Ok, good point. Dr. C

Yes I said to everyone" I don't want to leave I have to leave " .

I have said many times, I had to leave to save myself. I was so insecure and beaten down. It takes a long time to find yourself again.

Wow I love this! I escaped him!

Run!!!!

I totally agree.

You all met my mother!

I think so. I have never met anyone like him. I am drained.

Scary isn’t it? You think your narc is their own special breed of evil....until you realize they’re all the same.

😆😆😆

And not just the narcissist that seems a little bit too much into themselves, the narcissist that is “exposed” in your thoughts once you reach out for answers and come across resources like this and everything becomes blindingly clear; the veil over our eyes dissipates and all you can feel is disgust. Maybe some pity, but God forbid ever letting them know that!

​@@twinbulls1980 yes, well said✌🏼

O yes

I should have done that when I was a kid, the narcisisst is Dad, he gets worse over the years. I had no control then, but now, I am better.

@@jackilynpyzocha662 🫂🫂The road isn't easy... wishing you peace 🙏

Just curious have you built enough courage to leave? I am in the same position

Yes, it has been over a year. It was the most hardest, painful thing I have ever done. But most liberating. You will get there. Love yourself enough to not tolerate someone's bad behaviours. @@mistiery5684

Me too!!!! I will definitely miss the good man hiding inside the monster!

I cry when I think that he never loved me!!!😢

OMG it's my son my only family

🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴😭😭😭

😂

😆😆😆😆

Sandra F seems to be true. Rebuke them

@@13Babeloe in Jesus Name🙌🙏

Sadly, most people do not recognize this either. It is not "acknowledged abuse" in society.

@@Corinna_Schuett_GER I actually spoke to a woman who counseled mostly emotional abuse victims & she told me that EVERY one of her clients suffered from a serious physical illness as a result of the stress. I couldn't believe it. She said not one woman who had endured years of emotional abuse was physically healthy. Now if that's not physical abuse I don't know what is.

@@siantelove I escaped early from my narc parents in my twenties and have not developed serious illness BUT I also confirm elevated stress symptoms (heartbeat, anxiety, adrenaline) EVERY time I had to deal with them during the past 30 years. I'm glad there's only 1 narc left now but my malignant mother is enough for 5. I'm lucky to know God is with me. She can do me no harm but physical reactions are still real. It only ends when the narc is dead. 😬

@@Corinna_Schuett_GER yes it is. And they say emotional abuse is worse than physical. I highly disagree! My physical injuries are permanent!

Siante Love I totally believe that Verbal Abuse is much worse than Physical Abuse. Bruises, injuries can be seen, and of course believed. With Verbal Abuse, their are no obvious signs and you hesitate to talk about it, because either you know or worry you will never be believed.

Thank you! Pray the same for you. Very kind comment💕❤️💕

God bless 🙏u. Thank u 💓

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌❤ what a beautiful soul you are, thank you.❤😍

Love straight back too ya 😆

Thank you 🤦 we don't need sympathy we need strength, please God hear our prayers. Much love all 🙏💕

So true....... I would present facts(proof), and he would STILL call me a liar....... and say that I manipulated it. Whatever he even THOUGHT, was fact, no matter what the truth was.

I lost so much energy trying to explain myself. Wasted time... They never listen. They project, gashlight you and deny

All these comments are very validating. Thank you. Good to know others experience it. Feels absolutely crushing.

@@mandolaa4855 same here ... problem is the more overt an malignant I saw more readily. The one that has destroyed me is the vuln/covert as I very saw it 😢🙋🙋

I agree. It can be any topic. They have contempt for those who have their own ideas... who wont follow them.

How long were you with your ex?

Good for you!! I did too and won my freedom last Monday after 25 years!!

@@flamingsword777 you literally put up for 25 years !!

@@AK-nl1et sadly, yes and i cant fully blame him because that's my own fault for not going to my Creator and putting Him FIRST and asking Him if this was the person He wanted me to be with and I paid a VERY hefty price for it that almost ended my life twice.... I al only 42 years old. I met him when I was 16....

@@flamingsword777 phew we all make mistakes. 42 is better than 62. You still have age on your side

@Nico Brown i agree. I do thank God that i have no real attachment to him. I wish i had some real good advice for that. I know that once my head took over what my heart felt it got better and i was able to seperate the two. You are not trapped. I hope for you that you can get away or at least reach the point where anything he trys to do to manipulate can not hurt you anymore. Everyone will have an opinion. The only one that matters is yours. Taking your life back is difficult especially with one of these people. No one understands unless they have been through it. I pray that this all works out for you. Life is so much more when they are gone.

Good point

Amen to that

thats my first thought, too.

So you don't think narcissists can ever change?

Shonna May, you deserve better

Shonna May,You are too beautiful 🌹🌹🌷🌹to be with a narc 😈!

I'am so happy for you 💗

Congratulations. I’m on my journey to independence now. Your story gives me hope.

Wow 30 years of tolerating.. I had for 12 years and he really broke me. Thankfully I divorced him and now collecting my pieces. Until I found about narcissistic abuse I thought I was crazy. Could not understand him at all.

That’s so true !

Omg This so true

So true!!

I wish mine would leave me

@@Voyeur53 if yours believes that one of your deepest fears is abandonment, he will leave. Stop giving whatever supply you’re giving.

Truth

C G nailed it!!

This totally mirrors my experience 100%

Sadly true. All of it.

C G truth

I’m sorry. I feel your pain. I’m right behind you. You are not alone

I've been there around new years last year, I'm still doing the work on healing myself and have stayed single to work on me, but believe me it gets better with time and effort, you will get back to you. I'm wishing you the very best- you got this!!! Keep finding love for yourself first before anyone else, it seems selfish but its necessity.

😢🥺 Is that from a narcissistic person ruining everything for you? That’s really awful. Really hope things will improve for you.

Kelly, right there with you, and I feel for you. I don't see my friends anymore, most of my family have passed and I don't do art because he's always watching and judging. How do we get free of this hell?

I'm in the same boat with older brother and our mother. At first, realizing I was just a tool, a thing they could use if they treated me kindly, and included me in things, was exceptionally hurtful. For Mom, it's important that the family appear to be whole and healthy for extended family events like holidays, weddings, reunions, etc. so it took me a while to pick up on the pattern of abuse by my brother "Bob" followed by disregard, criticism and invalidation by Mom, including being excluded from family events that only involved her and my two brothers and their families. For a while, I did struggle with the recognition that they really held me in such low regard. It hurts and it's humiliating and also maddening. What helped me was flipping the perspective: they aren't "my people" and I'm entitled to surround myself with people who enjoy my company, treat me with respect, and share my interests. Those people are out there, but you can't find them if you're mired in wishing the unhealthy people were different or felt differently toward you. They aren't and they won't - trust me, I tried for years before the light bulb went off. It sounds like a small thing, but flipping your internal script from them rejecting you, to you moving away from unhealthy relationships to healthy ones really helped me. I wish you strength and patience for yourself. You are on the path, and things will improve. As you continue to care for yourself, you will begin to grow as an individual, and it's probably better if you spend more time alone while you focus on you. As you start to look outward, you'll be better equipped to recognize and choose those healthy friends and relationships that don't require you to sacrifice your dignity and self-respect.

That WAS my life exactly too xx

He hates himself...plan your greatest escape GOD GOT U...BELIEVE🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

mine was very similar

I'm living like this in my real

@@heathercruz8282 you're describing my ex husband

All of the above for me. I can't stand Dad's narcisissism, misogynism, sadism and bullying. No-contact is the only way! My victory!

LOL But true.

Lol

Lol. Should we say when *you're* breathing...?

I would rather see them not breathing 😊

Maybe if they stop breathing too! They will only blame you for it! ;-)

ONE ME. . Thank you for your letter.. you have been through a lot but you stayed strong and you stuck to your guns and you learn something. . Through which you were able to let other people be aware of what you shouldn't let your lawyer do.. that sounds like really good advice I have not been through what you were talking about but I'm so happy to hear that you're happy now and that you raised beautiful children and that you have grandchildren.. may God watch over you and your family and have a wonderful day and a Funtastic week. .🌞😁😎🤩🌷🌻👍👍.⭐💚💙

@@jeannierusso2134--Thank you for the kind words. On additional thought. Just a few weeks ago, BOTH my children came to me and asked me how I got through those times. In truth, I'm not sure...other than I stayed true to my faith, kept my purpose the best interests of my children, and worked my arse off to pay the bills. It took twelve years to regain financially what I had lost. Statistically, it takes women ten years. For men, it's TWO.

Exactly what my narcissist ex bf says.

My ex husband's parting words were "you'll never find another man like me." "You'll never make it without me." Well, I moved on (paid for the divorce I wanted) and gained friends. I now work (I didn't work much in my marriage) and I am seeing someone new. I'm a changed woman!

My narc bf says the same thing every time we part ways, he says there are stipulations for us to stay so-called friends with benefits. All along I thought we were boyfriend and girlfriend he asked me to marry him we live together he always says he loves me he misses me he needs me blah blah blah but a few days ago he tells me we were always just friends with benefits. Precedes to tell me people in my family think I'm crazy when my son doesn't talk to me why I'm stupid. Etc etc. But two days before this before he dropped me off for the last time and I do mean for the last time she says this to me, pack your bags you're coming to stay with me you're never going back there and we are going to be together forever. Now if that ain't a kick in the butt I don't know what is to find out we were always just friends with benefits. I've changed my number I'm about ready to change my address and cut all ties with everyone I know including family because the narc it's always going to run my life if I don't get away from everyone I know and every place I used to go.

So pleased. I hope you are also seeking other assistance as well. Please put self care at the top of your priority list. Dr. C

@@SurvivingNarcissism I am looking to find someone who will listen...Thank you, very much Dr. C. 🥰

The human spirit can only withstand so much battery, whether intentional or unintentional. This type of assault on the psyche is akin to brainwashing and leaves permanent scars if not recognised and dealt with early on.

You did better than me... thanks for making a list! Funny, but I suspect all that is increasing tremendously in the generations coming into “adulthood”. Life isn’t going to be too pleasant in our society in another 20 years, you think?

Sa Lauerman Your welcome, I appreciate when folks make lists on vids especially when I don't have time to watch the entire vid. I agree,within 20 years these narcs will make the world even more unbearable.

Thank you!

Wlknonsonshine You're welcome!

Same swear

Whew! You hit that on the head.

Oh my God, you took the words right out of my mouth! I wrote this same sentiment in a letter the other day that I'll never give him because there's no point.

I'm working on not caring

Same. I cried for 3 months straight while pregnant and he was stone walling and ignoring me. He drank and send to places by himself.

Yeah - exactly!

I am still here planning my escape. When I wind up in mini scrimmages usually boundary push. I am immediately back in my groove. It's working for me so far I am not fully there yet healing on the way out, can't get there fully while I'm still here.

@@AlwaysLisaLisa me too, totally understand! Stay safe above all!

@@AlwaysLisaLisa same. I couldn't put a name to how I felt until I saw this video. The depth of depression, anxiety, and fear are unreal. I've been married 5 years and we have a 19 month old daughter, which is making it so hard for me. He moved us an hour away from everyone I know, has alienated my entire family from me, to the point that even my brother who I used to be extremely close to has blocked me on social media. My whole life has been destroyed, and I know exactly what it feels like to be a "shell of a person" now. 😔

@@amandaknowles2998 Please contact your brother and try to make him understand what's going on. Maybe him and the rest of your family will help you. I hope so because I've had to put distance between my sister and myself. She flat doesn't understand.

omg, my ex gf narc was so jealous of the attention i gave my 2 chihuahuas, (not only would she voice it) but when she thought i was only seeing my dogs, id look at her, and the sneer on her face was just so, so evil, I could see disgust for sure, but it was much more, complete evil showing. She is the most horrible person I've ever met...yet I fell in love, only because i have some co-dependency issues, but nonetheless, how could i love someone so dark inside? Am only 2 weeks no contact, struggling with decent days and really rough days...but I know the only way i can have any sort of joy in life is to never let her back into my life again. It must just be the trauma bond, cuz i miss her terribly at times...or cuz she's easy on the eyes maybe...as she is someone that i seriously wish that i never met. I have known many women, but have never even heard of a woman being so downright evil, just a horrid individual that will/cannot ever change.

I once caught a certain lad smirking to himself while I was talking to him. It made me realise how I couldn't trust him. I don't have to be around him if I don't want to be.

It's soooo fn WIERD. Like a body snatcher. She thought I wasn't watching, yt I just moved my eyes over to look and I saw their face. It was ACTUALLY fn DROOPING. There's a long face and there's THAT. in 13 years I've NEVER seen it. I'm like whoooo is this person.. Ice cold don't touch me little 6 year old whiney voice. Like i got COOTIES now. 😂 Like ok I get it u got the covid vac. Now I gotta circle circle dot dot ge lt the damn COOTIE SHOT. before things go back to normal.. 43 days now.. But she tosses and turns when she doesn't lay up against me. If I get a breadcrumb and she accidently does, we BOTH relax and goto sleep. All that dark weight comes off. I'm like seeeee. What's the damn deal.. 😂

I’ve seen that look.

@@Iamsam-jl5fn my mom would tell me my dad would get it. He had BLLLLLLAAAAACK colored eyes, and when he'd drink, he'd get that stare.. I nebe paid attention to it..

I kinda wish my narc gf would say that to me hahaha it would make it so much easier

Clayten Burns Would you leave if she did? I’d get out as soon as you can man.

I beg her to let me go and she wont 😔

I'm such in denial I keep trying to get her to talk to me she wont talk it's never the right time

@@claytenburns5635 - what is stopping you from leaving her? Why don't you call it a day & make your exit plan? It's not easy, but it is necessary.

With earnest sincerity... would you share some of the terrorizing incidents..... interested what similarities might exist between yours and mine. Best wishes to you.

Brenda Sly, you deserve better

Brenda Sly,You don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

i gave a second chance but that’s about it then i left the friendship that’s toxic .

What do you mean by this?

Yes what's stonewalling

@@stormy3307 they ignore.

@@stormy3307 I think she means that their attention is focused toward someone else. I’m facing the stonewalling and I assume cheating. I’m tired of caring.

Ah, this confirms that I was just following my intuition. I ignored ALL of the red flags. She tried to isolate me from everything, anyone, and the level of hatred that would come out of her mouth was disgusting.

April Rogers,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

Credit and patience ...2 things I wish I'd not given my narc fam 🙋

He told me my shirt was ugly and my gut was hanging out. I recently had a child so I said, ill just find someone who loves my belly and my shirt.

@NARCISSIST SURVIVOUR N good job 👍

I know how hard it is to have your own family be horrible. I realized that my mom and sister were narcissistic. My sister treated me and my family like crap, but could do no wrong in my mom”s eyes. I finally had to cut them out of my life after my mom told me that I needed to forget about my birthday because she is retired now and has a new life. My mom wants me to “Forgive and Forget” or “Just start Over” She refuses to do family counselling. My nieces are becoming just like my sister. I don’t want my daughters growing up thinking that it is ok to treat people this way. Stay strong!

@@jenniferstinert5498 sorry to hear that, sounds very similar to my family.. but you are definitely doing the right thing. I cut a narcissistic ex out of my life 5 months ago, my narcissistic mother 3 months ago and today will be the day I finish any relationship with my sister...the lies, manipulation and deceit is not helping me heal

Check out Lisa A Romano, her vids on narcs are really beautiful and healing. She introduces a spiritual element.

@@ingwis thank you for your suggestion, I definitely will..the healing process is slow and painful but day by day it gets easier...any extra resources are always super helpful!

It’s never too late for us. We recover and move on wiser. They remain in misery forever.

Not too late - just get out, and unfortunately a long recovery!

Louisa Foster But that “long recovery” is full of blessings. We find our true worth ... which happens to be Lysol for killing off narcissists, lest we attract another.

"Too late", no matter how long it takes, is always way better than "never". Get out, run, run, and don't stop.

We are all damaged in this narcissistic world.

I’m there too now after 18 years. God bless you. I hope you get out safely.

I hope he get right and uall make it on he should care how u feel more and u should under stand for him as a man with God in everything bless bolth of u

Yes!! Time to run!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻

27 years. It’s my past now. Like it never happened. Including my daughter.

I am leaving my husband after 27 years of Narcissistic abuse this time I’m going to do it I hope that I can live the rest of my life in peace I wish you the best

Julie Crue,You are beautiful 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

Stay safe 💚🕊️🙏 I hope you managed to get out!

You invested 28 years learning first hand the behaviors of a Narcissistic demon-being and now you are sharper, keener, faster and stronger!

28 years here too....

35 years....

😢😢😢 thank God you got out

@@anauxistential8486 demon being is such a good name for them😢

You just described my narcissist husband too a tee all of the above and he never apologies for anything because it's always my fault he hates my guts

It's not that they can't. They won't.

He’s like this. Flirtatious with others but me . Says that a relationship is supposed to get boring but he’s Mr flirtatious and fun dude with women that he hides from me

Wow. Yeah. Emotionally abandoned

Yeah isn’t that wierd.? Normal people don’t like to do that.

Wow, that's demonic

They love frustrating you. They win! And they sleep contentedly. Old adage of unknown origin. “Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and besides, the pig likes it.”

This!!!! I realized finally after 10 years, that even last night, when I was sobbing, and pouring my heart out, wanting to go to bed, and just sleep forever (I don’t want to hurt myself btw) just escape. That he had absolutely zero reaction, or concern. This is what it’s been like since after our honeymoon.

Les Nash oh my god yes!

exactly

Describes my ex 10 out of 10! So glad I left!

There it is! Yes!

Ha, no f***ing s***!!!

I'm relocating and he's in jail. In addition to all of the videos on this subscription, my ex narc was extremely physically abusive. He would do this in addition to all of his other sick games to distract me while he would go and cheat. I found out that in addition to other female supply's, he was meeting other men for sex as well, In my apt. parking lot! Get this, Dr ssed in similar clothes and a wig that looked just like me! How sick is that? I could go on and on. I have multiple permanent physical injuries , but not permanently mental. We can do something about the mental. Leave asap! I don't care how. Just leave everything behind and go! Never look back! You will be so glad you did. My health is restoring after only one week away. They truly are soulless pieces of sh%!

@@angelaslaton3211 that is some of the creepiest abuses I've ever read of in narcissist vids. I truly hope you are blessed with people in your life who are compassionate and civilized. I would welcome blessings of healthfulness and healing for anyone who has suffered insane abuses from any type of narcissist.

I'm praying for you 🙏💕

If you haven't left yet ... Please do. Don't be like my mother, she died of cancer after staying married to my extremely toxic and abusive father for 35 years. She had no happiness in her life apart from us kids and in the end she didn't want to live anymore. Leave and find happiness, on your own or with someone much better. Nobody deserves the horrible life with a narcissist.

Never tell a NARC you are leaving, it truly dangerous. First opportunity gather what you can carry and run. Pre planning is crucial to your safety. I got the window of opportunity just as pandemic was hitting and so glad I spent 2 yrs preplanning. Packed up very organized belongings and RAN, hard and fast, never looked back, no regrets and what a massive sense of relief. Happily divorced now 2 months.

Same, praying for you please pray for me as well.

I'll pray for you. I wasn't really the praying type before but after what I've been through, it definitely helps

Get with a good church group or two.

Same here! After 32 years! We can all do this. Hang in there

me too!

@@beatrizmartinez4381 Me too! How would you feel if you found out that he has 4 million dollars in the bank yet gives you nothing???

I was married to one for 33.years. I left him..When he started hitting me..It was time to go...

@@deniselimback1035 40 years- why is it taking so long ...? 😢he’s so good at control

I left and brought the kids. Most important is empowering yourself financially. Then you can leave and support yourself. My ex husband refused for me to work so he can control me when im financially dependent. I got my old job back eventually, regardless of what he wanted. I rented my own place. He couldn't believe I had the will and strength to leave him.

The WORST book on this subject is called "How to get along with Messed Up People." Easy read. Terrible advice.

Thank goodness I was to lazy to read 😂 and found advice on KZfaq

Me too!!

These only works if you receive the same.

Me too, I was practically a saint, did things for him before he even asked. I tried and tried and tried harder, blaming myself for him cheating. I read all the books out there. Followed the advice to the letter. Then I discovered narcissism...and soon after, packed my bags. That was a year ago.

They always say they love you, but in actuality, they don’t know the meaning of the word love.

Valarie crebbs,You don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

I'm sorry you went through that and hope your soul and mind find healing

@@cocogomez2278 Thank you Dutch for your empathy and I'm happy to say that even though it took me many years to find my way I am now healed and restored albeit much stronger for the experience xx. All of us don't go into our marriages thinking it will end in a ruinous heap but when people abuse you it's time to pick up your courage, strength and self-worth and get the heck out of there!

I am not gonna marry mine fuck that shit

Stonewalling = they go to a hotel so they don’t have to talk about the issues.

I am glad I found this on Utube. I lost all my material items because of a bunch of narcissists. But I got God and my soul.

Thank you for that. Just what I need right now.

Me too. Please pray for me.

❤️

Change your phone number before the text and have an unknown address to anybody set in place.

Going through this right now....

Yeah they blame the hell out of you for their entire existence. So dilussional

They already had many supplies for them , but yes absolutely walked off and still recovering

We didnt talk for 6 months. When i walked thrupugh a room he would civer his eyes as if I was discusting. He wrote on the calender Fuc###ed. Isolatex me from any but his family and friends, then when he would think i was so discustning he left. 2weeks 6mth and 3 years. I finally just prayed to fall out of love. And I did.

Condensation. I feel that and hear that every time Kamala speaks.

It was a shock for me...I.had to.ask my friends ..Do I look like a whore? While.wearing leggings and a long shirt..Am I.being a bad wife.cause I went out witj friends once a month..

@@cookingwithtoffeetv9755 It’s understandable now but was so very unfortunate that some part of me was daily being battered by his passive aggressive hatefulness... while the whole time gaslighting with gestures and grand statements of how much he loved me 🤮 it’s an insidious slide downwards and becomes increasingly painful as parts of you acquiesce to their judgements of you. It’s very harmful to your very being.

Oh my God, I am on my way out too. And I never understood why he never reacts! But dear, this is the worst kind of hoovering called reverse hoovering. They just keep getting more evil and brutal. I understood that I was never as weak as he wanted me - so he double and triple the doses of silence treatment. The measage is: we don’t matter! Hang in there - keep remembering what he did to u, until you subconscious acknowledge it! All the nice memories - store them away. They were never real. I too have two adults kids, and I too am afraid of taking away the next face of life: when they marry and get kids, there will not be grandparents and childhood home. But I can not continue this life. I am getting physically ill, started using heart medication. If I get really aick I now understand he will not be by my side- at all! Save yourself- simply because the kids you love so much need you!!

Good luck moving forward! Dr. C

Soon. Very soon. 23 years too many

Shechai Yah,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!

If you haven't left you must now. Things will get better on the other side.

@@scousemouse9715 I'm trying marriage therapy which I have not tried .

I am sorry to read this. Sadly many people here know exactly how stressful this is, myself included. I have been feeling emotionally exhausted for a long long time. I have finally got the courage to make some positive changes to my life this year. I encourage you to do the same. Educate yourself, learn as much as you can about this mental health disorder. Think of yourself as a top priority and start making plans to leave the relationship. We all need to take care of ourselves and do whatever is necessary to make our futures happier and healthier. We deserve a better way of life. Nothing is going to improve while you are having a relationship with a narc. Wishing you all the best xxoo

Same.... I. Now even having feelings anymore. Yes towards my children, they are the light in my life. But I cant even cry anymore, I just feel drained , exhausted and uneasy all the time when he is around

get out youre not a tree move quietly

100% !!!!

Exactly!!

They don't want us but nobody else is going to have us either alot like the mind of a mentally challenged child now that I think about it

@@tommahurin4662 I don't know about that. A lot of mentally challenged children are very sweet, trusting, loving, and loyal.

I apologize for that comment what I should have said was : they don't want us but they don't want anyone else to have us either they are like selfish children in many ways again I apologize if I hurt anyone or offended anyone

Exactly

Me too I feel stupid because he did it for four years plus and I was still confused of what was going on.

❤

So true lol

Oh that's a very familiar feeling.

Ouch

You got this. Take baby steps. As long as you take those steps you’re closer to your peace. Sending prayers to u n urs

Omg in the same boat with u...hes got anger issues to the point where he complains about the smallest insignificant things and then blows up then fake apologizes and ur left with the anxiety and the confused mind as to why hes mad...then the secrets the talking on the phone and isolating himself and then coming back like nothing is wrong yet ignores ur questions and dismisses them with ur imagining things..im sooo done!!!

Peace and sanity for yourself will make the life of your babies much better 🙌🏾🙌🏾🤗🤗

Never stop praying God will do His will

Leave. Jesus will do the rest😊😉

My ex had taken control of everything. My only option: I had to lay down and play dead until it was his idea to leave. It worked, but I don’t recommend it. It took years! Moving forward, I will save and have three months of living expenses stashed in a private account, just in case I need it (for either living or work-related) to get out of dodge.

The Tempest Thank you so much! All my best to you on your journey too. ;)

When I'd had enough of his constant control and it's my way or the highway, he turned it around and he saved face by going to North Carolina to get our property up there ready for me to live in. He didn't love me. We had a pretend marriage and it became progressively worse over time. As a result, I lost 2 adult children initially but the last one, who is just like her dad once his estate settled. I knew in my heart when she got "daddy's money," she would be done with me. I was only a walking ATM MACHINE to her. The last time I saw her was just after Christmas 2019 when I came back from Pennsylvania visiting with my grandson. She decided to meet me and my sister at my bank so I could get my doggies. Shortly thereafter, we had a big blow-up on the phone with her husband lying and she took up for him. I must admit, my stress level is lower and I'm calmer. It's really hard to love a child, you gave birth to and know you'll never see her again.

Michelle Morgan 👍👍👍👍👍. One thumb up wasn’t enough.

His power play was sad and pathetic. He is terribly threatened by Adam as well as your husband. May the Lord Bless and keep you all.

Maybe this is a sign it is time to get help. If you can't confide in friends or family find a good counsellor etc online. This could be the start of a whole new life. Please take care and look after yourself.

Confide in someone and get out quietly. Just disappear. You won’t believe how wonderful a life of peace is. I escaped 8 years ago and just coaching his current wife to cope until she can get out so I understand. Be strong, you must be strong because that’s part of what attracts these people to us, find it again and get out xxx

Please get out. Narcs. don't change and they never will. They don't want to change, because they love the ability to inflict pain onto others. You are in a no win situation. You will never win this battle. These people are not mentally ill, crazy, or insane they are freaks of nature. They are abnormal and not human. Narcs. are pure evil and demon possessed. Please get out if you can. I went no contact and got rid of a couple of narcs. in my life. I have basically fallen off the face of the earth as I have changed my phone number, and have unfriended them on facebook and messanger. Next is to move so they can never find me. I want them out of my life completely and do not want anything else to do with them. I hope your situation is improving and I wish you all the very best in the future. God Bless you.

Hi Liz, awareness is the beginning. You can do this. One step before the other next thing you know you have stepped away. Secretly plan if you prefer to stay put first, then escape with zero conversations. No this is why I'm leaving speeches. Support groups to join are available to us. Get professional help, if you're married get in touch with legal help, if you are being physically abused get away as soon as possible. There are support groups for that too. Mostly know you deserve peace You deserve peace.❤️

I'm kind of in a bad situation myself but I am planning my escape and looking for different places to live. In getting away from one narc I ran into another one. You have to be careful because they can sense the wounded and the unhealed from abuse and will prey on you like a shark to a wounded fish. They are everywhere by the way. I heard 1 out of 7 people have this. Thats about 1 billion people ok n the planet. That's a lot

I have been waiting a long time to support and help, I am now starting with confusion now and I am reversing my stance. I am married to a rotter whom can manipulate my children to think I am thankyou so much, I will take ur full support.

Good for you!

Oh no ! This is all true ...my partner is really a narcissist !

Congratulations on your freedom!

Phew! Thanks for simplifying it. This feels better.

Accurate

💯

This comment made me just break out in tears... You spoke words straight from my heart, and then you have me hope afterwards. Thank you.

What were your parents like? Was she spoiled and overindulged or were parents abusive and/or neglectful?

I totally understand, they are mean and illogical for absolutely no reason. God bless you 😇. I too have a acquaintance that is a narcissist. Its the hardest relationship to be in.I only speak to her if I have to. When I do, it's superficial.Any info she has about me will be lied about or embellished. I give her no power. She is truly a heinous person.

My sister's the same. She confuses me sometimes by giving way too expensive gifts but makes sure she breaks me down emotionally. She makes up horrible stories about my childhood and tells them to my daughter and husband.

Took me a while to figure it all out, narcissistic mother, my younger sister was the golden child & also narcissist. Just she and I now but she did me a favour by retiring to a city too far away for casual visits. Our last mtg was unpleasant and I thought “I’m 70 now, why am I putting up with this rubbish & disrespect”. We email occasionally but that’s it, it’s been 3 yrs now and a weight has gone from my shoulders. Took me a long time to realise for some reason she was jealous of me even tho’ she is materially better off, it I feel part of it was I am comfortable with being myself. I hve good friends and hve no regrets. My only misgiving is I suspect she has lied abt the reason for our lack of contact to cousins living overseas as I no longer hear from them regularly either. Ultimately I feel I am still better off for my own peace of mind.

Da. Wow. !!! . That's a shame but I am so happy to hear that you finally got the courage to get up and go sometimes as human beings I'm not necessarily talking to you it's everyone it's very hard when you're stuck financially sometimes to move away from these types of people and they just keep abusing and abusing and abusing and they . Never change. I had some of the same problems but in a different way. I recently stopped talking to my sister because I couldn't stand all the drama and I just felt like I was being belittled and put down and I was trying my hardest and my niece is neither one of them are any good either. Only to find out after all these years I spent a bad aunt which I never thought I was.? Who knew? . I think that some people are very funny when they want you to forget what they did in the past but they certainly want to bring up with you did in the past to me that's a hypocrite..... what's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander.. hope I said that right to everybody that might be reading this if you're in one of these relationships get out before you lose your sanity

FIGHTING LION 13 he was my father and my (ex) husband.

@@Alpinewild444 She's/ he's talking about Dr. Carter! 😁

Nancy L ah! thank you. oh my gosh, you can see how this is a concept i can’t even fathom!

@@Nancy-yw1rr Good. I almost had a heart attack. Lol😂

...mine is ...i am 62..he is 91...

I hope you're okay. I know how hard it is im going through severe illness as well and thesempeople make it so much worse. Hope all your treatment as gone well, stay safe 😷👋

Stella Mulkey,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

Nancy L just like my ex

@@Canaday291 So sorry. I think many narcs are substance abusers, and alcohol is easily accessible.

@@Nancy-yw1rr i agree. My husband did the same thing. When i told him i would like to have a date night he told me "We aren't in high school anymore....."

@@flamingsword777 That's so sad. Then they wonder why we aren't thrilled to merely be in their presence...

@@Nancy-yw1rr exactly. They act like they are our heroes and fathers. I can tell it irritates him that i seek Jesus constantly. I feel like he feels threatened by this?

Emily Grace,hope you are not with a narcissist!

@@lioydwilliams1850 Not anymore . TY

@@debwebbowsky you deserve better my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?

@@debwebbowsky which country are you from?

Wow- I’m glad you got away- I’m sad for women who aren’t as empowered as we are- it’s hard enough for us! Similar situation for me. It’s really scary. Wishing decency, respect, civility for us all!

It is very typical for narcs to marry young girls from other countries. It is far easier to figure them out when you can understand that their communications are just odd. It’s difficult for a foreign woman speaking a different language to figure out a narcissist at first. That’s why you almost always see male narcissists with foreign women.

I totally get all of what you say. I can relate 100%. Mines learning Chinese for his work...yeah...

you described my relationship with exnarc last words: why are you not with her or her? or this one? maybe you will be happy, who knows? we were sitting in coffeteria, surronded with women/girls he usually humiliated me with

Exactly- I don’t want to fight him in court because he’s evil

Get away or it will destroy your children....narcissists make children narcissists

I realized that any co-parenting was going to be a constant fight, so I stopped fighting. I treated him like a stranger and never discussed how I was parenting my children, so he couldn't argue with me about it. And I let him do his own thing with my kids. It was difficult to trust that he would take care of them in his presence. But I had to do it, for my own sanity. When he finally realized I wasn't going to try to co-parent, he stopped fighting too. I raised my children the best way I knew how. I gave him NO reason to take me to court in regards to the raising of my children. Two of them moved with him, and found out on their own what a mess he truly is. I didn't wish that on them, at all! But I needed them to see him for who he really is, without me standing up for him like I always had in the past. They both moved out of his house and on their own, soon enough. Our relationships have been strained, because I am sure they can't decipher the truth from his lies, but I just keep loving them and supporting them, hoping they will realize that I was never the "bad guy". My oldest boy speaks to me again and comes to visit when he can. My middle lady is still angry, but she is only out of his house for a year now. She has called me a few times, since moving out. I hadn't heard from her for 4 years. My youngest girl lives with me, so there is hope there!! Just be you, and I am sure your children will eventually see the light, like you did! But I know it is so hard to wait for this. Keep your children your first priority, and let go of him. He will "kill" you and your kids, slowly, otherwise. Good luck!

My ordeal....

I used the kids as an excuse to be trapped. By doing so I trapped them also. If you can't free yourself free your kids get out

My adult cousins don't talk to their mom anymore. And when they were in high school they joined every sport and club they could to get out of the house. Then, when they graduated high school they left for college and never went back.

My mom abused me to the point I wasn't even allowed to play sports I wanted to play bc I guess she feared me shining. Now I'm thirty and she's fifty and wants a relationship. Projected her sick ass feelings on me vmy whole life. Now she thinks I will play her game. Sweetheart, get your independence on as much as you can. Your mom will not like it but you have no mom. You have enemy. That's even worse.

Indeed!! 😢😥😓

Some of these are far more than narcissism. For example, a narcissist will just want you to know what they like and they want you to cook from them every day. They aren't usually militant or trying to create a robot because they need you to have faults. If they are just creating a robot it goes against their fuel needs. Also, they seem to like the crying woman lol. As long as she is crying out of guilt or something he can make her feel guilty about.

Almost I experienced are in. The list .it hurts me.and leave me whenni dont.have money to.give anymore.

@@Rumplegirlskin "they need you to have faults." THAT! Absolutely.

EPIC.. !!!

1-4 hit me like a punch.

80% narcs

Society produces narcs, as of now

I’m convinced everything ans anything wrong with the world is because of narcissism. And the greatest narcissist of all was satan.

I’m a nurse too Stay at home mom now with two kids under 2 I feel powerless to leave

@@chrisharris2367 you are strong. It’s takes a village ask someone close for help with the kids. Try and go back into nursing again once you find purpose the urge to leave will become an action. U got this.

Omg sooooo true. He constantly tells me what happened or why I did something or what I was thinking over events wherein he wasn't even present!

How do these evil creatures survive thier whole lives without someone taking a bat and caving in thier skulls I have learned that I have way more control over my temper than I used to think I had but I still let the BS get to me and if she starts her crap early in the day I will be in a bad mood for most of if not all of the day and I don't know how much longer I can stand it 😔😔

Yes, me right now >>>🗻

How do you do that my narc can take my anger from zero to sixty in about five seconds it sucks that after four years I find out that she feeds on that ?

@@tommahurin4662 learn how to respond and reply instead of react. Step 1 is realize she's baiting you and don't go for it.

Tom Mahurin That’s called having “Narc Fleas”. Google it....

Why I choose to be single ...better off being myself free without being the gray rock which doesn’t work long either since they get annoyed at that too and derive some bs accusations just to get argument going so there is conversation ...almost like they feed off the stirring up drama and bs

dawn franklin,your lovely smile can make the news!

Me too. Dr. C

Yes! I don't bother with my narc dad so he can't try to make me feel insecure! I win!

I'm so sorry that this is such a sad reality and for you specifically. Well said but so heartbreaking.

Hang in there man. It will work out.

I know exactly what you're going through because I'm going through the same

Are you doing any better, Donald?

How are you doing sweetie? Know that WE care......... ❤️

You're not alone Donald. Felt the same, my therapist is who I have to talk to. Really recommend you find one. I don't know your story, but mine is that narcissistic parents has resulted in all my relationships are with narcissists. Which I recognised and walked away from. Lonely, depressing, hard work on self. Hang in there!

I will pray for you Elle Jesus will help you He's true to His word Blessings to you

elle: perhaps start voicing/claiming positive traits your/ and his, what a loving, nurturing and caring your husband CAN be/IS, soon enough he will want to live up to your standard, Gods standard. Shy away from claiming in fact professing "he's destroying m*" that will not be his victory , avoid throwing in the towel. Edify your spouse, uplift your children , proclaim your good mental, physical and spiritual health. Your creator already blessed you with a purpose (not a martyr), just like the papaya seed is already destined to become a life giving tree in turn will not your maker take care of you, who is most precious in his sight. So, straighten your 👑 crown and get on with this. Blessings 🇨🇷elvia🇨🇷

I know it is hard - but find someone to talk too. And plan your exit!! I am on my way out after 32 years! I feel so stupid I didn’t understand his game. You can do this! You can!

@@Lailat854 I left him shortly after I posted that comment. I’m soooo happy now and with a remarkable man for a year now. I am happy and adored and respected. I’m experiencing real love finally. Thank you. I hope you are ok. ♥️

I gave up my narcissistic mother when i was 13 years old...meet her when i was 29 years trying having relationship she was the same crazy maker nut job ..good for you 👍 no contact

I moved out at 21 and I’m 40 right now and my mother still don’t get it smh

I can completely relate to this

When I cry, he says: Don't even start that shit!

@@sandiehiti5008 😮 Yes!!! Omg! Twins!