Koj yog ib tug nyab tsis zoo thiab. Mloog koj sab koj yeej phem kawg thiab.

Tam li kuv xav mas, leej niam zaj yuav tseeb dua leej nyab zaj, yog tias leej nyab tsis muaj nplooj siab ntxub leej niam pog thiab txiv yawg mas, leej nyab yuav tsis ib sij tsiv ib lub tsev tsis pub leej niam pog paub li ntawd no? Ib txwm muaj los ces tej laus yeej nkaus2 thiab es tej hluas yeej tsis xav yuav tsis xav tu tej laus li ntag, tabsis tsis tau hnov txog tej nyab coj phem npaum li tus nyab no hlo li , es yuav ua ntawv tiv thaiv tsis pub yus niam pog txiv yawg tuaj ze nus lub vaj tsev li tus nyab no . Kuv yog ib tug nyab los lawm thiab niaj hmub no kuv kuj yog ib leej niam pog lawm thiab, kuv xav kom peb xav tias, tus tswv tsim peb los ua neeg nyob nws xav kom peb sib hlub tsis hais nyab lossis niam, yog peb tsis coj zoo ces yeej tsis tau koob hmoov ntawm tswv ntuj li. Tseev peb nyias yuav hus nyias kwj tse los tus tswv yeej paub qhov yus ua zoo lossis yus ua phem tagnrho lawm. Es thov kom peb ua siab ntev , ua siab zoo , es kev hlub thiaj muaj mog, ua tsaug

This story is embarrassing on both parts. The mil is controlling and over bearing. She addresses her adult son as "menyuam" as a child. Which means she never accepted the dil and still thinks she can continue to control her son's life. As for the dil, its a power struggle between her and the mil. She wants to replace the mil as the authorative person over her husband instead of viewing herself as an equal to the mil. The dil admitting that she purposely hid her husband from his parents shows she is just as evil as her mil. The husband should make his own health care Decisions. In the end there are no winners.

Wow, Nyias heev txaus nyias

Did we forget they have kids too? The money need to go to his kids. Kids and disabled husband need care. The money will help with care.

Leej twg tsi tau raug niam pog tsim ce yeej tsi nkag siab od sim neej no ma lwj siab tshaj plaw

This is amazing, two sides of the story! I love it. It’s like a continued series!

I want to hear the husband's side of story.

Sister koj yeej ua dlau zog lawm thiab

My mom is like this mother-in-law, so I believe this story so much. My kids and I can’t go to the hospital and let her even know. Otherwise, I get the lecture about how- “Dr’s want to use us as experiments. Dr wants to give us cancer. Oh, any shot they give will give you cancer.” Always- “let me find you hmong medicine only!” When I couldn’t have kids due to PCOS and finally did, she says it wasn’t because of Dr, it was because she called upon the cows and the pigs and spirits to help me get pregnant. It was because she paid this shaman and that shaman who got me pregnant. You do you! And that’s all that matters. The Hmong culture forgets, when a man marries, who his future is. He doesn’t need his parents at night. He needs his wife and kids!

You and your MIL have one goal: for your husband-her son, to get better. You both have different ways of hoping to reach that goal. I hope you both can reconcile so you guys can stop the suffering you both are causing your husband-her son. What's worse is when you are sick and your loved ones are fighting. Sending you all lots of love.

The mother in law is controlling. The nyab also crossed the line by filing a restraining order. If they really love the son, they should stop trying to hurt each other and focus on healing him.

Mother-in-law is too controlling, but Nyab is too entitled.. MIL believes in herbal remedy.. Nyab believes in Western medicine/ treatment.. Like the book, “The Spirit Catches You & You Fall Down”, maybe a little bit of both to help the son.. The settlement, maybe a little bit to his parents as dej siab, for raising the son and helping to care as much as they know how to “hlub”.. Should anything arise, burial is on wife, but he is their “nplooj siab”.. So maybe you two females need to stop fighting over him and try to work together to help him..

To the sister of this story, there are two sides to a penny. Therefore no need for you to clear or explain yourself but for the fact that you filing a restraining order, it’s beyond inexcusable actions on your account. A traditional Hmong’s Mom’s’ love is what and how your mom-in-law did.

Niam pog los phem, nyab los phem. Poor guy….

Don’t know who to believe. All I can asked for is best of luck to the son’s health.

You guys are too quick to judge. I don’t believe in both sides, I believe the truth and the truth will never be told cause the son is too sick to tell it. When that much money is involve they all claim innocent.

Those who cry wolf the loudest will always be the first to be heard and believed. Keep doing what you've been doing. Those that are mature enough to understand will never take just one side. Continue to stand your ground. Thank you for sharing your portion of ypur journey.

Nyab of this story...I agree with you to some extent. It's hard to be a nyab to a MIL that is too involved in her son's life. However, you need to understand that your husband is her son. Her flesh & blood as yours are your flesh and blood. Put yourself in her situation, would you want your future DIL to hide your son from you? I sense that you & your MIL don't have much of a relationship, but you married her baby...no matter how old he gets; he'll always be her baby boy. Please be more open minded & allow your in-laws to see their son!

That how the mom love her son. She do care for her son. Once we become nyiam pog, we will understand how the daughter inl will be like to us. So be kind, understand, be respectful, be communication is the key with the families.

เราเป็นผู้หญิงด้วยกัน ไม่ใช่แค่แม่สามีคุณหรอกที่ชอบบ่นชอบด่า มีเยอะแยะ นี่มันเป็นแค่ข้ออ้างของคุณที่คุณไม่ชอบเค้า ส่วนเรื่องของยาสมุนไพรเนี่ยเราก็เข้าใจคุณนะ บางครั้งคนแก่ก็หัวโบราณเกินไป คุณก็อย่าใจแคบไปหน่อยเลย อย่าลืมว่ายังไงเค้าก็เป็นพ่อแม่ผัวเรา

Yes the money they pay for your husband's injuries, is not right to give it to the other brothers and family. Your husband deserves the money. Just keep doing the right things!

Ephesians 5:29, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

But still, at the end of the day, he is still her son. Please understand that. Everyone goes through phases of in law abuse. When you become a mother in law urself, dont be that person who is always right.

I only started to listen and already got tired of this story. I totally agreed with the wife. We Hmong women have understand once our son is married; we need to let him go to live his life otherwise he’s not going to know how to be a man and lead his family. We as mothers can be there to offer help when needed but don’t interfere with their life. The other things with these old folks and their ways of healing using spiritual healers and herbal medicines. They don’t understand that without the right tools to keep the bones intact and straight; when the bones grows back together, it will not be straight and it will cause future complications like healing may take longer and it may not heal right. And it will decreased In strength and flexibility/mobility as well. Herbal medicine has a lot of side effects that can damage kidney and other organs as well. Spiritual healers spraying waters(if it s in the mouth, it’s already been contaminated) at risk for infection. Mothers we always loved our children but when they are grown; let them go. We had lived our life already and now it’s their turn to live theirs. Please don’t take your titters out of their mouth.

When it comes down to it, it's the son's responsibility to stand up for himself, stand up to his mother (if need be) and help his wife understand his family's dynamics. A real man must never hide behind his wife.

As bad as the MIL is…. I believe that you have no right to keep her son away. If you know how his mom is already then set your boundaries (if you haven’t done it yet). After setting your boundaries and she won’t follow then yes! you can keep him away. As far as the money goes…. It blinds people in every way. It’s really up to you if you want to give a bit for his parents but not the sibling. If you think, if there isn’t his parents then there won’t be your husband for you too. It wouldn’t hurt to give a bit to his parents.

According to both stories, you two are at fault. The MIL should’ve learned and not be so controlling. You should at least let your husband sees his mother.

So glad to hear the nyab side of the story. I knew the MIL was obessesive and controlling. She is crazy. MIL needs to leave her son and nyab alone. They are ADULTS. This is why some elders get put in nursing home because they get so stubborn and crazy.

I just feel more lies from Nyab than Mil. I don’t think she’s still so caring if the son don’t have any life insurance or income. A mother always caring about her children what ever her believes and will try to protect.

When I listened to the MIL’s side I can tell she’s the controlling type who thinks she can run her son’s life. When it comes down to money it’s between the husband and wife, usually the siblings and in laws will not provide. Do what you have to do as long as you have good intentions for your husband/family.

Omg this mother in law sound just like my mother in law

I can't believe the both sides. But I understand that a mother's love is priceless. Just pray for the son to get better soon.

Nev nev kuv tub hais tias cov dab neeg no yog Hnov ib tog lus xwb tsi txhob ntseeg2 zaum no Paub lawm los po!!

Wow koj txwv tsis tau niam tub txoj kev hlub os. Yog lawv yug mob mob lawv siab oh koj ua tsis nyog lawm nawb viv ncaus.

It's good to hear this side of the story too. It brings more clarity, however neither side is necessarily doing the right thing sadly. If the daughter-in-law secretly snuck away with the son, that must mean that the relationship with the mother-in-law wasn't so great and mil isn't an angel like she paints herself out to be. But d-i-l was too extreme by hiding the son and putting a restraining order against m-i-l. I understand now why she had to do it, but it still wasn't the right way to go about it. Sad for the son all around.

Me ntxhais kuv nkag siab koj zoo kawg mog yog twg tsis tau raug txoj kev koj taug yeej tsis paub, s d tsuas tias nej zoo ib yam tab sis tsis zoo li hais, yeej paub tias mob koj thiab koj tu siab npaum cas piav tsis tau rau twg os mog tab sis thov koj pub koj tus niam pog tuaj saib nws tus me tub mog koj txhob xav rau twg os thov koj xav tias yog koj ua rau vaj tswv no mog, thov vaj tswv txhawb koj txoj kev xav mus rau qhov yog mog

Thank you for sharing your story...now let's hear your husband's side. Lol. You and your husband made the right decision to seek professional help and removing yourself from your toxic mil. Broken bone is a serious matter. Some older generation will not understand. Btw, I found it disgusting she asked you for money after spending it on hmong medicine then claims how much she loves him in her story. I don't doubt the love, just doubt the way she delivers it. Also, how biased of her to blame everything on you, when it was a mutual decision both you and your husband made to block her. Just do what's best for you and your husband. To all people using hmong medicine, there are a lot of scammers out there with the so call 'care all' green medicine. Please seek a medical professional. We are in the US where clinical care is easily accesible and most innovative.

เข้าใจทั้ง2ฝ่ายนะคะ แต่ก็อยากให้เข้าใจ ความรู้สึกของผู้เป็นแม่ด้วยนะคะ ใจเขาใจเรา..ลูกใครๆก็รัก..อย่าปิดกั้นการพบเจอจะดีกว่านะคะ

We want the son or husband's side of the story too!

There's always two sides to the story. No one really knows who is telling the truth. Then again this lady is the wife who is still by her husband's side taking care of him and still loves him. She is still young she can easily take the money and leave a disabled husband. The mother in law should just leave it to the nyab to continue to take care of her son and just help with what she can. There's a sick man here, both mother in law and nyab needs to learn how to work together take like more comfortable for this sick person. Stop stressing him out and make him want to continue to live.

Marriages has a 50% chance of divorce and since he's disabled, his chance of a divorce is much higher. The only reason his wife is still with him is because of the $1.3 million and $ that comes in monthly. Once the money runs out, she will surely dump him. When that happens, he will have no choice but to move back with his blood family. But his parents will be old by then so they won't be able to take care of him so his future will even be more difficult.

It best that mil should leave them alone n let them live their life n be happy.

You did the right thing sister! Your husband isn’t dead yet and your in-laws already fighting for your $, that’s not love. Good luck to you and your husband. Praying for a recovery for your husband.

Yog koj tsi coj khiav ces yeej zoo tabsis coj khiav ces yeej phem2 tiag2 li nawb yog koj coj tau phem npaum li no. Tseem tshuav koj thib nawb pog aws.Kawg lawv foom2 yus ces kawg yuav mag rau yav laus nawb poj hmoob aws. Niaj hnub niam no txoj kev npam nyob ze2 lub ntiaj teb lawm mog ceev faj nawb es yuav txom nyem xwb os..Leej twg hais lis tsi paub tabsis cia rau vajtswv mam los txiav txim rau nej yav tom ntej no nawb poj hmoob aws.

If your husband is able to tell you what he wants. He should be able to do the same with his mother. Problems started before his injuries, he should be able to put you two in your places and avoid these problems. ✌️

koj cov lus los it's too good to be true too. two side stories are hard to believe

Great, love to hear from the nyab. Yess, there are some critical mother in law expecting the nyab to do things exactly what she likes

Now we hear the nyab side. We want to hear the son part of the story. Still even though we hear both side of the story. Still the nyab don’t have the right to take the son away from his parent. That’s wrong. The truth will be from the son story.

I love stories where there is both sides.

Have some words to add too: Phem ib yam. Nyab los tsis need add nws 2 sentence, niam pog los txob nkhaus nkhaus thiab xya xya nyab npe thiab os. Come together and make every day a best one so that everyone can move forward with no regrets. The greatest debt you can owe in life is LOVE.

Your husband should have said something to his mom. Even if she's controlling like that. So now you look like a bad nyab because he couldn't stand up for himself. It's his fault just as much because he put you in this situation.

The evil daughter- in-law is lying. I have never seen any Dr. or any hospital let any outsider go do such things to their patients. They are very strict when it comes to this kind of things. There is no worse human being than this daughter in law and I believed that her parents are all bad too . Caj ces noob phem. Txhob mus yuav tsob noob no nawb. She has the husband with her. All it takes is to let the husband speaks out a few words.

I knew there were more to this story...

Don’t we all know a mother in law like that …crazy and controlling. 🙄

I would still want to hear from the son's side. All we know is the son is still alive. That is a good thing.

I believe her side of the story more. Old people , old way of thinking.

Can’t really believe in anyone’s words…her or the mama in-law’s cuz no one would bad mouth themselves, they only speak of the goods they do n not the bads, this goes for both of these ladies…the one really suffering is the son

I'm really glad the nyab came out and told her side. I do not agree on separating the money...like why? It's your son's money and he's not dead yet! Although you did went too far on filing the restraint order. Might as well get a marriage license and take full authorization over him so the mil has no say in his medical issues.

Cov laus ces yeej coj li no mas viv ncaus peb cov hluas yeej nkag siab zoo lawm os

I love that you replied back. I agree with you 💯.

2 Zaj neej neeg A-B ces neb phem ib yam thiaj tau ua Niam pog thiab Nyab neb sib phim xwb yog yuav Muab hais ces neb sib txeeb pob Nyiaj lawm xwb yog hais tiag2 ces tsi Muaj ib Qhov Nyiaj li ces tus yuav Hlub tiag2 ces yog Niam pog xwb os nawj tus thoob tsibtos nrog ces mloog xwb Yeej nkiag siab lawm os nawb

LOL, when I hear the MIL side, I had a feeling the Nyab is going to come on and tell her side. I wanted to comment on how I didn’t believe the MIL 100% because I have seen and heard of MIL who talk so much crap about their DIL because she can’t control her and her son. And she’ll call her DIL evil for everything that her DIL don’t agreed to or do thing the way the DIL wants. MIL now a days needs to understand that this is a new generation and everyone had changed. Not just the younger one but even the older one grew up back in the mid 80’s had also merged into this new trend of lifestyle.

Some MILs are never as innocent as they say. I knew something smelled fishy with mother in laws story. No nyab in the world is just "born" bad and mean. Maybe a few but not THAT common 🤣

Hnub no peb hnov neb 2 leeg lawm zoo kawg li os

I knew there was more to the story. Listening to the mil story, it sounded like a lot of things were omitted.

This is what happened when your husband is a coward. A real man will make his own health decisions and his wife and mother must respect. But all he can do is hide behind them both and watch them go at it. What a shame…

Thank you for sharing your side sister.

What an overbearing mother-in-law! There’s 3 sides to a story, the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law and the truth. Of course, money is the motive. Older Hmong folks are about money.

Some people ought to be beyond grateful that WE all don't tell OUR side of the story.

There are always two sides of the story for us to better understand this story

Sounds like the son is still mobile from the waste up. Meaning he can talk. Meaning there is more truth to the dil’s side that they both made the decision to leave. If he really missed his parents like the mil claimed, they are only a phone call away. MIL makes it sound like it’s all the DIL’s decisions to disappear when it’s clearly both their decisions so that the son can get help without interruptions. At the end of the day, he is their son and should spend time together while he’s still alive. Keep the disability $ out of it then problem solved. The DIL is entitled to the $ cuz he can’t work to provide for the family. $500k is not much when you have mouths to feed and only one person working.

Haha, I knew the MIL isn’t so innocent herself. The MIL’s story sounded like she wanted to control her son’s life. And since the DIL wouldn’t allow her to control it, the MIL got mad and threw a fit. I wasn’t expecting to hear from the DIL’s side so quick but like I have said on Jenny Vang’s channel “I enjoy hearing the other side of the story, like this one.” - There are always three sides to every story. We heard the MIL’s side, now the DIL’s side, and we will never hear the real side.

Thank you for sharing your story. Vim kuv yog ib tug nyab raug hais raug lus taug xaiv tsis ncaj ncees kuv thiaj li tsis comment defend your Niam Pog zaj story.

I applaud you for standup to your mother-in-law for her herbal medicine and magic for healing her son. Herbal and magic cannot compare to science and technology…I noticed that old people are like that. They believe herbal and magic over science and technology. Good thing that you took your husband away from his mommy, so the doctor can help him. The mom and brothers have no right to share the injury money whatsoever. Wish you guys luck…😩👍🤠!!!

I was sceptical abt the mother-in-law story!. Now i can tell that the mother in n law is trying to take over their life!. You are very sincere i can hear in your words!. Leave those haters out there f your life and concentrate on your husband and your life together only!!!

Koj niam pog tsis ua koj tsaug los kuv ua koj tsaug ntau2 uas koj tu2 koj tus txiv nawb kuv paub tias sab2 npau cas

I like it! No wonder, ONE size DOES NOT FIT all!

😳😳 I can’t wait to hear this one

Neb ob tus niam txiv ko ces ruam ib yam li os tos neb tau los ua niam txiv na.

sister mloog koj hais ma koj yeej phem kawg thiab os niam pog luag hlub2 luag tus tub luag thiaj npaum no koj yog tus nyab koj yuav tsum mloog niam pog lu xwb koj yeej ua dhau zog lawm os

Sounds like both ladies love him and have good intentions. I hope they find a way to work.

Niam pog thiab nyab ces heev ib yam li os! But if the son can still speak why can't he just tell his mom how he feels. Him not communicating his feelings is causing this issue between mil and dil too.

I understand you sister. I have a mil/fil like yours too...only those with similar experience understand how you feel. These types of in laws are VERY CONTROLLING!!!! And MANIPULATING!!! My mil kicked us out of my husband own home-to this day she can’t do SHIT! You do you...they do them! Your mil is in denial of her actions and very disrespectful of your decisions.

She does not need to split the $$. That $$ was given to him due to his injuries. To support him since he is unable to work for the rest of his life. But what i dnt understand is that if she is the wife and have legal marriage papers, the MIL will not be able to make any decisions for the son. Doctor will not listen to the MiL and stop anything procedure. The wife has the right to make all the medical decision besides him.

Ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag yog Koj zoo ces yuav tsi npam Koj yog tias Koj yeej phem ces Koj yuav muaj Ib tus menyuam coj yog nkaus li Koj ua rau Koj niam pog nawb ntuj muaj qhov muag

Yog peb tsis nrog tsev neeg ntawd nyob ces yeej tsis paub tias leej twg yog tus yog 100%.

he kuv nyiam koj cov neej neeg heev li os txhua txoj yeej nug tag li

Niam pog os niam pog aw…thov tsum thiaj lau….! Tsuav tus Nyab tseem hlub thiab kam tu koj tus tub ceg yog #1.

Hais txog ntawm cov nyiaj tsis yog yuav faib ua 4 phuv tiam sis yuav tsum tau muab200,000rau koj muab100,000 rau niam txiv thiaj tsis npam

Nobody understands if they are not wearing your shoes leej twg mus ua nyab tau tsev neeg zoo ces they not understand cov mus ua nyab tau tsev neeg phem hos tus nyab zoo los muaj tus phem los muaj thiab os leej twg tsis tau niam pog txiv yawg tsis zoo mas txhob maj2 tuag nawb

After reading all the comments..I think how quick we are all to judge. The main issue is COMMUNICATION and NEVER separate a child from their parent. IF you cannot stand the physical then use the phone. You may think what you're doing is right, your MiL believes what she is doing right. There is no right OR wrong, it comes down to the injured person....their mental state of mind as well as their physical. My question is - you received a lump sum payment...why did you not hire a nurse to come look after your husband's physical aspects so both you and your MiL would not have issues. No one can argue against a court appointed decision if it is for the injured person. Yes, as a nyab, we are an outsider and often take alot of crap that gets dished out to us (be right or wrong) however we also need to respect the other party and understand why they resort to those actions. You are an educated person, you should have been able to see what the road ahead would be like since you all lived together before the accident. Finally.....all the issues prior to the accident are partly yoir sons fault. These mummy boys who are afraid to speak when they are needed is just as much to blame. IF he stood his ground more and be more firm then the relationship between DiL & MiL would slightly be better. I thought the son could not speak after the accident but it seems he could ....so really, he should have been the one to take direction...NOT his mum..NOT his wife.

Thaum nej tseem muaj niam nrog nej nyb ,nej muaj mob muaj niam muaj txiv nrog nej txhawj ,ces nej yeej dim ib qhov kev nyuab siab mog ,pob txhab dam tshuaj ntsuab yeej khob taub zoo kawg thiab mav kj niam pog ua li yeej g yuam kev thiab o vim niam hlb thiab txhawj nej xw mog.

Thanks for telling ur side! If it's your husband choice not to see them then I understand.

I listened to both stories and the daughter in-law crossed the line when she obtained a restraining order. Yes mil is overbearing but that is her son. The dil can still make decisions for the husband and keep peace but she chooses not to because she’s never liked the mother in-law so took advantage of the sad situation and punish the mil. She’s in the wrong to keep her son away. You are his wife but that doesn’t mean you own him. Just let his family love him too. Your love isn’t any superior than his family’s love.

I don't understand why ppl feel they should get a part of that accident money!?! How embarrassing...sounds like he can still speak, why can't he be honest and blunt with his mom!

Koj yog ib tug pojniam siab zoo kawg rau koj tus txiv...mob2 pw thb zaum xwb los koj tseem tu tseem hlub. Kuv qhuas thb muab koj tsa rau chaw thajyeeb siab. Pab txhawb koj lub zog.

HOLY MOLY drama! Let us be the judge since we don’t know u guys! My honest opinion, old ppl will be old ppl. Traditional hmoob meds vs modern science is always crashing but bcuz we hmoob been in mekas for so long n R more educated, lets be fair n say MAGICAL stuff is for the movies, this is real life situation. I would side with modern medicine unless there’s nothing else doc can do then I guess some ppl think this means it’s spiritual but in this case, u need modern medicine first. With that said, i think you the nyab DID NOT have to put restraint order on his parents. Try other NiCER services! You don’t want to go to the EXTREME with life situations. Rethink your tempers n try to get along. Yes, it takes time n lots of repeats but she’s still your husband’s mom n she deserve to see her son regardless!!. Everyone need closure for every situation. When u CUT MiL completely from seeing her son, I DONT agree!!. MiL is annoying but she’s still MOM. N pleeassee don’t even think about burying your husband wo his parents presents n knowledge! That’ll be the MOST dumbest thing u can ever do. To resolve this, you need to let MiL FIL see their son! MiL can do her thing n you can do your thing…! It’s NOT right what u did, the part where u secretly moved your husband around wo telling his parents. That’s childish n rude, in my opinion. Be brave be mature be adults about the situation n u should of told them. Don’t bud heads with elders, just reconsidered. Hopefully u listen to our advice so u n MiL can rejoice n rethink “was all the drama worth it”? Just don’t let this drama continue in hell/heaven. Resolve on earth. Peace.

I don’t know how it feels to be in your shoes, but maybe both sides just have to be better at communicating, and you as his wife just have to be adamant to the in laws about your decisions instead of going through all the trouble (moving without letting them know, lawsuits, etc….) to cause kev tu siab to your families.

Look, it's her son. You cannot and should not keep him away from her and his family. So you keep the money, but take your husband to see his parents. You filled an Harassment restraining to use the law to keep her away from him. That is wrong on so many levels. You don't believe in traditional medicine, that's fine, but foster their relationship. You obviously have the authority over your husband, so put your feet down, but let her see her son!