The “8 years of organic learning can be replaced with 6 months of intentional learning” gives me hope after feeling like I've wasted too much time
@the1stmetalhead Жыл бұрын
Same. 5 years of porn addiction has completely ruined my life. Hopefully I can take my life in a better direction 6 months from now.
@JonathanS344 Жыл бұрын
@@the1stmetalhead How did you end up getting over the addiction?
@the1stmetalhead Жыл бұрын
@@JonathanS344 I haven't completely. I've been trying for 2-3 years. But always end up relapsing and going back to watching the most f'd up stuff. Although figuring out what triggers me and replacing those habit patterns with something positive has helped me. The more I stay outside of the house and the more busy I am engaged in some activities, the less likely I am to resort to porn to seek some sort of pleasure or dopamine. Also understanding that sobriety is not the solution to addiction. It's actually a connection to either your purpose or people around you. Hanging out with groups of people has definitely been the most helpful thing to me. When you stay alone you almost always end up looking for porn. I personally haven't reached out to a therapist because I'm broke. But in the future I hope to and figure out what negative emotion it is that I'm trying to run away from by watching pornography and also like Dr K said meaninglessness is a big cause of p addiction. So having a goal, a job, and a task should definitely help you in beating this toxic habit.
@bennymountain1 Жыл бұрын
One intentional thing that helped me was not complete abstinence, but rationing. Like, I'd literally set a weekly alarm to jerk off. That way it wasn't gnawing at the back of my mind all day, but was off-loaded to a device. When the time came (lmao) I set a timer to spend no more than 15 minutes. Boom. Productive adult member of society for the rest of the week. Another un-intentional thing was getting so busy with work, social hobbies, regular workouts, city hiking, friends and eventually gf, so I never had idle time to even think about spanking the monkey. So basically making sure there's someone counting on me to be someplace in person. Leave idle loneliness to stronger willed folks)
@Hemlocker Жыл бұрын
It's probably a bit of an exaggeration depending on what it is and your situation, but the general idea is true imo
@siajabu Жыл бұрын
The fact that Destiny wasn't multitasking by playing a game in the background tells you how invested he was in this discussion but almost certainly its because he was engaging with Dr. K.
@kaneblackie1647 Жыл бұрын
he probably was. Cant see his feed just K.
@kayleighohler9999 Жыл бұрын
he was gaming watch his eyes
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
He wasn't gaming on his video of this conversation, and I doubt he would hide himself gaming when he's openly done it for several dozen conversations that he's had with people
@japhalpha Жыл бұрын
@@kayleighohler9999yea and notes, emails, and probably gaming too
@idkhbtfmandnowimsad994 Жыл бұрын
It felt like he was taking notes at times + typing shit in chat
@hectorcm2063 Жыл бұрын
We all can agree Destiny lost this debate
@jackdren9974 Жыл бұрын
As always
@SidVirtuous Жыл бұрын
His first mistake was having a woman's name. Amazin'
@gnatdagnat Жыл бұрын
parasocial LSF vultures
@darksesh8247 Жыл бұрын
@@SidVirtuous also ok for letting his girl get train wreck. Amazin’
@zoulzopan Жыл бұрын
@Dark Sesh the streamer?
@Supaawesomeification Жыл бұрын
Never dated anyone (and was a virgin) until about two years after I graduated college. Six month of intentional learning how to be a good supportive boyfriend and also how sex works definitely easily replaced that “lost” decade of experiences. Speaking from experience, it’s all gonna be ok guys. Sometimes it just takes longer than you’d want
@fiat_ow7876 Жыл бұрын
Thats awesome! What did you do/learn during that period of intentional learning?
@Supaawesomeification Жыл бұрын
@@fiat_ow7876 met a friend of a friend and we immediately fell for each other. I wanted to be the best person I could for her so I very intentionally worked on my communication skills and we’ve only gotten stronger as a couple. We’re pretty different so we’ve both learned a LOT about life and relationships from each other. Coming up on two years and they’ve been the best of my life
@fiat_ow7876 Жыл бұрын
@@Supaawesomeification dude that’s fucking awesome man. Really sounds like something I need at my point in life right now. I wish you the best
@MrGinga85 Жыл бұрын
Same! I didn't have my first relationship until 23 and didn't lose my virginity until then either. Now she's my wife, we have a house, I have a good job, and life is good! I was so scared of rejection but as soon as I actually tried I went on multiple dates and pretty quickly found the one I married.
@VorticyHP Жыл бұрын
i'm so happy for you guys! its good that all of that waiting paid off! i've wanted to be in a relationship for many years but i was always so scared to talk to girls and even in my mid 20s i still can't do it! lol!
@MrBlueeyes247 Жыл бұрын
Stream starts at 9:00
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
Bless
@rickymort135 Жыл бұрын
Ooh look at Mr helpful here I bet you think you're sooooo helpful....
@jp.dlamini Жыл бұрын
Gesundheit
@novembie8577 Жыл бұрын
@@rickymort135 Oh no... Rick and Morty fan detected
@Lifeneverlost Жыл бұрын
15:42 is when I feel it really starts with Destiny showing up
@AllAmericanFrog Жыл бұрын
It's always nice to see the two of you interact, thank you Dr. K
@lizardltd Жыл бұрын
I find that Steven does something very interesting, which is when he and someone else accidentally talk over each other, he would say "go ahead", but also will repeat the last thing that person said. It could just be me, but I don't see it done often, and I find it very considerate and shows how interested you are in the other person's perspective. Really cool
@SpanishPaulDank-lg3km Жыл бұрын
There's actually a conversation technique so to say in Japanese that I think everyone uses there. They often repeat parts of sentences the other person said and I guess they reinforce their attention and all that. I do not know what consequences this has, in what way talking changes but I just think that's quite similar.
@theyfukenwmesubliminally10 ай бұрын
It lets the other person know you listened and now are adressing and adding your opinion on what exactly they said, so they can also better understand how what youre saying relates to what theyve said, and what youre trying to get across to them with it. Effective communication skills.
@EviloveMetal Жыл бұрын
This will blow your mind - there was a recent meta-analysis that compiled dozens of high quality studies on depression, anxiety, and even schizophrenia, to figure out if there was a common thread underlying them all. After controlling for a host of spurious factors across all the populations, the conclusion for the study found a statistically significant and undeniable proof in the data that Destiny is indeed a girl's name.
@Chris-il5im Жыл бұрын
MF 🤣
@Kushufy Жыл бұрын
got me bad 😔😔😔
@ricecream55 Жыл бұрын
Amazin’
@Nisowyd Жыл бұрын
Bruh 😂😂😂
@rohanjarande Жыл бұрын
Haters will ask for a peer review.
@piewert787 Жыл бұрын
I learned more from this conversation than most media I've consumed over the past year. The information density is fantastic. Thank you for your incredibly insightful commentary. Both you and Destiny.
@piewert787 Жыл бұрын
Genuinely I feel privileged to witness such a discussion. WOW. All I can say is wow.
@itsonlyagame4033 Жыл бұрын
for sure
@maggoteater2290 Жыл бұрын
nerd
@Pdrock2001 Жыл бұрын
Density and Destiny lmao 😂
@TheFranchfry Жыл бұрын
This has to be one of the most brain stretching conversations I've heard in a while.
@YoUtUbEhAnDlEsArEgReAt Жыл бұрын
Oh, my! Whatever will I do with these sudden surplus of wrinkles on my brain? Tee Hee!
@reiggier9211 Жыл бұрын
@@YoUtUbEhAnDlEsArEgReAt hide shit in the folds maybe?
@gdfyredragan22706 ай бұрын
@nuaveblack i think that’s just you being unable to differentiate your own opinions from someone of a content creators.
@peepeepoopoo7096 Жыл бұрын
this stream was liquid gold, i’m so happy i got to listen to these both ppl talk in such a healthy manner even if they had differing opinions, i honestly learnt a lot
@matchasgotcha Жыл бұрын
Was able to tune into half of it and this seemed like a good stream. I agree with Dr. K - I like how Destiny moved conversations and addresses opposing opinions
@Cedrou21 Жыл бұрын
Dr. k: I love talking to you man 😃 Destiny: sure -__- Lmao
@uhnah7652 Жыл бұрын
Lmao destiny just needs to remember this is Dr K and not Mr Girl
@kxrma932 Жыл бұрын
timestamp?
@kxrma932 Жыл бұрын
nvm i found it lol 31:37
@overscoresam948 Жыл бұрын
In reference to Dr. K last talk with Destiny, this is just him again personifying his inner Cloud Stryfe. Its not that the guy do not have positive expression of emotion. Its just when he does expresses it, the most you will get is a response like this and this is considered one of his most endearing expressions
@maiqtheliar_ Жыл бұрын
sociopath lol
@akprice17 Жыл бұрын
Destiny: “I only wanna take a strong position on something that I feel incredibly grounded in, and for everything else I want to leave myself open to change”
@BilliamTorpedo Жыл бұрын
yeah he said that
@BygoneT Жыл бұрын
And is that a bad thing
@10lbs Жыл бұрын
@@BygoneT no, lol.
@quinnrafferty4635 Жыл бұрын
@@BilliamTorpedo you’re right
@IgonDrakeWarrior Жыл бұрын
Ok
@Justin-mc4me Жыл бұрын
these convos are the best dr k content, love the lectures but something hits different about these more casual vids
@kc-nh1zt Жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed the videos from years back where Dr. K talked with Devin Nash about mental health, I think it would be interesting to see another talk as a part of Mental Health May
@clarose9999 Жыл бұрын
I mean just... wow. Never have I felt compelled to take out a notebook and write down pieces of advice from media before, but this video is different. It seems as though each topic they speak on has so much value to the average person, so much PRACTICAL information that can be applied in one's life immediately. They are truly incredible people, who have spent so much time learning about life and mental health. I'll be keeping this in my saved videos forever.
@Yuvraj.11 ай бұрын
What were some of your key takeaways from this video?
@ElDragow Жыл бұрын
I feel like Destiny and Dr K complement eachother so well. They are both similar in the fact that they're clearly very smart introspective guys, but they personalities are complete opposite and that makes for good convo's.
@0Scoops Жыл бұрын
from my perspective that lack of friction and struggle is because people like me are in a difficult economic situation so we kind of get funneled into very few paths and options. So when you're forced to pick between options that don't work for you, you don't want to put in the extra sacrifice for it time and time again. I want to struggle to get the important things in life, but i'm not even allowed to do that sometimes. People make better decisions when they're in better positions to improve their lives.
@anewbeggin Жыл бұрын
My favorite collab. Thanks guys!
@Chris-il5im Жыл бұрын
Great content Dr. K. I’m new to your channel and your conversation with Destiny was very interesting and insightful. Big W to the moderation in the live chat for temporarily banning some of the worst chatters I ever seen in a long time. This is supposed to be a positive and safe space for intelligent discourse.
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
It is, but also a place where people with poor mental health may gather.
@Chris-il5im Жыл бұрын
@@WanderTheNomad You are probably right, the personal attacks were so nasty. Disgusting.
@rentaltoast2201 Жыл бұрын
@@Chris-il5im you should probably look into destinys history more if you think that the chatters were disgusting
@meltygear5955 Жыл бұрын
@@rentaltoast2201 Two wrongs don't make a right
@rentaltoast2201 Жыл бұрын
@@meltygear5955 okay? destiny is still gross himself that fact remains
@ambarlostinthewoods3080 Жыл бұрын
I was hoping this would happen again and here we are, i love listening to you too
@StochasticUniverse Жыл бұрын
49:09 "as you get older, there really are a lot of things you learn with age" Of course. I'm reminded of the quote from Muhammed Ali, who was quite radical in his youth and then became much more mild and temperate as he got older: "If a man is the same man at age 50 as he was at age 20, he's just wasted 30 years of his life." Nobody should want to stay the same as they get older. It just means you haven't grown at all, and if you aren't growing, what's the point of being alive?
@fukumei Жыл бұрын
Why do you think growing is the point of being alive?
@dang96685 ай бұрын
Destiny is amazing. I found him through dr K. I love These interviews I cannot enough of them and I don’t Know why. I have Bipolar depression (recently diagnosed about 2 weeks ago), I’m also diagnosed with MDD (major depressive disorder), anxiety, I also have medication to help me sleep if I’m having trouble. My psychiatrist says I have hallmarks of add/adhd but I haven’t been prescribed with any medication. I’ve known I am hyperactive for years, but I’m scared to ask because I’m not sure I could handle another diagnosis within two months. I have had disorders my whole life and am only now learning to live with it because I’ve just been diagnosed at 38. I hope my family is trying to understand it too but I’m not sure. Thanks for the content Dr K
@douglasr8036 Жыл бұрын
I’m only a couple minutes in but since May is mental health awareness month I wanted to bring attention to the upcoming World Narcissistic Abuse Day. It’s a global event that takes place annually on June 1. Could you maybe offer your time to address this complex subject, please?
@eddierayvanlynch6133 Жыл бұрын
Seconded. Thanks, Douglas 👍😎
@hyuqoh Жыл бұрын
The last hour is fantastic and really interesting topics I haven't considered
@joewesterland5697 Жыл бұрын
I think the natural way for a human to experience emotions is as objective features of the world. Its only since the advent of language and categorizing these feelings that we are able to separate them from our experience of reality. For example, I used to consider myself to be a person who didn't feel jealousy. Its only fairly recently that I noticed that I actually do feel jealousy however the way I would have previously conceptualized this feeling was like "I'm not jealous... their just really annoying". I think that this is the way in which people who are unaware of there emotions experience emotional states.
@YesJellyfish Жыл бұрын
Loved this and other Dr K & Destiny convo's. I really appreciate Destiny's approach.
@Hemlocker Жыл бұрын
Dr K is gonna show up on Chris Williamson's podcast soon? That's so hype
@TannisHenriksen8 ай бұрын
From age 11 I went from my grandmother's to my mother's. And at my mother's I learned how to get away with literally everything. My poor mom was an alcoholic so no boundaries.. Today at 61 I'm still like that. Aimless. I've spent a lot of time focusing on changing that, then got diagnosed w adhd.. Like three months ago😂 listening to Dr k has really helped me more than all the therapists I've ever seen and still see. Light at the end of the tunnel.😂 I've spent my whole life getting away with it all..or so I wrongly thought. Now the price is high because I've not worked towards the age I am now. No savings. No security. Instant gratification with everything but that's a hell of a lot harder than setting a goal and actually working towards it.
@elixorvideos Жыл бұрын
Damn this was fire from start to finish I'm not even joking, 3 hours of complete engagement holy hell
@katiescape Жыл бұрын
I love talks like these because I used to think Destiny and I were very different on our view points, the more I watch or listen to people I used to disagree with and not understand the more I learn we are not so different afterall. Life should not be an echo chamber and we all have something to learn from somebody. People are multi-faceted, no one person can be right or wrong, its important we take all the bits from each other and learn.
@reallivebluescat Жыл бұрын
Destiny at 15:37
@lordoflobsters7254 Жыл бұрын
Its kinda funny how all of the "positive community" messaging goes down the toilet once some of the people in this community see someone that disagrees with them politically.
@Yuvraj. Жыл бұрын
And it’s not even that big of a difference. Narcissism of small differences, I guess.
@nozers Жыл бұрын
It’s really disappointing
@ledernierutopiste Жыл бұрын
Don't trust comments. People who are extremists tend to be overrepresented in comments to post negative things when they see a political opponent because they want you to hate them. It's purely manipulation and you're dumb if you fall for it.
@derp2018 Жыл бұрын
lol yea was looking at youtube chat and its just weird accusation flying everywhere
@Adam-tu1lk Жыл бұрын
Empathy for me and not for thee
@andulasis6283 Жыл бұрын
jesus i was looking forward to this one but its a long ass video :D thanks for both of your time and effort and that we can watch these videos for free! :)
@scottlott3794 Жыл бұрын
What an awesome conversation. Loved this whole thing.
@starrizardstarrmander3461 Жыл бұрын
Adults with memory loss are twice as more likely to kill themselves than their counterparts. This is how we lost our beautiful Robin Williams. Working in an Alzheimer's home, I can attest, they want to die. And its heartbreaking.
@rickhernandez7631 Жыл бұрын
Holy shit... I finally understand why I have so much trouble finding motivation. I am 33 now, but when I was 23, I decided to move out from my parents house. The reason? Because I felt like every aspect of my life had been decided for me and for once, I wanted some control, some say, as to what to do. Simplest things like what to wear, what to eat, what to watch, what to play, who to talk to, how to decorate my room, how to cut/ style my hair, what to believe in, how to spend my free time, and as I got older, where to work, and what college to go to, had to be decided by my parents. I felt like my life was being lived for me, and so I packed my shit one day, and left. It was a shock to them ofcourse, because they had no clue I was gonna leave everything they had provided for me, and just figure shit out on my own. They were sad and angry, but they still told me that I was welcome to return if I ever needed to. But I refused. 10 years later, I still have the same job, I work from home, as a leather carver for this boot company. I droped out of college 2 years after I left my parents, and as much as Id like to go back, I struggle so much deciding what to go back for. I live alone, and I usually stay home just carving leather, really only have 1 friend, I have 2 youger brothers that I love so much, and have a girlfriend, that has to put up with me being so antisocial and reclusive, because I really like being alone here in my apartment. But even having their support, I find it very difficult to stay in task, often falling behind with work, and always finding ways to distract myself here. Lately, Ive been really wanting to do more, stepping up my game, from solely carving on leather, to creating my own business, and perhaps make my own leather products. Im also really interested on nutrition, and the way it affects the mind, and lately been looking into the investment world, long term/ day trading and the sorts. But I just dont have the motivation, I dont know where I should start, sometimes I feel like theres a lot of things I want to do, but I become overwhelemed about where to begin, which one i should focus on, and as a 33 year old, I feel like my time is running out. Also, I hate people offering me help whether its monetary, offfering me a job, or telling me I should do this and that, mainly because my whole younger life, I was told what to do. I feel like I need to figure things out on my own, and so, It feels like Im trapped, because I know that if I let people help me, my life could probably improve, but I just dont want to. I have to be capable of figuring things out on my own, or else I feel like Im failing myself and that means that I will always need someone to tell me how to live, and to me, thats fucking pathetic.
@Barrytheeverchosen Жыл бұрын
Ah, mature conversation is so refreshing
@chelseainman4285 Жыл бұрын
This was such a fantastic philosophical discussion
@FigmentHF Жыл бұрын
Destiny has really matured since I was watching him back in 2016
@TheAbsoluteSir Жыл бұрын
Leaving the far left will do that to you. Oh, and age as well :)
@MidnightEkaki Жыл бұрын
@@TheAbsoluteSir he was never far left, please understand what you're talking about first before using those terms
@ThySheepie Жыл бұрын
@@MidnightEkakityty
@chrisjfox87158 ай бұрын
How so?
@CoolSmek Жыл бұрын
There are a lot of great topics covered in this conversation. I'll have to remember to come back to this video from time-to-time to review and re-digest the discussion. 🌞
@calebhickermell449210 ай бұрын
I don't know how to socialize anymore. After therapy and meditation, I feel super disconnected from people. Most people want to either socialize at Church/Bar. Both feel empty to me. I feel like I have to pretend to make friends. I'm 32 and all the friends I had in my 20s (bar friends) aren't my "friends" anymore. Idk where or how to meet people. When I randomly meet people too I feel so disconnected. Either attracting people that want/need help and I'm tired of being people's therapists, I want a friend. OR people that care about, what I feel like, are superficial things. So I end up having to be disingenuous/inauthentic. IDK where or how to make friends and it feels like the Simpsons meme of Grandpa. "I used to be cool and part of IT. Now what is cool is weird and scares me. It'll happen to you too"/
@1andOnlyTotality Жыл бұрын
It’s called the limbic system. We identify with our worldviews because our worldviews inform what we viscerally believe to be an accurate map of reality, as in how to survive, what to do and what is best, and this shapes our identities, too, it’s all tied together. If someone then questions your worldview, that, by extension, is an attack on your identity and your boundaries in terms of what you believe on a gut level is what you need to do to survive, so it feels like the equivalent of literally being attacked, like by a wild animal, switching on the sympathetic nervous system and going into fight or flight mode. It’s also called cognitive dissonance. Because of our modern ideologies, informed by ideas that are detached from real survival, real perspective, we develop these ill fitting identities. There are tons of other factors involved, of course, but that’s the geist of it.
@myusernamewasinuse Жыл бұрын
Kind of sad they didnt get to talk about the mental impact of living as a man with a girls name.
@bruhattherate Жыл бұрын
You get to be a millionaire and have a hot gf
@xLOVESUPREME Жыл бұрын
this was such a great conversation. so much information and ideas
@trvnq Жыл бұрын
1:48:15 Exactly. People have the outcomes of these service (friends on discord, convenience of food delivery apps, etc.) and are still miserable, which should be a testament to these so called “conveniences” being anything but. It all comes down to money and greed though lol.
@seekingfinding6204 Жыл бұрын
Destiny's talking so fast I keep checking my playback speed!
@pixelPantsuu Жыл бұрын
same HAHAH
@undeadman7676 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I keep forgetting to drop it from 2.0x to 1.75x when Destiny's on stream.
@jjQlLlLq Жыл бұрын
He gotta talk fast to explain "simple" claims that debate opponents often give that actually lacks important details after all lol, especially when the opponent like to battle with just being tribalistic & loud
@BathoryDusk Жыл бұрын
It's partly why I actually enjoy listening to Destiny. Especially during debates. So many people are so long winded and take forever to make a point. But Tiny here speaks quickly and concisely when making his points. Its so refreshing.
@ellemred Жыл бұрын
For the first time, I didn't have to manually increase the speed
@oliveranderson79628 ай бұрын
I love how they wanted to wrap up and kept talking for over half an hour xD great conversation! Thanks
@hecatrice2064 Жыл бұрын
2:31:46 The exact moment Dr.K thought of the greatest roast of all time
@cindy61511 ай бұрын
I was never encouraged to cry and actually learned it was best not to cry. From school experiences as well as at home. I can go to the funeral of someone I love dearly and not shed a tear. And it's not a good thing.
@TheSharpSword17 ай бұрын
feelin sad for someone is okey but to cry means you value something too much so it is a natural result of that it is kinda normal if its your parents too but is it supposed to be encouraged ? i can grayp you tf out if you want to cry that much and you decide if its good thing , if its good then i wouldve committed a virtue by doint this :D
@yelnatsch517 Жыл бұрын
1:05:00 this is interesting because the only reason I engage in discussion the vast majority of the time is to learn what I might be missing. The conversation may sound like a debate, but I’m actually most of the time merely trying to figure out how two rational intelligent people could possibly come to two different conclusions if given the same set of facts. For me, it’s never about winning or losing. I don’t remember a single time I’ve ever thought about trying to win in a conversation or debate. It’s also probably why although I sound very obstinate in my beliefs, people are often surprised at how quickly I change them when presented with new information.
@elliotbennett3917 Жыл бұрын
I unfortunately don’t have 3 hours to watch all of this. are there some moments people can clue me into to get a grasp of important stuff?
@emilieduchesne6757 Жыл бұрын
Interesting thing about range of acceptable mistakes at 25 - 35
@jokerman9623 Жыл бұрын
Just put it on while you do something else. It works great as a talk show while working
@thebleaki Жыл бұрын
Had to check to make sure I didn't have playback speed sped up at some points when blue hair was talking
@sofiavallejo1358 Жыл бұрын
Loving this content! One of the best conversations
@matcha.always Жыл бұрын
is dr K partnered with youtube now? i've seen a lot of his recent streams be on youtube
@reallivebluescat Жыл бұрын
When it comes to this, Destiny is banned from Twitch so the interview has to be done here
@ingmar1831 Жыл бұрын
He wanted to reach a broader audience by using both twitch and KZfaq streams
@raresmocanu1743 Жыл бұрын
Twitch recently dropped their exclusivity clauses so pretty much everyone started streaming to multiple platforms (mostly KZfaq)
@sanjikun206 Жыл бұрын
Can't express how much I love this crossover. I'm not even a hard fan of neither of them
@azkavan1 Жыл бұрын
Can someone tell me the name of the paper that Dr.K was referencing around @2:35:04 about factors affecting learning in rats
@khyati7733 Жыл бұрын
Ive missed the interviews! Keep em coming
@MsOmgnowai2Ай бұрын
I pressed play on this video and completely forgot it was running while I did my work. the “chat” at 9 minutes scared the absolute crap outta me
@No_OneV7 ай бұрын
Always fun to see these two talk.
@greatgyatso5429 Жыл бұрын
I think the whole “emotionality is for women” only sells because anger and lust have somehow been re-branded as “not emotions”
@reiggier9211 Жыл бұрын
Is lust an emotion? I think lust is just sexual desire right?
@marytheresadavis7071 Жыл бұрын
@@reiggier9211 Id consider it emotion in the same way « love » or « infatuation » is an emotion. Lust is a feeling, and it can influence your behavior. Yeah it’s rooted in sexual attraction, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t an emotion. I think in many ways your question echoes OP’s point. Love and heartbreak have been branded archetypically feminine so are more clearly seen as emotions. Lust is more archetypically masculine, so is viewed less as an emotion.
@greatgyatso5429 Жыл бұрын
@@reiggier9211 Horniness is definitely an emotion
@reiggier9211 Жыл бұрын
@@greatgyatso5429 I don't think so yeah that doesn't seem right to me. I don't know how to argue it but it doesn't express itself to me in my consciousness as an emotion it just seems like being horny.
@paulcashew5795 Жыл бұрын
@@reiggier9211 Well that could be said for any emotion really. Lust is influenced by your situation and influences your behavior and mood. I would classify that as an emotion.
@redorchidee137 Жыл бұрын
I can't stop thinking about Walt busting into Jesse's van, going "why are you BLUE???"
@brawl145 Жыл бұрын
Why do I wanna quit cannabis? The reasons are twofold: 1 - because I want to be able to pass a drug test and 2 - because I'd rather spend the money I spent on weed on Warframe instead.
@paulandreasallik Жыл бұрын
Baaaased
@banqsterz8160 Жыл бұрын
How's the new update?
@brawl145 Жыл бұрын
@@banqsterz8160 Pretty fun, I gotta say
@newuser689 Жыл бұрын
yeah but then u cant play Warframe while high so what's the point?
@raresmocanu1743 Жыл бұрын
@@newuser689 you can still play high on caffeine.
@chi.chosen Жыл бұрын
This is completely unrelated but Dr. K is 40?? First guy Ive seen to reverse age. Wow. I thought he was like 28-30
@VioletEmerald Жыл бұрын
This is what most 40 year Olds look like. Hate to break it to you. 40 isn't old.
@chi.chosen Жыл бұрын
@@VioletEmerald most 40 year olds look 40. Just like most 60 year olds look 60 and most 20 yr olds look 20. He looks younger, is what I’m saying. Lets not act like you can’t gauge someone age based on appearance. When did i say 40 was old?
@newuser689 Жыл бұрын
asians dont get old until 60 tbh
@you-naminetwork6060 Жыл бұрын
@@chi.chosen I could see thinking he's in his mid-thirties but if you actually thought Dr.K was 28, your age-detection game needs serious calibration.
@clonerstive Жыл бұрын
3 HOUR TALK LETSGOOOOOO! :D love this
@LeisesChaos Жыл бұрын
I WATCHED 3 Hours of this podcast and don't regret 😂
@merihs.7944 Жыл бұрын
U gotta talk bout dad issues
@Gchili11 ай бұрын
I didn't know this was going to be 3 hours of DrK psychologizing Destiny and disproving every single one of his preconceived notions.
@Gchili11 ай бұрын
I also did sense a tinge of pretentiousness or mainly just DrK KNOWING everything and destiny having to be educated as he is on a lower level of understanding. I wonder if destiny knew this would be the context when he came on. Also I do find it a certain divine retribution because this is generally the dynamic between destiny and his guests.
@baelalshaukat6911 Жыл бұрын
Dr K is the best therapist in the universe he really gets me
@tehdz Жыл бұрын
One thing he didn't mention is most phones by default filter pictures, I had to turn it off on my pixel. Auto smooths and other stuff.
@onlyeveryone2253 Жыл бұрын
I found it too on my Xiaomi. Felt really wrong.
@MasterOfInfinity Жыл бұрын
That was a very interesting conversation. These collabs with streamers are always great content
@skyltdockan Жыл бұрын
Dr K spoke with Chris Williamson!? Cant find the episode on his pod channel...
@seekingfinding6204 Жыл бұрын
OMG DOC HAD NOT HEARD OF THE OVERTON WINDOW!!!!!! I've heard it used SO much in the last 5-10 years, my god, where has be been???
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
Not involved with politics I guess
@askers_ Жыл бұрын
You ok?
@transsexual_void_fairy Жыл бұрын
Doc is not much into politics
@VioletEmerald Жыл бұрын
I was shocked Dr. K didn't know about it.
@JohnyAngelo Жыл бұрын
It was a first time for me as well.
@ledernierutopiste Жыл бұрын
Very useful discussion, thank you for this !
@maripilicarrasco Жыл бұрын
uffff looking forward that trauma deep dive, thanx!!
@ThexInsidexMan Жыл бұрын
It would be really cool to have the completely out-of-balance streamers chat with these 2 gents for like an hour or so about their perspective and issues. great and productive conversation
@brodericklesher2955 Жыл бұрын
In regards to the comments about political beliefs being less subject to change within parties around the 58:00 ish mark. I think individual people can change beliefs more nimbly, groups of people (especially ones established around believing particular things) almost never can without huge amounts of coordinated effort.
@bringerod5141 Жыл бұрын
I wish Dr.K could do a breakdown of all of the Destiny hate. People seem to take real offense with his demeanour and hard hitting arguments. I think there is some ego involved where people can't take to hear that they are wrong about things and Destiny might not be the most "careful" person when it comes to that since he doesn't care if you get mad.
@ullantra Жыл бұрын
Yes but it's also ego on behalf of Destiny as well. I have not got round to watching the whole video yet so hopefully this is addressed. One of the biggest issues that the more rational haters of Destiny have is frustration with him being unable to concede any arugment. He will talk and talk and talk and despite a great many of his debate opponents proving him wrong time and again he refuses to give ground. Recent examples of this is where he has someone explaining literal musc theory to him and refuses to walk back his opinions int he face of someone vastly more qualified than he is about a specialist topic. Neither does he do himself any favors when he refuses to budge from the "we don't have all the information" position any time accusations of SA come up in the "online" community. The biggest problem here is that the way he expresses his stance often comes across as victim blaming.
@danethenice Жыл бұрын
@@ullantra I've never heard Destiny blame victims of SA, or say anything that comes off as victim blaming. I do know he's been clipped in a way where he comes off as if he's victim blaming but can you fault him for that?
@Laroac Жыл бұрын
@@danethenice he said "comes across" not that they were it a subjective opinion some peopel have regardless of how destiny didn't mean it
@danethenice Жыл бұрын
@@Laroac yeah I get that. He also said the biggest problem is the way Destiny expresses his stance on SA. I don't think there's a problem with the way he expresses his stance at all
@Billygoatbuff Жыл бұрын
Destiny wrote a whole thing about how white people using the n-word is okay, hate raids trans streamers, was willing to bankroll kiwi farms, and hangs out with Nick Fuentes. It is not hard to understand why people hate Destiny when you see the kind of person he is
@CrilpFlorp Жыл бұрын
I hope with enough exposure to mental health related content, we can all help ourselves and society in accepting that Destiny is a girls name.
@screamingnikiboss5345 Жыл бұрын
Amazing
@sarahb4513 Жыл бұрын
I would never have put it together that my teenage romanticized idea of “live for today” was a product of my circumstances. Thanks for the insight.
@Appleloucious2 ай бұрын
One Love! Always forward, never ever backward!! ☀️☀️☀️ 💚💛❤️ 🙏🏿🙏🙏🏼
@xotwod3254 Жыл бұрын
I love how they gave up on the timestamps on moving through time
@griffin1182 Жыл бұрын
2:14:35 not asian american, but this is literally why i stopped going to therapy, i made up some bs excuse because to me it was insanely expensive even if it did help me.
@MrPrincePapa Жыл бұрын
It's not that "Men" don't see anger as an emotion, but that emotional is typically used for, well, multiple emotions. When a woman is simply angry all the time, she too is said to have "anger issues". But the emotional angle is used when someone frequently shows a scope of different emotion. If anything, the reason you only hear about men having issues with anger is because that's the ... "society-approved" emotion. But for men who also show a spectrum of emotion, they too are said to be emotional. Source, a guy who's been called emotional many times, both as praise and insult.
@dangtimothy Жыл бұрын
does anyone have a link to the study mentioned at 2:34:28?
@petervasz37399 ай бұрын
Destiny has a lot of issues and his biggest problem is he sees life as a debate and only listens to himself but at the same time its like he doesn’t see all his obvious flaws. This guy is one of the most knowledge filled individuals who’s actually very unintelligent.
@yousefsaleh6892 Жыл бұрын
Love how the comments have nothing to do with the chatters in the stream lol
@mariogarcia1048 Жыл бұрын
Just saying I've been wanting this again for so long. I follow Destiny and Dr K and love seeijg these two humble intellectuals interact. So glad yall could have a conversation !!
@richerDiLefto Жыл бұрын
I love these kinds of videos. So educational.
@TheRussianGenius Жыл бұрын
Great vid! Here for Dr K, but interesting guest
@mamaluck4 Жыл бұрын
Racialized Trauma @Imara Abeson - not sure if you'll see this. You might be interested in My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending our Hearts and Bodies; The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma; Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving; and the work of Gabor Mate.
@Endra616 Жыл бұрын
bad bot
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
@@Endra616 I don't think it's a bot since they're not spamming it everywhere. Also it's actually somewhat relevant to the content of this channel(though maybe not to this video).
@Endra616 Жыл бұрын
@@WanderTheNomad my money is on its a bot. lots of youtube channels posting comments such as these have had playlists on succulents. (oddly enough) chances are you're a bot too.
@WanderTheNomad Жыл бұрын
@@Endra616 dunno man, I've seen a lot of different types of bots on KZfaq and this doesn't seem like any of them. Though I might change my mind if I see the exact same comment being spammed on another comment thread, video, channel, etc. I'll also start to keep in mind that succulent playlist thing you mentioned, but normally I just check the username, profile picture, when the account was created, and it's most recent comments(which I'm pretty sure you can only view on the mobile app). Those 4 things are usually enough to tell if an account is a bot or not.
@mamaluck4 Жыл бұрын
@@WanderTheNomadsomeone asked about racialized trauma in the live chat. Dr. K said he didn’t have anything specifically for it but I was too slow to respond in the chat.
@monimon4418 Жыл бұрын
I think the concept of not being able to admit when youre wrong is very interesting because i have always been able to openly admit fault in arguements. Its even caused mistrust in my relationship because my bf cant believe that i would admit fault. He is like the opposite to me with this. I have to wonder about the the nature v nurture that has caused this, or maybe im just delusional lol
@Someguyorgirlfulness Жыл бұрын
I don't see how you are delusional, but you are extremely rare, a women who admits mistakes is very rare indeed
@azathoth4237 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I'm exactly the same. I've learnt to not say so right away when I'm wrong so people trust it more when I eventually "admit it" 😂
@azathoth4237 Жыл бұрын
I think a lot of it has to do with whether your parents scolded you for admitting to making mistakes or not. My parents didn't at all because they didn't want me to be afraid to tell them when something was wrong.
@TheShizzlemop Жыл бұрын
@@Someguyorgirlfulness i love sexism
@Someguyorgirlfulness Жыл бұрын
@@TheShizzlemop Do you now?
@The0rnate Жыл бұрын
I always enjoy y'all's discussions :)
@MrCobozco Жыл бұрын
Need a podcast for this, STAT!
@dayull Жыл бұрын
Why does this video not load
@Abdrabbo1 Жыл бұрын
why is this guy so argumentative. like he just wants to fight everyone!
@painfullyhuman11 ай бұрын
when
@6mophrenz811 ай бұрын
Hope everyone’s day and or night is based
@Mentesestoicas_9 ай бұрын
If I started to do everything I don't want to do, I would be in the exact same place I'm in right now.
@apprenticekaoenview2388 Жыл бұрын
learned ALOt from this one, very valuable. thank you.