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Great video: This quote shocked me" you never arrive" because it is totally true. I was working in my "dream job", and I believed I was a very "successful man", however, during that time, I was quite miserable I was losing my youth and every day was a pain for my soul. I was really quite miserable, and I was losing my freedom. I got out of there, now I am pursuing other things, I am taking care of my body and my soul, and the best lesson that I learned is: you are not your career and you are not your job, fascinating video, thanks

The unhappiest people I've ever met are always taking their own happiness temperature and trying to figure out how to make themselves happier. My happiness is a byproduct of losing my sense of self in serving causes outside of myself.

For success like happiness cannot be pursued.It must ensue.And it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than one's self. -Victor Frankl

Ive found that spending more time in the wilderness helps fill this void. And i continue to pursue it more and more.

If you don’t learn to love what you have, you’ll never love what you get

One of the problems I think is that we have all of our emphasis upon doing/achieving and very little if any upon being. Self-help has an obsession with "maximizing" everything from productivity to health. If I hadn't discovered Buddhism in my 20s, I would still be chasing such efficiency maxims and I'd be miserable. I'm an unemployed single dad by choice, home with my kids and sucking the marrow out of every moment I get to spend with them as I know such things are finite. I am poor and by society's standards woefully unproductive, but I practice contentment and focus upon the present moment and I daresay I am much happier than most high flyers.

Happiness in this life is fleeting and imperfect. We all must seek the answer to the eternal questions who are we? What are we here for? Where are we going? To what end were we created? And in seeking those answers, we can fall into the lies of the world for years. For our intellects are darkened, our wills weakened, and our passions run amuck. May you find the Way, the Truth, and the Life. And His one fold. For narrow is the gate, and strait is the path that leads to life: and few there are that find it! God bless

Depends on how you measure success, I'm a successful father and I'm happy 🙂👍

A meaningful life can be extremely satisfying even in the midst of hardship whereas a meaningless life is a terrible ordeal no matter how comfortable it is. -Yuval Noah

Years ago, I read a great quote by Warren Buffet. I just did a Search, and couldn't find it. But - it went something like this, in a response to a question he was asked by a fan / investor, regarding his wealth: "like me - you also likely have: 1) a roof over your head; 2) food in your belly; 3) clothes on your back; and 4) a car. The ONE difference between you and me, is that I likely fly in better accommodations that you do (e.g., First Class)." People really don't consider how good they have it / their lives are..

It equals happiness when there's no conflict but there usually is with success and also much responsibility.

Dude. I got chills listening to your reading... Extremely eloquent and spot on

Amen. I'm reasonably successful. I have no debt, am happily married, have three amazing kids. I am more wealthy than anyone I know, but I am much less free than if I had not taken on the responsibility of long term love relationship and kids. However I know I would be a very rich wreck if I had passed on love and family. I know now that lower middle class and debt free is real sustainable happiness.

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you've gotten.

Awesome content. We need more people like you. Keep providing constructive dialogue!

I struggle with this. My dad was a CEO, who struggled out of the poverty of the Great Depression. I've been successful, but it is hard to match CEO. I'm happy, but I will probably never do the great things my father did. Ah, well. Settle for good father and husband, I guess. :)

They say success doesn’t equal happiness, but as someone else said, I’d rather cry in a mansion than in my crappy apartment.

The world's definition of success is a never ending carrot dangle

Happiness doesn't exist. It's not worth pursuing. I am often reminded of the quote from the last season of Mad Men. Don says: "What is happiness, it's the moment before you need more happiness!" (any addict understands this) I realized long ago happiness doesn't exist.

I cant tell you how important this was for me to hear right now... i just had a go a t special operations training in the military and the better and more fit, the larger, stronger and faster I got, the worse I felt. It felt like my life force was being drained out of me. Of course military training tends to do this to many people. But i was in training for what i felt was my "dream job". If this was so... why was I dying on the inside? Because my motivation was "i am nothing if i dont do this" and so... obsession and destruction... eventually i quit. Im still torn somedays with the classic fantasy vs reality debate in my head. Did i REALLY want the job. But fundamentally i know I was wrecked by having NO autonomy whatsoever and training the way THEY wanted without exception... it gutted me. But what the guest said about needing autonomy in life I had no idea how important a value that was for my well being. It has helped immensely

Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get.

I wouldnt know: I was never successful or happy.

Learned that as another mountain to climb.

You sat down with Jordan Peterson. He speaks about "the problem of equating A to B without definition." Within this exact statement, we are comparing two abstract and undefined concepts (A & B) to each other.

So interesting!

Where is the full podcast for this one? I can relate to almost everything this guest is saying.

yes it does.

"Robin Williams"........ enough said..

I don't know if most people would know what a "holistic desire to be better" even is

In such a narrasstic society, I find it difficult to believe that people really contend with happiness at this point. Acknowledgment and praise from strangers, yes. I've found that being "happy," or even content, relies on gratitude. Narrasstic, malevolent and psychopathic personalities aren't built to go outside of themselves enough to unselfishly give to others in a gratuitous manner.

It does for a large part

For the right person, *YES*, it would enable steps toward happiness. The real problem is that the WRONG PEOPLE get access to social and financial success, and most of the great people do not. I'm not even going to mention what wonderful things I could do to change TONS of people's lives for the better if I had the right connections, coin, communities and chances. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

Yeah it has a lot to do with it though

Yes it is..because u can solve all your problem especially when u have money.

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I always found the quest of happiness to be strange, because happiness is something ephemeral. It comes and goes, and is there to make you appreciate life when you get through the hardships of life. We've made our society so convenient to us, that we've completely forgotten that going through life is really hard, because nature, be it nature itself and/or human nature, is against us. As society progresses, we'll have it easier and easier, but we must not forget how hard it can be, otherwise we won't be able to overcome its challenges. That's why when raising our children or future children, we must give them challenges to overcome, not give them everything on a silver platter, otherwise they won't become independent and won't be able to face the realities of life. People who tend to be on a quest for happiness, don't really want happiness, what they want is to not be miserable.

Success from a cultural perspective other than western must also be considered

There's no link to the full podcast. Nor any mention of the person you're speaking to.

Kids are happy, and they don't need goals or progress towards something better or sacrifice... think on that

Richard cory

Where's the link to the podcast ?

most old people when they are asked what they would tell their younger selves wish they had taken more not less risks.

Boom Son (: if you’re a living being in this world- existing is difficult. From the bottom to the top.

This has been known for thousands of years. Nothing new here.

What is the message here? " Tiger parenting " is wrong ? Many families from Nigeria, India, or Asia immigrate to North America and " mysteriously " their children succeed in academics. These kids get to go to university and become business people, lawyers, pharmacists, etc. The Tiger Parenting is so successful that kids from India/East Asian backgrounds are discriminated against at Elite New England area schools. The parents are involved and train their kids study, to be persistent, to know there is no " playstation " unless their Academic progress is at "A" level Let's not talk about celebraties, with lackadaisical parenting strategies resorting to bribing academic officials so their children get accepted to upper tier academic institutions. " Tiger Parenting " is a ladder out of poverty for the children.

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