“Grief is brokenness. You are gonna be broken in ways you’ve never been before”

I never really knew what greif felt like.... till my husband passed 2 months ago ,he was 37 ,felt like we had our whole life's ahead .... feels so unbearable at times 💔

A hug or just listening is kindness 💗 and it helps to be listened to.

"There are some days where I remember my brother and it hurts, and I cry, and I cry because I love him" 💜❤️

A beautiful and moving program. I did notice that all but one of the loved ones who died were mostly young and some middle-aged persons. Their deaths were unexpected, sudden, untimely. I am sure the challenges faced by their survivors were overwhelming and the losses were indeed tragic. I wonder why this otherwise superb program totally ignored the more or less timely death of old people. Their loss is experienced as piercingly as the one depicted by younger survivors. I speak from experience. I lost my husband, the love of my life, after 42 years together. His death at age 89 was definitely not a tragedy, but I miss him every day, and the process of grief I went through was painful and long. Five years after his death, I feel that I have grown. There is little recognition in our culture that growth continues until we die. It is an ageist assumption that "normal" death at a "normal" age does not cause great pain and feelings of loss, and yes, may bring about growth in the old partner left behind. Please do not view my comments as criticism but as an afterthought to your beautiful program.

I grief so many dear ones from my husband to my dad and my mom who died 3 years ago in 3 days. The grief attacks come all at once some days, this week I've cried more than not crying. I hate when people say don't cry, it's OK, she's not suffering anymore, she's gone to s better place. When I hear this I just want to yell shut up it's NOT OK, how do you know where she went. My husband's was a lengthy illness, dad's was sudden as was mom's. I've also lost many friends from covid-19. My advice to people if you don't know what to say shut ip up and hug me.

My Mami died 4 years ago. At 43 years of age she was my EVERYTHING and now, after her death I am having to find my own identity...For example; I was eating spaghetti soon after she passed away and I was like, "I hate spaghetti, why do I eat it!" Then I started crying because I eat it because she loved spaghetti and I loved her so much that I would eat spaghetti, lol, I am crying now. Because I had to let go of that too.

I lost my husband 6 months ago to covid. Still cant believe that it actually happened.....that my perfectly healthy, happy and young husband is no more with us. What will I tell...how will I explain to our daughters...who are just 2 yrs old?? That they have to begin their lives by this enormous loss...??

Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. Please pray!🙏 Sending love and light from my heart to yours.❤🙌🌈💜

To Everyone who is going through this awful pain I send you all my love and hugs...this is the worse pain I have ever felt...my grief is very recent...crying and feeling so scared is awful and the longing is so hard...please be easy with yourselves, thats what I am doing..so many do not understand...its hard going it alone, but I have not gotten real comfort from the few who have said anything...they don't understand anyway...grieve at Your pace, in Your way you do not have to be any way that is not right for you....

This is powerful, authentic and comforting. I lost my husband over 2 years ago. 50 years ago I lost infant twin boys-one still born and one to SIDS. I wish people would stop expecting me to “be over it”. Yes, I’m not painfully wailing, but I cry almost every day.

This is truly the closest description of grief I’ve seen since I was began this uninvited journey. Absolutely on point! 😭😭

My Dad died in 2016, my Mom in 2017, my Son in 2019 (suicide), and then my Dog in 2021. Sometimes, out of nowhere, I just start weeping in my car as I'm driving. My parents were 89, and 93 respectively, but my son was 33. My was the worst. I cant look at pictures of him, and have been forced to push him away, and close my heart. Most of the time I feel ok now, but when it hits, I'm lost...for a moment, like a child lost in a grocery store. Then I pull myself together, and it passes, and I'm good. Until next time.

Thank you. I lost my beautiful husband in June. I miss him terribly. Grief has taken me.

I have just lost my husband of 60 years marriage...I am completely lost...I believe the person should be left to grieve in peace whichever way they choose with no pressure from other people...just give support and understanding...

So many truths. Thank you for this. Grief does come in many forms, but the death of a child, sibling, spouse and parent of a young child/children is uniquely devastating and I so appreciate the explanation of our pain.

Being in grief feels like a reality blur. This movie has some beautiful and thoughtful expressions of love, care and concern. Grief can also go beyond losing people through death and can include divorce/relationship losses, property losses, biz/job losses, and the loss of parts of "normal" life...like many are experiencing during a pandemic.

Great video , I lost my Son Jan 5 2021. Death of Love Ones has surrounded me since Childhood. After the 1st year of my Son Death i thought it was going to be more Manageable. I was totally wrong. I'm having a harder time now than I ever did. Grief of a child is tuff and Complicated. And yes sometimes I feel I'm loosing my Mind . Thank you

I lost my son to a senseless shooting 7/3/2022. It’s not been a full 4 months and I’ve actually had “friends” ask why I’m still struggling. Regarding this video, Nate’s fathers remarks really parallel my feelings; I love talking about my Kyle, and if I cry when doing so. It’s healing. The sadness will never leave me, but talking about him is wonderful! Talking with his friends is so helpful. Hearing stories I’m not a part of is wonderful. Kyle was 36. He was murdered my a complete stranger shooting into a crowd. My son was killed instantly. He has a son, Ashton that is 6 years old today. He asked about a sweet little thing he and Kyle did (unique to their relationship) last night, and he woke this morning to the Beatles Birthday song. My son loved the Beatles. I’m so grateful his young son loves the Beatles too. Grieving is so overwhelming. It hits me so unexpectedly. I know the holidays will be especially difficult. God bless all those suffering after losing someone you love. We are all members of a club we never wanted to join.

Just lost my brother and this just showed up so I am taking it as a sign from him

My mom showed me this, and I have been sobbing since the first second. I just lost my dad October 5th 2021 and I miss him more then anything, but this has brought some closure that I needed. So thank you for everyone for being so brave, the pain won’t go away but I hope for everyone that you can speak your pain.

My beautiful kind selfless mother passed away yesterday (March 11, 2022) and I cannot express the depths of my sorrow, sadness and the emptiness I feel. She was the most wonderful person I’ve ever known. She was the source of all joy, the rock and the life of our family. I really cannot see how I can recover when we had hope and she seemed like she was going to make it. I just wish I had one more week, one more month and one more year with her. I pray pray pray I get to see her again.

Lost my mom a year ago and it still hurts so much but this documentary has given me some insight and has been helpful. Just one day at a time.

Amputated is exactly how this feels.😭I lost my only son on 5/28/18. He was 27.

Excellent documentary! Thank you. My dad died of COVID on January 17, 2021. My parents live/lived with me so I have my own grief and I am actively watching my mom grieve the loss of her husband.

I built my house by the sea. Not on the sands, mind you; not on the shifting sand. And I built it of rock. A strong house by a strong sea. And we got well acquainted, the sea and I. Good neighbors. Not that we spoke much. We met in silences. Respectful, keeping our distance, but looking our thoughts across the fence of sand. Always, the fence of sand our barrier, always, the sand between. And then one day, -and I still don’t know how it happened - the sea came. Without warning. Without welcome, even Not sudden and swift, but a shifting across the sand like wine, less like the flow of water than the flow of blood. Slow, but coming. Slow, but flowing like an open wound. And I thought of flight and I thought of drowning and I thought of death. And while I thought the sea crept higher, till it reached my door. And I knew, then, there was neither flight, nor death, nor drowning. That when the sea comes calling, you stop being neighbors, Well acquainted, friendly-at-a-distance neighbors, And you give your house for a coral castle, And you learn to breathe underwater. - Breathing Under Water (Sr. Carol Bialock, RSCJ)

I think that those who are suffering grief feel the need to be around people who share their grief… but not everyone shares your grief or for as long as you do 😢 Sending much heartfelt love and healing to everyone else who is still grieving 🙏🏼❤️

Very grateful to the amazing and courageous people who made this film possible, I'm walking this path with you too, as we all are really.

An excellent exploration of an extremely difficult issue. I can't believe that somebody gave this a "thumbs down." Had to be a troll. What to say continues to be a great challenge for many people including me. A complicating factor might be that Death is not the frequent visitor it once was in the age prior to antibiotics, i.e., up through the early 1940s. In other words, that era wasn't so long ago. People coped by wearing a simple black arm band to alert others that they had suffered a death in their family within the past six months or year. I think there was more of a commonality of grief because everybody had losses from family, friends, neighbors, classmates, work colleagues, and so on. Today, COVID notwithstanding, people can live the majority of their lives without ever once experiencing the death of a loved one. Not experiencing that first feeling of grief until later in life can be devastating in itself.

This is such a needed resource, especially at this time where we are all, all over the world, experiencing so much tragedy and loss. The saying "The only way out, is to go through it..." rings true, but going through it together instead of alone makes all the difference. ♡

*Greifing is important... so important to feel your feelings..*

Thank you for helping me get in touch with my grief,.

Thanks, I lost my son two weeks back, life is so hard, unexplainable

This is so well done, great job WPSU in normalizing grief. As well as in showing us how to support those who grieve. Applause!

WOW. One of the most riveting documentaries I've watched . The narratives are stark and raw and deeply humbling .

It's good to say what you need to say if you can before a person departs.

Amazing documentary honestly, this is sooo good to start a conversation

I just lost my mon on the 8th of October. My heart is numb, I'm numb! I just don't know how to get through this! My pain is real and she was my best friend, we talked everyday. This feeling is so overwhelming I just can't explain it! My sisters and I will say our goodbyes to our mother on the, 22nd this Saturday. Yes I will join a group to deal with my feelings.

This is a wonderful documentary! Thank you so much. Keep up the great work

Thank you I needed this for understanding what’s the come within the next few months mothers body is weakening I’m just trying to be prepared and pass it on to the rest of my family you’re lucky to have her for 82 years of her lifeBut I think she’s giving up he was a hospital and said she wanna go home with home care tonight she’ll be at home in her own bed🙏🏼

"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight"- Khalib Gibran

This was very helpful to watch....thank you.

Thank you. I just lost my son for almost 4 weeks I'm dying inside. I'm so sad knowing I can't hug him anymore. I felt I want to die so I can be with him.

Excellent and very powerfully helpful. Thank you so much 💕🌈

Well done and spot on. Thanks to all those involved in the making of this documentary. Really ministers to my soul. 💜 I have been sending this link to many family and friends. ✔️🙏🏻

This was a very touching film that I may have to watch again !

I’ve fought grief all my life. Lord willing, I’ll be 63 this July. God is my strength 🙌🏼

This documentary touched on so many things that go into loss, death, and the aftermath. I lost my father seventeen years ago, and really have been feeling his loss a lot more lately, which has brought me too this documentary this late night. 😔💫🥀 Along with other loved ones including my grandmother, four adopted aunts back to back in the year of 2018. And two friends I feel like lately also a mentor from foster care, and a mother who abandoned me. I just can’t go on, along with the raging pandemic it’s isolation, it just feels too much. 💔😰🎄 Doesn’t even feel like the holidays anymore sigh, I just want to disappear forever the way I feel lately. #GriefHurts #WhyMe 😢😭😢

The life of grief,you hold your own mind and start saying to yourself, you are doing well,Sylvia,I am so proud of you,

thank you so much for this documentary. having watched this raises so much of my cosciousness on empathy and how to support for the pain of people around me. bless up. < 3

People don't know what to say because they're embarrassed or they talk about their own losses and pain to not talk about you're personal loss and grief .That happens alot I think like it's a competition my grief is so much worse than yours, people can't feel you're 💔 😔 brokenness really

Beautiful docu ❤ thank you

Thank you for this brilliant and comforting video. I lost my daughter, Carly, to an embolism. She is a twin. This helped me to understand how I can help her twin, Annie.

Someone said in 50 years we'll all be gone together ❤️ It's true a new chapter of new generations.

I have tried to get my family members to watch this video but they won't it's to hurtful for them!!😔

"A lot of people say kids are resilient, and they can make it through anything." Correct. They don't fall over dead on the floor in front of you. That doesn't mean they don't grieve. Same with adults that are grieving. People see them continuing to walk around alive and they say, "Whew! that was a close one! Good thing the person made it through and is okay." 🙄 The person, adult or child, is devastated and their world is shattered and will never be the same. You can't see it just by looking at them. Because it's on the inside.

Hello! Would someone who could speak to the issue please contact me about being allowed to show this lovely documentary to medical students? I work at a medical school and feel this would be a really important documentary for them to see. I have tried a few avenues to get in touch with someone but haven't had any luck yet. Thank you very much.

In 2008,my last time with my mum,my Pauline,I could afford to get back to England,it was Avery special time in my life,my special time with,Terry's children, especially ,Sarah and Tanya,they were another Pauline and Sylvia,as I felt their emotion, between each other,it for me,was a,Pauline and Sylvia lives on

Excellent

So basically, my grandpa is in hospital and there is a high chance that he might die. I’m not as affected by this because I don’t really have a connection to him as I’ve moved to England quite a long time ago and I just don’t stay in contact. But I’m really worried about my dad, since it’s his dad, afterall. And I just want to know what I can do to support him because I’m just so worried and I feel utterly useless. Does anyone have any advice?

Why does this only have 48 views?

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Do you guys have Portuguese captions?

Grief doesn't just visit us, it moves in with us, yet it refuses to pay its share of rent.

RALEIGH NC

There are 3 kinds of people 1st group of people will be there for you to listen to you. They will be beneficial for you. 2nd group of people will tell you how to mourn and will give you bad advice. This will not be good for you. 3rd group of people will leave and ignore you after the funeral. They will not care.

It is laudable that people make room for grieving in the chambers of their hearts. Would New Yok Life Insurance sponsor a film that depicts grieving victims of proxi wars where US soldiers invade, kill AND die? Would the NY Life Insurance sponsor the filming of Yemeni families who have lost Thousands of young children, because Saudi Arabian military is grinding Yemen into the dust, with US equipment? What of families who grieve the living death of a family member incarcerated, perhaps innocently? Would NY Life express empathy to adults whose children ran from home, took their own lives, were killed in school or comitted crimes? Loss of Love for Life is reason to grieve. It does not end when persecution has officially ended. Grief is the healing agent toward celebrating Life (again) - aided by 'wailing women', or even by 'clowning fools' in certain societies. Grief humbles and resurrects. I question the motive and integrity of NY Life Insurance. to sponsor this film. Are corporations the 'soul shepherds" of the New Age?

me as a sibing

Henry Rollins??

A son has died

Beautiful and disappointing. A lot resonated with me, but there was absolutely zero mention of the relationship of grief to addiction. It’s sad that you put so much work and care into exploring our cultural and personal relationships to grief and loss but conveniently avoid some of the very real maladaptive outcomes to grief. Your omission of addiction lacked compassion for such an empathetic documentary. I think it’s a taboo you weren’t comfortable to explore, despite its cultural relevance to loss. Including it in your film would have given some context and understanding to a common, poorly understood and stigmatized phenomenon, not to mention that you would validate the significance of the challenge and the social cost of grief and isolation. It was likely a difficult decision to make in a film where you wanted to validate and normalize the complexity, confusion, pain and suffering of loss. I'm grateful for your work, but I feel there was a missed opportunity for our collective knowledge and growth. Addiction is a huge secondary challenge that one day we will need to have a serious compassionate cultural discussion to heal ourselves socially, individually and culturally. People suffering with addiction all have a story. Judging by your film, we are not ready as a culture to tell that story and so many will continue to suffer in silence.