*People always say “protect your daughters” but don’t say “teach your children to respect everyone.”*

"Trust your gut" My gut: Ayo- we should get some snacks.

When u get in an Uber don’t ask”are u my Uber”ask “Who are you picking up?”

She literally gives elder sister vibes I love her sm for this 💗

My big one - everyone who arrives together leaves together. Don't let your girl stay behind at a party or club

Also, don't be afraid to look weird. If you're alone at night and you think someone is following you, the best thing to do is act wild. Spin in circles, giggle at nothing, sing loudly, yell gibberish. You're no longer attractive to them if they think you've lost it. If it's a situation where you're alone, then the only ones who will see you are potential creeps, and your safety is more important than a moment of embarrassment.

I've got one that I shared with my daughter: Do not go to a party by yourself where they are drinking alcohol. Always have one or more friends, and no one should be left at the party by herself -- especially if she is drunk. . . . When I was in high school decades ago, a girl that I knew of -- she was in my Econ class -- passed out at a party where she was taken advantage of by five boys. . . . She was never the same in all the time I knew her. She went from a happy, vivacious girl to sad, sullen, and depressed -- every day.

I always remind myself to yell “fire” because more people are likely to run over and help. I also always walk with my keys between my knucles, even if I’m feeling like it’s a safe neighborhood. Bad guys can wander into a good neighborhood.

As a man teenager, this is one of the saddest things ever. I try to always offer to friends (which most are girls) if they need a walk or ride home or something

My personal tips from traveling alone as a woman: 1) to not be oblivious to your surroundings by listening to loud music with your headphones. Especially if there are a whole bunch of bushes in the area. I’ve heard stories locally of women getting snagged for that unfortunately and it was a very public park. 2) Also, always know that the thumb is the weakest part of the hand. If he grabs you by the wrist just pull against it. No matter how beefy the guy is he can’t hold onto that. You may have to twist around and be creative but he’ll either lose his grip or break his own thumb if you do it right. It was one of the first things my instructor taught me in Taekwondo. 3) if you know you are being followed just walk into the nearest establishment. Does not matter the type of office/store/restaurant. Just mention the situation and anyone would understand. 4) never look lost even when you are. 5) don’t acknowledge them if they are harassing you or look them in the eye. 6) keep your pimp hand strong. Don’t be afraid to go knuckles out. Always go for the family jewels, eyes, or their respiratory system if you have to fight back. Basically anything that slows them down. 7) because I see this a lot. Do not tuck your thumb into your hand when you punch. You will break your thumb. 8) last but not least. Always be vague with giving out personal details. Don’t mention you are alone and don’t mention where you are staying at.

*people are like “protect your daughters!” When it should be like “teach your son manners!”*

tip for ubers: if youre waiting for an uber and you think someone is claiming to be your driver, *DO NOT* ask "are you my uber" if they are trying do to something bad to you, they will say yes. instead say "who are you waiting for?" stay safe everyone

It’s kinda sad that girls need this, few years back I was walking back from a lecture and it was dark and raining, I was in a rush to get back so I walked quickly past a girl, who I was walking behind, girl genuinely looked terrified, really kinda made me think about some of the stuff women go through

I went to university in a fairly safe suburban neighborhood and I still occasionally had girls ask me to walk them home at night. The first time this happened I was like, "Sure, I guess, but this is a pretty chill neighborhood." To which the response from every girl in earshot was, "You're a guy, you wouldn't understand"

Girls walking alone tend to look down or pretend to be on their phone to avoid eye contact. Don't do that! Lift your head up! Look around, make eye contact with if you have to, it's better to know EXACTLY what is happening in your immediate vicinity than to try and be as unobtrusive as possible

I had such a scary experience the other day... I went into a small phone repair store with my mom because she had dropped her phone and she had to get her screen replaced, while we were waiting in the store, I caught one of the employees first taking pictures of my face, and then of my body, at first I didn't want to say anything because I didn't know what would happen if I did, but I decided to tell my mom, she then asked the guy if he was taking pictures of me and asked to see his phone, but he deleted everything before he let her check... But even though he deleted everything, we still contacted the police and child protective services, the guy got fired, and they will be deporting him next week (he flew over from India and he lives here illegally, because he hasn't signed any papers or anything) please be careful out there and don't be afraid to use your voice❤️

Didn’t realize how scary it must be to be a woman sometimes. I am a large man and I walk fast. One time I was walking at night at my usual fast pace and there was a woman ahead of me who kept looking back and then just booked it. it took me a minute to realize she probably thought I was a predator. A) this is depressing that this is the vibe I put out. And B) made me realize how scary it must be to be a woman alone at night. I bought my girlfriend some pepper spray. Situational awareness is key also and If you are on a date or something tell people where you will be and with who And always trust your gut if something feels off.

Thank you for these! Im in my second year of middle school, (last year was virtual) and am supposed to walk to school now, I’ve been looking for safety tips just in case!

As a male who was raped as a kid while walking home from school twice, I feel as though you should make it clear that this isn’t something that just girls should worry about. This is a problem that everyone can experience, not just girls.

What I do 😭 1: Self defense 2: Self Defense is all I Need

No, ladies. Don’t tell them it’s your boyfriends apartment. Tell them it’s your Fathers apartment. Trust me, from my experience they want to ‘meet the boyfriend’, but if they think it’s your Dad, they’ll run a mile. Doesn’t matter if you don’t have a father, just say whatever you can to get these creeps away from you!

*i love this comment section so much, I'm learning a lot from you guys and its so wholesome to see people helping each other out!*

My mom won’t let me have self defense weapons or be aggressive she tells me just to ignore it

I will literally *never* go out alone at night. My friend's mum once suggested to me that I walk home since my house was just around the corner.. it was 9pm and pitch black outside, my phone was dead. I had to convince these parents (that I barely ever interact with) and argue over it to get them to call my dad to pick me up

I love how the comment section is filled with extra tips like thankyou so much ladies you're literally saving a life rn!!!!

My mom was so scared for my safety that she put me in karate since I was 5 and now I'm a black belt so my friends literally always tell me that they feel safer when I'm with all of them

I live in a area with a high crime rate my house has been broken in to twice I always keep my blinds closed and my windows locked at night. I have a night light that has an alarm and a hidden camera in it. Be safe 💓

I wish they had a feature on the Uber app where you could request a female driver. I feel like that would makes me a lot more relaxed to be in an Uber with a women driver.

As a guy, here are two: Don’t think that because you took a lesson of some self-defense class or watched a KZfaq tutorial that you’ll somehow be able to miraculously defeat some dude who is attacking you. The last thing you need is the delusion that you can take a fight or adequately defend yourself when you actually can’t. If possible, try not to keep your personal defense item (whistle, spray, firearm, etc) in your purse. If someone snatches your purse, you don’t have access to your defense item, and even worse, they now have access to it instead. Stay safe.

For the boyfriend's apartment thing, I'd actually recommend saying it's your Dad's place. Someone will more likely be intimidated by your father than your boyfriend. As far as everything else, I absolutely agree!!! Stay safe ladies! ☺️💕

“Where are you going?” “My dads house.”

Controversial: 1. Carry a weapon (e.g. mace, pepper spray, knife, gun if allowed). 2. I know it can be used against you, but that's why #2 is regularly train with your weapon(s). For example, gun handling and safety classes.

The fact that young girls need to hear this makes me very sad.

For anyone who might get attacked: If you're not strong enough or feel like you can't escape, aim for the attacker's eyes or nose. It'll blind them for a while or as y'all know how bad it hurts when you even slightly get hit on the nose, letting you escape. I was taught this by my cousin who learns martial arts.

as a 14 year old girl, i was followed with two of my friends who were also 14. this guy was probably in his 50s. he turned around after we got on my high school campus, and idek why he was there in the first place. people are so fucking creepy

it's such a sad thing that people can't even go out at night without the fear that something or someone will harm them. i genuinely hope that the people who did experience such terrifying acts are safe and okay

As a girl who lives in a pretty bad part of town, I also have a tip that has saved me countless of times at night: street lamps are your closest friends. Sometimes, you might be a bit scared to check behind your back. Don't worry about it. If you still need to check, look at the shadows. If you see any shadow other than yours, enter any type of store. Some staff might be willing to help you. Look specifically for other women. Another thing that helps with this situation, but during the day, is sunglasses. If you feel like you're being followed, pretend to wipe/clean your sunglasses and then lift them up. In the reflection, you can see if you're being followed. If someone is behind you, they'll think you're just checking to see if the smudge came off.

Fun fact, not only for young girls! As a boy (who loves to wear feminine clothing) these safety tips have saved me many times (◕‿◕)♡

I would say definitely follow these, but I usually feel safest with my older brother or my best guy friend. They’re always around and I know they will walk with me when needed

Also- if a girl (or guy) walks up to you and starts talking like they know you, play along! They might be in danger!

I also have one, never say “is this my Uber” instead say “who are you waiting for?” Trust me

when i have kids when i’m older, no matter their gender, i WILL teach them to respect everybody and give help whenever needed.

Thank you this helps cus my neighborhood can be a bit dangerous because lately I’ve seen fake school buses

Thank you for these, I’m 13 and I have had some traumatizing experiences

the way she talks to us makes me think she’s my older cousin/sister/mom or smthn- it’s so sweet 🥺💕

Thank you for telling us this. I use these things so many times now the 123 check I use literally every time I’m out. And this just helps so much.

Amazing tips and it’s astonishing how much you can make a difference! ❤ but it’s sad that we need these tips just to walk down the street 😢 but it’s great to have girls like you who are helping 😊

Her: Ubers are more safe than walking home alone! Killer Uber driver: well yes but actually no

As a girl I feel extremely sad and terrified that in modern day society we need safety tips like these just to be safe from creeps amd strangers and it's so unfair...:(

spencer has honestly given me so much confidence in my self its amazing

Even as a man I do many of these things. I am constantly aware of my surroundings and always ready to defend myself. People are jerks. Do everything in your power to be prepared for the worst.

One key thing that is always served me well. No matter where you are, no matter if you're lost always, ALWAYS look like you know exactly where you're going. Don't look like a victim that can be preyed upon.

The best one I have from personal experience: make yourself be more trouble than you are worth. Fight, kick, bite. Whatever you do, fight back. Often times they are looking for an easy grab. Fighting back will likely save your life even if you don’t actually do that much damage

“Protect your daughters” no, teach your sons

I mean for most of these they are just good tips for anyone… doesn’t matter who you are, you should still be safe

Another tip to add to the list: The ears are very fragile! Since they're made of cartilage and thin bones, if you are forced into a struggle, grab your attacker's ear and DROP YOUR WHOLE BODY TO THE GROUND as hard as you can. This can easily tear the ear from the head.

With the “boyfriend’s apartment” one, I’ve used that multiple times and many times the driver or whoever has straight up told me “well if we kiss/hook up before you get there he’ll never know”, that’s when I get out at the next stop sign or light.

it’s so sad we actually fucking need these to survive

tysm for ur advise I didn’t know all these things again tysm!

She is going to be such a good mom 😭✋🏻❤️ Ty for the likes!!

Here’s a tip: if anyone grabs your or anything press ur finger hard on their neck, they wouldn’t be able to breath that much and it would also hurt them/cause pain.

* Me looking around in the house when it’s dark *

I really wanna take self defence classes cause I dont feel safe walking at might but my mom is just saying I'm crazy for being scared and tells me just to wear something "safe"

More tips: •Being oblivious to your surroundings can get you into a dangerous situation. Don't be on your phone 24/7 in a public place! •If you believe that someone is following you, watching you, or is just making you genuinely uncomfortable, don't be afraid to act psychotic. Chances are, if you start acting crazy, they'll probably not want anything to do with you. •If you're in a new setting (such as visiting a different state alone for the first time, or traveling alone, or just staying somewhere such as a hotel alone), if someone asks "is it just you visiting", "are you new here", or any question related to being new or alone to an area, say no. Say your friends/family are meeting you there, and that you're not new to the area. What seems like small talk could lead to something terrible. •If you're on a first date with someone that's making you a bit uncomfortable, but you have to se the bathroom and don't want to leave your drink unattended, don't be afraid to ask a waiter, waitress, or even a bartender to watch your drink.

my dads safety advice for me and my sister was "go for the knees and once they're down make sure they stay there" lmao

That made me cry because I wish I knew some of those tips a long time ago to protect myself better. Thank you for sharing those tips with us! Safety is very important!

Your honesty like a big sister like giving advice to strangers on the Internet yes 🙌

Spencer's like a big sister that gives tips to get you ready for life❤️

When she said “where is your phone” I looked around for it the remembered it was in my hand 😭

I had such a scary experience first yr in collage (I just got out of high school) Me and my friends had a joke, whenever this guy would message me on snap or literally SPAM my friends or people I know for my NUMBER, we would say “oh look stalkers calling” or “don’t respond that’s stalkers number” in yr12 it was just a he ha joke but when he changed collages just to be near me it wasn’t a joke. I would call my friends out of fear saying “Help I’m going to my apartment and stalker is following, what do I do??”. One time on a date that dude threw a PLATE at my dates head (missed thankfully) and started screaming and grabbed my wrist telling me to “come with him” and “I’ll protect you!” Luckily some guys helped me get away. Thankfully after a while he left me alone and I filed a restraining order. But I’m always scared if he will come back or if he has moved on to stalking someone else… I moved my apartment several times because of him so I’m just glad I don’t have to see him everyday..

Me who’s scared of being kidnapped by an Uber driver: ok

I’m an 11 year old girl that walks home and I’m so grateful that there’s good people in the world like her💖

Here is a tip from a 15 year old when i have to walk 20 mins to reach home at night: -Try to walk pass ANY SHOP you can find, try to stay in the light and not in dark areas. Street lights are your friend, but not as much as lights from shops. - Walk with confidence. Do NOT show that you are scared or anxious, it shows. -If someone touches you on the shoulder, especially in public, shout at them show your anger, that will get people's attention. - If they try and call you, ignore, simple ignore them. Never look back. - If you feel like you are being stalked, enter the nearest building you can find. It DOESNOT matter what it is, just enter, tell someone about it, call someone, preferably family members. -Always keep your phone on you.

"Boyfriends apartment" once saved my life.

why i love this channel

I was planning to go out tommorow in a cosplay, knowing that there are alot of dudes that are.."into cosplay" this really helped me thanks!

I'm a guy and I follow these too lol. I never bring anyone to my home until I get to know them. My personal protection is a gun, but I was in the Army for 10 years and know how to handle and use it. Always avoid dark areas at night, have access to a phone and the number 1 thing for me is always always always be aware of whats going on around you. With the walking thing I would say don't be walking alone late at night, especially in an area you aren't familiar with. Great video.

"Protect your daughters!?" NO "Teach your sons!!!" People need to respect everyone ❤

I can just smell that one man being like”YoU dOnT nEeD aLl ThAt” when yes I do it makes me feel safe and I need it

My neighborhood has a lot of creepy people and here’s a few things I learned over the years; 1) Walk confidently. Even when you have no idea where you’re going, walk like you do until you find a safe place (preferably a store) and then check your phone for guidance. This helped me navigate in cities while traveling alone 2) Try to carry something that could be used as a weapon in an emergency: an umbrella, keys, even a full water bottle will do. 3) In case you’re driving, keep the car lights off until the doors are locked and your car is ignited 4) even if you’re in a hurry, if you have to choose between a longer but safer way, and a shorter but more dangerous path, always choose the safest option

also: try to learn how to do one good front kick / weak spots to hit someone in case of emergency. Diaphragm is right under ribcage, and that can knock the wind out of someone really easily.

No cap one of your other vids abt personal safety helped me when someone guys started catcalling me and yelling out to me u r a legend

So off topic but you’re so pretty ❤❤😊😊

Here’s some of mine. 1. Make a necklace with a whistle on it. That way it’s easily accessible, and guys can’t see it from the back. 2. Wear strong shoes. Doc Marten boots/shoes are my personal favorite. You can run, but since they are also steel toed, if a man tries to grab you just kick him in the balls, it will hurt. 3. If it’s a sunny day, or you’re just able to see your shadow, look at it. Others shadows will come up to, and you can potentially see if someone is behind you or running up to you so if you don’t know them you have somewhat of a head start. 4. If possible, join the band. Like seriously. And get a trombone. These things are big, potential weapon cases, weigh you down so you’re harder to carry, plus you’re in a band and it’s fun to play. 5. If the unfortunate thing happens, and you know you’re about to get kidnapped, call 911. If you cannot talk, hide your phone anywhere possible no matter what. This will ping your local cell towers, making it easy to locate you.

It's awful that girls need to hear this and need to know how to protect themselves because they should be safe but unfortunately there are bad people who don't agree with that so It's great that we have people like her who can help them know what to do/ how to avoid certain situations.

Thank you for these tips. These might prove useful in the future.

Girl keep doing your videos and keep lovin’ your self

As a trans guy it really helped me. It shouldn't be "protect girls" it should be "teach children to respect 👏EV👏ERY👏ONE👏"

If someone tries to abduct you don’t be afraid to fight back, act crazy, scream it will attract peoples attention. Also use your elbow it’s the strongest part of your body.

The older sister i never knew i needed

I was taking my dog for a walk on my own around 3-4pm in a old train tunnel which is now a public walk and there were not any people other than some people at the other side on the tunnel and I just got really bad vides from them bc they were there for a while(this tunnel takes around 25 min to walk through)and I was 10 mins in to walking the tunnel and I ended up turning around bc I was quite scared (im a pre teen if ur wondering)

“Wether that is a whistle or pepper spray” Me: *grabs both of my knives* what about this

I think your other tips are good but one has a bit of a flaw. Even though it can be dangerous to walk home alone at night, it can still be dangerous to get in a Uber, with a person you don’t know, alone. They could be a kidnapper or murderer even if they also might just be a normal Uber driver

Thank u for that cause I’m only still a kid about to be in middle school and I need some tips to make sure I will be fine so once again ty

Thank you sm! These are very good tips that anyone including me can follow. Ily!

Another good one to use if someone’s asking where your going or following you just say your going to see your dad who just recently got out of 5 years in jail! Or a simple one is a family reunion no one wants to try something when your entire family is there and we all have at least a few crazy aunts or uncles!

Actual safety tips for any girls that feel they need them. Act assertive and a little aggressive. If they grab you headbutt the nose, stomp toes or hit the balls. All are high pain inducing causing them to let go. If you act scared, you look like prey. Remember you don’t need to be scared if you’re the toughest chick you can be.

Honestly these tips are life saving but at the same time it’s so sad to think that on earth we actually need them to survive☹️

i dont have any older siblings, Spencer u are literally the older sister i never had ilysmm💗

I once went grocery shopping at night. Parking lot was empty except myself and another van that was parked far but when I finished my shopping and came outside, I saw the van next to my car on the driver's side. As I walked towards my car, I quickly got in my car through the passenger's side, locked all the doors right away. I climbed into the drivers side and looked to my left where the van was parked and saw two men in the van looking at me. Then I put my keys in the ignition and then drove away. I live in the States in a fairly low key suburb and those two men probably thought I was really strange for entering my car through the wrong door, but it's okay because I'll never see them again and I'm safe.