely lost the joy of life, i feel like I'm sitting in a virtual jail. Your video reanimated me, but it's still hard to struggle with these thoughts.

I love the advice type videos. They're really my favorite. You do them better than most asmrtists. Thank you Mary ❤

Thank you so much for this, Mary. I've been needing to hear it. Your book, "River Road", was AMAZING.👏👍😍 I actually listened to all of it, and LOVE IT. I hope you read your next book, to us also. You're the best.👍😁👍

So validating and needed. ☺️

Thank you for this insightful video. You are wise beyond your years Mary. ❤ It's also very relaxing and reassuring. Have a safe and enjoyable Xmas 🎄

My only advice for everyone is to spend the good times with family and friends because they will never come again.

The confidence! I wish I had the same. Much love you!

asked for a sign from the universe and i got this video from you as an answer!! mary, you're amazingg!! thank you so much for making this

That was so inspiring and helpful! Mary, you are such a valuable goldmine of life experience, thank you! ❤

Another awesome video. Keep up the good work. Merry Christmas to you and your family. Fan in Nashville,Tn......T

Love the glasses, that’s a cute look. Thanks for all you do. ✌️

These are my favourite videos of yours. I’ve followed you since the beginning o used to be shell89 I forgot my password when I got a new phone. Anyway this is something I’ve been struggling with so much so I haven’t been able to sleep. I missed a year of high school due to spinal surgery then had to leave college because of anorexia. I had severe pp psychosis with my second child, I regret not finishing my education I’m not well enough or in a position to finish school YET but your right it’s never too late thank you ❤️

My favourite type of videos 🤗

Always keeping it real 💕

Wise perspectives Mary.

I was looking at ASMR channels that do requests, and didn't expect to see something so wholesome. I hope to see more videos from you in the future. Cheers!

Great video!

interestingly enough I have a regret about some stupid comment that I made to you when I just 1st started listening to you and I don't remember what it was or if I had pms or what my deal was but I think you put me in my place and your listeners let me know where to stick my comments lol.. well now that I have listened to you alot more I really admire you and I get so much from your videos. I have the chance to do something about this by saying you probably don't even remember whatever my stupid comment was but I regret that I said something that may have seemed offensive or assholish and I want to say that I am sorry for whatever negative comment I may have made in the past. I have learned to not make snap judgments and I think you are such an intelligent woman and I love your sense of humor. so I apologize and I don't want to feel regret every time I listen to you by thinking I wonder if she remembers I made a dumb comment once. I don't have to worry about every dumb thing I said in the past as long as I try to use good judgment about what I say in the future. thank you so much for teaching me this. this video was so helpful!

Thank you Mary

Hi Mary! Thank you for this video. These were the words I needed to hear but didn’t know it. Would you ever consider making a video about how to support family members with neurodegenerative diseases? My dad has rapidly progressing Parkinson’s and it’s hard for me to know how to support him through his ever-changing condition…especially ways that help him without highlighting his altered physical and cognitive abilities. I know this might be a personal subject for you but it would be so meaningful to hear what you and your Mom are experiencing. Thank you as always. Happy Holidays! 🎄 ☃️

Thanks Mary 😢❤️

Mary, I've been thinking about that Past Life Regression you did awhile back. I'm in Charlotte and wondered if there was some way you could give me the name of the person you went to. Thanks.

Ty Mary

Enjoy your videos I watch when I can merry Christmas and besafe

Wise words.

Never been this early 🥰

When did you realize that your voice was so soothing and made for this ??🤗

Merry Christmas ✨💋✨💋✨💋✨💋✨💋

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