Stop Trying So Hard, No One Cares |wearing designer to impress others toxic flex culture luxury bags

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Жыл бұрын

Hi everyone, it's Eileen. For those of us who are into luxury items, we often justify paying more for the craftsmanship and heritage. But maybe, just maybe, there's a bit of desire to flex as well? While I don't buy designer pieces to show off, I did purchase certain items to validate myself and to cover up my insecurity. I remember when I finally got my first Hermes bag, it felt like a huge milestone-- ''I finally got the bag that everyone else dreams of getting, I've made it!" Or had I? The truth is, the younger me was very invested in impressing others and myself. I wanted to feel that I mattered, and I might have even secretly enjoyed the envy from others. So should we wear designer or buy luxury bags? I believe the answer lies in the intention. Luxury bags do generally have amazing craftsmanship, but if we're buying to impress, we'd always be one handbag away from our happiness xx
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Thank you for watching this video about how I stopped trying to impress others by wearing designer brands. While I'm not planning to stop buying luxury completely, I've given up the idea of proving my worth with compulsive shopping. Flex culture is common nowadays, but we don't have to be part of it xx

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@JcFabuleux Жыл бұрын

I hope Eileen realizes how impactful these videos are to her audience. I’m so grateful I get to stumble upon your channel last year. Your videos changed my perspective on how I view myself + money + luxury + life 💗

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you xx

@GildedFashion Жыл бұрын

Totally same here! She's a great communicator and her thoughts are authentic and effectively elaborated. We love her! :D

@ElegantPaws01 Жыл бұрын

All the above. Love her channel.

@TattoosLovers Жыл бұрын

Me too i am so bless to just happen to stumble on her video it really will help me alot . After hearing her i will buy them but only for the heritage and history of the brand & also to wear them because i love the different brands companies and to love wearing it as fashion when i go to a high class place like hotel buffets / restaurant's . And not showing off to some of my friends . Whenever i buy some branded good's i always lookout for the qualities of the product's too cheer's xoxoxo . All you mention in this video is so 100% true wow my gosh you really knock alot of senses into me ha . . . ha . . . Thank you to you very much .

@sdust251977 Жыл бұрын

I once had a boyfriend who told me, you spent all this money in this designer brands and slaving yourself with work when Tom Ford, Dolce and Gabbana, Hermes shareholders, etc are living their life in great mansions, peacefully...needles to say I stopped, cod turkey.

@Cocohue777 Жыл бұрын

I am 27 with a full time job. I could afford Chanel and hermes but instead of buying from these luxury houses, i invested on a property. I am now a proud owner of 4 bedroom 2 baths house. My first luxury item is a vintage Burberry trench coat, after that I decided to purchase a vintage LV petite noe bag (also second hand). I love them and wore them every time i go out. Even though i could afford brand new, i think buying pre owned is the best option for me since i want to retire early. A friend told me that it's not luxury anymore if everyone has them which is true. A lot of working and middle class women complain about the price increases of luxury hand bags but we are not really the target market for it. We complain because most of us can't afford to buy a bag every season. Thank you for your channel! Glad i discovered it and its nice to be reminded reality.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It’s so good to hear a young person being so intentional, thank you for sharing xx

@athena3865 Жыл бұрын

Houses can be just as costly. I sold mine and invested in equities. Best decision, ever.

@katekadkina9312 8 ай бұрын

We actually are their targets, ironically enough. They build an easily accessible (as in anyone at any time can buy) image of illusion of wealth and with proper marketing they truly are able brain wash middle class which is overwhelming majority of people number wise.

@Lastdayone Жыл бұрын

I personally think we should simply purchase 1) what we genuinely like and 2) items that are of quality & made to last. I’m increasingly growing a disdain for fast fashion. If we stuck to these two rules of thumb, we really wouldn’t be buying a bunch of stuff. When we mindlessly consume, it keeps us on a perpetual cycle of never being satisfied.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

So true! Thanks for sharing, Michelle xx

@incognito9718 Жыл бұрын

Items that last for long is problematic as well because fashion change even for classics. So, you will stuck with expensive item and feel guilty to get rid of it.

@cathychats Жыл бұрын

but how do we know it’s good quality? I want to purchase cheaper stuff but they usually break faster that’s why I tend to buy luxury brands. It’s not for showing off but because I hate to purchase bad quality items

@kimalbaez2120 Жыл бұрын

I literally cancelled my order for something expensive after this 😂😂 it's the confirmation I needed lol. Actually so so happy bc I don't need it. This video has so much value and is a wake up call, thank you ❤️

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I'm glad my video helped to save you some money lol xx

@aniazurek7258 Жыл бұрын

👏🏻😂 I’ve been there! Glad you had this experience. I always give myself 72 hours before purchasing something. Usually the “want” wears off.

@kimalbaez2120 Жыл бұрын

@@aniazurek7258 exactly🥲!! And that's a good boundary to have, I think I will apply it too. Thank you for sharing! ☺️

@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482 Жыл бұрын

Good. God bless you !

@mimima4577 Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. As we get older, many does not really care what handbag you carry, what car you drive, or what jewelry you are wearing. Showing off just becomes arrogance and feeling high almighty I'm better than you attitude will only rub off the wrong way to people who doesn't understand the luxury world. I am now humbled and appreciate kind people and treasure family and health. Anything material can be replaced and should not be worshipped ✌️✌️

@clairechloe5294 Жыл бұрын

@Mimi Ma - 👍👍👍👍

@Amy-hs1qe Жыл бұрын

Thanks for an honest and insightful video. I've loved luxury items all my life and probably fell into the flex over the years, but now that I'm in my 60s, I buy things for me and me only. That's the good part of aging - we don't care what others think of us anymore, we care what we think about ourselves.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

❤️

@cup_o_TMarie Жыл бұрын

Amen 👏 Same here as I approach 55. I think there is some truth to the old adage “youth is wasted on the young” as I only WISH I’d had the confidence & ease of self image in my youth that I have now!🙄😹

@prettypuffprincess Жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!! I LIKE TO DRESS FOR MYSELF, I don’t go out much or have social media so I definitely get dressed for me lol🤣🤣🤣❤️

@AliseL22 Жыл бұрын

I have always bought things for me and items I really love (even in my 20's). Wholeheartedly agree that age can bring that to light even more . In my late forties I really felt I came into my own - know who I am, what I like/don't like, etc. Always be an original and do/buy what makes you happy. After all, this is your life to live 😍

@kimberlyperrotis8962 10 ай бұрын

I’m with you, I buy only to please myself, age 63. After trying to squeeze myself into the local Boho style for years, I went back to the classic style I really loved best. I feel like my genuine self again. I do buy luxury fabrics and materials (genuine leather) because my skin and feet need them. I get criticism for wearing silk, and skirts and dresses, but then I notice that person getting the idea “from elsewhere” to wear silk, dresses and skirts, too. I don’t care what others think of my style. All I know is that having to wear the local uniform of black and gray polyester gym wear would be soul-destroying to me, not to mention miserably uncomfortable, hot and sweaty. There is a strong anti-personal style, conformist-only (to the gym uniform) sentiment where I live.🙂

@innieex3 Жыл бұрын

This is such a great video. And it's so true. Kylie Jenner has a net worth of $1 billion and her buying a Cartier diamond love bracelet ($45,000) is equivalent to the average US income ($60,000) of a little over $3.00. So to her, it makes sense that buying luxury brands barely puts a dent in her net worth whereas for most people it becomes about flex.Thanks for sharing your insight in this video!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It's a really great way to describe it, thank you for sharing xx

@user-kpkxgtj Жыл бұрын

You make a great point. An unfortunate thing that goes unspoken is being that she is considered somewhat of an influencer, she could easily have been paid to make such a purchase - the brand would consider it promotion / endorsement. Meanwhile regular people are spending that kind of money from their own pockets to flex.

@orattik Жыл бұрын

You absolutely don't need to have designer items to look chic. Yes, a higher price tag tends to mean better craftsmanship, tailoring, materials etc, but sadly, that isn't always the case these days. It's actually really hard to find classic, well-made items at a decent price because there's no incentive for companies to produce such fashion - throw away fast fashion is a much better business model, especially if it's also very expensive. I actually think it's more difficult to wear designer items and look chic because - the most recognizable pieces often look tacky and cheap precisely because they're so recognizable.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

That’s quite a fair point! I for one wouldn’t pull off LV monogram from head to toe xx

@ModernVintage31 Жыл бұрын

I’ve had great luck with eBay and ThredUP, buying gently used or new, prior season designer pieces that are well crafted, tailored and beautiful. Case in point, last month I found a brand new 100% cashmere shrug from Saks on ThredUP for $15. Wools, cotton and cashmere will never go out of style. Best to you!

@notme1255 Жыл бұрын

I buy from the "fast fashion" labelled stores because if you look at the origin of the item, the manufacturer, etc. That $8 Walmart shirt is most likely LITERALLY the same as the $80 "ethical", "eco-sustainable" brand. I just researched Pact, which is supposed to be an ethical brand. Their manufacturer supplies items for H&M, Walmart, Gap and Zara as well and has had a few lawsuits for UNETHICAL (😆) business practices. Go figure haha. It's sad that we have to do SO much research these days to find truly great brands.

@raapyna8544 Жыл бұрын

@@notme1255 Oh yeah, brands can market themselves as whatever and not get in trouble. Of course it's still worth looking - but it can be frustrating. I dread shopping new-to-me brands that I haven't researced yet.

@redrumax Жыл бұрын

Frankly I do hate all those ugly Chanel bags and the hideous LV bags, not to mention the totally horrid Hermes bag.

@anttoronto3202 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Eileen. I turn 60 this month, and have a very small collection of luxury bags and shoes. I use them all, don’t get any urge to buy new ones at all. Most are 10 to 34 years old. A stylish confident woman doesn’t need big name designer items to look fantastic. With regards to the money aspect, a long time friend of mine always says, “being young and broke is fun. Being old and broke is definitely not”. Good health, good relationships, comfortable home, is important. Not arguing the latest CHANEL, LV, bag price hike, and definitely not having anxiety over not getting a Birkin. Jane Birkin doesn’t even want a Birkin anymore. She could have them for free. She wore them to their destruction. Great videos!

@mjgreenidge Жыл бұрын

I’m a lawyer and definitely there is pressure to upkeep a certain image. They think you’re successful the more flashy you dress and the more flashy your car. I always preferred quality rather than flashy labels and never felt the pressure to buy something so that someone can perceive that I’m successful. I am successful because I love my work and I am a great attorney, that’s my calling card.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Love it!!! Xx

@crisamphioxus Жыл бұрын

I have more respect ot those people who has big career but not into flashy stuff to impress.

@xo7454 Жыл бұрын

I am a physician. Funnily... you have these Facebook people posting how your education and your title don't matter... and then flex their designer trinkets. 😂 People have messed up priorities.

@ndndnd1 Жыл бұрын

luxury scream, wealth whisper.

@hananheakal6942 Жыл бұрын

Can’t understand the motive of people trying to impress others with their possessions when it often comes with negative energy in the form of envy and jealousy. In many Eastern cultures, the evil eye 🧿 is something to be avoided, not sought after.

@anndreachan3997 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Eileen. It is very eye-opening. I constantly remind myself of this, LEARN TO ADMIRE WITHOUT HAVING TO ACQUIRE!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I think being mindful is already one big step in the right direction, kudos to you xx

@iamokay5676 Жыл бұрын

From the Psychology of Money, when people see a fancy car, they are usually not jealous of the driver but they tend to imagine themselves as the driver. So in reality, people are less impressed with people who have wealth because they tend to not pay attention to the owners. But being at peace with what and who you have is the ultimate peace. Best wishes!

@natashadickson4819 Ай бұрын

Thank you for mentioning this.

@Silkelovesit Жыл бұрын

Hi Eileen, Thank you for this video! I cannot say it often enough: there is no greater luxury than to know you have a financial safety net in case you need it. When you loose your job or get sick you are already stressed enough. Knowing you have the funds to go thru this time is helping enormously!

@pretaporterp Жыл бұрын

Extremely true.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Definitely! Xx

@nurulnabilah6427 Жыл бұрын

You can always sell ur luxury items if needed, although it might lose some values

@anttoronto3202 Жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯 percent!!❤

@raapyna8544 Жыл бұрын

@@nurulnabilah6427 Yeah, but can you? What if you can't find a buyer? What if they're not willing to pay what you ask for, or the item is not in brand-new condition? What if you need the money suddenly and don't have time to go through selling several luxury items?

@conniepleasantnails Жыл бұрын

❤❤️ There’s such a cool feeling of freedom when you get to the point of not caring what anyone thinks about your life decisions and you just live. Eileen, please know this your videos have so much value for me. I am slowly still rebuilding my wardrobe and finding ways to do it within my budget and trying my best to buy the best version of things for me. I have always been practical but I didn’t always know how to spend my money on a wardrobe that suited my lifestyle. You have helped me understand so much about these kind of decisions and I apply some of your insight in my life when I’m buying new items. I am even slowly downsizing my technology. One tablet, smaller cell phone 📱… subtle adjustments. I love your mature emotional approach to comments made about your channel. I also would like to congratulate you as I see your subscribers almost hitting 40K. Your content is very intellectually refreshing thank you 😊

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

This made my day! I’m so honoured to be on this journey with you xx

@cup_o_TMarie Жыл бұрын

Agreed 👏Eileen is a gift 💝

@scorpiana3424 Жыл бұрын

This video is geared to people who have been buying luxury for a long time, I assume. I just started buying luxury 2 yrs ago and I’m in my 40s. Sometimes it takes some people longer to get to that point. I am excited about the luxury collection I will have… with no regrets. However I do it for myself. I work hard and I make smart decisions. Bills are paid, money in the savings…why not right?🤷🏽‍♀️ Let us newbies have fun.😄

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Definitely! You’ve taken care of your priorities so it’s more than fine to enjoy a few nice things. Meanwhile me in my 20s wasn’t so wise, I wasn’t in debt but I spent too much on shopping xx

@ginkat1318 Жыл бұрын

I think modesty in the sense of quiet comfort is due to make a comeback. Choosing to spend on charity, experiences and investments give so much value to someone's life.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

100% agree xx

@monimarz Жыл бұрын

I have never paid any attention to anything materialistic until the pandemic. I feel like having time on my hands and being so visual in my cognitive processing that watching social media began to create this perspective I never had on luxury. Now, when I look around I see it everywhere and on everyone. I feel less happy and more envious, which has really made me sad and wishing I never stumbled into it. I love watching your videos Eileen because it feels like therapy for me. ❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I recommend yoga too! It’s been helping me to stay centred xx

@gmac1384 Жыл бұрын

Watch videos on living a minimalist lifestyle and it will help you alot and put things in better perspective for what's really important in life.

@catherinetong4472 Жыл бұрын

I actually know people who are really well off but never wear luxury. Then i know people who are decently well off and wear a lot of luxury. Personally i love luxury but dont have a lot of it. I think it really stems from one's own personality, how one grew up, social environment, income, etc. I think you should just be you. Do what makes you comfortable. Buy luxury or not, but be happy doing so, spend wisely, not excessively, and find joy in ur choices. 😉

@ginamorris4520 Жыл бұрын

You are a great moderator in this lux world. I got tired of watching unboxings, shopping and haul vlogs. I also don't like it when KZfaqrs are talking about getting classy,look rich or old money like in real life people don't really dress up to the nines as often as we think. I go to the grocery store more than any formal event let alone a fashion event🤣. I love it when you talk about topics like this and your ideas are great tips to not lost myself in owning too much. I use all my practical lux bags everytime I go out that's about 3-4x a week for grocery, lunch or dinner and sometimes shopping but mostly chores🤣.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I can relate! Real life isn’t Instagram for most people xx

@AshzxQuidYT Жыл бұрын

I live in a upper middle class neighborhood in Colorado and when I say I don't see designer anywhere I mean it. People here are so casual and I wish people would dress up once in awhile 😒 I really think it's a fake reality and because we see it on social media we start to think it's real. I saw a gucci purse once and I immediately thought it was a knock off. Lol I watch mainly fashion channels and people stare at them because it's not normal to be dressed head to toe in Fendi and Prada with logos everywhere 🤣

@ginamorris4520 Жыл бұрын

@@AshzxQuidYT IKR? I guess people get so busy most of the times that they'd rather use their practical non-lux bags . There's also this possibility that they don't use their lux so it will stay new and won't get scratched🤣.But I love it when people use their lux tho..like it's supposed to be. We're new here in San Antonio, it's not even a fashion capital but I'm glad I see mostly LVs, Gucci, YSL at the Grocery store and a few Chanel at the La Cantera area. Mostly mom's with their kids ,women doing their errands in their casual outfit sometimes in a summer comfy dress🥰. I get excited and point it out to my Husband he end up knowing some popular designs already 🤣. I'm getting older I just got lux 2yrs ago I am gonna use as enjoy all of them as much as I can.

@TrumpyBooden Жыл бұрын

So you got tired of watching “unboxings”? Do you watch porn because it’s online? You make no sense at all if I can be Frank.

@maryjomichele Жыл бұрын

@@TrumpyBooden what are you talking about

@sigridparras3985 Жыл бұрын

I think like with most things in life, a surfeit of anything, including luxury items gets to be predictable, unexciting and even “boring” as we grow older. We begin to step back from the rat race and feel less inclined to project a certain “image”. Our growth takes on a different trajectory, we begin to be more mature and content with less material things.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It’s crazy to run the rat race for sure. Sometimes when you’re so into it, it’s hard to see how crazy it really is xx

@athena3865 Жыл бұрын

I never buy for someone else's impression. If I like something, I buy it as a gift to self.

@vintageshabbyglamour7865 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! One very wise and famous man called Bernard Baruch said, “Those who matter don’t care and those who care, don’t matter” - I have lived by this for many, many years and it has served me well.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Love that! xx

@august8094 Жыл бұрын

I think this goes for everything, I’ve stopped caring about what other think because it’s just simply too tiresome and I’m in a happy place

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Not paying too much attention to what others think is indeed a superpower xx

@kittykatt9163 Жыл бұрын

I love you videos, we are currently in the process of buying our second property. If I hadn't found you im sure I'd be moping around my wardrobe with a load of designer bags and shoes I never really wore or used, wondering why I still felt sad. Instead I focus on my family, home, our future retirement and my garden :)

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Garden is one of my favourites too! I’ve been doing so much weeding this year it’s unreal lol xx

@giainto5564 Жыл бұрын

We didn’t spend quite as close to 30000 SGD on engagement ring, but pretty close. We went to a trusted local jewelry with no name brand. As a result, we got a pretty substantial sized diamond with great specs.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I’ve heard a lot of people say the same! You often get bigger and clearer rock for cheaper xx

@cleofe9962 Жыл бұрын

I’m glad you save yourself early from being drown in this luxury world that we live in unlike those other u tubers they are not only promoting how to be broke and lead a materialistic life on young generations but also promoting low self esteem by not loving themselves because they don’t have expensive things. ❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It's a never ending rat race if we chase things to prove our own worth xx

@ThanhPham-ic8bw Жыл бұрын

one should have their own mind set. if they let others influence them then even if these youtube does not exist they would be influence by other things

@louiseleite3866 Жыл бұрын

Most of my wardrobe is made up of H&M, Mango and supermarket brands and I always get compliments 😂

@jazzyk4046 Жыл бұрын

In some countries though, those brands are considered to be on the expensive side. Not necessarily luxury, but expensive nonetheless to the average people..

@lvbadboy 6 ай бұрын

It’s about style not price this what people,who get frustrated fashions get confused

@sibimarie33 Жыл бұрын

“Sometimes it is a blessing to be left alone.” Yes indeed 🙌🏽😌

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

❤️

@AE-qd2mh Жыл бұрын

I came across your channel and I’m so glad I did. You are right about people buying luxury items to impress others… I was that person. Once I learned to love myself, it did not matter what I bought or where my clothes came from, because now my personality shines not my clothes!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Love that! And welcome to this lovely community xx

@islandgirl1818 Жыл бұрын

I love your message. I was pretty young as far as coming to the realization that I don't give 1 iota about what people think. When it comes to fashion..purses to be exact, these days I've found that I reach for my good ol Coach leather purses more than I do my luxury ones. I just want to be free from babying my purse. And I have stopped purchasing them as well. Instead I want to purchase my second house and experience more memories and adventures rather than invest in a bag that'll just sit in my glass curio cabinet. Thank goodness I came to this realization sooner rather than later. Feels liberating not to succumb to trends.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It really is refreshing to hear this. It also took me too long to realise experience are often worth more than nice things xx

@SustainablyStylish Жыл бұрын

Louder for everyone trying to schedule a Hermes appointment and adding more to an already overcrowded shelf. Hope they get their cost per wear.

@emr3306 Жыл бұрын

Your opinion and point of view always comes at the right moment to me! I am atm back to more be active in the IG handbag community and I instantly feel the urge for a new handbag or slg, maybe an unboxing, ppl even ask if I found a luxury bag/slg on my vacation. Do I really need (no) or want a new luxury item?? To be realistic: I have a regular job as a teacher. There were times when I could easily afford my luxe desires. But now with inflation and energy prices, after we bought our apartment and everything going on in the world, I am happy to heat my home this winter, pay the credit and work towards reducing my work schedule as the biggest luxury: time for myself! Thank you for inspiring me! 🖤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Definitely! I was able to spend a lot of time in the summer with Isaac and that’s priceless xx

@geeangeles6600 Жыл бұрын

I used to buy, too, not only for purpose but also for flexing just because i can already afford it. But now that i am in my 50s, and after feeling hollow after watching luxury hauls here in yt lately, i now buy things that make me feel good about myself and my life in general regardless of brand or price.

@livingthedream444 Жыл бұрын

Since I came across a video on Tik Tok a white woman bragging about how she always get sent these designer clothes and handbags for free from brands, and they will never do that to people of colour, while we are spending our hard earned Money wasting it on these brands. That’s was the day I stopped caring about designer brands. Thank God I’m now wiser, I tell my daughter don’t waste your Money on designer brands.

@cristinafrancisco6773 Жыл бұрын

I’m a new follower and I really like your videos. I have reevaluated my spending and the need to buy items because people I follow on social media have them. And I have come to realise that I was trying to fill a void in myself. I took a hard look at what I want from my life and I am finding other ways to bring joy into my life without having to spend money or purchase more possessions. Thank you Eileen for your honesty and for sharing your journey.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us! I think a personal story like this really helps everyone here to pause and reflect on what they truly value in life xx

@spectrumliving7197 Жыл бұрын

I wear designer for myself. It is to challenge myself to work harder and reward myself. This is like when my parents ask me to get A+ if I want an A+ life. This doesn't mean, I don't have very good personal finance and investments. I also only purchase luxury handbags, watch, and jewelry not clothes or shoes which have less depreciation value over time.

@nurulnabilah6427 Жыл бұрын

This is a smart move

@spectrumliving7197 Жыл бұрын

@@nurulnabilah6427 It's all about liability or profitability. Less depreciative valued materials are the best investments. In fashion, if you buy designer luxury apparel, it's best to invest in pieces like Chanel suit jackets or fur coats. Best to do your research before entering the luxe designer world as an investor.

@vffashionista7429 Жыл бұрын

I absolute love your videos and happy that you're on youtube. I came from poverty and worked 40 years w/ a decent salary that afforded me the opportunity to buy designer "anything". I thought that is what success meant. However, since I retired (62 yrs young), and started watching your videos, my focus has changed. I sold 6 Chanel & 1 Prada bag to Fashionphile, but have so much more to unload. As petite, unable to unload designer clothing but still working at it. I truly appreciate your advise and I'm striving to become a minimalist too.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your journey xx

@cup_o_TMarie Жыл бұрын

Always wonderful videos Eileen 👏💝 I went to an Audi dealership to hopefully buy a pre owned version of a car I’d saved a long time for. In fact I was prepared to pay cash, but did not say that of course. I drove up in my (well cared for) Toyota RAV4). The SA was totally condescending & definitely didn’t try to sell me that car. Even prior to the application he was asking insulting things such as “Do you have a job?!” 😮 I walked out, told him he would regret his behavior & contacted the general manager. Needless to say I got a killer deal, delivery to my home, free tinting & a roof rack! I love my car & I totally see a difference in how I’m treated for driving it. I find it sad that we are such a shallow society😢 I can’t deny that some of my luxury purchases have been for status signaling, however; I’m very honest with myself over WHY I want certain items & generally enjoy the more low key pieces because I don’t like flashy & big logos. My Chanel bag is a reissue. My Rolex is a vintage with no diamonds, my Cartier Trinity necklace is the tiny heart, no diamonds. Generally only the people truly in the know will realize I’m wearing designer. I just don’t like the “trying too hard” type of style. It makes us appear insecure & shallow.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

It’s always lovely to see you here! And what an encounter you had 😕 common decency should really be part of our education xx

@Jharieltravel Жыл бұрын

I love your topic here! People at young age love to impress but when you get matured we learned so many things and we get smarter in choosing our decision. Theres nothing wrong to buy luxury item if you really afford it to feel good and to impress yourself but for me its smarter to buy affordable item that will never put you in debt. Its fine to have 1 to 2 pcs of branded item but for me i dont care to buy affordable one so i can use some of my money in other important things. I dont even like people buying expensive things to impress id rather want to be in the company of those people who are very simple and casual .

@adamnaughty Жыл бұрын

Thank you Eileen. My husband got me a branded bag and in The beginning I was like WOW i finally got the bag but after awhile it’s just a bag that Carries my stuff that’s all nothing more apart from some people compliment my bag but is it the recognition that we crave how we want to be recognized or play the role that we have made it maybe ????

@iamjulia9458 Жыл бұрын

Yes, Practicality should rule over luxury. A diamond 💎 is a diamond whether it comes from Tiffany or your local jewelry house. We are talking about quality and not brands or brand's prestige. True luxury is where you can pick up anything without looking at the price tag and without feeling afraid. And also able to share some extra of your wealth with the less fortunate is a plus.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! xx

@michellekorhonen3449 Жыл бұрын

Such a deep and wise analysis of our behavior! Thank you really much for this rich content, you’re super chic not only for your good taste but mainly due to your intellect ❤️

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

That’s really sweet of you, Michelle. Thank you xx

@plasticbeauty5675 Жыл бұрын

I really like how transparent you're when you're talking about this subject and also open that you also have the similar thoughts (as when you was talking about birkins) as anyone else. It makes me really respect you and you got a new follower :)

@georgielynn4187 Жыл бұрын

This is a great video. To me, it's more important to feel like yourself which will promote a sense of personal confidence that will ultimately outshine anyone walking around looking like a magazine layout

@shylady8711 Жыл бұрын

I work in the Dermatology Department and often wear my 2 scrubs and 2 tshirts the whole year. My things look tatered from everyday use. There are times when a colleague with the lowest salary grade among us would comment on my things. She just purchased her iphone 13 pro max on loan for 1300$. She doesn't understand that I am the breadwinner in my family so personal things are not my priority. I support my retired parents, I pay my bills which is 20% of my pay and I pay insurance. What I spend my money on is trainings and certifications so I can work abroad for 10x my pay or atleast get a promotion. I have no one I can lean on when money is short. No one. I felt belittled for my android phone and overused clothes. I just don't want to spend money on things I can't afford. And if ever there's extra, it goes to my parents. They need it the most and because I love them.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry people made you feel that way. Sometimes people are too quick to judge but I hope you don’t succumb to the noise. I think it’s great to have a clear idea about your very own priorities xx

@shylady8711 Жыл бұрын

I have no savings, but I don't regret anything. "before you buy your parents a lovely casket when they die, please start buying them groceries while they are still alive" I love my parents so much.

@warmmocha2555 Жыл бұрын

Just look presentable and decent, no need to impress other people with flashy colors and big logos that look so tacky on. Comb/fix your hair, minimal natural makeup, ironed clothes or neatly folded clothes, clean shoes, etc… In other words, don’t be a sloth either. Make it a habit to look presentable (not to be vain) but also not look like a lazy individual that could care less about hygiene/decency/tidiness. "Being well dressed is a beautiful form of politeness. " -Coco Chanel

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Beautifully put xx

@bernicewise8313 Жыл бұрын

I am glad I came across your channel. I never wanted to put thousand of dollars in bags, shoes. However that is what makes them happy than oh well. Not me I am good and happy thifting my clohes.

@Darling_Nicci Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love fashion and and nice, good quality and style things in general, but I have never understood the impressing others with stuff you own thing, never understood being brand/label crazy. It's like a language I don't understand 😄

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

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@elenabenitez6397 Жыл бұрын

Tiffany’s jewelry often times is beautifully designed and crafted. If you know jewelry you will see the difference when comparing to a Less known house. However if I am going to buy a simple diamond, my money will go a lot further going to jewelry districts and wholesalers.

@latigresseNYC Жыл бұрын

Once again, you nailed it! Buying quality is an investment and I've tended to buy more for myself or what I like rather than what I think will impress others. I don't care what everybody else is wearing or if I'm trendy or not (not at my age anyway). I do love beautiful, high-quality clothes and accessories, but I don't need massive amounts of stuff or to dress head-to-toe in logos. That screams fashion victim! I am also reminded of the lyrics to a Billy Joel song from way back that went like this: "They were all impressed with your Halston dress, And the people that you knew at Elaine's, And the story of your latest success Kept 'em so entertained, Oh, but now you just don't remember All the things you said, And you're not sure you want to know, I'll give you one hint, honey You sure did put on a show." Not my style.

@sheaubinchua9508 Жыл бұрын

I think it's okay to pay for good craftsmanship and quality luxury goods and enjoy the finer things in life. What I can't understand is the popularity of Hermes bags, none of them are chic looking, and not easy to use (access to content, weight, birkin has no shoulder strap).

@jessier.cardona6062 Жыл бұрын

Totally agree, Dear Eileen ! Love when you said, humans a social animals!!! My wardrobe is timeless, classy and classic. I enjoy through the four seasons, my curated wardrobe. Now here and there I got something that will enhance and give me additional options, to wear my existing clothes! More to save , so we can enjoy other types os luxurious moments, with families and friends. Also, having cushions for the unpredictable moments. Well said girl. Have a blessed week ahead, take care and GB 🙏💐😘

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Building a timeless wardrobe is definitely the way to go xx

@tacs9960 Жыл бұрын

Eileen I love this message of yours. It’s great you buy with purpose and to last.

@mindbodysoul8214 Жыл бұрын

🙌🏾These videos really give me life.... I've watched this one 4 times already.🙌🏾 I never will forget how confused I was when I wore what I consider a "luxury bag"... it's a Coach. I couldn't figure out how to dress with it, come to find out, to this day a plain t-shirt with jeans is my FAV with All of my bags! I would NEVER want to appear to be someone or something I'm not. TFS&I 🧡

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for or always being here xx

@regian74 Жыл бұрын

Branding is an “idea”. The companies worked hard to advertise the products a certain way to be able to sell. I have absolutely the same belief now to everything you said in your video but sometimes…. sometimes… there is still a luxury item that makes me really happy, not momentarily. I admire your honesty. I have been working on myself because I realised there were a lot of times I bought luxury items, not to impress but to make those whom I know will be affected by being annoyed or jealous because I don’t like them. 😅

@999hermione Жыл бұрын

I like the show too, "Nothing but Thirty". In the show there's also a character who felt a must to buy an Hermes bag to become a member of a socialite group of women

@hautepinkrae8084 Жыл бұрын

Hi Eileen! It is so nice to sit back and enjoy you're calm and thoughtful ideas. I agree, no matter what, people are so busy in their own lives, yours is just a blip! Cheers☺

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

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@lepunksmoothie Жыл бұрын

While I love luxury items, fashion and shopping, I have outgrown the phase of buying luxury items to impress. I've become a more conscious and sustainable shopper - I now buy only what I can use with a lot of outfits that I already have, one that I know I will use for years or even decades (and I can pass on to my daughters), and even choose to shop second-hand and vintage (I've been a vintage lover since age 9!). My interest in shopping haul and unboxing vlogs have shifted to shopping your own closet and styling videos of stuff that you already have. I really appreciate you sharing your insights and creating contents like this!

@MichaelNackordaasiannvddles Жыл бұрын

I AM SO GLAD I CAME ACROSS YOUR CHANNEL! This is EXACTLY what I needed to be reminded off...Thank you for this video!! Keep it up!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much xx

@ngango17 Жыл бұрын

I have been enjoying your channel but I do still enjoy my luxury items. I definitely think twice when I make a purchase though. This is refreshing.

@s.macklin9430 8 ай бұрын

I really enjoy your perspectives and videos. You can tell ur honest and sincere in what your saying and I value that. ❤

@marshawilliamson8602 7 ай бұрын

I find your content relatable and refreshing. 🌸🐝

@hawaiianmargarita Жыл бұрын

This video kept me from getting another luxury SLG after just getting one over the weekend. I will keep this video in mind the next time I am tempted to buy another bag or slg. Thank you! 💖

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Glad I saved you some money ❤️😄

@sarizonana Жыл бұрын

I don’t buy luxury, honestly I’m not that careful with my bags so I prefer to stick to Contemporary great quality but don’t give me anxiety to baby them. Saying so. There is nothing wrong on giving yourself a luxury once In a while, just don’t fall into the Fomo thing. Look at it, go home and think if you still want it. It’s crazy since it’s not luxury but I muled on my RayBan wayferer for probably three years and when I finally got them I was really happy about them. I love sunglasses my second favorite accessory after handbags but funny I don’t use them that often. that’s it took me three years to get them. Now waiting for them that long make appreciate them more. So try to always think before buying if you really want that item and there Is nothing wrong if your answer at the end is yes

@gloriousvictorious7159 Жыл бұрын

You content is getting better and better ! I am loving it ! Please don’t change ❤️

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

That means a lot, thank you xx

@davepedroza6355 Жыл бұрын

When I buy luxury I buy for my self and above all quality. Keeping up appearances and buying luxury for superficial reasons is a waste of money. Especially when one works hard for their money we should seriously consider the reasons we buy expensive luxury. I love that you point out logical reasons to buy luxury.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Definitely! Sometimes it’s so easy to go down the rabbit hole and keep buying mindlessly 🙈

@jennifermcmillan2588 Жыл бұрын

I never notice jewelry on anyone unless it sparkles and that is what attracts so who cares what the teeny brand name says . I have a big luxury bag collection , I don’t wear most .. it’s just for collecting. You can’t judge anyone , my grandmother was a Chanel lady but she still cut coupons to go to the grocery store lol and they owned the building the local store was in along with many more , she was a child of the Great depression and would tell you no matter how much $ you have , always save when possible ( no one gets rich throwing their $ away ) and always appreciate what you have each day ❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I can relate to your grandma lol! I pack my lunch religiously and borrow from library etc xx

@GildedFashion Жыл бұрын

Eileen you've made the BEST THUMBNAIL for this video! It was genius to use an eaten banana!! Thank you for the laughs

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

🙈I wanted to film the thumbnail but I was starving so I decided to quickly down a quick snack lol. Then I thought I might as well use it as the thumbnail lol xx

@janechiu370 Жыл бұрын

@@ColourfulNoir it was the perfect nonchalant thumbnail 😂

@nadanalia3000 Жыл бұрын

Really appreciate your transparency and wisdom, Eileen. Thank you.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Nadine! Xx

@mkim4091 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for addressing this topic. This speaks to me. Your are wise beyond your years.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

You’re too kind, thank you xx

@ejc29 Жыл бұрын

Eileen, I like your honesty and it is great to see how you are evolving and the videos are just a reflection of the whole you. We can all learn a thing or two, whether it's about luxury bags of perspective in general. Thank you very much for sharing!!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, it really made me so happy that my new content resonates with people xx

@donnashapanka6615 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Eileen for your smart insight! Love every video. Your transformation is wonderful inspiration. Enjoy the day!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Sometimes I look at and think to myself- good thing I changed path and let go of excess. It’s been life changing xx

@Ponzuu28 Жыл бұрын

Very glad I stumbled upon your video! It’s nice that he spent that kind of money for a ring for her but are they still married and happy that’s what’s important

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

I'm sure they're doing well. The ring was the news of the village for a while lol xx

@paulinevirata761 Жыл бұрын

Very well said, Eileen. I truly appreciate this topic. I honestly need this myself. Thank you!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you Pauline! I’m glad you found the video helpful xx

@carriepalar5137 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this video, I feel being detoxed to the luxury world and focus on what I have already owned! Never focused on other peoples opinion. 😊

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

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@harinisankaran897 Жыл бұрын

Lovely content. I feel so happy When having colorful handbags which matches the dress which are of low cost but with good quality than having a luxury handbag which becomes too boring. I too realized in my 30's that comfort and our satisfaction is important than buying things for others. I hope this video wil be an eye opener for many.

@Amywithlove148 Жыл бұрын

Really wise saying …. Self reflection and being transparent what a good saying ❤ love it

@zinaunlimited Жыл бұрын

Great video and well-thought-out. 😀I rewatched this video because you speak the truth. I know that this has been life changing for you. You are valued and you matter!

@lalawyer2967 Жыл бұрын

Your honesty is so refreshing.❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

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@kellym.4052 Жыл бұрын

Hi Eileen, Best commentary ever! You really knocked it out of the park.❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much xx

@blktauna Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. Too many people are doing too much to impress others versus making themselves happy. I like certain luxury items in the same way as you. I like that they are well made and beautiful and have certain design elements that fit my aesthetic. That's why certain Tiffany items are worth it but if you are buying plain diamonds, go local. You will get more bang for your buck. Those Idyll diamonds are the same diamonds as in a Tiffany ring, without the hype markup. I notice that so many of those unboxing channels never show the bag again. My guess is the item goes back or on to someone else.

@katrinalegaspi3885 Жыл бұрын

Very good content Eileen! thank you so much. I also noticed that you take time to reply to the comments that related to your insights. Very nice of you.🙂 Hope more and more people can watch sensible videos like this.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Hi Katrina, I really enjoy reading the comments, it feels like all of you are sharing your stories with me 😊

@javanesemystic Жыл бұрын

I love how self-aware and honest you are. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼🙏🏼 hope you have a beautiful rest of your November 🍁🍂🧡💫✨

@shirleymargaritacabalquint5612 Жыл бұрын

On point. Love this video!!!! I am soooo happy to have watched this!♥️👍🏼💪🏼

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you xx

@indoora Жыл бұрын

It's the canvas that is noticeable to others that makes people think it is chic, when in fact there are many designs from other brands that are even more chic.

@ajohonly3721 Жыл бұрын

Being intentional is very helpful. I got my Lady Dior medium new on my birthday 3days ago. I’m so happy I waited for over 3 years .

@kathrynb3618 Жыл бұрын

Great video. We share the same profession and I have come to notice similarities about our previous insecurities vs our current love for quality and beauty of the luxe items we buy. It is so important to get the priorities right and be able to sleep peacefully at night. Excellent insight.

@flohough1870 Жыл бұрын

So many excellent points in this video. I saw the video you referenced and it said a lot about how our society views money, status, etc.

@ashkeeoh Жыл бұрын

this channel has grown from tips and hacks on how to score luxury items to growing so much wisdom ❤

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you xx

@VforVanity10 Жыл бұрын

Dear Eileen, I'm so happy I found your channel on time around one year ago 😍. But even more important, I'm glad I found it after your mindset transformation. You prevented me from purchasing more of unnecessary things that I certainly would have bought otherwise because I find your content so incredibly inspiring and certainly would have taken your back then purchase suggestions into consideration. I find it much better to focus on money wisdom instead of stuff accumulation, it's the same fun level but surely a more reasonable decision 😄.

@shananick1128 Жыл бұрын

Hi Eileen, Yes i do agree that carry designer stuff does shows that one wants to show off a bit and yes in certain industries it does have some peer pressure to look good i. e lawyer, bankers, entrepreneur. Ok for me getting designer does have some elements to it but i really hope the item that i bought will last as well thus i switch to designer brand. I had no brands handbag, contemporary prior to all these luxury and it does have wear and tear. I am not saying designer does not have wear and tear but to the least perhaps i can salvage it, like Hermes they do help to salvage the handbag for a very long time. Not so much for Chanel or Louis Vuitton. Therefore i do hope to get a Hermes Kelly or Berkin one day. As for the handbag you would like to replace, the tote which is not LV looks more chic to me. So i do not just go for branded. What i am trying to say is i would buy those who looks appealing to me. I am not into cars too. So a car to me is from A to B as long as it does not break down. For Diamond, it is not necessarily from Tiffany & Co in my opinion. I go for designer for those design i cant get else where i.e JUC. Cartier. Even the Love bracelet, many common jewelry does have that design and consist more gold. This is not dupe and price cheaper. That is my thought. Thanks for sharing.

@anisebbbbs Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love the evolution of your videos.

@nadiaazrin3789 Жыл бұрын

Honest advice not really for everyone's liking (from my experience) but I like it. Thank you for your advice.

@AK-dj2td 9 ай бұрын

If I didn’t know the brand and saw someone carrying LV Totally I would think it was a cheap bag. It’s not easy to break away from buying luxury brands once hooked, so I admire your insight and strength.

@birdtj82 Жыл бұрын

I find most designer bags 💼 underwhelming! Long ago when I went on a date -- a guy asked :” do u have LV bag 💼? “ I said NO ! He was shocked cuz I was very dressy into fashion. He said all his past gfs n cowoekers have one ☝🏼. Then what he said I remember forever ! “ designer bags r for GIRLs to see ! On d street , other women will see u wear designer bags . Men don’t look at bags ! Girls DO NOT REALIZE THEY R BUYING BAGS NOT GOR MEN BUT GOR OTHER WOMEN , lol 😂 I never even pay attention to their bags !”

@patrice7p Жыл бұрын

I love your videos, Eileen ❤️ You are so inspiring and reassuring!

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! xx

@hunterphan5506 Жыл бұрын

Very well said. Love the realistic and honest discussion.

@tanguerafeliz5096 Жыл бұрын

I live in a high crime city where purse snatching is more common than I like. I've given up purses in favour of not being noticed. It's annoying to be asked for money you don't actually have. I'd rather have 1000 in a 10 dollar purse or even better a decent hidden pocket. I like specific designer clothes and have friends that do too but I know I'm not fooling anyone. I'm still the same person with the same lifestyle just with an excessively pricey item. I've had cheap purses that function just the same as the bougie one. They both function the same. They hold my stuff.

@Lifeisbeautiful-ri2tb Жыл бұрын

Great topic! It is much safer to wear non logo items and contemporary bags to avoid being a target for unwanted attention.

@Apt101 Жыл бұрын

In my 40's , I still drove my 1st car 2009, that's a gift. But still running great for daily work and shopping. Car is a transportation for me. One price one quality, it's definitely. I just couldn't afford the! branded. And stay away from debt. Thanks for video.

@ColourfulNoir Жыл бұрын

Staying away from debt is definitely important xx

@theguynextdoor4978 4 ай бұрын

Luxury is designed to keep people poorer than they need to be. In Scandinavia where I'm from, many rich people are quite humble. They hide their wealth quite well and are not driving fancy cars etc. Cars drop in value, they don't increase like real estate. It's important to be smart with money and build safety for hard times. Flashing wealth attracts the wrong types of women, and friends in general. Wealth provide comfort, but not genuine happiness.