Why You Should Stop Asking Your Friends 'How Are You?'
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3 ай бұрынStop asking your sad friends how they are doing and just be their friend.
If you have a friend going through a tough time and don't know how to talk to them, this video is for you. Each person is different and there is never a guide on what to say or what not to say because at the end of the day you need to just be there.
My name is Joey Kidney and I love to do two things, share advice I have learned over the years to help and I love to cook. So I figured why not do both.
Pasta E Ceci
INGREDIENTS
- 4 tbs olive oil
- 1 onion (chopped)
- 1 carrot (chopped)
- 1 clove garlic (minced)
- 1 sprig rosemary
- 1 tsp salt
- 1 can Italian seasoned diced tomatoes
- 2 cups vegetable broth
- 1 can chickpeas (undrained)
- 1 bay leaf
- 1/8" red pepper flakes
- 1 cup uncooked pasta
- Basil
1. Heat 3 tablespoons oil in large saucepan over medium-high heat. Add onion and carrot; cook 10 minutes or until vegetables are softened, stirring occasionally.
2. Add garlic, rosemary and 1 teaspoon salt; cook and stir 1 minute. Stir in tomatoes, broth, chickpeas, with liquid bay leaf and red pepper flakes. Transfer 1 cup mixture to food processor or blender; process until smooth. Return mixture to pot; bring to boil.
3. Stir in pasta. Reduce heat to medium; cook 12-15 minutes or until pasta is tender. Remove and discard rosemary and bay leaf. Taste and season with additional salt and pepper.
4. Garnish with basil and cheese.
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@Suburban_Fishing 3 ай бұрын
Hey man thanks for everything. I’m a freshman and love you vids. My gf just broke up with me and i cried on my floor for 30 min after watching you how to get over you ex video. It’s something i would have never heard because i’m not very close with my parents and you saved my life. I’m slowly recovering and thank you for doing what you do.❤
@user-dn2zh2su2u 3 ай бұрын
I absolutely love this style, where we can just tag along and chat while you cook! Great advice as well - and being someone who struggles with depression, I think sometimes this is the way we ask for help as well. Just asking someone to hang out without the commitment of unpacking our struggles is all that we need in the moment!
@JuanAppleseed-ge6tb 3 ай бұрын
I've been chronically depressed since my deployment to Afghanistan in 2012. I have happy days, and I have dark days. I can't even describe what specifically helps, but it's mainly spending time around people who just want to spend time with me, like my parents. When people go out of their way to address how unhappy I am, it just puts a microscope on how bad I'm doing. My dad and I spar for boxing training and we do carpentry work to fix things around their house. My mom and I garden and walk their dogs. I don't want anybody to make me feel better. I just want to spend time feeling like a normal human being.
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
I love that last line - that really is what it is all about eh, just feeling normal
@BZEDiddy 3 күн бұрын
I let them tell me if they want to … other than that I pick up where we left off
@evaskindaras852 3 ай бұрын
You know, I really really loved this. I have struggled with depression and anxiety for the past 6 months, and it's been so though, but to hear someone talk, casually, it was really great. Great video!! And to anyone reading this - I hope you have a really lovely day, and anything you are going through will pass, I promise. Keep your head high and remember to smile even on the though days!
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
thank you! that is my goal here is to just make this a casual conversation without being so dramatic so i am really glad you enjoyed
@ofcitsgracie 20 күн бұрын
I saw this, and I knew I needed it because I’m trying to not care so much about other people and I know that sounds rude but I’ve spent years caring more about others than I do about myself and that’s lead me into depression and I need to feel like I finally can care about myself more than anyone else and not be guilty about it.
@dacreedmotivation5597 3 ай бұрын
Hey Joey thank you for your advice I'm a 21 year old who struggle in life and your advice and motivation helps me a lot. I appreciate you
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
You got this!
@gabrielruzon2052 3 ай бұрын
I wish I had a friend who treated me like this.
@moonsliced 3 ай бұрын
I love this style of video so much your point about just being casual with people to make them feel better works perfectly with the causal tone of the video itself ❤
@FlowWestProductions Ай бұрын
Dude I've only watched the start so far, but I just wanna point out you are hilarious, and your intentions are good. Ite cool cause you get to get a good lesson for your future self, but also just enjoy the moment. This is something I truly find admiring about you lol
@GamingatFullpower 3 ай бұрын
Thank as a 15 year old in high school your videos have been helping me very much and I realized a lot of things I turned a blind eye to till you talked about it. Also I like this video style you're trying, would like to see you do more videos like these in the future.
@rimpidas11 3 ай бұрын
Thank you Joey, it was refreshing to hear you talk while you made your favourite pasta.. I am having a hard time and I could use some help and just a conversation really
@EdenSLucf 3 ай бұрын
When I'm with my first younger brother who has always felt like my younger twin. Sometimes, it looks like from the outside; he's being silly in shallow waters in a lake. Yet, I know lakes and pools don't play by the same rules. In most pool, you can the bottom of it with clear water. Lakes can be difficult to move about in because you can't always adjust to what's around you. One step could be super and the next step could be unimaginably deep. It's so deep you can't see anything. He might not try to end what he has, but his choices make it possible that I understand he doesn't mean much to himself. Its like knowing how to swim, but never learning to flowing on your back to take a break; not just you don't want to, but can't even think about a break because someone's pulling you down below, as you persist to keep your head above the water. I don't often cry for either of my brothers, in front of them. He's honest sometimes, but at what cost?
@div_haniaxs 3 ай бұрын
omg. i love this idea of you cook and talk to us. ❤️❤️
@Hollymodz 3 ай бұрын
another great video Joey, thank you
@travisrolando8205 3 ай бұрын
Thank You Joey! Love You Brother!
@mirandaalexis 2 ай бұрын
this was needed at the right time
@Jeremyxiee 3 ай бұрын
Actually I was completely focused on the process of you cooking in the video,gotta say, it looks good and delicious!! ❤😉😆
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
Wow thank you! It tastes pretty good I must say
@Jeremyxiee 3 ай бұрын
@@joeykidney😀👍
@YASARAHMED-ck1sb 3 ай бұрын
Thank You Joey!
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
My pleasure!
@TomsOnUK 3 ай бұрын
Really good advice Joe
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
thank you Tom!
@themilkyfx 3 ай бұрын
This was way too short I need a 25 minute version of this 😭
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
Wow that’s really nice to hear ! Thank you :) this recipe was just so short haha
@themilkyfx 3 ай бұрын
@@joeykidney haha no worries dude, but seriously feel free to make these painfully long, I could listen to your stuff for hours
@Ewo.0 2 ай бұрын
Why I feel I’m disagreeing with you , Cuz when my friend went through a hard time I would love to ask him if he’s okay or not like checking him 😅
@cheyennestewart4620 3 ай бұрын
This is it 🙌🏻
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@Bill-cipher44 26 күн бұрын
My Freind asked me how I was doing. I said I’m fine I wasn’t fine I was emotional embarrassed and depressed. He was always nice but I was a ball of sadness. The reason I was always sad bc my parents split at a young age so my childhood got ripped away from me In a harsh way Bc of that I was I was always hurting I never show it bc I’m a boy but I would like to cry all day long. Those words how are you doing it hurts hurts enough to make someone wanna cry. I’m scared of being happy don’t know why I just am but I’m always sad I grew up in a corner I was less innocent then a 20year old dude. Why do people cry you think bc they’re sad or hurt but sometimes it bc they don’t think they have a purpose and should swan dive off the roof Don’t bully I got bullied i caused depression and trauma my anger sky rocketed when I was 8. Sadness is hard to admit I had a therapist bc my mom thought I needed one but I was to scared to say any thing bc I had to much on my chest. Teachers do you job us kids need you to help us some off us don’t learn on a iPad verbal learning is what we need. Why are we like this a world we’re we hate one another Inner thoughts are horrible you think about to much and cry while you do it Goodbye hope this help and know you’re not alone
@whitey3073 3 ай бұрын
thank you
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
thanks for watching!
@Drageypoo 3 ай бұрын
Joeyyy 🩵 I love you
@Jeremy-tk2fr 3 ай бұрын
I struggle with depression because I'm 27 and I'm struggling with my sexual identity. I have no one to turn to for help.
@Drageypoo 3 ай бұрын
mmmmmmmmm 😫🥺😭
@Drageypoo 3 ай бұрын
4:57 that wasn’t loud 😭🩵
@Drageypoo 3 ай бұрын
okie maybe it was from where you were ☺️
@YASARAHMED-ck1sb 3 ай бұрын
1st
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
thank you for being so early
@Wheatishbee-tanya 3 ай бұрын
The only thing makes me sad is having No true friends 🥲
@joeykidney 3 ай бұрын
A great way to meet friends is to join clubs and go every week, at the same time and you will be meeting the same people who have the same interests. It is a really wonderful thing