Women cry at the wedding. Men cry after the wedding.

It cost me $70 to get married in 09, 40k+ to get divorced in 14, and yes I filed first... Do not get married

Rule 1: Unless the laws and the way the courts treat men change, do not get married. Rule #2: If you don't buy Rule #1, have a sit-down Q&A lunch with a single, divorced man before you make the worst mistake of your life.

Every boy should be taught this in school before they are eligible for marriage.

I stumbled upon this somehow.. being single doesn't feel so bad now!

divorce rules 1. If you want, keep it. 2.Do not waste time with your attorney 3.Think and plan 4.File first 5.Temporary orders become permanent 6.Do not say anything to your wife you don't want repeated to the judge 7.Lead the life that you say you lead 8.Do not lie 9.Let it go 10.Keep it to yourself 11.Think before you re-marry

Divorce rules for men. Don't get married. There are no other rules. That's from someone divorced, who lost most of his assets he'd worked hard for. There is nothing in marriage for men. If you must get married, marry someone with the same, or more assets than you.

Wow, I'm glad I'm single.

This can be all summed up into one questions for men: "Which part of DO NOT GET MARRIED don't your understand?".

They have some great lawyers at this firm. That being said, stay focused on what you need to do. Cry as much as you need to. Reaching out to freinds and family literally saved my sanity. Keep your eyes open and keep setting goals. It sucks. Period. And is very survivable. You can make it

This guy is right on the money on all of his points! I wish I had watched this video 4 years ago! People watch this and listen to this man! He knows what he's talking about!

Men should consult an attorney BEFORE getting married to find out exactly what COULD happen if their marriage ends. That may save a lot of pain for all involved, hopefully. DON'T GET MARRIED ! You can get everything you want without marriage. I never married, and I'm SO GLAD !

Our first year of marriage was pretty contentious as we both were learning to live with one another. She packed a bag and went home to her mother a number of times declaring she could not live with me. Her mother, bless her heart, would not let her in the door. She told her daughter 'You've made your choice, now you need to return and work it out with him.' And by & by we did. That was 49years ago & we are still together. !

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

Well, 16 years I'm still having a hard time getting my head wrapped around it. All of a sudden she wants a divorce. Hasn't even been 5 weeks and she's mean as hell. I'm telling myself I want to know why. Now I'm thinking I'm wasting a lot of emotional energy I'm probably never going to know why and even if I did it wouldn't change the circumstances. Thank you for your video best regards from Kentucky.

When there's a start, there will be an end. The start is short and sweet but the end can be very long and painful one. Think thrice before you kneel down.

Personally iam going through it right now . But haw amazing is this just hear me out , 1 - If you buy a fone ,the sales man will go through and read your contracts . 2-if you buy a house you will get a mortgage contract or loan then sales man will go through the contract with you . 3- You divorce you will get lawyers/judge to let you know the out come, But when you get married no one gives you any help or advice about the contract your about to sign, !!?

1. 0:17 2. 1:04 3. 2:39 4. 4:11 5. 5:03 6. 6:00 7. 6:53 8. 7:55 9. 8:41 10. 9:07 11. 10:03 Or try to convince your soon to be ex-wife to go to a mediator and save $40k-$60k each...

This is definitely a sign from Heaven given my current situation with my wife who has a green card we have a 2 year old daughter together. She took advantage of the 2020 pandemic and brought her son and daughter from her previous marriage this is when everything started changing plus a year after she started doing many things behind my back, for example: she got a house, a vehicle and some loans without my knowledge or consent while also keeping secrets.

Again, married 16 years and totally blindsided by what my spouse is doing. there's no way she didn't have this planned you don't up and have somebody listed on an emergency protective order and in short order come up with a divorce lawyer unless you thought about it. Still kicking myself as to why I didn't see it. Oh well live and learn.

There are a TON of Rules. I agree with ALL of them, BUT It makes me realize how much I should think about and should have. For me Rule #11 doesnt apply. I'll NEVER re-marry

He is right about the keeping your mouth shut part. You never know when you are being recorded. I'm thinking about divorce, all I really care about is my kids. That is oddly why I am still married, but I'm starting to realize that me staying married may be damaging them. I worry about my oldest at the moment, he is getting to the age where he feels the tension in the room.

You nailed it on this video. Unfortunately I’m One of those men. Two failed marriages and I thought I was the problem. Smart people learn from other peoples mistakes, dummies like me learn from there own mistakes. Expensive lesson that could be especially in the modern society we leave in. Write it down and follow those rules because you will not find much information or topics like this for man on this platform for obvious reasons. DON’T GET MARRIED. I was told for many years I’m not making enough. After divorce I found out I was making way more then enough, it’s how it was spent. Don’t take this seriously, I don’t know what I’m talking about, I can’t even spell farrm I spell it E I E I O✌️😎👍

The biggest divorce rule of all -- never get married in the first place!

Marriage. Not even once.

If this was showed in high school, many mens lives would be salvaged

Marriage is good. Children are good. If you marry and she doesn't make as much as you, then get a prenup. I was the breadwinner and spent 200 grand supporting her over 5 years and paying her tuition. At the end she robbed me blind. A decade of hard work and assets flushed.

I'm 17 and it is 1:38 in the morning... what am I doing with my life 😂

Thank you for the good sound advice. You seem to be really be on point.

One and done for me if this one ends. For all of you out there, don't do it to begin with! My kids will absolutely be shown not to be concerned with marriage, and before that, the prom, etc. I wasted my time going to two of those back in the day

Rule one: don't get married

Thank you for your time and consideration. You truly are wanting just people to do well. Your soul an Time! Which no one can afford was visible on display! I'm thinking about going through a divorce. Instruction an guidance is rear in any time through history. Thank you sir!! My love an blessings go with you an yours!

Divorce rules for men...number 1 NEVER GET MARRIED. Number 2...SEE RULE 1

Don't get married :) - Problem "solved" (or should I say: AVOIDED!) :)

Getting married is fine, but realizing it is a contract that if broken is controlled ENTIRELY by your state is vital. Contracts should never be indefinite - marriage contracts should be renewed annually as to what each participant should receive should the contract be voided. It is absolutely ridiculous.

After nineteen years of marriage and going through divorce,. One day she wakes up and leave, she takes you kids, your house, your hard earned income and your pension. The only woman I trust is my mama. Period. No wonder why men don’t want to get married.

Great advice, thx

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Excellent rules! Thank you!!🙏

Thx for your honesty!

Right now 👉🏾 You are my favorite channel! Great advice and thank you.

Excellent!

I like how one of the rules is “no chit chat, were not here to be your friend” really speaks to how lonely these people have been for so long lol 😂

Sir, Great Video. Thank you.

These are solid tips especially before you actually get to court. I found that once you get to court and you are fighting for child custody... Judges usually favor the mother And prefer the father to be a child support atm machine. If you want any intelligent thought in that courtroom about the future of your children... You have to bring in that intelligent thought yourself. Do not assume the judge can create intelligent solutions for you and your children.

Rule #6 perfect

Great advice thank you

Thank you for this advice, I needed to hear this.

Wonderful video, it was a privilege to get so much relevant and pertinent information. It made me re-evaluate several aspects of how I thought about my marriage difficulties! Thank you so much for posting this video.

Thank you.

Thank you

Even without the issue of finances divorces are tough. I talk about this on my own channel as I share my experiences going through my own divorce. Life can really suck sometimes.

So informative

"Pat would like to solve the puzzle!" "Dont get married?"

A marriage is a contract, the divorce is the expiration date! Can't wait to be FREE!!!!

This rules should apply in school text book, period

divorce rate for first time marriage is 50 pct for second time marriage its 67pct and third is 75pct ,men please wise the frig up

Good stuff. What about if when married I was a business owner and I took out one of those EIDL loans and used it to fund the business from Which I made my income? During a divorce does she help me pay for that loan?

Thanks for the advice Can I ask a private question please?

Somehow broke husbands get a better divorce than rich ones. There's no assets to exploit from a broke husband.

here is the best advice: dont marry, just be together with her and stay with her, but dont marry her. i mean you can stay with her until you die but you dont need to marry her.

#1 rule: don't get married.

I just want to live in a house where I’m not cleaning all the time ! My spouse started an animal rescue and it’s forced on me, cleaning behind animals , multiple in home and I’m sick of it… he asks me about it as if he’s asking permission , I say no and yet he brings another animal in the house …. If I help out with anything , it becomes “my job” …. I’m over it. All his friends see it…. They look at me like , how do you put up with this? I feel like such a coward , have put up with “I make all the money ,so I can do what I want with our home I pay “the majority “ of the bills …. I pay 20% of household bills. I’m listening to this to get another perspective. I don’t argue because when things get heated I have no where to go… my family has all deceased…. I’m at my wits end … since I want to leave I don’t want to have alimony or think it’s fair because I would be the one leaving … yet I don’t make quite enough to pay for solo living , not yet. So for now I’m stuck.

About the significance of letting go: take the age you will probably live for and subtract your current age. Now times 12. That is the number of months left in your viable life. Seeing the number of months you have left is sobering and focuses the mind. Everything in your past that troubled you is now forgotten and forward is your only interest.

The word permanent is spelled wrong in divorce rule 5. Thank you for the tidbits of information though.

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With a phone call and no evidence the man is in jail. Now what?

Never got married ,it’s never ,ever been something I have wanted to do ,anything for an easy life ,I actually made my mind up when I was 7 lol (what a smart kid I was ;)although children are a blessing ,but people need to go in eyes open ps I look frickin great aiming to run marathon under 4 hours when 60

I wish I saw this earlier I never knew they would just leave without any explanation but right now I can’t even contact my wife or soon to be ex wife after she left to visit her parents . What was supposed to be 3 months stay turned out to be 6, now it may be for good and I had no idea all along been married 11 years since

I was married 9 years put the house in her name to carry out a business transaction She started laying down the rules and said she was selling the house to move closer to her mother but that wrecked my business plan so eventually I just walked away she tried getting back But I was in another relationship and noticed exact same traits although it broke my heart I walked away from that one also and it won't change never

I've been with the same woman for 5 years. I have kids with her and we also have a house. The only thing that is missing is marriage. She wants it but I don't. I've given her everything she ever wanted including kids. Is not wanting to get married being Fajr? In my part.

Your ex pays a solicitor for letters and court orders do they then recover the costs for their client from you? Is that lawful in UK US law?

What about, if you all move overseas as a family (military service), and then due to COVID she asks for her and the kids to move back stateside temporarily; but then after six months she files for divorce? Currently in that situation. How does that affect your house and assets? I am from WA.

There should be a set criteria legally that is all based around the kids

Wedding=expensive, Marriage=very expensive, Divorce=super expensive

True

Possaion is 9-10 Tenths of the Law!

I don’t agree with who filing first is having the upper hand- bottom line it come down to the rule for spousal and child supports. Be level head states what you want!! Remember anytime there a third party involved it harder to STOP so think twice before filing a divorce. It will cause lots of money to yourself even yourself unable to stop it due to the attorney bills up to the eyeballs. The attorney always win and everyone else lost. Children suffer the most!!

I wish you were in Arizona

I like your motivation and the quality of your work I have not deal with you personally but just looking at the this particular video you know your $#-7 Last year in San Francisco I hire a family lawyer defend myself false allegations, temp R/O however I practically did all the work from my declaration to printing out the five packets and have them filed so really what my lawyer just did was just fill out the counter/summit return form. Email that to me, then I had to print out the five packets get them filed submit them, court day my lawyer showed up however the accuser never showed up. I would like to know do you do business in San Francisco or Sacramento area. Because my ex is intentionally maliciously keeping me from seeing my children. However from a point you just proved she's going to lie and say that I didn't spend any time with my children when I do try and want to.

That subconscious wink is telling us to not marry. Got the point chief!

Rule #4 file first: this makes you the Applicant the Court THANKS you for bringing in the case to the system so all involved can make big bucks. In the last year of my case I became the Applicant and won every time so the Ex was to pay the costs. How strange this works.

I am here for the comments

guys never get married watch the lykies show or dr hellen smith

What if you’ve already broken 3 or 4 rules and in the process?

I JUST FILED FIRST 😇

My wife cheated and left me with 4 young kids. The divorce cost me €120,000. Marriage used to be something good years ago but it's just a huge con job now if you are a man.

A friends wife lied about his sons paternity for 17 years and even with evidence she is still getting everything she asked for because she clames to be homeless. Nothing helps!!! And layers are making thousands

I need help in getting electronic evidence

I am getting divorce get served las week and never see it comming. I am more worried about my assets than anything else you have some advice I just get s

#2 is difficult if you are low income during COVID. If you are receiving free legal aid (i.e., consultation, not representation) and are the respondent, and your petitioning spouse has resources and a paid attorney, you are likely going to be responding to a high number of disgraceful and scurrilous allegations, much like you would see in a SLAPP suit. Don’t let the allegations overwhelm your emotions. Make an ordered list of these allegations, with bullet points of your side, then gather evidence to disprove them. You might start to see that these allegations are more quantity, rather than quality. I struggled with this, when I was painted as a volatile, impulsive, brain-damaged, mentally-ill, child-neglecting, angry-man; however, I knew different, and so did others. I still remained open to the fact that I may fall short in some areas, and even have blind spots, and began to work on those areas with a therapist. If you can show the court that you are open to taking a look at the bad behaviors your spouse accuses you of exhibiting, and are proactive about addressing them, then you have shown that you are human, that you care about your spouses concerns, even if they are exaggerated or untrue. My wife never once said to me that I was any of those things I listed in the beginning of this paragraph until I read about it in her declarations. The cognitive dissonance I felt from that turned me into an emotional puddle of sad on the one hand, and then opposite of that on the other. Don’t try to talk to her about any of those feelings, even if you are trying to demonstrate to her positive changes, because they will just be used against you.

How do you prevent loosing your assets like your money ?

Don't get married in the first place. Its is a rip off. I am not regretting my marriage but I am regretting the decision to move my wife to the US. the family law sux here.

Lol most of these _RULES_ are just how to mildly read people on a fundamental level and not be an awful person. I remember learning these _RULES_ as a toddler. This may be the funniest video of all time.

I hate to have divorce in my life but I get it in my life

Do not jump out of an airplane, with a parachute that opens 40% of the time

Rule #11: You just got your fingers off the stove - don't put them back there!

How does this work if she is facing criminal felony charges?

File your sworn inventory.