One great way to stop overthinking is to remember that even if the worst-case scenario happens, you’ll probably be OK.

I am an overthinker to the point of mental exhaustion. I am extremely intuitive and it can be hell..literal hell at times

As an over thinker I have come to realize that my mind wants to over contemplate things. I have found that all my decisions must first go to God. It seems to work for me.

I signed my job away six months after losing my son with teenage cancer. 13 years ago and i still replay that decision that i see as wrong! I am addicted. X

Holy. Crap. In over forty years NOBODY has ever articulated or understood how my mind and emotions work like you just did. For decades I have analyzed every thought, word, and action of mine and everyone else’s on a minute by minute basis. I’ve finally been in a process of healing, growth, and discovery for a year or more, so I guess I was ready to stumble on this video. Thank you!

Shalom if you pray every day every night and every moment you feel low obsessive or fearful and anxious. The all higher God with bless you with peace and grace.

I am an artist. Good to know my creativity is the reason I am this way . I feel like I have to overthink every decision but I am also great at detail and decorating and just being creative in general

YES!!! I overthink ALLLLL decisions in my life and I am always anxious! Then, I can't make a decision until someone tells me what to do! It is so FRUSTRATING!

I wish I heard this video a year ago. I was struggling a lot with these obssessive thoughts :( It was exhausting, I became anxious and paralyzed. I could not understand so many things and kept pondering and going in circles in my head. I've gotten better since then but am thankful for videos like this to help me understand myself more and what I can do to help myself.

I catch myself overthinking so much, it’s crazy and exhausting, my overthinking has caused problems in my relationships, and I catch myself in the act of it but my mind just keeps running and running and it’s so draining.

I'm so thankful to find videos like this on KZfaq.

My anixety makes me over think and it sucks.

It’s so good to hear this , I’m a people pleaser and I make outrageous effort to make everyone happy , I shouldn’t be that bothered If I’ve made an effort , you’re right you need to establish what is enough and stay in the moment

You’re amazing! Thank you for taking the time to do these videos. Xoxox

I love the part that you said it's ok to talk to yourself lol. I find myself wanting to do that because it's a good way to get my feelings out but then I will kind of judge myself and say to myself ok this is not normal stop talking to yourself. Lol. So thank you for that comment it just gave me freedom .

All your videos are so helpful. Thank you so much!

Definitely needed this! Thank you for this great video ☺️

Thankyou Stephany this was so helpful!

Thank you for this life changing information!

great talk lovely Stephanie! thank you!

Your videos are so incredible. They are so timely! I cannot thank you enough.

So many gold nuggets of wisdom being shared in your videos! These are issues that have been plaguing me for years and I now feel I can tackle them, in a tangible way, moment to moment. Can't thank you enough!

this channel is a Godsend!

Wow. This video is gold👌 thank you!

Thank you very much. This is exactly my story.

Omg! This sounds like me ! Thank you for sharing your thoughts ,expierences.

Hey Stephanie! Love your videos! Thank you so much for all that you do!!

This video came right on time. Thank you for producing such helping content.

Most over-thinkers are people who are highly intelligent. They have a set of goals and values and they want their lives to be lived according to them, mistake-free so to speak (although deep inside they know there are always mistakes and nobody's perfect, not even them). They're perfectionists who want the comfort of knowing everything's going according to plan. It's not being selfish or patronizing others, it's creating scenarios in your head and trying to play by these rules you've created to know you won't fall deep into uncertainty. I know this about myself, and when there are surprises in life they're triggering my feelings of being at risk or not being able to know what's going on, which is very frightening. I believe it has something to do with instability during childhood and not being able to protect myself from constant changes. It has evolved into the urge, or not even the urge but the need, to always live my life the best way I can and know I'm smart enough to control it. I don't want surprises to control me. I don't think it's a bad sign, but I do know how hard it is and I just need to balance it so I don't get overwhelmed. So my tactic now is to always keep in mind that things might not go according to plan, and sort of recreate a plan B just in case. And even if it doesn't work accordingly, it's ok to feel bad, I've learnt to learn from such experiences.

Steph you’re a wonderful creature, I am so grateful that I found your channel

So enlightening. Thank you for caring. You've set me on the right path.

you've changed my life, thank you so much.

Omg!!! This is SO me! Thank you so much for this!!

Love, Love, LOVE your advice. One of my biggest issues with myself that I really need to conquer is my obsessive thinking. Thank you 😌

THANK YOU STEPH!

Wow, I absolutely love this video. Thank you so much.

Thank you for this video. OMG, I was tripping out over a small issue and now I feel better. ☺️ Thank you!

This is sooooooo me. Im not a pleaser but i have soon many creative ideas coupled with responsibilities. And I’m debilitated and stressed! This video is right on time

Hello 👋🏻 Stephanie! I am a new subscriber and a dedicated “binge watcher” lol...and I really appreciate all your videos!! I am a major over thinker and in the last 2 months I fell into a terrible place, within myself. I feel now...like this is what I HAD to experience to be able to finally change my perspective and manage and cope with my constant thoughts and years of emotional 😭 abuse, with some physical. I NEED YOU TO KNOW... that you have helped me soooo much! I have always been self assured, self confident and outgoing, until over the past 10 years or so...all the emotional turmoil that I was covering up with “survival” and staying busy just so I didn’t have to “face” the pain...finally all came crashing down on me over this 2 month timespan. I knew in my soul I would make it through...but have NEVER experienced something so horrific (not even from the abuse). I am on the climb back upwards and to find you, was meant to be for me. We are similar minded and I’ve always thought I could take on anything...I was close to giving up. I am feeling more and more relief in time and realizing patience is key 🔑 😃. I appreciate you taking the time out of your life to help all of us cope with the stressful struggles and learn such great techniques to put it all in its place! You ARE AMAZING!! Thank you 🙏🏻 soooo much! And you’re stunningly gorgeous as well 😍. Thank you for helping all of us who desperately need all your wisdom, experience and insight! Namaste 🙏🏻.

Oh my gosh. This IS my life!!! I'm in tears right now because I've had a couple people that I loved very much leave me telling me I'm controlling but never understanding how that could be because my intentions are so good and there's no duplicity or power in me. Also, for the last year I've been thinking that something about me seems similar to that of an addict but I'm not "addicted" to anything per se. I even asked my sister who is a recovering addict but I keep getting no where with trying to figure this out. So far everything you speak on is so sound and hitting the nail on the head for me. THANK YOU THANK YOU. thank you for being kind and measured about all these hard topics and even about the people who hurt other people. I'd love help recovering

Your videos convict me of things I do. They are honestly very good videos, and I thank you for them. Such obvious remedies, yet I needed to hear them.

Stephanie you've just saved my life You're the best coach l've ever seen i do really relate to every word you've said & those tips were exactly what i needed ❤

You hit the nail on the head. I just came across your videos. Please keep making them. I have been struggling the past few years. Since my dad died his passing brought up a lot of old old stuff that I never took care of because I didn’t know about my own programming. Things are making more sense I think my actual process is going to take years because my programming is so messed up. You video’s are great thank you sharing your knowledge with everyone.

Oh man, she’s spot on. That’s me.

Thanks for the advice Stephanie Lyn I'm the biggest over thinker I just think ,then depression sets in think so so much been like this all my life

Love your practical advice 💗 TY for being you and all that you do 👍

Thank you for your video - you literally described me. Whenever I try to be creative or do a creative project -> overthink -> end up confused and doing nothing. Thank you once again for sharing your tips, really helpful ✨💙

Thank you so much Stephanie. This video was very helpful. I do this to myself all the time. From now on I will be patient with myself and use your advice to work on me. 😊

Yes I totally agree that our over thinking is a way to help us control things in our life and make things go the way we want them to go. And it can often help us do well but sometimes can overwhelm and make us anxious. We have to find a balance. Great video!

I think it's amazing how you so on point with everything you saying is so true

This is amazing, I thought I was alone and then see all these comments. I also overthink, a lot. Dealing with a narcissistic ex, we lost our son a cpl of months ago which brought us together. He started flirting with me, then remembered he has a girlfriend. After calling to check on him, he all of a sudden he lashed out at me, talking bout the past, his opinion of me, trying to engage me in an argument, taunting me to the point of tears. It appears that he enjoyed it. He pulled me into this and now pushing me away like he hates me, hurts like hell, I didn't deserve it. Thank you Stephanie, the videos help me to look at things differently.

Great Video! Thank you so much,I always feel like your directly talking to me. God Bless You

You are so incredibly gifted at how you share this knowledge in such a digestible way. I appreciate your time and effort you put into each video!

Wow, Stephanie. This is easily my favorite of your videos. You described me almost to a scary degree. Your second theory on addiction makes so much sense and explains a lot of my prior/current behaviors. I am quite intrigued to give your hand washing/in the present moment tip a try. Your prior videos helped me leave an abusive marriage, emotionally process and deal with it, and see myself as the awesome person I know I am, but forgot I was for a while. Keep doing what you're doing.

Thank you for your insight.

Such a perfect video. I'm an over thinker. It's been a struggle my whole life. The washing the hands thing hit home... I brush my teeth. It calms me down. I need to work on things that trigger me. Thank you. I love your videos.

I do like that shirt of yours. I've seen it in quite a few videos now. Happy making content! I like seeing the diffrent kinds of clothes you wear. You always come across as very natural. I try to imagine how clients feel when they're in your company

Great video and tips! Super helpful and logical. Especially love your advice about how to deal with anxiety.... Distracting yourself with doing something in the moment and talking yourself through it; especially since we're constantly talking in our head anyway might as well take control with in the moment thoughts rather than thinking that drains our energy. Will def apply this with myself!

I am an overthinker and it makes me feel depressed and distressed at times. I want everything to go well and when things don't go as planned I feel insecure and disappointment. Overthinking can result in negative thinking and uncomfortable feelings. I have been uncomfortable and have feelings of insecurity. I had to keep working on the negativity of overtinking and being afraid of judgemental and unacceptance behaviors of other people. This stems from childhood because we all want to be accepted and loved by our parents, teachers, peers and others. Self-love and self-respect are the basis and foundation of our mental well-being and positive self-image. This is a process and will take years to overcome this negative emotion and a lack of personal self-development.

This was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

My friend sent me this video because recently I’ve been in a rut and it’s due to my anxiety about my career. This video made me realize that recently I noticed that I tend to overthink my next decisions because I’m scared of the “what comes next” or being judged and because of this, I end up stuck in that thought and not continue with my day as productively as I could have. You’ve given great insight and tools to help with these issues that all seem to be linked with overthinking. The “things to remember“ and tips resonated with me and I can’t wait to incorporate them into my daily routine. Thank you!

This is yet another incredible analysis by Stephanie Lyn who is really an amazing philosopher of how we think. She records on a library of subjects. Why people are over thinkers is because of a desire to control outcomes based on fear, the kind of fear we felt as children. Ms. Lyn is always so deep, what a great communicator. I agree that on such a subconscious level some people are addicted to overthinking, it is like the addiction to gambling, it works through operant condition. Lyn encourages you to identify obsessive thoughts, to self-parent yourself through avoiding choices based on fear. I highly endorse Ms. Lyn's words, she improves this world one awesome video at a time! Thank you for elevating everyone's self-awareness! -James, Seattle

Thank you Stephany for giving advice 🙏

All the time Stephani talks, I have feelings that she stalk my life and mainly my personalitie and then just report :D she is speaking to my inner child with so laser perfection like no therapist ever before. Thank you Stephani so much for what you doing...you don't even know that your videos came to me when I needed most and only thanks to them (and my awareness) I probably save many years of miserable life.

Oh Stephanie, I wish I could give you a hug. Your videos are helping me so so much. I have a big life change happening in the next week and I'm gaining so much calm & strength from what you are teaching here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Right on, Stephanie....thank you...

Im seriously thankful for your channel... i found it at the perfect time and i feel like your in the room talking only to me... your helping me remember how strong i am and i love you for that🤗❤ my therapist hasn't talked to me like this

It's called decision fatigue, it's very real, thank you for all you do Stephanie!❤️

You have 'resetted' my mind through this video. I really feel better now. Great video! Thank you, Stephanie! ❤

Thank you for all your words. I’m at a point in life right now at 31 that your worlds are helping me out so much every day❤

that is so true Stephanie... it's the need to control and yes, it is an addiction. I woke up today very early and had to get up at 6 in the morning, because my thoughts were juts too overwhelming... They started coming like at 4 AM, and finally I had to get up, because I just couldn't stand this obsessing thinking. I started my computer and opened youtube and your video popped up about what I was experiencing that early morning. All what you're saying here is true. The need to control is also about fear of making wrong decision, because you don't want to make mistakes anymore. I've committed many mistakes in the past, and now before making any major decision I tend to overthink and analyze every little detail, because I am afraid I will make a mistake and it will cost me a lot.

Thank you. I will parent myself and be kind to myself. I also remind myself to embrace my dark side- I accept myself completely with unconditional love including all the imperfections. I love the idea of doing some thing in the moment to stay present like you suggested thank you Stephanie.

Thanks so much for this.. I need to here that message n I will definitely add to the repeat list so it gets engraved in my being.. I get ridiculed at the shop for being the one that talks to myself, I say " well I don't answer myself so you guys have nothing to worry about" to end it without any issues.. but I knew it was something I could use as a tool to better myself again thanks a million

Thank you. You are wonderful.

I am major over thinker. Everyone tells me that. It keeps me awake at night. Great video. I needed it.

I so needed this. I am downloading it so I can listen to it as I’m going to sleep. I think it will help me a lot. Thank you 💗

Once again, a video I needed to see from you. I have been having severe anxiety and panic attacks for weeks, and it has got to the point where I can’t sleep and function at work. I have pain in my whole upper body, my chest feels tight and my heart beats too fast - all the time. I am about to fall apart. Thinking about my unsecure future, all my interactions with people, everything I say and do, the fact that I need so much attention and love from others in order to be happy about myself. I am going to use your advice right now, tonight. Thank you.

Seriously you are the best coach!!

Wowwwww, this is truly your gift!! I just subscribed today, and I have been listening to many of your videos and thinking, "I should pay her for this free therapy!!" Thank you so much! I resonate 1000%!!😀

I love this issue thank you for all the tips! I have found that making art is where I can healthy obsess. And this is one of those issues I feel like I didn't know anyone else had oh, I know that's kind of naive but I can definitely be a worrier... but my art can take my negative obsessing. Also in art the terms it is to "over work" something when you've gone too far. So art helps me be able to work a project and know when to stop. Thanks for you channel!!!

Thank u so much for this video. This was so helpful. I wish I found u sooner but this will definitely help me moving forward. I am the overthinker. I think so much it becomes hard to make any decision and it leaves me feeling exhausted.

Thank you for your videos Stephanie they are very helpful

So helpful. Thank u for that technique. 💗

Thank you so much. I’ve been really struggling with understanding my narcissistic partner and what she has been doing and why the horrible things she has done happened to me. I’ve been religiously watching your videos and they seem to be the only things that hold me together. God bless you.

Thanks Stephanie!

Great video this makes me feel more human. I’m an over thinker because of fear of social anxiety and it’s hell trying to approach women I like.

The way you can help and even a small way. Thank you

My counsellor is helping me with this. This is really helpful. Thank you

This video was so helpful and so insightful! I knew I was always wanting a solution and problem solving but not to the extent I do this esp on certain situations. I also know I'm a people pleaser to the point where I think of everyone else before I think about myself. I need to intentionally work on that as well. I have been intentional on not over thinking today. Accepting I won't get answers in a certain situation and I have to provide my own closure and not obsessing about it and it helps for sure! I started therapy back up and that helps so much too! We talk a lot about acceptance, what we can control, our part in things, and boundaries at work which helps too as that reminder. Thank you for this video!

Absolutely great advise. So many times, in these days, people overthink for many reasons; especially that they don't want to offend others, or maybe because they have so much compassion for others, their brains, temporarily overload with thought. The genuine compassion for others can sometimes get sidetracked by the chemical interactions (not always wanted) in the brain. That's when folks need to regroup their emotions and refocus the purpose of humanity and what love means.

Thank you so so much, Stephanie. I am an overthinker. This has led me into my present situation where I can't even think about what is good for me... Thank you so so much for these TIPs. Your videos have given me a clear view of a situation in which I am... A few of my questions have got answered also. I am looking forward to seeing more of your videos cause I am sure it will lead me to be a better parent of myself.

Thank you for this all this information, I am that over thinker, people pleaser, Codependent . Right now I’m learning to self reflect and work on self love . I always put others before myself and learned I am exhausted and forget about me. I let go of the abusive Narcissist and now seeking ways to help me get mentally healthy again.. so I will take these tools and start making time for myself..

Stephanie... I mentioned to a friend that I find strength and clarity watching your videos. Decisions are constant and you can’t please everyone. Overthinking is sometimes inevitable, but I do take short breaks. Thank you for helping me create a different version of myself.

Thank you Stephanie you are on point and right on time. Thank you! Edit: I keep rewinding this video because my anxiety is is at an all time high the way you broke this down eases my anxiety tremendously

Great job with this video

Oh. Wow. I'm 56 and this hit me like a ton of bricks, a truth bomb. I have been dealing with all this all my adult life, and my muscle (as you describe it) is getting much stronger, but it's still a daily thing. So glad I found you; it was great to get some validation. Thank you for this video.

Interesting talk Stéphanie, thank you for sharing and presenting that overthinking is related to a need of controlling the situation or event & that it’s a habit (automatic and acquired behaviour), we have from our past experiences in life. Thanks for the tips to help change this, where we need to be aware and practice a regular « checking and changing how we react » on controlling and our habits related to this and to grow and better our selfs! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Stephanie, this was such a helpful video thank you. I really suffer from over thinking especially with dating and it drives me crazy! I am in such fear of making a mistake that it affects me meeting people. I will definitely try your mindfulness techniques.

This is so me. I totallly agree. I have lived this life forever. That is why people took advance me. My coworkers tell me this. I am so much stronger for what my parents did not have to teach me. Men who are narcs will not effect me anymore.

I am one who tends to overthink things. I do that in almost everything I do. Thanks for the insight.