Speak English Like A Native Speaker

Speak English Like A Native Speaker - THE MYTH

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Want to speak like a native in English? Of course you do. Who wouldn’t want that?
But ...
What if I told you that setting the goal TO SPEAK AND SOUND LIKE A NATIVE in English could also be the reason why you still feel stuck and insecure in English?
Here’s why:
1) This concept 'to speak like a native' implies there is only one 'right' way to speak English. In fact, the opposite is true. Native speakers have vastly different accents and expressions, and even use different forms of grammar. What the English learning industry perceives as the standard, is only one type of English spoken by a select group of people. Once you understand that there’s more variety and more room for different voices, you'll have more freedom in your speaking.
2) While you may believe the goal to 'speak English like a native' keeps you motivated, in reality it could strengthen the two biggest fears that prevent people from pursuing their goals - the fear of not being good enough and the fear of rejection.
In the video, I’m going to explain why this happens and how you can achieve fluency and freedom by changing the way you think about English.
I have been a fluency and pronunciation coach for 12 years. I have taught thousands of students.
When I used to promote the idea that their end goal should be to ‘speak like a native’, I saw that my students were not able to appreciate their progress or feel contentment, because no matter what they had achieved they still felt like they were far from the ‘native’ ideal.
I also felt this myself, as a non-native English speaker seeking to sound like a native. When I was trying to keep the form of 'perfect standard English' I felt so limited and was in constant fear of getting things wrong. When I changed my way of thinking about English, I was able to achieve so much more in my ability to communicate, without the burden and pressure of sounding a certain way - the pressure of having to pass as an American.
But you know what the best part is? Once freedom is achieved, it’s so much easier to actually reach your true goals - to feel as comfortable and free in English as you do in your native language.
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@jamesmcinnis208 3 жыл бұрын

I tell my students, your accent is a reminder to everyone that you speak at least one other language. It's definitely something to be proud of. However, you don't want an accent so strong that people have difficulty understanding you.

@picklerick9805 3 жыл бұрын

I like that I speak some words words that sound native and more often then not I sound diffrent not nataive not like an ascent but diffrent if that makes sence lol . Japanese spanish i watch a lot of Chinese cartoons

@UrbanSipfly 3 жыл бұрын

@@picklerick9805 As far as your sentence construct - I did not understand anything you tried to convey. You have a bunch of spelling errors that you certainly would not want to make practice of doing, (particularly) when asked to put your thoughts in print.

@picklerick9805 3 жыл бұрын

@@UrbanSipfly I learnt english with cartoons from China is that better and thank you for not being nice to someone that is putting in the effort to speak your language . you are not a nice person

@UrbanSipfly 3 жыл бұрын

@@picklerick9805 I am too a nice person. I'm just sharing with you what you've chose to text that came across my reading comprehension. I do understand the difficulties of learning new information, whether it be language, art, math, and or history. I believe that to say nothing about your ability to master English as foreign language - would be cruel!

@picklerick9805 3 жыл бұрын

@@UrbanSipfly its ok i am used to it I can not spell thank you tho I didn not understand you where trying to help me i am sorry

@Happy_Life2011 3 жыл бұрын

I want to emphasize what Hadar mentioned that speaking clear and confident is more matter than speak like the native. I live in the US, and I have graduated from university here. When I started looking for a job, I had had the feeling that I will not get a job because of my accent. But when I interviewed, I always expressed my thoughts and skills as if I speak about that in my native language. I got a job, and most of the interviewers commented on my communication skills even though my English is not my mother language.

@karthikduraisami 3 жыл бұрын

Proud of your achievement. !!

@shutapp9958 3 жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@milandyaba5006 2 жыл бұрын

A mother tongue is a myth ,get it out of mind. All languages are equal then express feelings equally no matter the language . Keep that in mind .

@lucascarvalho2151 3 жыл бұрын

I dont care if i have an accent , i just wanna be clear and able to express my ideias,opinions etc..that's It. No big deal.

@englishwithmiranda 3 жыл бұрын

Every accent has its charm, and the English of the future in international English anyway.

@flaviasantos3077 3 жыл бұрын

@Mr. Random . As a Brazilian I totally agree with your comment.

@taviabrissett8215 3 жыл бұрын

You should love your accent And embrace who you are always God makes us all precious.

@apdorafa-rafaelalmeida7159 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I always tell that to my students. As long as you get your message across, thats what matters.

@danieleusai2750 3 жыл бұрын

Being fluent as a first step. Once I'll be fluent I could get focused on pitch, rythm, intonation etc

@Jajainterativo 3 жыл бұрын

I don't wanna speak like a native speaker but, you know. My goal is become fluently and confidently in English not matter what if I don't lose my Brazilian accent

@Trump-a-Tron 3 жыл бұрын

A sensible attitude... if you live in Brazil. If you live in the Anglosphere... oh boy... practice practice practice.

@LearnAcademicEnglish 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with this sentiment! You can retain your Brazilian accent. The goal should be comprehensibility first, and then after time, the accent can naturally become more native-like.

@englishwithmiranda 3 жыл бұрын

I love the Brazilian accent! I feel like the English "r' is often pronounced "h" by my Brazilian friends, like "Rita" sounds like "Hita". Maybe some day I'll learn Portuguese.

@Trump-a-Tron 3 жыл бұрын

@@LearnAcademicEnglish Accent needs professional assistance _right from the beginning for adults._ It is rare for someone to lose their accent.

@LearnAcademicEnglish 3 жыл бұрын

@@englishwithmiranda Yes, the r at beginning of words (and rr in middle of words) sounds like h in Portuguese. My husband's middle name Rodrigo is pronounced "Hodrigo." I like the Brazilian accent, too.

@brendon2462 3 жыл бұрын

I'm an American english speaker. So, when I first started listening to you. I assumed you were from America. How did you get so good at english. You speak just as good as any native speaker. Amazing

@nathanc7845 3 жыл бұрын

She moved to NY in her twenties. She is very talented and her verbosity level is out of this world. She is very dedicated. I don't have the same level of verbosity not even in my own language. I guess I have to read more.

@baharehgolpour5674 3 жыл бұрын

I thought so.

@DaNOliveiraDaN 3 жыл бұрын

Speaking like an American does not necessarily mean your English is good. Your English can be wonderful and still sound foreign. ;-)

@englishwithmiranda 3 жыл бұрын

@@DaNOliveiraDaN So true. I teach advanced English and sometimes I get native speakers in my class who don't know the grammar or punctuation rules, and an accent can be so charming and lovely.

@MohamedAhmed-iv7vf 3 жыл бұрын

I am learning English and I want to speak with anyone speak English fluently, please helpe to speak with anyone

@eneidamedeiros8139 3 жыл бұрын

I"d rather be myself. I don"t mind about my accent. I am Brazilian. What is important is to communicate properly

@GabbyWallaceOfficial 3 жыл бұрын

Cool topic! We are really proud of our new (non-native) English teacher Dianne on our KZfaq channel! More power to everyone who would like to communicate clearly in English!

@bournejason66 3 жыл бұрын

Well, Diane is literally no accent at all. She probably moved to the states when she was little. Hire someone who speaks like Jackie Chan or Salma Hayek as your teacher, then you can be truly proud of yourself.

@armandoruizdealegria7991 3 жыл бұрын

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@user-wk2jb3bu3s 3 жыл бұрын

@wilson alonso giraldo quitian she is agreat teacher .l love her alot

@sabupurushothamankochupara2860 3 жыл бұрын

Hai Gabby you are the star. Appreciate you for supporting another star. Hope one day I can see you in India. Welcome to India

@Pedro-ds3cq 3 жыл бұрын

@@bournejason66 👏👏

@corynicolas3175 2 жыл бұрын

You have freedom and don't seem to get stuck when speaking English. You also sound native so it's possible to have both. You worked very hard at losing your accent by doing what many have done (learning the nuances, different sounds, tone, rhythm, expressions, slang, grammar) and lived the language. You adopted the language. I'm sure you read aloud, recorded your voice, asked people to correct you, rehearsed and the many other things that many of us have done to sound native. I understand your point, but many of the two things go hand in hand. Someone who does the things I mentioned would also have read a lot, watched tons of movies, listened to music, lived with natives, experienced all types of things in the language and have done many, many things to fill in the gaps and learn what natives have learned (vocabulary, expressions, slang) and would very likely end up having a large vocabulary and possess the ability to express himself/herself well through that experience. The truth is, I feel the key is to have tons of intellectual curiosity and a passion for the language that leads you to do the work and adopt the language, live the language and persevere through the ups and downs. To be honest, a lot of people don't actually do certain necessary things to have an amazing command of a foreign language, much less focus on correcting their deficiencies related to pronunciation and the ability to sound natural. Having said that, languages and music are closely related and some people have a greater facility for them than others, but I truly believe that "Where there's a will, there's a way." I happily share my personal tips with others like you do, but I haven't seen them actually implement them to the degree I recommend. It requires a high level of obsession. Lol. I know you know what I'm talking about. I've seen your videos where you described being unhappy with your accent/way you spoke and that lead you to extreme measures. The ability to act (be an actor) and pick up on specific subtleties and nuances is also essential. Becoming part of the culture and developing other aspects of your personality are also important factors. The reason I like to speak like a native (accent, tone, rhythm, syntax, expressions, cultural knowledge, jokes, etcetera) is because it automatically brings you closer to other natives and they immediately feel a connection to you and bring you into their world. I think that's the point of "speaking like a native." It's having that shared experience. Not all native-speakers of a language have the same accent or practice the same culture, but there are many things that unite them. As someone who speaks Spanish fluently, I connect in that way with Spanish-speakers from all different Spanish-speaking countries. Jokes, expressions, anecdotes, cultural references, proverbs, double meanings, slang and the rest all help to create connections. This is an interesting topic and my belief is to strive to constantly improve in all aspects! Progression over perfection! Where there's a will, there's a way! ¡Querer es poder! Vouloir, c'est pouvoir!

@georgealexandris2693 Жыл бұрын

Well said! I strongly agree with you cause I am in that situation myself. I can express myself in English 100%, fluently, and with a good vocabulary (many times even better than native speakers). With that said, I still encounter many problems cause of my accent, especially when trying to connect with new people and job interviews. I feel that something is missing, and can't connect with them 100%, I can understand Hadar's point that accent shouldn't matter, but from my personal experience, it matters, and it would make my life a lot easier if I could sound like a native. So if I can get rid of my heavy accent, I will do it! As you said, it's not about English. It's about language and how you connect with the culture, which is a fantastic thing!

@yjh2374 Жыл бұрын

@@georgealexandris2693 Could you give me some advice on how to speak fluently? How can I find a way to practice?

@alinemello2739 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I've gotten this memo three years ago! lol While in Brazil, speaking English was a joy for me. Once I moved to the US and started going through all the feelings and biases that you mention in the video, I've internalized the message that I won't be good enough unless I speak and express myself like them and I've been on this plateau for years. It ends today, though! Thank you for doing the hard work, Hadar. Most people still don't get it but we have to start somewhere!

@jonatassouza3977 2 жыл бұрын

Past time already.

@miguelgonzalez-fn7nk 3 жыл бұрын

i"m a spanish speaking (Mexican) living in yuma arizona, just imagine how i feel dont speak english. to me it is hard to understan people from south middle east ( and all over usa)...a couple of months ago i found your videos and listened your stories and you have motivated me a lot to close the circle...so i dont care about to have an accent ( its kind of my signature) im a shy person in spanish or english..jajaja and this makes my journey harder...but i dont care, now i know where i am going...no pain no gain thats the way

@LearnAcademicEnglish 3 жыл бұрын

Keep practicing. It will get better with time :)

@picklerick9805 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a native englis speaker and dont understand english form some states i have to ask sometimes 3 or 4 times yanky vs southern speaking

@restlessheartonhold 3 жыл бұрын

There is no need to speak English in central TX. Spanish is preferred.

@luislima6244 3 жыл бұрын

Freedom of course! For me is more important to be fluently, clearly and confident than to be nervous and with a " Perfect" pronounce. Thanks Hadar for the opportunity to learn with you.

@jeffwest5244 2 жыл бұрын

This is a brilliant, brilliant analysis: a perfect blend of foreign language pedagogy, psychology, and … common sense! If I were learning English, I wouldn’t look further than this video for a teacher. Even before you had finished asking the first half of your initial survey question, you had me! I’ve never believed that achieving total fluency in a foreign language required losing one’s native accent. But, until now, I’ve never been aware that having such a goal could actually impede a language learner’s progress! Thank you so much for sharing your insights. I wish you great success!

@junwei8758 3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree! Fluency, freedom, and expression are far more important to me than speaking like a native. I also try to improve my pronunciation to be better understood. Thanks!

@yixiaoding4070 2 жыл бұрын

im a student a young man who have been chasing the outside approval for about two decades,i never looked inside me,i feel frustrated and broken everyday, i never get to know who i am and im like a wanderer a ghost that can be shaped by eveyone and eveywhere.thank you so much for the video ,it strengthened me to find myself and to live in the way i want.And u may have guessed ,im not a native speaker.Keep up with the excellent work you r doing,u are potentially affecting many other ones like me or from other area.

@michelgolabaigne595 2 жыл бұрын

Even if this problem is not new for me, your performances and what you transmit are so alluring and wise...! We want to be like you, independent and fluent! THANKS THANKS THANKS

@evelynlaitz 3 жыл бұрын

So proud of yourself when you introduced yourself as a speech coach! Go girl! I can't wait to watch your TED!

@samanthaabreu782 3 жыл бұрын

I think accents are so beautiful, we have so many ways to pronounce the same word.

@nayaradias7041 3 жыл бұрын

Since I watched this video I have been feeling so free and confident. 10x.

@itsher9143 3 жыл бұрын

@@nayaradias7041 😂

@nayaradias7041 3 жыл бұрын

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@ahidulalam7366 3 жыл бұрын

@andreasfarasoglou9882 2 жыл бұрын

I couldn't imagine a nonnative teacher like yourself that could reach that level having an in-depth knowledge teaching with such clarity and an artistic happy mood style that would make jealous a lot of natives! I, really appreciate it! I declare your fan.

@KristinGrady 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for covering this in detail and from a realistic point of view. You absolutely do not need to sound like a native. It's so much better to think like a native and get your thoughts and expressions out, even with an accent.

@alexandragulyaeva3268 3 жыл бұрын

Hadar, thank you for this video! It's literally made me cry. I'm constantly afraid of not be able to fit in. I'm Russian, so when people see me for the first time they assume that I'm white American. And I notice how change their face expression when they hear my accent. I have never had problem with communicating and making friends, so I'm trying to focus on positive thought that people like me because of my personality. Also becoming a minority made me more empathetic which is definitely a good thing.

@monarchsharma5313 3 жыл бұрын

Being Fluent is the key goal of my life , Accent can be secondary in my case . Hadar you are awesome you have both. In my dreams I speak like you

@liiwallenius6526 3 жыл бұрын

Hadar, I love the way you explain things. Having learned English yourself, you know what you're talking about. And you explain it so clearly.

@Sereno44 3 жыл бұрын

I want to speak like you... Become so fluid and fluent that I never thought in the first video I saw from you I never thought you were not a citizen of USA!!! When I was studying English the first time in an institute, I was told that after 13 years old nobody could speak as you do... I believed and never try to excel. You´re right at my 57 years old I just can improve it with your help and others. Additionally, you´ve attacked by mediocre people in the industry who are native, which cannot tolerate you are so dynamic and passionate, they cannot tolerate you. You´re superior in teaching.

@accentbuzz7462 3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate to this video. I've been there! I've always wanted to have that flawless accent. I've bought into the "speak like a native, or else your English won't be good enough"!! It took me a while to convince myself that I don't have to speak like a native, coz I do have a quasi-native accent but always felt I still need to be more fluent and expressive. Love you Hadar ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@emilyrodriguez3825 3 жыл бұрын

My number one goal is to feel confident with my english, for that I'd chose the option number 1

@TheEnglishator 2 жыл бұрын

I wanna practice my English....anybody? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gJ-misWAnJbQYmg.html

@user-cp4yp7ov7q 3 жыл бұрын

Thank You for the video! I have both of these fears because I think that sounding like a native brings me real happiness. You say unpopular things, but it's sincere and honest. Your videos help me become more conscious in learning English.

@alinakocharyan2552 2 жыл бұрын

We have a Russian friend , she lives in Armenia almost 50 years but she speaks with accent that's so sweet and we love when she speaks😇

@johnchou7488 3 жыл бұрын

I choose the second one. I want to share my experience in learning English. I think learning English is not as exhaustive as you might suggest. Before I went into university, my English wasn't good. But in university, when I have more free time, I spend most of my free time on English reading and listening. Of course, it's time-consuming but you can have fun out of it. For example, I read a lot of English News about my own country and watch many interesting KZfaq English video. After a year, I can fluently read NYTimes and can understand nearly every sentence in English on KZfaq. But in that year, I also have to deal with my academic, but I succeed because I have the determination and the will. Now I want to improve English Speaking. With the determination, the goal is always within the reach

@cristiancastellanosrojas6808 3 жыл бұрын

I would choose number one. You know, oftentimes I wanna speak exactly like a native, but I get frustrated and feel sad about it, so I tend to get demotivated. However, when I forget about speaking perfectly, I feel more fluent. I think it's because I'm a kind of a perfectionist. But then, I realize my accent sounds weird, so I get frustrated again, it's like a circle.

@DjHustlequeen45 3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone I'm too when I rap in english I feel get that but when I spoke English I felt my accents haven't got rid off but ,at the end of the days I focused on communicate instead,keep learning man

@cristiancastellanosrojas6808 3 жыл бұрын

@@DjHustlequeen45 Thank you, You're right. God bless you my friend.

@AlejandroLopez-mm1cr 3 жыл бұрын

I choose 1st option

@hangle-zc9uw 3 жыл бұрын

I’m in your shoe man! I live in the US for 7-8 years but still not fluent in English. I still have my accent which is frustrating. I work with people who are from the same country that I do, so it doesn’t help. I’m looking for people who’d like to speak English to practice everyday but can’t find one. So I record and talk to myself. Keep practicing! We can do it!

@cristiancastellanosrojas6808 3 жыл бұрын

@@hangle-zc9uw Thanks, bro. You know, I've realized that the more you talk, the better you get at it. Just try to go to a local place like a mall or something, and don't be shy, just talk to people. God bless you my friend and keep learning.

@Montsemagical 3 жыл бұрын

You are a few of those beautiful souls who are changing the world for the better. You have been the voice of the invicible ones, the ones who have been discriminated for being non native and not the "right color". The world is a better place with you in it. Huge hugs ❤ for you Hadar!

@fabsir2007 3 жыл бұрын

For a long, long long time I was convinced sounding like a native was crucial. That would make me stand out from the rest and I´d be praised and people would be interested in me. Until I found someone who had quite a strong accent however that person could speak just about everything without being misunderstood a single time. Nowadays, I am much more relaxed about it. I still catch myself mimicking but step by step I´m leaving it behind. Your video totally hit home. Thank you for taking the time to do it.

@nathanc7845 3 жыл бұрын

I felt fear of inadequacy before. I felt I didn't deserve what life was giving me.( even whe I earned that opportunity myself.) I worked really hard to get that opportunity to study university abroad but when i finally got it I felt I didn't deserve it. And that I was unworthy .... I abandoned that opportunity Paralyzed to pursue my dreams.. You described it perfectly... You sound like my therapist that I never had. I felt guilty for a while now I'm studying in my country but I hope I can do my masters abroad. Thanks for existing

@Isacris931 3 жыл бұрын

I loved this video Hadar! you understand how we feel when we want to improve English! Keep it up, girl!

@erichmx31 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Hadar, what you were saying is exactly how I am feeling. It's so comforting hearing the last few sentences of the video, 'I am good enough as I am'. Thank you again, I will remember this video forever.

@nathanc7845 3 жыл бұрын

Haddar you are that person I didn't know I needed in my life. Like me, You motivate many people. Thanks for existing.

@bartekgwizdz5832 3 жыл бұрын

I am absolutely in love with you Hadar. You helped me so much to overcome my fears and set up my goals properly. Everything you said in this video applies to other aspects of life. You are an amazing motivational speaker

@LucasSousaS205 3 жыл бұрын

I just want to be understandable. Deliver the message ❤️🇧🇷

@noemybagley9784 2 жыл бұрын

I wish I heard this 34 years ago when I first immigrated to USA. Now, I get it. Thank you so much Hadar.

@annashapovalova6202 3 жыл бұрын

Hadar, Thank you very much for your videos! They are really helpful not only for those, who study English, but for the teachers too. The main insight that I’ve got from your address is that teaching English (or any other foreign language) is essentially psychological process. If the teacher knows the way to make the student get rid of his fears and stereotypes, put the right goals and create motivation - it’s half the case to success!

@First1000Hours 3 жыл бұрын

Around two months ago, I posted a video called "I'm not trying to sound like a native Spanish speaker" right after I did my first ever public live stream of me speaking in Spanish. To me, what's more important is understanding what is said in Spanish like a native, which ultimately will help me with speaking. Also, to me, mistakes are opportunities to learn, and if I'm not making mistakes in Spanish, I probably am not challenging myself enough.

@sarafontecha3026 2 жыл бұрын

The native spanish speakers usually don't discriminate people to try to speak spanish, as a matter of fact we like support people in their learning process because we know spanish is a difficult language so we enjoy a lot talking with people who is learning and practicing our language, go ahead and congrats! 🥰

@hassannasir5743 3 жыл бұрын

I guess the second one works with me

@jamesmcinnis208 3 жыл бұрын

For me (not with me)

@criticofuerte 3 жыл бұрын

I love you Hadar, thanks. Nobody has told me ever what you have told me today through this video. You are saving my life !

@arianecarducci8289 3 жыл бұрын

I have already had this thought! When I just started learning English I used to say I would like to sound like a native, but in fact, I didn`t have the maturity enough to understand this meaning! Now, after years I have so clear in my mind the existence of prejudice but I have worked on my ego to know that clarity is extremely more important!

@hadar.shemesh 3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! It really is about ego and fear. So happy to hear that you had this transformation

@looklookenglish 2 жыл бұрын

Spot on!! This simply applies to all areas of our life. We live only once and don't have to waste our precious time being like someone who we are not. Being clear and expressive like Jack Ma (great example) is good enough unless you get utmost satisfaction out of sounding like a native that results in your life in an absolute positive way. :-)

@mariapaulina3965 2 жыл бұрын

I found this video so appropiate. It is a shame that still in this world, we have barriers for the way we sound, or the way we look. There are more important aspects to be focus on. As you said: freedom. Thanks for all your words.

@hadar.shemesh 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being here ❤️

@marisaazevedo3768 3 жыл бұрын

I am connected with the first option. I do want to keep on speaking a language with my way of expressing myself with the coherence of my idiom being able to feel and teach the things I've been taught ,respecting the feelings and way of living of others that I am trying to dive in (like English language) but not imitate them.. Thanks Hadar! You are a great and wonderful example for us!

@BOCETOMEDIA 3 жыл бұрын

Miss, you are a strong powerful woman and I am so empowered by the encouraging words you are giving to us. Thank you very much for the work you are doing. You are invaluable to all of us who appreciate your teachings. Much Success to you!

@henriquevieira9465 3 жыл бұрын

To everyone who's gonna read this : sorry for writing this much :-/ Last year I noticed that I had my Brazilian accent when I was speaking in English. I got obsessed with sounding like a native, and it was bad and good for two reasons : It was bad because I met an american group hanging around and I coudn't say anything to them when thay talked to me becuase I didn't want them to notice my accent (what a stupid reason, since they were in my country) that was terrible. But that obsession was also good, because I worked hard and changed my accent (even thow it doesn't sound 100% native) but people tell me that it sorta sounds native. Since then, I changed my mind. Now I want to express myself more than sound native, even thow I try to sound more native... But I know it's a tool that helps me to improve, and not the final goal.

@mariacebrecos303 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, Hadar. I'm Spanish and I know a Spànish girl who went to London at the age of seventeen. She lived there until now when she's forty. I suppose she had to take English lessons at first. She has worked there, and when she was thirty-five she decided to study Osteopathy. She went to college and finally, she finished her degree and she's currently working in her career. Of course, she speaks English fast, fluently, and without hesitation, and she has a thick Spanish accent. That didn't prevent her to get an academic degree, to successfully work, to have a British couple, and to form a family.

@betsamendoza6092 3 жыл бұрын

Its hard to lose your Spanish accent...Only if you break it down little by little throughtout all your life experience...but Still you there's gonna be traits of your Spanish even if you try hard not to Sound like it...Unless that you cut out with your native Spanish tongue for good ... Sounding like a native inglish has to a lot with goog pronunciatioms So we have to try to Pronounce Words properly then there's Just a gap between bothe your native Spanish accent & English native accent.... As munch americano You Sound the more your Spanish Will be affected by English influency...unless that you try hard to keep your native tongue pure & intact without having to get affected by other accemtes influency! Just my thought!

@nathanc7845 3 жыл бұрын

SKILLS > "perfect" Inglish If you have work skills is better always. Millions of usa high school drop-outs working at McDonalds. (Yes all jobs are respectful, but be realistic you will make more money as an engineer doctor or accountant. Etc) Language skills alone won't get you further. Millions at ghettos who can barely make money to pay rent.

@moli1218 3 жыл бұрын

I want to share your video to all my friends. That's exactly what I was thinking when I am learning English. As I grow up older, I understand and believe that It's very important to just be yourself.

@sufibren4885 3 жыл бұрын

Although I used to believe that I need to sound like a native but now I understand and know how important it is to express myself with fluency and have a rich vocabulary. No matter what I sound like. #1. 👍🏽

@Rina8344pm 3 жыл бұрын

One of the native speakers I used to work with when telling me about his colleague who managed to get rid of the accent said - Well, his pronunciation was perfect but he was so concentrated and was speaking so slowly trying to articulate each and every word properly it was painful to look at him... I think we should relax. Our accent is our your identity, our roots. Improving it is a good thing as long as this task doesn't turn into an obsession that keeps us away from people we want to communicate with or makes us lose some career opportunities because we feel awkward, stupid, not good enough, etc

@hadar.shemesh 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed 100% 🔥🔥🔥

@Trump-a-Tron 3 жыл бұрын

You will never know what career opportunities you have actually missed until you get rid of your accent.

@TheEnglishator 2 жыл бұрын

I wanna practice my English....anybody? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gJ-misWAnJbQYmg.html

@sajaltarofdar2484 3 жыл бұрын

I actually need both 😁 I want to be fluent and to sound like a native speaker. I don't know how, you have got a power to touch our hearts, you are awesome. Thank you for helping us😊 Lots of love from India.❤️

@tonyllon 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Hadar, for sharing such a great foundation to prime our mind for the right way to become fluent in English or any other topic in our lives: feeling like our true selves, feeling great in our own skin and enjoying Freedom. Great wisdom sheared from a person who has walked the same path most of us are experiencing right now.. Thanks for being yourself Hadar when you teach.

@learnimprove7905 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely right. In my case I'm always afraid about speaking up and expressing my tboughts. I feel like my mind gets Frozen, I can't find words and I feel that there is no assimilation about what I should say and what I'm saying. Now I start working on myself to be confident enough to speak freely. Thank you so much for your efforts

@juicystories6682 3 жыл бұрын

Great to see you in a live 🤗🤗✌️

@hadar.shemesh 3 жыл бұрын

Glad to be here ;)

@Tabscoob71 3 жыл бұрын

I was told when I was learning English that my accent is my identity as a bilingual person. When I internalized that idea I started losing the fear to communicate

@glinglin83 2 жыл бұрын

I have just found you on youtube. And when you talk we feel how passionate you are teaching english. Great job !!!!

@innad9285 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying that, the distinguishing of fluency, confidence, being clear and accent is something I never payed attention to...

@4hereyez 3 жыл бұрын

You're an exception Hadar, maybe's genetic. It's proven in psychology it's near impossible (not in your case though) for a non-native to develop a native accent after the age of say around 15. Some American lady commented here saying she thought you were a native speaker, adding "you speak just as good as any native speaker". I'd say you ARE a native speaker, and not "speak just as good"! Incredible!

@davidclark6749 3 жыл бұрын

You are not a Native speaker? No way!!! You sound 200% American. At what age did you come to the US and how old are you now, dear?

@dieubeniregopeti6910 2 жыл бұрын

To be honest you're a best english teacher with a method very simple. I'm french speaking in spite of I understand it very well.

@reinaldojosenoriega7605 3 жыл бұрын

Of course I choose the goal of get freedom and be myselft while speaking english instead look (wich is impossible) or sound like a native. By the way, I love be a brunette and beautiful latin man. It´s wonderful everything you share with your public to help us throw away all our mental barriers in the learning english process.Thank you Hadar. You inspire me.

@emilylo7688 3 жыл бұрын

I would choose both of them 😂

@-mohamedali1995 3 жыл бұрын

First ❤️

@maryanbiggs 3 жыл бұрын

I love this! Thank you so much for emphasizing that being a native speaker does not mean you are fluent. Definitely not! To be understood is what it's all about.

@FannyMLopez 3 жыл бұрын

I love how you Speak English I understand clearly all that you talk , Thanks for all your teaching you are an amazing teacher congrats bless you since Honduras

@mangohallucinates 3 жыл бұрын

what if you're white and disabled? what if you're black but managed to get into Harvard? hey maybe if everyone stopped pointing out other's races everywhere they go instead of judging their being by itself racism wouldn't be such a big problem.

@heidykatheryn8279 2 жыл бұрын

This is so true and you’re a great example of what a non- native speaker can achieve. I’m always looking for videos to improve my pronunciation and most KZfaqrs are native English speakers, however you are my favourite, I can understand easily each lesson and I trust you. 💙

@hadar.shemesh 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your words! ❤️ sending love

@thuhanguyenthi6410 Жыл бұрын

You are changing my mindset about speaking fluently in English and some aspect of life as well. First of all, you need to be just the way you are in all of the things you do. And until now I still try to overcome two crucial fears that being human is facing: 1. inadequacy (= you are not enough, you need to try more and more to make others satisfy) ==> in reality, I absolutely needn't do that 2. abandonment (=rejection): Fear of rejection, if you don't take action like them, you will alone ==> no need to do that, because you have your own idea and your own perspective.. You do not need acceptance from the other people for who you are. I really love the two things that you recommend in this EP. Love you 3000🥰🥰🥰

@darija5494 3 жыл бұрын

You seem that you would be a great actress, you know how to tell a story. By listening to you I have a feeling like I could continue for a whole day!

@karlavanessavenegas7198 3 жыл бұрын

As always said..... You are an excellent coach in every video You motivate me to practice and study a lot. Thanks Hadar. You are right we have to feel comfortable when speak in english and not only focus in get the accent like a native speaker, every people have a different accent the goal is comunicate your ideas with fluency and be yourself all the time.... Thanks again Hadar... Im Karla from Lima Perú but now I live in Canada.

@ale130673 2 жыл бұрын

I've just finished watching your video, and I could relate to many things you said. Of course I would choose number one. I see it clearer now. Thank you so much for bringing this to light.

@bouchragiraud1741 2 жыл бұрын

Hadar, I have seen your video recently And I’ve loved it. I’m 58 and I’ve been learning English for 2 years in order to travel because I’ll be retired. I’m not fluent and my accent sounds franch but it doesn’t mutter because when you communicate from your heart your are expressive even if you have a foreingh accent. Sorry for my written mistakes but I learn from my mistakes . God bless All of you

@dueavocato2663 2 жыл бұрын

Hadar, you remind me of something that happened to me more than 30 years ago, I was working for a petroleum company as a young newly graduated engineer and my supervisor was an English man, who laughed sometimes when I speak in his language, one day I told him not to laugh while I am speaking in my second language and I asked him can you speak my Arabic, he said no. I told him ok then I am better than you, as 2 languages are better than one, he blushed and said well you got me. Thanks, Hadar , everyone should be proud of his origins

@yardencantlay6798 3 жыл бұрын

I don't usually comment on youtube videos, but I watch them every day. But you, you are different. You opened my eyes a little bit today. Thanks.

@Userkvlnk Жыл бұрын

I had an advanced level of English, with mimum mistakes, already back in the day. I was friends with Americans and foreigners, with them treating me equally. Discussing most of the things with them. Mingling, blending in. Me saying American jokes. People commentimg on how good my English is. Being able to watch most of movies, read almost any normal book. I received access to something that was not available to me as a child and seemed like an absolutely different world, big barrier. This is such a treasure. Of course, when your level of English is close to a level of a native person, great understanding of a foreign culture - People behave more at ease with you. So I'm addicted to this drug.... But to have your English fluent, at least, it would take many hours of being immersed in it...

@lissandrafernandes2291 3 жыл бұрын

The 1st one for sure! I loved this video in so many levels. I can feel your truth and your kindness bringing this content!

@aidabajarcikaite7950 8 ай бұрын

Such inspiring video, I agree with everything you sad and my opinion is very similar to yours. I don't have a goal to get rit of my accent, I am not English and I never be and I even don't want, but YES I want to understand English language 100%and speak fluently so people can easily understand me. I want to read books in English because there is bigger choice, I want to read authors in original language.... I want so many things.... And thanks a lot Hadar! You are doing wonderful job, I appreciate that. Your approach is different, I think you are REAL TEACHER! Because real teachers goes deeper no matter what subject they teaching. You start with English language and ending teaching LIFE. I am sending you lots of Love, and success in your teaching ( business). ♥️♥️♥️

@alfredojosedasilvagoncalve3102 Жыл бұрын

Congratulations Hadar, I agree with you 100% !!!! My goal in english is to become clear and confident, and I think that our accent is important to show to the world who we are and where we from, and we have to be proud of.

@quiqueague 3 жыл бұрын

I like your videos very much. I would like to communicate my feelings and my thoughts freely. I know that I have an accent and I am proud of it. What I dream is to be able to have a voice in my field, and the best way is speaking in English, because I can reach more people. Thank you for being so clear, kind and generous.

@c10udd 3 жыл бұрын

Both can be achievable for sure. I wouldn't choose one of those because I'm a truly believer that if you put all the effort on those things you like/want you can achieve it. Always keeping forward and never give up

@bekayedoumbia2604 3 жыл бұрын

I choose the one because I always tried to speak English like I speak my native language, you are the best Hadar

@user-qd1kz9sp1k 3 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right. So thoughts can build unpassing barrier on learning foreign language

@thaolephuong6909 3 жыл бұрын

Your video is amazing. You tell everybody the truth about the fear of image and freedom. This applies not only to English language, but also in many aspects of our life. Thank you very much for your inspiring video

@kellyguo6555 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Number 1! I think having an accent is your identity and it is not a bad thing. I love my non-native friends' accent although I have been correcting mine.

@marinahartnett4007 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing, incredible, beautiful video!!! I’ll keep it as one of the most incredible messages I’ve ever heard for my life. I’m a Brazilian teaching English as a second language in the US! I’ll take this example to my students!!!

@mr.brazicano6891 2 жыл бұрын

What a incredible video! I was really proud of my English and I already had this same thought, but after that video, I’m feeling fantastic….

@vanessar.decentella8770 3 жыл бұрын

🤦‍♀️I wish I would've known this many,many years ago when I went to the USA to learn English...this information would've saved me a lot of heartache and insecurity. Thanks so much for sharing your insight!!!😊

@user-gn8yw8vt9e 2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏 Excellent! The most important thing is....who you are, what you think and what you do. A great learning in this video. You are a life coach driving motivation!! 🙏

@denizucer578 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my dear lady, I was not expecting such a deep discussion when I started your video to have some exercise. My all supports are with you on this sensitive topic.

@assayedvip 3 жыл бұрын

Used to be at 1, then when I moved towards 2 I lost part of myself or my fluency. Great lesson and great psychology lesson behind it

@RAJNIKANTGUPTA7 3 жыл бұрын

I think in this video you shared your true views and feeling from bottom of your heart. I can sense that

@placesntraces9602 3 жыл бұрын

A very logical approach towards native and non native...... Right approach when we r struggling despite lot of learning English but still not in a situation to speak fluent....

@ahbanetube3315 3 жыл бұрын

I get these thoughts from time to time. But this is the first time I'm taking it seriously thanks to you Hadar ❤️❤️❤️

@hadar.shemesh 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to hear that, and honored!

@ivomoreira42 3 жыл бұрын

Omg, now I have finished the video and wow, you are indeed a great, brilliant communicator. You should be a speaker, because you touched my heart with your speech. Again, I definitely choose one, feeling like my self. Thank you, Hadar, you're amazing!