Speak like your idols, become what you want: Elaine Eksvard at TEDxSSE

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Speak like your idols, become what you want: Elaine Eksvard at TEDxSSE

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Elaine Eksvärd is known as one of Sweden's top communication experts, but her journey there was challenging. Elaine discusses how certain people have doubted her talents through her career but she has used her words to prove herself, and explains how we can do the same to become the figures we strive to be.
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@acn7769 10 жыл бұрын

Elaine Eksvärd is from Sweden, her mother tounge is swedish and therefore her speeches works best in our language. She also works mostly with swedish costumers and mindsets. The swedish version of Elaine is a strong, confident woman who says what she thinks no matter what and who really can make people listen to her for hours. She is simply God damn awesome. That's why she is in television all the time. That's why her books sells like a final sale at the sweet-store. That's why her blog is so popular. So please can you just respect this amazing human being? She makes me proud of being a swede. Elaine, du är bäst. En dag måste jag få tacka dig för all power som du fyllt mitt liv med. Kärlek//C

@iestynovich 6 жыл бұрын

That's so useful. She's brilliant. Thank you for posting this.

@beenilsson7076 5 жыл бұрын

Åh. Så vackert skriven! Håller verkligen med dig om allt med Elaine. En fantastisk och otroligt mäktig och stark individ som jag verkligen beundrar och ser upp till! Du är bäst Elaine.

@LoniLovesLife 10 жыл бұрын

I love this talk and she is great!!! I think that she was giving many examples from her own experience. Most of us, when we speak, talk about our own experiences because that is what we know. In her case, she is a strong woman with many experiences to share; that is the only thing she did - she shared her experiences with us to learn from. Brava to Elaine - She was very precise, articulate and clear in her speech. Her confidence is admirable.

@rozhingh9345 9 жыл бұрын

she's absolutely right. I've seen this myself the people who talk really slow are more reliable than the ones that speak so fast. and it's a great way to first see your self in others perspective when you try to inspire them or get their attention. thank you for the great talk.

@riteshshukla1709 4 жыл бұрын

ROZHIN GH yeah , she is absolutely right . I was taking classes for first time and I remember I was being very fast when some students were questioning me . Later I observed my professor how he taught same thing , he was quite slow and I was thinking this is not a good way . But now watching this video and reading your comment I can see what was the real thing behind it . Thank you

@NagaVishnuKanthIrukulapati 6 жыл бұрын

Great suggestions: 1. Find out who is Martin Luther King in Your world 2. Don't be professional Robot. Be yourself (Personal leadership) 3. COPIA: if you want people to listen, you should study those who are listened to. What are they doing. Do I speak the way I do. Study but do it your way. Speaking slowly usually is good as it is seen as more trustworthy! *Jab and knock-out as an experience

@lovelight8190 8 жыл бұрын

This is truly a beautiful presentation. I am so glad that you have shared your gift of communication with the world.

@brians1902 4 жыл бұрын

I am an English speaker living in Sweden and speak Swedish too. So I listen to Elaine and she knows what she is talking about.

@leenah199 9 жыл бұрын

Great talk ,She's absolutely right, what astounded me is how she put what we feel into words and meanings. The information is highly disregarded although it's the essence of getting your ideas across to mass people.

@natliekla 10 жыл бұрын

its not enough time to see how brilliant Elaine is. i need more of her! it should have been 1 hour at least :D

@johannaaxling3991 10 жыл бұрын

I do not share Dexter Havens opinion that the whole speech was self centered or "an opportunity to preen your self publicly". I think Elaine made several valid point on how to get across to people when you have a large audience in front of you. Of course people will register/judge you based on your gender, age and professionalism. To think otherwise is quite naive. To define what she is and how she uses that to get peoples attention is a great key for other people to implement for their own use. Elaine's humor does however come across more clearly in Swedish but I still think that the message came across. She wasn't trying to be smug och "give her self self-praise" It was a goofy pause meant to recap the situation. And for Dexter Haven, I think you need to cut the rude tone to get your "constructive criticism" out there. Or just take a chill pill, geeeze.

@erstereihe.tvhighdefinitio1491 7 жыл бұрын

I am from Berlin, I believe it´s highly unlikely that a professor here would be surprised to have a female professional or speaker, especially with the name Elaine and 2 women employees for every male at the university. There is no remotely close male name to be confused with Elaine...

@Olasampson 9 жыл бұрын

lovely talk...lovely person

@ShantanuSharma 8 жыл бұрын

The only thing I got from this talk is to speak slow

@ronningolivia 10 жыл бұрын

Dexter Haven Just stop writing. Because your comments starts to get very anoying. Do you really thinks she's not good enough? Well, she's get to be on TED. Not you. That say more about you than her. You just that guy who writes comments. While she's is a very succsesfull business woman on her area. Have a nice say Mr Haven

@AnilKumar-ew7dt 9 жыл бұрын

Xxl

@ronningolivia 9 жыл бұрын

+Olivia Rönning Thank you Achraf I really appreciate your comment :)

@erstereihe.tvhighdefinitio1491 7 жыл бұрын

I am from Berlin, I believe it´s highly unlikely that a professor here would be surprised to have a female professional or speaker, especially with the name Elaine. There is no remotely close male name to be confused with Elaine...

@PlateLive 10 жыл бұрын

awesome talk !!! a lot of needed information :)

@brians1902 4 жыл бұрын

I learned all this from Chris Voss. But I like to listen to Elaine in Swedish.

@issahaleem746 10 жыл бұрын

amazing! extraordinary pitch.

@josefsalih08 8 жыл бұрын

Bravo!

@wheelerdealer2105 6 жыл бұрын

Great. And being a beauty gives you a running start. My compliments to your parents.

@brians1902 4 жыл бұрын

How to remember all these great techniques? Well like training a muscle with practice otherwise in the heat of the moment repeat your counterpart .... the last words or say OK ... What should we do? Or How shall we solve this?

@GaiaHereward 10 жыл бұрын

Found useful* Thanks : )

@BikeBlazer 8 жыл бұрын

see it from 5:30. It's good after :)

@arifali6762 2 жыл бұрын

So she’s saying she is smart. Good.

@brians1902 4 жыл бұрын

Speaking slowly with a falling tone at the end.

@MrDivad006 9 жыл бұрын

I would expect more from a person who´s field of study is communication, the jokes were kind of poorly presented and her body language is confusing, maybe my expectations are too high, who knows.

@pedroluz1233 8 жыл бұрын

I felt the same way. She stumbled w/ her words more often than not and more than once she repeated herself. But, then again, maybe it's because of our expectations. Overall, great concept.

@stephenross2305 8 жыл бұрын

I don't think your expectations were too high. The introductory text below the video introduces her as one of Swedens top communication experts. Anyone can present themselves or be presented as an expert. The proof of the pudding is, as they say, in the eating. She looks the part and sounds good but lacks substance often being unclear and ambiguous. Elaine is Swedish, english is unlikely to be her first language so taking this into account, I would consider Elaine to be a skilled linguist and assertive speaker but a poor on-stage communicator, in english at any rate. Here is my objective evidence with timestamps. 0:09 'Hi, my name is Elaine Eksvard and I'm a woman, some people notice that' - A condesending and patronising start, she is very obviously a woman. If it was meant to be funny the audience missed it. 0:20 'I had a seminar in Berlin for about two years ago' - Ambiguous sentence we must infer what she means 0:28 'they didn't know I was a woman' - Her name is Elaine, It is generally considered to be a female name. She's making me suspisious, I'm wondering why she is making such an issue about being female? It's more likely the man was surprised she was young and appeared to lack experience. 1:09 'I told him something that would find me more trustworthy in his eyes' - Poor sentence structure. I'm begining to understand her clients surprise that she was going to teach him about high quality communication. I don't believe it had anything to do with her gender. Thats what she tells herself as an excuse. 1:16 'Last year I had a seminar with Mr. Tony Blair and he told me the exact same thing. You're a woman and your giving a seminar to me, or with me? I'm so glad the future is here' - This is pure rhetoric and also confusing. The delay in the audience applause testifies to this. Resulting more, I'd suggest, from her looking particularly pleased with herself than because she had made a strong point. Blair is pleased for reasons of gender equality rather than her merits as a communicator. By name dropping she attempts to gain respect by assocciation. This will impress some people who don't understand this manipulation, it has the opposite effect on me. 1:42 'But the funny thing is I made him want to listen to me' - it's not really funny though is it and I don't beleive her, the choice of words unfortunate, I'm not sure she really understands what she is communicating. Making people do what you want is called manipulation. Engaging people because of what you say and how you say it is called inspiration. I have come to the conclusion that I only want to listen to her to see how bad this can get. 1:47 'I teach people the art of WANTING PEOPLE TO LISTEN TO YOU' that's esentially the truth there, she wants people to listen to her. Most people don't pay enough attention to the detail to realise she is communicating badly. She should be teaching the art of communicating well. I'm pretty sure she didn't mean this but in saying it it proves my point. All this in her first 2 minutes!! She appears to understand the theory and does demonstrate pacing well but blows it with stupid generalised statements like 'I don't think politicians are good communicators at all'. Yet minutes earlier she'd used Tony Blair to gain communicator credibility points. She consistently fails to communicate what she really intends to say by using words incorrectly, people are left to infer her correct meaning using empathy which is dangerous in parliment, business or a court of law. Learn from her at your peril, she needs a lot more experience. An expert engages and inspires their audience, is unambiguous and clear and they don't contradict and undermine themselves. Above all a great communicator is convincing, not only to the uninformed but to their peers. I'm an award winning writer, perfomer and poet laureate, I feel qualified to comment and I found myself questioning her reasoning, logic and meaning. I am more inclinded to suspect she has an emotional chip on her shoulder relating to men. It may have something to do with the kids thinking she looked like a boy at school. In time I'm sure she will improve but she did not communicate particularly well here. More practice is needed.

@danielmansson3841 6 жыл бұрын

Stephen Ross I have no quarell with you, I’d just like you to answer me this: did you make up your mind to want to understand Elaine or did you do everything you could to deliberately not wanting to understand her?

@andersonalejandroalbacubil4066 9 жыл бұрын

where´s she from?

@danielmansson3841 6 жыл бұрын

anderson alejandro alba cubillos Sweden, I’m also Swedish btw.

@safardebon9720 9 жыл бұрын

To me, you come across as a marketing professional robot lacking humility and sincerity, the hallmarks of what makes someone trustworthy. Cheap clap-traps and self -proclaimed greatness become irritating. I liked the concept of the jab, but I left this with a feeling that I have just watched someone who is saying : Hey world, watch, I'm here - and isn't this great. It's just too embarassing

@safardebon9720 9 жыл бұрын

+Achraf Zineddine But how can I open my mind if don't understand the message this women is sharing, assuming that she has something of substance to share. By the way, are you a clairvoyant who can tell what I am like, without meeting me

@brians1902 4 жыл бұрын

What politicians are you training because they are not listening to you. Jessie the body Ventura running for governor answered a question with 'I don't know' ... and his counterparts gave longwinded answers no one remembers. He got elected.

@Aprinsa 9 жыл бұрын

The jab? Hmm. I don't know.... I don't really want to play the men's games.

@jennyek3341 7 жыл бұрын

sok

@gregorydowney5410 5 жыл бұрын

she obviously has gender gap hang ups. all of the gender gap issues she speaks of died out more than 2 decades ago. sometimes people need to perpetuate victimhood to feel like they have something that places them in an identity group.

@londonerk118 7 жыл бұрын

This woman is clueless! She is like a teenager and does not say anything of substance.

@danielmansson3841 6 жыл бұрын

Londoner k Okay then, if she really is as clueless as you claim, I’d like you to present something that is of substance on the same matter and motivate your thinking.

@DexterHaven 10 жыл бұрын

13:02 "I think I did." It's not about you, gosh. You made this speech into an opportunity to preen yourself publicly. Very off-putting. You dwell on your gender, age, and how you think you are good at rhetoric, etc. It is not really a lecture, but a chance to give yourself thinly veiled self-praise, as some sort of hero fighting the odds. It is creepy and narcissistic and self-obsessed. And you do not look that good, young, or speak so well. You have a slushy, irritating voice, actually. No gravitas. TEDx is really going downhill.

@danielmansson3841 6 жыл бұрын

No offence, but if the speech was really that bad, I’d like to see you go up on the stage and do an even better speech.