It’s not what we attract, it’s what we accept

Alessia's intuition is insane, I've been questioning my standards and love life for a good few days now and now you've posted this video. Truly an angel

look what y’all did you made her pull the chart 😭😭

this shit hurts my ego but feeds my soul. thank you miss

i loved how you explained this, when we accept and appreciate the bare minimum, we are telling the other person this is OUR worth and this is the MOST and the BEST we can get. yes, we should appreciate the little things and love simplicity BUT we cannot manipulate ourselves into thinking this is the BEST person and/or forgive them for bigger things they do to you to harm you thinking „but at least they tell me good morning” „at least they tried” no you deserve someone who is willing to do ANYTHING in order to stay with you, not someone who is willing to provide what they can give you. I've heard this saying and it's beautiful : do not love someone with your love language, love them with their love language.

Even the cat is looking at the camera like: "Listen human, this is your guidance, use it"

Ich liebe dich alessia, danke für deine Videos 🥺🩵

I literally always feel better after watching Alessias videos. I cant figure out exactly what it is, but theres just something about her, her words, her aura, her energy that makes me feel secure, comfortable, loved and motivated. Thank you Alessia :).

I’m glad I watched this video, there’s a boy who was taking to me then he suddenly went silent just few msgs, no effort, no communication but he says he needs me. And I was thinking yeah he is just busy cos he says he is busy. I’m leaving. Thank you so so much.

She perfectly taught how to be a high class women and how to not settle for bare minimum. I am a person who invested all my time and energy on one person who constantly hurted me and proved they are not the person who i thought was. but the bare minimum like looking at me also made me happy but now i totally understood they are not worthy of my love. And how exactly they should treat me for me to invest on them...

Everything is so true, when women expect only bare minimum and giving themselves away too easily - don’t expect anything good from it. From my personal experience- I was very naive when I was younger and was just so happy to have a man in my life so I didn’t really expect from him much - just be. He did something but very little. And this what I got after 15 years of marriage- he does nothing, his attitude to me got worse with years, as I didn’t have any standards :( I created a fantasy in my head but he was never this person and got even more nasty and mean. It’s a good lesson for me - if it all started like that - what could I expect - only what I have now. No matter how I tried to persuade myself that it’s going to be ok, it just doesn’t work this way. Don’t fall into this trap! Be smart, be wise, be selective ♥️♥️♥️

You know where the part where you almost cried in the video, I felt the same for you I hope you know how amazing, gorgeous, Goddess, and powerful you are. It makes me so happy to know people like you exist. All your dreams will manifest. You are exactly where you're supposed to be at this moment. Sending you so much love and light Persephone xo

i just broke up with my boyfriend a few hours ago, because he didn’t want to give me the bare minimum. your video made me feel so right about my decision. thank you.

You are so correct and eloquent in everything that you said and I completely agree with you. :) Women should NOT settle for less, even more so because settling is what they are taught by default by society. Totally off topic, but - I needed to hear so much that "If other people have it, than you can have it too. That's how the Universe works!" You are an Angel for that, it gave me motivation I didn't know I had. I am currently finishing my uni degree and writing my Diploma paper and.... it feels like it's NEVER going to end ahhhhh! :D I have such a depression about this. I see other people who have written a paper like this before me and have their degress and I used to wonder - man, how did they do it and why is so difficult for me? But this saying gave me motivation - if other people got their degree than I am going to get mine TOO!

i really wish you'd make a video on how to heal and protect yourself while living in a toxic environment for teenagers like me.

Alessia, it's so satisfying to see how I agree with all your sayings and I say that to girls all the time. But still, I listen to you carefully because you could teach me something new. You know, recently, a friend of mine said to me that a guy left. She said to me that they were in a relationship. But after he left, I asked her if he asked her officially to be her girlfriend. She said "No, but he let me think that". Please my dear lord stop. She pointed the issue alone. She was destroyed, but it was her lack of judgment that took her there, unfortunately. Amazing video as always ♡

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i’ve watched this 5 times already, i love this video ❤️‍🔥 thank you for ensuring we will have the best relationships. 💙💙

07:07 in the morning n listening to this while I am on my way to work n start my day

Im 21 and i never felt loved once all my relationships i always love the most and low my standards to keep them im aware about dunno how to deal with it 💔

I really needed this video right now, thank you so much 💝

you don’t know how happy i was to receive your notification, your videos are always a delight and help me so much !! thank you alessia ❤

really needed this video, thank you queen❤

I love how this advice let alone this mindset can apply to almost anything in life. If you don't align with you desires you won't be able to manifest that. Just like in a relationship, when you feel that you don't deserve the best of the best in the relationship, you won't get the best of the best in that relationship.

I'm so incredibly grateful for your videos they helped alot thankyou so much❤

I want you to know I love you so much. I've followed your insta for some years now and it's really helped me in many ways. Thanks to you I understood myself better, got encouragement to be better and I have now learned to love myself for all my qualities. Some parts still need work but I've come so far thanks to people like you. Love you Queen. You make the world a better place.

thank You! I am blessed to watch videos like this, I’m really thankful for you that you learned me so much in life and that I now know that I deserve in so much better!💋

Thank you for this video! You made me realise that, I don't allow people around me to give me treats, even my boyfriend. Now, we talked about this, and I'll make effort to let people make effort for me. Thank you a lot

Thank you a lot 💝this came at the right moment... I was having a really hard time and when I saw your video I broke into tears cos I could literally relate to everything !!

This video was so important to me. Thank you sm Alessia ❤

Thank you, Alessia, I really needed to hear this today! I love you❤️

Alessia, i really needed to hear this today.THANK YOU.

I'm really thankful for this video. Thanks Queen ❤❤❤

mom is protecting us

I love what you’re doing. Keep doing what you love, your wisdom means a lot to the world

Love how the video is 22:22 💌

i am sooo glad i found your channel at such a convenient time. You really put a new perspective on things & i really needed to hear this.

Yes as a women you need to have high standards, because no one will have sympathy for you, if you accept bad behaviour from men you will get it so dont. Thanks for the advice. ❤

I love how you speak about certain concepts. The execution is just immaculate. Could you do a video about regulating your emotions perhaps? You seem really emotionally intelligent I think it would be great if you consider!

Honestly, this was such a serve. This video was such an eye opener to me. I needed this, Queen. Thank you 🙏🏼

you’re describing my mindset since the last few years (ofc more aware since a few months) and im so glad to someone raises that issue cause i am sick and tired of watching disrespectful treatment towards women by themselves, i can’t already stand when i hear that any woman comes back to toxic relationship again, when they give an another chance to any BROKE COCKSUCKER srsly. And i hope that women in my country (poland) will finally get witty and thank you so much for this video. Peace and respect for you❤

One of the best videos i've ever seen. I was so confused , but now it's all clear. Thankyou pretty ladyy❤

I needed this right on time today and I was hoping you would make a video on this , thank you truly.

This is exactly what I needed right now, very eye opening. Thank you so much! I love you too❤️

Thanks so much Allesia for this amazing video, you really helped us all❤❤❤

"this is the easiest thing for someone to do...being on the phone and typing to you" and some men don't even do that🙃

thank you so much for this. it helps me a lot. i used to be in the situation as you too and im glad im not alone. im so happy that ive been better because of you. thank you for inspiring a lot of people. youre truly kind. may God bless you and have a great day.

I broke up with him after consistent fights for a whole damn 2months . I met this guy 9months ago online my senior who had passed out from uni . We started talking , I never entertained guys but I was just in rut and impuslive at that time ! I impatiently accepted him even though he had given me time.Until I knew what I had signed up for . Past 8 months , I have been the worst version of myself . Not to blame him but surely the relationship has affected me more in negative way than positive. He is possesive, controlling , lies sometimes, wants me to explain everything, wants me to be there for him regardless of what shit I'm in at that very moment etc .... So we broke up yesterday finally. I should have solidly set standards and boundaries . Thank u so much for this masterpiece ❤

You are an angel. Big big thanks.❤

I really appreciate this. Thank you for this and im looking forward to your up coming videos and you're gorgeous 💖💖💖

Just when I needed this. Love you.

Thank you so much for all the efforts to educate those who needs to learn such things 🙏💜

You are absolutely beautiful & gorgeous 💖 Thank you for sharing your amazing words 🥰

Been working on this so much... Thank you for this video❤

Love how this woman changed my mindset❤

The queens are giving me a lifetime worth of lesson. Ilysm thank you so much foe coming into my life to teach me so much more than what the rest of my family would teach me. ❤ I've always been taught to settle for the bare minimum to be thankful for what's there and to stop asking for so much. and I just realize now that all of these are wrong.(yes I should be thankful but I shouldn't settle for what's so little thinking that's all I deserve because I deserve waaay more) You queens helped me realize a lot, thank you so so much! I know things will get better for me from now on and I will have a lot to learn and I'm excited ❤

Thank you so much alessia your explainations are truly life changing i love you 🛐🛐🛐

Golden advice really. Congrats on these wonderful realizations of self love and boundaries that you are sharing.

Lots of love, thankyou so much for teaching me such valuable things. ❤

This video described perfectly my life

Thank you so much for giving Your precious time ♥ Love you ♥

I am so grateful for this video... This is exactly the msg i needed to hear. God bless you ❤

This video can alone surpass all the dating coach vids I've watched my entire life lol 🔥💓😂 Very insightful!!! Would love to watch nore

This really helped me, thank you!!!! we appreciate your efforts

i love everything you said and will definitely do that

Thank u for this video it’s help me to improve my personality and it’s help me to improve my skill with english ♥️

Girrrrlllll this was amazing 🙌🏼❤️‍🔥

thank you my master 🙏🏽 I love Salem by the way! 😻

I'll rewashed this everyday thank youuu ur amazing 💗

Thank you for waking me up ❤

14:30 Salem be starring at my soul rn And thx for the video Alessia I hope you're doing better with what happened today and may Allah brings peace upon you darling 💕

Oh gosh how I love everything about you!!! 🥰

I have no one to talk to not even girlfriends in my friend group im soo happy to hear your advices, its therapeutic

❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for this video . ❤❤❤❤❤❤

The fact that his video is exactly 22:22

Salem is such a beautiful and meaningful name...

I feel like you're speaking directly to my situation

I love you ❤ Thank you for precious advice

You're a blessing 💗

I found what I want and need in your channel keep going 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 you are really helping us ❤

Alessia, thank you for increasing my standards. Because of this video it was the first time when i realized that can't imagine what i really want my future partner to be. And after deep thinking i finally realized what i want from man to be my boyfriend. Thank you ❤️

Imma leave everything and takes notes on this rn ❤

She is speaking things I do and trust me these are so important.

I freaking love you!

my queen has posted, you are the best and thankyou for posting iloveusososomuch

Hi! Congrats for the video. I think that taking full responsability is more complicated for woman. We've been told "it is what it is", "don't complain". We've been sooooo gaslighted to not talk.

do any of you guys know what our queen does for a living or what she studies or how she can be fiancially free cuz that's what I wanna be too and who better to ask if not our inspiration 😍

Oh my god i just realized whatever she said was exactly how I acted when i was not given a priority, i simply walked away and followed the no contact rule...proud of myself

Thank you soo much !! ♡

Funny timing, i was just questioning for the past few days what i should genuinely be impressed by in dating, and what is simply the bare minimum

You're right about everything you said and I did all of this for years but I'm so disappointed with y life that it keeps sending me only the same type of jerk no matter how hard I reject them and move on withmy life no other type comes in my life. I'm getting tired. I pray and ask for them not to approach me if they don't come in the right way. But it doesn't work.

Words are just words but gonna type them anyways. I left a guy whom I dated almost 5 years. Gave him a 2nd chance, drop everything to drive to his country! I treated myself as good as I could but he built up an emotional wall. Instead of setting up any plans, he closed himself totally. To any of my question, he claimed "I don't know, one day". Listen me up! I have no time for ONE DAY maybe, more specifically when we dated for so long. I left him, now he is apologising but also claiming he has no time for a therapy for us both if we would make it work somehow. That was my condition. I left my family for your tears and beggins but you got no time for opening up emotionally and work it out?! Thank you, no. Anyways, you are a top tier queen and sooooo high self aware person. Gonna stay here longer. ❤

I love you so much you are changing my life please make more videos 💖💖

Funny but quite amazing Girl from Ethiopia

Alessia you don't have an idea that you saved me years of toxic relationship 😭...I was justifing his behaviour to not giving time ,some kind of effort I always think may be he is too much busy may be he will give after marriage...but I feel hallow from inside and thinking that I'm not understanding him...now I'm so clear thnk you thank you so much Alessia 😭

This should be in a holy book!!

Thank you so much Alessia i'm about to open a new door 🙂 ! and close the other one.

Thank you for your video❤

Thank you. Truly.

I was waiting for you to upload ❤❤