What is this unfamiliar feeling? … oh, it’s hope! Thank you! !!!

Subscribed originally for the roller skating tips, but I am absolutely here for the self improvement videos as well. Thank you

I'm sure you get this all the time, but you have such a comforting and reassuring vibe to you. I don't sub to you and idk why I got a notification for this video, but I'm so glad I did! I won't bore anyone with my sob story, but I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. One of my favorite students has the same name as you, it's beautiful. Have an amazing day 🤩

You scream black girl magic. Keep doing what you're doing Dasia❤

I've been working a lot with a system called Internal Family Systems. The basic idea is that we can think of ourselves as collections of sub-personalities. If there is one that is causing us problems, we can converse with them in a spirit of curiosity and compassion. All of these sub-personalities developed to protect us in a moment, and are still trying to protect us even if their efforts are making our lives worse.

What a timely video for me! I learned a victim mentality growing up. I eventually realized that I needed to take responsibility for my own happiness and not mentally blame everyone around me for everything I disliked in my life. My life improved so much from that mindset shift. But as you noted, it's easy to slide back into externalizing, and takes routine work to have the mentality you described if it's not your default. I realized this week that I was starting to again slide into a negative, victim mentality about my life and particularly work. I watched this before going to the park to meditate and work through that, and your framework helped a lot with structuring that mental work. Thank you!

I like this because it helps a person dealing with internal/emotional pain and understand how to go from being a victim in concrete steps than rather than to wallow in victimization without denying the actual trauma etc. I would add that when it comes to family, unless there is deeply unbearble trauma (rape, abuses, etc) within a family, your family is your family, it's just that sometimes it is better to love people from a distance unless or until things can get better. I would also add that it is okay to believe in reparations when there is a responsibility on people such as Government or other entity to do what is required in order to remedy a situation.

I was drawn to your channel because a commenter on another channel mentioned your Project 2025 video (which was excellent, by the way). And now I’m over here watching this video, and I gotta say, this one is awesome too - so much good advice here. I can already tell that your content is having a positive impact on a lot of people, and I applaud you. Keep up the good work!

The timing of me finding this, especially step 6 was perfect and very needed. Lately Ive been finding myself angry and resentful torwards my mom for minor annoyances or even nothing at all and its just been old wounds that never really healed or me projecting my own insecurities onto her and taking her responses as a self fulfilling negative feedback loop. Don’t really know how to stop this but this video definitely waked me up from what i was doing and the mindset I was in so thank you so much for this video.

I found your video on project 2025 yesterday and i’m subbed and 3 videos in. love your content 🤎🤎

Video production: perfect. Cadence and pacing: perfect. Content: perfect. Thank you for your struggle.

I’m my biggest hater, I’m not a doormat, rather a selfish coward. I lie to others so they don’t know how weak I truly am it’s for my benefit not there’s. But the self lies are the worst, i give off positivity to family & friends. But only discourse & fear to my inner chorus. I’ll work on lying & try to envision a hell to terrible to endure. Thx I can’t say this vid will help but the maybe is worth the try🙏🏾

💫💫💫👏🏽💗 I need to listen to this on repeat mode. This was so good! Thank you! 😌

I did this a few years ago and just internalized the final step today. A close relative tried to engage with me from a traumatic place and it was strange to say, "Oh. That was my old mentality. I suppose I learned this from them. I'm not in that place anymore and I love living freely, in my happy vision."

I found you by your tips on rollerskating, and I saw this and I REALLY needed to hear your advice. Thank you!!

Whew… this is deep… I have to take this in two parts. Thanks Dasia ❤

To be honest, I was soo waiting to see if you were going to be brutally honest w this one. My first reaction to the question was…”You’ll have to realize at some point, when it’s all said and done. No one is coming to save you”. When you let settle, get up and do something for yourself. This is where all that “self love work” comes in.

Thank you so much for this much needed video! This is a perfect start to my day, week, and month! I wish I could like this a million times. Pure gold! 🙏🏾😊💙

Love the video ❤️. I’m not new to topics like this, but you expressed it so well and in your own unique way, that it helped me see some of these principles in a new light, so thank you. I started watching for roller skating tips but stayed for the life perspectives!

I appreciate this insight so very much. I took notes !!! Ur voice is a gift 🩷🩷

Thank you ❤

Came for roller-skating videos, stayed for feeling better. Love you Dasia from the UK and thank you! :) Skate on! 💜

You are such a soothing human ❤

This is great advice. I don't have a victim mentality, but I'm looking through all sources to create the life I want, and you look trustworthy. Also, heads up on the the formula, it has a less than sign. Not a big thing, doesn't take away from the video at all. Thank you for sharing!

i love it here

i love your video so much you always inspire me 💖 thank you

Dasia! What a great way to start of the week with these principles in mind at a time of necessary shift. I'm always a fan of your book recommendations, I remember picking up the 100 Year Plan about China during your 75 Hard Challenge. Would you have any recommended reads to dive further into the ethos of unnecessary suffering, or rather, books on those that have walked their path out of unnecessary suffering; to avert my attention from my own mind for a quick minute with discretionary reinforcement. Girl I am dancing this dance like a cow in rollerskates...but we out here! Thanks again for sharing your journey in such a humble awareness. Additionally (thus the edit), sending you belated big love on your cake day. I hail from the East and have been attuned to sidereal contexts (real-time celestial markers versus the seasonal calendar that is tropical) and from that vantage point, the Sun transiting the constellation of Aries (as it is in the sky today versus the tropical end of Aries of 2000 or so years ago), I can't help but notice the vitality and illuminated Self-esteem which evokes courage (given Aries is ruled by Mars). I look forward to being a human that may get to virtually experience the confident actions you pursue in your world, and its reverberating effects on the greater world. What a gift!

ok off topic but youre sooooo prettyyyy

This was a lot but in a good way! I guess I’ll do this step by step. As someone who doesn’t have a lot of people in their life and mainly keeps to themselves, it’s hard to see how the statements of relationship relate to me. I do keep myself out of relationships because of trauma though. Any advice?

The Actual Queens Speach 👸 ❤