ASMR | The Journey of Figuring Out Who You Are (Soft Spoken)

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Disclaimer: This is not medical advice, and I'm not a licensed therapist. This is just a friendly chat for entertainment purposes only!
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@mondobe 2 жыл бұрын

This should be a monthly thing! Mary’s motivational asmr speeches!

@sarabavota 2 жыл бұрын

Omg I completely agree

@SOMETHINGTOSLOW 2 жыл бұрын

I would love for her to do one for becoming self-employed or starting your own business 🦋🌏

@FRO8181 2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@ludooh2451 2 жыл бұрын

Yes please!

@UncleMarco 2 жыл бұрын

You’re exactly the person the world needs to talk at length about this topic, I’m hyped for this video

@nancyachin8305 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, Mary.... I'm a recent widow, and realized that I have never lived on my own. I've always been someone's daughter, sister, aunt, wife, mom, or nana. I can't believe the timing of this video; it's perfect. And everything you said is resonating with me, so thank you for these few minutes.

@callumdrevnick5389 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for this, mary. i recently graduated high school and turned 18, and i feel directionless. i lost my teenage years to mental illness and now that i'm getting better, i'm trying to figure out who i am as a person and honestly i don't know who i am, what i like, what i want, etc. it's comforting to know that i'm not alone.

@dapoberlin 2 жыл бұрын

I cannot stress enough how wholesome your videos are: Your sanity, your humanity, your humour and your general outlook on life are so impressive. I don't know, it seems to work even better than therapy. You've become some kind of sane best friend of mine, to be honest. At least in my imagination, haha.

@twiggystardust9573 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 10 month old and this is so spot on. It's so easy to get lost in feedings and diapers and doctors appointments and sneaking a few minutes to clean, shower, eat, have some grown-up time. I find myself getting angry at my husband for no reason, other than he's a deeper sleeper than me and his snoring makes me jealous. I really appreciate the video (and all of your videos, really). They're a a highlight of my evenings.

@kristineplummer7607 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 5 month old right now and an 8 year old and I promise I know the feeling. I'm going through it too. Hang in there!

@lemonade_011 2 жыл бұрын

Heyy Mary This video means a lot as I’m currently not at school and I’m still 15/16, I have really lost myself and keep avoiding life in General, I know I need help for myself and Especially others around me but it’s just tough and A mess-Getting out off but thank you ! 💙

@amylynnxx21 2 жыл бұрын

You’re gonna make it don’t worry :)

@danielkryman1141 2 жыл бұрын

I just graduated and am going through something similar your Gonna get through this it may be hard now but everything in life is temporary even this! You got this! Keep your head up!

@DasGoodASMR Жыл бұрын

Sometimes in the evenings, I go on walks with Mary. I listen to you while I put in a few miles. This was a good one. Thank you for sharing your experience and helping us be better people and deeper thinkers. You are one of the good ones and you help people.

@tiffanyhatcher310 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 36 and feel like I've lost myself working and being a mom. I needed this, thank you!

@Sarah-zx3rz 2 жыл бұрын

mary, your videos always make me feel warm inside. I genuinely felt like this is a mom talk, like you're really talking to me personally. god bless you! keep going and please do this more frequently i really enjoyed it, have a nice day/ night :))

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! :)

@sleepyhead566 2 жыл бұрын

Mama Mary’s advices are the best!

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! :)

@jackainsleybrincat1960 2 жыл бұрын

Did not expect that I'd need these lessons especially from an ASMR video but here I am on a Sunday evening feeling so informed, educated and related. Thank you, as ever, Mary for being genuine, compassionate and real. I hope you have a great Sunday ❤

@sarahmemmott6282 2 жыл бұрын

I hadn't realized it before, but washing the dishes is meditative for me for the same reasons as you mowing the lawn! Thank you for another wonderful video. Your content is an absolute gift

@myflipflopromance 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed this video. Work has been extremely stressful lately and I needed to hear what you were saying in this video.

@w.m.8126 2 жыл бұрын

For the person reading this: You're going to get where you're supposed to go. I know it seems so far away or you may be uncertain where that place exactly is, but you're going to get there and each experience is another step in the right direction. Just try to stay kind and connect with those around you, big or small ✨

@hotwasabi1085 2 жыл бұрын

I actually began taking singing lessons in April of this year. I did some singing in high school but I never got to take one on one singing lessons and it’s something I have always wanted to do. Im 27 and have no functional use for singing. I don’t want to pursue it as a career, so it felt really odd when I first started taking lessons but it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. Every week I get a whole hour to just sing and have fun. I realised that as a kid we are encouraged to do all kinds of hobbies and activities, but not as adults. It’s important to have hobbies at every age, it’s not just for school aged kids.

@bbrockRailFan 2 жыл бұрын

I remember back in the 70s and 80s when I was growing up I can remember both of my parents doing things such as crafts, clubs etc. Currently I notice some of my friends dont do this. They seem to be totally wrapped up in nothing more than their job and kids. I think down the road they are going to have some serious adjustment issues. I think with this staying and working at home as made it worse.

@delhawk8726 2 жыл бұрын

Oh em gee, you just made me go weak. I never thought about being old with no hobbies/particular skills. I guess I should try find something to do 😅

@ChickenNuggie1000 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. I’m 33 years old and my kids are now 8 and 6 and I’m trying to figure out what the hell to do with my life. I have been dabbling with coding and now with this advice I think it’s time to get serious

@audunaarseth6237 10 ай бұрын

😂

@ginanoname6417 2 жыл бұрын

Yes a Mama Mary lecture and advice! Always so helpful!

@sarabavota 2 жыл бұрын

Omg Mary that was wonderful 😭 , you are so special in telling your life advices and experiences, espressing ourself and admitting to ourself when we are not ok is important, it is always difficult to talk about feeling failed and lost, thank you for your dedication to the channel ♥️

@copenhagen2132 2 жыл бұрын

Your video’s resonate with me and I find comfort and inspiration. It makes me feel that you are not alone that there are people going through similar Things on the other side of the world. 😊 It is great to be able to mirror yourself in another strong woman.

@eroy1234 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. You have NO idea how lost I’ve felt lately. This has helped me more than I can ever thank you for❤️

@kathleendumas9046 2 жыл бұрын

loved this video, I really needed it. you should do more videos like this, you're so good at it.

@janinezang7138 2 жыл бұрын

You are truly inspirational Mary. I’m passing this video along to my family! You are ASMR and sooooo much more!!

@ashleywiedau2887 2 жыл бұрын

This was very uplifting, validating, and encouraging. Thank you for this, very much. 💕

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@HannahB0515 2 жыл бұрын

miss mary you’re more inspirational than a motivational speaker 😂💕💕

@TheEllaDarling 2 жыл бұрын

This was genuinely a very nice video to get in my subscription box right now. I have contemplated for a long time what might be helpful in finding direction. I'm currently studying but I've lost all motivation for it and covid certainly hasn't helped my already poor mental health. I started doing therapy with the aim to be able to leave the house with less anxiety to hopefully be able to go and take that welding class or basically any other class BUT welding 😂. (To be fair I do recall enjoying the little bit I got to do in lower grades at school, fixing up little lamps). I wish everyone who also needed this video success in finding new hobbies and self-reflecting through journaling and meditation. Baby steps to start to build up motivation.

@AJ-wg1ru 2 жыл бұрын

This video came at the exact perfect time for me. Thanks!

@annalisemanchester1488 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been feeling really lost and this video helped me a lot. Remembering to find myself and care for me. Hope u have an amazing night Mary you deserve it always

@annabug 2 жыл бұрын

i REALLY needed to hear this tonight. thank you mary

@soph2469 2 жыл бұрын

I haven't watched the full thing yet but you are amazing. Love that you made this video 🤍

@danielkryman1141 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mary, you have no idea how much I needed this I’ve been going through a really hard time and this is exactly what I needed tonight your really a special person! Love the videos keep up the great work!

@hinesc14 2 жыл бұрын

This means so much! I graduated college with a degree in something I love but need to move to use, and I can’t do that yet. The last few months felt like drowning but I’m pivoting and planning for the future and backup plans. ☺️ Your words meant so much!

@friendlyneighborhoodimmuno7192 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best video you have ever made! You almost got me excited about mowing my lawn. 😂

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@debsone 2 жыл бұрын

This couldn't have came at a better time for me. I am truly struggling this past few weeks with almost everything you were talking about. I'm a mum to four young children one of which has a rare medical condition. I feel like i am constantly pulled in all directions it can be so difficult i do next to nothing for myself i don't even know what I'm good at or what i enjoy anymore. Being a mum is so strange with how much you lose your identity. I will definately take this advice on board thank you so much for sharing your wisdom Mary 💖

@CBPz 2 жыл бұрын

Something I do for myself to help me relax or take some time for myself is watch your channel🥰

@mckenziedetonancour27 2 жыл бұрын

this is one of my favorite videos of yours, love you mary 🤍

@vickyb9918 2 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful video with such sage advice. Thank you!

@brooklynnhudson4989 2 жыл бұрын

My favorite kind of videos!!! Love you Mary!!

@katiecribbs8863 2 жыл бұрын

Hard to believe that you are a quiet person irl Mary, you are so bubbly on your channel! Loved this video, reminds me of one you did a few years ago about life advice you would give your younger self 💕

@Alexis-uy6gl 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. I’m 23 and dealing with clinical depression and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

@lbali2896 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed this tonight. Such good advice, thankyou 🙂

@hopecollective9816 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed this Mary. Thanks for sharing 💕

@manuelfcasas3472 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! What you talk about on this video is so important! i don't usually listen to you for asmr but as a way to practice my english and pick up new vocabulary. Although this is my main objective when I listen to you I have also realized the topics you cover and your perspective on life and issues is fresh and interesting. So, again, thank you! And, incidentally, yours are truly good asmr videos. Sometimes I can't help but relaxing myself and fall asleep! 🙂

@Schmusekissens 2 жыл бұрын

I always love your advice videos! Thank you for the video

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@mirna27 2 жыл бұрын

Mary, I just adore your soft spoken videos 😍

@FRO8181 2 жыл бұрын

The first few minutes were exactly what I needed. I am a mom of two teenagers and life has gotten so hectic and I completely lost myself in motherhood. Time to start finding “me” again ☺️♥️

@andrea-ry4pw 2 жыл бұрын

u said u r not a therapist but u sound exactly just like one, love u mary!!

@emree8833 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.🥲😇. This really hit home and I appreciate it very much!

@bystander1668 2 жыл бұрын

Words of wisdom! Thank you for saying this Mary.

@user-su1vs2kc7x 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so very much! i really needed to hear this

@innyasmr 2 жыл бұрын

You soft spoken voice is so relaxing 🤤

@asmrwithkate 2 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this so much!

@acon1028 2 жыл бұрын

I SO needed this. you are truly wonderful Mary. Thank you!

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@amydicaprihoe6491 2 жыл бұрын

Needed this, thank you

@daniellehoodless4345 2 жыл бұрын

I’m commenting before I have watched this but I’m confident I need this!

@bstarkey317 2 жыл бұрын

I love this video. When I graduated high school in 2020 during the pandemic I truly lost who I was over the last year, and am now remembering who I am and what I truly want. I am going to nursing school, got stronger in my faith in church, and am making true friends. I love how you mention about evolving everyday for the rest of our life because things change everyday. I sometimes go through spurts of almost like a depression/loneliness especially during the winter ❄️. I had surgery a couple months ago and went through one of these spurts right after, but I have become more motivated now more than ever to become who I want to be and not care about others thoughts and opinions of me. I am so excited for the future now, but also want to live in the moment.

@amandam3229 2 жыл бұрын

This really helped me thank you Mary 😊

@beccahunt6127 2 жыл бұрын

Serendipitous video. Thank you. 💜

@zunakhussain9066 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Mary for this video, it really helps!!!

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@dionisiogarcia2135 2 жыл бұрын

Love listening to you, you have a very wise and interesting point of view

@rebeccanicole4258 2 жыл бұрын

Thank god for you and your advice videos 🙌🏻 love how much you look after us and stay real with your subscribers 💞 #maryforUKprimeminister 🇬🇧

@tinglesrosyrupeeland 2 жыл бұрын

"Get in your own shell" HAHAHA!! I love that (o: thank you for the very calm lovely upload

@sarahcline9585 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this video ❤️

@kimrobinson6280 2 жыл бұрын

Great advice you would be a wonderful therapist Mary

@stephaniewyke8357 2 жыл бұрын

Omg I needed this

@_pearl_ 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@aprilk1803 2 жыл бұрын

This is perfect timing. I’m having the “I’m just someone’s aunt, friend, daughter” and I feel lost.

@marysmusicaljourney2.0 2 жыл бұрын

Killing me softly. It's like God's speaking through you and your talking directly to me.

@emilytoth3357 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💜

@lesleystewart214 2 жыл бұрын

Well that was lovely, thank you. 🥰🥰🥰

@elleryh9989 2 жыл бұрын

“get in your own shell!”

@elleryh9989 2 жыл бұрын

this might become my senior quote…still deciding 🤔

@connertighe4565 2 жыл бұрын

This is a really helpful video, for sure

@Rae-wv6ic 2 жыл бұрын

I think I'll have to save this for later, I need to go to sleep for work soon. Trying to be responsible, lol. But. I'm trying to be brave and less afraid. It's extra scary when you grow up being told you can't and nothing is good enough. It's HARD to keep reassuring yourself and to take risks. I grew up stagnant. It's a hard circle to escape, but I'm trying. I'm starting a new job soon that's a better opportunity, and yeah. I like talks like this. It really helps to hear it from someone besides just me telling myself

@schmillow 2 жыл бұрын

Yes Mary! It took me a good 2-3 years after becoming a Mum to realise that I totally lost myself!

@littlelake2693 2 жыл бұрын

Aww I absolutely love this channel and starting out myself on KZfaq is soooo hard 😭 I'm putting my all into my channel and not one subscriber, all I want to do is make people happy and sleepy and the only one nodding off is me waiting for that first sub 😂

@loriflori 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this! I also love being by myself, with my thoughts, and also am one who talks (out loud) to myself to help figure thing out, primarily arguments. My mind flies really fast and I talk fast as it is, but my mouth cannot keep up with my mind. So arguments get really disjointed. I find if I give my side of the discussion out loud, I focus better because I have to slow it down. Works great!

@agronbandicoot 2 жыл бұрын

The cards are back!

@michaelnitsch3196 2 жыл бұрын

Good stuff!

@superfuzzymomma 2 жыл бұрын

Middle aged and still searchin', me! Great video.

@kiebac 2 жыл бұрын

I'm starting to think that you are some kind of good fairy🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️. For so many people these words are so true. And truth often hurts but it also might heal. Very good video.🌺👏

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you!

@rosicass4481 2 жыл бұрын

Mary! Give us a video on how you stay slim. Diet & exercise! Thanks 🤗

@SouthernASMRSounds 2 жыл бұрын

I started counting calories every day back in April and have lost 17 pounds with no other changes. Long story short, I was consuming more calories every day than I realized. Once I reduced my caloric intake, basic math - I lost weight.

@rosicass4481 2 жыл бұрын

@@SouthernASMRSounds can I be nosy and ask how meant calories you give yourself a day? You look great Mary & I enjoyed the video! True words.

@FknAlexx 2 жыл бұрын

"You don't have to be perfect, just f*cking do things!"

@Justme-dl4hf 2 жыл бұрын

What a great video. I am 52. I am mom, and grandma, employee, but i don't know who I am? I don't do what i want to do. Thank you!

@nancyachin8305 2 жыл бұрын

@Just Me - I'm right there with you, although nobody is my boss anymore but myself. I've had to sit down and try to remember all those things I once said I'd do "someday", and figure out which ones still appeal to my older self!

@Lily-fd7lc 2 жыл бұрын

My mom had NO problem delegating to me, lol. No shade though, I was happy to help!!

@laurieboldis1537 2 жыл бұрын

Best ever Mary❤️

@celiashaw9767 2 жыл бұрын

ty so much...

@katelynmcgowan1616 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@jerricarodriguez7898 2 жыл бұрын

Wait that’s me… I quit my career 2 months ago and I tell people I’m “taking a break”

@clairesasmrgiftwrappingnot2310 Жыл бұрын

I did that too and it was really beneficial . I hope you had the same experience

@just_budha212 2 жыл бұрын

I found myself when ragnor from vikings said hi

@papizak5467 2 жыл бұрын

That's me! I became Harvest without wanting to. 😭I love my kids but I'd like a little bit of me I miss that and I definitely need that. But who's gonna stay with them? I'm stuck for years

@jgee3369 2 жыл бұрын

We don’t know what tomorrow will bring OR take away.

@aliastopsecret 2 жыл бұрын

♡

@mikeiswack 2 жыл бұрын

💚

@abbagel779 2 жыл бұрын

Oh Mary… ❤️ 🤗 💕 😊 🙇‍♀️ 🌻 ❤️

@pinkybear2067 2 жыл бұрын

Your amazing

@dennismullins4660 2 жыл бұрын

You are so right. I raised my daughter by myself and put everything into that and gave up a lot of my self to do it. When she went out on her own I really felt lost untill I got back into my likes. I also know a couple who did the same thing and when there kids left home they ended up divorced